Brilliant conversation! I grew up with no hugging and little conversation from parents. I believe it was undoubtedly a multi generational neglect. I feel awkward doing so now but feel it is important to practice.
amazing , it's incredible how this is the same message of christianity on dying to our own selves and live a life of service towards God and our neighbors. I can testify how much lasting satisfaction I feel while being in the position of giving rather than receiving. Keep up up with the podcast Thomas, big love.
This was absolutely fantastic! Really helpful, insightful. THANK YOU so much, Thomas and TJ !!!!!! Thomas, I love your curious intelligence, nuance, sincerity, compassion, and the way you make ALL different types of guests on your show feel at ease. Thank you for addressing physical, emotional, and mental well-being on your videos !!!!
🔥🙏♥️ count you blessings, not your problems. My lastest mind hack I achieved to my last biggest frustration is now saying thank you to every green light i get when I am driving. What a change this has done for my well-being, I laugh at bad drivers now instead of swearing at them anymore.
Excellent. Just as AA’s co-founders understood, when one’s suffering can have meaning & then it gets shared, others can recover. It is in giving, (love & service) with gratitude & leading a principled life, that one receives. ODAAT. 🙏Happiness is a by-product of good living.
I tend to hug almost everyone (women) I know, even acquaintances. I noticed a lot of people don't hug anymore though. We genuinely need that non-romantic physical affection.
Superb underrated and key message, and tackles the no1 problem of this modern world constructed to exploit the dopamine system, causing all the fear, division and separation. To this point I figured out that while working out at home, between sets is very useful to calm down your breathing, getting into relaxation poses combined with it, and also petting your dog or cat. This way even a very hard workout doesn't ruin my nervous system and I can recover sooner and better. After the workout it's also very useful to dedicate 5-10 minutes to cool down, mentally as well. All the above apllies here as well, plus taking a relaxed walk too.
I shared this with Jason at Cog Hill Farm on UA-cam, so they understand the profoundly positive effect that channel is having on our community. They generate oxytocin in every moment, it seemingly radiates through the screen and speakers.
Oh man, this was exciting to see pop up in the feed! I really loved TJ's recent ep on the ali abdaal podcast, there was so much immediately actionable helpful info. I'm hype for another round!
True happiness is in your purpose - to steward your gifts and talents to the best of your ability to serve and love others. It's really cool to learn of the science in the purpose.
This is such a beautiful conversation with so much depth and profundity goes way beyond weight loss yet though still includes it. Thank you for this one. 🙏
A logical next step would be Attachment Theory, Polyvagal Theory and proper nervous system regulation which, from my personal point of view, is the true substrate for health and whatever one wants in life.
The Longer I watched this the more depressing it got for me. Mainly because I lack all of those connections and don't know or understand how to form them. By the end I was just feeling straight up anger at the guest. I should probably talk to a doctor or something.
You're not alone in this feeling. Definitely go talk to someone and know there are 1000's of other guys feeling the same kind of thing. Dont feel like there is something f'd up about just you. Hang in there
I was not raised with a family that spoke or hugged. It does make these experiences harder to find and nurture. Talking to a therapist could help. I started a book club. A big step for me, undoubtedly a silly little thing for some. But it seems an important step for many of us in the group.
8:41 so what im supposed to do? If i don't think the answer the conversation will end because nobody wants to talk to a wall and if i continue like that they will stop talking to me, as an introvert I've been in that situation many times
Get out of your comfort zone, make yourself vulnerable and eventually you’ll find the knowledge that your lacking, then you’ll have a better overall capability of understanding videos like these
Learn how to learn. This is where you start. Anyone can change if they put their mind to it. When the pain of staying the same exceeds the pain of change - you will change.
Did they talk about this? I'm taking these expensive reuteri probiotic pills with green bananas since that berg interview. I don't have a Yoghurt maker or a refrigerator -_-
@@friday6014 I don’t know. Didn’t listen to the whole interview. But I have been making this yogurt Dr.Berg mentioned with my yogurt maker. This yogurt is supposed to make oxytocin in your gut. But so far I haven’t noticed anything. I am on my 10th batch.
Too much dirty electric. Better running a EMF insulated copper wire directly from your bed to the ground outside but even then can pick up dirty electric if you're near pylons. Only way to know for sure is to test it yourself
We use earthing pads (daytime) and earthing half sheets at night. Our results are pain is eliminated and sleep improved. Recommend: watch The Grounded movie.
