watching this made me realize Wil and Alodia are very different from each other. Alodia is a very private person. She keeps her private life to herself. Wil on the other hand is like an open book. It's a kind of relationship that is difficult to maintain.
I can never be friends with exes. It’s not possible for me and my ex(es) to be friends coz there would always be feelings (other than friendship). Regardless of the nature of the breakup. There would still be that care and love (even if it’s no longer the kind of love you want from a partner). But I would understand if other people can be friends with their exes. I respect those who can be. Personally, I can’t. It’s either we are together as a couple or not at all. I don’t like complications. I heard once or read somewhere- that if you’re able to manage being friends with an ex - it’s coz you either you were not really in love with that person or you are just trying to hide or suppress your feelings while trying to be friends with that person and there might be hidden (or unrealized) expectations. Not my words but I can totally understand that 💯 %. Plus, I don’t like giving our mutual friends that sense of “awkwardness “ and also, don’t want to cause any issue with a (potential/new) partner of my ex and vice versa. So I’d rather avoid that all together.
Personally, I think it is “okay” to stay “acquainted” with an ex. Friend is such a meaningful word to use, friend is someone you usually hangout with and someone you talk to. I don’t think that you can do that to an ex especially if you are in a new relationship. It is a way of expressing respect to the new relationship.
For me it's not a big deal.. Becoming friends with an ex for me means, a good revenge 😅 haha.. why? coz they can watch me be happy with somebody else who treat me better than them. Hahahaha kidding aside.. forgiving them and becoming friends with them gives me peace of mind and freedom. always remember when you hold resentment toward someone, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. 😊
It actually depends on how the relationship ended. In the Philippines “bad break-up” is common maybe that’s why exes usually end up not talking to each other.
You can never be friends with your ex. The reason for this is that, you also have to consider the feelings of your new partner. There will always be jealousy if you remain friends with your ex. Civilly you can be, but not to the point that you maintain constant communication and the likes.
Maybe depends on how you ended the relationship. If it is a mutual decision and yung break up napagusapan ng maayos at may closure, I think you can still be friends and hang out as friends…but if that person gave you so much pain during the relationship and that’s the reason why you broke up, I don’t think you can be “friends”…you can forgive the person who hurt you and you can still be Civil with each other but ayaw mo ng mainvolve pa siguro kayo sa isa’t isa even friends
It really depends on me. My definition of "friend" is when you casually hang out with them, go party with them, chat without awkwardness, travel together, spend the night away, get drunk together, etc as long as there's no malice or romantic feelings involved. Can you do this all to your ex? If not, then I don't treat it as "friends." For me, you can only be civil.
Even if it hurts, as long as you’re there for each other, forgetting the past, communicating often as “best friends or beshies,” your friendship with your ex will be long-lasting. That’s all I could say 😊❤️💚💜
It's definitely a maturity thing. I'm in the U.S. and I'm friends with all my exes. Like Wil, you start as friends, date, but things don't work out and still can be friends. This definitely does NOT happen with everyone, but it is possible. Props to you Will for being civil and promoting friendships after dating.
Marami.pwede gawin sa U.S. kaysa mag aksaya ng.panahon sa exes...Aksaya kasi pwede ka naman maghanap ng regular intimate Friends na walang hang ups..or sad memories..At dahilarami pwede pagkakitaan sa U.S...Pwede kang Hi hi habang nakasakay sa Bagong kotse..
Agree with most of the comments. Depende sa dahilan ng breakup. I'm not friends with my exes and that's ok. I tried being friends with one, but the thing is it gave him hope that we're gonna get back, so we had to set boundaries. I'm facebook friends with some but that's it. I think it's easier to move on that way. Once completely na accept niyo na, maybe you can be casual or friends but not really close anymore.
Yeah, i think is it the conservative route and it happens most likely here in the Philippines as part of the culture. Me i tried it to be friends with an EX but it doesn't go well. I guess either Men or Women in the Philippines tends to loose connection with their EXes because of various reasons like .... they might end up not getting over the person and end up stupid and miserable (pride talking) ... being friends with an EX might bothers the new person you'll be dating. Issue yan big time, they would say (mahal mo pa no, kaya friends pa rin kayo blah blah) But for me being not friends with an EX is "sayang". Because you'll might missed the chance of still getting to know someone on a different level without the boundaries of the Romantic Relationship, let's be real here, romantic relationship complicate things at times, because we always want to be the best in the eyes of our partner. So being friends with an EX and losing that boundaries and awkwardness is i think much more fun. Maybe be friends not right away, because yeh it hurts. But i wish soon, when the time comes that you can just both laugh about all the things you've done together in the past.
I really feel that this " BREAK UP " thing is just temporary,! They both truely inlove with each other but I think the problem between them is the distance ang time together.. Wil is busy with his carreer and work and also alodia. Ashley said they break up in good terms which means the probability of getting back together is very high.
Thank you for Part 2 of this conversation. This is why I follow Wil in all his channel, people who listen or watch can pick up something in it. Now all the Marites lesson learned for you don't jump into conclusion on everything that is coming out of social media unless it came out from the person involved. I commend you for doing this as u admitted yourself. It is baby steps of going forward. Keep moving good luck.
I think it's entirely possible to be friends after a break up, but it does take time. It also depends on the nature of relationship and the break up. For instance, I wouldn't want to be friends with a partner who was abusive or toxic. Or a break up because of a third party. It's also easier to be friends after a break up if you weren't mere romantic partners while you were together.
