It is SUCH a shame I have to explain this but here we go! Content creators being comfortable in front of cameras in their own homes alone with no one else around does NOT equate to content creators confidence around other people, much less people they JUST MET. Some creators are much more shy around people, and that is okay! I am ALWAYS going to read the body language of my guests and act accordingly. I will 100% be the only one talking if I can sense my guests are more shy and need some time to warm up before feeling good and open. If that upsets you... I'm not sure what to tell you. Be mad? But I wont apologize for making my guests comfort my first priority, if that means I need to ramble a bit then so be it! There will be some episodes I talk the whole time, there will be some where I let them do most of the talking, it just depends on their comfort level and I just wont apologize for being mindful of that.
Thank you for pointing that out! I see that all the time. And I love how you ramble and with your bubbly personality it really opens up the your guest to get comfortable to talk about their stories, their content and where it comes from. I loved your episode with Jessica Vanel (also that is a great episode of how you got her to open up!) Edited for grammatical errors! 😊
Be mad? Sorry it's just SUCH a shame that you have to explain it. I haven't watched all your videos in the slightest so it was only constructive feedback from someone who views hour channel. I was polite about it!
My stepmom is a Karen... It was so embarrassing going anywhere with her because she would always act so entitled everywhere she went. One time we went to Dunkin for iced coffee, and I asked for a hot chocolate. Well, my hot chocolate wasn't chocolate, it was coffee. My stepmom yelled and yelled saying they were "poisoning" her "child" with coffee and how they were horrible people. I was 16 😑. Anyways, she kept making a big deal and tried to encourage me to join her in yelling and acting like a toddler. She then asked for the manager, and picked up the piping hot coffee, and threw it AT THE MANAGER!!! I apologized so much for her behavior and I felt so horrible... She's just an awful person. She ended up getting arrested for refusing to leave and the assault and I got a free iced coffee. Because they were out of hot chocolate?? But I didn't care, I just felt bad. I really tried to refuse the iced coffee because I didn't deserve it after what my stepmom had done. I had to get dropped off at my house by the police and explain to my dad what happened while my stepmom was detained for a little bit. They're now divorced so 🤷♀️
This gave me flashbacks of shopping with my mom when I was a teenager. I never wanted to go with her because she was so rude and always caused a scene everywhere we went, my sister and I would apologize for her being terrible once she was out of ear shot. I'm almost 28 and a mom now and I don't go shopping with her. Lol
You did deserve the iced coffee. You are not responsible for how the person with you acts, even more so if you are a child. They could see how much it hurt you that she acted that way and they could see you supported them and not her, knowing how hard it can sometimes be for a child to stand up to a (step)parent. You did not get the free drink because of the chocolate milk mishap and her making a scene. They gave you a free drink to show you they know you are not her, to show you that it's not on you and to say thank you for acting like a decent human being in a difficult situation.
You absolutely deserved the free coffee, dear. Those employees clearly saw that it was out of your control and appreciated the fact that you-the child- knew how wrong your stepmom was and apologized for her actions. A parent’s actions are never the child’s responsibility. ❤ Well done on holding your boundaries in that situation at such a young age. 👏👏👏👍🏻
I'm sorry that you had to deal with such an awful person and I can guarantee that even though you apologized on your steo mom's behalf all of those employees were feeling better knowing that at least someone the knew was actually understanding of the situation
I never thought of how things would change for working in a private school. That totally makes sense why no teacher/admin/etc would want to work in a private school.
I really think it depends on the private school. I have been teaching in a private school for 10 years and love it, The community I work for id very caring and involved. When we make recommendations for additional help they follow threw. Plus the behavior problems are practically non existent they are addressed by admin write away and if parents are not on board they know that we can turn their child away as a student especially with violent and disrespectful behavior. My son has gone to a different private school and I was a supportive parent he is now in public and I am a supportive parent. It really comes to finding the right fit.
@@angelinapalmer1177 it does matter. I’m not a teacher but I was a student in many different private schools. One it completely mattered how much your family donated to the school and such. But plenty of other schools were great for teachers and students. My Mom became very good at picking schools.
I went to a private school while one of my parents (divorced) refused to pay the full cost of education. I don’t quite know what the perspective of everyone involved was, but most of the teachers were very hard-nosed and ready to leave right away if they had to, so admin had to be able to balance disagreements between teachers and parents well if they wanted to decrease turnover. The science teachers had the most power, who were more difficult to come by. The parents were often very involved and knew each other, which can be better if they are actually good parents. The turnover in the English and Social Studies departments were constant. I’d say if you wanted to try a private school, make sure you teach math and/or science to make it a longterm option.
When I worked at Domino's there was a rule that we were not allowed to hand the food to children unless the parent was standing there with them. We also were not allowed into the customer's house.
We do the same at my work, I had a little girl ask for hot chocolate but I said someone would have to come pay first, obviously no one came to pay so I made the right move
36:17 - the full quote is "the customer is always right in matters of taste". People have an annoying tendency to ignore large swaths of quotes when it's convenient to them. 🙄
Dude i didnt know this! Its true though and reminds me of the blood is thicker than water one. Its basically the blood of the battlefield is thicker than the water of the womb. I hate people using that one so wrong
@@rachaelford5525 "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" is that quote. and yes, it is misused an infuriating amount as well. It refers to all extra-familial bonds. Allies in war, friends, and so on. IIRC, It's most often misused in a religious sense. People in various religions and cults, kind of use this to justify shunning family members when they leave the religion/cult. It is both the carrot and the stick in that situation.
@imzesok yeah I thought it had another saying, I've heard battlefield used as those who fight alongside you and/or stand beside you are closer type thing. It makes more sense. Blood family isn't always the ones there for you and it's why that quote has meant a bit more to me, because non blood has often been better to me
It is SO important to train your dogs. Earlier this month my mom’s senior yorkie was killed in her own yard because their neighbors untrained mastiff barreled right out the front door (neighbors were apparently “leaving in a hurry”) ran into my moms yard, and mauled her dog. Didn’t matter that my mom was right there, and the neighbors ran after it. These tragedies can happen in seconds. TRAIN YOUR DOG OR DON’T GET ONE!
Seriously, I couldn’t agree more with you!! I was walking my (well behaved, trained, elderly) chihuahua one evening - on a leash of cause! When a woman walked towards us with her dog on a flexi leash, and her dog took off, sprinted towards me and bit my dog several times!! She didn’t either stop the leash from expanding, tried to pull her dog in and pull it away or anything, but just LET IT HAPPEN! I immediately pulled my dog closer by its leash and pulled her up into my arms. Meanwhile HER dog was jumping up on me, trying to get to my dog! When she reached me, she didn’t even apologize, but just passed me and kept walking 😳😳😳 I was SO chocked by this that I couldn’t even say a single thing to her 😞 But your last words “train your dog or don’t get one!) just REALLY hit me, and I couldn’t agree more with you!!!❤❤❤
The beginning with the doctor's office story hit me hard bc I literally just called my doctor's office to get a refill for a life saving med for me and she was like "we can't give u a refill until u see the doctor" but I explained that my appointment is on Feb 7 and I need this medication to live and also so that my blood test shows the right levels and she gave me SUCH A HARD TIME for what?!? I've been taking this medication for 30 years. Just refill it so I can continue to be healthy for my upcoming appointment
I go to multiple different doctors and the variety is 😮. Sometimes it’s just one or two people and the rest of the office is good. But most times it’s either a good group or not. You definitely have to advocate for yourself. I’m still always trying to be positive and sweet because the you catch more flies with honey than vinegar thing is true. And then when you’re sharp with them they’ll notice. Now this is also true at offices that I go to frequently.
Thats so weird. My Fiance is between insurances right now since he changed jobs. He was able to easily get his medications on a 3 month refill versus 1 month so he wouldn't have to buy it without insurance. It was so simple.
My question is how long has it been since you've seen the doctor about your medication? I'm surprised they didn't offer a one month supply until you could be seen.
@@happypenguin2916 it hasn't been long and they typically give me a 3 month supply. My insurance covers one physical per year. The last time I had a physical was December of 2022, which is just over a year. It shouldn't have been this difficult
Oh my goodness, I so agreed about respecting kids' boundaries. My son has autism, and it's so hard when people expect him to show physical affection, and when he doesn't, it's somehow disrespectful. He is sometimes okay with hugs (mostly with me, but sometimes with his dad, or younger sister), but he hates kisses. So we don't kiss him. It's that simple. We also have learned to ask if a hug is okay (we hold our arms out in a hug circle). if he raises his arms, we know it's okay. If not, we don't. If you're insisting on hugging someone who doesn't want to hug you, you've got to wonder about why you're doing it. It's no longer about affection, but control.
Thank you for respecting your son’s boundaries. I was diagnosed autistic at 34, but I remember how much I hated being hugged and kissed as a child but my mom would always hug and kiss me a lot anyway (not my dad, because he’s like me and he gets it…he and I would blow hugs at each other the way you blow kisses)-which definitely made it harder for me to set boundaries with partners as an adult, because I had this idea that not letting someone be physically affectionate with you was mean. I even still feel guilty any time I tell my husband no, not right now, for just a hug or a kiss. I thought my mom just didn’t realize how much I hated it, but then for my autism diagnosis the psychologist did an interview with her, and she mentioned that I hated being hugged and kissed as a child. If she knew…why did she make me? It’s been so hard to process finding out that she knew, it makes me feel very violated and betrayed. So truly, thank you for respecting your son’s boundaries. Not having our boundaries respected as children is part of why rates of SA are so much higher for autistic people. Your respect in this small thing is going to make your son’s life so much better in the long run.
@letitbe56 Thanks you so much for sharing, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm so conscious of teaching both my kids about bodily autonomy, and that if you don't want someone to be touching you--at any point, for any reason--it's okay to say no. We all have different lines in the sand, and I think it's so important to teach kids from a young age that it's okay to say no. I didn't know that statistic about autistic people--it's terrifying, and also tragic. 😞
@@letitbe56 so sorry about your mom! I am in my 40’s and have a VIVID memory of being young elementary school- less than 8 for sure- and my Dad always had to have the newest cars at that time (it was the 80’s🤷🏻♀️) the dealer would always be really overbearing and offer me a lollipop or something but when he would go to hand it to me he would always pull it back and grab/hug me or say ‘where’s my kiss first’ and i was terrified of him but always was taught to ‘respect your elders’ and didn’t want to make any scene or upset anyone. This particular day i was just creeped out and refused to kiss or hug this guy and he said something i forget and put the lollipop in his chest pocket and told me ‘when i decide to be a good girl and give him a kiss i can take it’ and i broke into tears. My Dad hadn’t known about these little interactions because the dealer would always have me follow him to his office for the candy while my parents were looking at cars or doing paperwork. Once i was crying and my Dad found out why…OH Boy! The managers and my Mom had to keep him from this guy! He promised he would NEVER buy another car from them (and never did!) and my strictly Chevy driving Dad went and bought a Ford Bronco🤣 He was always my hero, and i learned that day that even little me had the power to ‘say No’ when things don’t feel right. Also got a kick out of the managers of the dealership coming to our HOUSE to try to win my Dad back! the running joke was he would trade a car in every time the ash tray got full!
@lesleybarklay798 I had a friend who just didn’t like hugs in high school I’m a hugger but I knew she wasn’t comfortable with it I respected that and just didn’t hug her. Idk why people find it hard to respect other people’s boundaries
The customer is always right.... IN MATTERS OF TASTE!!! You love that hot pink boa, yasss queen YOU do YOU! Oh, you want to use a competitor's coupon even though there is a sign RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR FACE saying we don't honor competitor's coupons? No, sorry queen, you're gonna have to pay full price to rock your boa.
The saying is actually the customer is always right when it comes to tastes. As in whatever they like is what they like and you can’t change that. Karen’s shortened it to make them always in the right and of course feel entitled to anything.
This just proves that some people shouldn't have children or pets. I really feel that some of these people just feel they are just so special and so entitled that I'm not even sure they would get it if they were made to work, or if you put them in that situation. It really is sad.
I've had a few conversations with my mom in particular about hugging and consent and implied consent because my husband doesn't like to hug or touch people much. My mom and her side of the family and I's love language is touch so we show affection through touch and hugging typically. My mom, and most if not all people in her generation, weren't taught about consent when it comes to physical touch and bodily autonomy. I wasn't taught much about it myself and I explained it to my mom and it seemed so foreign to her. Once she understood it, she felt so strange not giving my husband a hug when greeting him because she felt bad not doing so because of what she was taught but my husband really appreciated it. She still feels strange not giving him a hug when he doesn't want to hug because she wants him to feel included and doesn't want to make him feel isolated and left out, but he really appreciates it. I make a point to do the same thing with our nieces and nephew. I ask "can I have a hug?" If they say no, I don't give a hug. I respond with a plain "okay" with a smile. Maybe they'll want to give me a hug later. With our nephew, sometimes I'll tickle him and he'll say "stop" and I'll immediately stop. If he wants me to start again, he'll let me know, but it lets them know that they get to make decisions for their bodies.
All of your stories reminded me of a couple stories of my own that I had until now blocked from my mind. I once worked at an ice cream shop. We had public bathrooms that were designated near the back of the store. In the middle of the afternoon, me and two other workers had a big rush. All three of us were very preoccupied, but I happened to notice this one woman come into the store, completely avoid eye contact and beelined it straight for the bathroom. She was in there for a long time, and when she finally came out, she once again just avoided contact and conversation, and immediately walked out. At this point the rush was over, so we walked into the bathroom to see...it was a warzone of fecal matter splattered everywhere. The walls, the floors, everywhere except the toilet. My coworkers and I couldn't believe or understand what she could have done (or eaten rather) to cause all this. I was the first to prepare myself with rubber gloves with a sponge and bucket, but my coworker stopped me before I went in and said "we're getting the hose for this one." I did not ever see that woman again, and I don't think my coworkers ever did either. My guess is, she knew our shop well enough to know where the bathrooms were, but was too embarrassed to ever return. A completely different story: when I was staying with my in laws one holiday season, I decided to take their dog for a walk. They have this big black lab mix that we're not entirely sure what else she is. She's bigger than the average lab, and she has longer ears and howls when she barks. I suspect some sort of a hound breed, but I never figured it out. She also doesn't do well with other dogs. She's more of a "I'd rather be the only dog in the home" kind of pet. I've never seen her get too confrontational with another dog, but she isn't afraid to let them know she doesn't like them. Anyway, we were finishing our walk and turning the corner to approach the house when I noticed my in laws' next door neighbor's dog (some little bichon frise) is just wandering around in its front yard, without a leash, by itself. As soon as it saw me and this big lab, it ran out into the street and was barking like crazy at us. I stop a good 50 feet away and wait, cause I'm honestly unsure what to do. I'm hoping this dog's barking is going to get the owner's attention (or even another neighbor), but no one came outside. The bichon eventually stops and starts to head back to its home, and I realize this is our chance to get inside. We get halfway to the house and I hear the pitter patter of this tiny dog's feet on our tail as it's growling. My in laws' dog turns to snap at him and I yell "No!" (She's four times the size of this little yipper, I'm scared she's about to bite its head off.) Thankfully though, it was just a warning snap, and it was enough to scare this bichon back to its home. We get inside, and I tell my in laws what just happened. They say their neighbors are pretty notorious for having their dog sneak out under the fence and be out in the street all the time. The cops have even been called on them before, but unfortunately, the dog hasn't actually done anything that would give them reason to legally punish the owners about it. So it just kept happening. I don't know if anything ever became of that, though, cause my in laws moved out of that house and neighborhood a couple years later.
