My employer's EAP has been a lifesaver. They offer five free sessions per year "per issue" (so you can get more than five per year if they're for separate things), and you can also get an immediate one-off session with a therapist by phone whenever you want. When I had a crisis in my personal life, didn't sleep all night, and didn't know how I was going to make it through the following workday, the therapist walked me through some breathing exercises to get myself back under control. There's a definite focus on making sure your mental health challenges don't cause you to miss too much work - which on the one hand can be a little creepy, but on the other hand is the main reason the employer has the incentive to pay for the benefit.
@@TherapyinaNutshell Definitely a great employer, but the EAP is one of the most underutilized benefits - whether it's because people don't know about it, forget that it's there, are afraid to try it, or what. Thanks for signal-boosting EAPs!
The only way therapist get paid is through the money through their clients session and that is it. They also spend alot of year providing therapy for free during their masters program and they do not get paid.
I’m so glad you made a video about this, even though it doesn’t apply as well to other countries. I got my science degree in psychology & neuroscience and probably because of that, I find a lot of issues within the mental health care system. In Europe and in Asia. People who are really ill and need help are either put on a long waiting list or just can’t get any help even if they want to. A lot of people talk about reaching out for professional help, but what they don’t get is that it’s simply not possible for a lot of ppl. Especially when you suffer from a severe form of mental illness and it’s so debilitating you can’t even work to support yourself financially. Personally I’ve been in an acute psych ward 3 times. And because of my medical records I can’t get any insurance policy to cover my medical bills.
So sorry to hear how hard it's been to find treatment, I hope that at the least, you can use your education to help yourself develop skills that support you.
I’m so sorry to hear the struggles you’ve had. I had a friend with dissociative identity disorder. He struggled to advocate for himself. My insurance won’t pay for speech therapy so I am going to try and get a second job so I can pay for it myself.
I have two sons with pure OCD. I had to pay out of pocket for my youngest. She had a full caseload but agreed to take him on. After just two sessions he is doing so well!!! As you probably know, the therapist HAS to be specialized in this area of mental illness to be effective. It was the best $400 I ever spent!!! My other son is reading a book that she recommended and it is helping him. I am offering him the same help as his younger brother when or if he feels like he needs it. You can’t put a price on quality of life. Thanks so much for sharing all of these options!!! I have another son who was a heroin addict from the time he was 17 until he was 24. All he had was MediCal and it was a constant struggle to get him the help he needed. He did have some times of sobriety that I am so grateful for. He and his wife and daughter were sadly killed in a plane crash in 2018. I am so grateful to have good health insurance to help me heal from this situation. Please pray for my 5 surviving children as they are all struggling with mental health issues now. Thanks I’m advance🙏🏼❤️
I suffer from brain fog, aphasia, tremors, etc. I truly felt like I was losing my mind. I had to advocate for myself for over 18 months going through multiple doctors and insurance denials. It was so hard to keep pushing especially against those in "authority" - like doctors. I was finally referred to a neuropsychologist who demonstrated some areas of cognitive function were "working" poorly for me. I started crying when I finally had someone acknowledge that I wasn't losing my mind. It was also such a relief to find there were specific areas I could target to help until I can find a counselor to help me. In the past I have read Dr. David Burns' book: Feeling Good. It really has helped me. Thank you Emma, your videos have helped me so much. I love the classes you offer and am working to actively apply what I have learned.
@@faisalbi1330 it’s only been a week and a half. It’s too early. I am trying to keep my CPAP mask on all night. That’s the goal. I’ve downloaded the exercises and go through them multiple times a day. The Dr. also gave me some tips to help with work. I work for 10 bosses and it can be overwhelming. So the tips are frustrating but helpful. Like taking full notes not just jotting things down. Plus, I carry a pad of paper all day long.
Overall, it truly was a sense of relief when the doctor could definitively prove I was having problems. I once forgot the words “Western Slope” (in Colorado) - it took me two full days to come up with it. I’ve been there 100 times and could NOT pull it out of my brain. Plus, my company is falling all over themselves to accommodate me. My boss noted on my last review - about poor word choice in emails. Now we are trying to come up with alternatives and solutions. She no longer thinks I’m being lazy.
Thanks for this! I’m glad you said what you did about private practice. My sister is in private practice and I feel it’s unfair sometimes when people say she just gets paid $100 to be someone’s friend for an hour. Of course she handles this w grace and doesn’t defend herself but I see “behind the scenes” and how much money she spends on EHR, rent, a receptionist to say nothing of the THOUSANDS of dollars she spend above and beyond required continuing education to be an expert in trauma. Please don’t think that just because you write a check that your therapist takes all that home. Private practice is not subsidized by the govt like some places that can offer lower rates. After under grad, masters degree, post masters classes, 3000 hour internship, collage loans to pay back, malpractice insurance, $100 a month for electronic medical records, internet fee, etc etc etc down to the toilet paper in the bathroom she pays out of her pocket - you are “buying” her focused time and expertise. Personally I know I’ve gotten more out of seeing a specialist private pay than several sessions on my insurance panel. Just wanted to throw that out there.
I worked at a Counseling Center at a University and was appalled at the lack of respect and confidentiality of the therapists. People kept waiting (with no one in their office), complaints to me on their issues, and wide brush strokes about those who went to the hospital. I used to go to therapy but am very concerned about the quality of folks in my area. That’s why your channel is a godsend!
Thank you so much for this video! I work on a California helpline for youth and parents on the weekends, and often get calls from people having difficulty finding a therapist. Especially those without insurance and low income. I often refer them to some of the resources you mentioned. Also, i bring up your UA-cam channel and get feedback of how much you have helped them. Thank you for what you do. This will be my go to video to share with others! 🙏💕
I'm in the UK, I have been told recently by a consultant "I cannot refer you for mental health care as there isn't any", so unless you are sectioned you won't get NHS treatment. The charity Mind are useless, I've found a charity to help me but they are students in training and lacked the skills to help me. Some private therapist are very poor, it's hard to find a good one, I found one but couldn't afford the treatment, (it cost more than my mortgage) I'm very grateful to the people who post on YT they have helped me so much.
Although finding a therapist can be an issue, I don’t think that finding a therapist is as much an issue as finding a competent therapist. I grew up in a wealthy but emotionally traumatic home. My first therapist was when I was 8 or 9. I remained quite dysfunctional almost to the age of 30. The first therapist who could really help me was not a licensed therapist, he was a minister. Later he eventually left the ministry, gained credentials, and is now a practicing therapist. In spite of the education, training, and science involved, the actual practice of effective therapy strikes me as rare.
Canada Correction. "Universal Healthcare" does not necessarily cover mental health. And each province differs in what it covers. I work with homeless in shelters and there is NO coverage that I can find. So...just for a fill in I show them Emma's videos instead. People can be great at self starting. Sometimes just showing them where the road is they can go the rest of the way themselves! Thanks to Emma for helping all levels of society and countries. No "borders" here!
My university (in Hungary) offers up to 15 free sessions with their own therapists, whom also can take you to their own private practice at a reduced price (50% off) after the initial 15 sessions It really saved my life.
Can't find any EMDR therapists in all phoenix that take PPO work insurance. All private practice except special insurances. It's like $175-225 per session. Ridiculous!!!
I am in Canada and had various therapists when I could afford a few sessions at roughly $100 each. When I had my breakdown, a friend found me a private sponsor and recommended an EMDR therapist. In all honesty, she was the only therapist who truly helped me in any great way. But her sessions were $300 each and although I was much improved, after the sponsor pulled the plug (after 1 1/2 years so I'm SO, SO grateful!!!) I couldn't afford to see her again. I did OK for a few years, but would love to see someone occasionally still as I still tend to fall down the depression hole. . Plus, on my own (I took a 5 hour online class for therapists) I learned that while EMDR therapy is extremely helpful for single incident trauma (like an assault or accident), somatic therapy tends to be more beneficial for someone with Complex PTSD especially when caused by early childhood trauma. I find it difficult to find a "good" therapist that really understands trauma, and certainly not any that I find affordable. I do find that UA-cam videos put out by therapists such as yourself are extremely helpful, and open up new ideas to explore via book or online research. I find that most "cheaper" versions of in person therapy are generally provided by people that quite often have less psychology knowledge than myself. Not trying to sound conceited or anything, it's just that after almost 40 years of therapy sessions, books, and various classes, I've learned a fair amount about what does and doesn't work or resonate with me.