Kung hoping p din kayo sa isat isa better maging friend p dn kayo. Pero Kung gusto nyo na mg move on Siguro better wag n muna kayo maging friends unless Meron n kayong gf. Or bf.
My ex and I are still good friends but we have to know yung limit kasi we have to consider yung bagong partner. kaya nga pati yung current girlfriend nya friend ko din. Pinoy culture kasi madalas may malisya lahat kaya be careful lang. casual talk and always talk about his current relationship and wag yung past. We did once to say sorry lang sa isa’t isa and we forgave each other sa mga nangyari. Walang sisihan dahil “it takes two to tango” sabi nga nila.
it depends,if you separate in a good way,no hatred it might end up being friends ,or when u are separated then thats the time u realized the importance or you still love your ex,miss his/ her presence ,your intimacy ,it may rekindle / relive the romance between u and may reunite and became the better version of yourselves and make the relationship more stronger.💖
it’s ok to be friends why not pero dpende sa ex kasi kng Hindi NAMAN sya naging mabuti tao o karelasyon for what MAGING frnds Kayo best is learn to let go people who doesn’t deserve you value your worth GANUN talaga buhay
It's a personal choice naman if you would still want to be friends with your ex. Ako, I value the past so hindi sila ekis for me. I would still say Hi and have a nice convo with them. Mas magiging maingat lang ako sa actions and words ko para walang masaktan or ma offend na tao sa paligid ko.
Me and my ex kinda had a mutual relationship. It was hard to see each other and i have some sad moments, but i learned to move on and after some space we became close friends again. I even helped her get a job at my old work when my current gf found out she needed a job. So it can happen where you can stay friends
It’s ok to be friends with your exs, but the more you see her happy , sa sabihin natin sa sarili natin na sayang , sayang , sayang .. then secrete pain starts again .. but of course much better to be friends with your ex..
I think it has something to do also with our culture being very sensitive in nature, we take relationships really deeply especially when it comes to separation or heart break. You can observe that even with our choice of music mostly mellow and emotional. Here in the US, even ex husbands or wives mostly remains friends and civil. They accept the reality and move on.
i love the idea.. that you are still open to collab and be friends.. because I really started following you because you are friends with alodia.. and it is a shame if somehow that will be put to waste...
It depend on the person . But for me , majority of Filipinos don't ended up being friends. I myself had an ex and I cut it. We don't talk anymore haha. Its just our way of moving on and Ashley is right, we are conservative. It's very awkward to remain friends after breaking up.
It’ll take years to be able to get back to the level of being just friends. I think it is healthier to take some time away from each other and process the break up separately. You broke up for a reason and trying to force a friendship would just muddy up the water. After a few years or months then maybe you could try the friendship thing again. Taking time away from each other after a break up is not about letting go of a great friendship but more of finding yourself and who you are after a relationship ends. When you’re both ready, being friends again would be easy bec you had a great foundation.
My previous partner and I were together for almost 9 years but hey...we are very good friends. It really takes maturity to be in that kind of situation. I still love him but not romantically. He has a great place in my heart and that won't be changed.
I was boen in NY Hispanic background. In my case I stopped talking because I needed to heal im still healing. I did tell the person I couldnt talk to him and needed him to step away from my life (super hard for me) but I needed to heal. Though this Time it was hard! I lost friendships because they didnt seem to understand and were judging my decision, but I have an amazing family ❤. Through this process I have learned an am learning to forgive. I am starting to talk to him as a Friend. Is it still hard yes, but its just a process of forgiven and also yourself.
I started following Alodia when I saw the vids on when she would travel to The bay area to be with Wil on his health journey. I thought wow, that’s MAJOR ❤️ i was inspired by your relationship. I thought oh, these 2 are gonna make it. So when I found out you guys broke up :( i thought it was one of those fake news. You guys went through so much that I think you could remain “friends”. I will definitely miss the WilOdia love team but I wish you both happiness. Life is too damn short. Check on your loved ones and #spreadlove. Wishing you both the best from Pasadena, CA
Here in Philippines you must not communicate on your ex if you have already in a new relationship..bcoz if that happened your new gf/bf got jealous and trust will never be the same anymore 🤣🤣🤣✌️✌️
Depende siguro sa values na nakalakihan mo, para sa akin ha, it’s not about the maturity ng tao that dictates your choices in life. you can’t say na immature yung tao just because taliwas siya sa pinapaniwalaan mo… kasi may mga tao lang talaga na who choose to not communicate kasi dun siya comfortable. You cannot impose your values to others kasi iba iba tayo ng paniniwala. Maging civil sa isat-isa , possibly but friends? Mejo malabo talaga yun.
Based on experience, cutting off all ties after a breakup is the fastest way to get over someone. Being civil is fine especially if you're in the same circles but not to the same extent that you will hang out with just the two of you. More often than not, one person is still hung up on the other person (usually the one who is determined to be friends). Hoping that one day, they'll get back together again or have them around until you move on completely. It can get messy and causes problems/tension in you current or finding future relationships
We were about to turn 3 years last year, but back in the ber months of 2020, things got rough i dont know if she was honest to me, the sad part is that we broke up on my 21st birthday which i was trying to make good memories with my family, friends and relatives. We didnt have proper closure or talk because she wont respond to me. Even after that i still put my respect on her and pray for her, wishing her the best. Fun fact we met in her hometown last december. I still treat her as my good friend and till this day i respect her decision of us breaking up.
