This is so relatable 🤗 Someone once told me - self-care/balance is not better time management. It is better boundary management. Self-care/Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices. XOXO
I love your guys’ talks on UA-cam. Perfect to see your facial expressions, etc. and not just a podcast like everyone else. You two are already NOT failing by being able to get through all of those meetings 😆
I also love watching people rather than 'just' listening (although I also love podcasts hehe) ps thats my whole point, us getting through these meetings just shows I need to reset my priorities straight! ;D
I dont write goals anymore. Used to do that few years back, but I am a person that likes to procrastinate, and then when I look the list in August, almost none of them is started, or I've started and quited... I feel a bit disappointed at myself. So now I am ,,go with the flow". I plan two-three months in advance, whatever serves me life I am here for it.
I love this video. I can't imagine not seeing you two (three) every day soon. You are my highlight of the day and I enjoy it so much. Thank you for sharing all these thoughts and experiences with us. The videos in which you simply talk are my favorites.
I love you guys so much!! I’m so glad I get to watch you grow as a person and professionally . Your hard work will DEFINITELY pays off. Keep staying positive. Happy to be part of this journey! ❤
One of the best and genuine content creators in this space... Xenia you are so so smart, I love your approach to things. Last video was great, I love how raw and honest it was. You guys are awesome! 😍☺☺ Have a wonderful Christmas you guys !!!
Such an interesting conversation! While I cannot help with goal setting one tip you might find helpful is when you are feeling in fight or flight (hyper arousal) stress mode then if you take a few deep breaths while wiggling your fingers and toes at the same time. It will bring you back into balanced ventral vagal state. If you feel sleepy when you do that, it means you are in hypo aroused state which is frezze or fawn ( people pleasing) stress response. If that is the case you need to get active or angry to bring yourself back into balance. Hope that helps 🙂
I love love love you guys 🤍 and I also struggle with setting goals / establishing new habits and will instead google the shit out of it hahaha on how to organize or manifest best or stop procrastinating etc. And after having wanted to do my vision board for over a month now, I finally felt like doing it today only to stumble across this video where u talk about goals for 2024, so funny 😅
I love these vlogs, your thoughts are so interesting and it is so inspiring what you have already achieved and that you are still so eager to keep going! Please keep posting on UA-cam 🥰 it’s already lovely even if you guys just sit there and talk to the camera! Jürgen ist absolutely hilarious! What is the best Bluetooth box in his opinion haha?
I literally think I haven't even started yet!!!! Like I don't think I have achieved anything, and then I need to stop, relax and reflect, that I don't start from scratch, because many times it feels like it :D thank you for your sweet words! Jürgens favourite is Bose :)
I do set goals, write them down and plan me-time for e.g. sports, friends, reading books or painting. I have yearly goals, break them down to monthly goals and weekly goals. I think THE most important thing is: the moment something urgent comes up, you should not add it to your to do list but replace another to do. Prioritize. This way you keep your me-time and reach your overall goals. The thing is: it is goals and it is great to reach most of them. But nobody will die if you miss two or three yearly goals, especially when you solved another Problem instead. Be gentle with yourself, have patience and question yourself every week. Did you get some me-time or did you put a ton of extra work in it?
Angel, you have not fail. You are an extremely hard worker. One thing that is important due to my experience in that life is too short . Always make time for you and your love ones , set yourself time during the day to at least walk outside, call a love one or do something for yourself. You will burn and you are so young. Your business will be there but only if you are healthy. Muahhhhhh love you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Ich bin Fan von eurem Vlogmas ❤ !! So viele Dinge, die du über dich Preis gibst Xenia, hab ich bei mir selber beobachtet. Ich hab Jahre dafür gebraucht bis ich Antworten gefunden habe, warum ich manchmal so social exhausted bin, obwohl ich sooo ne soziale Ader habe. Das mit dem Überarbeiten kommt mir auch sehr bekannt vor. Leider hab ich einen sehr hohen Preis dafür bezahlen müssen, dass ich da nicht früher auf meine Intuition gehört habe - deswegen ist es gut dass du so sensibel und reflektiert bist und die Signale wahrnimmst. Nicht Schlafen zu können hat oftmals mit einem sehr hohen Stresslevel zu tun. Heute helfen mir dabei vor 10 Uhr ins Bett zu gehen, Magnesium Glycanite (nicht Threonate 😂), L-Thryptophan (hilft meine 1000 Gedanken zu bändigen) und Ashwagandha…schau dir die Wirkstoffe doch mal genauer an. Ich wünsche dir, dass du über die Festtage einen Gang runter schalten und so richtig tief schlafen kannst. Liebe Grüsse 🫶🏻 Liebe Grüsse nach Deutschland 🫶🏻
Kenne alle supplements die du erwähnt hast, ich mache eine neue Bestellung, habe die länger nicht genommen und wenn du sagst, dass sie dir helfen (: I wanna try again!! Finde es schön, dass du es in griff bekommen hast!!! I am on my way
🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 this one was deep ! I agree we are in this era of hyper efficiency. Few days ago I was thinking same why December is so stressful and busy for alll 😮😂
Btw the way your feeling of over working yourself and feeling over whelmed I FEEL THE SAME and have been feeling like this for this past year of overwhelmness with life. I hope this comment makes you feel better and not alone.