@@iamsongforsomeone994 how? The dog is doing what dogs do. If they're territorial, there's only so much we can do to control that. The OP knew to stop and be a distance and try to leave as quickly as possible to avoid a bigger problem. They also let the dog know to not snap. It's the neighbor's responsibility to make sure their dog doesn't get out. They obviously don't care enough to make sure they don't get out. If something were to happen to that little dog, it's nobody's fault but the neighbor's.
@@Myhusbandrenamedmyhandle pepper spray doesnt hurt a dog anymore than it hurts a human. People don’t control or train their aggressive dogs so to keep us and our dogs safe we carry pepper spray and only use it on aggressive dogs that won't leave us alone. There was one dog in my neighborhood who thought he owned the whole neighborhood so I couldn't walk my dog anywhere without him following us.
@@Myhusbandrenamedmyhandleif a person can’t be bothered to train their dogs right then they shouldn’t have a dog. If it takes someone pepper spraying their dog to get them to do their jobs as dog owners then so be it. You never know just how the other dog is going to react to yours. Obviously animal lovers don’t want to have to do this. But sometimes it’s a necessity.
As a German Shepherd mama, I am a drill sergeant with my baby boy. Not only because he's 100lb+ of muscle, but if he were to get into a scuffle of any kind, he would likely catch the blame regardless of who started it. Which has happened when an intact male tried to pick on him at the dog park. Said other dog had no injuries, but the other dog's owner didn't care that the fight started when her dog chomped my boy's ear to the point that he couldn't hold his head straight for two days. The moment I recalled my dog he tried to escape, but her dog had to be held back and almost tackled. He is a huge goober, but he would do anything to protect me so we have been very mindful in our training. He's such a good boy and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world❤ Also, scary dog privilege isn't as strong as I thought it would be! Though visually he's intimidating, he's a pretty boy and he uses it to garner pets from anyone he possibly can! I don't think we've ever completed a walk in public without someone wanting to give him attention😂
Agree 100% about being afraid of “being” a Karen. Last week I went out to dinner and ordered a steak. This is a rare thing for me, something I do a handful of times a year. I ordered it medium rare. It arrived well done, absolutely no pink. I cut into it several places to make sure. It wasn’t a very expensive place, but I was paying for a steak dinner. I went back and forth if I was going to say anything. I started eating the sides and didn’t eat the steak. The waitress came over and asked how my meal was. I asked her very nicely if my steak looked medium rare to her because it looked a bit overcooked to me. She said no, it looks well done. She got me a new meal. I thanked her profusely and apologized for making an issue. She said no big deal. I even told her I don’t want anyone to get in trouble, I was so worried. She said no worries, she just rings it in again and then zero’s it out. The cook brought out the food personally and asked me if it was ok. I thanked him so much and said sorry I made an issue. He said no big deal. I have to be honest I think I’ve only said something about food twice in my life and I’m in my 40s, but this was just so overcooked. I’m always just so worried about being that complainer.
I love just scrolling through Sam’s UA-cam shorts and I love that you had her for the Karen episode because just looking at her UA-cam shorts she’s a perfect fit for this episode❤
@13:14 As someone who attended both public and private school growing up, let me tell you: private school is a whole new level of crazy. For example, I had one classmate who was a bully, and the teachers weren't allowed to do anything about it because his parents donated a lot of money to the school and the owner was worried they'd stop donating if the kid was punished.
I read this as Mama Cass and I was like she's dead. We pulling out the ouija board because I am here for it lol. Then I read it again a laughed maybe a little too hard at my stupidity lol
As a dog trainer and groomer, I LOVED the segment about advocating for proper dog training and responsibilities. People need to do a better job researching breeds before they get them. ESPECIALLY high drive. A lot of people also think strict boundaries are "mean" when in reality it's the BEST thing you can do for the dog. Your dog needs you to be a leader that they can trust and look to for guidance
My husband moved from public school to private school teaching. And he felt the pay cut was worth it. He found that while there was the occasional difficult parent, most were very invested in working with the teacher to help their child succeed. Because they chose the school and paid for it beyond their tax dollars, they usually held their child to a higher standard.
I think it can cut either way. There’s also a pretty wide spectrum of private schools... many think of some generic super expensive stereotypical private school you’d see in a TV show. But many private schools are religious schools that only charge tuition at cost and operate on a shoestring budget even compared to public schools.
I had cousins in private school. K-12. I think yearly tuition is 9k per child. It is a private catholic school. But my cousin graduated. But she was below the curve. But her parents are not native English speakers.
@@hoktang1 I graduated a year early from private school. It was impressive how far behind I was. College was a few remedial classes and tutoring. So worth it. My friends and I from my highschool said we just payed for a diploma 😂😥. Private schools are not better than public schools. They're all different.
@@hoktang1I find that strange I started in private catholic school but it shut down I went to public school and I was above the curve until the end of high school
I was just saying yesterday on my Facebook page that I am so concerned and sad about how people in the world today. Why do so many people have to be so rude and mean? Over the last couple of days I had a couple of deliveries, one grocery and one for food. In both cases they were just blown away by how nice I was just because I didn't yell at them and I talked nicely to them. When did being nice become the exception instead of the norm? Always be kind. You never know what a person is going through. One of the two delivery ladies I talked to was having a really crummy day and is going through a messy divorce. Last thing she needed was to be yelled at like the customer before me did. Always be kind. Being kind costs nothing.
Same here! I've been saying for years, "There are no bad dogs/kids. There are only bad owners/parents." What you put in, is what you get out. My favorite compliment is "I don't like dogs, but I like YOUR dog."
I feel this episode in my soul😊 I'm a manager at a Habitat Restore and most people are truly amazing but, every once in a while, we get a Chad/Karen. The entitlement is on a whole other level of delulu😮
I work in mental health and I worked at a short-term (7-10 days) residential mental health facility for a few years. We had a policy that we would make reasonable steps to accommodate dietary restrictions and preferences. For example, we had a resident who had celiac disease so we made sure we had gluten-free alternatives for snacks and at every meal. One resident reported us to a patient advocacy group because we didn’t have organic food. We were like, “we can provide what we have but we’re county funded and we typically don’t have the budget for that. We’re so sorry we can’t help you with that.” And this resident accused us of not taking them seriously and being abusive towards them, all because of… a lack of organic food….
My husband honestly believes that every person, who is physically and mentally able, should work food service before they graduate high school, and retail before they graduate college. How else will people learn respect for people in the jobs that have to deal with others?
YES!! I've said this as well, food service, retail, but I would add childcare to that list... Jobs where you are required to maintain your composure in the face of utter lunacy, and also allow individuals to see what that other side of the coin is like, and hopefully carry that with them for life. I think society would VASTLY improve in a generation.
I also agree. Working with the public gives you the opportunity to deal with all personality types. AND when you are paying attention - shows you the TYPE of person you want/don't want to be.
Personally I don’t think you need to do both, fast food or retail should suffice, but definitely need to work in one of those fields before you become a full fledged adult and go out into the world
Used to work in retail but mainly did restocking for a small retail chain. One day one of the supervisors working the registers told me about a lady that came in, went to the handicapped bathroom, and decided to poop on the floor against the wall on the opposite of the toilet. then she ended up slipping and fell in it. Apparently she was in there for 5 or 10 minutes yelling for help until one of the employees heard her and went in. She was livid and yelling at the employee and demanding they helped her up but like .... she did it to herself???? ... it was wild and i told them they honestly should have just called emergency services because something was wrong with her and for all we know she could have broken a bone or something 🤷♀️ im not even sure if it was her own karma at that point to fall in it or what
Yes, big difference between advocating for yourself and being demanding. I work in a pharmacy, so obviously there a lot if people who are on medications that they are dependent on, and because of that, a lot of patients think that we, as the staff, are solely responsible when medications cant get to them. Something I urge people to remember is that a pharmacy is about 95% dependent on things that are completely out of our control, mostly doctors offices and insurance companies. The doctor needs to comply with the rules of the insurance company in order for the pharmacy to give you your medication (unless patients are willing to pay out of pocket-- which most of the people who bave that "Karen" attitude tend to not want to). If we, on the pharmacy side, get a rejection from your insurance because your doctor forgot to include something on your prescription, all we can do is request that information from your doctor. From then, it takes as long to fill your medication as long as it takes your doctor to send the missing information. I bring this up because the other day i had a lady on the phone insist that i had helped them on the phone the other day and i didnt do "what i told them i would do" (to clarify, they did not talk to me on the phone, but as there is a 3 to 1 tech ratio of women to men, she was most likely getting me confused with one of my coworkers). As a general rule for myself, i never tell someone that i will fill a medication without processing it in the system with the patient on the phone just in case the insurance rejects it so i can let the patient know while i have them on the phone. So when this lady told me that she had told me to get one of her medications ready for it and it wasnt ready when her son came to pick it up, thats when i knew for sure it wasnt me who answered the phone. While she was on the phone, i went ahead and processed the medication for her and let her know i would get it ready for her, and she asked me to process another medication for her. I did, and i got a rejection saying that the coupon she was using on the medication was no longer working, which brought her copay up from $5 to $170, so i told her about the copay. This is a rough restatement of how this conversation went (Im 'A' and the patient is 'B') A: Oh, how much do you normally pay for this medication? Because its telling me that its going through for $170. B: What? No, that can't be right. I never pay that. A: Yeah, I saw that last time you only paid $5ish for it, let me see why its going through for that much. B: Yeah, because I NEVER pay that much. You guys always put a coupon on it. A: I see... Oh, so unfortunately the coupon is no longer working on the medication. Thats why the copay is so high, because its only going through your insurance. B: Okay, well can you put a new coupon on it? A: Yeah, for sure, if you find me a coupon and bring it in when you come pick it up I can try- B: *I* have yo find the coupon? A: Yes B: Well, the other pharmacy (a completely different chain from the one i work at) I go to found that coupon for me. You don't have any coupons you can put on it? A: No, unfortunately the only coupons I have are stand alone coupons that don't combine with your insurance. If I put one of those coupons on, you'll have a higher copay than through your insurance B: I dont understand, you don't have any coupons you can put on it? The other pharmacy i go to found that coupon for me, why cant you? A: well, i dont have a system to find a coupon for you (At this point she was almost yelling at me over the phone) B: then Ill go the other pharmacy so they can give you a coupon because im not gonna pay $170 for this medication because you won't find me a coupon. A: Like I said- B: AND YOU KNOW WHAT, I THINK YOU *WERE* THE PERSON WHO HELPED ME ON THE PHONE THE OTHER DAY, AND I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY YOU DIDNT GET ME MY MEDICATION THE OTHER DAY. A: Ma'am, if I'm being completely honest with you, I do not remember having a conversation with you about this medication with you. You might be confusing me with one of my coworkers- B: NO, IT WAS *YOU*, I KNOW IT WAS YOU. HOW ARE YOU GONNA TELL SOMEONE THAT YOU'RE GONNA DO SOMETHING FOR THEM AND YOU DON'T. IM JUST GONNA GO TO THE OTHER PHARMACY BECAUSE YOU'RE BAD AT YOUR JOB. And she hung up the phone. My first thought: be my guest and go to a different pharmacy, doesn't hurt me. My second thought: how dare this woman sit there and blame me for things that are completely outof my control, like i went and called the person running the coupon and was like "you know what? Can you stop having a coupon for this medication, I want to get yelled at today" like what? She called about an hour before we closed and I was pissed for almost that whole hour while I filled medications in the back. Anyway, all this to say, the pharmacy acts a middle man between doctor and insurance, and a lot of things are out of our control. We do what we can on our side when those rejections come up, and at that point it is out of our hands.
This! I'm sorry this happened to you. As a former pharmacy tech, I've had my fair share of verbal abuse over things that I have no control over. The insurance not wanting to cover a med, how many scripts we get at once, the lack of staffing,etc. We were the busiest pharmacy in the district and a lot of people leave us poor reviews over things we could not control.
You talking about the pitties reminds me of when I worked in Guest Relations. We had a Karen call demanding a guest with pitties be kicked out for having "violent dogs." I reached out to the front desk, and the attendant confirmed the pitties were sweet as pie, and she'd even gotten to pet them. The Karen wouldn't listen to it though, insisting that she loves dogs and knows about dogs, so she "knows" how violent pitties are. I told her we weren't doing anything unless the pitties do something first, and if she really feels THAT unsafe, she can leave.
I love seeing two of my absolute favorite UA-camrs together in my newest favorite podcast!! This is so great!! We love you Rebecca and Sam.❤❤❤I hope to see another video with you guys together.
Absolutely agree with the convo about boundaries and cats and kids! I'm suspicious of anyone that doesn't like cats because they don't feel like the cat trusts or likes them. Even more important with kids because of what they're learning from how you help them navigate their boundaries
1:06:28 on the reverse it’s really important to teach little girls because so it doesn’t turn them into people pleasers. I had a boundary I set crossed by a certain blood relation (don’t claim her as family anymore) at every family gathering from ages like 5-13, and once I reached an age that me “over reacting” to having my boundary crossed wasn’t “cute” or “understandable because they’re little” instead of the person crossing the boundary being blamed I was. The last time it ever happened when I came back in after calming down my grandpa (my favorite family member) without even really looking at me said “you’re getting to old to keep pulling this” and I physically felt a switch flip in my head of “oh, no one cares what I want” that I’m still trying to unflip about a decade later.
Perfect word! You still have the right to advocate for yourself and that does not make someone a Karen/Darren. There's a proper process that we go should through before escalating. It depends on the circumstance as to how quickly an escalation is needed (whether it's an emergency or time sensitive). I also feel that it's important to be kind yet stern when advocating for yourself. You don't have to be a pushover, but you shouldn't be mean either. There's no reason to belittle someone.
We had people do that as well. I used to worked at Shopko. I remember this lady would come in randomly and would put sale stickers or clearance stickers on bigger priced items. Yeah we caught on, and I knew what items were on clearance or sale, because that was my job. So I had to let the boss and the cashiers know about her crazy antics. All the bra story reminds me of a situation that happened at the same place of work, where this older man stole bras, and one of my male co-workers seen him in the bathroom stuffing them in his pants and wearing one of them.
