Woman change your surname | Name change after marriage | Idara Daniella
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- Name change after marriage | Woman change your surname
Hey Beautiful people,
Today's conversation is on the idea of a woman not having a decision to either keep her surname or attach that of her husband. Seems we still have a long way to go on letting women make their decisions without anyone questioning it.
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Me i believe ladies should talk about this during courtship.
I told my husband very early in our relationship that i'd keep my father's name and add his own at the back. My surname was originally hyphenated with my father's name and grandfather's name, so i simply removed my grandfather's own and put my husband's own.
The mistake most ladies make is not talking about these important things very very early. Instead they'd be going on dates and licking icecream.
There are many questions that will expose the level of understanding some men have. very sad
Oh Asy, you hit the nail on the head. This and many more are to be discussed during courtship and early but no it is Ice cream and cinema 😫😫.
Even the work own, i said it early oo.
Women should have deal breakers and say it early. The pressure of getting married sometimes stops people from looking deep.
EXACTLY!! Many people want to be housewives, marry them instead.
The pressure stops people from looking deep. Gbam!. Say what you want boldly. I will never understand marrying a career woman and turning her into a housewife. 🤦♀️
Men that their names carry weight, don't even make noise or see it as an issue.
You literally dissected this issue EXACTLY the way I feel about it🤗
Nice video! Enjoyed every bit of it👍🏾
Thank you Tomsy ☺️.
Lmao 😂. The Intro tho🤣🤣. It’s like you want some guys to find you and flog you
I have who will flog them 😂.
I agree. The woman should make the decision if she wants to take the mans name or not. Some men want to be in control too much. Fr4 career driven women will not stay at home
Exactly.
I basically think she can answer whichever name she wants to answer.
For instance my fiance asked me what surname I would want to bare because he also wants to change his surname to his grandpa's surname. So I told him that I love his grandpa's surname but I would also love to keep my father's name as well, he thought about it for a moment and he said if I was ok with that then he would be ok with it because the goal to be happy but after I thought about it I decided to remove my surname because I see getting married as starting a new chapter in my life, starting a new life but with someone else. The point is it really doesn't matter, the most important thing is being happy...keeping or removing surname does not guarantee a successful marriage and I dont think why lady should be involved with someone who would make a fuss about it because hisreason for doing that is to feel on top, what will people say, he no looking weak and so on... what basically matters is what you and your spouse think at that point no one else matter 100%.
See how it went, you both discussed it and you decided to just bear his alone( it was your decision). Some of these men make a fuss about it and it’s sad. The idea is “the man should be open to any choice and discuss it with her” . Most ladies don’t ask questions early and find out they got involved with someone who makes a fuss about the surname change.
Interesting topic n well said!!👌
I love the upgrade it's a breath of.fresh air.... beautiful top too
Thank you Brenda
Very wise topic M3
Your Points Are Great Fr4
Nne you said it all, you know this maturity is not by age or qualifications maturity to me is gift from God cause is not everyone that has it .... instead of forcing on the character of the woman his marring too his focusing on surname. Some men sha ...
please be bringing up this type of issues cause it makes sence and at same time I was laughing 😂
See ehh this surname matter ehh 🤦♀️. Abi 😂. More 💃 coming .
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I close on this note “ does your surname carry weight?”!
I don't know why there should be a problem if a woman wants to keep her father's name after marriage.besides the children she will give birth to will keep the man's surname and not her's.so there shouldn't be a problem if she wants to keep her own father's name.Fr1
Thank you. The children will bear the man’s surname, I really don’t know why some see it as a problem .
A woman has the right to either change or keep her name. M3
Key sentence: Why go for a career woman if you want a woman who will stay at home?
Nna I taya
The one of not working is even worse ...marriage can’t make me lose my identity
I have a life before meeting you .....you also have yours
Not loosing your identity !.
No changing period 💯
Yes . Some where women need to compromise
Honestly I think it’s important to talk about stuffs like these before taking it to the next level. If it not it will result to issues in the marriage.
See the way I expected this person to have a different opinion, I guess that’s what happens with the ladies as well. They expect the guy to be open to their choice without discussing it then the next step is taken.
