When a few of my wonderful followers asked me to make a video about myself, I never appreciated what a life of it's own that it would take. I never appreciated how problematic my life had been up until I met my Darling Boy. I have to tell you that now, I am loved, nurtured and treated with kindness for the first time in my life. So it can happen as long as you learn the lessons from the past. This is the third in this series and the next two or three videos will give you an insight into the trouble, not learning quick enough, can get you into. 🙄 Much love Imi xxx
Your story is one that needs to be told. You are a survivor and I'm so, so happy you found your Darling Boy and he treats you with the love you deserve (and that you ALWAYS have!). ❤
Having experienced love and kindness from someone is the best life can offer. So many take for granted. I am very happy for you. Together with inner peace, doing those things you love without trauma, illness and drama is heaven. I am glad your life is going well for you now. I once had that joy….it’s truly living. I am sorry if you have already answered this and I have forgotten…do you see your adult children or other family? You speak so eloquently and look lovely. I cannot imagine someone mistreating you. Their loss. So happy for you and your darling boy - it makes life complete. I wish I could know this happiness again…I lost my daughter and husband has cancer. I am totally alone. Cherish every moment lovely - you live a blessed life now and I so enjoy listening to you. 💞
@@judementz-gibbons6730 I do see my children, and we speak on the phone regularly. And I really don't think how you look or speak, makes someone treat you any better if they don't have it in them. I kept making the same choices thinking that I would get a different outcome and that is completely mad if you think about it. I just needed to sort myself out. Have a new perspective. Learn to like myself and value myself before I could ever think someone else may value me. Once I did that then everything started to change. I am so sorry to hear about your daughter darling, it's not the way it should be is it. You need strength to support your husband and I do hope you have support to help. in doing that. I shall be thinking of you xxx
Thank you darling. I do hope that women listening or watching my story realise that nothing lasts forever and as I have always liked to repeat to myself 'This Too Shall Pass' when times were really miserable. xxx
@@connien7690 Darling, I don't think I would be capable of writing a book...it requires concentration and I have precious little of that commodity since the menopause.😂 Love you too xxx
Thank you so much darling for your kind words. I think I was the problem needing to be loved sent me down many a false road in my journey xxx🥺 Much love to you and yours, Imi xxx
Thank you darling. It was what it was and at least I was gradually learning albeit sometimes I wish I wasn't given the opportunity via my own experiences! ☹❤xxx
The saga continues! I’m sitting here with my mouth agape at all you’ve endured! Please tell us more, including what happened to your children during this time. You are one strong woman!
How did it go with the 15-year old rape victim? I hope you notified her parents later so they could have your husband charged with rape of a minor. I realize that, at the time, you were not seeing quite clearly. But understand that just because a teenage child herself believes that she is having an affair with an employer twice her age, it doesn’t mean that this was the case. A minor cannot consent! What she endured was grooming from a pedo, and rape. And 100% of the blame for the criminal act falls on the adult criminal. I also hope that you later reported your so-called boyfriend for the abuse and the injury that you suffered by his hands on your holiday. How are your own children? Were they rescued? Men cannot keep getting away with rape,pedo acts, abuse physically, mentally and economically. I cannot stop thinking about that child that babysat your children, and was tricked into believing that the molestation she suffered was actually an affair. It is so horrible that even you were tricked into seeing the world and the facts that way. I hope the child grew up not to be a victim anymore, and that the court dealt with the crime that your husband committed towards her. 💔
I can relate, my story wasn’t as violent as yours but I had my share of Alcoholics and bad relationships. They hide it and play nice guy ! I enjoy listening to you , you have a soothing voice and tell a good story! I will be waiting for the rest of the story!
Thank you darling. I am so sorry you had to go through your own traumas. It's a difficult road to travel while you're on your journey. Thank goodness there comes a time when it starts to get better. Much love, Imi xxx
I am so sorry for your pain. I have been divorced 20 years and have not seen a kind, honest man. yet, so I stay single.Good morals are very hard to find, but the men want us to be good to them of course. You are right they are cowards. Why do they want us if they hate us so much? Your husband sounds like a true narcissist.
I was fortunate the man I met on my 17th birthday & married at 20 was so in love with me & me with him, married 44 yrs! He died nearly 5yrs ago & I’m still broken hearted 💔 I feel the luckiest lady alive, I’ll never get over losing him. 🇫🇷🌹♥️
Oh my darling I am so terribly sad about the loss of the love of your life. It is difficult when you lose someone who is totally irreplaceable . What a beautiful life you had together for 44 years xxx♥️🌹
Dear sister.thank you for your courageous video.i can very much relate to much of has happened in your life.same thoughts, similar circumstances, certain feelings, certain reactions from my ex spouse.so so so many similarities.g-d will bless you in other ways.in authentic, honest ways.l.h.from new jersey.would love to meet with you personally.