It depends always, painful kc naging end up nio ata kaya ganun, maybe just give her alot of time kumbaga pahupain palipasin then who knows bka maging friends ulit kau sumday. Maybe shes just fixing herself, beri important kc mabalik ung worth & respect nakakalimutan tlga pag nag lolove
I am still friends with some o my exes Basta wag Lang mangumusta sabay Sabi pautang ...charot.. but it's okay to be friends cause you know each other better now.
It is possible to be friends with your but it depends on how tou end your relationship. I am friends with my exes and my partner is ok with that. And i mean friends like we regularly see each other. 😊
I grow up in the Philippines, I even got married in the Philippines but I still have good relationship with my ex's from high school even college ex's also to my ex husband ( my kids dad ) now I live abroad I still talk to them like normal friends I'm their "bully friend" actually:))
After a breakup, I think it's just right to distance for some time. But eventually, if you end in good terms, it's okay to stay friends. Especially if you belong in the same circles or industry.
I always ended relationships totally after breakups because the break-up did not happen until the other person did unforgivable things - and I no longer even liked them!
Listening to part 1 with Ashley right now.. I would say being friends with Ex is ok, i have a couple of Exes that i’m still friends with because before we became bf/gf relationship we are friends first and they know me well.. but you know its not everyone’s cup of tea to be friends with Ex..
Hello Sir Wil Dasovich, I love most of your videos on the internet which makes me more getting passion driven on how to be a travel vlogger. I am one of your number 1 fan. I hope fate gives me a chance to meet with you someday and I am definitely a great counselor for broken relationships. I can guarantee you I am great at giving advice. Well, much love and support for both (You and Alodia) of you and I hope you can have the ability to restore things back into place. Have a good day!
I think it would really depend on how the relationship ended.. I am friends with some of my exes but it took time. I chose to give myself time to heal and get over it.
It's a cultural thing with Filipinos about the exes. My mindset about relationships has changed when I lived out west. I became more understanding and open minded, after all you have loved that person and was a part of your life.
My bro and his ex dont talk anymore and yet they live here in US. My guess it just depends on how the relationship ended. If it was bad then no communication. Then if it was okay end then communication. Better closure too i think.😁
Just because relationship didn't work don't mean friendship has to end but the next relationship you guys are in might not like the friendship jealousy kicks in
No! you can talk to him but not to be friends at him. Friend is an extension of your family. If he's your ex then definitely, he is not worth it. But you can talk and be civil to each other. That's a different thing.
i think it's time to move on will...it's like for doing this you're still trying to work it out your relationship with her..give her space...i know you cannot find a girl like her again...Goodluck...
For me its a No 😅 Base on my experience, uhm para d na masaktan pa na makita may iba na sya or ma update sa kanya at madali maka move on i deact my fb na andun yun memories. Kase lalo lang iiyak pag makikita, d na makakausad lagi na lang babalik balikan yun memories 😥 Kaya ako na ang umiiwas. Kahit gusto ng ex na maging friends pa kami, what for? I mean, ayaw ko na mag communicate pa kami...niloloko ko na lang sarili na may pag asa pa or something..... Tsaka pag nakipag break nako d nako bumabalik lalo na kung sobrang masakit yun nangyari.....kahit mahal na mahal ko pa ako na yun umiiwas, nagtatago, walang trace or chance na mahanap ka.....unless puntahan sa bahay. But i dont think so gagawin yun dahil mostly sila yun may ginagawang mali. May isa lang akong naging ex na naging ok naman kami at pinuntahan pa ko para magsabi na magpapakasal na sya. At sinabi ko na sana magpakatino na sya 😂 after nun never na kami nag usap kase yun girl ay selos na selos sakin kahit sya yun nang agaw 😂 Let go lang kahit ang sakit magmahal para lang saktan ka sa huli..... Pero ayaw ko pa din makipag friends sa mga ex.....its either maalala ko yun happy memories o yun masakit na ginawa.....ay sasama lang loob ko forever?....no way... Wish ko na lang maging happy both kahit d na mag usap pa... Pinatawad ko naman na basta wag na lalapit pa baka madaan pa ko sa paiyak iyak 😂 marupok lang 😂
Im friends/civil with my exes. I dont believe that you have to forget your ex completely, coz at some point they were a part of who you become right now. Most of my exes are still connected on socmed and we always wish each other well.
i guess it depends on the person how they see it, if it’s going to help them grow or not. Me i grew up here in canada, moved here when i was 10 yrs old. my perspective is past is past, we should never look back but take it as a learning lesson to be better in the future. i don’t communicate with my exes either but after a few years when we see each other out of nowhere we’re good, saying hi/ hello, how’s it going and such. i guess just over time the broken heart will heal and it will be forgiven of whatever happens in the past.
it’s just pain to befriend your ex when the breakup was not a good ending but if it was mutually agreed to just separate because there is no more romantic feelings then why not be a friend again since you started as friends anyway. It’s just difficult to be a friend with your ex if your next bf/gf will not accept that matter that your only just friend and there will be no problem or jealousy that might get things complicated in trusting their new relationship after the ex.
in my opinion its better to be friends. but make sure you forgive the person first so you won't get into fight with the "ex".. coz everything happen for a reason ..
For me we can talk to each other and have a conversations..but not really can say that we can be friends. Friends is a different way. If you part ways with a 3rd party for example, so there's no point that they will talk and be friends. But if the partner separate ways with a reason of they are not exciting or magic anymore in their relationship or they have a different perspectives in their lives and then they agree to part ways, well maybe they can be friends if they want it too.
