JULIE WHITEHEAD - The Sex-Trafficked Mother Next Door Pt. 1 || Consider Before Consuming Podcast
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- Опубліковано 1 січ 2024
- Trigger Warning: This video interview includes frank, explicit, discussions about abuse, sexual abuse, rape, sex trafficking, and suicide ideation that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.
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Julie Whitehead is a survivor of many years of abuse and sex trafficking. As a survivor, Julie bravely shares her story in her book Shadowed: How I Became the Sex Trafficked Mother Next Door. She also serves on a survivor advisory board for the Malouf Foundation.
In part 1 of our interview with Julie, she shares about the child sexual abuse she experienced at home, as well as the emotional and psychological abuse she endured by her husband in their 12-year marriage before meeting the man who would traffick her.
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People who have decent lives just don’t imagine what some of us go through. Thank you for sharing.
I had a decent life growing up - but then decided to be a cop and after years of that seeing what evil there is in the world I really saw how naive the rest of society is to the horrors that humans do to each other.
I'm so sorry you were let down David by people who should have protected you. Know you deserved better and will be rewarded. Jesus loves you so much
Franky we don't give a damn.
I had a decent life but I make a point to listen and learn from others experiences. I had a niece and nephew SAd and its had lifelong impact. There is no place in society for these predators and victims NEED to be heard
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She was married to the cruelest, most sadistic human being I've ever heard of. How was he even possible? I don't see how she survived such a life.
and she decides to have not one, two, but THREE children with a known monster
Good point. I hope none of them turn out to be monsters.@@yeetnama9094
She chose him, when is any women going to held accountable for their decisions?
@@tomthumb5445 He was abusive, controlling, manipulative, and she was terrified to leave. terrified for her life. you probably already know that though and just have some insecurity issues that made you need to say ignorant things online in order to get off or something. and that's just sad tom
@@tomthumb5445she was also mentally traumatized and YOUNG and naive while being abused by two overbearing controlling monsters… and you expect HER to have been able to make a smart, sound, rational decision? Please do explain how that makes any sense…
I’ve read comments blaming Julie for “choosing” this man to marry. What they don’t realize is that many girls are taught that they are, “ruined” if they allow a boy/man to have sex with them prior to marriage. When she said, “I just wanted to be a good girl.” It ripped my heart out, as I too came from a very conservative home where having sexual relationships prior to marriage made one unworthy to be married.! “You are now ruined and no one else will ever want you!!” This young woman expressed exactly that! She had to marry him because she had been giving herself to him. Please be kind… if you don’t understand this mindset be thankful and don’t judge those who have lived it… she also talked about how those in their “ community “ would look down on him if she told they had participated in premarital sex. Again, all of this points to her naivety and being brought up in a very male dominated religious sect where girls are property.
Yes. One correction. She allowed him to take her out of obligation.
A sign of our toxic culture?
Her sweet little voice. It’s so innocent and endearing. Precious.
Voices like hers is a red flag that they were abused as a child. When you're abused as a child, your voice sometimes gets stuck at that age.
It’s called arrested development. Liking women who sound childlike could be a sign you were groomed as well.
@@christopherbristow2629sounds like Britney Spears
@@christopherbristow2629it was a red flag to me that it’s not part of normal development… a woman of her age would typically have a different sounding voice.
Yes, she's stuck in perpetual child hood, it's so sad.
The lesson is that women, GIRLS need to collectively start to speak up. More awareness 🙏🏻
No, the lesson is that we men should do better
@@alexts94 that too, of course.
The lesson is that there are millions of BOYS that are trafficked and abused just like girls so acting like it’s one or the other is naive and ridiculous. And nearly every time you have a man carrying out abuse there are WOMEN that know about it and either keep quiet or even help get more victims. Humans are evil, stop acting like one gender is made up of victims when reality proves that’s just not true.
More awareness? LOL That is all there is.
@@tomthumb5445 what are you trying to say TOM?
Her father needs to be charged as well. So so sad and so many wounds never dealt with results in abuse and coping addictions. Bless her and her family!!
Her story in the beginning, when he kicked her while they were in bed, happened to me as well. He kicked me with all his might, I pretended it didn’t hurt because it would have gotten worse. I left the next morning and never went back. Best decision of my life.
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Thanks for sharing your story. We are so sorry for the hurt you experienced and hope that you've been able to find the healing you need.
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I'm proud of you I had a monster step Dad who beat my Mom and I finally stood up to him. I was always on my bike in my teen years just so I didn't have to be home I loved my Mom but hated Jim!!
At dinner all the food had to be by him my Mom served him first you should have seen the look's he gave me because I loved mixing corn with my mashed potatoes and eat them with a spoon lol when I drove he made me record the miles at the gas station the price for gas everything.
