Thank you for the advice Kati I signed in before watching I do find the question topics triggering and overwhelming but also important and helpful interesting questions but also personal ❤❤
When I hit myself in hollow regions of the body to get out of sensory overload-related depersonalization, it helps because of the soothing vibrational rhythm felt in the spots I hit and also it brings me back into my body by helping provide an unignorable tactile signal throughout my body.
Omg I had to pause it. The fact you said you’re more interested in the motivation behind the self harm. Right there alone. Shows you truly do care and are amazing at what you do. I wish you could reach out to all therapist. The way you handle every story with compassion. The im sorry in the middle of reading someone’s thoughts and questions and not jst saying, “ hey self harm is bad you need to quit doing that” really because it’s a great way to fix things you should try it. Thts how I feel towards anyone saying quit it it’s bad. Well I’d love to, but….. It is all about the whys and where is it coming frm before it can be fixed. Which is why most of therapy is? Rt? Then why do you feel terrible if a therapist says well Thts not the answer stop doing tht. Vs ok it feels good at the moment, but after? You’re AMAZING that’s all I’ve gotta say. Thank you again
In one of my last therapy sessions we talked about something that made me dissociate and overwhelmed and then my therapist gave me a balance board, so i had to do the rest of the session balancing on that board and it immidiatly brought me back out of my dissociation. We tried a lot of things before, but nothing really worked. Maybe it helps someone to know a new skill to try.
In reference to question 3 about hugs. Thought I would add my practices for both when someone tries to hug and for hugging others in case it helps someone else get any ideas for themselves. I don’t like touch from most people these days, so when someone goes to hug me I take a step back and say “sorry I don’t do hugs”. Most of the time people are understanding with that. As for giving hugs, I have a habit of asking every time before hugging anyone (even friends I used to hug all the time) I would always say “Do you do hugs?” and wait for a reply. People that don’t do hugs I would ask if they would like an air hi five (you high five the air towards eachother) and most people are okay with that, it also makes people laugh and seems to ease their anxieties from having said no to a hug. I’ve noticed some friends over the years started doing that in their daily lives and they said it has been really helpful, and instead of asking for a hug when they ask if the person does hugs they said they noticed they don’t feel rejected as the person is rejecting the hug and not them - sorry if that isn’t worded right, couldn’t think of the right words to say what I meant lol).
Idk why this made me remember how my mom would be mean to me, save when I told her she couldn't treat me like that, she'd shout at me that she could treat me any way she wanted.
AKA & OTDM. Hello Kati I like your top and good to see you again only just watching this new AKA podcast always good to hear your soft calming Voice ❤❤
I am very curious about something you said. The bit about Tylenol helping depression. I would never use it because Tylenol doesn't even help me with headaches. However, I do know that doctors prescribe antidepressants for physical pain. Recently, my Gastroenterologist prescribed Amitriptyline for my stomach pain. I know it is a tricyclic antidepressant and does not affect serotonin, but I am already taking 2 SSRIs. Should I be concerned? Thank you.
Deep breathing, focusing, & imagery never seemed to help with grounding for me. (It does help with relaxing me to go to sleep, tho.) When I decided to quit smoking, I discovered that when a craving hit, I held a great amount of tension in my core area & almost stopped breathing. One day I just took off on a fast sprint until I became air hungry & had to stop to "catch my breath" for about a minute or so. I was surprised to find my core "released" & I was breathing again. It felt like my lungs actually "relaxed" & the craving left. Focusing on the air hunger seemed to bring me back to the present, & then I could do focusing exercises. Later on, I bought one of those "lung exercisers" athletes forcefully blow into to improve lung capacity for those times I couldn't just jump up & run off or do jumping jacks. This is now incorporated into my life for grounding when needed. Just want to tell you how much your podcasts have helped me. I thank you & appreciate the kindness & generosity you give to us out here..