I'm by no means the only one these things have happened to. As far as I can see, it's been a process of learning what to do and not getting bitter when it doesn't work out. I am such a different person now xxx
You know, during this period, a well known tea company had an advertising campaign featuring two chimps riding along on a tandem and the strap line was "Can You Ride Tandem?" I cannot begin to tell you just how many times that was shouted at us while we were cycling to our cleaning job!!! 🤣 xxx
I had a torrid marriage with a gifted musician for 17 years. The story would take just as many years to tell. ugh. I'm happy now and have a boyfriend, but I keep my life clean and free.
Omg you could be talking about parts of my life lol, you’re a survivor and I’m so happy to see you here, you could be saving another young woman’s life by recounting your experiences, keep smiling, you’re diamond 💎 ❤❤❤
You are a wonderful lady. Interesting, beautiful, honest and I bet you are fun to be around. I love the image of you & your friend bicycling to work on a tandem. Yes, understand that feeling of being powerless.
I heard someone on the radio one day saying that an alcoholic is not someone who drinks one or two drinks regularly BUT someone who cannot stop once he/she starts drinking! So, even if you drink once a week/month or year, if you cannot stop once you start, you are an alcoholic. So, stay away if a guy embarrass you when drinking. They are normally the ones who cannot stop😢
I noticed that he didn't even need to drink that much before he became completely drunk. I think it was because his liver was ruined from drinking too much for too long. One night he slept on my sofa, he had been sick and my sofa was covered in dried blood presumably from bleeding in his stomach?
I am so sorry for all the pain and abuse you have lived through. Please look up trauma bonding as it will help you understand some of the road you have traveled. I too have experienced similar situations. May you find healing and restoration for your soul and body
I went through a lot of tye same things as you ..i didn't even have like a lot of woman do where they would be extra loving towards them at home .i had many many batterings off him during his affairs .im now married to a lovely man but i look back and think i lost my 20s and a lot of my 30s to him
Oh sweetheart I am so sorry to read this. I'm glad that now you have someone you truly deserve. It certainly makes you empathetic to all those other women out there going through the same thing doesn't it. As I always say...'Walk a mile in my shoes' etc. Much love to you and yours, Imi xxx
I’m so sorry you had to endure all of that yet you are a beautiful survivor. I was with a SA for 13 years, I found out in one day that he had been cheating on me the whole time. Looking back things made sense that didn’t before, I think he even poisoned me and contemplated pushing me off a cliff when we went on hikes in the mountains, he would stand behind me and ‘fake push’ too close to the edge. I felt like Humpty Dumpty, fallen of the wall, shattered into a million pieces that could never be put back together again. I still don’t understand how I ended up with such a human. As soon as I found out, I felt like I had been living with a demon for over a decade. It is hard to trust after that, 10 years later, I am now remarried with two beautiful children with my new husband (before I met him I attended Sanon 12 step and had a psychiatrist so I feel I chose to be with a better human because of it). yet in some ways I feel I’ll never be put back together again fully. After a decade of gaslighting, it’s hard to feel as whole and confident in my intuition as I once was….
I wonder if one of those Elephant & Castle girls will come across your video and realise how pivotal they were in making sure you're still here to tell your story. If so, I hope they say hello.
And I can’t wait for the next instalment. Such horrid men in your life seems so hard to believe for such a lovely lady as you are. I see a book and even a movie to follow about your trials and tribulations. May they all pay dearly for their misdeeds in some way. ❤
I've only begun your video! New sub from Canada.... thanks for posting this and I'm really looking forward to watching all of your videos! And.....interestingly enough, today would be my wedding anniversary 😆 Mine cheated on me with a woman that I trained to take over my job while I moved on to another opportunity.... I actually introduced them when he came to pick me up after work one day. I can laugh about it now but it was an utter betrayal at the time! 🤷
It's curious that you should mention Louis Hay. I have recently found her in my feed and listened to several of her healing word videos. Thank you for thinking of got me darling I really do appreciate your care and thoughtfulness . Much love Imi xxx❤
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When a few of my wonderful followers asked me to make a video about myself, I never appreciated what a life of it's own that it would take. I never appreciated how problematic my life had been up until I met my Darling Boy. I have to tell you that now, I am loved, nurtured and treated with kindness for the first time in my life. So it can happen as long as you learn the lessons from the past.
