A moving story: leaving a wonky cottage

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  • Опубліковано 30 жов 2024

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  • @janehealy2272
    @janehealy2272 2 місяці тому +3

    What a lovely cottage!!!! So many memories and a very tranquil vibe from what was obviously a home filled with lots of love.Such and interesting video Jane well done x

  • @angiechapman9816
    @angiechapman9816 2 місяці тому +2

    What a lovely cottage, but those stairs, i was holding my breath as you was going down them. I'm 61 and started death cleaning in march. As i don't want my kids having to deal with mine and hubby's stuff. Good luck with the move.

  • @johnmelissaziech6207
    @johnmelissaziech6207 2 місяці тому +6

    Except for the steep stairs, it's a lovely cottage.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +2

      @@johnmelissaziech6207 I love it. Hopefully the new buyers will be happy there

  • @SharonGreen-gc3ym
    @SharonGreen-gc3ym 2 місяці тому +2

    Beautiful cottage, but yes downsizing is a task when parents get older I’ve been there and done it, your doing an excellent job 😊 hope the house move goes smoothly for your mum xx

  • @shelaghtillott189
    @shelaghtillott189 2 місяці тому +4

    Oh my goodness! I'm exhausted just watching this and thinking of all that you still have to do! Good luck and get some rest!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +2

      @@shelaghtillott189 I had a chilled Sunday and have called in the family to help this week. Group effort is required.

  • @elizabethpitt8404
    @elizabethpitt8404 2 місяці тому +2

    Those are scary stairs. Good luck with the move.

  • @cazee100
    @cazee100 2 місяці тому +7

    I can imagine what you’re going through so understand how your mum is struggling to let go of things. All of the memories attached to her cottage, her family and her husband must be making it very hard for her poor soul. She’s being very brave to make a sensible move now while she is able and it will, I’m sure, be beneficial for her - especially if/when she has her knees done. Well done for helping her and your daughters, I’m exhausted just hearing about it so understand you must be shattered. Stay safe and hope you enjoyed chillaxing on Sunday.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +1

      @@cazee100 thank you, I really have been taking it easy today

  • @rickyandtheothers5835
    @rickyandtheothers5835 2 місяці тому +2

    GORGEOUS cottage, love the kitchen floor 😊

  • @SharonGreen-gc3ym
    @SharonGreen-gc3ym 2 місяці тому

    Definitely have a rest up day 😊

  • @denisecarter5117
    @denisecarter5117 2 місяці тому +1

    You are doing it the right way. I thought it was best to get rid of it all before my mom paid movers but I wish we had let her. Then she would have seen how you can’t cram everything in a smaller house and I wouldn’t have been the enemy. She is gone now and all of her stuff but my MIL is 95 living in a crammed full house and basement. We will let her die first as long as she lives here hopefully to the end. My friend’s knees got so much better after she moved from her two story to a single floor house. I hope your mom’s will.

  • @marilynpease8782
    @marilynpease8782 2 місяці тому +1

    My heart goes out to you. Have gone through similar with my parents and my hubs parents. It’s a total wrench and exhausting. Take care and all good wishes to you.

  • @roslinney4285
    @roslinney4285 2 місяці тому +2

    Hardwork Jane it must be so tough for you. I do feel for you. Take care

  • @Diamondwater65
    @Diamondwater65 2 місяці тому

    That all looks extremely demanding on some many levels, Jane. You deserve a holiday! Beautiful cottage :-) Cant believe your mum has been navigating those stairs recently! My parents moved into a tiny retirement block a few years ago and try stay on top of the clutter, that said, they both have a penchant for 'bargains' (obviously in my DNA) and I think its starting to get a bit problematic again! I get messages telling me they've take bags to the charity shop and then ones saying what wonderful bargains they've found

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому

      @@Diamondwater65 my
      Mum is to going to do the same - I know it!

  • @lindastone9385
    @lindastone9385 2 місяці тому

    Having decluttered my mothers home as she was downsizing, I share your pain.
    I am now doing it for myself, as we ae hoping to downsize/move next year. Starting early. By doing a bit regularly, I am hoping fir less pain!!!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому

      @@lindastone9385 I did that when we moved and it helped lot. Good luck!

  • @lisaannsaikal8801
    @lisaannsaikal8801 2 місяці тому +4

    Oh Jane, I feel for you. My mother owned a 12 room home with a full sized basement and walk up attic. The ENTIRE structure was filled with furniture , etc...including my father's clothing and tools ( he had passed on 10 years before). She refused to downsize, even though my brothers and I begged her to. When she passed on, we were overwhelmed. We finally got to the point where we rented a HUGE dumpster and just chucked stuff out the window. It was awful. Good luck, dear.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +1

      @@lisaannsaikal8801 oh my word, that sounds so hard to deal with on top of your grief at losing your mum. I can’t imagine!