I really identified with your comment, especially the last paragraph. From my own experience, I've come to the conclusion that almost all therapists are trained and/or interested in "short-term" solution focused therapy (like a band-aid for a superficial cut). Only 5-10% of therapists have advanced training/experience/interest in treating people with complex issues. In addition to this channel, I also like Uncommon Knowledge and Uncommon Practitioners (same company does both channels).
In Australia we get to choose who we want, and we get it immediately, and we get 20 free sessions per year. I used to see my guy in the park, because I feel more comfortable in the park. But they will come to your home too, if you don't want to leave. So, if you are Australian go see (you can have a phone appointment) your doctor and you will have a good experience.
This Therapy In a Nutshell youtube feature of How To Find A Therapist You Can Afford has some compassionate and helpful information especially the reference to sliding scale feature. This is especially a timely find for me because I am currently in the process of searching for face to face/in person type of counseling/therapy for personal reasons. However the youtube author also honestly sharing which therapy services have a higher caseload are also helpful information, I truly did not know that pro-bono therapy services might be possible (I guess it wouldn't hurt to at least ask). The youtube author is also inspiring me to ask my insurance provider what types of free andor affordable therapy are available. I am happy that the youtube author made this available.
Thank you so much, Emma. You are most assuredly fulfilling your purposes and blessing your brothers and sisters on earth. I am so grateful for your work and this venue. I have referred many people I love to this channel and your wisdom and knowledge. We all appreciate your manner and clarity and the mantle you have been blessed with to reach others. Someone who has been so stuck in their ways for many decades but who wishes to change and heal has recently decided to utilyze your videos... (after me sending them to this person and some encouragement over a year+!) and it is really helping my friend in immeasurable ways! They can't afford the time/money for in person therapy and this work you do is a rope for them to climb from the spot they have been stuck in for so long! I'm grateful for that because I love my friend so much and my help was not helping! God bless you!!! And your beautiful family. Thank you again for working so hard to become knowledgeable and to care for others.
I live in Toronto, Canada and here psychotherapy is not covered under gov’t (OHIP) medicare. Only MDs, psychiatrists are cover if your lucky get one. There’s long wait lists and they usually don’t do long term therapy only maybe 15 minute appointment for medication script. There is non-profit community centers with gov’t funded but there wait lists, gov’t quotas, bureaucracy etc. Now in the 90s I did have long term psychotherapy with a medical doctor, it wasn’t structured but at least it was some support. Currently I am looking for a therapist again but next to impossible under our so-called “universal” medicare. I will look at your suggestions for low cost therapy. In the meantime Emma your UA-cam videos are helping me a lot, especially your videos on emotions processing and thanks for all you do! 🙂 👍🏽
This video is perfect for me. I'm at this point in my life of searching for long-term therapy outside of my town/city, but don't know where to start, and struggle with income
I just finished watcing your video. the information was helpful, so Thank you! Why is it, therpist don't seem to think seniors having mental health problems is anything more than aging though?? That's not true at all. I have had severe depression and anexity since I was in my 30's and now here I am looking at 65, and all those years, nothing got better, even with medication and therpy when I could afford it. Now I'm on the down side of life, and pretty much, 35 years of my life has been spent in misery anyway. and they wonder why we have such a suicide problem in the world. Not everyone can aford these high cost insurances either. and like you said, if the state is paying your on a list as to when you can possibly be seen anyway. Mental health has to improve for our country, so that anyone suffering, can be seen by a therpist and also be treated.
UK equivalents: A) Your GP can refer you for 6 free sessions B ) You can call your local (county) council up about their subsidised counselling sessions if you're in a low income household. C) The charity "Mind" also do a lot to help people get into counselling sessions. D) ... Then of course there's Samaritans and other crisis lines if need be.
Thank you, I was wondering about UK options because my partner and I are both really struggling but as a couple, both severely disabled and living on benefits, we just can't afford it. We both already tried what we can get through the gp and found it unhelpful for the kind of needs we both have.
I’m fortunate enough to have a place in my town that offers free counseling and therapy to anyone, as long as they have spots available. I live in a small town so it’s a miracle we have a place like that. I use to go one town over and pay $100 per visit plus around $100 for meds on top of that.
Live in NZ and also have subsidised healthcare. Doesn’t cover therapy unless you fit a certain criteria. And a huge wait even for crisis situations . No ambulance at the bottom of the cliff any longer.
Calling your insurance company is not helpful. Insurance keeps outdated and inaccurate lists, therapist that dont take the insurance or even numbers that aren’t even therapists, such as lawyers, art dealers, oh the list they gave me. (Medicare and Empire)
The list of EAP given me by my employment was also outdated. One therapist on the list died 2 years ago. Others were no longer EAP or not accepting new clients. Frustrating.
I can only get my therapy sessions over the phone no more than once a month. Don’t know if this is the best Kaiser can offer. Thank you for your very informative videos. They are so helpful for me.
You may be able to look out of Kaiser hospital for therapists who accept Kaiser insurance. I go to a therapist outside of Kaiser who accepts the insurance & am able to speak w/ them weekly as opposed to every 6 weeks if I stayed within the Kaiser network
Thank you for the info. I wasn’t aware that is a possibility. I live in Southern California and will look into it when I can. Having a lot of health issues now.
I think to get enough time with a therapist that has more insight than you could get by reading and ACT book you have to be wealthy. I've just been pirating ACT epubs and working through multiple at a time with a text to speech app set to 150% speed. As well as listening to Steven Hayes and Russ Harris's talks
I am seeing a therapist now for trauma. Unfortunately, after visiting with him for several months (once a week for 40 minutes), I don’t believe he knows much about healing trauma. My insurance is covering it 100% but that doesn’t help me if he can’t help me. How does one go about finding the “right” therapist. I’ve been at a loss as I’ve never seen a therapist in my life. I’m 51. Thanks, Emma!
I'm from the uk & the NHS therapy is rubbish to be honest & it's not saying anything bad about the actual therapist. It's just their protocol. I had 30 mins once every 2 weeks. The first 15 mins of every session started with am I going to kill myself or am I going to hurt anyone else. I spent 15 mins answering no to these questions. I get the questions are needed for some situations but not mine. I'm not suicidal nor am I a problem to anyone else. So I had 15 mins every 2 weeks basically my therapist agreeing with me yes I should be worried my resdons are valid to be worried. To be honest for me (anxiety) I've managed to help myself due to you actually. Just by learning to identify my anxiety to start with & learning how to process things. It hadn't "fixed me" but I've managed to accept a few things & still on my journey learning to accept all of it & decide what I want to change & what should be left the way it is for the beauty of what it is. To learn to change the way I think that actually life isn't great all of the time & I shouldn't have such high expectations to protect myself & my kids from everything. It's out of my control I can't. So exposure handled in the correct manner is ok. My advise to anyone who can't afford therapy is to look deep within your self & journal! Are you safe in the current moment & if you are you are in a place to process. Go through the problem & don't try to go round It. Avoidance has been a huge trigger for me. Awful things happen when they are least deserved. But as long as your out of it you can process through it. Xxx
Yeah, my last (council/subsidised) counsellor was the wrong fit entirely and actually all he - and just plain "talk therapy" - did was trigger me more! ... I still miss my secondary school shrink - best therapist I've ever seen! She actually helped me with exercises like drawing out my issues on paper and made life SO MUCH easier to cope with. (I've almost got my ASD diagnosis now, after 4.5years in progress! - The joys of comorbid depression, anxiety and sensory processing issues COMBINED with multiple traumas 🤦♀️).
Yea...found a practice with excellent reviews. Reached out to make an appointment and they are backlogged by 3 to 5 months. Then they referred me to city services which have horrible reviews 😒
I love your videos! You are a pro! 😍 It would be so great to hear you talk about chronic illness/ chronic pain and psychological health. Thank you for all you do! 💛🧡❤️
Honestly, even with good insurance in the US, it seems like all the good and competent therapists already have full caseloads and aren't accepting new patients. I've been trying to find a therapist for over a year. Have tried 6 different people, and none of them did anything useful for me. Just told me to try reading self help books, one told me to try prayer (after I told her I was atheist), one went into some kind of MAGA Karen anti-China rant in the middle of our 2nd session, when I said I needed help dealing with pandemic-related anxiety. After those 6 failures, I asked my primary care for a referral, she gave me 4 names and none were accepting new patients, except an out of network guy who charges $200 per session.