It’s all good u both were in each other’s lives for a reason beyond any romantic idealism & it’s ok coz forcing something beyond what’s natural between you two is just never gonna end well trust I speak from my own experience I’ve been engaged since 2015 had an aneurysm & he stuck by me he was my rock & during my healing and living together I realized people can be in your life for a reason and my fiancé has been with me as my Angel protector & best friend the moment I let go of any idealistic thoughts I had before about love & marriage I promised myself to never give in to that fairytale instead I accepted out truth & that I can make my forever after in the future coz I’m more evolved now as a 🏳️⚧️ woman & just a person I’ve learned to be a lot more patient & tolerant coz in relationships specially marriage you have to be willing and ready to sacrifice & compromise at times coz ur two different people coming together so I vowed I will only marry a person who has that broad maturity in his psyche I’m 45 so if and when that happens it will be forever 🙏🏾🖖🏾
Everyone likes to be bf/friend or fubu of the goddes of cosplay dude you are very very lucky to still have the gosiengfiao's most of breakups here in ph mostly messy i think you guys are the most clean break ups after the retri christine samson theres nothing more
I feel that if both parties have mutually lost romantic feelings for each other then it’s alright to remain friends. But usually it’s only one partner who initiates the break up, and the other partner is unwilling. In this case it’s healthier not to be in contact with each other so that the unwilling partner can properly move on. Being friends when one partner still has feelings will just prolong the hurt of that person. He or she will most likely accept remaining friends because they still hope and have the intention of getting back together. While the person who initiated the break up would also like to remain friends with an ex so that they can have a fallback and feel loved without having to commit to that person. This is a very toxic dynamic. So if you feel that your ex still has feelings, you should learn to let them go for their own good.
I would say it should take atleast some time after the breakup before going back to being friends again. By some time, I mean the moment you no longer have feelings to one another not when the breakup is still fresh. It also depends on how the relationship ended or how that person wants it to end as well. If that person is not capable enough or just chose not to, you just have to accept that and respect each other's decision etc. but who knows maybe with time, that friendship will bloom again :)
Here in the Philippines people were unsure of their decisions. Half hearted decisions makes the next/new partner doubt their partner being friends exes. "Official Break ups " and "mutual decisions" are not a practice... That's why it is not normal to be friends with your ex here in the Philippines.
In the Philippines, it’s really difficult for exes to be friends, especially for the one who got hurt. However, I also believe that time heals all wounds, and maybe in God’s time both exes can forgive, forget and be friends for the sake of their children, if they have.
I think you should go back to who you are to them before the romantic relationship started and if you have the same community or set of friends why would your romantic relationship change where your friends should choose between you and her on who to be with .
Pwede naman if the separation is not messy. You can part as friends and still continue that route. If the breakup is chaotic and toxic there is no effin way you can be friends with an ex hahaha
if you break up on good terms... a common decision, I guess it's good to be friends.. but if you broke up, like mine with 3rd party involved I'd rather be civil than friends..
It depends kong may utang siya at hindi nagbayad then ,magkaaway kayo kahit pareho pa kayong mature to handle the situation, pero kong ang pag hiwalay niyo eh maganda naman, friendship forever ang drama😅😂😂
Yes! All my exes are my friends.If i bump anywhere with his new gf i always say hi hello or how are you.I always think of there is a good reason why we broke up even if its 3rd party involved or differences views and opinions about life.The only thing i dont believe is 2nd chance esp if there is another party involved.
Me and my ex are communicating always. We send pics of our faces and what are we doing or eating stuff like that.. I really think we still love each other, its just that we broke up a year ago because there’s no chance for us to meet yet. Because I’m here in the Ph and he’s abroad.
What I don’t understand is why do you need to keep your ex as a friend? What’s the point or purpose? You can get a new friend and sure you still have other friends naman. You can be civil naman and prove that you have moved on without keeping them as a friend. I have relationships before that ended in a mature way but I blocked and deleted them in all my social media and as well in my life. If nagkita ulit then civil approach lang.
watching this made me realize Wil and Alodia are very different from each other. Alodia is a very private person. She keeps her private life to herself. Wil on the other hand is like an open book. It's a kind of relationship that is difficult to maintain.
Someday I know you'll be together again ❣️ and that will be perfect
I can never be friends with exes. It’s not possible for me and my ex(es) to be friends coz there would always be feelings (other than friendship). Regardless of the nature of the breakup. There would still be that care and love (even if it’s no longer the kind of love you want from a partner). But I would understand if other people can be friends with their exes. I respect those who can be. Personally, I can’t. It’s either we are together as a couple or not at all. I don’t like complications. I heard once or read somewhere- that if you’re able to manage being friends with an ex - it’s coz you either you were not really in love with that person or you are just trying to hide or suppress your feelings while trying to be friends with that person and there might be hidden (or unrealized) expectations. Not my words but I can totally understand that 💯 %. Plus, I don’t like giving our mutual friends that sense of “awkwardness “ and also, don’t want to cause any issue with a (potential/new) partner of my ex and vice versa. So I’d rather avoid that all together.
Agree with you.🤝
I feel the same thing, i can’t be friend with my ex’es it is weird and uncomfortable.
It depends on the breakup I guess.
@@carlsanjuan5606 kapg me bago na si maganda respeto sa bagong karelasyon..
And if there is someone that i will be jealous to, IT'S THE EX.
Personally, I think it is “okay” to stay
“acquainted” with an ex. Friend is such a meaningful word to use, friend is someone you usually hangout with and someone you talk to. I don’t think that you can do that to an ex especially if you are in a new relationship. It is a way of expressing respect to the new relationship.
