Good luck. I have a long-term ftm partner. You probably know it already, but you will lose the hair on your head, most likely becoming bald with the typical horseshoe fringe remaining. At least part of your singing voice, if you like to sing, will become unusable. The body hair will increase, your nose will get larger, skin will change and make you look older, facial bone structure will change (brow ridge and jaw will become more prominent). The internal stuff you probably know about already. I am not against transitioning, but have observed that most people have no idea how intense the changes will be, and they will be permanent, even if you discontinue the T. For these reasons, I believe transitioning without taking hormones is the best course. Our society is now open enough that we can move across the gender spectrum without taking on all of the physical changes that come with hormonal enhancement.
Hello, Thank you for the luck; I do know already :); we (at least in my state) have to read through and sign packets of paperwork that list all the possible effects, what they can do, and what's unknown about it. I have a disclosure form with the whole list of permanent effects versus temporary effects, and I talked thoroughly with my family about all of them as well. My ultimate goal is to have most things on that list, whether they are perceived as 'good things' or 'bad things' by society at large. I did transition without testosterone for two years and I can tell you that my work field, which is STEM-based, is filled with people (cis white men) that, no matter how hard I try, never fail to misgender me. While some areas in society may be 'open enough', I seem to constantly find areas that are not; and while I am resilient in many ways to people's opinions and to some forms of my dysphoria, I've accepted that having breakdowns about gender every month or two months is not something I should have to deal with. Also through social transition, I've been 'noticeably trans' and I live in a region where I have to be dreadfully aware of that when walking down the street or attending events. So I also weighed in the various factors of safety and danger that come with transition into my decision. I am acquaintances with several ftm trans that have been transitioning for 7+ years, and I made sure to talk to them and understand the side effects they have gone through. I mapped out a lot of the effects I could have and weighed them against what I already would deal with. Ironically my hair was going to start turning old grey/white in just a few years anyway, so I was already playing with the idea of wearing hats all the time; I am very likely to get cancer as well. I figured that if I'd already be dealing with such things later on, I'd like to enjoy my time now. (Also I'm finding that due to my identities on the asexual and aromantic spectrums, I'm finding I care less and less about how I look to others, which is a benefit for me. I'm not looking to be 'handsome' to society; rather to get away from being 'female' and feel in line with myself). Sorry for the ramble, this probably is not the response you are looking for... I figured I would lay out some details for people to read now that I realize I probably should have done a thorough video on my decision and what factors weighed in, and how I have accepted that It's possible for me to regret my choice later. Please know I will keep your comment in mind for the upcoming months as I introspect. I hope you have a good week, and happy holidays when they arrive. - Cove K.
@@queeralcove Good to read of your sober expectations and approach. My partner and I have been a couple for 22 years, the first seven being pre-transition, and my only other suggestion to offer would be to consider being very conservative with the amount of T applied/injected... between 1/4 and 1/2 the most common amount will still have effects, and can always be increased.
Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I'm not familiar with your story but I can only say I wish you luck with this transition. If you've not already, please listen to the testimonies of de-transitioners. I have a few FTM, and 2 out of the 3 of them decided to detransition (both after 10+ of being socially trans) I don't mean this to discourage you, I'm a complete stanger after all, but I agree whole heartedly with this commenter. Your gender will be a life-long maintenance and a brutal one at that. I wholeheartedly believe our bodies are not supposed to go through that change. I have empathy for you in the regard that you don't feel as you present on the outside. But your body is beautiful as is. I wish nowadays therapy would help you work through that feeling/voice in your head saying otherwise. I truly feel so many doctors and therapists are profiting off of young people who are confused and in need of guidance, rather that actually helping them mentally. It makes me very, very sad. I wish you luck, I do. Just know that you are a beautiful human as you are, and you don't need to change your body to be your true self.
During your journey, please take care of yourself. Do not listen to mean people, there will be many along the path. Only listen to those who truly love you and those who support you, they will lead the way. I wish you so much love and compassion through your journey and I hope that everything goes absolutely swell
Thank you! I wrote it myself, though I haven't decided on a name yet. I might just name it a Cove, but I don't think that's ample; we'll see :). I talk a little about it in the one month update.
Damn the more studies I’ve been reading about medical transition as well as the psychology behind it, the more concerned I’ve become about the young people drawn into it. Idk but I wish you the best, I hope that you’re able to become neutral about and comfortable with your body at some point, and I think it’s important to acknowledge the reality that you won’t actually ever be able to “become” male as a female, and the vast majority of people do understand “men” as equal to “male”.
@@DeVill3007 maybe my internet language is outdated but to me based is a word used to describe awesome people living their lives as their genuine selves. Perhaps I'm just too disconnected from the modern internet (which is probably a good thing) but this series and channel and Cove as a person are all awesome and make the world a better place and to me, that's based. I don't care what jackasses have coopted the term
Those comments aren't weird, its a reality that many young people are facing because they're falsely told that they need to change their gender to find solace instead of being helped to work through the mental struggles. As multiple commenters have already said, transitioning is being pushed so heavily on people who are already in a vunerable headspace as is. To me, that's predatory. Call it "false concern", I call it sad.
