My previous "partner" added to the bad condition I was in, for all my life. When finally being able to leave, I understood that he and my mother are so called covert Narcissists. Because of the way my mother openly hated and abused me, my stepfather and his brother were able to sexually abuse me at the age of 12. My Ex knew about it and after understanding that he did all of this intentionally (also with another woman), my childhood trauma came back and hit me badly. I've been able to cope with the abuse and he's re-traumatised me. I'm married to an amazing man now, but I still struggle with intimacy, three years after ending the relationship. Btw: My Ex is a well respected member of a Feminist Organisation for half his life who fights ALL types of abuse, starting even at disrespectful behaviours towards women, but even though I and this other woman testified, they didn't punish or expell him from the activism he uses to lure in women
I did it is my father., My mum knows about it but as she is stupid doesn't understand how bad this was and she has created this secret with me. My sisters one is in denial but she is starting to remember what happened and other one can logically get it but emotionally below zero.. and she has two kids.. I am the black sheep.
Do people with schizophrenia who molest children know better? I was told to forgive a male family member that was allowed to abuse me for years . My mother and her family always dismissed me when I told them or downplayed it when he made comments about me in their presence … so I struggled with it internally and felt like I was wrong to feel hurt because he was schizophrenic.. but his disorder made him more aggressive and cruel towards me . I won’t go into details … I just want to know if he was aware that it was wrong bc he would always say he was not going to stop and laugh .,,just really taunted and ruined my childhood and I was honestly embarrassed and humiliated because my mom lived with him and he was doing it and expressing it openly . I can’t really describe how that affected me … bc I go inward and people just don’t seem to understand. It’s hard to live at times bc I don’t feel connected to anything
Hello Dr Kieliszewski, thank you for this insightful video. Do you have any links to websites which help people notice child grooming? Are their any psych articles you recommend that discuss child groomers and their actions?
I don't have any specific links. But, check out the websites of Stop It Now and the National Coalition to Prevent Child Abuse and Exploitation. They may have the type of information you are looking for.
@@dr.jeffkieliszewskiforensi3081 hello Dr kieliszewski, my line of work takes my in line with sex offenders but my gut feeling is that my work place is not adequate to deal with offenders or the risks to staff, do you have a link or an email address to discuss options or advice so yhst I can highlight or educate my collegues
As an abuse survivor who was in an adolescent treatment center where half of the population was offending teenage boys it seemed to me that a common problem with those boys was not respecting boundaries. I am not saying that all people who violate your boundaries in small ways are offenders but it is a very big red flag to me. If they don't respect your boundaries for small things they might go to on to harm you or your children in worse ways whether it is sexually or something else.
I recently read that a new study shows that a big percentage of abuse is done by a teen to a child or other teen. It needs to be talked about for a few days each year in school. It has to be less taboo to talk about.
It takes years to heal from sexual abuse. Thanks for the work you are doing.
sometimes never
My previous "partner" added to the bad condition I was in, for all my life. When finally being able to leave, I understood that he and my mother are so called covert Narcissists. Because of the way my mother openly hated and abused me, my stepfather and his brother were able to sexually abuse me at the age of 12. My Ex knew about it and after understanding that he did all of this intentionally (also with another woman), my childhood trauma came back and hit me badly. I've been able to cope with the abuse and he's re-traumatised me. I'm married to an amazing man now, but I still struggle with intimacy, three years after ending the relationship. Btw: My Ex is a well respected member of a Feminist Organisation for half his life who fights ALL types of abuse, starting even at disrespectful behaviours towards women, but even though I and this other woman testified, they didn't punish or expell him from the activism he uses to lure in women
The problem, btw, is that when it's happening in families, nobody would actually come forward with their suspicion.
There’s a great book about that called Love with Accountability that is an anthology on discussions around this.
I did it is my father., My mum knows about it but as she is stupid doesn't understand how bad this was and she has created this secret with me. My sisters one is in denial but she is starting to remember what happened and other one can logically get it but emotionally below zero.. and she has two kids.. I am the black sheep.
@@annalisadelbove6133 not stupid, enabling him
Grooming isn't always tied to sexual abuse, u can groom people to take advantage of them in a myriad of ways
Do people with schizophrenia who molest children know better? I was told to forgive a male family member that was allowed to abuse me for years . My mother and her family always dismissed me when I told them or downplayed it when he made comments about me in their presence … so I struggled with it internally and felt like I was wrong to feel hurt because he was schizophrenic.. but his disorder made him more aggressive and cruel towards me . I won’t go into details … I just want to know if he was aware that it was wrong bc he would always say he was not going to stop and laugh .,,just really taunted and ruined my childhood and I was honestly embarrassed and humiliated because my mom lived with him and he was doing it and expressing it openly . I can’t really describe how that affected me … bc I go inward and people just don’t seem to understand. It’s hard to live at times bc I don’t feel connected to anything
personally I think the people telling you to forgive are part of the rape culture, but thats just my opinion.
sexual sadism, no pathology absolves criminal responsibility
he knows or he wouldn't lie to third parties like cops
derealisation, seek help
Hello Dr Kieliszewski, thank you for this insightful video. Do you have any links to websites which help people notice child grooming? Are their any psych articles you recommend that discuss child groomers and their actions?
I don't have any specific links. But, check out the websites of Stop It Now and the National Coalition to Prevent Child Abuse and Exploitation. They may have the type of information you are looking for.
@@dr.jeffkieliszewskiforensi3081 thank you for the reply!
@@dr.jeffkieliszewskiforensi3081 hello Dr kieliszewski, my line of work takes my in line with sex offenders but my gut feeling is that my work place is not adequate to deal with offenders or the risks to staff, do you have a link or an email address to discuss options or advice so yhst I can highlight or educate my collegues
Do you have an email where people can ask you questions??
As an abuse survivor who was in an adolescent treatment center where half of the population was offending teenage boys it seemed to me that a common problem with those boys was not respecting boundaries. I am not saying that all people who violate your boundaries in small ways are offenders but it is a very big red flag to me. If they don't respect your boundaries for small things they might go to on to harm you or your children in worse ways whether it is sexually or something else.
I recently read that a new study shows that a big percentage of abuse is done by a teen to a child or other teen. It needs to be talked about for a few days each year in school. It has to be less taboo to talk about.
I'm a schitsofrantic on haloperidol,
so everyone thinks I'm crazy ..
Nope.
I will try to post a link on your page.
Standvy .....
Doc!
Help me.
I can't see a subscribe to click on. Anyone can help?
I think you need to go to the channel main page and there will be a subscribe button.
What about grooming repressed trans adults?