Do what I did. Instead of seeking a professional, just TRY TO BE the professional. Read everything and anything you can about psychology and physiology and cognitive science. Read up on diet, drugs and supplements and how they play in the brain's chemistry (if for no other reason than to understand just how delicate the chemical balance is in the brain). Read up on some Buddhist philosophies and start meditating (if for no other reason to prove to yourself that neuroplasticity is real). Read up on ANYthing that might be related. My solution turned out to be three different solutions, and you are NOT going to get all three from your average therapist, you'll probably only get one. My issues and solutions: * Anxiety - turns out I'm highly sensitive to MSG. 30 years of ramen packets = 30 years of bipolar-like behavior (without the fun of any real mania) * Depression - GREATLY reduced one the anxiety was dealt with, but also helped with meditation and mindfulness and by training my brain to stop focusing on the negative (which the brain is designed to do, and learning cog sci helped me not feel guilty about my brain behaving normally. I wasn't defective because I was negative, I'd just never learned to turn off the switch because nobody every told me there was a switch I had access to). * Anger - reading up on abuse and narcissism got me to recognize much of my anger was based on fears and past trauma * core beliefs - Americanized eastern philosophies did wonders for giving me a different perspective on life. "The Power of Now" and "Subtler Art of Not Giving a F*ck" took me from living the past and the future into living in the moment. Lots of other core beliefs stemmed from childhood neglect and abuse, and for those I was able to dig, dig, dig just like I would have with a good shrink. E.G. I caught myself not wanting to loan a CD to somebody and asked myself why. My mother. Who would give away or sell my toys. I've always been extremely protective of my possessions. Never thought to wonder why until I got in the habit of it * Behavior - I used to 'put it all out there' (like I'm not now? LOL). Somewhere along the line I got well enough to not need external validation (or as much of it), and somewhere along the line I started to recognize (and be embarrased) by behavior I formerly saw as justified. Yes, I was indeed justified. That doesn't mean it's productive behavior that will retain relationships, etc. Much of the stuff I read dealt with internal changes, but those internal changes can bring about behavior changes. And a lot of what I read dealt with behaviors, too. I started recognizing unhealthy behaviors, which allowed me to identified what beliefs were driving them, and I could fix those beliefs or adjust my behavior * Trust and forgiveness - Meditation and awareness. Understanding that the brain lies to it's owner helps one forgive others for unintentional falsehoods. Looking into narcissism alongside cog sci allowed me to recognize (despite how things are presented on other channels) that 1) narcissism is simply the opposite coping mechanism to co-dependency and 2) ALL people exhibit narc traits and ALL of us gas-light each other to degrees (it can happen a lot in arguments and be 100% unintentional). The facts of reality helped me forgive others. And focused meditation helped me reinforce this new perspective directly. I went about all this because I kept finding such loser professionals I wanted to know enough that I could quickly screen then and not waste weeks discerning if they were up to the task. Once I got into it, my self-education snowballed. Eventually I didn't need someone else in the room to help me dig into myself, because I started doing all the work on myself a good shrink would do on me. And on the occasion I did need someone's aid, I have a couple friends who can be totally honest with me.
***Important clarification! I work in the public schools in US. We can do evaluations looking for educational impacts of mental health concerns, but CANNOT DIAGNOSE mental health disorders. But, you don't need a diagnosis to pursue 504 or IEP plan whichever if appropriate. Ask for help, access what they offer, and good luck!
I'm seriously in need of a psychiatrist. 😭 I'm suffering from Bidy Dismorphic disorder. I'm feeling nervous, my brain aches when I hear that someone is coming in my house. I feel like dying/ suicidal tendency 😭 I just wanna die before meeting new people. I wanna live a good life but I can't. Please help me.
im from Toronto canada and the mental health services here are super inaccessible and dreadful. my depression and anxiety starting in September 2021 and got rly bad in december 2021. And now it’s amplifying again and I spoke to a psychiatrist at CAMH and their response was very invalidating and offered no solutions besides to continue what im doing which is seeing a counsellor offered in my community. i think the one misconception ab mental health is that ppl who r high functioning or “productive” are assumed to be healthy and don’t have mental illness. this is absolutely false bc i performed at my very best academically and i have an internship lined up for me in the summer (don’t get me wrong, im very proud of my accomplishments despite the emotional adversity I faced) and many of my friends who are doing well in school r depressed and in the same boat as me. it’s sad bc we need to take mental health more seriously and realize that most ppl know themselves and what they need better than most therapists, psychiatrists, doctors, etc. I’ve done CBT and went to my school counselling bc I can’t afford private therapy as I’m saving to move out from my toxic family but if anyone has any advice, pls lmk. I have practiced grounding/breathing techniques, meditation, and journaling to help as well
How do you know if you actually going to find a GOOD therapist? When struggling so bad with depression an anxiety sometimes it can be difficult to go therapist looking. If we could all find therapist that takes there job as importantly as you. That would be a blessing. But with my experience it seems I don't have the best experience with therapist that even care to engage much. Idk. Hopefully by you putting up these videos. It will show therapist to take there jobs more seriously. Sorry I'm not so debbie downer normally
I've had the exact same experience. None of the therapists seemed interested in doing any actual therapy with me and just tell me to read self help books
hi my problem is i feel like i tried all the techniques i listened to a lot of videos that could help me with anxiety but still i still feel it. sometimes these techniques will help me deal with anxiety for 2 months but then I go back to baseline and break down. now I have lost my hope. the feeling of heaviness on the chest paralyzes me and I miss myself from a year ago, for a very relaxed person. I want to live without it:(( like before
Excellent Tips, Emma....🕊... If I may, from a "Patients" point of view I'd add one additional tip which I found to be the most important: 'Listen to your Gut/brain'. 🧠 ...... If you're looking for a therapist you're most likely at an extremely Vulnerable time in your life....that vulnerability caused by any number of issues. Following a Stroke (no fun at all) my GP, a male, sent me in search of a good Psychologist. I was VERY fortunate in that I was able to immediately connect with one of the best in the Country. Emma would know her name. :) However, after a move across the country I discovered that keeping my Mind comfortable was no simple task. I immediately discovered that I couldn't/didn't get along with Male Docs. (I tried 3). I left #3 after 5 minutes of the first session, called Doc #1 and asked for her advice. "Rich, other Males were quite probably a major reason for your stroke". She and I both already knew that...but I sought confirmation. Any thoughts Doctor Emma? 🙏🏼
It is all so complicated.......finding good mental health help is nearly impossible. My offer for an appointment with someone is 2 months out. Not helpful, not worth whatever my insurance is paying for it. What about people who have no insurance? HAHA...my church pretty much was a pit.
In Germany you must write over 30~40 emails to different therapists and institutions and stay in long waiting list and in the end you may not find a place. I had first meetings with several therapists and everytime they said I should keep looking elsewhere because they have no vacant place. I finally gave up. I can't do it for years.
@@TherapyinaNutshell actually I have no idea how it is with private therapists, because I can't afford it. Germany has a good health insurance and one tends to stick with the doctors payable by insurance.
It isn’t really possible to say therapy is available on the NHS (UK national health), the service is technically there but extremely hard to access. And it’s a bit of a postcode lottery too. Most people don’t have health insurance so therapy is often limited to those that can afford it. I’ve been fortunate to find a Christian charity who are offering it at a reduced rate if you can’t afford full rate.
Good to know! I knew there were many limitations to NHS, but it's also not my country so I didn't want to make assumptions. I don't know what the solution is to the problem- but I know it's not easy to get help anywhere...