Got 10 huge today. I hug every one or hand shake and a shoulder bump. sorry for those who have a problem or dont live this way .yall must live in a city . we all huge around here.
Not sure shame & guilt is a reliable heuristic, especially with the exceptions you listed. A lot of shame & guilt is top down, from religious institutions or parents and is only there as an attempt to control us
The cruel irony is when "purpose" and other's "pleasures" conflict, such as being really skilled in analytics and discernment in the church sense. People absolutely love and adore chasing the crappiest theologies and pseudo-theological, post-modern novelties. When you have the skill to see through the deceptions, that's your contribution to the group which would make the group healthier, and thus your way to connect. No one wants to hear their pet ideas being shown to be absent from and contrary to the Bible (remember, I said in a church sense). So, they reject the connection. No, it's not how I approach or tone or whatever. It's that people want their dopamine more than they want their dopamine taken away. They have RE-defined the group as everyone who is on the same dopamine trip. I see the guest's theory, but it doesn't work in practice.
Sounds like you might need a new church or small group that's more like-minded, if you're having these kinds of conflicts. You need to learn as much as you think you have to educate, and you can't do that if you can't explore your understanding with others. Also, I do not believe rigid theology is what God wants from us. Romans 2:15 and Romans 14:5. I also think the inherited anthropomorphism of God (and the spiritual world in general) that made sense to primitive mankind fosters misplaced rigidity.
@@stephenr85 -- I believe that a rigid, singular, accurate theology is the truth AND that God expects Faith from us, as constituted by a certain small set of items within that rigid theology. This means that (still in my belief) where we err in theology outside that small set, He is gracious and merciful just as with forgiving other sins. So, a rigid theology AND a God who is merciful :D for where we miss it (after we have basic Faith in Jesus for the forgiveness of sins). I finally left that church after friends slowly saw & pointed out that I was being mentally and emotionally abused. One of the most confusing things was their self-contradictions, which were used to maintain social status over "one another." Now that I have recovered some, I sometimes feel foolish (ashamed, embarrassed) for having been confused or for when I would catch their prideful self-contradictions and rather than seeing through them, but questioned it WITHOUT JUST LEAVING. I still stumble with PTSD. Heck, if they knew that I deal with ADHD, they would have used it to justify the "Something's wrong with YOU," deflection-dodge they used when escaping culpability for their own actions. If they had known that I dealt with ADHD, it would have been fodder to claim that they never misbehaved. In reality, after I left, I started running across just how many, many people the pastor had screamed at in his office. When I was screamed at (two sentences) in March 2015, I never went back. His preaching was incredibly self-righteous, also shown in its effect on the congregation. H basically preached constant self-checking navel-gazing INSTEAD of faith in Jesus. If you *feel* far from God, then you must be sinning even if you don't know it and so need to examine yourself until you find it. (No, maybe, but you need to hear the Gospel for your encouragement, but he wouldn't do that. "You can preach it to yourself.") He had thrown "simul justis et piccator" completely out the window (sorry, look it up for the correct spelling). In his way of teaching from the pulpit, you have to make yourself good enough for God to keep on showing you love. That's completely pagan logic. Now, if you show him that bluntly, he'd deny it. The end point of his David & Goliath sermon was not how David prefigures Jesus (even genetically carrying Jesus) conquering sin, death, and the devil for us. Remember Jesus on the road to Emmaus showing them that all the OT points to Him? Well, instead of that, this guy preached an allegory that blasphemously puts YOU in David's place, saying that if you are trying hard enough (not defining what hard enough trying is), THEN God will help you conquer your allegorical Goliath Sins. If I do X, ...then I make God act???? That's witchcraft!! I just wanna get this off my chest.... I have heard no indicators of repentance from him. I ran into him at my new church. He retired 6 or so years ago and recently stopped attending the church he used to pastor. At the new church, I walked by while he talked to the new-church's pastor, pointing out people he knew. He saw me and I overhear, "...and [BlueSamuraiZero] was one of mine..." Like hell I was! Some weeks later, between services, I was chatting with another ex-old-church guy when old-pastor walked in behind me. He shook the other guy's hand. When he went to shake mine, I put my mug in my right hand and withdrew. He said something like, "Oh, is this a germ thing?" I said "I'm just not comfortable right now." That was TMI because it indicated how I'm feeling, something he can use against me, a hook into me. OOPS! He asked, "Oh, is this because ofvvv ......." slowing down the "of" to draw me into filling in the blank for him. This kind of speech is a manipulative technique to draw