I worked at Kmart when I was in High School. I was a CSM so I either worked at the courtesy desk or as a supervisor of cashiers. One day when I was at the courtesy desk I watched a man come in the store empty handed and he headed to the bras. He grabbed a big handful and then came to me and said he wanted to return the bras he had. So I asked him why and he said he wasn't sure of his wife's size. He had a range from 32AA to 44EE. Big range. I called up security which was a code number and told the man I needed help with the return. He couldn't believe I didn't know how to do a return. I told him it was the quantity and also, all the bras have security tags. The man dropped his handful and booked it.
We had people do that as well. I used to worked at Shopko. I remember this lady would come in randomly and would put sale stickers or clearance stickers on bigger priced items. Yeah we caught on, and I knew what items were on clearance or sale, because that was my job. So I had to let the boss and the cashiers know about her crazy antics. All the bra story reminds me of a situation that happened at the same place of work, where this older man stole bras, and one of my male co-workers seen him in the bathroom stuffing them in his pants and wearing one of them.
Last month, I was worried about being perceived as a Karen but an employee's disregard was enough to make me push past discomfort. Essentially, i visited a doctors office and the receptionist did not return my ID or insurance card. I had a new patient appointment with another office 1.5 weeks later. I noticed my ID and insurance card were missing two days before. I triple checked and there had been no attempt to email, message, or call me. None in 10 days. There wasn't a way to reach the office directly, so i visited the office before my other appointment. When i told the receptionist that my cards were not returned, she said "not here" and shook her head. I was frustrated because she didnt even check. I calmly said that i spoke with her that day and she was the one who checked me in. She then looked near her desk, found cards, said "i lied." She gave them to me without verifying any of my information. The next time i visired the office i informed one of the staff members. The awful customer service and the breech in protecting my privacy was not it. Something gave me the impression that these were bad decisions and attitude from rhe employee. Everyone else in the office has been fine/good.
I LOVE this creator and as a vet tech for my local animal shelter, I'm so happy to hear that she's taking her role as puppy guardian seriously! Training is a way to help you and your companion-pal communicate, its way less humane to let them roam wild and "punish" them for things they literally DO NOT UNDERSTAND! That little segment was extra feel good for me 😊
There’s a homeless storyline on one of rSlash AITA episodes about a mother whose daughter was making fun of a homeless man. The mother had her daughter sleep in a well insulated sleeping bag ( meant for camping) and a tent. Also she’d given the daughter a choice between punishments and the daughter chose this one. The next morning her daughter came in crying and her mother hugged her. The daughter explained how awful it was outside. She actually with her mother found the man and really apologized and gave him food and money. The next weekend she cooked for the homeless shelter. I’ll look for the episode and try to link it. It’s something else to even partly experience something vs just being told about it to give you empathy.
I also just want to add how appreciative I am that you have set guidelines in these comments. I have never seen them before, like in any other comment section, but I definitely think that they should be in every comments, so thank you. 😊
As a Service Dog handler and trainer, I get called a Karen alllll the time. Like, no. I am advocating for my rights as a disabled person. I have every right to do that. Also, your brother is amazing for taking on a Maligator! I'm so glad he did his research so he could do what's right for his dog! ❤❤❤
I don't know how I got into watching them, but I recently went down a rabbit hole where I was watching videos of service dogs. I was SHOCKED at what all handlers have to deal with on a daily basis! I'm so glad I watched all those videos though, because I have so much more respect for SDs and their handlers. From public access issues, to fake service animals, to disrespectful people touching/distracting the dogs. It's just insane to me! Since going down that rabbit hole, I've seen quite a few obviously fake SDs in publix and target. It makes me so angry now that I know more about all the training SDs have to go through and how real ones vs fake ones act in public. I really wish ADA laws were taught to businesses more! You go on and protect that baby! It is not being a Karen when your doggo does so much for you! You shouldn't have to worry about untrained dogs being where they shouldn't be!
@cricket4291 Truly, I appreciate you going down that rabbit hole! I wish more people would! Then maybe they would stop faking Service Animals! And I have no intention of EVER not advocating for my lifelines! 🥰🥰🥰
I work with kids that are on the autism spectrum and have either service dogs or ESA’s. I also have twin nephews that have seizure trained SD’s. We hate going to Walmart because of how blasé they are when it comes to fake service dogs. Target used to be better but lately they’ve been falling behind in that. The last time I was out with my nephews this lady’s dog, who she claimed was an ESA/SD. She lumped the two together. Her dog snuck up behind us and jumped on one of their dogs’ back which startled her. I informed her that her dog’s actions could’ve ended very badly and he could’ve ended up in the hospital. She says “oh he’s just wanting to play. He’s not gonna hurt your dog.” I was like “no b*tch. Your dog jumping on Cinnamon like that could easily have distracted her and she could’ve missed an alert. Her job as an SD is to alert to an oncoming seizure. If she would’ve missed an alert things could turn bad for us real fast. And it would be your fault because you’re not controlling your dog.” I got this on video because we’ve learned to record these interactions for safety. I showed it to the store manager (it was Target) and to a security person. They asked her to leave and she went ape on them. She told them that can’t kick out disabled people with SD’s. The security guard had to inform her that they can if the dog is t behaving or isn’t well controlled by their handler. She wasn’t too happy with that.
@@mcrchickenluvr This is exactly what you have to do, unfortunately. I am in the process of ordering body cams for myself and my SD because of interactions like that. 🤦♀️
Consent is huge! There’s a little baby that I see frequently and his dad does a great job showing him “No” and also accepting no when his toddler doesn’t like something! One time he was saying bye and I asked for a high five and he signed no lol and I was like “pleeease” just playing around and the baby became more serious and said no lol so I said “okay that’s okay I’ll see you tomorrow” ❤ and he’s been my little friend since! He goes looking for me everyday 😍😍😍😍 It’s important to know that kids at 2 yrs old are building that confidence to be in the world and validating them at that age means better communication and trust❤️❤️❤️
I did, one time, yell at a restaurant manager. It was because he told us that the food was not made wrong, but that the meat he served us was old. I do also make it a point, when a restaurant does well, to speak to the manager and let them know that their staff did well. I believe wrongs should be pointed out and that good service should be rewarded as well.
Never take criticism from someone you would never take advice from. I love that! Ive spent too many hours crying over the nasty thing people have said. It’s time for that to stop today!
When I was in highschool, I was always so upset about the sports kids getting breaks on assignments when all the music and theatre kids never got the same kind of extensions. I was in marching band, orchestra, and groups outside of school.
Love your channel! I am a pediatric nurse, the entitlement of some parents is almost unbelievable! You are so on point about having mostly negative interactions because most of our patients’ parents are appropriate and we have normal, neutral interactions. BUT- the entitled parents take up so much time/energy/patience- it is exhausting. Just let us do our jobs and take care of your babies! It is exponentially worse when their children witness these interactions, especially teens and tweens. They look like they want teleport out of there
Okay, I can speak on the pizza delivery story because food delivery is like all of my resume. It is POLICY to not step into a customer's house. It's a safety policy for both the customer AND the driver! The only exemptions I have ever made was for clearly disabled and elderly REGULARS. I know they have mobility limitations and that's why they order food out regularly. Even if a customer I don't know says "Oh no, it's okay, just put it on the counter." I don't know if they have a weapon or if they are violent. On the flip side, they don't know that *I'm* not violent or have a weapon even if I was the one who took their order and they complimented me on how sweet my voice is (I'm young and female and have a kind of Disney Princess customer service voice)
My dad is a Kevin... not his name, but his attitude. I love him, but he is so full of himself, so adamant he is right all the time. He treats people inside and outside the family horribly... but he hates it when it gets flipped on him. I am disrespectful and do not honour my father or mother the way he believes I should... but of course, I am single in his words because I am pathetic and no fun because I do not drink alcohol. That is one of my boundaries, also not having sex outside of marriage. How can I expect any man to respect my boundaries if even my own family talks down to me and tries to bully me into losing my boundaries for relationships? I have mostly cut my dad out of my life, I'll still talk to him, but not often. He acts like I am being selfish for trying to keep my own sanity and respect, I have boundaries and if my own father will not respect that... then he will not be in my life as much as he demands to be! I wish I could have a kind and respectful relationship with my father, but I fear he is too into himself to ever respect me, or care for me unless I become the person he wants me to be... which is a doormat for his anger and criticism.
The whole seniors passing no matter what in 2020 really frustrated me, as someone who graduated high school class of 2020. All my classes ended up sending me work like I only had one class all day. So I was struggling to get it all done, while trying to take care of my dying grandmother.
I usually walk the dogs around the neighborhood with my mom and there used to be this dog that would start barking at our dogs, the fences were right by the sidewalk so it was definitely an issue. The first area had really tall fence posts so that meant that both of the dogs and humans would be safe, the other side was short enough that you could just see into the yard, and short enough for a dog to jump over. Thankfully nothing bad ever happened and they moved sometime ago. There are also dogs that will bark when we are just minding our own buisness in our yard, and it is more aggressive and territorial barking, which then riles up our dogs and then it turns into a barking frenzy that is hard to stop. We can stop it with a switch thing that makes a high pitched sound so we're good but it is very annoying to have to deal with it.
My old across the street neighbors let both of their two dogs on their lawns without a leash. I have counted that in total those two dogs have tried to attack my 8-pound dog 5 times by running off their property and to where my dog was. One time my mom was walking my dog and holding a coffee, and one of the neighbors dogs came to try to attack my dog and knocker the coffee out of her hands. I believe it burned the area of my mom’s foot that was exposed from her moccasins. My dog was so sweet to everyone but after that first time that neighbor’s dog tried to attack my dog, my dog became afraid of other dogs and started barking at them all. He still loves people, but was afraid of dogs after that to the point he would climb on furniture to look out the window and bark and go crazy and we would have to bring him off the furniture. One time he was barking at those neighbors dogs who were off the leash from our living room and he fell off our big chair and broke his couple ounces worth of an arm. Which because it was so small made it hard for them to take care of it. They put two pins in it and he wore a blue cast, a red cast, and a green cast during his recovery. He went to dog physical therapy where he swam in a pool. Then, they needed to remove 1.5 of the pins. All this to say too much scary drama because people can’t be bothered to put their dogs on leashes. And this happened to the neighbors too. Everyone talked about wanting to report them but those dogs were so mean if they got taken away from their owner they might’ve gotten put down for trying to attack everyone and potentially succeeding at it. Because when they tried to attack the dogs, they tried to attack their humans too, but when they saw we were bigger than them that they decided to go after just the dogs. It’s always the owners’ fault by the way.
That homeless story about the reporter was made into a Dhar Mann video. I work in education and in retail part-time and I've met many Karen's in both professions. Great video talk today.
My mom can be a bit of a Karen in the sense that she can overblow certain situations that aren't even the employee's fault, but most of the times she just advocates for herself or her family, however a cousin of my mom is a full blown one, like she is so entitled and impatient, she has moved 3 times in the last year, and she is always complaining about money yet the 3 moves happened. And she cuts back lines and thinks she can only eat imported food that her daughter brought from abroad despite the same product being available locally.
I used to work retail for years and had skme crazy experiences. One being told by a customer that on a busy Saturday there was blood smeared everywhere in the elevator. Ran over and sure enough. Blood was smeared EVERYWHERE. No idea what happened but I shut down the elevator. Wild.
My Grandmother was a Karen, even though I loved her she was horrible to people a lot. Im glad I was a child who didnt pick up her habits and saw it as "I dont want to be this." As an adult now, I work a service job that has taught me to stand up for myself while also meeting things calmly. Someone faces me with the attitude I saw with a child, I will meet them with a smile and will give my best service and owning my mistakes. I do what I can to help, and if needed making it clear what I cannot do for them apologetically but firmly. It has given me a bigger perspective because some people are simply not angry at you, and apologize for the behavior they know later is wrong. It never fails to baffle me when I meet someone who is entitled enough to not realize they are in the wrong. On the other side, I feel like my standards of what I recieve in service have become higher. I hate having to tell someone I have a problem, but I've become more open in saying it. I've been given the confidence of seeing others come to me and tell me an issue calmly, and the pleasure of being able to fix it. It makes me do the same more often, even if I still worry im going to bother someone. I appreciate someone telling me nicely because it makes me WANT to fix it more that it just being a job to. Needless to say, I love my job a lot even if some days really suck. Becoming a people pleasing person with boundaries over here. Super enjoyed listening to this!
I, as a heavy duty mechanic, deal with a lot of abuse from truck drivers, some things understandably can be due to safety, but the place I use to work for every truck was new so it was hardly a concern, I had a half hour back and forth conversation with a driver over his engine oil being too thin and felt entitled a whole oil change, for starters this is a fleet , so he doesn't own the truck and in no way entitled just and oil change for this. Second, the oil we use is directly from the dealer and we buy in bulk, so every truck gets the same oil and filled to the same amount. Next, the driver just got done driving after a 10 hour day, so obviously the engine was hot and oil thinned out due to this. Anyway, it took me, two other mechanics and my manager to finally educate him enough for him to calm down just enough to understand what was going on. My manager later on came up to me and asked if that really happened, we wanted to laugh about it but just couldn't everyone involved was super jaded that day, I've never been so irritated but also concerned for an individual in my life.
17:01 OMG I have always felt that way too like my dad used to have major anger issues & road rage. I would just go silent but consumed with fear he would just get absolutely crazy when I was younger. My grandparents can be entitled too like they complain or keep asking for things I feel so bad & embarrassed!
My family had a foster dog one time who was very nice with people but aggressive towards smaller animals. We walked her her late late at night to prevent any issues with people with their animals. Well, one night there was a very pregnant woman with a very little dog and this dog wanted to RUN up to them. I had to sit on the sidewalk and use my whole body to anchor her and this woman saw us, saw me sitting and telling her Sit and Stay over and over again. And she continued to take her sweet ass time strolling around and STOPPING IN THE MIDDLE of the road! I was like "I'M OBVIOUSLY TRYING TO HELP YOU LADY GET A MOVE ON!"
I have a pittie/boerboel (south African mastiff) mix. He appears like a pittie but is about 80 lbs. We are super strict with his training. He is super sweet but looks scary so he needs to have manners. Some people have said we're a bit too strict but if we weren't he would run all over us and be a menace. Some owners unfortunately don't deserve to own dogs if they won't spend the time to train them
I have a similar story to the one at 51:42 😂 So I have a husky mixed with a labor which is a big dog breed and if she would bark to much we would just put her in said because our neighbor would get mad a call 9.1.1 on our dog saying that she is a threat to the neighborhood making up stuff like "your dog is to big and I will tell animal control that she has rabies " (she doesn't have rabies she has all of her shots) some of this times I would have a friend over and we would be playing in the backyard with my dog and she called the cops saying that we were being attacked by my dog and the cherry on top is she kept looking over the fence fiming us two kids in first grade. And another time was me and my brother were playing in our backyard with our dog and of course she was barking so instead of talking to my mom about this she called the cops again saying that we were abusing her ! And she had her husband bang on our fence making her bark and me and brother were outside with her and we were like stop baking and used her recall mat to calm her down but the husband was screaming at us saying this dog needs to have her vocal cords removed because that is what they did to there dogs . (I was in second grade at this time) I told him how it was " it is not my business what you do with your dog and it is not your business to tell us what to do with our dog!" And of course he was mad and the next day me and my brother were going to our buss stop for school at it is in front of my neighbors house the wife starts trying to hit me and my brother with her car and we tell our parents what is happening so they confront them on it and they ask them "our kids are saying you have been pulling out your driveway the same time that they walk to the bus stop we need to know if this is true " they say "yes this is true but they have to go to work the same time we go to the bus stop" did I mention that they are retarded? so they are not going to work and we told my mom's cop friend and she said that is and big crime and we ended up taking to court but the neighbors were friends with the judges so we just ended up moving a way from them and we are problem free now our new neighborhood loves our dog! And we ended up getting one more dog !
