Zolita - Grown Up (Official Music Video)
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- "Grown Up" is about a relationship I had when I was younger that I was only able to recently process and fully understand now that I’m an adult. A situation sadly so many girls (and boys) can relate to. I just hope that by sharing my story and its nuances, others that have experienced something similar will feel seen and not alone.
This video is comprised of home videos from my childhood, and footage from when I moved to New York City in my late teens - when the situation happened. Looking back on that time, I might have thought I was so grown up and independent, but I was more like the little kid in the videos.
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LYRICS
Twenty candles on the cake
Yellow cabs and vintage gowns
I could've used a friend
When you came around
Watched me lose my world
So you gave me yours
Said nothing's gonna hurt you now
Kissed me and you said I was so mature
Thought I had it figured out
Made me feel so grown up, grown up
Where were all the grown ups, growing up
Now that I'm a grown up, grown up
I don't get how you were having fun
I was way too young
New city all alone
My parents broke our home
Thought I was so independent
Rewrite the story every time I tell it
I was just a kid
Couldn't even drink
Younger than your son is now
Does it make you sick
Did you really think I'd never say the words out loud
Thought I wouldn't find you out
Made me feel so grown up, grown up
Where were all the grown ups, growing up
Now that I'm a grown up, grown up
I don't get how you were having fun
I was way too young
How could you be having fun
I was way too young
How could you be having fun
I was way too young
You were not a white knight
You were just a man
Now I'm finally old enough
To fucking understand
I wasn't an old soul
I was just a kid
How do you sleep at night
Knowing what you did
Made me feel so grown up, grown up
Where were all the grown ups, growing up
Now that I'm a grown up, grown up
I don't get how you were having fun
I was way too young
Watched me lose my world
So you gave me yours
Said nothing's gonna hurt you now
Now that I'm a grown up, grown up
I don't get how you were having fun
I was way too young
#Zolita
Our children deserve BETTER. No tolerance for predators.
Thank you for talking about this. Especially when abuse is in the “grey zone”, where it is not apparent for everyone that it is completely wrong, it is so hard to talk about. My guitar teacher that I had since I was 14 started grooming me. When I got 18 he immediately moved to becoming sexual with me. He never broke a law. I never said no. But he was twice my age. I felt honoured in a way that I was an “old soul” for him and felt so “grown up”. My parents didnt intervene, they liked him. I never wanted sex, but my mom told me that I would have to have it when I wanted to have kids one day. I felt under pressure to comply with expectations. Now, many years later, I am out and proud as a lesbian and have a girlfriend! ❤
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry that happened. We really need to have NO tolerance for predators in our communities regardless of their affiliation or how well we know (we think) we know them.
Oh my gosh, your mum!!!
I'm so sorry to read this and so angry about it!! 😡😡😡😡😡
But I'm happy that you now are healed and have what you deserve, a los of love from yourself and youe GF ❤❤
Воу,посылаю лучи добра и крепкие объятия❤
Рада,что у вас всё хорошо сейчас
So proud of you to say this, crazy cause I'm also a lesbian and happily with a girlfriend. It's sad majority of us are living the same lives ♥️♥️🫂🫂
I meant about the grooming
Attendance check!!! 🥺🤧😭
we are so proud of you. praying for your healing.
Lieve Zoilta. Wel doen.
going from the small town scandal music video straight to this one is possibly the biggest whiplash i have ever experienced.
YES
im so aware this songs gonna make me cry 🫂 the child in me thanks u for writing this song
This reminds me of a part of my poem Zoe that I wrote a long time ago…”the words were so easy to hear and to say and my innocence was lost along the way”. No one has the right to take your innocence.💗
My name is Zoë 🥺
I feel every single word you're singing down to my core, especially 'where are all the grown ups growing up' - I was SA'd by my aunts bf at age 3 with my extended family in the same damn room, so yeah where were all the grown ups? I had to grow up to protect myself. I'm in tears. Sending you so many good, loving, and healing vibes. 😭
aww i’m so sorry (hugs) your so amazing for sharing that i’m here as a friend if you need me 💕
@@colemaxwell34 Thank you!!
🥺😢🫂💗💞
I'm so sorry to read this, sending lots of love to you. You deserved better❤
@@ChrissiFCA Thank you so much, you're too kind!
Not many people would have the strength to stand up and face something so deep like this. Thank you for still being here with us. Entertaining us, teaching us. We appreciate you and your music immensely. ❤️ So proud of you
Thank you Zolita, for saying in a song what I couldn't say in person. Congratulations 🎉
Crying my eyes out while screaming the lyrics of this song rn
Even when I saw just a chorus part on the Instagram I got goosebumps and tears because of all the bad memories coming back. Later I thought I would be mentally prepared for this song coming out, though I’M DEFINITELY NOT
It’s breaking my heart over and over again and I’m getting angry understanding that such an experience is sadly too relatable for too many young people. I hope all of us will find healing one day ❤️🩹
Please, don’t be afraid to talk aloud about this shіt, all of those grown up аsshоlеs did this only because they feel their complete impunity!!!