You really hit the nail on the edge with this topic. The type of mentality some men is crazy
Thanks for watching
My dear you have said it all ooo
We should be allowed to make our own decision seriously...👌
Thats the whole point. Everyone has a choice and should be allowed to make their own decision.
i think this should talked about while courting so when its time no one will be surprise m3
Personally. I f I get married I am keeping my surname. Period. It a personal choice. Fr1
And your personal choice is allowed, no one should question you or make a fuss about it . PeriodT .
Lmaoooo!!! Do I know this friend 😭😭 but on this topic though most people (guys ) Are hooked with how things were done in our fore fathers time...😪 there really shouldn’t be a problem with the woman keeping her surname as far as there wouldn’t be an issue with the kids bearing the mans surname...
It shouldn’t even be debatable, the children will bear their father’s name. There shouldn’t be a problem with the choice of the woman and her surname .
I used to think we obligated to change our surnames, but then now I realize that its not an easy process to change your surname plus all your qualifications are on your own surname. Fr1
It’s not an easy process.
I love this tutorial... Our Nigerian men are something else. Fr1 Nice one once again. Awesome content
Thanks for watching .
I have no problem changing my surname but either way is not a big deal but shouldn't be forced. M3
I am honestly looking forward to changing my surname to my fiance's surname his name is so beautiful 😍❣️ fr1
I know . Some fine surname dey.
What are your non negotiables in life is very important to know what you can and not.compromise
It’s important to know and as well discuss with your partner .
They will tie tradition with things that favor them, when it comes to things that will not favor them they will not follow nosense. I removed my surname and I feel I made bad decisions there
No dear, you didn’t make a bad decision. I will change mine . As long as it was your decision no need to feel it was a bad decision .
Loving this background 😍
Thanks b ☺️
This intro was 💥.. does your surname carry wait 😂
An important question o
I love your reasoning on this matter, and well narrated story. fr4
Thanks
I agree and support your points fully you are speaking facts I just attached my husband name fr1
👏. Thanks for watching
👏. Thanks for watching
Hahah he won’t ooh
He will want her
To leave it as OTEDOLA OH 😀😂
You know 😂.
Honestly I can’t get married and my husband tells me not to work again, when I’m not old 😏 OMG I can’t do that. Nice one sis. Your facts are clear..
Thanks girl .
This is a very sensitive issue but so many things in our society need serious change😞 My eloquent doctor😁😍
Baby nwa 🥰😘
For me I feel it should be discussed earlier in the marriage and you guys should have an understanding on it.. if she wants the name added then fine
Yes, the ability to accept her decision. It should be discussed before you get married .
In my culture it’s mandatory actually to change your surname when you get married and I feel it all depends on how you agree with your partner. Fr1
Thank you Zoe. Agreement is key .
And it's up to the woman I think f1
It is . Thanks for watching
Wow i didn't realize that change in surnames is such a big deal. For it to mess up a whole marriage wow! I think all this is just attached to the Man's ego. Especially those that have a problem with you not changing it Fr1
It’s definitely attached to their Ego.
Its not his fault really, its just how the culture has preached it to him. No matter the level of education
But we unlearn and relearn everyday They just go with what favours them .
@@idixxxe absolutely so women are left to fight. Fight for equality
Honestly, when I listen to what some “educated” men say sometimes it’s shocks me
It’s sad 😞
People that there name shake things dont struggle for name change you will change on ur own
You know this .
Sincerely speaking about the surname change, I feel it's a necessary thing, that's what I feel and because the whole rituals that goes along with bn wholly married deserves it.
My opinion and I could b wrong
She could as well add her husband’s name beside hers, that’s still changing. The idea is to be open to any choice she has.
@@idixxxe yea I know this... But u see tradition out things that we don't want and force us men to oblige.
I personally didn’t change cus it’s my brand name , a lot of people know me as mercy kalu , so changing is kind of going to make things hard for me
Gbam . That brand name already built won’t need any change .