For me it's not a big deal.. Becoming friends with an ex for me means, a good revenge 😅 haha.. why? coz they can watch me be happy with somebody else who treat me better than them. Hahahaha kidding aside.. forgiving them and becoming friends with them gives me peace of mind and freedom. always remember when you hold resentment toward someone, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. 😊
It actually depends on how the relationship ended. In the Philippines “bad break-up” is common maybe that’s why exes usually end up not talking to each other.
You can never be friends with your ex. The reason for this is that, you also have to consider the feelings of your new partner. There will always be jealousy if you remain friends with your ex. Civilly you can be, but not to the point that you maintain constant communication and the likes.
Kaya nga Sabi it depends on the situations
After the healing of pain and acceptance of what happened I was able to get friends with SOME of my exes. Took us years during this process.
Maybe depends on how you ended the relationship. If it is a mutual decision and yung break up napagusapan ng maayos at may closure, I think you can still be friends and hang out as friends…but if that person gave you so much pain during the relationship and that’s the reason why you broke up, I don’t think you can be “friends”…you can forgive the person who hurt you and you can still be Civil with each other but ayaw mo ng mainvolve pa siguro kayo sa isa’t isa even friends
It really depends on me. My definition of "friend" is when you casually hang out with them, go party with them, chat without awkwardness, travel together, spend the night away, get drunk together, etc as long as there's no malice or romantic feelings involved. Can you do this all to your ex? If not, then I don't treat it as "friends." For me, you can only be civil.
alam ko nman gagawin lahat nangloko samin ng anak ko kulungan bagsak para maramdaman nila kong pano kmi gaweng tanga.
Even if it hurts, as long as you’re there for each other, forgetting the past, communicating often as “best friends or beshies,” your friendship with your ex will be long-lasting. That’s all I could say 😊❤️💚💜
tanda ko sila kong mkita ko mahirap kaya mangangkin ng kamag anak tapus d ka pala kilala haha
I have friends who became lovers, then split and still remained friends. There was awkwardness at first but they overcame it to resume the friendship.
It's definitely a maturity thing. I'm in the U.S. and I'm friends with all my exes. Like Wil, you start as friends, date, but things don't work out and still can be friends. This definitely does NOT happen with everyone, but it is possible. Props to you Will for being civil and promoting friendships after dating.
Marami.pwede gawin sa U.S. kaysa mag aksaya ng.panahon sa exes...Aksaya kasi pwede ka naman maghanap ng regular intimate Friends na walang hang ups..or sad memories..At dahilarami pwede pagkakitaan sa U.S...Pwede kang Hi hi habang nakasakay sa Bagong kotse..
Agree with most of the comments. Depende sa dahilan ng breakup. I'm not friends with my exes and that's ok. I tried being friends with one, but the thing is it gave him hope that we're gonna get back, so we had to set boundaries. I'm facebook friends with some but that's it. I think it's easier to move on that way. Once completely na accept niyo na, maybe you can be casual or friends but not really close anymore.
The union of a great relationship is humility and awesome forgiveness
Yeah, i think is it the conservative route and it happens most likely here in the Philippines as part of the culture. Me i tried it to be friends with an EX but it doesn't go well. I guess either Men or Women in the Philippines tends to loose connection with their EXes because of various reasons like
.... they might end up not getting over the person and end up stupid and miserable (pride talking)
... being friends with an EX might bothers the new person you'll be dating. Issue yan big time, they would say (mahal mo pa no, kaya friends pa rin kayo blah blah)
But for me being not friends with an EX is "sayang". Because you'll might missed the chance of still getting to know someone on a different level without the boundaries of the Romantic Relationship, let's be real here, romantic relationship complicate things at times, because we always want to be the best in the eyes of our partner. So being friends with an EX and losing that boundaries and awkwardness is i think much more fun.
Maybe be friends not right away, because yeh it hurts. But i wish soon, when the time comes that you can just both laugh about all the things you've done together in the past.
I really feel that this " BREAK UP " thing is just temporary,! They both truely inlove with each other but I think the problem between them is the distance ang time together.. Wil is busy with his carreer and work and also alodia. Ashley said they break up in good terms which means the probability of getting back together is very high.
Aside from it depends on the maturity, it also depends on "why" you broke up
Yes, we're friends but not close.. It is good to be friend.
Thank you for Part 2 of this conversation. This is why I follow Wil in all his channel, people who listen or watch can pick up something in it. Now all the Marites lesson learned for you don't jump into conclusion on everything that is coming out of social media unless it came out from the person involved. I commend you for doing this as u admitted yourself. It is baby steps of going forward. Keep moving good luck.
I wish the full video was available. I prefer to watch podcasts rather than just listen. It’s nice to to see the interaction/reactions
I think it's entirely possible to be friends after a break up, but it does take time. It also depends on the nature of relationship and the break up. For instance, I wouldn't want to be friends with a partner who was abusive or toxic. Or a break up because of a third party. It's also easier to be friends after a break up if you weren't mere romantic partners while you were together.
Kung hoping p din kayo sa isat isa better maging friend p dn kayo. Pero Kung gusto nyo na mg move on Siguro better wag n muna kayo maging friends unless Meron n kayong gf. Or bf.
My ex and I are still good friends but we have to know yung limit kasi we have to consider yung bagong partner. kaya nga pati yung current girlfriend nya friend ko din. Pinoy culture kasi madalas may malisya lahat kaya be careful lang. casual talk and always talk about his current relationship and wag yung past. We did once to say sorry lang sa isa’t isa and we forgave each other sa mga nangyari. Walang sisihan dahil “it takes two to tango” sabi nga nila.