The part about telling a boy to hug someone so got. I always hate (not a word I tend to use but it fits this.) when someone will tell a child boy or girl to go hug someone even if it is a family member. When my son started to get to toddler age, I started telling him before we left somewhere if you want to give so and so a hug now is the time because we are leaving. Before we would go to bed i would ask would you like a goodnight hug or if i was leaving i would as can i have a goodbye hug. Sometimes i would get a no and would just say okay. It is so important to teach kids its their body and they done have to just let someone touch them even for just a hug if they dont feel like it or feel comfortable.
I used to work in a clinic and public health office, where one of my patients was a high functioning autistic man. He did not like to be touched and even during Covid he was very adverse to wearing a mask because he didn’t like anything on his face. I had the great fortune to work with him before Covid so he was comfortable with me also, he loved candy and we were both allergic to nuts, so I knew which candy he could, and could not have, he came into the clinic while I was gone on vacation three different different times and all three times. He refused to let the person who was covering me get his blood after I came back he was happy to see me and I asked him to wear a mask while we were working on him, and he agreed. He also hates the tourniquet on his arm. However, he knew it was necessary for me to be able to find his veins easily and quickly, so it could all be Over, after I finished up with him, I gave him a bag of Halloween candy and he gave me a hug. His mother was so touched because he does not give hugs freely. Yes it was during Covid towards the back end of 2020 the beginning of 2021 but it was nice that he felt comfortable enough with me to allow me to do my job safely and to keep him safe as well.
my grandma is Karen... once when I was 10 me my grandma my grandpa and my mom went to a diner that had just opened up. the day that we went my grandma was already very annoyed because she had just found out that she had put on dirty pants and a dirty shirt after getting in the car and driving to the diner. me and my mom got there around the same time my grandparents did and we went inside the building together. we all ordered Waters and when the waitress came back my grandma said "I wanted no ice" she did actually ask for ice so she was lying. the waitress immediately apologized and went to go get her her non ice water. when she came back we all ordered food and my grandma ordered three pancakes. when they came out the two bottom pancakes were a little bit more Brown than the top one. my grandma inspected both and then called over the waitress. this poor waitress had to endure 10 minutes of my grandma going "I want these two bottom pancakes to look just like this top one because this top one is yellow and not Brown!" over and over and over again. when the waitress left with the pancakes to go remake them I turned to my grandma and my 10-year-old booty was feeling a little savage that day. I said "hey Karen can you pass me the syrup?" my grandma looked at me and then said "my name is not Karen call me by my real name..." I then looked at her and said "you know that was the rudest thing you could have possibly said to that waitress" she said "I don't see what I did wrong I was saying facts?" I laughed to myself looked at my mom looked back and then said "that was the most passive aggressive thing you could possibly said to that waitress... what would you do if that was you? because if that was me in that situation I would have literally just walked away from you I don't care if my job is on the line I don't care if I get scolded by my manager I would walk away... you are so rude you should not have done that!"everyone in the diner turns to look at my grandma and then she left
What was said at the end... having to move away after making an ass outta yourself in public.... yeah, i was an 8mo preggo Karen for split second in the middle one of the worst heatwaves in years. I couldn't find an air-conditioner to buy. I was exhausted, hormonal, and pissed off that I didn't get the 2 for 1 taco deal from del taco because I was 3hrs too early. I laid rubber outta the drive-thru after snatching my 1 taco. That was 10 years ago, to this day I have yet to return. EDIT: I know not extreme Karen-y. I didnt yell or ask for the manager & demand the deal. But i did scoff but didn't hold up the line. Why its bad is because i worked customer service for almost 20yrs at that point. I still feel kinda bad everytime i pass the restaurant.
aww! i think most humans have had a horrible day, and i truly give you grace and a pass for going thru a summer preggo~especially a super heat wave! I am forever grateful to the powers that be that all my kiddos were born in Jan & Feb so i didn’t have to be extra pregnant in the heat, now in my 40’s and having hormones going bananas i can barely cope, and go out of my way to check myself because i have worked with the public and don’t ever want to take my misery out on someone else! But please~ take the “preggo pass” and allow yourself to release the guilt, especially if you were just a bit crabby and didn’t ruin anyone else’s day in the process ❤
My high school job was working at Dairy Queen and let me tell you I got some crazy stories. One time we had a girl order a blizzard inside, and came around to the window of the drive through to hand us an empty cup that the blizzard was in and said she did not like it, and wanted a refund. I could be rich if you knew how many people came up with empty wrappers or cups and said they did not like the food and asked for a refund. My sis was a waitress at a Stake house restaurant. There was this guy that came in with his family, and this order came up to $200. He told my sister that he did not like the food and he said he will not pay for it. My sister took notice that they all ate there food on the plate. So they asked for the manager and yup got a free meal that they all ate up. She said a lot these people are rich people not wanting to pay and tip. It’s a really fancy stake house that she used to work for, so sometimes tips would be really good or nothing.
My husband and I have had a lot of interactions with Karen/Darren's in the fod industry. One that stands out... It's a Friday night around 11pm-12am. Our restaurant has a jukebox in the lobby that updates around 10pm. (This is important as certain artists/songs only become available after the update. They drop off at 6am.) A family comes in. Think three generations of people. A 10 top. Two in their 50s or so. Their grown kids, about 25-30s. And six kids between one-10. My husband and I are both neurodivergent. Music helps us when we start to feel stressed. So, my husband walked over to the jukebox before the group orders. He picks a few songs. The jukebox isn't loud, as we have to hear orders called to us. Well, Garth Brooks 'Friends in Low Places' starts to play. The "Tucker" and "Karen" start grumbling audibly. (The oldest two.) Karen is holding the youngest toddler. (Important to story.) Then, Metallica starts playing. Tucker and Karen absolutely LOSE IT on my husband! They start screaming and cussing! "This is Devil music!" My husband tells them it's always been available on the jukebox, which only plays corporate approved songs. They continue screaming at him, as I call our Division manager. My husband gets overwhelmed and walks away. Tucker starts screaming in my face now. I'm 5'2". This is a large 6'+, 300 pound man, that's twice my age. So close to my face that I could tell you how many fillings he had. I tell him I am on the phone with my boss's boss and he's on the way. Along with the cops. Tucker screams at me that I'm nothing but a dumb effing b**** that he has never seen anyone so r-slur. I'm still on the phone with my boss, so I ask him if he heard that. He says yes. Tucker is still leering at me and screeching. Karen is still holding the toddler and making a show of covering his ears from the "Devil music." I looked right into the man's face. "Sir, you can call my 'stupid' all you want, but you sound real ignorant right now." My manager snorted. Tucker looked like I had just hit "reset". Karen starts screeching! "You little b****! You just called him a name!" "Ma'am, I didn't call him any name. I said he was being ignorant. And you're saying this music is inappropriate, while screaming and cussing while holding a baby." Now they both are screaming at me, as the cops pull up. Their kids and grandkids looked so embarrassed, but did nothing. Of course, they didn't stick around to talk to my manager and were oh so sweet to the police. They went straight to our sister store, a mile away. They told the staff we were Satanists and were playing hard-core Death Metal loudly. That they had nicely asked us to turn it down, and we had both turned into howling demons. We had ripped panels off the equipment and threw it. That we cursed them and threatened them. That they were going to have us fired. It's been two years. We're still there and they have never returned. Still have Metallica, Pantera, and Black Sabbath on the jukebox after 10pm.😊 (Also... we are absolutely the opposite of Satanists.)
I can say I grew up in a rough background where when I was younger I fought a lot. so now a days unless im really close to you, i don't like being touch. It sets off my fight or flight reaction. I'm still surprised some people don't understand that.
I saw this when I was merchandising in Walmart, not an actual employee. This 20's woman was looking at the product across the aisle from me. She selected one package and handed to her toddler that was sitting in the cart. The toddler instantly damaged (not destroyed, very usable) the package. The mother saw this and put that package back on the shelf and selected an identical one. I rolled my eyes and kept on working. Less than a minute and I still remember that a decade later.
I understand your opinion on not shaming or yelling at people who are ignorant about something bc yes, it doesn’t work and makes them angrier towards it, but in so many cases I don’t have the empathy left to try and educate bigots and oppressors who’ve had their whole lives to figure out how not to be shitty. The sentiment is nice, even hopeful, but too often victims and marginalized people are given the burden of explaining themselves to the ignorant and it just sucks.
Yeah as much as I'd love to be as nice as possible to everyone, it's hard to keep that act up when most of the time bigots don't even listen when you are nice. You could be the most calm and composed person having a conversation with someone who has bigoted views, and the other person will still think everyone like you is horrible and shouldn't be given rights. And yes, sometimes it DOES work, but it's not near enough as it should be.
@@CharlesWawa exactly. It’s not worth it, especially with people like racists or homophobes. If we can’t agree that certain subgroups of people are fundamentally human and deserve respect and rights then we’re not going to get anywhere.
Omg I am so scared of being labeled a Karen as well!! Like so much to the point where I lowkey let a professor get away with what I think was ableism. I'm neurodivergent and this guy would NOT give me my accommodations at all! I ended up failing that class by literally 2 points bc of it. It took my mom, her coworkers (she works at the college I go to), all of my friends, the people at the Testing Center and her boss to convince me to go confront him about it. I ended up going to the Assistant Director of Accommodations (bc we're chill and I'm comfortable around him) and I literally cried in his office about everything that was going on. Bro was PISSED!!!!!!! He comforted me and as soon as we were done with our meeting, he all but hunted my professor down and talked to him. It was after that, that I was able to take my final (yes, it took all semester for this to happen) normally. All I needed was ONE accommodation from that professor and it was to take my exam in the Testing Center with my extra time. That's it. And I would schedule my appointments to take the exams *days* in advance. So it's not like this was a last minute thing. Anyways, turns out he was also the director for this class and made getting my accommodations over the summer miserable as well. Failed it again. Third time I took the class, he got replaced, and my new professor did everything she could to help me and I passed!! :D I was so scared to talk to that first prof bc I didn't want to come off as a whiny Karen and tbh, I am STILL afraid to ask for my accommodations in fear of being annoying, sounding entitled, and/or being a Karen. Legally speaking, I know I am/was in the clear. But still............ngl, I still feel guilty about it even though I KNOW that I'm not the only student who had a problem with that guy
OMG!!!! Rebecca I’ve been wanting this collab for so long!! Rebecca Rodger and Sneerix!? Both of you are my favorite UA-camrs!! I know you don’t know that I wanted this, But still, THANK YOU!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Agree that there are some dog breeds that aren't for everyone. If you wonder why you often see dog breeds like huskies and german shepherds in shelters, it's because they are challenging breeds to care for and train (including dogs mixed with these breeds). I know dog trainers that wouldn't own a husky and wouldn't recommend them to most people. These are, of course, just a few examples. There are other breeds that aren't for everyone. One other example - there are people who get wolfdogs thinking they'll be great guard dogs. Wolves are EXTREMELY shy. Wolfdogs are the worst guard dogs. They also can have clashing instincts between their wolf and dog side, which can cause some unique behavioral problems. If you're not educated and have experience with wolfdogs, please don't get one. Roughly 80% of wolfdogs in the US are euthanized by the time they're 2-3 years old. So sad 😪 Do your research, please.
The homelessness thing is so real - I'm grateful and lucky to be 21 months clean, but when I was in active addiction I was homeless in the dead of winter, living in a tent in an abandoned building with three friends. Worst experience of my life, 20/10 do not recommend. And the addiction stemmed from being prescribed adderall and benzos for the better part of 16 years by my doctors, and when they cut me off, I went to street pharmacists. It wasn't an experience I'd wish on anyone, and like I said I'm so glad to be where I'm at now. But we were out there in 6 degree weather in two feet of snow, and there was NO room in the shelters. It was horrifying.
As a door dash driver, it is unbelievably scary how many small children walk up to my car to get whatever I may be delivering at the time their little foreheads barely above my car door, and I would NEVER enter a home. That kind of thing baffles me.
It is SUCH a shame I have to explain this but here we go! Content creators being comfortable in front of cameras in their own homes alone with no one else around does NOT equate to content creators confidence around other people, much less people they JUST MET. Some creators are much more shy around people, and that is okay! I am ALWAYS going to read the body language of my guests and act accordingly. I will 100% be the only one talking if I can sense my guests are more shy and need some time to warm up before feeling good and open. If that upsets you... I'm not sure what to tell you. Be mad? But I wont apologize for making my guests comfort my first priority, if that means I need to ramble a bit then so be it! There will be some episodes I talk the whole time, there will be some where I let them do most of the talking, it just depends on their comfort level and I just wont apologize for being mindful of that.
I love your videos ❤
Male karens being called Tucker teminds me of Red vs. Blue.
Damnit Tucker!
Your saving all introverts! Lol
Thank you for pointing that out! I see that all the time. And I love how you ramble and with your bubbly personality it really opens up the your guest to get comfortable to talk about their stories, their content and where it comes from. I loved your episode with Jessica Vanel (also that is a great episode of how you got her to open up!)
Edited for grammatical errors! 😊
Be mad? Sorry it's just SUCH a shame that you have to explain it. I haven't watched all your videos in the slightest so it was only constructive feedback from someone who views hour channel. I was polite about it!
My stepmom is a Karen... It was so embarrassing going anywhere with her because she would always act so entitled everywhere she went. One time we went to Dunkin for iced coffee, and I asked for a hot chocolate. Well, my hot chocolate wasn't chocolate, it was coffee. My stepmom yelled and yelled saying they were "poisoning" her "child" with coffee and how they were horrible people. I was 16 😑. Anyways, she kept making a big deal and tried to encourage me to join her in yelling and acting like a toddler. She then asked for the manager, and picked up the piping hot coffee, and threw it AT THE MANAGER!!! I apologized so much for her behavior and I felt so horrible... She's just an awful person. She ended up getting arrested for refusing to leave and the assault and I got a free iced coffee. Because they were out of hot chocolate?? But I didn't care, I just felt bad. I really tried to refuse the iced coffee because I didn't deserve it after what my stepmom had done. I had to get dropped off at my house by the police and explain to my dad what happened while my stepmom was detained for a little bit. They're now divorced so 🤷♀️
This gave me flashbacks of shopping with my mom when I was a teenager. I never wanted to go with her because she was so rude and always caused a scene everywhere we went, my sister and I would apologize for her being terrible once she was out of ear shot. I'm almost 28 and a mom now and I don't go shopping with her. Lol
You did deserve the iced coffee. You are not responsible for how the person with you acts, even more so if you are a child. They could see how much it hurt you that she acted that way and they could see you supported them and not her, knowing how hard it can sometimes be for a child to stand up to a (step)parent. You did not get the free drink because of the chocolate milk mishap and her making a scene. They gave you a free drink to show you they know you are not her, to show you that it's not on you and to say thank you for acting like a decent human being in a difficult situation.