The day my Mom found out he was cheating on her was the best day we packed his shit and he was gone the one day I stood up to him he chased me upstairs I shut and locked my door he threw his fist threw the door and my Mom said if you lay a finger on me I will have Steve kill you my real Dad who cheated on my Mom and cheated on his second wife to the end of his life that's another story in itself.
So reading your story and all these stories people don't understand until they lived it I have stories that would leave your mouth hanging well Jim died last year and he was judged by my Father in Heaven and I know God took care of it 😉
Thank you so much for speaking up about the abuse you experienced. Your voice is so important in these awful, exploitive times.
As soon as I heard her, I saw that little girl being treated so awfully. I wish you healing and peace. Thanks for sharing your story.
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Thanks to the interviewer for praising her at the end.
I agree
❤ thank you for being brave enough to share your story.
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Julie, it breaks my heart to hear your story. And if it does for me, I know it pains our Father in Heaven. He sees, knows, & loves you. I sincerely hope that the Savior is part of your recovery. God bless you & your children!
Tecumseha, It does not seem that there was any Christian spirituality involved in her life.
🙏🏻Julie really has incredible strength. INCREDIBLE
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Thank you for sharing your storey Julie. You and so strong and such a ray of sunshine. Big love and hugs ❤
The whole idea that she was appalled at her husbands pedophilac misogynistic behavior afraid about her “non- virgin” status with him at 16 is so bizarre considering she was forced to participate in that behavior since birth with her own pedoohile rapist father. It goes to show you the personality splitting and compartmentalization that goes on for anyone and especially children being sexual abused. The patterns continue and make zero sense but it’s a survival mechanism that exacerbates the continuation of the cycle of abuse.
Honestly I think we as a society need to hold pedophiles and abusers much more accountable with VERY harsh punishments, but
ALSO: women need to be held to a higher standard about whom they choose to procreate with.
The CHILDREN in this story are basically an afterthought as we all fall over ourselves feeling pity for the grown woman who DID make active choices to expose vulnerable children to an abusive monster.
At some point children need to be considered here in this whole culture of abusers/victims/domestic violence conversations
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If I were her child, it would be extremely difficult to forgive her.
@@yeetnama9094Both psychology and Christian spirituality have now matured to be more able to provide specialized help. Not all churches, this requires specialized professional treatment. However, the "victims" need to take responsibility for themselves.
@@yeetnama9094Abusers often get women pregnant to make it harder for them to leave.
Thanks for being so brave! You are poised and authentic. You deserve so much goodness and love in your life.
Keep fighting for love! 💛
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Sorry you went through that
This is so sad, I'm so sorry you experienced that 😢
I'm going to guess that she grew up Morman. There are so many examples of things that are sick & wrong within this community. Chad Daybell, Lori vallow, Rube Franke, Jody Hildebrand....all the FLDS members that abuse women & children. This church needs to step up and start telling their congregation that these things are not ok.
Agree. Listening to her about her community, I'm sure it's mormon.
Also all the sex child abuse and the hiding of it by the Catholic Church.
Crime happens with people of every religion. Even though church involvement teaches the ten commandments, but people choose to follow or not. It's called free agency.
Thank you!
a lot of times a baby voice is due to the trauma from the father from a young age, it's like they get stuck in that toddler stage voice wise
So very sad! I wouldn't be surprised. So much scaring.
Julie, You are very Strong Woman! Take care!
How does this man still have access to these children!?
It’s astounding any judge would give him any access to those kids
Wtf🙈omg ..these poor kids 😪🤮👹💩...🙀
EXACTLY.
35:04 he admits he’s attracted to babies but she stays with him horrific and endangering
Why are the kids allowed to visit their father?
I am pretty sure that her mother knew what her husband was doing
They ALWAYS know… and if they don’t know everything it’s because they intentionally avoid hearing or seeing it all because then they’ll have to do something about it or feel guilty.
(Disclaimer: This is in no way meant as justification of evil things people had their own choice in. But the better we understand something, the more chance we have to defeat it.)
The sad reality is they often went through similar horrors in their life and developed this behavior as a coping mechanism for their suffering. At the same time they'd been allowed very few opportunity to develop themselves in a healthy way.
To make things worse, some victims cope with this trauma by maximizing their control over others, developing into an unstoppable "hunger" for it, lacking the ability or strength to find others ways to get out of the trap they keep digging deeper instead.
Some people manage to break this vicious circle, but many times it's passed from one generation to the other.
@@B0K1T0Yes, victims need to find ways to mature and take responsibility, such as using psychology and possibly some type of spirituality. This is possible now, more so than ever before because there are resources. It is a matter of "victims" finding ways to take responsibility for themselves because they do not realize they and their children were dehumanized.
@Charity-vm4bt Exactly! Dehumanized! You hit the nail on the head.