Read the book- four thousand weeks. Life is t about optimizing time and cramming more stuff in, it’s about cutting as much out as possible so you can be wholly present for the stuff that really matters :)
You’re irreplaceable. Your health is your wealth, please take care of yourselves. While we enjoy your creativity, we don’t want you to kill yourselves for us. I set goals but rely on my intuition and what my mother used to say, “Listen to your body, it speaks to you!”.
I honestly think I didn't bring my point across enough because we were DEVOURING like animals hahahahaha now it makes me laugh too and I'll never forget her face, it was more pity than embarrassment but my god!!! How old are we! :D
Do you think you could talk a little bit about how you journal? Eg if you use prompts, or what types of things you write about each evening. I’m trying to build the habit but feel like I end up just writing a to do list! ❤
Omg I fucking relate to that so deeply. why do I also feel like its an aquarius thing? why do we overwork/burnout so easily? it truly is an addiction and love/hate relationship with passion and work ✨
Only way goal setting has worked for me is with the Productivity Method by Grace Beverly. I am very ADHD and this planner (also online version) really have helped me keeping me accountable and actually stick to them. Because otherwise i also only just plan and never pull through with them fully… Also yeah the December crazies are real. Wishing u nothing but the best, hope ur 2024 is filled with better structures for you and lots of energy and good books
To improve your managing planing and project organisation you "must have" a priority "pyramid/rainbow board". Since you are very visual instead of writing, trying to include drawing perhaps? Your talent is creativity and your forte is to express it. Sometimes when we got very exciting projects, our enthusiasm only focus on the present and your adrenaline energised you and might blur your reality, therefore having your priority charts on hand while doing meetings is important, and also your go to: pro and cons lists and questions. There are so many ways to managing your organisation skills, although without knowing your priority and testing different methods each times can be exhausting, time wasting and overwhelming. The art of efficiency and organisation, especially in business is knowing your priority, stick to it as your primary needs like eat and sleep. I hope this helps ✨,🙏 Good luck!
Heey Xenia! Can you talk a bit more about that part, where you said you felt "electrified" probably from anxiety? Also, I love your videos, they are the most real and interesting! ❤
Well first of all I love you hello!!! Second of all, I really don't know what it was but it felt like I had a very subtle electrical energy inside of me which wouldn't go away. Basically Anxiety but really physical and very intense. I ended up going to the emergency room and they checked everything and all was fine... I think it was because of exhaustion :(
Jurgen can you please share your favorite bluetooth box please? I have a marshall with the built in google which i really like especially because its aesthetically pleasing but i think there may be something better out there as well.
@@xeniaadonts lol thanks!! and for home ? I also love learning about technology and what other people love, Jurgen you should make your own youtube channel about this LOL
Ich liebe euch 2 so sehr 😭😭😭 Vor ein paar Jahren wurdest du, Xenia, mir auf meiner for-you vorgeschlagen. Ich habe deinen content schon gefühlt, aber diese vlogmas Videos 😭 ich freue mich jeden Tag aufs neue, eure Videos zu schauen. Sie inspirieren mich so sehr. Ihr seid beide so besondere Menschen, habt so wunderschöne Ansichten und habt einen unfassbar tiefgründigen Charakter. Ich bin so dankbar, Teil der UA-cam Community zu sein. Gestern hatte ich einen schönen Moment: mein Freund und ich waren auf dem Weihnachtsmarkt. Eins kam zum anderen und wir sind erst viel später als geplant dort angekommen. Menschen versammelten sich und haben auf das Rathaus in unserer Stadt geschaut. Wir haben uns dazugestellt und auf einmal standen 10 Engel an den Fenstern des Rathauses und haben gesungen und Orgel gespielt. Ich musste einfach weinen. Im Moment bin ich in einem hamsterrad aus Uni und Arbeit gefangen. Die Wochen vergehen und ich bin im Dauerstress. Aber diese Situation hat mich daran erinnert, dass wir leben. Wir leben und atmen. Das Leben ist so schön und ich bin richtig dankbar dafür, gerade diese Phase meines Lebens durchzumachen. Ich merke wie ich wachse und ich inspiriere mich irgendwie auch selber.
haha I wish it was so easy!! we have tried but also he’s very similar to me so we simply need stronger support by somebody who’s strong suit is time management and organization 😊 but also we’re learning as we go! this shouldn’t stay a big problem forever!!