You absolutely deserved the free coffee, dear. Those employees clearly saw that it was out of your control and appreciated the fact that you-the child- knew how wrong your stepmom was and apologized for her actions. A parent’s actions are never the child’s responsibility. ❤ Well done on holding your boundaries in that situation at such a young age. 👏👏👏👍🏻
I'm sorry that you had to deal with such an awful person and I can guarantee that even though you apologized on your steo mom's behalf all of those employees were feeling better knowing that at least someone the knew was actually understanding of the situation
😢,🎉
I never thought of how things would change for working in a private school. That totally makes sense why no teacher/admin/etc would want to work in a private school.
I really think it depends on the private school. I have been teaching in a private school for 10 years and love it, The community I work for id very caring and involved. When we make recommendations for additional help they follow threw. Plus the behavior problems are practically non existent they are addressed by admin write away and if parents are not on board they know that we can turn their child away as a student especially with violent and disrespectful behavior. My son has gone to a different private school and I was a supportive parent he is now in public and I am a supportive parent. It really comes to finding the right fit.
@@angelinapalmer1177 I’m so glad that you’ve had a good experience.
@@angelinapalmer1177 it does matter. I’m not a teacher but I was a student in many different private schools. One it completely mattered how much your family donated to the school and such. But plenty of other schools were great for teachers and students. My Mom became very good at picking schools.
Money, higher pay sometimes maybe?
I went to a private school while one of my parents (divorced) refused to pay the full cost of education. I don’t quite know what the perspective of everyone involved was, but most of the teachers were very hard-nosed and ready to leave right away if they had to, so admin had to be able to balance disagreements between teachers and parents well if they wanted to decrease turnover. The science teachers had the most power, who were more difficult to come by. The parents were often very involved and knew each other, which can be better if they are actually good parents. The turnover in the English and Social Studies departments were constant. I’d say if you wanted to try a private school, make sure you teach math and/or science to make it a longterm option.
When I worked at Domino's there was a rule that we were not allowed to hand the food to children unless the parent was standing there with them. We also were not allowed into the customer's house.
And now we know why that rule exists.
We do the same at my work, I had a little girl ask for hot chocolate but I said someone would have to come pay first, obviously no one came to pay so I made the right move
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@@Chaotic_by_Choice should be fixed now.
@@colorstar7772 Nice, and I wasn't trying to be rude, in case you thought that
@@Chaotic_by_ChoiceI know
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36:17 - the full quote is "the customer is always right in matters of taste". People have an annoying tendency to ignore large swaths of quotes when it's convenient to them. 🙄
Dude i didnt know this! Its true though and reminds me of the blood is thicker than water one. Its basically the blood of the battlefield is thicker than the water of the womb. I hate people using that one so wrong
@@rachaelford5525 "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" is that quote. and yes, it is misused an infuriating amount as well. It refers to all extra-familial bonds. Allies in war, friends, and so on. IIRC, It's most often misused in a religious sense. People in various religions and cults, kind of use this to justify shunning family members when they leave the religion/cult. It is both the carrot and the stick in that situation.
@imzesok yeah I thought it had another saying, I've heard battlefield used as those who fight alongside you and/or stand beside you are closer type thing. It makes more sense. Blood family isn't always the ones there for you and it's why that quote has meant a bit more to me, because non blood has often been better to me
@@rachaelford5525 Sad, but true for far too many people.
@@imzesok yeah it is
It is SO important to train your dogs. Earlier this month my mom’s senior yorkie was killed in her own yard because their neighbors untrained mastiff barreled right out the front door (neighbors were apparently “leaving in a hurry”) ran into my moms yard, and mauled her dog. Didn’t matter that my mom was right there, and the neighbors ran after it. These tragedies can happen in seconds. TRAIN YOUR DOG OR DON’T GET ONE!
Seriously, I couldn’t agree more with you!!
I was walking my (well behaved, trained, elderly) chihuahua one evening - on a leash of cause!
When a woman walked towards us with her dog on a flexi leash, and her dog took off, sprinted towards me and bit my dog several times!!
She didn’t either stop the leash from expanding, tried to pull her dog in and pull it away or anything, but just LET IT HAPPEN!
I immediately pulled my dog closer by its leash and pulled her up into my arms. Meanwhile HER dog was jumping up on me, trying to get to my dog!
When she reached me, she didn’t even apologize, but just passed me and kept walking 😳😳😳
I was SO chocked by this that I couldn’t even say a single thing to her 😞
But your last words “train your dog or don’t get one!) just REALLY hit me, and I couldn’t agree more with you!!!❤❤❤
My most sincere condolences to you and your family for losing your dog❤😢
The beginning with the doctor's office story hit me hard bc I literally just called my doctor's office to get a refill for a life saving med for me and she was like "we can't give u a refill until u see the doctor" but I explained that my appointment is on Feb 7 and I need this medication to live and also so that my blood test shows the right levels and she gave me SUCH A HARD TIME for what?!? I've been taking this medication for 30 years. Just refill it so I can continue to be healthy for my upcoming appointment
I am SO sorry❤❤
I go to multiple different doctors and the variety is 😮. Sometimes it’s just one or two people and the rest of the office is good. But most times it’s either a good group or not. You definitely have to advocate for yourself. I’m still always trying to be positive and sweet because the you catch more flies with honey than vinegar thing is true. And then when you’re sharp with them they’ll notice. Now this is also true at offices that I go to frequently.
Thats so weird. My Fiance is between insurances right now since he changed jobs. He was able to easily get his medications on a 3 month refill versus 1 month so he wouldn't have to buy it without insurance. It was so simple.
My question is how long has it been since you've seen the doctor about your medication? I'm surprised they didn't offer a one month supply until you could be seen.
@@happypenguin2916 it hasn't been long and they typically give me a 3 month supply. My insurance covers one physical per year. The last time I had a physical was December of 2022, which is just over a year. It shouldn't have been this difficult
Oh my goodness, I so agreed about respecting kids' boundaries. My son has autism, and it's so hard when people expect him to show physical affection, and when he doesn't, it's somehow disrespectful. He is sometimes okay with hugs (mostly with me, but sometimes with his dad, or younger sister), but he hates kisses. So we don't kiss him. It's that simple. We also have learned to ask if a hug is okay (we hold our arms out in a hug circle). if he raises his arms, we know it's okay. If not, we don't.
If you're insisting on hugging someone who doesn't want to hug you, you've got to wonder about why you're doing it. It's no longer about affection, but control.
Thank you for respecting your son’s boundaries. I was diagnosed autistic at 34, but I remember how much I hated being hugged and kissed as a child but my mom would always hug and kiss me a lot anyway (not my dad, because he’s like me and he gets it…he and I would blow hugs at each other the way you blow kisses)-which definitely made it harder for me to set boundaries with partners as an adult, because I had this idea that not letting someone be physically affectionate with you was mean. I even still feel guilty any time I tell my husband no, not right now, for just a hug or a kiss. I thought my mom just didn’t realize how much I hated it, but then for my autism diagnosis the psychologist did an interview with her, and she mentioned that I hated being hugged and kissed as a child. If she knew…why did she make me? It’s been so hard to process finding out that she knew, it makes me feel very violated and betrayed. So truly, thank you for respecting your son’s boundaries. Not having our boundaries respected as children is part of why rates of SA are so much higher for autistic people. Your respect in this small thing is going to make your son’s life so much better in the long run.
@letitbe56 Thanks you so much for sharing, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm so conscious of teaching both my kids about bodily autonomy, and that if you don't want someone to be touching you--at any point, for any reason--it's okay to say no. We all have different lines in the sand, and I think it's so important to teach kids from a young age that it's okay to say no. I didn't know that statistic about autistic people--it's terrifying, and also tragic. 😞
@@letitbe56 so sorry about your mom! I am in my 40’s and have a VIVID memory of being young elementary school- less than 8 for sure- and my Dad always had to have the newest cars at that time (it was the 80’s🤷🏻♀️) the dealer would always be really overbearing and offer me a lollipop or something but when he would go to hand it to me he would always pull it back and grab/hug me or say ‘where’s my kiss first’ and i was terrified of him but always was taught to ‘respect your elders’ and didn’t want to make any scene or upset anyone. This particular day i was just creeped out and refused to kiss or hug this guy and he said something i forget and put the lollipop in his chest pocket and told me ‘when i decide to be a good girl and give him a kiss i can take it’ and i broke into tears. My Dad hadn’t known about these little interactions because the dealer would always have me follow him to his office for the candy while my parents were looking at cars or doing paperwork. Once i was crying and my Dad found out why…OH Boy! The managers and my Mom had to keep him from this guy! He promised he would NEVER buy another car from them (and never did!) and my strictly Chevy driving Dad went and bought a Ford Bronco🤣 He was always my hero, and i learned that day that even little me had the power to ‘say No’ when things don’t feel right. Also got a kick out of the managers of the dealership coming to our HOUSE to try to win my Dad back! the running joke was he would trade a car in every time the ash tray got full!
@lesleybarklay798 I had a friend who just didn’t like hugs in high school I’m a hugger but I knew she wasn’t comfortable with it I respected that and just didn’t hug her. Idk why people find it hard to respect other people’s boundaries
@@sparklight0964 Exactly!
My favourite come back to "the customer is always right" is "yeah, but to be a customer you need to have purchased something to begin with" 😂😂
The customer is always right.... IN MATTERS OF TASTE!!! You love that hot pink boa, yasss queen YOU do YOU! Oh, you want to use a competitor's coupon even though there is a sign RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR FACE saying we don't honor competitor's coupons? No, sorry queen, you're gonna have to pay full price to rock your boa.
Customer is always entitled… like entitled to getting a free ban.
The saying is actually the customer is always right when it comes to tastes. As in whatever they like is what they like and you can’t change that. Karen’s shortened it to make them always in the right and of course feel entitled to anything.
I love to respond by finishing the full quote ‘in matters of taste.’ And just see their brain try to figure it out.
This just proves that some people shouldn't have children or pets. I really feel that some of these people just feel they are just so special and so entitled that I'm not even sure they would get it if they were made to work, or if you put them in that situation. It really is sad.
I've had a few conversations with my mom in particular about hugging and consent and implied consent because my husband doesn't like to hug or touch people much. My mom and her side of the family and I's love language is touch so we show affection through touch and hugging typically. My mom, and most if not all people in her generation, weren't taught about consent when it comes to physical touch and bodily autonomy. I wasn't taught much about it myself and I explained it to my mom and it seemed so foreign to her. Once she understood it, she felt so strange not giving my husband a hug when greeting him because she felt bad not doing so because of what she was taught but my husband really appreciated it. She still feels strange not giving him a hug when he doesn't want to hug because she wants him to feel included and doesn't want to make him feel isolated and left out, but he really appreciates it. I make a point to do the same thing with our nieces and nephew. I ask "can I have a hug?" If they say no, I don't give a hug. I respond with a plain "okay" with a smile. Maybe they'll want to give me a hug later. With our nephew, sometimes I'll tickle him and he'll say "stop" and I'll immediately stop. If he wants me to start again, he'll let me know, but it lets them know that they get to make decisions for their bodies.
That is so sweet❤❤❤
All of your stories reminded me of a couple stories of my own that I had until now blocked from my mind.
I once worked at an ice cream shop. We had public bathrooms that were designated near the back of the store. In the middle of the afternoon, me and two other workers had a big rush. All three of us were very preoccupied, but I happened to notice this one woman come into the store, completely avoid eye contact and beelined it straight for the bathroom. She was in there for a long time, and when she finally came out, she once again just avoided contact and conversation, and immediately walked out. At this point the rush was over, so we walked into the bathroom to see...it was a warzone of fecal matter splattered everywhere. The walls, the floors, everywhere except the toilet. My coworkers and I couldn't believe or understand what she could have done (or eaten rather) to cause all this. I was the first to prepare myself with rubber gloves with a sponge and bucket, but my coworker stopped me before I went in and said "we're getting the hose for this one." I did not ever see that woman again, and I don't think my coworkers ever did either. My guess is, she knew our shop well enough to know where the bathrooms were, but was too embarrassed to ever return.
A completely different story: when I was staying with my in laws one holiday season, I decided to take their dog for a walk. They have this big black lab mix that we're not entirely sure what else she is. She's bigger than the average lab, and she has longer ears and howls when she barks. I suspect some sort of a hound breed, but I never figured it out. She also doesn't do well with other dogs. She's more of a "I'd rather be the only dog in the home" kind of pet. I've never seen her get too confrontational with another dog, but she isn't afraid to let them know she doesn't like them. Anyway, we were finishing our walk and turning the corner to approach the house when I noticed my in laws' next door neighbor's dog (some little bichon frise) is just wandering around in its front yard, without a leash, by itself. As soon as it saw me and this big lab, it ran out into the street and was barking like crazy at us. I stop a good 50 feet away and wait, cause I'm honestly unsure what to do. I'm hoping this dog's barking is going to get the owner's attention (or even another neighbor), but no one came outside. The bichon eventually stops and starts to head back to its home, and I realize this is our chance to get inside. We get halfway to the house and I hear the pitter patter of this tiny dog's feet on our tail as it's growling. My in laws' dog turns to snap at him and I yell "No!" (She's four times the size of this little yipper, I'm scared she's about to bite its head off.) Thankfully though, it was just a warning snap, and it was enough to scare this bichon back to its home. We get inside, and I tell my in laws what just happened. They say their neighbors are pretty notorious for having their dog sneak out under the fence and be out in the street all the time. The cops have even been called on them before, but unfortunately, the dog hasn't actually done anything that would give them reason to legally punish the owners about it. So it just kept happening. I don't know if anything ever became of that, though, cause my in laws moved out of that house and neighborhood a couple years later.
Your dog story is the reason why the people in my family carry pepper spray with us whenever we walk our own dogs.
@@iamsongforsomeone994 how? The dog is doing what dogs do. If they're territorial, there's only so much we can do to control that. The OP knew to stop and be a distance and try to leave as quickly as possible to avoid a bigger problem. They also let the dog know to not snap. It's the neighbor's responsibility to make sure their dog doesn't get out. They obviously don't care enough to make sure they don't get out. If something were to happen to that little dog, it's nobody's fault but the neighbor's.