    • @unwaw
      @unwaw 2 місяці тому

      When you're 89 why you need Teddy bears for 😂😂

  • @muttersmenu2422
    @muttersmenu2422 2 місяці тому

    Throwing out memories is difficult, so good luck with the job 👍🇦🇺💐

  • @SharonSweet-e9u
    @SharonSweet-e9u 2 місяці тому +1

    Jane I can completely relate to this. Big decluttering going on at my elderly parents home. I've already started my decluttering at 52!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +1

      @@SharonSweet-e9u I can’t see me becoming a minimalist exactly but I’m definitely going to start scaling down too

    • @SharonSweet-e9u
      @SharonSweet-e9u 2 місяці тому

      @@ShoestringJane same here it'll never be minimalist but I won't be leaving the health hazard issues I've had to sort over the last couple of years

  • @pensivepensioner1244
    @pensivepensioner1244 2 місяці тому

    Oh gosh, Jane, I feel your pain 😢We did it a few years ago after mum and then father in law died. It was so draining both physically and emotionally. The stairs in your mum's cottage look really dangerous. My mum in laws old house had ones like those and I fell down them when I was 19 years old ! 😂 Luckily I broke the heel of my shoe and not a leg!
    Good luck, with the move ,
    Angie x

  • @leannejayne3545
    @leannejayne3545 2 місяці тому +3

    You’ve totally inspired me to start my own channel Jane, just wanted to say I’m grateful to you x

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +1

      @@leannejayne3545 ooh, good luck!

    • @leannejayne3545
      @leannejayne3545 2 місяці тому

      @@ShoestringJane Thank you! Bit scary ! X

    • @lilybee_
      @lilybee_ 2 місяці тому +1

      Make sure to let us know so we can follow you!

    • @leannejayne3545
      @leannejayne3545 2 місяці тому

      @@lilybee_that’s so kind, I posted 3 videos so far, so feel free to take a look ❤x

  • @teresamoore4126
    @teresamoore4126 2 місяці тому +1

    Oh Jane. I have tried to declutter my mother in laws wardrobes at her request but she wouldn't let anything go. She had a sweater with tags still on that is 30 years old, she wouldn't let it go. She had 27 tablecloths, she doesn't ever use tablecloths, she didn't get rid of 1. I know your pain. ❤

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +1

      @@teresamoore4126 gosh, that sounds frustrating!

    • @teresamoore4126
      @teresamoore4126 2 місяці тому

      @@ShoestringJane 👍❤️

  • @susanashton6608
    @susanashton6608 2 місяці тому +2

    You truly are a member of the "sandwich generation". I find it exhausting just listening to your vlog! I thought it was hard when we had to clear my parents 4-bedroom house after my father passed away, but I think we had it easy compared to you! It did make me vow though that I would never put my family through that and husband and I have downsized a lot as we are aging ourselves now. Good luck with all the packing, moving and unpacking. Sounds as though you need a holiday!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +1

      @@susanashton6608 that was two extra rooms you had! I never thought about it all before but it does make you think. We have a holiday booked for next month!

  • @mackerelcat6677
    @mackerelcat6677 2 місяці тому +1

    I cleaned up my mother's house twice in four years. She was never good about getting rid of stuff but began compulsively shopping and hoarding as she got older. It was a huge and expensive ordeal to get it safe for her to live in and then ready to sell after the second time. You have all my sympathies as a member of the "Been there, done that" club.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому

      @@mackerelcat6677 that sounds awful! At least my mum’s not hoarding newspapers and stuff, just glass and china

  • @traceyjane4288
    @traceyjane4288 2 місяці тому +2

    we are in our mid 50ts ad just moved to a bungalow for that reason of not having stairs plus i have a bad foot and some days i really struggled to get up and down ! your mums place is lovley x

  • @karencraig5916
    @karencraig5916 2 місяці тому

    What a sweet little place and the steps are a nightmare. I've started my own death cleaning and it's SO hard because of the memories. We have given away about 24 feet of books as well as small appliances we never use, about a third of our clothes. The list goes on and on! I feel for both of you.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому

      @@karencraig5916 wow! Good for you, though

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому

    Am going to buy a weekly lotto wash dishes and relax today

  • @kathwilliams9944
    @kathwilliams9944 2 місяці тому

    Another lovely video Jane . My mother passed away 4 years ago and l found it emotionally draining as well as physically . I still have boxes of stuff that l go through periodically but can't discard anything but l also dont want my family to have to go through the same . What a dillema . Take care and cherish every day wjth Mam 🎉😊

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому

      @@kathwilliams9944 it’s so difficult. 😳

  • @lilybee_
    @lilybee_ 2 місяці тому

    Your Mum's cottage is so cozy! I can see why you are so tired. I hope you find a day to rest and reload soon.
    We downsized and moved into our retirement home and still have too many things. I continue to declutter so our kids won't have to. I have a few boxes of pictures and keepsakes from my Mom that I need to go through. I'm going to get that done this week!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому +1

      @@lilybee_ I’m going to get my mum to take some of her photos out of frames and put them into albums. That’s a job for the new flat though. It’s nice to have photos but you can only look at so many 😀

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому

    Yes quite emotional

  • @jhodieking6172
    @jhodieking6172 2 місяці тому +1

    The cottage is beautiful Jane x

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому

    Lovely cottage

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому +1

    I am 56 and starting to declutter diwnsuze

  • @rena4220
    @rena4220 2 місяці тому

    Cute little cottage. I was wondering as you went up the stairs how the furniture would get out. My mom still lives at home, 5 bedroom, 2 story. We have gotten rid of some things, but still more. Including my dad's tools. And he passed over 20 years ago. Her knick knacks are stuffed into 2 China closets.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  2 місяці тому

      That’s the thing! If they are tucked away in closets, what’s the point of keeping them? Glad my mum doesn’t have five bedrooms 😮

  • @unwaw
    @unwaw 2 місяці тому

    I'm away in Armenia watching this 😊

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому

    Sending prays

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому +1

    Reality let's learn from our perantß not make same mistakes for our children

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому

    Moving is stressful

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому

    Sorry what you and your siblings went through to declutter mums house

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 2 місяці тому

    It's hard to do right thing to do