I was diagnosed in May of last year! It's honestly pretty obvious so I wasn't surprised but I did decide against medication, the psychiatrist said that my ADHD is worse when my anxiety gets worse so if I manage my anxiety my ADHD is pretty well manageable. Generally I love how my brain works and I don't want to interfere with that ;D it just gets hard when my anxiety is bad and I don't sleep etc. But PERSONALLY I don't want to rely on medication and I don't want to interfere with my brain chemistry, even though I don't think anything bad about medication. What's your experience??
The way he looks at you when you talk. That’s pure love✨
💘💘💘
This is so relatable 🤗 Someone once told me - self-care/balance is not better time management. It is better boundary management. Self-care/Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices. XOXO
WHOA!!!!! Powerful!!!!
I love your guys’ talks on UA-cam. Perfect to see your facial expressions, etc. and not just a podcast like everyone else. You two are already NOT failing by being able to get through all of those meetings 😆
I also love watching people rather than 'just' listening (although I also love podcasts hehe) ps thats my whole point, us getting through these meetings just shows I need to reset my priorities straight! ;D
This conversation is soo relatable and honest. It’s nice to hear about the struggles and the real work that goes into everything. ❤️💚❤️💚
Oh there is so much more to come!!!
I dont write goals anymore. Used to do that few years back, but I am a person that likes to procrastinate, and then when I look the list in August, almost none of them is started, or I've started and quited... I feel a bit disappointed at myself.
So now I am ,,go with the flow". I plan two-three months in advance, whatever serves me life I am here for it.
I genuinely believe this is SUCH a healthy approach!
I love this video. I can't imagine not seeing you two (three) every day soon. You are my highlight of the day and I enjoy it so much. Thank you for sharing all these thoughts and experiences with us. The videos in which you simply talk are my favorites.
I am so happy to hear :) I also love conversational vlogs! I hope that we will manage to step up to 2 videos a week in the new year :)
I love you guys so much!! I’m so glad I get to watch you grow as a person and professionally . Your hard work will DEFINITELY pays off. Keep staying positive. Happy to be part of this journey! ❤
Love u!!!!! thank you for your sweet words of encouragement
One of the best and genuine content creators in this space... Xenia you are so so smart, I love your approach to things. Last video was great, I love how raw and honest it was. You guys are awesome! 😍☺☺ Have a wonderful Christmas you guys !!!
i loooooooooove u!!!
Such an interesting conversation! While I cannot help with goal setting one tip you might find helpful is when you are feeling in fight or flight (hyper arousal) stress mode then if you take a few deep breaths while wiggling your fingers and toes at the same time. It will bring you back into balanced ventral vagal state. If you feel sleepy when you do that, it means you are in hypo aroused state which is frezze or fawn ( people pleasing) stress response. If that is the case you need to get active or angry to bring yourself back into balance. Hope that helps 🙂
I love this!!! I will try!!! Been in hyper arousal for way too long now....
@@xeniaadonts Awww. At least you realise it. Let us know how it goes. Projectors do need more rest than generators or mani gens. Honor it 🙂
I love love love you guys 🤍 and I also struggle with setting goals / establishing new habits and will instead google the shit out of it hahaha on how to organize or manifest best or stop procrastinating etc. And after having wanted to do my vision board for over a month now, I finally felt like doing it today only to stumble across this video where u talk about goals for 2024, so funny 😅
I love these vlogs, your thoughts are so interesting and it is so inspiring what you have already achieved and that you are still so eager to keep going! Please keep posting on UA-cam 🥰 it’s already lovely even if you guys just sit there and talk to the camera! Jürgen ist absolutely hilarious! What is the best Bluetooth box in his opinion haha?
I literally think I haven't even started yet!!!! Like I don't think I have achieved anything, and then I need to stop, relax and reflect, that I don't start from scratch, because many times it feels like it :D thank you for your sweet words! Jürgens favourite is Bose :)
I do set goals, write them down and plan me-time for e.g. sports, friends, reading books or painting. I have yearly goals, break them down to monthly goals and weekly goals. I think THE most important thing is: the moment something urgent comes up, you should not add it to your to do list but replace another to do. Prioritize. This way you keep your me-time and reach your overall goals. The thing is: it is goals and it is great to reach most of them. But nobody will die if you miss two or three yearly goals, especially when you solved another Problem instead. Be gentle with yourself, have patience and question yourself every week. Did you get some me-time or did you put a ton of extra work in it?