information out of the other person. Historically, his way is to fish for things to use against you. I was subject to it many, many times. Had he repented of his faux-humble attitude? I repeated, "Just not comfortable." His wife seemed to be trying to get him to move and I forget why I may have had to say "Just not comfortable," one more time, if I did. Pardon that fuzzy memory about if I spoke a 3rd time or only twice. My heart had started racing. As he started to walk away, he retorted, "Well, that's between you and the Lord then." (or "Jesus" instead of "the Lord.") This is an domineering technique that Christians use all the time. It may be theologically accurate, but the FUNCTION is to put the other person down while looking holy doing it. Nope, he hasn't repented. So what about confronting him, Matt 5? He's one of those who uses the one-on-one confrontation as a means of digging more into you INSTEAD of taking time to think through what you'd confront him on. I've heard him preach and teach enough, and seen it's effects in the congregation, to know that if he misbehaves while being confronted and like I described, then you'd need to come back privately again to confront the new misbehaviour that occurred during the previous confrontation. He never corrected those who believed that they couldn't be witness to a confrontation because they didn't see the initial event. The correction is that they are there to witness the confrontation itself, regardless of seeing the initial event or not. He can't be approached 1-on-1. That old church was so full of abuses that as a system across the more involved gradation of the congregation, the things that went on there matched narcissistic abuse. Before I left, I noticed how a lot of the most-invovled people also used the same thinking mechanisms that cult members and high-school bullies use. I'm so happy to be away from there. Thank you for the encouragement.
@@kevinhense the bible has many stories, some are poetry and songs, some are myths tales and parables, some are historical events some biographies some are genealogical and some are laws there's even satirical stories in the bible so your comment is indeed stupid.
@@kevinhense the bible has many stories, some are poetry and songs, some are myths tales and parables, some are historical events some biographies some are genealogical and some are laws there's even satirical stories in the bible so your comment is indeed stupid.
Love is not an emotion. It’s a state of being. We didn’t evolve. We were created by love. It may appear as it were evolution but clearly look at the earths landscape and tell me what doesn’t fit? Us.
Great info. Only critique is maybe keep opinions of human evolution beliefs out. Bit more neutral. It says in the Bible that God created humans to also be of service to others. God created us perfectly to be in his image.. Purpose is found in the word of God.
Bible also says the stars were created after the earth and that people lived for hundreds of years. The Bible is fake. Don't come to a science based channel spouting nonsense about a book you haven't read in totality.
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This is a very important conversation. I am 60. Married twice. Spent my whole life chasing that hit of dopamine. Happiness is elusive.
You need a trt
Brilliant conversation! I grew up with no hugging and little conversation from parents. I believe it was undoubtedly a multi generational neglect. I feel awkward doing so now but feel it is important to practice.
The concept of health in "The 23 Former Doctor Truths" book completely explains this. I wish I read it sooner
Don't buy this book!
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amazing , it's incredible how this is the same message of christianity on dying to our own selves and live a life of service towards God and our neighbors.
I can testify how much lasting satisfaction I feel while being in the position of giving rather than receiving.
Keep up up with the podcast Thomas, big love.
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This was absolutely fantastic! Really helpful, insightful. THANK YOU so much, Thomas and TJ !!!!!! Thomas, I love your curious intelligence, nuance, sincerity, compassion, and the way you make ALL different types of guests on your show feel at ease. Thank you for addressing physical, emotional, and mental well-being on your videos !!!!
🔥🙏♥️ count you blessings, not your problems. My lastest mind hack I achieved to my last biggest frustration is now saying thank you to every green light i get when I am driving. What a change this has done for my well-being, I laugh at bad drivers now instead of swearing at them anymore.
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Excellent. Just as AA’s co-founders understood, when one’s suffering can have meaning & then it gets shared, others can recover. It is in giving, (love & service) with gratitude & leading a principled life, that one receives. ODAAT. 🙏Happiness is a by-product of good living.
I tend to hug almost everyone (women) I know, even acquaintances. I noticed a lot of people don't hug anymore though. We genuinely need that non-romantic physical affection.
I need a hug. Can I have one? 🤗
There are people now that are paid to hug and snuggle with
Superb underrated and key message, and tackles the no1 problem of this modern world constructed to exploit the dopamine system, causing all the fear, division and separation.