This is the third in this series and the next two or three videos will give you an insight into the trouble, not learning quick enough, can get you into. 🙄 Much love Imi xxx
Your story is one that needs to be told. You are a survivor and I'm so, so happy you found your Darling Boy and he treats you with the love you deserve (and that you ALWAYS have!). ❤
So glad to hear you have a love! You deserve the best!
@@elizzybec Thank you sweetheart. He's an amazing man and I thank the heavens that he found me when he did! xxxx
Having experienced love and kindness from someone is the best life can offer. So many take for granted. I am very happy for you. Together with inner peace, doing those things you love without trauma, illness and drama is heaven. I am glad your life is going well for you now. I once had that joy….it’s truly living. I am sorry if you have already answered this and I have forgotten…do you see your adult children or other family?
You speak so eloquently and look lovely. I cannot imagine someone mistreating you. Their loss. So happy for you and your darling boy - it makes life complete. I wish I could know this happiness again…I lost my daughter and husband has cancer. I am totally alone. Cherish every moment lovely - you live a blessed life now and I so enjoy listening to you. 💞
@@judementz-gibbons6730 I do see my children, and we speak on the phone regularly. And I really don't think how you look or speak, makes someone treat you any better if they don't have it in them.
I kept making the same choices thinking that I would get a different outcome and that is completely mad if you think about it. I just needed to sort myself out. Have a new perspective. Learn to like myself and value myself before I could ever think someone else may value me. Once I did that then everything started to change. I am so sorry to hear about your daughter darling, it's not the way it should be is it. You need strength to support your husband and I do hope you have support to help. in doing that. I shall be thinking of you xxx
Makes me so thankful every day that I've stayed single since my divorce almost 20 years ago xx
I can completely understand that sentiment darling. Believe me when I say there were times during which I had done that too xxx
Cannot beat the single life.
I love you girl! You give all us ladies courage to recover and move on with our lives. You are a beautiful woman.
Thank you darling. I do hope that women listening or watching my story realise that nothing lasts forever and as I have always liked to repeat to myself 'This Too Shall Pass' when times were really miserable. xxx
Completely agree and yes she is.
@@TheUrbanmeister Thank you Urbanmeister. It makes me smile that you think so xxxx
She didn't give the fifteen year old girl courage! The child her husband r@ped.
This us painful. 😢I know how it feels to be betrayed. They always deny it.
I’m so sorry to hear that darling. It’s rotten isn’t it xxxx❤
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Yes, dear,
Rotten, vile, crooked.
May they pay some how. 🤣
Imi, you must write a book. My heart aches hearing all this. I know your story may help someone. Thank you for sharing. Love you. ❤
@@connien7690 Darling, I don't think I would be capable of writing a book...it requires concentration and I have precious little of that commodity since the menopause.😂 Love you too xxx
You are truly beautiful, and such a kind spirit about you. If it can happen to you it can happen to anyone. God bless you.
Thank you so much darling for your kind words. I think I was the problem needing to be loved sent me down many a false road in my journey xxx🥺 Much love to you and yours, Imi xxx
I’m so sorry you went through this💔
Thank you darling. It was what it was and at least I was gradually learning albeit sometimes I wish I wasn't given the opportunity via my own experiences! ☹❤xxx
The saga continues! I’m sitting here with my mouth agape at all you’ve endured! Please tell us more, including what happened to your children during this time. You are one strong woman!
Thank you darling. It does sound a bit like a saga doesn't it!😊 I will try to fill out some details in the next video xxxx❤
I’m so sorry with what happened to you. Some people think nice people are weak people, we eventually make our move.
@@BumbleBee666-u5t Thank you darling. I think you're right....even the smallest worm turns in the end 🙂 xxx
How did it go with the 15-year old rape victim? I hope you notified her parents later so they could have your husband charged with rape of a minor.
I realize that, at the time, you were not seeing quite clearly. But understand that just because a teenage child herself believes that she is having an affair with an employer twice her age, it doesn’t mean that this was the case. A minor cannot consent! What she endured was grooming from a pedo, and rape. And 100% of the blame for the criminal act falls on the adult criminal.
I also hope that you later reported your so-called boyfriend for the abuse and the injury that you suffered by his hands on your holiday.
How are your own children? Were they rescued?
Men cannot keep getting away with rape,pedo acts, abuse physically, mentally and economically.
I cannot stop thinking about that child that babysat your children, and was tricked into believing that the molestation she suffered was actually an affair. It is so horrible that even you were tricked into seeing the world and the facts that way. I hope the child grew up not to be a victim anymore, and that the court dealt with the crime that your husband committed towards her. 💔
I can relate, my story wasn’t as violent as yours but I had my share of Alcoholics and bad relationships. They hide it and play nice guy ! I enjoy listening to you , you have a soothing voice and tell a good story! I will be waiting for the rest of the story!