You guys are so inspiring without even trying 🫶🏻❤️✨🌟
this is such a beautiful comment, I literally read it out loud to Jürgen :')
Angel, you have not fail. You are an extremely hard worker. One thing that is important due to my experience in that life is too short . Always make time for you and your love ones , set yourself time during the day to at least walk outside, call a love one or do something for yourself. You will burn and you are so young. Your business will be there but only if you are healthy. Muahhhhhh love you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
You always find the right words
@@xeniaadonts I care angel ♥️♥️
Ich bin Fan von eurem Vlogmas ❤ !!
So viele Dinge, die du über dich Preis gibst Xenia, hab ich bei mir selber beobachtet. Ich hab Jahre dafür gebraucht bis ich Antworten gefunden habe, warum ich manchmal so social exhausted bin, obwohl ich sooo ne soziale Ader habe. Das mit dem Überarbeiten kommt mir auch sehr bekannt vor. Leider hab ich einen sehr hohen Preis dafür bezahlen müssen, dass ich da nicht früher auf meine Intuition gehört habe - deswegen ist es gut dass du so sensibel und reflektiert bist und die Signale wahrnimmst. Nicht Schlafen zu können hat oftmals mit einem sehr hohen Stresslevel zu tun. Heute helfen mir dabei vor 10 Uhr ins Bett zu gehen, Magnesium Glycanite (nicht Threonate 😂), L-Thryptophan (hilft meine 1000 Gedanken zu bändigen) und Ashwagandha…schau dir die Wirkstoffe doch mal genauer an.
Ich wünsche dir, dass du über die Festtage einen Gang runter schalten und so richtig tief schlafen kannst. Liebe Grüsse 🫶🏻
Liebe Grüsse nach Deutschland 🫶🏻
Kenne alle supplements die du erwähnt hast, ich mache eine neue Bestellung, habe die länger nicht genommen und wenn du sagst, dass sie dir helfen (: I wanna try again!! Finde es schön, dass du es in griff bekommen hast!!! I am on my way
Do we need a "What's in Jurgen's bag" ??
🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 this one was deep ! I agree we are in this era of hyper efficiency. Few days ago I was thinking same why December is so stressful and busy for alll 😮😂
Saame, maybe cause there is the pressure to finish projects by the end of the year, before the whole world goes on vacation.
Ahhh the more I talk about it the more I see we are all, all, all affected! I just wonder, is this year particularly intense?
thats also true!
I am very excited to watch you vlogs from Germany like you did in NY to feel the energy of the country, have not been there for a long time xxx
I wonder if you can tell my different energy in different cities?? SO curious to know!
in Paris it feels like you are on work-work-work mode and in NY you had more time for yourself, life, foooooood of course#) @@xeniaadonts
Btw the way your feeling of over working yourself and feeling over whelmed I FEEL THE SAME and have been feeling like this for this past year of overwhelmness with life. I hope this comment makes you feel better and not alone.
It does!! I hope we both manage to get out of this constant circle of stress and overwhelm! Not a great feeling :(
Read the book- four thousand weeks. Life is t about optimizing time and cramming more stuff in, it’s about cutting as much out as possible so you can be wholly present for the stuff that really matters :)
I ORDERED IT!!!
You are both so sweet and I love how real you are ❤☺️
love u angel
You’re irreplaceable. Your health is your wealth, please take care of yourselves. While we enjoy your creativity, we don’t want you to kill yourselves for us.
I set goals but rely on my intuition and what my mother used to say, “Listen to your body, it speaks to you!”.
The body never lies!! You have a beautiful and very wise approach, I will take inspiration from you
also a love your honesty and humor
how you are pizza on a business meeting hahah happened to all of us!