To this point I figured out that while working out at home, between sets is very useful to calm down your breathing, getting into relaxation poses combined with it, and also petting your dog or cat. This way even a very hard workout doesn't ruin my nervous system and I can recover sooner and better. After the workout it's also very useful to dedicate 5-10 minutes to cool down, mentally as well. All the above apllies here as well, plus taking a relaxed walk too.
I shared this with Jason at Cog Hill Farm on UA-cam, so they understand the profoundly positive effect that channel is having on our community. They generate oxytocin in every moment, it seemingly radiates through the screen and speakers.
Count your many blessings, count them one by one!
Oh man, this was exciting to see pop up in the feed! I really loved TJ's recent ep on the ali abdaal podcast, there was so much immediately actionable helpful info. I'm hype for another round!
True happiness is in your purpose - to steward your gifts and talents to the best of your ability to serve and love others. It's really cool to learn of the science in the purpose.
One of best videos I listened to. Thanks Thomas for this guest.
Keep up these wonderful ‘podcasts’ Thomas!
Great interview, more like this please ;) 👍
This is such a beautiful conversation with so much depth and profundity goes way beyond weight loss yet though still includes it.
Thank you for this one. 🙏
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Great Video Thomas! Really! We are learning new stuff that no one is talking about ❤
you can hack oxytocin by having a bath... the warm water covers every inch of your body and it has the same effect as someone hugging you
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A logical next step would be Attachment Theory, Polyvagal Theory and proper nervous system regulation which, from my personal point of view, is the true substrate for health and whatever one wants in life.
Great job Thomas and Tj as this video was extremely imperative to my life
This was very encouraging ☺️
Thank you very much!
8:17 1.4 hugs a day is the average???
Sir i get 1.4 a year wtf, 5 a day to me is insane
Such is the strength of a man!
Get a dog
hi
I know right
Try getting a date nowadays it's almost impossible with female hypergamy a hug is literally once in a blue moon thing yo
Thank you…this is very important topic, probably the most important factor than the dopamine driven society we tend to live in.
I am surprised there wasn't a plug from Thomas for a oxytocin supplement here
Funny
@@ThomasDeLauerOfficial what Tomy, don't like the truth?
I think an Oxytocin supplement is called love, family, pets, good acts, paying it forward.
@@jonathanberry1111 until you become a target for the family court system industry
Awesome video 😊
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This was so good😊
Big Hug 🤗 thanks for this episode all focus seems to be on Dopamine and Serotonin these days very interesting
The Longer I watched this the more depressing it got for me. Mainly because I lack all of those connections and don't know or understand how to form them.
By the end I was just feeling straight up anger at the guest. I should probably talk to a doctor or something.
You're not alone in this feeling. Definitely go talk to someone and know there are 1000's of other guys feeling the same kind of thing. Dont feel like there is something f'd up about just you. Hang in there
Don’t give up. Keep fighting. You are not alone. ❤
I was not raised with a family that spoke or hugged. It does make these experiences harder to find and nurture. Talking to a therapist could help. I started a book club. A big step for me, undoubtedly a silly little thing for some. But it seems an important step for many of us in the group.
You need Jesus.
Look up Dr william davis and learn how to make L-reuteri yogurt - this yogurt boosts your oxytocin
8:41 so what im supposed to do? If i don't think the answer the conversation will end because nobody wants to talk to a wall and if i continue like that they will stop talking to me, as an introvert I've been in that situation many times
Get out of your comfort zone, make yourself vulnerable and eventually you’ll find the knowledge that your lacking, then you’ll have a better overall capability of understanding videos like these
@beethovensbigtoe what's the meaning of make yourself vulnerable
Learn how to learn. This is where you start. Anyone can change if they put their mind to it. When the pain of staying the same exceeds the pain of change - you will change.
@@Redranddd upon googling “how to make yourself vulnerable” you will discover a list of ways and what it means
just might a batch of yogurt with lactobacillus rueteri😞😔😐🙂😊😁😄😀😘
I am still waiting for the l.Reuteri yogurt to make me happy 😂
Did they talk about this? I'm taking these expensive reuteri probiotic pills with green bananas since that berg interview. I don't have a Yoghurt maker or a refrigerator -_-
I thought it was this specific bacteria that increases oxytocin and majority of us are lacking it due to antibiotics etc that basically wipe it out.
@@friday6014 I don’t know. Didn’t listen to the whole interview. But I have been making this yogurt Dr.Berg mentioned with my yogurt maker. This yogurt is supposed to make oxytocin in your gut. But so far I haven’t noticed anything. I am on my 10th batch.