U mean like mental therapy ? Well if that so , then you can find best therapist gurus in the world , just for Free on UA-cam jjj....and tbh they really share their best , I mean I learnt a lot from two great women who specialise in that area ; they weren't scarce at all in giving and sharing their valuable infos ! 💯 I think das about it in d future...every study will turn up digital my dear (same thing as u doing r.n honey ) ! 😃🤙
Emma Please Please Please reply, I am actually currently struggling with anxiety about sleep (fear whether I will fall sleep today or not) , I am obsessing that what will happen tonight, my stress response is reduced but still not completely gone, I am proceeding by acceptance but to complete emotion processing cycle, I should act, how I act in this case? Please reply I am currently feeling stuck at the moment, sometimes get feeling that whether I will get better or not. Please 🙏 reply
Hi Emma. First time commenting on one of your videos! Just wondering what happened to the "How To Be Happy (Part 2)" video that was posted earlier today, which seems to have disappeared. 🤷♂️
If this is "affordable" therapy in the us, I can understand why people are struggling so much. And we really need to have a real conversation about how even in countries with free therapy, it's usually very bad. And a lot of it is bc the universities themselves are not doing their jobs, but there are other problems as well. Anyway, I don't like the click baity tittle of this video, bc there are so many people like me who are desperate for affordable therapy, and really need it, and seeing this makes me feel more hopeless. But I understand it's a sponsored video and I know it will help a lot of people. It's just that there are even more who are sinking far bellow with no options, and I wish we could change that
I didn’t make this video for my sponsor. I made this video to address the reality of finding therapy in the US. There are options. None are ideal. But there are options.
@@TherapyinaNutshell Sorry if my comment sounded rude, I didn't mean to criticize the video itself and I really appreciate your work. I'm just struggling at the moment, not only because of my situation but bc I've been witnessing a lot of people going through the same thing. Even people who can afford psychologists sometimes end up with bad ones because of the lack of education and I've also seen neurodivergent people who had to give up university because every time they raised concerns about outdated information they were shutdown and it felt pointless. That's why I mentioned the university thing. It's kind of a systemic issue, and I don't know how we could possibly fix it. So I wish more people talked about it. I know there are options, and maybe I'm being pessimistic, but I'm thinking about people who can't afford it. And the amount of undertrained professionals. I'm from Brasil and we have free therapy here, but it's very difficult to get it and it's almost always very flawed, for many, many reasons. So really, it's a huge issue. And one that I don't think can be solved simply by making therapy a little cheaper. But again, my intention really wasn't to complain about the videos. I think one of the few good things that actually works is people like you, who make knowledge free and available for all in the internet. It literally saves lives. And I'm very thankful for that.
It's rough. I really can't afford it. Then if you talk openly about suicidal ruminating, they try and get you in the hospital. After ten sessions about painful memories and trying to convince me I'm actually ok even though I have been clinically diagnosed with depression, I'm in $1000 before I can really tell how the fit is between the therapist and I. I need help. Lost me through the cracks. Healthcare of all kinds are not just expensive, they're overpriced.
Thanks for the video I lerned a lot. You are a religious person. I am not but you say very often about the goods absolut pray. I am curious to know what in the brain 🧠 Happens. Wouldn’t like to make a video about it or have u a recommendation for previous videos. Like to hear something. Have a good day
can therapy help with an obbsession with a man that doesnt know u exist and u want to fuck him so bad and hes like 20 and im not that age and i need help its getting worse
First of all Emma, congratulations, I was born on June9th, 1987! Second of all I’ve seen Counselors in my past,and it’s just been a circle with them and I’m not very honest with them at all, and I lie to them as well! Valerie
Emma, you're an absolute Godsend, thank you!!! 💗 Your videos & exercises have helped me immensely - my last counsellor actually triggered me WAY more instead of helping - so I can't thank you enough for helping me get back to my usual range again, even despite the pandemic!👏 Thank you for restoring my faith in therapy, and in myself to keep working at it.
@@angela1serenity I'm sorry to hear that :( Just goes to show that finding the "right fit" is very important amidst all the different types of therapy out there. I hope you find the right one soon x
The best therapist that you could possibly imagine,is always there for you,no matter what time day or night it is.There is one condition though…you must be 100% truthful at all times. Now you’re ready to speak to the therapist.just go to the nearest mirror and you will find them. PATIENT HEAL THYSELF!!!
My wife and I got our marriage counselor recommended to us from a pastor. The guy hit on my wife and tried to break up our marriage instead of save it. My sister works in the psychology field. Her advice for finding someone good: pay cash. She says basically anyone good gets referrals word of mouth and eventually stop dealing with insurance companies. She told me she only got one semester in college to learn about emotional and behavioral disorders. Chances are most professionals are going to be ill-equipped to handle real problems. My advice, after being misdiagnosed as bipolar for three decades and having zero successes from ANY therapist, counselor, psychologist or psychiatrists: Watch Therapy in a Nutshell and dig deeper into the concepts by visiting the library. If all professionals were as well-rounded and educational as our host here, we'd all be golden. Few appear to be. Not once, in 30 years of seeking help for my anxiety, did any professional ever suggest it could be diet related. Not once was the concept of core beliefs / schemas brought up or discussed. Not once was the most basic ideas of eastern philosophy ever brought up. Not once was I ever educated on how the brain functions, how our physiology comes into play. The absolute closest any ever got was recommending "Feeling Good" for me to read, which is the old core reference for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Oh, and DO NOT make the mistake of thinking your primary care physician knows ANYthing about the drugs he prescribes. Most don't know a barbiturate from a benzo from an SSRI and just prescribe freely without thinking or doing any due diligence into the patient's previous medical history (like "Have you ever had a bad experience on a benzo before?"). Lastly, don't look for a therapist to have someone listen to you vent for an hour a week. Find one who can educate you. With education comes new perspectives (and exposure of our internalized negative perspectives). That's where you'll heal from. Venting is basically just reinforcing your negative perspective (although it certainly is cathartic to be heard and recognized, something we don't often get enough of in life).
Very helpful, thank you. ❤️ I really find so much value to my life from your videos. Understanding better my struggles and learning about what others may be going through - it's really be a huge "tool in my toolbox" the last couple of years. The world is a stressful place. Thank you very much. 🫂💕
My employer's EAP has been a lifesaver. They offer five free sessions per year "per issue" (so you can get more than five per year if they're for separate things), and you can also get an immediate one-off session with a therapist by phone whenever you want. When I had a crisis in my personal life, didn't sleep all night, and didn't know how I was going to make it through the following workday, the therapist walked me through some breathing exercises to get myself back under control. There's a definite focus on making sure your mental health challenges don't cause you to miss too much work - which on the one hand can be a little creepy, but on the other hand is the main reason the employer has the incentive to pay for the benefit.
That's awesome, what a great employer to give such good benefits!
@@TherapyinaNutshell Definitely a great employer, but the EAP is one of the most underutilized benefits - whether it's because people don't know about it, forget that it's there, are afraid to try it, or what. Thanks for signal-boosting EAPs!
@@TherapyinaNutshell I wouldn't listen to you if you were the last person on earth !
I don't take women having kids back to back seriously....bye 🖐
I just can't justify paying a dude 100 bucks an hour to complain about being poor, while he checks his watch and updates his golf plans in Bali.
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I paid $115 for thirty minutes
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The only way therapist get paid is through the money through their clients session and that is it. They also spend alot of year providing therapy for free during their masters program and they do not get paid.
@@lilamontoya5609omg my first appt was 135$. I gave up. I’m just gonna self destruct.
@@michellehanes8136wow that makes me want to spend 400 a month on therapy thanks!
I’m so glad you made a video about this, even though it doesn’t apply as well to other countries. I got my science degree in psychology & neuroscience and probably because of that, I find a lot of issues within the mental health care system. In Europe and in Asia. People who are really ill and need help are either put on a long waiting list or just can’t get any help even if they want to. A lot of people talk about reaching out for professional help, but what they don’t get is that it’s simply not possible for a lot of ppl. Especially when you suffer from a severe form of mental illness and it’s so debilitating you can’t even work to support yourself financially. Personally I’ve been in an acute psych ward 3 times. And because of my medical records I can’t get any insurance policy to cover my medical bills.
So sorry to hear how hard it's been to find treatment, I hope that at the least, you can use your education to help yourself develop skills that support you.
I’m so sorry to hear the struggles you’ve had. I had a friend with dissociative identity disorder. He struggled to advocate for himself. My insurance won’t pay for speech therapy so I am going to try and get a second job so I can pay for it myself.