The norm is to excom. It’s very rare for the Philippines to stay communicated or remain as friends with your exes.
it depends,if you separate in a good way,no hatred it might end up being friends ,or when u are separated then thats the time u realized the importance or you still love your ex,miss his/ her presence ,your intimacy ,it may rekindle / relive the romance between u and may reunite and became the better version of yourselves and make the relationship more stronger.💖
Agree 100%.
it’s ok to be friends why not pero dpende sa ex kasi kng Hindi NAMAN sya naging mabuti tao o karelasyon for what MAGING frnds Kayo best is learn to let go people who doesn’t deserve you value your worth GANUN talaga buhay
It's a personal choice naman if you would still want to be friends with your ex. Ako, I value the past so hindi sila ekis for me. I would still say Hi and have a nice convo with them. Mas magiging maingat lang ako sa actions and words ko para walang masaktan or ma offend na tao sa paligid ko.
Me and my ex kinda had a mutual relationship. It was hard to see each other and i have some sad moments, but i learned to move on and after some space we became close friends again. I even helped her get a job at my old work when my current gf found out she needed a job. So it can happen where you can stay friends
It’s ok to be friends with your exs, but the more you see her happy , sa sabihin natin sa sarili natin na sayang , sayang , sayang .. then secrete pain starts again .. but of course much better to be friends with your ex..
I think it has something to do also with our culture being very sensitive in nature, we take relationships really deeply especially when it comes to separation or heart break. You can observe that even with our choice of music mostly mellow and emotional. Here in the US, even ex husbands or wives mostly remains friends and civil. They accept the reality and move on.
i love the idea.. that you are still open to collab and be friends.. because I really started following you because you are friends with alodia.. and it is a shame if somehow that will be put to waste...
To be remain friend with ex. Hmmp never! They will take advantage. They will think they still loved. So never!
It depend on the person . But for me , majority of Filipinos don't ended up being friends. I myself had an ex and I cut it. We don't talk anymore haha. Its just our way of moving on and Ashley is right, we are conservative. It's very awkward to remain friends after breaking up.
dipende siguro kung anong reason ng breakup. Kung 3rd party mahirap maging friends kayo after.
It’ll take years to be able to get back to the level of being just friends. I think it is healthier to take some time away from each other and process the break up separately. You broke up for a reason and trying to force a friendship would just muddy up the water. After a few years or months then maybe you could try the friendship thing again. Taking time away from each other after a break up is not about letting go of a great friendship but more of finding yourself and who you are after a relationship ends. When you’re both ready, being friends again would be easy bec you had a great foundation.
My previous partner and I were together for almost 9 years but hey...we are very good friends. It really takes maturity to be in that kind of situation. I still love him but not romantically. He has a great place in my heart and that won't be changed.
I was boen in NY Hispanic background. In my case I stopped talking because I needed to heal im still healing. I did tell the person I couldnt talk to him and needed him to step away from my life (super hard for me) but I needed to heal. Though this Time it was hard! I lost friendships
because they didnt seem to understand and were judging my decision, but I have an amazing family ❤. Through this process I have learned an am learning to forgive. I am starting to talk to him as a Friend. Is it still hard yes, but its just a process of forgiven and also yourself.
I started following Alodia when I saw the vids on when she would travel to The bay area to be with Wil on his health journey. I thought wow, that’s MAJOR ❤️ i was inspired by your relationship. I thought oh, these 2 are gonna make it. So when I found out you guys broke up :( i thought it was one of those fake news.
You guys went through so much that I think you could remain “friends”. I will definitely miss the WilOdia love team but I wish you both happiness. Life is too damn short. Check on your loved ones and #spreadlove.
Wishing you both the best from Pasadena, CA
if single siguro its ok to be friend,pro kng in relationship na i think ibang usapan na,respeto nlng sa bagong ka relasyon.
out of my 9 exes, only 1 person ang hindi ko bati... the rest we're friends and still communicating in good terms
Here in Philippines you must not communicate on your ex if you have already in a new relationship..bcoz if that happened your new gf/bf got jealous and trust will never be the same anymore 🤣🤣🤣✌️✌️
As long as it doesn’t interfere in their ability to move on and develop new relationships.
Depende siguro sa values na nakalakihan mo, para sa akin ha, it’s not about the maturity ng tao that dictates your choices in life. you can’t say na immature yung tao just because taliwas siya sa pinapaniwalaan mo… kasi may mga tao lang talaga na who choose to not communicate kasi dun siya comfortable. You cannot impose your values to others kasi iba iba tayo ng paniniwala.
Maging civil sa isat-isa , possibly but friends? Mejo malabo talaga yun.
Based on experience, cutting off all ties after a breakup is the fastest way to get over someone. Being civil is fine especially if you're in the same circles but not to the same extent that you will hang out with just the two of you. More often than not, one person is still hung up on the other person (usually the one who is determined to be friends). Hoping that one day, they'll get back together again or have them around until you move on completely. It can get messy and causes problems/tension in you current or finding future relationships
I want to be friends with her but myself is expecting it will end in romantic way so its hard to be friends with her
It depends on the breakup, if it's on good terms or not.
We were about to turn 3 years last year, but back in the ber months of 2020, things got rough i dont know if she was honest to me, the sad part is that we broke up on my 21st birthday which i was trying to make good memories with my family, friends and relatives. We didnt have proper closure or talk because she wont respond to me. Even after that i still put my respect on her and pray for her, wishing her the best. Fun fact we met in her hometown last december. I still treat her as my good friend and till this day i respect her decision of us breaking up.