@@anitacooke3069 It might work better for you going the other way. 🤔
Thoughts on grounding pads and effectiveness on reducing free radicals?
I wouldn't expect an answer
Nothing better than touching grass 1hr a day
Too much dirty electric. Better running a EMF insulated copper wire directly from your bed to the ground outside but even then can pick up dirty electric if you're near pylons. Only way to know for sure is to test it yourself
We use earthing pads (daytime) and earthing half sheets at night. Our results are pain is eliminated and sleep improved. Recommend: watch The Grounded movie.
I personally been using grounding mats for years they’re amazing my skin is clearer, I heal much faster from workouts and over feel waaay better
I have always thought of oxytocin as what lets milk down when lactating
Better title for this: "How to be". Fantastic.
Got 10 huge today. I hug every one or hand shake and a shoulder bump. sorry for those who have a problem or dont live this way .yall must live in a city . we all huge around here.
Not sure shame & guilt is a reliable heuristic, especially with the exceptions you listed. A lot of shame & guilt is top down, from religious institutions or parents and is only there as an attempt to control us
👏🏽🙌🏽
Can you buy oxytocin as a supplement.
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I cant understand the guest 😢
Interesting
Thomas, please work on your vocal fry. I believe since everyone is doing it, you subconsciously catch it, but it is terrible for your vocal cords.
Ignore "The 23 Former Doctor Truths" scam.
The cruel irony is when "purpose" and other's "pleasures" conflict, such as being really skilled in analytics and discernment in the church sense. People absolutely love and adore chasing the crappiest theologies and pseudo-theological, post-modern novelties. When you have the skill to see through the deceptions, that's your contribution to the group which would make the group healthier, and thus your way to connect. No one wants to hear their pet ideas being shown to be absent from and contrary to the Bible (remember, I said in a church sense). So, they reject the connection. No, it's not how I approach or tone or whatever. It's that people want their dopamine more than they want their dopamine taken away. They have RE-defined the group as everyone who is on the same dopamine trip. I see the guest's theory, but it doesn't work in practice.
Sounds like you might need a new church or small group that's more like-minded, if you're having these kinds of conflicts. You need to learn as much as you think you have to educate, and you can't do that if you can't explore your understanding with others.
Also, I do not believe rigid theology is what God wants from us.
Romans 2:15 and Romans 14:5.
I also think the inherited anthropomorphism of God (and the spiritual world in general) that made sense to primitive mankind fosters misplaced rigidity.
@@stephenr85 -- I believe that a rigid, singular, accurate theology is the truth AND that God expects Faith from us, as constituted by a certain small set of items within that rigid theology. This means that (still in my belief) where we err in theology outside that small set, He is gracious and merciful just as with forgiving other sins. So, a rigid theology AND a God who is merciful :D for where we miss it (after we have basic Faith in Jesus for the forgiveness of sins).
I finally left that church after friends slowly saw & pointed out that I was being mentally and emotionally abused. One of the most confusing things was their self-contradictions, which were used to maintain social status over "one another." Now that I have recovered some, I sometimes feel foolish (ashamed, embarrassed) for having been confused or for when I would catch their prideful self-contradictions and rather than seeing through them, but questioned it WITHOUT JUST LEAVING. I still stumble with PTSD. Heck, if they knew that I deal with ADHD, they would have used it to justify the "Something's wrong with YOU," deflection-dodge they used when escaping culpability for their own actions. If they had known that I dealt with ADHD, it would have been fodder to claim that they never misbehaved. In reality, after I left, I started running across just how many, many people the pastor had screamed at in his office. When I was screamed at (two sentences) in March 2015, I never went back. His preaching was incredibly self-righteous, also shown in its effect on the congregation. H basically preached constant self-checking navel-gazing INSTEAD of faith in Jesus. If you *feel* far from God, then you must be sinning even if you don't know it and so need to examine yourself until you find it. (No, maybe, but you need to hear the Gospel for your encouragement, but he wouldn't do that. "You can preach it to yourself.") He had thrown "simul justis et piccator" completely out the window (sorry, look it up for the correct spelling). In his way of teaching from the pulpit, you have to make yourself good enough for God to keep on showing you love. That's completely pagan logic. Now, if you show him that bluntly, he'd deny it. The end point of his David & Goliath sermon was not how David prefigures Jesus (even genetically carrying Jesus) conquering sin, death, and the devil for us. Remember Jesus on the road to Emmaus showing them that all the OT points to Him? Well, instead of that, this guy preached an allegory that blasphemously puts YOU in David's place, saying that if you are trying hard enough (not defining what hard enough trying is), THEN God will help you conquer your allegorical Goliath Sins. If I do X, ...then I make God act???? That's witchcraft!!