@@Myhusbandrenamedmyhandle pepper spray doesnt hurt a dog anymore than it hurts a human. People don’t control or train their aggressive dogs so to keep us and our dogs safe we carry pepper spray and only use it on aggressive dogs that won't leave us alone. There was one dog in my neighborhood who thought he owned the whole neighborhood so I couldn't walk my dog anywhere without him following us.
@@Myhusbandrenamedmyhandleif a person can’t be bothered to train their dogs right then they shouldn’t have a dog. If it takes someone pepper spraying their dog to get them to do their jobs as dog owners then so be it. You never know just how the other dog is going to react to yours. Obviously animal lovers don’t want to have to do this. But sometimes it’s a necessity.
As a German Shepherd mama, I am a drill sergeant with my baby boy. Not only because he's 100lb+ of muscle, but if he were to get into a scuffle of any kind, he would likely catch the blame regardless of who started it. Which has happened when an intact male tried to pick on him at the dog park. Said other dog had no injuries, but the other dog's owner didn't care that the fight started when her dog chomped my boy's ear to the point that he couldn't hold his head straight for two days. The moment I recalled my dog he tried to escape, but her dog had to be held back and almost tackled.
He is a huge goober, but he would do anything to protect me so we have been very mindful in our training. He's such a good boy and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world❤
Also, scary dog privilege isn't as strong as I thought it would be! Though visually he's intimidating, he's a pretty boy and he uses it to garner pets from anyone he possibly can! I don't think we've ever completed a walk in public without someone wanting to give him attention😂
Agree 100% about being afraid of “being” a Karen. Last week I went out to dinner and ordered a steak. This is a rare thing for me, something I do a handful of times a year. I ordered it medium rare. It arrived well done, absolutely no pink. I cut into it several places to make sure. It wasn’t a very expensive place, but I was paying for a steak dinner. I went back and forth if I was going to say anything. I started eating the sides and didn’t eat the steak. The waitress came over and asked how my meal was. I asked her very nicely if my steak looked medium rare to her because it looked a bit overcooked to me. She said no, it looks well done. She got me a new meal. I thanked her profusely and apologized for making an issue. She said no big deal. I even told her I don’t want anyone to get in trouble, I was so worried. She said no worries, she just rings it in again and then zero’s it out. The cook brought out the food personally and asked me if it was ok. I thanked him so much and said sorry I made an issue. He said no big deal. I have to be honest I think I’ve only said something about food twice in my life and I’m in my 40s, but this was just so overcooked. I’m always just so worried about being that complainer.
I love just scrolling through Sam’s UA-cam shorts and I love that you had her for the Karen episode because just looking at her UA-cam shorts she’s a perfect fit for this episode❤
@13:14 As someone who attended both public and private school growing up, let me tell you: private school is a whole new level of crazy. For example, I had one classmate who was a bully, and the teachers weren't allowed to do anything about it because his parents donated a lot of money to the school and the owner was worried they'd stop donating if the kid was punished.
You should do a video with MamaCusses. It would be really great getting to see you bounce off of someone who actually does have kids.
YES
Or Tori Phantom!
I read this as Mama Cass and I was like she's dead. We pulling out the ouija board because I am here for it lol. Then I read it again a laughed maybe a little too hard at my stupidity lol
YESSSS!!!! love mamacusses ❤@@haileyaldrich8961
That’s great about the salaries. Working in law enforcement I always got “I pay your salary,” well guess what, so do I.
As a dog trainer and groomer, I LOVED the segment about advocating for proper dog training and responsibilities. People need to do a better job researching breeds before they get them. ESPECIALLY high drive. A lot of people also think strict boundaries are "mean" when in reality it's the BEST thing you can do for the dog. Your dog needs you to be a leader that they can trust and look to for guidance
My husband moved from public school to private school teaching. And he felt the pay cut was worth it. He found that while there was the occasional difficult parent, most were very invested in working with the teacher to help their child succeed. Because they chose the school and paid for it beyond their tax dollars, they usually held their child to a higher standard.
I think it can cut either way. There’s also a pretty wide spectrum of private schools... many think of some generic super expensive stereotypical private school you’d see in a TV show. But many private schools are religious schools that only charge tuition at cost and operate on a shoestring budget even compared to public schools.
I had cousins in private school. K-12. I think yearly tuition is 9k per child. It is a private catholic school. But my cousin graduated. But she was below the curve. But her parents are not native English speakers.
@@hoktang1 I graduated a year early from private school. It was impressive how far behind I was. College was a few remedial classes and tutoring. So worth it. My friends and I from my highschool said we just payed for a diploma 😂😥. Private schools are not better than public schools. They're all different.
@@hoktang1I find that strange I started in private catholic school but it shut down I went to public school and I was above the curve until the end of high school
I was just saying yesterday on my Facebook page that I am so concerned and sad about how people in the world today. Why do so many people have to be so rude and mean? Over the last couple of days I had a couple of deliveries, one grocery and one for food. In both cases they were just blown away by how nice I was just because I didn't yell at them and I talked nicely to them. When did being nice become the exception instead of the norm? Always be kind. You never know what a person is going through. One of the two delivery ladies I talked to was having a really crummy day and is going through a messy divorce. Last thing she needed was to be yelled at like the customer before me did. Always be kind. Being kind costs nothing.
Oh my goodness!! Sam and Rebecca! Your chat about dogs and training is so refreshing! As a dog trainer I want to say THANK YOU! ❤😊
Same here! I've been saying for years, "There are no bad dogs/kids. There are only bad owners/parents." What you put in, is what you get out. My favorite compliment is "I don't like dogs, but I like YOUR dog."
I feel this episode in my soul😊
I'm a manager at a Habitat Restore and most people are truly amazing but, every once in a while, we get a Chad/Karen. The entitlement is on a whole other level of delulu😮
I work in mental health and I worked at a short-term (7-10 days) residential mental health facility for a few years. We had a policy that we would make reasonable steps to accommodate dietary restrictions and preferences. For example, we had a resident who had celiac disease so we made sure we had gluten-free alternatives for snacks and at every meal. One resident reported us to a patient advocacy group because we didn’t have organic food. We were like, “we can provide what we have but we’re county funded and we typically don’t have the budget for that. We’re so sorry we can’t help you with that.” And this resident accused us of not taking them seriously and being abusive towards them, all because of… a lack of organic food….
My husband honestly believes that every person, who is physically and mentally able, should work food service before they graduate high school, and retail before they graduate college. How else will people learn respect for people in the jobs that have to deal with others?
My sister thinks the same and I'm on board too but i think retail, food service, and cleaning. The amount of disrespect cleaners get is disgusting.
As someone that worked in hospitality and security I 100% agree
YES!! I've said this as well, food service, retail, but I would add childcare to that list... Jobs where you are required to maintain your composure in the face of utter lunacy, and also allow individuals to see what that other side of the coin is like, and hopefully carry that with them for life. I think society would VASTLY improve in a generation.
I also agree. Working with the public gives you the opportunity to deal with all personality types. AND when you are paying attention - shows you the TYPE of person you want/don't want to be.
Personally I don’t think you need to do both, fast food or retail should suffice, but definitely need to work in one of those fields before you become a full fledged adult and go out into the world
Used to work in retail but mainly did restocking for a small retail chain. One day one of the supervisors working the registers told me about a lady that came in, went to the handicapped bathroom, and decided to poop on the floor against the wall on the opposite of the toilet. then she ended up slipping and fell in it.
Apparently she was in there for 5 or 10 minutes yelling for help until one of the employees heard her and went in. She was livid and yelling at the employee and demanding they helped her up but like .... she did it to herself???? ... it was wild and i told them they honestly should have just called emergency services because something was wrong with her and for all we know she could have broken a bone or something 🤷♀️
im not even sure if it was her own karma at that point to fall in it or what
Yes, big difference between advocating for yourself and being demanding. I work in a pharmacy, so obviously there a lot if people who are on medications that they are dependent on, and because of that, a lot of patients think that we, as the staff, are solely responsible when medications cant get to them. Something I urge people to remember is that a pharmacy is about 95% dependent on things that are completely out of our control, mostly doctors offices and insurance companies. The doctor needs to comply with the rules of the insurance company in order for the pharmacy to give you your medication (unless patients are willing to pay out of pocket-- which most of the people who bave that "Karen" attitude tend to not want to). If we, on the pharmacy side, get a rejection from your insurance because your doctor forgot to include something on your prescription, all we can do is request that information from your doctor. From then, it takes as long to fill your medication as long as it takes your doctor to send the missing information.
I bring this up because the other day i had a lady on the phone insist that i had helped them on the phone the other day and i didnt do "what i told them i would do" (to clarify, they did not talk to me on the phone, but as there is a 3 to 1 tech ratio of women to men, she was most likely getting me confused with one of my coworkers). As a general rule for myself, i never tell someone that i will fill a medication without processing it in the system with the patient on the phone just in case the insurance rejects it so i can let the patient know while i have them on the phone. So when this lady told me that she had told me to get one of her medications ready for it and it wasnt ready when her son came to pick it up, thats when i knew for sure it wasnt me who answered the phone. While she was on the phone, i went ahead and processed the medication for her and let her know i would get it ready for her, and she asked me to process another medication for her. I did, and i got a rejection saying that the coupon she was using on the medication was no longer working, which brought her copay up from $5 to $170, so i told her about the copay. This is a rough restatement of how this conversation went (Im 'A' and the patient is 'B')
A: Oh, how much do you normally pay for this medication? Because its telling me that its going through for $170.
B: What? No, that can't be right. I never pay that.
A: Yeah, I saw that last time you only paid $5ish for it, let me see why its going through for that much.
B: Yeah, because I NEVER pay that much. You guys always put a coupon on it.
A: I see... Oh, so unfortunately the coupon is no longer working on the medication. Thats why the copay is so high, because its only going through your insurance.
B: Okay, well can you put a new coupon on it?
A: Yeah, for sure, if you find me a coupon and bring it in when you come pick it up I can try-
B: *I* have yo find the coupon?
A: Yes
B: Well, the other pharmacy (a completely different chain from the one i work at) I go to found that coupon for me. You don't have any coupons you can put on it?
A: No, unfortunately the only coupons I have are stand alone coupons that don't combine with your insurance. If I put one of those coupons on, you'll have a higher copay than through your insurance
B: I dont understand, you don't have any coupons you can put on it? The other pharmacy i go to found that coupon for me, why cant you?
A: well, i dont have a system to find a coupon for you
(At this point she was almost yelling at me over the phone)
B: then Ill go the other pharmacy so they can give you a coupon because im not gonna pay $170 for this medication because you won't find me a coupon.
A: Like I said-
B: AND YOU KNOW WHAT, I THINK YOU *WERE* THE PERSON WHO HELPED ME ON THE PHONE THE OTHER DAY, AND I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY YOU DIDNT GET ME MY MEDICATION THE OTHER DAY.
A: Ma'am, if I'm being completely honest with you, I do not remember having a conversation with you about this medication with you. You might be confusing me with one of my coworkers-
B: NO, IT WAS *YOU*, I KNOW IT WAS YOU. HOW ARE YOU GONNA TELL SOMEONE THAT YOU'RE GONNA DO SOMETHING FOR THEM AND YOU DON'T. IM JUST GONNA GO TO THE OTHER PHARMACY BECAUSE YOU'RE BAD AT YOUR JOB.
And she hung up the phone. My first thought: be my guest and go to a different pharmacy, doesn't hurt me. My second thought: how dare this woman sit there and blame me for things that are completely outof my control, like i went and called the person running the coupon and was like "you know what? Can you stop having a coupon for this medication, I want to get yelled at today" like what? She called about an hour before we closed and I was pissed for almost that whole hour while I filled medications in the back.
Anyway, all this to say, the pharmacy acts a middle man between doctor and insurance, and a lot of things are out of our control. We do what we can on our side when those rejections come up, and at that point it is out of our hands.
This! I'm sorry this happened to you.
As a former pharmacy tech, I've had my fair share of verbal abuse over things that I have no control over. The insurance not wanting to cover a med, how many scripts we get at once, the lack of staffing,etc. We were the busiest pharmacy in the district and a lot of people leave us poor reviews over things we could not control.
Triggered by a coupon remembered another issue and blamed you for it smh
You talking about the pitties reminds me of when I worked in Guest Relations. We had a Karen call demanding a guest with pitties be kicked out for having "violent dogs." I reached out to the front desk, and the attendant confirmed the pitties were sweet as pie, and she'd even gotten to pet them. The Karen wouldn't listen to it though, insisting that she loves dogs and knows about dogs, so she "knows" how violent pitties are. I told her we weren't doing anything unless the pitties do something first, and if she really feels THAT unsafe, she can leave.
I love seeing two of my absolute favorite UA-camrs together in my newest favorite podcast!! This is so great!! We love you Rebecca and Sam.❤❤❤I hope to see another video with you guys together.
Absolutely agree with the convo about boundaries and cats and kids! I'm suspicious of anyone that doesn't like cats because they don't feel like the cat trusts or likes them. Even more important with kids because of what they're learning from how you help them navigate their boundaries
I love the was Sam is just sitting so modern and Rebbacca is just playing with her toesies and having mismatched socks 😂😂 me too girl am like that 😂🥰
1:06:28 on the reverse it’s really important to teach little girls because so it doesn’t turn them into people pleasers. I had a boundary I set crossed by a certain blood relation (don’t claim her as family anymore) at every family gathering from ages like 5-13, and once I reached an age that me “over reacting” to having my boundary crossed wasn’t “cute” or “understandable because they’re little” instead of the person crossing the boundary being blamed I was. The last time it ever happened when I came back in after calming down my grandpa (my favorite family member) without even really looking at me said “you’re getting to old to keep pulling this” and I physically felt a switch flip in my head of “oh, no one cares what I want” that I’m still trying to unflip about a decade later.
Perfect word! You still have the right to advocate for yourself and that does not make someone a Karen/Darren. There's a proper process that we go should through before escalating. It depends on the circumstance as to how quickly an escalation is needed (whether it's an emergency or time sensitive). I also feel that it's important to be kind yet stern when advocating for yourself. You don't have to be a pushover, but you shouldn't be mean either. There's no reason to belittle someone.
We had people do that as well. I used to worked at Shopko. I remember this lady would come in randomly and would put sale stickers or clearance stickers on bigger priced items. Yeah we caught on, and I knew what items were on clearance or sale, because that was my job. So I had to let the boss and the cashiers know about her crazy antics. All the bra story reminds me of a situation that happened at the same place of work, where this older man stole bras, and one of my male co-workers seen him in the bathroom stuffing them in his pants and wearing one of them.