I honestly think I didn't bring my point across enough because we were DEVOURING like animals hahahahaha now it makes me laugh too and I'll never forget her face, it was more pity than embarrassment but my god!!! How old are we! :D
Do you think you could talk a little bit about how you journal? Eg if you use prompts, or what types of things you write about each evening. I’m trying to build the habit but feel like I end up just writing a to do list! ❤
Omg I fucking relate to that so deeply. why do I also feel like its an aquarius thing? why do we overwork/burnout so easily? it truly is an addiction and love/hate relationship with passion and work ✨
Only way goal setting has worked for me is with the Productivity Method by Grace Beverly. I am very ADHD and this planner (also online version) really have helped me keeping me accountable and actually stick to them. Because otherwise i also only just plan and never pull through with them fully… Also yeah the December crazies are real. Wishing u nothing but the best, hope ur 2024 is filled with better structures for you and lots of energy and good books
Ahh I ordered her planner a while back hehe, I love her!! DECEMBER CRAZIES!! Absolute perfect description :D
To improve your managing planing and project organisation you "must have" a priority "pyramid/rainbow board". Since you are very visual instead of writing, trying to include drawing perhaps? Your talent is creativity and your forte is to express it. Sometimes when we got very exciting projects, our enthusiasm only focus on the present and your adrenaline energised you and might blur your reality, therefore having your priority charts on hand while doing meetings is important, and also your go to: pro and cons lists and questions.
There are so many ways to managing your organisation skills, although without knowing your priority and testing different methods each times can be exhausting, time wasting and overwhelming.
The art of efficiency and organisation, especially in business is knowing your priority, stick to it as your primary needs like eat and sleep. I hope this helps ✨,🙏 Good luck!
you said it SO WELL and I also realized I need to adjust my systems!!! 💘💘💘
Heey Xenia! Can you talk a bit more about that part, where you said you felt "electrified" probably from anxiety?
Also, I love your videos, they are the most real and interesting! ❤
Well first of all I love you hello!!!
Second of all, I really don't know what it was but it felt like I had a very subtle electrical energy inside of me which wouldn't go away. Basically Anxiety but really physical and very intense. I ended up going to the emergency room and they checked everything and all was fine... I think it was because of exhaustion :(
@@xeniaadonts oh, I see, that sounds so scary, but glad everything was fine!
😊💕 Excited for any videos from you two and Ruueee, of course! 😍
Jurgen can you please share your favorite bluetooth box please? I have a marshall with the built in google which i really like especially because its aesthetically pleasing but i think there may be something better out there as well.
He is so happy somebody is asking lmao :D He says: Bose sound link flex (for easy travel) haha
@@xeniaadonts lol thanks!! and for home ? I also love learning about technology and what other people love, Jurgen you should make your own youtube channel about this LOL
Ich liebe euch 2 so sehr 😭😭😭
Vor ein paar Jahren wurdest du, Xenia, mir auf meiner for-you vorgeschlagen. Ich habe deinen content schon gefühlt, aber diese vlogmas Videos 😭 ich freue mich jeden Tag aufs neue, eure Videos zu schauen. Sie inspirieren mich so sehr. Ihr seid beide so besondere Menschen, habt so wunderschöne Ansichten und habt einen unfassbar tiefgründigen Charakter. Ich bin so dankbar, Teil der UA-cam Community zu sein.
Gestern hatte ich einen schönen Moment: mein Freund und ich waren auf dem Weihnachtsmarkt. Eins kam zum anderen und wir sind erst viel später als geplant dort angekommen. Menschen versammelten sich und haben auf das Rathaus in unserer Stadt geschaut. Wir haben uns dazugestellt und auf einmal standen 10 Engel an den Fenstern des Rathauses und haben gesungen und Orgel gespielt. Ich musste einfach weinen. Im Moment bin ich in einem hamsterrad aus Uni und Arbeit gefangen. Die Wochen vergehen und ich bin im Dauerstress. Aber diese Situation hat mich daran erinnert, dass wir leben. Wir leben und atmen. Das Leben ist so schön und ich bin richtig dankbar dafür, gerade diese Phase meines Lebens durchzumachen. Ich merke wie ich wachse und ich inspiriere mich irgendwie auch selber.
Why can’t Jurgen organized your planner & make sure you don’t over schedule? Since he is always with you & attends all meetings it seems 😊
haha I wish it was so easy!! we have tried but also he’s very similar to me so we simply need stronger support by somebody who’s strong suit is time management and organization 😊 but also we’re learning as we go! this shouldn’t stay a big problem forever!!
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Didn‘t know you had ADHD - do you take medication against it? And when did you get diagnosed?
I was diagnosed in May of last year! It's honestly pretty obvious so I wasn't surprised but I did decide against medication, the psychiatrist said that my ADHD is worse when my anxiety gets worse so if I manage my anxiety my ADHD is pretty well manageable. Generally I love how my brain works and I don't want to interfere with that ;D it just gets hard when my anxiety is bad and I don't sleep etc. But PERSONALLY I don't want to rely on medication and I don't want to interfere with my brain chemistry, even though I don't think anything bad about medication. What's your experience??
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Do prioritize yourself! As a high school teacher I killed myself for years, it’s awful!
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