I just wanna get this off my chest....
I have heard no indicators of repentance from him. I ran into him at my new church. He retired 6 or so years ago and recently stopped attending the church he used to pastor. At the new church, I walked by while he talked to the new-church's pastor, pointing out people he knew. He saw me and I overhear, "...and [BlueSamuraiZero] was one of mine..." Like hell I was! Some weeks later, between services, I was chatting with another ex-old-church guy when old-pastor walked in behind me. He shook the other guy's hand. When he went to shake mine, I put my mug in my right hand and withdrew. He said something like, "Oh, is this a germ thing?" I said "I'm just not comfortable right now." That was TMI because it indicated how I'm feeling, something he can use against me, a hook into me. OOPS! He asked, "Oh, is this because ofvvv ......." slowing down the "of" to draw me into filling in the blank for him. This kind of speech is a manipulative technique to draw information out of the other person. Historically, his way is to fish for things to use against you. I was subject to it many, many times. Had he repented of his faux-humble attitude? I repeated, "Just not comfortable." His wife seemed to be trying to get him to move and I forget why I may have had to say "Just not comfortable," one more time, if I did. Pardon that fuzzy memory about if I spoke a 3rd time or only twice. My heart had started racing. As he started to walk away, he retorted, "Well, that's between you and the Lord then." (or "Jesus" instead of "the Lord.") This is an domineering technique that Christians use all the time. It may be theologically accurate, but the FUNCTION is to put the other person down while looking holy doing it. Nope, he hasn't repented.
So what about confronting him, Matt 5? He's one of those who uses the one-on-one confrontation as a means of digging more into you INSTEAD of taking time to think through what you'd confront him on. I've heard him preach and teach enough, and seen it's effects in the congregation, to know that if he misbehaves while being confronted and like I described, then you'd need to come back privately again to confront the new misbehaviour that occurred during the previous confrontation. He never corrected those who believed that they couldn't be witness to a confrontation because they didn't see the initial event. The correction is that they are there to witness the confrontation itself, regardless of seeing the initial event or not. He can't be approached 1-on-1. That old church was so full of abuses that as a system across the more involved gradation of the congregation, the things that went on there matched narcissistic abuse. Before I left, I noticed how a lot of the most-invovled people also used the same thinking mechanisms that cult members and high-school bullies use. I'm so happy to be away from there.
Thank you for the encouragement.
@@stephenr85 -- Short reply -- Thank you for the encouragement. I left there a long time ago and still deal with some PTSD from it.
does it looks like Thomas is dyeing his hair?
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We still need to enhance cortisol metabolism. High in the morning low at night. I think pairing licorice root with ashwaganda is the way
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The Bible speaks to this, it says, Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ!
That’s right! It sure does! 👍🏽
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@@kevinhense the bible has many stories, some are poetry and songs, some are myths tales and parables, some are historical events some biographies some are genealogical and some are laws there's even satirical stories in the bible so your comment is indeed stupid.
@@kevinhense the bible has many stories, some are poetry and songs, some are myths tales and parables, some are historical events some biographies some are genealogical and some are laws there's even satirical stories in the bible so your comment is indeed stupid.
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Does Thomas ever do more than cbd?!
Are you asking if hes 420 friendly lol
Its not as a neurtransmitter that dopamine has its most influencial role!
Oh, please. Do elaborate.
oxytocin
Love is not an emotion. It’s a state of being. We didn’t evolve. We were created by love. It may appear as it were evolution but clearly look at the earths landscape and tell me what doesn’t fit? Us.
Great info. Only critique is maybe keep opinions of human evolution beliefs out. Bit more neutral. It says in the Bible that God created humans to also be of service to others. God created us perfectly to be in his image.. Purpose is found in the word of God.
Bible also says the stars were created after the earth and that people lived for hundreds of years. The Bible is fake. Don't come to a science based channel spouting nonsense about a book you haven't read in totality.
Opinions? Or facts?
it takes a real genius to complain about science content on a science channel.
@@DerekDDuval That’s the point I was making.
@@mentaloveyt It’s not a science channel. It’s much more than that.
I doubt this guy have a real deep understanding why dopamine is still much more important than the oxytocin?