I have two sons with pure OCD. I had to pay out of pocket for my youngest. She had a full caseload but agreed to take him on. After just two sessions he is doing so well!!! As you probably know, the therapist HAS to be specialized in this area of mental illness to be effective. It was the best $400 I ever spent!!! My other son is reading a book that she recommended and it is helping him. I am offering him the same help as his younger brother when or if he feels like he needs it. You can’t put a price on quality of life. Thanks so much for sharing all of these options!!! I have another son who was a heroin addict from the time he was 17 until he was 24. All he had was MediCal and it was a constant struggle to get him the help he needed. He did have some times of sobriety that I am so grateful for. He and his wife and daughter were sadly killed in a plane crash in 2018. I am so grateful to have good health insurance to help me heal from this situation. Please pray for my 5 surviving children as they are all struggling with mental health issues now. Thanks I’m advance🙏🏼❤️
😂😂 So glad I had sense enough not to have kids ‼️
I suffer from brain fog, aphasia, tremors, etc. I truly felt like I was losing my mind. I had to advocate for myself for over 18 months going through multiple doctors and insurance denials. It was so hard to keep pushing especially against those in "authority" - like doctors. I was finally referred to a neuropsychologist who demonstrated some areas of cognitive function were "working" poorly for me. I started crying when I finally had someone acknowledge that I wasn't losing my mind. It was also such a relief to find there were specific areas I could target to help until I can find a counselor to help me. In the past I have read Dr. David Burns' book: Feeling Good. It really has helped me.
Thank you Emma, your videos have helped me so much. I love the classes you offer and am working to actively apply what I have learned.
That’s interesting. What were things that they do and how has it helped? Also, I’m sorry that you had to go through that?
Glad you liked Dr. Burns' book and that you've been able to find some help from my classes, keep learning!
How are you now??
@@faisalbi1330 it’s only been a week and a half. It’s too early. I am trying to keep my CPAP mask on all night. That’s the goal. I’ve downloaded the exercises and go through them multiple times a day. The Dr. also gave me some tips to help with work. I work for 10 bosses and it can be overwhelming. So the tips are frustrating but helpful. Like taking full notes not just jotting things down. Plus, I carry a pad of paper all day long.
Overall, it truly was a sense of relief when the doctor could definitively prove I was having problems. I once forgot the words “Western Slope” (in Colorado) - it took me two full days to come up with it. I’ve been there 100 times and could NOT pull it out of my brain. Plus, my company is falling all over themselves to accommodate me. My boss noted on my last review - about poor word choice in emails. Now we are trying to come up with alternatives and solutions. She no longer thinks I’m being lazy.
Thanks for this! I’m glad you said what you did about private practice. My sister is in private practice and I feel it’s unfair sometimes when people say she just gets paid $100 to be someone’s friend for an hour. Of course she handles this w grace and doesn’t defend herself but I see “behind the scenes” and how much money she spends on EHR, rent, a receptionist to say nothing of the THOUSANDS of dollars she spend above and beyond required continuing education to be an expert in trauma. Please don’t think that just because you write a check that your therapist takes all that home. Private practice is not subsidized by the govt like some places that can offer lower rates. After under grad, masters degree, post masters classes, 3000 hour internship, collage loans to pay back, malpractice insurance, $100 a month for electronic medical records, internet fee, etc etc etc down to the toilet paper in the bathroom she pays out of her pocket - you are “buying” her focused time and expertise. Personally I know I’ve gotten more out of seeing a specialist private pay than several sessions on my insurance panel. Just wanted to throw that out there.
Bless your sister!
I don’t give a fuck where the money is going I need it to be affordable lmao
I worked at a Counseling Center at a University and was appalled at the lack of respect and confidentiality of the therapists. People kept waiting (with no one in their office), complaints to me on their issues, and wide brush strokes about those who went to the hospital. I used to go to therapy but am very concerned about the quality of folks in my area. That’s why your channel is a godsend!
Ma'am, sometimes, I cant even extract out the list of self help books on my diagnosis; from the therapists. I don't know how to negotiate with them.
@@shabana9923 I’m sorry 😢
Therapy is so expensive that it’s just cheaper for me to die from my thoughts instead. 😂
Thank you so much for this video! I work on a California helpline for youth and parents on the weekends, and often get calls from people having difficulty finding a therapist. Especially those without insurance and low income. I often refer them to some of the resources you mentioned. Also, i bring up your UA-cam channel and get feedback of how much you have helped them. Thank you for what you do. This will be my go to video to share with others! 🙏💕
Thanks so much for the work you do! I'm so grateful for frontline people like you!
I'm in the UK, I have been told recently by a consultant "I cannot refer you for mental health care as there isn't any", so unless you are sectioned you won't get NHS treatment. The charity Mind are useless, I've found a charity to help me but they are students in training and lacked the skills to help me.
Some private therapist are very poor, it's hard to find a good one, I found one but couldn't afford the treatment, (it cost more than my mortgage)
I'm very grateful to the people who post on YT they have helped me so much.
that consultant is lying, i am currently in DBT on the nhs. i was referred last year. i wasn’t sectioned but was put under the crisis team
Thank you.
I needed free therapy after burning my eyes.
Although finding a therapist can be an issue, I don’t think that finding a therapist is as much an issue as finding a competent therapist. I grew up in a wealthy but emotionally traumatic home. My first therapist was when I was 8 or 9. I remained quite dysfunctional almost to the age of 30. The first therapist who could really help me was not a licensed therapist, he was a minister. Later he eventually left the ministry, gained credentials, and is now a practicing therapist. In spite of the education, training, and science involved, the actual practice of effective therapy strikes me as rare.
Canada Correction. "Universal Healthcare" does not necessarily cover mental health. And each province differs in what it covers.
I work with homeless in shelters and there is NO coverage that I can find.
So...just for a fill in I show them Emma's videos instead.
People can be great at self starting. Sometimes just showing them where the road is they can go the rest of the way themselves!
Thanks to Emma for helping all levels of society and countries. No "borders" here!
My university (in Hungary) offers up to 15 free sessions with their own therapists, whom also can take you to their own private practice at a reduced price (50% off) after the initial 15 sessions
It really saved my life.
Can't find any EMDR therapists in all phoenix that take PPO work insurance. All private practice except special insurances. It's like $175-225 per session. Ridiculous!!!
People like you here on UA-cam are my therapists. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
Thanks Steve! ❤
Amen!
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I am in Canada and had various therapists when I could afford a few sessions at roughly $100 each.
When I had my breakdown, a friend found me a private sponsor and recommended an EMDR therapist. In all honesty, she was the only therapist who truly helped me in any great way. But her sessions were $300 each and although I was much improved, after the sponsor pulled the plug (after 1 1/2 years so I'm SO, SO grateful!!!) I couldn't afford to see her again.
I did OK for a few years, but would love to see someone occasionally still as I still tend to fall down the depression hole. . Plus, on my own (I took a 5 hour online class for therapists) I learned that while EMDR therapy is extremely helpful for single incident trauma (like an assault or accident), somatic therapy tends to be more beneficial for someone with Complex PTSD especially when caused by early childhood trauma.
I find it difficult to find a "good" therapist that really understands trauma, and certainly not any that I find affordable.
I do find that UA-cam videos put out by therapists such as yourself are extremely helpful, and open up new ideas to explore via book or online research.
I find that most "cheaper" versions of in person therapy are generally provided by people that quite often have less psychology knowledge than myself. Not trying to sound conceited or anything, it's just that after almost 40 years of therapy sessions, books, and various classes, I've learned a fair amount about what does and doesn't work or resonate with me.
I really identified with your comment, especially the last paragraph. From my own experience, I've come to the conclusion that almost all therapists are trained and/or interested in "short-term" solution focused therapy (like a band-aid for a superficial cut). Only 5-10% of therapists have advanced training/experience/interest in treating people with complex issues.
In addition to this channel, I also like Uncommon Knowledge and Uncommon Practitioners (same company does both channels).
In Australia we get to choose who we want, and we get it immediately, and we get 20 free sessions per year. I used to see my guy in the park, because I feel more comfortable in the park. But they will come to your home too, if you don't want to leave. So, if you are Australian go see (you can have a phone appointment) your doctor and you will have a good experience.
They aren’t free , with the medical health care plan you still have to make the difference up and 10 sessions
Certainly not in Queensland.
This Therapy In a Nutshell youtube feature of How To Find A Therapist You Can Afford has some compassionate and helpful information especially the reference to sliding scale feature. This is especially a timely find for me because I am currently in the process of searching for face to face/in person type of counseling/therapy for personal reasons. However the youtube author also honestly sharing which therapy services have a higher caseload are also helpful information, I truly did not know that pro-bono therapy services might be possible (I guess it wouldn't hurt to at least ask). The youtube author is also inspiring me to ask my insurance provider what types of free andor affordable therapy are available. I am happy that the youtube author made this available.