I worked at Kmart when I was in High School. I was a CSM so I either worked at the courtesy desk or as a supervisor of cashiers. One day when I was at the courtesy desk I watched a man come in the store empty handed and he headed to the bras. He grabbed a big handful and then came to me and said he wanted to return the bras he had. So I asked him why and he said he wasn't sure of his wife's size. He had a range from 32AA to 44EE. Big range. I called up security which was a code number and told the man I needed help with the return. He couldn't believe I didn't know how to do a return. I told him it was the quantity and also, all the bras have security tags. The man dropped his handful and booked it.
We had people do that as well. I used to worked at Shopko. I remember this lady would come in randomly and would put sale stickers or clearance stickers on bigger priced items. Yeah we caught on, and I knew what items were on clearance or sale, because that was my job. So I had to let the boss and the cashiers know about her crazy antics. All the bra story reminds me of a situation that happened at the same place of work, where this older man stole bras, and one of my male co-workers seen him in the bathroom stuffing them in his pants and wearing one of them.
Last month, I was worried about being perceived as a Karen but an employee's disregard was enough to make me push past discomfort.
Essentially, i visited a doctors office and the receptionist did not return my ID or insurance card. I had a new patient appointment with another office 1.5 weeks later. I noticed my ID and insurance card were missing two days before. I triple checked and there had been no attempt to email, message, or call me. None in 10 days. There wasn't a way to reach the office directly, so i visited the office before my other appointment. When i told the receptionist that my cards were not returned, she said "not here" and shook her head.
I was frustrated because she didnt even check. I calmly said that i spoke with her that day and she was the one who checked me in. She then looked near her desk, found cards, said "i lied." She gave them to me without verifying any of my information.
The next time i visired the office i informed one of the staff members. The awful customer service and the breech in protecting my privacy was not it. Something gave me the impression that these were bad decisions and attitude from rhe employee. Everyone else in the office has been fine/good.
I LOVE this creator and as a vet tech for my local animal shelter, I'm so happy to hear that she's taking her role as puppy guardian seriously! Training is a way to help you and your companion-pal communicate, its way less humane to let them roam wild and "punish" them for things they literally DO NOT UNDERSTAND! That little segment was extra feel good for me 😊
There’s a homeless storyline on one of rSlash AITA episodes about a mother whose daughter was making fun of a homeless man. The mother had her daughter sleep in a well insulated sleeping bag ( meant for camping) and a tent. Also she’d given the daughter a choice between punishments and the daughter chose this one. The next morning her daughter came in crying and her mother hugged her. The daughter explained how awful it was outside. She actually with her mother found the man and really apologized and gave him food and money. The next weekend she cooked for the homeless shelter. I’ll look for the episode and try to link it. It’s something else to even partly experience something vs just being told about it to give you empathy.
Hey please do link it .
I also just want to add how appreciative I am that you have set guidelines in these comments. I have never seen them before, like in any other comment section, but I definitely think that they should be in every comments, so thank you. 😊
I call male Karens Richard. The shortening of the name is the trick 😅
As a Service Dog handler and trainer, I get called a Karen alllll the time. Like, no. I am advocating for my rights as a disabled person. I have every right to do that.
Also, your brother is amazing for taking on a Maligator! I'm so glad he did his research so he could do what's right for his dog! ❤❤❤
I don't know how I got into watching them, but I recently went down a rabbit hole where I was watching videos of service dogs. I was SHOCKED at what all handlers have to deal with on a daily basis!
I'm so glad I watched all those videos though, because I have so much more respect for SDs and their handlers. From public access issues, to fake service animals, to disrespectful people touching/distracting the dogs. It's just insane to me!
Since going down that rabbit hole, I've seen quite a few obviously fake SDs in publix and target. It makes me so angry now that I know more about all the training SDs have to go through and how real ones vs fake ones act in public. I really wish ADA laws were taught to businesses more!
You go on and protect that baby! It is not being a Karen when your doggo does so much for you! You shouldn't have to worry about untrained dogs being where they shouldn't be!
@cricket4291 Truly, I appreciate you going down that rabbit hole! I wish more people would! Then maybe they would stop faking Service Animals! And I have no intention of EVER not advocating for my lifelines! 🥰🥰🥰
I work with kids that are on the autism spectrum and have either service dogs or ESA’s. I also have twin nephews that have seizure trained SD’s. We hate going to Walmart because of how blasé they are when it comes to fake service dogs. Target used to be better but lately they’ve been falling behind in that. The last time I was out with my nephews this lady’s dog, who she claimed was an ESA/SD. She lumped the two together. Her dog snuck up behind us and jumped on one of their dogs’ back which startled her. I informed her that her dog’s actions could’ve ended very badly and he could’ve ended up in the hospital. She says “oh he’s just wanting to play. He’s not gonna hurt your dog.” I was like “no b*tch. Your dog jumping on Cinnamon like that could easily have distracted her and she could’ve missed an alert. Her job as an SD is to alert to an oncoming seizure. If she would’ve missed an alert things could turn bad for us real fast. And it would be your fault because you’re not controlling your dog.” I got this on video because we’ve learned to record these interactions for safety. I showed it to the store manager (it was Target) and to a security person. They asked her to leave and she went ape on them. She told them that can’t kick out disabled people with SD’s. The security guard had to inform her that they can if the dog is t behaving or isn’t well controlled by their handler. She wasn’t too happy with that.
@@mcrchickenluvr This is exactly what you have to do, unfortunately. I am in the process of ordering body cams for myself and my SD because of interactions like that. 🤦♀️
Consent is huge!
There’s a little baby that I see frequently and his dad does a great job showing him “No” and also accepting no when his toddler doesn’t like something! One time he was saying bye and I asked for a high five and he signed no lol and I was like “pleeease” just playing around and the baby became more serious and said no lol so I said “okay that’s okay I’ll see you tomorrow” ❤ and he’s been my little friend since! He goes looking for me everyday 😍😍😍😍
It’s important to know that kids at 2 yrs old are building that confidence to be in the world and validating them at that age means better communication and trust❤️❤️❤️
THE COLLAB WE DIDN'T DESERVE BUT NEEDED ❤❤
Yes
The whole Karen this is so funny to me because the only Karen I know is the kindest, soft spoken, loving person I have ever met.
To the customer is always right saying, my coworker in retail taught me that the full quote is, "the customer is always right in matters of taste."
I love that you two collab!! You both are two of my favorite CCs!! 💜
I did, one time, yell at a restaurant manager. It was because he told us that the food was not made wrong, but that the meat he served us was old. I do also make it a point, when a restaurant does well, to speak to the manager and let them know that their staff did well. I believe wrongs should be pointed out and that good service should be rewarded as well.
Never take criticism from someone you would never take advice from. I love that! Ive spent too many hours crying over the nasty thing people have said. It’s time for that to stop today!
Oh my gosh!! You guys are two of my favorite UA-camrs that I have watched for years! I'm so excited for this episode! Luv you guys!
When I was in highschool, I was always so upset about the sports kids getting breaks on assignments when all the music and theatre kids never got the same kind of extensions. I was in marching band, orchestra, and groups outside of school.
Love your channel! I am a pediatric nurse, the entitlement of some parents is almost unbelievable! You are so on point about having mostly negative interactions because most of our patients’ parents are appropriate and we have normal, neutral interactions. BUT- the entitled parents take up so much time/energy/patience- it is exhausting. Just let us do our jobs and take care of your babies!
It is exponentially worse when their children witness these interactions, especially teens and tweens. They look like they want teleport out of there
I have found that a personality trait that bothers me in someone else, is often something that I do myself.
Okay, I can speak on the pizza delivery story because food delivery is like all of my resume. It is POLICY to not step into a customer's house. It's a safety policy for both the customer AND the driver! The only exemptions I have ever made was for clearly disabled and elderly REGULARS. I know they have mobility limitations and that's why they order food out regularly. Even if a customer I don't know says "Oh no, it's okay, just put it on the counter." I don't know if they have a weapon or if they are violent. On the flip side, they don't know that *I'm* not violent or have a weapon even if I was the one who took their order and they complimented me on how sweet my voice is (I'm young and female and have a kind of Disney Princess customer service voice)
My dad is a Kevin... not his name, but his attitude. I love him, but he is so full of himself, so adamant he is right all the time. He treats people inside and outside the family horribly... but he hates it when it gets flipped on him.
I am disrespectful and do not honour my father or mother the way he believes I should... but of course, I am single in his words because I am pathetic and no fun because I do not drink alcohol. That is one of my boundaries, also not having sex outside of marriage. How can I expect any man to respect my boundaries if even my own family talks down to me and tries to bully me into losing my boundaries for relationships? I have mostly cut my dad out of my life, I'll still talk to him, but not often. He acts like I am being selfish for trying to keep my own sanity and respect, I have boundaries and if my own father will not respect that... then he will not be in my life as much as he demands to be!
I wish I could have a kind and respectful relationship with my father, but I fear he is too into himself to ever respect me, or care for me unless I become the person he wants me to be... which is a doormat for his anger and criticism.
Off topic, but I LOVE Snerixx and Mrs. Rogers. I was really looking forward to seeing them both in a podcast! Can’t wait to watch 😁
I love these videos so much, it's so funny how I just sit at home, by myself, Adding to the conversation like I'm there with yall 😂
The whole seniors passing no matter what in 2020 really frustrated me, as someone who graduated high school class of 2020. All my classes ended up sending me work like I only had one class all day. So I was struggling to get it all done, while trying to take care of my dying grandmother.
I usually walk the dogs around the neighborhood with my mom and there used to be this dog that would start barking at our dogs, the fences were right by the sidewalk so it was definitely an issue. The first area had really tall fence posts so that meant that both of the dogs and humans would be safe, the other side was short enough that you could just see into the yard, and short enough for a dog to jump over. Thankfully nothing bad ever happened and they moved sometime ago. There are also dogs that will bark when we are just minding our own buisness in our yard, and it is more aggressive and territorial barking, which then riles up our dogs and then it turns into a barking frenzy that is hard to stop. We can stop it with a switch thing that makes a high pitched sound so we're good but it is very annoying to have to deal with it.
My old across the street neighbors let both of their two dogs on their lawns without a leash. I have counted that in total those two dogs have tried to attack my 8-pound dog 5 times by running off their property and to where my dog was. One time my mom was walking my dog and holding a coffee, and one of the neighbors dogs came to try to attack my dog and knocker the coffee out of her hands. I believe it burned the area of my mom’s foot that was exposed from her moccasins. My dog was so sweet to everyone but after that first time that neighbor’s dog tried to attack my dog, my dog became afraid of other dogs and started barking at them all. He still loves people, but was afraid of dogs after that to the point he would climb on furniture to look out the window and bark and go crazy and we would have to bring him off the furniture. One time he was barking at those neighbors dogs who were off the leash from our living room and he fell off our big chair and broke his couple ounces worth of an arm. Which because it was so small made it hard for them to take care of it. They put two pins in it and he wore a blue cast, a red cast, and a green cast during his recovery. He went to dog physical therapy where he swam in a pool. Then, they needed to remove 1.5 of the pins. All this to say too much scary drama because people can’t be bothered to put their dogs on leashes. And this happened to the neighbors too. Everyone talked about wanting to report them but those dogs were so mean if they got taken away from their owner they might’ve gotten put down for trying to attack everyone and potentially succeeding at it. Because when they tried to attack the dogs, they tried to attack their humans too, but when they saw we were bigger than them that they decided to go after just the dogs. It’s always the owners’ fault by the way.
You have to do flight attendants with Jeanie weenie! ❤❤love this podcast
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The team up we’ve all been waiting for
That homeless story about the reporter was made into a Dhar Mann video. I work in education and in retail part-time and I've met many Karen's in both professions. Great video talk today.
I love Snerixx! What a perfect guest for an episode about karens!!
My mom can be a bit of a Karen in the sense that she can overblow certain situations that aren't even the employee's fault, but most of the times she just advocates for herself or her family, however a cousin of my mom is a full blown one, like she is so entitled and impatient, she has moved 3 times in the last year, and she is always complaining about money yet the 3 moves happened. And she cuts back lines and thinks she can only eat imported food that her daughter brought from abroad despite the same product being available locally.
I used to work retail for years and had skme crazy experiences. One being told by a customer that on a busy Saturday there was blood smeared everywhere in the elevator. Ran over and sure enough. Blood was smeared EVERYWHERE. No idea what happened but I shut down the elevator. Wild.
My Grandmother was a Karen, even though I loved her she was horrible to people a lot. Im glad I was a child who didnt pick up her habits and saw it as "I dont want to be this." As an adult now, I work a service job that has taught me to stand up for myself while also meeting things calmly. Someone faces me with the attitude I saw with a child, I will meet them with a smile and will give my best service and owning my mistakes. I do what I can to help, and if needed making it clear what I cannot do for them apologetically but firmly. It has given me a bigger perspective because some people are simply not angry at you, and apologize for the behavior they know later is wrong. It never fails to baffle me when I meet someone who is entitled enough to not realize they are in the wrong.
On the other side, I feel like my standards of what I recieve in service have become higher. I hate having to tell someone I have a problem, but I've become more open in saying it. I've been given the confidence of seeing others come to me and tell me an issue calmly, and the pleasure of being able to fix it. It makes me do the same more often, even if I still worry im going to bother someone. I appreciate someone telling me nicely because it makes me WANT to fix it more that it just being a job to. Needless to say, I love my job a lot even if some days really suck. Becoming a people pleasing person with boundaries over here. Super enjoyed listening to this!
I, as a heavy duty mechanic, deal with a lot of abuse from truck drivers, some things understandably can be due to safety, but the place I use to work for every truck was new so it was hardly a concern, I had a half hour back and forth conversation with a driver over his engine oil being too thin and felt entitled a whole oil change, for starters this is a fleet , so he doesn't own the truck and in no way entitled just and oil change for this. Second, the oil we use is directly from the dealer and we buy in bulk, so every truck gets the same oil and filled to the same amount. Next, the driver just got done driving after a 10 hour day, so obviously the engine was hot and oil thinned out due to this. Anyway, it took me, two other mechanics and my manager to finally educate him enough for him to calm down just enough to understand what was going on. My manager later on came up to me and asked if that really happened, we wanted to laugh about it but just couldn't everyone involved was super jaded that day, I've never been so irritated but also concerned for an individual in my life.
17:01 OMG I have always felt that way too like my dad used to have major anger issues & road rage. I would just go silent but consumed with fear he would just get absolutely crazy when I was younger. My grandparents can be entitled too like they complain or keep asking for things I feel so bad & embarrassed!
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My family had a foster dog one time who was very nice with people but aggressive towards smaller animals. We walked her her late late at night to prevent any issues with people with their animals. Well, one night there was a very pregnant woman with a very little dog and this dog wanted to RUN up to them. I had to sit on the sidewalk and use my whole body to anchor her and this woman saw us, saw me sitting and telling her Sit and Stay over and over again. And she continued to take her sweet ass time strolling around and STOPPING IN THE MIDDLE of the road! I was like "I'M OBVIOUSLY TRYING TO HELP YOU LADY GET A MOVE ON!"