I can't touch people, my finger always stops 1 or 2 cm from the other person. I have ASD, but autism doesn't explain everything. I grew up in a toxic family, we rarely touched each other, not even to say hello or good night (my dad said my nose was greasy like a pig, my mother said I was too heavy so she might not hug my little brother after, when I just wanted a little hug or kiss before going to bed.) My mother often told me she didn't like kisses when I wanted one, but she did it anyway, saying it would be one day less in purgatory for her. Having EDS I have proprioceptive problems, sometimes I don't feel my skin. So I need to be held strongly, when I get anxious, depersonalized derealized, or having a meltdown. I don't feel alive at all. I'm 55, still waiting for that big hug. I found a way to learn to touch people. When I had my own house, I adopted a cat (my parents don't like animals). She liked cuddles and made her nap upon my chest. I learned to say lovely words to her (she died at 14 , in 2011). She was amazing. I still can't say sweet words, in French (I'm Belgian) nor in English. My therapist made a few times her hand on my spine to soothe me, like a baby needing to be held, when I had crisis,hurting myself, struggling to avoid suicide or to fall in psychosis. She saved my life and I 'm not psychotic. Sometimes all my body, all my skin hurts from the void. I'm in therapy (my former therapist had retired), he helps a lot. Thank you Kati for talking about ... anything.
#katifaq Hi Kati. Is there such as thing as too much EMDR? Can you do multiple sessions in a day? I have repressed memories from when my grandma died 20 years ago, and in our last session I came to the conclusion its affecting my anxiety and mood. She wants to try this and said we need to do this in her office. Problem is she is an hour and a half away, and I am trying to make this work with my full time job. Any suggestions? Would it be shitty of me to ask her if she is available on the weekends?
I don't understand why we're using "addiction" to describe so many behaviors that are self-destructive and chronic, but have better clinical explanations. Gambling and cutting? Why are we using this term? Who does it help? What more accurate language could better describe these behaviors? Seems a little sloppy, Kati
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Q5 - 48:56
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Q8 - 1:04:22
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I could access it without signing in Kati, I just had to confirm a viewer discretion warning x
@@Mary-mh3zl you must be signed in because otherwise it wouldn’t let you comment?
Thank you for the advice Kati I signed in before watching I do find the question topics triggering and overwhelming but also important and helpful interesting questions but also personal ❤❤
When I hit myself in hollow regions of the body to get out of sensory overload-related depersonalization, it helps because of the soothing vibrational rhythm felt in the spots I hit and also it brings me back into my body by helping provide an unignorable tactile signal throughout my body.
Omg I had to pause it. The fact you said you’re more interested in the motivation behind the self harm. Right there alone. Shows you truly do care and are amazing at what you do. I wish you could reach out to all therapist. The way you handle every story with compassion. The im sorry in the middle of reading someone’s thoughts and questions and not jst saying, “ hey self harm is bad you need to quit doing that” really because it’s a great way to fix things you should try it. Thts how I feel towards anyone saying quit it it’s bad. Well I’d love to, but….. It is all about the whys and where is it coming frm before it can be fixed. Which is why most of therapy is? Rt? Then why do you feel terrible if a therapist says well Thts not the answer stop doing tht. Vs ok it feels good at the moment, but after? You’re AMAZING that’s all I’ve gotta say. Thank you again
Thanks Kati, always good to listen at this podcast
In one of my last therapy sessions we talked about something that made me dissociate and overwhelmed and then my therapist gave me a balance board, so i had to do the rest of the session balancing on that board and it immidiatly brought me back out of my dissociation. We tried a lot of things before, but nothing really worked. Maybe it helps someone to know a new skill to try.
Thank you for this episode and all you do Kati!!! ❤❤
I REALLY appreciate you answering my question Kati - number 5. Xxx
In reference to question 3 about hugs.
Thought I would add my practices for both when someone tries to hug and for hugging others in case it helps someone else get any ideas for themselves.
I don’t like touch from most people these days, so when someone goes to hug me I take a step back and say “sorry I don’t do hugs”. Most of the time people are understanding with that. As for giving hugs, I have a habit of asking every time before hugging anyone (even friends I used to hug all the time) I would always say “Do you do hugs?” and wait for a reply. People that don’t do hugs I would ask if they would like an air hi five (you high five the air towards eachother) and most people are okay with that, it also makes people laugh and seems to ease their anxieties from having said no to a hug. I’ve noticed some friends over the years started doing that in their daily lives and they said it has been really helpful, and instead of asking for a hug when they ask if the person does hugs they said they noticed they don’t feel rejected as the person is rejecting the hug and not them - sorry if that isn’t worded right, couldn’t think of the right words to say what I meant lol).