Thank you so much, Emma. You are most assuredly fulfilling your purposes and blessing your brothers and sisters on earth. I am so grateful for your work and this venue. I have referred many people I love to this channel and your wisdom and knowledge. We all appreciate your manner and clarity and the mantle you have been blessed with to reach others. Someone who has been so stuck in their ways for many decades but who wishes to change and heal has recently decided to utilyze your videos... (after me sending them to this person and some encouragement over a year+!) and it is really helping my friend in immeasurable ways! They can't afford the time/money for in person therapy and this work you do is a rope for them to climb from the spot they have been stuck in for so long!
I'm grateful for that because I love my friend so much and my help was not helping!
God bless you!!! And your beautiful family. Thank you again for working so hard to become knowledgeable and to care for others.
Tbh, your videos helped me a lot. I hope you don’t stop making them bc a broke college student needs it a lot!
I live in Toronto, Canada and here psychotherapy is not covered under gov’t (OHIP) medicare. Only MDs, psychiatrists are cover if your lucky get one. There’s long wait lists and they usually don’t do long term therapy only maybe 15 minute appointment for medication script. There is non-profit community centers with gov’t funded but there wait lists, gov’t quotas, bureaucracy etc. Now in the 90s I did have long term psychotherapy with a medical doctor, it wasn’t structured but at least it was some support. Currently I am looking for a therapist again but next to impossible under our so-called “universal” medicare. I will look at your suggestions for low cost therapy. In the meantime Emma your UA-cam videos are helping me a lot, especially your videos on emotions processing and thanks for all you do! 🙂 👍🏽
This video is perfect for me. I'm at this point in my life of searching for long-term therapy outside of my town/city, but don't know where to start, and struggle with income
Yeah, it can be hard to find the right person, but I hope this helps!
@@TherapyinaNutshell You looking very pretty 😍✨❤ in your pregnancy days
@@aarav34590 🤢😝
I just finished watcing your video. the information was helpful, so Thank you! Why is it, therpist don't seem to think seniors having mental health problems is anything more than aging though?? That's not true at all. I have had severe depression and anexity since I was in my 30's and now here I am looking at 65, and all those years, nothing got better, even with medication and therpy when I could afford it. Now I'm on the down side of life, and pretty much, 35 years of my life has been spent in misery anyway. and they wonder why we have such a suicide problem in the world. Not everyone can aford these high cost insurances either. and like you said, if the state is paying your on a list as to when you can possibly be seen anyway. Mental health has to improve for our country, so that anyone suffering, can be seen by a therpist and also be treated.
The one blessing is independent study.
Thank you for being here💖
Thanks Marie!
UK equivalents:
A) Your GP can refer you for 6 free sessions
B ) You can call your local (county) council up about their subsidised counselling sessions if you're in a low income household.
C) The charity "Mind" also do a lot to help people get into counselling sessions.
D) ... Then of course there's Samaritans and other crisis lines if need be.
Awesome! Thanks for sharing those resources!
Thank you, I was wondering about UK options because my partner and I are both really struggling but as a couple, both severely disabled and living on benefits, we just can't afford it. We both already tried what we can get through the gp and found it unhelpful for the kind of needs we both have.
@@gabeangel8104 oh bless you both 💗 I hope you find something to help, whether on this channel or elsewhere
@@HannahRainbow88 thank you
You are a very kind soul. The content you put out is very helpful and informative
I’m fortunate enough to have a place in my town that offers free counseling and therapy to anyone, as long as they have spots available. I live in a small town so it’s a miracle we have a place like that. I use to go one town over and pay $100 per visit plus around $100 for meds on top of that.
That's awesome! And so rare!
$100-$150? A psychiatrist office once wanted $300 for the first session and $200 for each additional session. I literally just hung up the phone.
Live in NZ and also have subsidised healthcare. Doesn’t cover therapy unless you fit a certain criteria. And a huge wait even for crisis situations . No ambulance at the bottom of the cliff any longer.
Calling your insurance company is not helpful. Insurance keeps outdated and inaccurate lists, therapist that dont take the insurance or even numbers that aren’t even therapists, such as lawyers, art dealers, oh the list they gave me. (Medicare and Empire)
The list of EAP given me by my employment was also outdated. One therapist on the list died 2 years ago. Others were no longer EAP or not accepting new clients. Frustrating.
You.are.so.amazing! Thank you for this video, and all your many others! Much love 💗
Yes 😊
I can only get my therapy sessions over the phone no more than once a month. Don’t know if this is the best Kaiser can offer. Thank you for your very informative videos. They are so helpful for me.
You may be able to look out of Kaiser hospital for therapists who accept Kaiser insurance. I go to a therapist outside of Kaiser who accepts the insurance & am able to speak w/ them weekly as opposed
to every 6 weeks if I stayed within the Kaiser network
Thank you for the info. I wasn’t aware that is a possibility. I live in Southern California and will look into it when I can. Having a lot of health issues now.
Yes!!! Can't wait to watch for the free ones 🙏🏼
I think to get enough time with a therapist that has more insight than you could get by reading and ACT book you have to be wealthy. I've just been pirating ACT epubs and working through multiple at a time with a text to speech app set to 150% speed. As well as listening to Steven Hayes and Russ Harris's talks
I am seeing a therapist now for trauma. Unfortunately, after visiting with him for several months (once a week for 40 minutes), I don’t believe he knows much about healing trauma. My insurance is covering it 100% but that doesn’t help me if he can’t help me. How does one go about finding the “right” therapist. I’ve been at a loss as I’ve never seen a therapist in my life. I’m 51. Thanks, Emma!
I'm from the uk & the NHS therapy is rubbish to be honest & it's not saying anything bad about the actual therapist. It's just their protocol. I had 30 mins once every 2 weeks. The first 15 mins of every session started with am I going to kill myself or am I going to hurt anyone else. I spent 15 mins answering no to these questions. I get the questions are needed for some situations but not mine. I'm not suicidal nor am I a problem to anyone else. So I had 15 mins every 2 weeks basically my therapist agreeing with me yes I should be worried my resdons are valid to be worried.
To be honest for me (anxiety) I've managed to help myself due to you actually. Just by learning to identify my anxiety to start with & learning how to process things. It hadn't "fixed me" but I've managed to accept a few things & still on my journey learning to accept all of it & decide what I want to change & what should be left the way it is for the beauty of what it is. To learn to change the way I think that actually life isn't great all of the time & I shouldn't have such high expectations to protect myself & my kids from everything. It's out of my control I can't. So exposure handled in the correct manner is ok.
My advise to anyone who can't afford therapy is to look deep within your self & journal! Are you safe in the current moment & if you are you are in a place to process. Go through the problem & don't try to go round It. Avoidance has been a huge trigger for me. Awful things happen when they are least deserved. But as long as your out of it you can process through it. Xxx
Yeah, my last (council/subsidised) counsellor was the wrong fit entirely and actually all he - and just plain "talk therapy" - did was trigger me more! ... I still miss my secondary school shrink - best therapist I've ever seen! She actually helped me with exercises like drawing out my issues on paper and made life SO MUCH easier to cope with. (I've almost got my ASD diagnosis now, after 4.5years in progress! - The joys of comorbid depression, anxiety and sensory processing issues COMBINED with multiple traumas 🤦♀️).
Hi how r u now please reply me
@@faisalbi1330 going through anxiety again. I got over it for a while. Eating breakfast helps
@@HannahRainbow88 hi how are you now?
@@el-bk6tw wish how body heal and repair brain does same repair it self
Emma thank you for putting this video together!
Thank you so much. My daughter is about to age out of our insurance and needs to find a new therapist. This was VERY helpful
I'd like to go to a support group, but I don't think they exist in the UK.
Yea...found a practice with excellent reviews. Reached out to make an appointment and they are backlogged by 3 to 5 months. Then they referred me to city services which have horrible reviews 😒
This is very educational and I learned a lot
I love your videos! You are a pro! 😍 It would be so great to hear you talk about chronic illness/ chronic pain and psychological health. Thank you for all you do! 💛🧡❤️
Thank you so much Emma for everything you do. I hope you stay healthy and well. I have a question: Can free therapy benefit?