Idara!!! Controversial Idara Lol if you already have a Brand it’s different, this issue sef, some women are happy to have their husband’s name, and this has been since forever lol ..I think people should talk about it before getting married.. and I can’t wait to see ur new travel document wen u marry lol. And regarding work, I think it’s selfish for a man to tell a woman not to work, it’s not right and its the man low self esteem most times.
I personally I’m happy to Change my surname.
The women who don’t want to or want to attach should be allowed, its simple. No one should make a fuss. Low self esteem has a role to play in it .
i believe it depends on the couple and i think they can talk about with their partners during courtship. fr1
A woman has the right to keep her fathers name or husbands name depending on her own decision. It’s quite a strain for her to start changing all her documents, school certificates, Bvn etc to her husbands name anyways. Either way if I decide to get married in the future I would want her to be able to choose if she wants to keep her dads name or my name, the only thing is my kids should be able to carry my name without any interference tho.
You understand. She should be allowed to make her choice and Ofcourse the kids will bear their father’s name without any interference. Thanks for watching 🥰.
This actually depends on the woman’s choice and the man is not suppose to impose his own ideologies on her. There are ways he can talk to her about it and then they can both come to a decision 💯😅
There are ways to talk to her about it. Always good to discuss this before marriage.
Gang gang
ABIGAIL IFEOMA yes girl 💃
I have never been one to ask someone to change their last name for me. I don’t even mind what last name my future kids bear as well, but again I have also been accused of taking this “understanding thing” too far. I think if someone is really concerned about their spouse changing their last name to his, they may also have a preference for probably male children as well cos it seems preservation of last name is really important to them. I may be wrong though.
Oh my . Your last statement . You are correct and I doubt you are wrong. They won’t see it now as that preservation of last name attached to male child until they are there. We have a lot of unlearning to do. Thank you for watching
Also in my culture you have to take your husband's surname f4
I personally would actually love to still keep my father's surname because his late and his surname is the only thing I carry.Fr4
Awww .
I'm married and I haven't changed my last name. I don't see the big deal 🤷🏾♀️ I guess that's just me. M3
Me sha when it comes to career am so keeping my surname cos am d only one in my family bearing the title with d surname then for other things like social gathering I can bear hubby's name.. my name is already long, then hubby's surname is also long which it wont just make sense to add d 2 long names.. e no go fit enter paper, on a norm my name no dey enter paper complete.. so it's good one talks about it during courtship but during marriage they usually change their mind.. shey they have married u.. but what's d problem sef when d kids already bear your name.. ayam just tired of african men. The stress of even changing name is tiring.. imagine been a federal government worker.. u inform management before u change in your bank before they change in government payroll.. As lazy as ayam i cannot go through stress of walking up and down.. let me come and be going....
I totally understand you. People are open to changing, some are not, some are open to attaching, why cry about someone’s opinion. 😂😂
I've realized that our generation has created irrelevant ideologies that makes relationships difficult. There is nothing wrong is keeping your fathers name and adding your husbands name to it. It all boils down to understanding; regardless I'm married to you and before you I had a life and all my certificates are in my fathers name abi he wants me to add his name at the end too...that is madness. See just pray to God for an understanding partner cos this guy sounds like someone with complex issues and is really small minded. This is the 21st century pls!!!
An understanding partner is a must. It’s also sad that most of these men are widely travelled and educated, one expects better but 🤦♀️.
I would love to change mine but to my fiancé's first name not sir name😀🤦♀️
Thanks for sharing about such a great topicm3
We are everywhere 👌👌👌
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Ha I will even change my own adeyemi to otudeola
You know 😂
But I find it normal, if you're married you take your husband's surname, of course you don't have to leave your own surname f1
That’s all, you don’t have to leave your surname. You can take the man’s own and add to yours .
@@idixxxepls how do you do that pls?
Changing does not make sense to me. Fr4
I never changed my Sir name though I use my husband's name on my social media network 🤣🤣🤣 he doesn't have a problem with it.
An understanding husband 👏👏.
Hey! I don’t mind the surname thing but to stop u from making your own money heeelll noooo!!!
Hahahah you will be shocked
I agree and support your points fully you are speaking facts I just attached my husband name fr1