It depends always, painful kc naging end up nio ata kaya ganun, maybe just give her alot of time kumbaga pahupain palipasin then who knows bka maging friends ulit kau sumday. Maybe shes just fixing herself, beri important kc mabalik ung worth & respect nakakalimutan tlga pag nag lolove
I am still friends with some o my exes Basta wag Lang mangumusta sabay Sabi pautang ...charot.. but it's okay to be friends cause you know each other better now.
For me if I ended things with an ex, if we ended on a positive note then we could still be friends but if it was shitty then no.
It is possible to be friends with your but it depends on how tou end your relationship. I am friends with my exes and my partner is ok with that. And i mean friends like we regularly see each other. 😊
I grow up in the Philippines, I even got married in the Philippines but I still have good relationship with my ex's from high school even college ex's also to my ex husband ( my kids dad ) now I live abroad I still talk to them like normal friends I'm their "bully friend" actually:))
After a breakup, I think it's just right to distance for some time. But eventually, if you end in good terms, it's okay to stay friends. Especially if you belong in the same circles or industry.
Ok lang maging mag Kaibigan ang mag EX.. pero it depends if you are in good terms.. Tama si Shavubu
But it's true if you started as friends and the romance just didn't work without the drama of breaking up it's easier to go back to friendship.
I always ended relationships totally after breakups because the break-up did not happen until the other person did unforgivable things - and I no longer even liked them!
Depende sa reason of breaking up..otherwise its okay to be friend after break up..
I know in my case after 7 years, it started out as being friends but now we're just strangers to each other now.
Congratulations sir #wildasovich for the number 1 podcast episode in the philippines..☝☝☝
Listening to part 1 with Ashley right now..
I would say being friends with Ex is ok, i have a couple of Exes that i’m still friends with because before we became bf/gf relationship we are friends first and they know me well.. but you know its not everyone’s cup of tea to be friends with Ex..
For me its Ok. We are good friends .
Hello Sir Wil Dasovich, I love most of your videos on the internet which makes me more getting passion driven on how to be a travel vlogger.
I am one of your number 1 fan. I hope fate gives me a chance to meet with you someday and I am definitely a great counselor for broken relationships. I can guarantee you I am great at giving advice. Well, much love and support for both (You and Alodia) of you and I hope you can have the ability to restore things back into place.
Have a good day!
I think it would really depend on how the relationship ended.. I am friends with some of my exes but it took time. I chose to give myself time to heal and get over it.
Depends on how the romantic relationship ended.
It's a cultural thing with Filipinos about the exes. My mindset about relationships has changed when I lived out west. I became more understanding and open minded, after all you have loved that person and was a part of your life.
If you end in good terms, then you can be good friends if both parties want that.
Im with Shavina. Depends on the break up and circumstances. I cannot ghost her since we have a kid
My bro and his ex dont talk anymore and yet they live here in US. My guess it just depends on how the relationship ended. If it was bad then no communication. Then if it was okay end then communication. Better closure too i think.😁
Just because relationship didn't work don't mean friendship has to end but the next relationship you guys are in might not like the friendship jealousy kicks in
No! you can talk to him but not to be friends at him. Friend is an extension of your family. If he's your ex then definitely, he is not worth it. But you can talk and be civil to each other. That's a different thing.
It really depends on how you end the relationship and it really needs time. But its hard to be good friends maybe civil. 😊
It’s possible pero sa tamang panahon. ☺️👍🏻
Being friends or civil with your exes depends on how the "relationship" ends.
i think it's time to move on will...it's like for doing this you're still trying to work it out your relationship with her..give her space...i know you cannot find a girl like her again...Goodluck...
Come on brother move on.
For me its a No 😅
Base on my experience, uhm para d na masaktan pa na makita may iba na sya or ma update sa kanya at madali maka move on i deact my fb na andun yun memories. Kase lalo lang iiyak pag makikita, d na makakausad lagi na lang babalik balikan yun memories 😥
Kaya ako na ang umiiwas. Kahit gusto ng ex na maging friends pa kami, what for? I mean, ayaw ko na mag communicate pa kami...niloloko ko na lang sarili na may pag asa pa or something..... Tsaka pag nakipag break nako d nako bumabalik lalo na kung sobrang masakit yun nangyari.....kahit mahal na mahal ko pa ako na yun umiiwas, nagtatago, walang trace or chance na mahanap ka.....unless puntahan sa bahay. But i dont think so gagawin yun dahil mostly sila yun may ginagawang mali.
May isa lang akong naging ex na naging ok naman kami at pinuntahan pa ko para magsabi na magpapakasal na sya. At sinabi ko na sana magpakatino na sya 😂 after nun never na kami nag usap kase yun girl ay selos na selos sakin kahit sya yun nang agaw 😂
Let go lang kahit ang sakit magmahal para lang saktan ka sa huli.....
Pero ayaw ko pa din makipag friends sa mga ex.....its either maalala ko yun happy memories o yun masakit na ginawa.....ay sasama lang loob ko forever?....no way...
Wish ko na lang maging happy both kahit d na mag usap pa...
Pinatawad ko naman na basta wag na lalapit pa baka madaan pa ko sa paiyak iyak 😂 marupok lang 😂
I think Wil needed this talk
Im friends/civil with my exes. I dont believe that you have to forget your ex completely, coz at some point they were a part of who you become right now. Most of my exes are still connected on socmed and we always wish each other well.
i guess it depends on the person how they see it, if it’s going to help them grow or not.