Honestly, even with good insurance in the US, it seems like all the good and competent therapists already have full caseloads and aren't accepting new patients. I've been trying to find a therapist for over a year. Have tried 6 different people, and none of them did anything useful for me. Just told me to try reading self help books, one told me to try prayer (after I told her I was atheist), one went into some kind of MAGA Karen anti-China rant in the middle of our 2nd session, when I said I needed help dealing with pandemic-related anxiety. After those 6 failures, I asked my primary care for a referral, she gave me 4 names and none were accepting new patients, except an out of network guy who charges $200 per session.
I'm sorry it's so hard! It really is difficult to find a good therapist, I wish it weren't
Do what I did. Instead of seeking a professional, just TRY TO BE the professional. Read everything and anything you can about psychology and physiology and cognitive science. Read up on diet, drugs and supplements and how they play in the brain's chemistry (if for no other reason than to understand just how delicate the chemical balance is in the brain). Read up on some Buddhist philosophies and start meditating (if for no other reason to prove to yourself that neuroplasticity is real). Read up on ANYthing that might be related. My solution turned out to be three different solutions, and you are NOT going to get all three from your average therapist, you'll probably only get one.
My issues and solutions:
* Anxiety - turns out I'm highly sensitive to MSG. 30 years of ramen packets = 30 years of bipolar-like behavior (without the fun of any real mania)
* Depression - GREATLY reduced one the anxiety was dealt with, but also helped with meditation and mindfulness and by training my brain to stop focusing on the negative (which the brain is designed to do, and learning cog sci helped me not feel guilty about my brain behaving normally. I wasn't defective because I was negative, I'd just never learned to turn off the switch because nobody every told me there was a switch I had access to).
* Anger - reading up on abuse and narcissism got me to recognize much of my anger was based on fears and past trauma
* core beliefs - Americanized eastern philosophies did wonders for giving me a different perspective on life. "The Power of Now" and "Subtler Art of Not Giving a F*ck" took me from living the past and the future into living in the moment. Lots of other core beliefs stemmed from childhood neglect and abuse, and for those I was able to dig, dig, dig just like I would have with a good shrink. E.G. I caught myself not wanting to loan a CD to somebody and asked myself why. My mother. Who would give away or sell my toys. I've always been extremely protective of my possessions. Never thought to wonder why until I got in the habit of it
* Behavior - I used to 'put it all out there' (like I'm not now? LOL). Somewhere along the line I got well enough to not need external validation (or as much of it), and somewhere along the line I started to recognize (and be embarrased) by behavior I formerly saw as justified. Yes, I was indeed justified. That doesn't mean it's productive behavior that will retain relationships, etc. Much of the stuff I read dealt with internal changes, but those internal changes can bring about behavior changes. And a lot of what I read dealt with behaviors, too. I started recognizing unhealthy behaviors, which allowed me to identified what beliefs were driving them, and I could fix those beliefs or adjust my behavior
* Trust and forgiveness - Meditation and awareness. Understanding that the brain lies to it's owner helps one forgive others for unintentional falsehoods. Looking into narcissism alongside cog sci allowed me to recognize (despite how things are presented on other channels) that 1) narcissism is simply the opposite coping mechanism to co-dependency and 2) ALL people exhibit narc traits and ALL of us gas-light each other to degrees (it can happen a lot in arguments and be 100% unintentional). The facts of reality helped me forgive others. And focused meditation helped me reinforce this new perspective directly.
I went about all this because I kept finding such loser professionals I wanted to know enough that I could quickly screen then and not waste weeks discerning if they were up to the task. Once I got into it, my self-education snowballed. Eventually I didn't need someone else in the room to help me dig into myself, because I started doing all the work on myself a good shrink would do on me. And on the occasion I did need someone's aid, I have a couple friends who can be totally honest with me.
@@AndrewLewisHowetoo long
@@sethtenrecThat's what she said...
Therapy mantra also provides the best therapy sessions
***Important clarification! I work in the public schools in US. We can do evaluations looking for educational impacts of mental health concerns, but CANNOT DIAGNOSE mental health disorders. But, you don't need a diagnosis to pursue 504 or IEP plan whichever if appropriate. Ask for help, access what they offer, and good luck!
Thanks for the clarification!
@@TherapyinaNutshell You worded it really well, I just have a lot of experience with this. We are so happy to help, but have limitations.
I'm seriously in need of a psychiatrist. 😭 I'm suffering from Bidy Dismorphic disorder. I'm feeling nervous, my brain aches when I hear that someone is coming in my house. I feel like dying/ suicidal tendency 😭 I just wanna die before meeting new people. I wanna live a good life but I can't. Please help me.
im from Toronto canada and the mental health services here are super inaccessible and dreadful. my depression and anxiety starting in September 2021 and got rly bad in december 2021. And now it’s amplifying again and I spoke to a psychiatrist at CAMH and their response was very invalidating and offered no solutions besides to continue what im doing which is seeing a counsellor offered in my community. i think the one misconception ab mental health is that ppl who r high functioning or “productive” are assumed to be healthy and don’t have mental illness. this is absolutely false bc i performed at my very best academically and i have an internship lined up for me in the summer (don’t get me wrong, im very proud of my accomplishments despite the emotional adversity I faced) and many of my friends who are doing well in school r depressed and in the same boat as me. it’s sad bc we need to take mental health more seriously and realize that most ppl know themselves and what they need better than most therapists, psychiatrists, doctors, etc. I’ve done CBT and went to my school counselling bc I can’t afford private therapy as I’m saving to move out from my toxic family but if anyone has any advice, pls lmk. I have practiced grounding/breathing techniques, meditation, and journaling to help as well
It sucks living in a rural area where there’s nothing within 40 mins.
How do you know if you actually going to find a GOOD therapist? When struggling so bad with depression an anxiety sometimes it can be difficult to go therapist looking. If we could all find therapist that takes there job as importantly as you. That would be a blessing. But with my experience it seems I don't have the best experience with therapist that even care to engage much. Idk. Hopefully by you putting up these videos. It will show therapist to take there jobs more seriously. Sorry I'm not so debbie downer normally
I've had the exact same experience. None of the therapists seemed interested in doing any actual therapy with me and just tell me to read self help books
So sorry to hear of your experience, I do tell people to shop around- but I know that process can be really difficult.
hi my problem is i feel like i tried all the techniques i listened to a lot of videos that could help me with anxiety but still i still feel it. sometimes these techniques will help me deal with anxiety for 2 months but then I go back to baseline and break down. now I have lost my hope. the feeling of heaviness on the chest paralyzes me and I miss myself from a year ago, for a very relaxed person. I want to live without it:(( like before
Sad part is the people that need therapy the most can’t afford it or don’t know where to look.
Excellent Tips, Emma....🕊... If I may, from a "Patients" point of view I'd add one additional tip which I found to be the most important: 'Listen to your Gut/brain'. 🧠 ...... If you're looking for a therapist you're most likely at an extremely Vulnerable time in your life....that vulnerability caused by any number of issues. Following a Stroke (no fun at all) my GP, a male, sent me in search of a good Psychologist. I was VERY fortunate in that I was able to immediately connect with one of the best in the Country. Emma would know her name. :) However, after a move across the country I discovered that keeping my Mind comfortable was no simple task. I immediately discovered that I couldn't/didn't get along with Male Docs. (I tried 3). I left #3 after 5 minutes of the first session, called Doc #1 and asked for her advice. "Rich, other Males were quite probably a major reason for your stroke". She and I both already knew that...but I sought confirmation. Any thoughts Doctor Emma? 🙏🏼
thank you i need a therapy
It is all so complicated.......finding good mental health help is nearly impossible. My offer for an appointment with someone is 2 months out. Not helpful, not worth whatever my insurance is paying for it. What about people who have no insurance? HAHA...my church pretty much was a pit.
Really helpful
In Germany you must write over 30~40 emails to different therapists and institutions and stay in long waiting list and in the end you may not find a place. I had first meetings with several therapists and everytime they said I should keep looking elsewhere because they have no vacant place. I finally gave up. I can't do it for years.
So sorry to hear that, is that true with all therapists or just the ones paid for by the government?
I’m having the same problem in the us. I have called so many places and nobody has vacancies. The waitlist never comes through
@@TherapyinaNutshell actually I have no idea how it is with private therapists, because I can't afford it. Germany has a good health insurance and one tends to stick with the doctors payable by insurance.