Thank you darling. I am so sorry you had to go through your own traumas. It's a difficult road to travel while you're on your journey. Thank goodness there comes a time when it starts to get better. Much love, Imi xxx
I am so sorry for your pain. I have been divorced 20 years and have not seen a kind, honest man. yet, so I stay single.Good morals are very hard to find, but the men want us to be good to them of course. You are right they are cowards. Why do they want us if they hate us so much? Your husband sounds like a true narcissist.
Narcissist wasn't around at the time of all these things happening . Things were very different. xxx
Agree!
I was fortunate the man I met on my 17th birthday & married at 20 was so in love with me & me with him, married 44 yrs! He died nearly 5yrs ago & I’m still broken hearted 💔 I feel the luckiest lady alive, I’ll never get over losing him. 🇫🇷🌹♥️
Oh my darling I am so terribly sad about the loss of the love of your life. It is difficult when you lose someone who is totally irreplaceable . What a beautiful life you had together for 44 years xxx♥️🌹
Dear sister.thank you for your courageous video.i can very much relate to much of has happened in your life.same thoughts, similar circumstances, certain feelings, certain reactions from my ex spouse.so so so many similarities.g-d will bless you in other ways.in authentic, honest ways.l.h.from new jersey.would love to meet with you personally.
I'm by no means the only one these things have happened to. As far as I can see, it's been a process of learning what to do and not getting bitter when it doesn't work out. I am such a different person now xxx
you are brave, courageous, beautiful, Thank you for sharing your stories; so very helpful. Much appreciation and hugs
Thank you so much...but I wasn't brave at the time, anything but xxxx
That’s so evil - what he said when you told him what you knew.
It wasn't ideal for sure, but it did stop me in my tracks xxxx
sending you love ❤️ and wishing you a Happy Christmas 🎄 x
I think you are lovely, calm and clever and funny 😂
And you are incredibly kind darling xxx
I just wish I had been clever when I was younger, then perhaps I wouldn't have kept repeating the same mistakes xxx
My favourite bit of this video so far… the tandem! Ah! I love the thought of you on a tandem! ❤😂
You know, during this period, a well known tea company had an advertising campaign featuring two chimps riding along on a tandem and the strap line was "Can You Ride Tandem?" I cannot begin to tell you just how many times that was shouted at us while we were cycling to our cleaning job!!! 🤣 xxx
I had a torrid marriage with a gifted musician for 17 years. The story would take just as many years to tell. ugh. I'm happy now and have a boyfriend, but I keep my life clean and free.
Oh darling, I am so thrilled to hear that you are settled now. Things can get better in the end can't they xxx
Omg you could be talking about parts of my life lol, you’re a survivor and I’m so happy to see you here, you could be saving another young woman’s life by recounting your experiences, keep smiling, you’re diamond 💎 ❤❤❤
I am so sad to hear that parts of my story could have been your own. I'm hoping that things are better for you now xxx
You are a wonderful lady. Interesting, beautiful, honest and I bet you are fun to be around. I love the image of you & your friend bicycling to work on a tandem.
Yes, understand that feeling of being powerless.
Thank you darling for your kind and gentle comment. I did enjoy riding that tandem a lot xxx
You are an incredible woman.
I just stumbled on you. Wishing the very best for you.
You deserve so much happiness ❤
Thank you so much for your support, I really appreciate it. xxx
I heard someone on the radio one day saying that an alcoholic is not someone who drinks one or two drinks regularly BUT someone who cannot stop once he/she starts drinking! So, even if you drink once a week/month or year, if you cannot stop once you start, you are an alcoholic. So, stay away if a guy embarrass you when drinking. They are normally the ones who cannot stop😢
I noticed that he didn't even need to drink that much before he became completely drunk. I think it was because his liver was ruined from drinking too much for too long. One night he slept on my sofa, he had been sick and my sofa was covered in dried blood presumably from bleeding in his stomach?
I'm still, to all intents and purposes, a non drinker and thankfully so is my darling boy. However, we do like a nice cup of tea xxxx
I am so sorry for all the pain and abuse you have lived through. Please look up trauma bonding as it will help you understand some of the road you have traveled. I too have experienced similar situations. May you find healing and restoration for your soul and body
Thank you so much. I have never heard of trauma bonding. I will certainly look it up xxx
So sorry
It was what it was darling and nothing I could really do about it xxxxx
I was totally captivated by your story… ❤
Thank you darling for you lovely comment. xxxx
I went through a lot of tye same things as you ..i didn't even have like a lot of woman do where they would be extra loving towards them at home .i had many many batterings off him during his affairs .im now married to a lovely man but i look back and think i lost my 20s and a lot of my 30s to him
Oh sweetheart I am so sorry to read this. I'm glad that now you have someone you truly deserve. It certainly makes you empathetic to all those other women out there going through the same thing doesn't it.