I can’t believe my two favorite UA-camrs are collaborating 😆
I have a pittie/boerboel (south African mastiff) mix. He appears like a pittie but is about 80 lbs. We are super strict with his training. He is super sweet but looks scary so he needs to have manners. Some people have said we're a bit too strict but if we weren't he would run all over us and be a menace. Some owners unfortunately don't deserve to own dogs if they won't spend the time to train them
I have a similar story to the one at 51:42 😂
So I have a husky mixed with a labor which is a big dog breed and if she would bark to much we would just put her in said because our neighbor would get mad a call 9.1.1 on our dog saying that she is a threat to the neighborhood making up stuff like "your dog is to big and I will tell animal control that she has rabies " (she doesn't have rabies she has all of her shots) some of this times I would have a friend over and we would be playing in the backyard with my dog and she called the cops saying that we were being attacked by my dog and the cherry on top is she kept looking over the fence fiming us two kids in first grade. And another time was me and my brother were playing in our backyard with our dog and of course she was barking so instead of talking to my mom about this she called the cops again saying that we were abusing her ! And she had her husband bang on our fence making her bark and me and brother were outside with her and we were like stop baking and used her recall mat to calm her down but the husband was screaming at us saying this dog needs to have her vocal cords removed because that is what they did to there dogs . (I was in second grade at this time) I told him how it was " it is not my business what you do with your dog and it is not your business to tell us what to do with our dog!" And of course he was mad and the next day me and my brother were going to our buss stop for school at it is in front of my neighbors house the wife starts trying to hit me and my brother with her car and we tell our parents what is happening so they confront them on it and they ask them "our kids are saying you have been pulling out your driveway the same time that they walk to the bus stop we need to know if this is true " they say "yes this is true but they have to go to work the same time we go to the bus stop" did I mention that they are retarded? so they are not going to work and we told my mom's cop friend and she said that is and big crime and we ended up taking to court but the neighbors were friends with the judges so we just ended up moving a way from them and we are problem free now our new neighborhood loves our dog! And we ended up getting one more dog !
The part about telling a boy to hug someone so got. I always hate (not a word I tend to use but it fits this.) when someone will tell a child boy or girl to go hug someone even if it is a family member. When my son started to get to toddler age, I started telling him before we left somewhere if you want to give so and so a hug now is the time because we are leaving. Before we would go to bed i would ask would you like a goodnight hug or if i was leaving i would as can i have a goodbye hug. Sometimes i would get a no and would just say okay. It is so important to teach kids its their body and they done have to just let someone touch them even for just a hug if they dont feel like it or feel comfortable.
I used to work in a clinic and public health office, where one of my patients was a high functioning autistic man. He did not like to be touched and even during Covid he was very adverse to wearing a mask because he didn’t like anything on his face. I had the great fortune to work with him before Covid so he was comfortable with me also, he loved candy and we were both allergic to nuts, so I knew which candy he could, and could not have, he came into the clinic while I was gone on vacation three different different times and all three times. He refused to let the person who was covering me get his blood after I came back he was happy to see me and I asked him to wear a mask while we were working on him, and he agreed. He also hates the tourniquet on his arm. However, he knew it was necessary for me to be able to find his veins easily and quickly, so it could all be Over, after I finished up with him, I gave him a bag of Halloween candy and he gave me a hug. His mother was so touched because he does not give hugs freely. Yes it was during Covid towards the back end of 2020 the beginning of 2021 but it was nice that he felt comfortable enough with me to allow me to do my job safely and to keep him safe as well.
Hello! I love your videos so much! I can’t believe I’m so early ❤
I think this is my favorite video out of all of the ones that you have done. I like all of your content but found this highly relatable.
my grandma is Karen... once when I was 10 me my grandma my grandpa and my mom went to a diner that had just opened up. the day that we went my grandma was already very annoyed because she had just found out that she had put on dirty pants and a dirty shirt after getting in the car and driving to the diner. me and my mom got there around the same time my grandparents did and we went inside the building together. we all ordered Waters and when the waitress came back my grandma said "I wanted no ice" she did actually ask for ice so she was lying. the waitress immediately apologized and went to go get her her non ice water. when she came back we all ordered food and my grandma ordered three pancakes. when they came out the two bottom pancakes were a little bit more Brown than the top one. my grandma inspected both and then called over the waitress. this poor waitress had to endure 10 minutes of my grandma going "I want these two bottom pancakes to look just like this top one because this top one is yellow and not Brown!" over and over and over again. when the waitress left with the pancakes to go remake them I turned to my grandma and my 10-year-old booty was feeling a little savage that day. I said "hey Karen can you pass me the syrup?" my grandma looked at me and then said "my name is not Karen call me by my real name..." I then looked at her and said "you know that was the rudest thing you could have possibly said to that waitress" she said "I don't see what I did wrong I was saying facts?" I laughed to myself looked at my mom looked back and then said "that was the most passive aggressive thing you could possibly said to that waitress... what would you do if that was you? because if that was me in that situation I would have literally just walked away from you I don't care if my job is on the line I don't care if I get scolded by my manager I would walk away... you are so rude you should not have done that!"everyone in the diner turns to look at my grandma and then she left
What was said at the end... having to move away after making an ass outta yourself in public.... yeah, i was an 8mo preggo Karen for split second in the middle one of the worst heatwaves in years. I couldn't find an air-conditioner to buy. I was exhausted, hormonal, and pissed off that I didn't get the 2 for 1 taco deal from del taco because I was 3hrs too early. I laid rubber outta the drive-thru after snatching my 1 taco. That was 10 years ago, to this day I have yet to return. EDIT: I know not extreme Karen-y. I didnt yell or ask for the manager & demand the deal. But i did scoff but didn't hold up the line. Why its bad is because i worked customer service for almost 20yrs at that point. I still feel kinda bad everytime i pass the restaurant.
aww! i think most humans have had a horrible day, and i truly give you grace and a pass for going thru a summer preggo~especially a super heat wave! I am forever grateful to the powers that be that all my kiddos were born in Jan & Feb so i didn’t have to be extra pregnant in the heat, now in my 40’s and having hormones going bananas i can barely cope, and go out of my way to check myself because i have worked with the public and don’t ever want to take my misery out on someone else! But please~ take the “preggo pass” and allow yourself to release the guilt, especially if you were just a bit crabby and didn’t ruin anyone else’s day in the process ❤
I’ve heard Britney is a Karen in training and Kyle for a male Karen.
I was that child having to apologize to everyone on behalf of my karen mother..... I cant even explain the shame.....
I’ve met 2 Karen’s in real life and they were so annoying. Ps I love this channel and keep doing what you are doing.
Honestly pit bulls are some of the most loving and precious dogs i have ever seen
My high school job was working at Dairy Queen and let me tell you I got some crazy stories. One time we had a girl order a blizzard inside, and came around to the window of the drive through to hand us an empty cup that the blizzard was in and said she did not like it, and wanted a refund. I could be rich if you knew how many people came up with empty wrappers or cups and said they did not like the food and asked for a refund. My sis was a waitress at a Stake house restaurant. There was this guy that came in with his family, and this order came up to $200. He told my sister that he did not like the food and he said he will not pay for it. My sister took notice that they all ate there food on the plate. So they asked for the manager and yup got a free meal that they all ate up. She said a lot these people are rich people not wanting to pay and tip. It’s a really fancy stake house that she used to work for, so sometimes tips would be really good or nothing.
My husband and I have had a lot of interactions with Karen/Darren's in the fod industry. One that stands out...
It's a Friday night around 11pm-12am. Our restaurant has a jukebox in the lobby that updates around 10pm. (This is important as certain artists/songs only become available after the update. They drop off at 6am.) A family comes in. Think three generations of people. A 10 top. Two in their 50s or so. Their grown kids, about 25-30s. And six kids between one-10.
My husband and I are both neurodivergent. Music helps us when we start to feel stressed. So, my husband walked over to the jukebox before the group orders. He picks a few songs. The jukebox isn't loud, as we have to hear orders called to us.
Well, Garth Brooks 'Friends in Low Places' starts to play. The "Tucker" and "Karen" start grumbling audibly. (The oldest two.) Karen is holding the youngest toddler. (Important to story.) Then, Metallica starts playing.
Tucker and Karen absolutely LOSE IT on my husband! They start screaming and cussing! "This is Devil music!"
My husband tells them it's always been available on the jukebox, which only plays corporate approved songs. They continue screaming at him, as I call our Division manager. My husband gets overwhelmed and walks away.
Tucker starts screaming in my face now. I'm 5'2". This is a large 6'+, 300 pound man, that's twice my age. So close to my face that I could tell you how many fillings he had. I tell him I am on the phone with my boss's boss and he's on the way. Along with the cops.
Tucker screams at me that I'm nothing but a dumb effing b**** that he has never seen anyone so r-slur. I'm still on the phone with my boss, so I ask him if he heard that. He says yes. Tucker is still leering at me and screeching. Karen is still holding the toddler and making a show of covering his ears from the "Devil music." I looked right into the man's face.
"Sir, you can call my 'stupid' all you want, but you sound real ignorant right now."
My manager snorted. Tucker looked like I had just hit "reset". Karen starts screeching!
"You little b****! You just called him a name!"
"Ma'am, I didn't call him any name. I said he was being ignorant. And you're saying this music is inappropriate, while screaming and cussing while holding a baby."
Now they both are screaming at me, as the cops pull up. Their kids and grandkids looked so embarrassed, but did nothing. Of course, they didn't stick around to talk to my manager and were oh so sweet to the police.
They went straight to our sister store, a mile away. They told the staff we were Satanists and were playing hard-core Death Metal loudly. That they had nicely asked us to turn it down, and we had both turned into howling demons. We had ripped panels off the equipment and threw it. That we cursed them and threatened them. That they were going to have us fired.
It's been two years. We're still there and they have never returned. Still have Metallica, Pantera, and Black Sabbath on the jukebox after 10pm.😊
(Also... we are absolutely the opposite of Satanists.)
You should make a series where you only talk about the good things people had in their professions. That would be so wholesome. ❤
I can say I grew up in a rough background where when I was younger I fought a lot. so now a days unless im really close to you, i don't like being touch. It sets off my fight or flight reaction. I'm still surprised some people don't understand that.
I saw this when I was merchandising in Walmart, not an actual employee. This 20's woman was looking at the product across the aisle from me. She selected one package and handed to her toddler that was sitting in the cart. The toddler instantly damaged (not destroyed, very usable) the package. The mother saw this and put that package back on the shelf and selected an identical one. I rolled my eyes and kept on working. Less than a minute and I still remember that a decade later.
I understand your opinion on not shaming or yelling at people who are ignorant about something bc yes, it doesn’t work and makes them angrier towards it, but in so many cases I don’t have the empathy left to try and educate bigots and oppressors who’ve had their whole lives to figure out how not to be shitty. The sentiment is nice, even hopeful, but too often victims and marginalized people are given the burden of explaining themselves to the ignorant and it just sucks.
Yeah as much as I'd love to be as nice as possible to everyone, it's hard to keep that act up when most of the time bigots don't even listen when you are nice. You could be the most calm and composed person having a conversation with someone who has bigoted views, and the other person will still think everyone like you is horrible and shouldn't be given rights. And yes, sometimes it DOES work, but it's not near enough as it should be.
@@CharlesWawa exactly. It’s not worth it, especially with people like racists or homophobes. If we can’t agree that certain subgroups of people are fundamentally human and deserve respect and rights then we’re not going to get anywhere.
Love your podcast so much❤❤❤
Omg I am so scared of being labeled a Karen as well!! Like so much to the point where I lowkey let a professor get away with what I think was ableism. I'm neurodivergent and this guy would NOT give me my accommodations at all! I ended up failing that class by literally 2 points bc of it. It took my mom, her coworkers (she works at the college I go to), all of my friends, the people at the Testing Center and her boss to convince me to go confront him about it. I ended up going to the Assistant Director of Accommodations (bc we're chill and I'm comfortable around him) and I literally cried in his office about everything that was going on. Bro was PISSED!!!!!!! He comforted me and as soon as we were done with our meeting, he all but hunted my professor down and talked to him. It was after that, that I was able to take my final (yes, it took all semester for this to happen) normally. All I needed was ONE accommodation from that professor and it was to take my exam in the Testing Center with my extra time. That's it. And I would schedule my appointments to take the exams *days* in advance. So it's not like this was a last minute thing. Anyways, turns out he was also the director for this class and made getting my accommodations over the summer miserable as well. Failed it again. Third time I took the class, he got replaced, and my new professor did everything she could to help me and I passed!! :D
I was so scared to talk to that first prof bc I didn't want to come off as a whiny Karen and tbh, I am STILL afraid to ask for my accommodations in fear of being annoying, sounding entitled, and/or being a Karen. Legally speaking, I know I am/was in the clear. But still............ngl, I still feel guilty about it even though I KNOW that I'm not the only student who had a problem with that guy
OMG!!!! Rebecca I’ve been wanting this collab for so long!! Rebecca Rodger and Sneerix!? Both of you are my favorite UA-camrs!! I know you don’t know that I wanted this, But still, THANK YOU!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Agree that there are some dog breeds that aren't for everyone. If you wonder why you often see dog breeds like huskies and german shepherds in shelters, it's because they are challenging breeds to care for and train (including dogs mixed with these breeds). I know dog trainers that wouldn't own a husky and wouldn't recommend them to most people. These are, of course, just a few examples. There are other breeds that aren't for everyone. One other example - there are people who get wolfdogs thinking they'll be great guard dogs. Wolves are EXTREMELY shy. Wolfdogs are the worst guard dogs. They also can have clashing instincts between their wolf and dog side, which can cause some unique behavioral problems. If you're not educated and have experience with wolfdogs, please don't get one. Roughly 80% of wolfdogs in the US are euthanized by the time they're 2-3 years old. So sad 😪 Do your research, please.
I’m a huge fan of both Rebecca and Snerixx and I feel like this is the colab we all needed!!
The homelessness thing is so real - I'm grateful and lucky to be 21 months clean, but when I was in active addiction I was homeless in the dead of winter, living in a tent in an abandoned building with three friends. Worst experience of my life, 20/10 do not recommend. And the addiction stemmed from being prescribed adderall and benzos for the better part of 16 years by my doctors, and when they cut me off, I went to street pharmacists. It wasn't an experience I'd wish on anyone, and like I said I'm so glad to be where I'm at now. But we were out there in 6 degree weather in two feet of snow, and there was NO room in the shelters. It was horrifying.
As a door dash driver, it is unbelievably scary how many small children walk up to my car to get whatever I may be delivering at the time their little foreheads barely above my car door, and I would NEVER enter a home. That kind of thing baffles me.
I work at the hospital and seriously that's so unacceptable that they made you wait WEEKS to see someone else or to get a call back. Nope.
The collab we needed ❤
Omg just loving this collab
Love the collab you two look like your having lots of fun! You think you could do a podcast talking about Disneyland workers? I'd love to see it!
Definitely!!