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I didn't quite get that resource that lists your favorite books. Please could you list it? Thanks.
It isn’t really possible to say therapy is available on the NHS (UK national health), the service is technically there but extremely hard to access. And it’s a bit of a postcode lottery too. Most people don’t have health insurance so therapy is often limited to those that can afford it. I’ve been fortunate to find a Christian charity who are offering it at a reduced rate if you can’t afford full rate.
Good to know! I knew there were many limitations to NHS, but it's also not my country so I didn't want to make assumptions. I don't know what the solution is to the problem- but I know it's not easy to get help anywhere...
🙏🏽 thanks
Sad I can’t afford to help myself
Wow I never knew who to contact to find someone. It took me so long to find someone who took my insurance. I want to thank you so much for this video.
U mean like mental therapy ? Well if that so , then you can find best therapist gurus in the world , just for Free on UA-cam jjj....and tbh they really share their best , I mean I learnt a lot from two great women who specialise in that area ; they weren't scarce at all in giving and sharing their valuable infos ! 💯 I think das about it in d future...every study will turn up digital my dear (same thing as u doing r.n honey ) ! 😃🤙
Great job
I am dealing with a friend who stole my stuff (like beds etc)? Is there a way to deal with this so that the relationship is repaired justly?
Emma Please Please Please reply, I am actually currently struggling with anxiety about sleep (fear whether I will fall sleep today or not) , I am obsessing that what will happen tonight, my stress response is reduced but still not completely gone, I am proceeding by acceptance but to complete emotion processing cycle, I should act, how I act in this case? Please reply I am currently feeling stuck at the moment, sometimes get feeling that whether I will get better or not. Please 🙏 reply
Hi Emma. First time commenting on one of your videos! Just wondering what happened to the "How To Be Happy (Part 2)" video that was posted earlier today, which seems to have disappeared. 🤷♂️
I’m on a 2 year wait backlog.
That's so sad...I'm sorry to hear that
Is LOA valid?
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Bless you too!
If this is "affordable" therapy in the us, I can understand why people are struggling so much. And we really need to have a real conversation about how even in countries with free therapy, it's usually very bad. And a lot of it is bc the universities themselves are not doing their jobs, but there are other problems as well. Anyway, I don't like the click baity tittle of this video, bc there are so many people like me who are desperate for affordable therapy, and really need it, and seeing this makes me feel more hopeless. But I understand it's a sponsored video and I know it will help a lot of people. It's just that there are even more who are sinking far bellow with no options, and I wish we could change that
I didn’t make this video for my sponsor. I made this video to address the reality of finding therapy in the US. There are options. None are ideal. But there are options.
She doesn’t even take new clients so she’s not pushing any agenda other than resources to help people 🤷🏻♂️
@@TherapyinaNutshell Sorry if my comment sounded rude, I didn't mean to criticize the video itself and I really appreciate your work. I'm just struggling at the moment, not only because of my situation but bc I've been witnessing a lot of people going through the same thing. Even people who can afford psychologists sometimes end up with bad ones because of the lack of education and I've also seen neurodivergent people who had to give up university because every time they raised concerns about outdated information they were shutdown and it felt pointless. That's why I mentioned the university thing.
It's kind of a systemic issue, and I don't know how we could possibly fix it. So I wish more people talked about it. I know there are options, and maybe I'm being pessimistic, but I'm thinking about people who can't afford it. And the amount of undertrained professionals. I'm from Brasil and we have free therapy here, but it's very difficult to get it and it's almost always very flawed, for many, many reasons. So really, it's a huge issue. And one that I don't think can be solved simply by making therapy a little cheaper.
But again, my intention really wasn't to complain about the videos. I think one of the few good things that actually works is people like you, who make knowledge free and available for all in the internet. It literally saves lives. And I'm very thankful for that.
Love watching your videos and how honest a person you are!!! Thank you Emma for your help.
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What to do if you live in India? How to get free therapy?
Thank you for being my online therapist. You help so many on here.
hi im under 13 and need a therapist my parents wont listen to me how can i get that without paying anything
i cant talk to anyone the counselor doesnt allow me to talk about alot issues i have cuz theyll call my parents
God Bless you!!!
I am not a Dr but I know how I feel
Is it a good field to go into? It's apparent we need more therapists that are actually doing their job.
It's rough. I really can't afford it. Then if you talk openly about suicidal ruminating, they try and get you in the hospital. After ten sessions about painful memories and trying to convince me I'm actually ok even though I have been clinically diagnosed with depression, I'm in $1000 before I can really tell how the fit is between the therapist and I. I need help. Lost me through the cracks. Healthcare of all kinds are not just expensive, they're overpriced.
You looking very pretty 😍✨❤ in your pregnancy days
Thanks for the video I lerned a lot. You are a religious person. I am not but you say very often about the goods absolut pray. I am curious to know what in the brain 🧠 Happens. Wouldn’t like to make a video about it or have u a recommendation for previous videos. Like to hear something. Have a good day
Ps autocorrect’s are not always cool hahahahah
can therapy help with an obbsession with a man that doesnt know u exist and u want to fuck him so bad and hes like 20 and im not that age and i need help its getting worse
First of all Emma, congratulations, I was born on June9th, 1987! Second of all I’ve seen Counselors in my past,and it’s just been a circle with them and I’m not very honest with them at all, and I lie to them as well! Valerie
Everything
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Sorry UK one
Emma, you're an absolute Godsend, thank you!!! 💗 Your videos & exercises have helped me immensely - my last counsellor actually triggered me WAY more instead of helping - so I can't thank you enough for helping me get back to my usual range again, even despite the pandemic!👏 Thank you for restoring my faith in therapy, and in myself to keep working at it.
Thanks Hannah! I'm so glad you found it helpful!
My last counselor triggered me too …. Thanks for sharing that. I haven’t been back to therapy since then.
@@angela1serenity I'm sorry to hear that :( Just goes to show that finding the "right fit" is very important amidst all the different types of therapy out there. I hope you find the right one soon x
Better help should be free.
Can you just be my therapist? 😁
The best therapist that you could possibly imagine,is always there for you,no matter what time day or night it is.There is one condition though…you must be 100% truthful at all times.
Now you’re ready to speak to the therapist.just go to the nearest mirror and you will find them.
PATIENT HEAL THYSELF!!!
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This tutorial sucks it wanted me to play 40 million
My wife and I got our marriage counselor recommended to us from a pastor. The guy hit on my wife and tried to break up our marriage instead of save it.
My sister works in the psychology field. Her advice for finding someone good: pay cash. She says basically anyone good gets referrals word of mouth and eventually stop dealing with insurance companies. She told me she only got one semester in college to learn about emotional and behavioral disorders. Chances are most professionals are going to be ill-equipped to handle real problems.
My advice, after being misdiagnosed as bipolar for three decades and having zero successes from ANY therapist, counselor, psychologist or psychiatrists: Watch Therapy in a Nutshell and dig deeper into the concepts by visiting the library. If all professionals were as well-rounded and educational as our host here, we'd all be golden. Few appear to be.
Not once, in 30 years of seeking help for my anxiety, did any professional ever suggest it could be diet related. Not once was the concept of core beliefs / schemas brought up or discussed. Not once was the most basic ideas of eastern philosophy ever brought up. Not once was I ever educated on how the brain functions, how our physiology comes into play. The absolute closest any ever got was recommending "Feeling Good" for me to read, which is the old core reference for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Oh, and DO NOT make the mistake of thinking your primary care physician knows ANYthing about the drugs he prescribes. Most don't know a barbiturate from a benzo from an SSRI and just prescribe freely without thinking or doing any due diligence into the patient's previous medical history (like "Have you ever had a bad experience on a benzo before?").
Lastly, don't look for a therapist to have someone listen to you vent for an hour a week. Find one who can educate you. With education comes new perspectives (and exposure of our internalized negative perspectives). That's where you'll heal from. Venting is basically just reinforcing your negative perspective (although it certainly is cathartic to be heard and recognized, something we don't often get enough of in life).
Very helpful, thank you. ❤️
I really find so much value to my life from your videos. Understanding better my struggles and learning about what others may be going through - it's really be a huge "tool in my toolbox" the last couple of years. The world is a stressful place. Thank you very much. 🫂💕