Idk why this made me remember how my mom would be mean to me, save when I told her she couldn't treat me like that, she'd shout at me that she could treat me any way she wanted.
Thanks Katie
Very Helpful 👍
Thank you 😊😢❤
Love the hi five 😆💜💜💜. Also love how human are you in this video.
For me it would give me a rush/euphoric kind of high first and then calm me down, then I would hate myself and feel guilty
Same.
AKA & OTDM. Hello Kati I like your top and good to see you again only just watching this new AKA podcast always good to hear your soft calming Voice ❤❤
Thank you so much for this 💖
after i heard the answer for the question number 4 i felt hopeless
I am very curious about something you said. The bit about Tylenol helping depression. I would never use it because Tylenol doesn't even help me with headaches. However, I do know that doctors prescribe antidepressants for physical pain. Recently, my Gastroenterologist prescribed Amitriptyline for my stomach pain. I know it is a tricyclic antidepressant and does not affect serotonin, but I am already taking 2 SSRIs. Should I be concerned? Thank you.
Deep breathing, focusing, & imagery never seemed to help with grounding for me. (It does help with relaxing me to go to sleep, tho.)
When I decided to quit smoking, I discovered that when a craving hit, I held a great amount of tension in my core area & almost stopped breathing. One day I just took off on a fast sprint until I became air hungry & had to stop to "catch my breath" for about a minute or so. I was surprised to find my core "released" & I was breathing again. It felt like my lungs actually "relaxed" & the craving left. Focusing on the air hunger seemed to bring me back to the present, & then I could do focusing exercises. Later on, I bought one of those "lung exercisers" athletes forcefully blow into to improve lung capacity for those times I couldn't just jump up & run off or do jumping jacks. This is now incorporated into my life for grounding when needed.
Just want to tell you how much your podcasts have helped me. I thank you & appreciate the kindness & generosity you give to us out here..
this said "may be inappropriate for some viewers" and "suicide" warnings when i was about to wtach the video. the first time ever
Yes, UA-cam has deemed it mature content and has warning on it.
I can't touch people, my finger always stops 1 or 2 cm from the other person. I have ASD, but autism doesn't explain everything. I grew up in a toxic family, we rarely touched each other, not even to say hello or good night (my dad said my nose was greasy like a pig, my mother said I was too heavy so she might not hug my little brother after, when I just wanted a little hug or kiss before going to bed.) My mother often told me she didn't like kisses when I wanted one, but she did it anyway, saying it would be one day less in purgatory for her.
Having EDS I have proprioceptive problems, sometimes I don't feel my skin. So I need to be held strongly, when I get anxious, depersonalized derealized, or having a meltdown. I don't feel alive at all. I'm 55, still waiting for that big hug.
I found a way to learn to touch people. When I had my own house, I adopted a cat (my parents don't like animals). She liked cuddles and made her nap upon my chest. I learned to say lovely words to her (she died at 14 , in 2011). She was amazing. I still can't say sweet words, in French (I'm Belgian) nor in English.
My therapist made a few times her hand on my spine to soothe me, like a baby needing to be held, when I had crisis,hurting myself, struggling to avoid suicide or to fall in psychosis. She saved my life and I 'm not psychotic.
Sometimes all my body, all my skin hurts from the void.
I'm in therapy (my former therapist had retired), he helps a lot.
Thank you Kati for talking about ... anything.
Hello people hope you are getting though everyday and night the best you can love care and support to you all though your mental health struggles ❤❤
#katifaq Hi Kati. Is there such as thing as too much EMDR? Can you do multiple sessions in a day? I have repressed memories from when my grandma died 20 years ago, and in our last session I came to the conclusion its affecting my anxiety and mood. She wants to try this and said we need to do this in her office. Problem is she is an hour and a half away, and I am trying to make this work with my full time job. Any suggestions? Would it be shitty of me to ask her if she is available on the weekends?
This episode was literally made for me but I'm scared in case it might trigger me :')
Kati Morton.hello 👋
I don't understand why we're using "addiction" to describe so many behaviors that are self-destructive and chronic, but have better clinical explanations. Gambling and cutting? Why are we using this term? Who does it help? What more accurate language could better describe these behaviors? Seems a little sloppy, Kati
as someone who cuts, it is very addictive :(
what? like doing drugs? yeah. idk