As I always say...'Walk a mile in my shoes' etc. Much love to you and yours, Imi xxx
Beautiful
Thank you sweetheart xxx
Aaaarrrrggh!! Cliffhanger! Next one tonight?! ❤
Hopefully! Just got to get a mountain of ironing done today and then fingers crossed!
I’m so sorry you had to endure all of that yet you are a beautiful survivor. I was with a SA for 13 years, I found out in one day that he had been cheating on me the whole time. Looking back things made sense that didn’t before, I think he even poisoned me and contemplated pushing me off a cliff when we went on hikes in the mountains, he would stand behind me and ‘fake push’ too close to the edge. I felt like Humpty Dumpty, fallen of the wall, shattered into a million pieces that could never be put back together again. I still don’t understand how I ended up with such a human. As soon as I found out, I felt like I had been living with a demon for over a decade. It is hard to trust after that, 10 years later, I am now remarried with two beautiful children with my new husband (before I met him I attended Sanon 12 step and had a psychiatrist so I feel I chose to be with a better human because of it). yet in some ways I feel I’ll never be put back together again fully. After a decade of gaslighting, it’s hard to feel as whole and confident in my intuition as I once was….
I am so sorry that you had to go through all that trauma darling, it is truly shocking. Thank goodness you have a beautiful family now xxx
Now I don’t feel so bad about my arguing! ( I’m mature and fair about it, as I really don’t like confrontation, but it’s always worthwhile 👍🏻)
Well at least you have a voice darling...I stayed silent for so many years and it got me into all sorts of scrapes xxx
GOOD MORNING 🌞 HOPE YOU HAVE A NICE DAY 🌄 JOHN
And you have a lovely day too John!😊
Very hard to not think about,for sure
You're right
I wonder if one of those Elephant & Castle girls will come across your video and realise how pivotal they were in making sure you're still here to tell your story. If so, I hope they say hello.
Yes , wouldn't that be absolutely amazing! They say ed my life that holiday. We met up again when I got home. They were fabulous girls xxxx
And I can’t wait for the next instalment. Such horrid men in your life seems so hard to believe for such a lovely lady as you are. I see a book and even a movie to follow about your trials and tribulations. May they all pay dearly for their misdeeds in some way. ❤
Oh my goodness darling, it would make at the very most a double sided pamphlet xxx
I spent over 15 years with an alcoholic - it was hell
I am so sorry darling. Yes it is nerve wracking as you never know when or if they're going to turn on you xxx
@ 100%. I had to call the police because he threatened my life
I love your videos xx
I've only begun your video! New sub from Canada.... thanks for posting this and I'm really looking forward to watching all of your videos! And.....interestingly enough, today would be my wedding anniversary 😆 Mine cheated on me with a woman that I trained to take over my job while I moved on to another opportunity.... I actually introduced them when he came to pick me up after work one day. I can laugh about it now but it was an utter betrayal at the time! 🤷
I'm so glad you can laugh about it now darling, albeit it terrible at the time xxx
@@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc Indeed!
The irony of training someone is not lost on me darling. I am so pleased you can laugh about it now xxx
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You are such a trouper going through these videos darling xxxx
What about your kids..where are they..just found this channel...interesting...not sure yet.
I will endeavour to fill in the details, however, I have to be mindful of my children's privacy and what they allow me to share xxxx
He cdnot admit his affairs/adultery az he didnot want to stop his playin around.n if he had afmitted , he wd hav had 2 stop.
You’re undoubtedly right about that xxx🙄
UA-cam autoplayed Louise Hay's healing meditations after your first retelling. I believe her modalities may be beneficial.
It's curious that you should mention Louis Hay. I have recently found her in my feed and listened to several of her healing word videos. Thank you for thinking of got me darling I really do appreciate your care and thoughtfulness . Much love Imi xxx❤
Thank God. Because this story is upsetting on so many levels.
You beautiful lady, inside and out. God bless you xx❤
Thank you so much June. xxx
So he got the children? You were working nights.
He already had the children as he had thrown me out of our house. xxx
@@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9ycSo terrible. Very sorry you experienced this with all the pain involved.
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Thank you for your support xxxx
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❤ so sorry this happened to you. So heartbreaking you were right to do something about it.🫂
Thank you darling...I just wished I had made the decision sooner xxxx