Me i grew up here in canada, moved here when i was 10 yrs old. my perspective is past is past, we should never look back but take it as a learning lesson to be better in the future. i don’t communicate with my exes either but after a few years when we see each other out of nowhere we’re good, saying hi/ hello, how’s it going and such. i guess just over time the broken heart will heal and it will be forgiven of whatever happens in the past.
it’s just pain to befriend your ex when the breakup was not a good ending but if it was mutually agreed to just separate because there is no more romantic feelings then why not be a friend again since you started as friends anyway. It’s just difficult to be a friend with your ex if your next bf/gf will not accept that matter that your only just friend and there will be no problem or jealousy that might get things complicated in trusting their new relationship after the ex.
in my opinion its better to be friends. but make sure you forgive the person first so you won't get into fight with the "ex".. coz everything happen for a reason ..
It depends on the individual......it's good to be friends.
it depends on the breakup kung nagkasakitan kau, wala ex gusto makipagusap sau,
For me we can talk to each other and have a conversations..but not really can say that we can be friends. Friends is a different way. If you part ways with a 3rd party for example, so there's no point that they will talk and be friends. But if the partner separate ways with a reason of they are not exciting or magic anymore in their relationship or they have a different perspectives in their lives and then they agree to part ways, well maybe they can be friends if they want it too.
It’s all good u both were in each other’s lives for a reason beyond any romantic idealism & it’s ok coz forcing something beyond what’s natural between you two is just never gonna end well trust I speak from my own experience I’ve been engaged since 2015 had an aneurysm & he stuck by me he was my rock & during my healing and living together I realized people can be in your life for a reason and my fiancé has been with me as my Angel protector & best friend the moment I let go of any idealistic thoughts I had before about love & marriage I promised myself to never give in to that fairytale instead I accepted out truth & that I can make my forever after in the future coz I’m more evolved now as a 🏳️⚧️ woman & just a person I’ve learned to be a lot more patient & tolerant coz in relationships specially marriage you have to be willing and ready to sacrifice & compromise at times coz ur two different people coming together so I vowed I will only marry a person who has that broad maturity in his psyche I’m 45 so if and when that happens it will be forever 🙏🏾🖖🏾
Everyone likes to be bf/friend or fubu of the goddes of cosplay dude you are very very lucky to still have the gosiengfiao's most of breakups here in ph mostly messy i think you guys are the most clean break ups after the retri christine samson theres nothing more
In my belief noo I'm still gonna talk to my ex, why be mad at him when he/she once becomes your happiness.
I feel that if both parties have mutually lost romantic feelings for each other then it’s alright to remain friends.
But usually it’s only one partner who initiates the break up, and the other partner is unwilling. In this case it’s healthier not to be in contact with each other so that the unwilling partner can properly move on.
Being friends when one partner still has feelings will just prolong the hurt of that person. He or she will most likely accept remaining friends because they still hope and have the intention of getting back together. While the person who initiated the break up would also like to remain friends with an ex so that they can have a fallback and feel loved without having to commit to that person. This is a very toxic dynamic. So if you feel that your ex still has feelings, you should learn to let them go for their own good.
I would say it should take atleast some time after the breakup before going back to being friends again. By some time, I mean the moment you no longer have feelings to one another not when the breakup is still fresh. It also depends on how the relationship ended or how that person wants it to end as well. If that person is not capable enough or just chose not to, you just have to accept that and respect each other's decision etc. but who knows maybe with time, that friendship will bloom again :)
Here in the Philippines people were unsure of their decisions.
Half hearted decisions makes the next/new partner doubt their partner being friends exes.
"Official Break ups " and "mutual decisions" are not a practice...
That's why it is not normal to be friends with your ex here in the Philippines.
In the Philippines, it’s really difficult for exes to be friends, especially for the one who got hurt. However, I also believe that time heals all wounds, and maybe in God’s time both exes can forgive, forget and be friends for the sake of their children, if they have.
I think you should go back to who you are to them before the romantic relationship started and if you have the same community or set of friends why would your romantic relationship change where your friends should choose between you and her on who to be with .
Pwede naman if the separation is not messy. You can part as friends and still continue that route. If the breakup is chaotic and toxic there is no effin way you can be friends with an ex hahaha
if you break up on good terms... a common decision, I guess it's good to be friends.. but if you broke up, like mine with 3rd party involved I'd rather be civil than friends..
Hard to say goodbye 👋💔
It depends kong may utang siya at hindi nagbayad then ,magkaaway kayo kahit pareho pa kayong mature to handle the situation, pero kong ang pag hiwalay niyo eh maganda naman, friendship forever ang drama😅😂😂
Yes! All my exes are my friends.If i bump anywhere with his new gf i always say hi hello or how are you.I always think of there is a good reason why we broke up even if its 3rd party involved or differences views and opinions about life.The only thing i dont believe is 2nd chance esp if there is another party involved.
Me and my ex are communicating always. We send pics of our faces and what are we doing or eating stuff like that.. I really think we still love each other, its just that we broke up a year ago because there’s no chance for us to meet yet. Because I’m here in the Ph and he’s abroad.
What I don’t understand is why do you need to keep your ex as a friend? What’s the point or purpose? You can get a new friend and sure you still have other friends naman. You can be civil naman and prove that you have moved on without keeping them as a friend. I have relationships before that ended in a mature way but I blocked and deleted them in all my social media and as well in my life. If nagkita ulit then civil approach lang.