Thank you, Zoe ❤️
her smile could light up the world, this is so pure and raw i might actually cry 🥹
We are proud of you Zolita!
The way this film is put together is so incredibly well done. Poignant, beautiful, and guttural. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story 🤍
Zolita, I just wanted to say that it's ok if you are still processing what happened. Everyone needs time and it's ok to reach out to others for help or assistance. I think it's good that you wrote a song about what happened. I hope that it helped you and that it will raise awareness.
All of us are proud of you and we hope that you will continue to heal from this ❤
It makes me sick how much I resonate with this...we love you soo much zolita❤❤
WOW girl, this song HITS. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. The melody is memorizing.
Well this absolutely destroyed me. I mean, in a good way because same, where the FUCK were the grownups when we needed them. I was 12 and no one noticed. It's validating and also horrifying to realize so many of us had the same experiences. We need to do better for the coming generation. Thank you for being so open with your music and your experiences, it really does help.
I love you so much and I wish I could hug you and protect this little girl❤️
the fact that I'm going to wake up at 4 am for the premiere of a song that will mentally destroy me
As someone who is currently living overseas I feel you🖤
This is heartbreaking, Zoe. You're such a strong and beautiful person. You're so brave to share this with the world. This song is going to heal people as they listen to it, help people who never had the words to say what they wanted to, and people who were never listened to or believed. Thank you, Zoe. This song is extremely needed. 🤍 🤍 🤍
Wow, I was expected a light hearted great song only to realize what you were saying and as a survivor of sexual assault and abuse as a child, it hit hard.
One of the few songs I hope nobody relates too 😭💔
zolita, this s breathtaking. thank you for sharing and this beautiful piece of art that came out of a dark situation that no one should endure.
Emotionally destroyed by this wonderful song. Thank you so much.
So Heartbreaking 😭 thank you for sharing this with us
I'm having so many feelings... This song... Listening to it and looking back, made me see clearly, our mind is really amazing and make us forget or paint it with more lightness some traumatic experiences... Thank you so much for this song, this lyrics, for having shared it with us! This is helping me so much! I'm so grateful, wish you and all the people who relate to this song a lot of strength, love and happiness so so much happiness in your lives ❤
This hit really hard.. it can be difficult to even talk about and get validation for especially in what I went through where I was really young, the person was 3 years younger, and I gave in after being asked so many times. I hope everyone can get validation and know that I’ll always be on your side no matter the circumstances ❤
We live in Zolita' Golden era.❤❤❤
What a touching and honest song, I’m sure so many people share this pain❤️
crying. never felt so understood by a song. thank you zoe for this.
The song has amazing strong lyrics of a topic that definitely needs a raise of awareness, with a wonderful melody accompanied by a rough guitar and a perfectly fitted video ❤️
Incredible as always Zolita! 💜🫶
Having been through this too, I am so thankful for all of the support and therapy in my life. As an adult, if I had heard this song without the support of friends and counseling, this song could have wrecked me. Now, my heart only aches for everyone else who's gone or unfortunately are going through this. This song was well written.
I am proud of you, you always create incredible songs and I can tell you that this song touched my heart ❤
Zolita produces music that makes my heart melt
This is so vulnerable and eye opening, I dealt with so much as a young child and this song brings it all together. Thanks for sharing!!!!!!🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
WOW, you took the words out of my mouth. To my step grandpa, and male cousins this song is for you.🪽
I relate to this song sadly way too much, thank you Zolita for giving us this song
Thank you for making this song, I know alot of people have dealt with this growing up and feeling like an old soul and I appreciate this even though it made me cry and remember!
this is such an important and haunting song, i hope you're feeling proud of it and you!
Alot of feelings in this beautiful piece. Thank u for giving us the words to name those awful experiences. Love u Zoe. Much love from Uganda ❤❤❤
You have me in tears. Same
Oh this one broke me. I dealt with it too. I did tell my mother. She just told me to "stay away from him then" about my step father. And she warned me not to tell anyone what happened.
My experience is mostly mind games, but the chorus hits. Honestly I didn't expect this to be the theme (maybe I missed some memo), was blown away by the song and the lyrics and the matching videos even more so. Thank you!
I'm so excited to bawl to this
I've never been through anything like this but the way you can hear the feelings when she sings made me cry
This is so powerful can sadly relate 😔
Thank you for this song. Hurts me to the core. I was just a kid too 😢
That hits hard. Hugs to you Zoe.
We are so proud, thank you for giving courage to all of us❤
What an absolute fabulous Music Video, Zolita. Much proud ❤
Zoe is such an amazing lyricist.
Such an amazing song and video...just premiered and have it playing again!😢❤
A zolita é quase um sentimento 🛐
WOW that turned pretty f@kin heartbreaking! Powerful.