Good luck. I have a long-term ftm partner. You probably know it already, but you will lose the hair on your head, most likely becoming bald with the typical horseshoe fringe remaining. At least part of your singing voice, if you like to sing, will become unusable. The body hair will increase, your nose will get larger, skin will change and make you look older, facial bone structure will change (brow ridge and jaw will become more prominent). The internal stuff you probably know about already. I am not against transitioning, but have observed that most people have no idea how intense the changes will be, and they will be permanent, even if you discontinue the T. For these reasons, I believe transitioning without taking hormones is the best course. Our society is now open enough that we can move across the gender spectrum without taking on all of the physical changes that come with hormonal enhancement.
Hello,
Thank you for the luck; I do know already :); we (at least in my state) have to read through and sign packets of paperwork that list all the possible effects, what they can do, and what's unknown about it. I have a disclosure form with the whole list of permanent effects versus temporary effects, and I talked thoroughly with my family about all of them as well. My ultimate goal is to have most things on that list, whether they are perceived as 'good things' or 'bad things' by society at large.
I did transition without testosterone for two years and I can tell you that my work field, which is STEM-based, is filled with people (cis white men) that, no matter how hard I try, never fail to misgender me. While some areas in society may be 'open enough', I seem to constantly find areas that are not; and while I am resilient in many ways to people's opinions and to some forms of my dysphoria, I've accepted that having breakdowns about gender every month or two months is not something I should have to deal with. Also through social transition, I've been 'noticeably trans' and I live in a region where I have to be dreadfully aware of that when walking down the street or attending events. So I also weighed in the various factors of safety and danger that come with transition into my decision.
I am acquaintances with several ftm trans that have been transitioning for 7+ years, and I made sure to talk to them and understand the side effects they have gone through. I mapped out a lot of the effects I could have and weighed them against what I already would deal with. Ironically my hair was going to start turning old grey/white in just a few years anyway, so I was already playing with the idea of wearing hats all the time; I am very likely to get cancer as well. I figured that if I'd already be dealing with such things later on, I'd like to enjoy my time now. (Also I'm finding that due to my identities on the asexual and aromantic spectrums, I'm finding I care less and less about how I look to others, which is a benefit for me. I'm not looking to be 'handsome' to society; rather to get away from being 'female' and feel in line with myself).
Sorry for the ramble, this probably is not the response you are looking for... I figured I would lay out some details for people to read now that I realize I probably should have done a thorough video on my decision and what factors weighed in, and how I have accepted that It's possible for me to regret my choice later. Please know I will keep your comment in mind for the upcoming months as I introspect.
I hope you have a good week, and happy holidays when they arrive.
- Cove K.
@@queeralcove Good to read of your sober expectations and approach. My partner and I have been a couple for 22 years, the first seven being pre-transition, and my only other suggestion to offer would be to consider being very conservative with the amount of T applied/injected... between 1/4 and 1/2 the most common amount will still have effects, and can always be increased.
Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I'm not familiar with your story but I can only say I wish you luck with this transition. If you've not already, please listen to the testimonies of de-transitioners. I have a few FTM, and 2 out of the 3 of them decided to detransition (both after 10+ of being socially trans)
I don't mean this to discourage you, I'm a complete stanger after all, but I agree whole heartedly with this commenter. Your gender will be a life-long maintenance and a brutal one at that. I wholeheartedly believe our bodies are not supposed to go through that change. I have empathy for you in the regard that you don't feel as you present on the outside. But your body is beautiful as is. I wish nowadays therapy would help you work through that feeling/voice in your head saying otherwise. I truly feel so many doctors and therapists are profiting off of young people who are confused and in need of guidance, rather that actually helping them mentally. It makes me very, very sad.
I wish you luck, I do. Just know that you are a beautiful human as you are, and you don't need to change your body to be your true self.
During your journey, please take care of yourself. Do not listen to mean people, there will be many along the path. Only listen to those who truly love you and those who support you, they will lead the way. I wish you so much love and compassion through your journey and I hope that everything goes absolutely swell
You just a kid.. In terms of hair, you are gonna loose it if you continue.
This is a wonderful video, you give your update so beautifully. What is the name of the poem you read?
Thank you!
I wrote it myself, though I haven't decided on a name yet. I might just name it a Cove, but I don't think that's ample; we'll see :). I talk a little about it in the one month update.
Fantastic to hear!! Good luck on your journey my man, get that boy juice 😁😁
congrats dude, best of luck on your journey
Damn the more studies I’ve been reading about medical transition as well as the psychology behind it, the more concerned I’ve become about the young people drawn into it. Idk but I wish you the best, I hope that you’re able to become neutral about and comfortable with your body at some point, and I think it’s important to acknowledge the reality that you won’t actually ever be able to “become” male as a female, and the vast majority of people do understand “men” as equal to “male”.
My least favorite part of the process was not being able to sing nicely anymore. Lol my favorite thing is the muscles!
Congrats
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This is the perfect opposite of "based"... Based is a Conservative term.
@@DeVill3007 maybe my internet language is outdated but to me based is a word used to describe awesome people living their lives as their genuine selves. Perhaps I'm just too disconnected from the modern internet (which is probably a good thing) but this series and channel and Cove as a person are all awesome and make the world a better place and to me, that's based. I don't care what jackasses have coopted the term
good luck dude, please ignore/delete all the weird detransitioner comments masked with false concern. only you know yourself
Those comments aren't weird, its a reality that many young people are facing because they're falsely told that they need to change their gender to find solace instead of being helped to work through the mental struggles. As multiple commenters have already said, transitioning is being pushed so heavily on people who are already in a vunerable headspace as is. To me, that's predatory. Call it "false concern", I call it sad.
Wish you the best on your journey! Please avoid Tiktok for your own sanity!