Pretty sure the dad is the guilty party here.
Nothing but a dangerous mind game and terrible stress. It’s sad how common these situations are. I had an abusive boyfriend 2010 to 2015.
You are very courageous
Thank you Movement for helping Others. In Times from Onlyfans and Netflix Shows with erotic Elements with underage Actors we need People like you to speaking Sense and Logic. #RealLove
So glad for her courage
JoshC-end abortion-fear God, great title! I agree with your screen name.
Very brave to share her story. It demonstrates well how hard it is to get out of the abuse cycle. She is incredibly strong 💚
She demonstrated that there is always hope and you are never alone! Thanks for sharing 💛
Thank you Julie and fight the new drug for this. #Awareness
Hopefully her dad is in jail?
My mom dated a real weirdo like this and the weirdest thing is he works in HR so he should know sexual harassment is illegal but apparently he lives in a fantasy world where most women aren't just revolted by him.
How the hell did he get any right to see those kids!!!??
Exactly, and I doubt if he even cares about them.sounds like a bad environment for them
So based on the fact that her brother came home from a mission, I am assuming that the LDS Church is involved here- not at all surprised about any of the sexual perversion
& sexual abuse
Your wrong. The church is very strict on sexual promiscuity and especially pedophilia. Your getting confused with the flds.
Psycho sexuality of different experiences needs to be discussed more.
Me as a daddy issues survivor I call it…
I’ve been and still on a journey on understanding this.
I’m a luckier one.
Many live in cycles not understanding.
Is there a way to know the name of this Eric guy, the Peruvian trafficker? I'm Peruvian and I would like to know who this man is, so we can be safe and be careful here in our country 😞🙏
I'm so sorry that Julie had to go through this. It's unbelievable how much the victims have to suffer, not only the abuse from their perpetrators, but also the lack of interest from other people who could've done something to help...
important her voice sounds so young
Virginia, arrested development.
Important?? How so
@@stephaniepiazzese2602because it's important. Hello 👋
When I hear these stories, I stop and think, "what has happened in my life that I was indoctrinated to see as normal but other people would know is not something I should go through?"
Umm what??
Interesting as a Mormon family that all this happened behind closed doors.
Very brave indeed ❤
So sorry for what you’ve been through😢💔….reminds me of how R. Kelly treated all of the young girls he imprisoned in his house👿.
Julie, as I listen to your story and see your pure, angelic soul, my heart aches for what you've gone through. You are beautiful inside and out. My instinct is to grab you up and hug you and tell you that you are loved and deserving of happiness. I am sending you all of my love! I was married to a narcissist, but I did not endure anything as bad as what you did. God bless you! ❤❤❤
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It's always a chore, unfortunately if you're in a relationship with a man, at some point he always becomes a chore, just another child to take care of. People who experience something better are probably being cheated on and are blissfully unaware
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Insane story
Frankly we don't give a damn.
Where is part 2?
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I send you a big hugh ..
We are allways the victim.
People do not grasp that and think WE are toxic and so on.
You are 100% correct.
Those people see it and are picking you, so all your life you get in shite situations.
There was even a study about it.
Selfish to have children to have a ‘friend’ knowing she was bringing them into a toxic lifestyle that wasn’t right. Sorry love but use your brain!!!
She continued the cycle of abuse by having kids! Poor kids!
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This is why we must continue to work on progress and cannot go backwards please vote blue everybody
I'd like to have seen those videos used against her abuser. And what about her father who ruined her?
What about her daughter? What all happened when she couldn't protect her?
is that stock holm syndrom what she felt for her husband richard? also was she manipulated into having low self esteem and to seek affirmation by him? thats so sick and evil.
I don’t think he had to manipulate her into having low self-esteem and seeking affirmation from a man. Her father did that for him when she was a toddler. Unless one has survived that kind of early abuse, it’s difficult to understand just how profound the damage is.
Damn I feel so bad for her I’m glad she made it out
There is always hope!
That's why people have too many kids to give the mother company.
This is y children get repeatedly abused, others who could have helped don't, but oh my does God let them know what they did?Onlty they can examine their countious, or the lack of one, surely that type of guilt will eventually eat them up.
Just skip to the 2nd part
God bless you and your family. 😢such an evil person not even human. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Is Richard in prison??
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She sounds like a kid
The only thing that wipes away our past, hurt, and shame, is turning to Jesus Christ. The Bible says that He took our place on the cross and that if we turn and repent to Jesus and believe in Him, we will be saved.
@@k8lynmaethank you, I do not appreciate how condescending and pushy too many Christians are.
just stop…..
True. Thank you for speaking up.
Yes the only way to eternal life is Jesus 🙏
@@ediblelipscrubs9466sometimes someone needs to be pushy hell is real anyone that is old enough to know better will go there if they don't know Jesus