So sad. I unfortunately relate to every word of this song. I feel you Zoe. ❤ This song is beautiful and powerful
A great music video
So sad this happened to u hope u are ok! We are all here for u! Love u ✨🖤
RECORD OF THE YEAR
Amazing song. So sorry. Thank you.
always love u and proud of u💖
this is beautiful Zoe
Didn't know a zolita video could cut me so deep. Strength and love to you my queen.
I had exactly this happen to me and I thought I must be the problem. He left me for a girl way younger than me. I was 16 almost 17. She just turned 15. He was 21.
I'm 23 now. I could never think of dating anyone this age.
thank you for this real, raw and emotional song opening up about such a hard time and feelings to translate into words... your music means evertyhing, you're beyond an artist, you're a gift to this world. we love you Zolita!!! ❤
This is so POWERFUL
Your so strong 💪 💗 thank you for always being yourself and being so open and real, raw and beautifully just a real human like everyone else. Wonderfully talented in so many fabulous ways, Your heart is a work of art. Your smile always has lit up a whole room, Your gorgeous eyes are blue and change shades when your moods are shifting, blue as stunning as an ocean deep and full of beautiful secrets whispering to the night sky full of glowing stars 🌟 Remember how amazing you truly are, how much you have become and what life has put in your way, you have pushed through it ALL and came out an amazing women with more strength,wisdom,kindness, open-mindedness, getting your hearts secrets out into the whole world 🌎 and being able to have souls all over the world related with them, or even just simply fell in love with the music and your stories, your imagination and image of yourself that you've put together ❤️ Thank you for being openly yourself, being queer positive and out and proud ❤ We love you Zolita, you've changed my life, and so many more peoples, keep being brave, strong and fucking fabulous babes. Can't wait to meet you in Seattle!!!! Counting down the days!!!! 🫂🫶❤️🧡💛💚💙🩵💜❤️🔥
This song resonates so deeply. Thank you.
🥹🥹 I am so sorry this happened to you....😢😢 This is such a great song. I can tell so much emotion, so much pain...a huge hit!! Love ya girl. ❤❤
WHERE WERE ALL THE GROWN UPS GROWING UP ???????
My heart was pounding the entire time watching this video. 🥺💔 I have no words. You're strong and beautiful on the inside and out. You didn’t deserve that. 🫶
This is incredible an so relatable ❤ thank u for this🥺
I love the artist so much that I'm crazy to read Love You Zolita❤❤❤
Thank you zolita something similar happened to me when I was very young.
Desde Venezuela con mucho amor ❤❤🇻🇪🇻🇪🇻🇪hermosa canción 😢 canción muy fuerte, además, hoy día las canciones son siempre temas romanticos o de excesos, es tan diferente y me recuerda al tiempo de los 90 o inicios y mediados delos 2000 donde las canciones tenian temas más variados, cantaban sobre todo, por más desgarrador que fuera.
Can't wait, can't wait, can't wait!!!!❤❤❤
I'm not crying! 😭
I love u zolita and respect your confidence and strength ❤️ 💓 💗
You’re so brave. We love you Zoe! ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing! sending you love and healing energy!
thank you for sharing this with us *is sending hugs*
it's an anthem, an emotionally heartbreaking one yet still so powerful. thank you for putting this out Zo❤️❤️🩹
My friend sent me this song last week. Wow. Giving a voice to so many of us who don’t know how to put these feelings into words. Bravo
I always wonder how they sleep after knowing what they did!!
Thank you for this ❤ I feel that most women if not all can relate
Am really feeling emotional , l know how it feels cos I was once in that situation and it really hurts😭😭😭
Sending you so many healing hugs
I'm gonna wake up at 12 am for this, I'm so proud of you zoe love youu
Zo makes songs that heal the tares of distress on our hearts. Thank you for bringing light to through the suffering. It’s never to late to heal 🤍
Que musica!! Sinto muito que isso tenha acontecido com vc e espero que vc esteja bem agora ❤ seending love from brazil
Also it’s kinda funny in a sad and sarcastic way that this is Zolita first time releasing a song not about a girl but about a MAN (if I got it right) and the song is like THIS 🤡
Honestly, dating males brought me way more trauma than dating females 🥲💔
Thank you for sharing this Zoe, she deserved so much better and i’m so glad that you know that now. Wishing for your healing always ❤️
Such a beautiful song. Thank you so much for sharing
this song broke me
New fav
Lieve Zoilta en Tachi. Zeggen tegen jou en laa t. Goed Tijd slechts je blijven.
Liefs Asma
Very powerful
holy sh!t i was not expecting to cry today
Thank you!! It feels so horrible but now we are truly independent and experience enough to share the message
Zolita❤ you're everything really✨ I love you so much thanks for always shearing lovely music and stories LOVE YOU!!
Видео такое вау...❤
Золита,как всегда восхищаешь❤
The way I can personally relate to this song 😢 haven't spoken about it in so long.....