Yes she was also a mother, and experienced shame guilt and agony and loss all at the same time. Good for her for moving on and doing what she can to bring some positives out of this tragedy
She's trying to White Wash/Lowet her son's role in the Massacre. She points out he was a depressed follower of Eric Harris. Even though, Dylan was the first to write about killing people and giving the name NBK for the 4/20 plan.
@@maximumpayne575 Maximum Payne... she is repeating what many psychologist that have studied this case extensively have concluded. Harris was a psychopath and Klebold was the depressive follower. The FBI agrees with this analysis. I do sense a little bit of minimization on the part of her son however this isn't due to her being a bad mother/person. I suspect that this entire thing has been so incredibly painful for her that minimizing is the only thing she can use as a coping mechanism. Imagine being in her position for a second. Your son whom you think is a normal, functional human being goes on to brutally murder several people, commits suicide and then the world is blaming you for it. No parent would predict their child would do something like this on such a grand scale. We shouldn't judge her so harshly.
@@maximumpayne575 Maximum Payne... I am sure this entire thing is too painful for her brain to completely except. I am sure if she is minimizing her son's role, it isn't because she is a bad person but because it is a coping mechanism. I can only feel compassion for this woman.
I absolutely LOVE that they allowed her to be a regular mother for one moment in her life, and asked her to describe the child she knew. That was so compassionate of them and must have lifted such a weight off of Mrs. Klebold's shoulders, to be given a moment to just describe her baby once again.
I have felt badly for both Dylan and Eric's parents from the beginning. I can't imagine the horrors they've endured since the shooting. For each of the families and loved ones of the victims and the horrors and tragedy they've experienced, Dylan and Eric's parents have likely endured more. I'm grateful that Sue has found some small semblance of peace in knowing that it wasn't her fault.
I believe her, but did she knew that something was wrong when Erric had such a bad influance on Dylan? Did the family try to stop it? or did they think it was just a harmless friendship? We can't judge, cause that's what is going on now.
Mishelle Bookout I have felt the same way. I can't speak to the pain someone else has endured because it is not my life experience. But I can say with the 28 years of life experience I've had, it must have been extremely difficult for Eric and Dylan's families to not only deal with the grief of loss but also the weight of knowing that their children had a hand in the loss of so many others. It's a twofold weight to carry for them. And I continue to see anger and vitriol spat at them in comments on videos and such. Those people, God forbid, will never know what they went through and the confusion that comes with it. Everyone learns compassion differently and some never learn. I think Sue is an incredible woman and I greatly appreciate her giving of herself and her experience if it helps stop horrible things in the future. And to answer the other comment down below, the Klebolds did try to keep Dylan and Eric separated after the theft incident but it's hard to do when they attend school together. Eric was very good at putting on a show so people didn't suspect anything. Many parents of his friends were shocked that he did what he did because Eric was known to be a gentleman and respectful. As was Dylan. The difference between the two was Eric had a very hidden harsh mentality. He was cunning and very much the ring leader. Dylan, because of what he was experiencing in school, was just along for the ride. I think his life could have gone very differently had he not ever known Eric. And Eric's life may have gone differently had he not known Dylan. But, in my humble opinion, I think eventually, Eric would have shown his dark side in some way or another. He seemed almost driven to it. I also think that certain prescription medications he was rotated through added fuel to his mental fire. What works for one person, does not work for another. There are records of several anti-depressants he was put on. None were working for him and a few actually made him worse. And many of them were not meant to be taken by people younger than 25 (when brain physiology is mostly set and finished with its growth). There are so many factors in play in this case, it was nigh impossible for people to spot the red flags with the information they had 2 decades ago. I can't assign blame to any one person or institution in this case because they were only working with the information they had at that time. A lot changes in nearly 20 years and that's why it is so important that Sue is taking a stand to make what she learned along the way known to the rest of us.
Mishelle Bookout this is so true.. they have to pay for what their kids have done, and they lost their kid too, but not allowed to cry for their loss , this situation is so weird, poor woman.. she is so strong and I admire her so much. (Sorry for my english Im french) 🙏🏼
@@TheRisskee Wow, you are a very bright intelligent person. I'm very moved by what you wrote. You are so right about everything too. I have Sue Klebold's book but I haven't read it yet. Right now I'm reading No Easy Answers The Truth Behind Death At Columbine by Brooks Brown and Rob Merritt. It is really good, a powerful inside look told from a friend of Dylan and Eric's. Brooks Brown is an amazing man. To see what he had to endure with them is sad. Mostly with Eric because he was the ring leader and a very caniving dark person who fooled many!
Every time this happens they criticize the parents and say “oh it’s their fault! I would know if my kid was a fucking maniac!” As if they’re fucking super parents. It’s bullshit. That’s really easy to say when you’re not the parent of a kid who becomes a killer.
i feel really bad for her knowing that she'll always remember what awful thing her son did! it can't leave her mind; it's stuck their because it was her family member.💔
trevor . . . I can . . . It is actually more like confusion than it is pain . . . I can still remember falling off of the symbolic edge and wondering if I could survive the fall . . . all the time not knowing where to turn . . . what to do . . . putting one foot in front of the other . . . with no place to go ! ! !
I’ve long wanted to say something about Mrs. Klebold but never had found the appropriate place to do it and this seems as good as any. I read A Mother’s Reckoning as soon as it came out, I just stumbled upon it. This book gave me so much compassion for her, a new perspective on what the Columbine tragedy was. When I saw school shootings on the news, I did feel sorry for the families of the shooters, who became judged and ostracized by the world in an instant but I always wondered, “How didn’t they know? What type of people were they?” This book taught me that. Taught me how “they” could so easily be “me”. And what a thing to have to live with knowing my child, my heart and soul, had murdered other children and then killed themselves. I feel so much love and compassion for this woman and this family. I think she is brave. I think she is genuine. And it breaks my heart when I see people still lash out at her and accuse her of trying to “defend” her son or “why is she speaking NOW” or the still ever prevalent, “How did you not know?” She could have stayed a hermit, trying to protect herself from the world but instead she comes forward, in full vulnerability, to educate others, to inform others, to attempt to stop one of the worst things that happen across America. Mrs. Klebold, I admire you, I am in awe of your bravery, of your vulnerability, and I send so much love to you and to all those children, all those families, all those involved in Columbine.
beingbailey x Here is a message I posted a couple months ago on one of the many Klebold videos . . . I hope this helps . . . Nickel Song (1971) ua-cam.com/video/UBvSNRGWIO8/v-deo.html Fifty years ago and the message is stronger than ever . . . Thirty years before nine-eleven . . . When you think about it we are all victims of our own ignorance and neglect . . . I think Sue has the right idea . . . Just struggling with the words to express that idea . . . BTDT
jeep23682 Chances are, none of these people that are trolling have read the book. They are just interested in creating drama and enjoy it. They may say I do like to create drama, too, well perhaps. It's only because they all piss me off so much! I have read the book. TWICE!
Mrs. Klebold- I was 7/8 when your son committed murder and then suicide. I am now 27 and a mother myself. I pray every day I never have to be in your shoes. I have an unmeasurable amount of respect for you, every child and adult that survived, and their guardians as well. Thank you for being willing to talk about this. I think talking about these things is incredibly important to learning and healing. I am sending you a hug virtually so I hope you are okay with hugs.
I love how they made her feel so welcomed 💕 this woman is so strong and is doing everything she can to help parents better their children’s mental health in order to prevent other tragedies and deaths.
Sue Klebold is one of the strongest people i have ever heard of. Knowing that her child did this and knowing that so many blame her and she still put herself out in public. Anyone who blames the parents i hope that it is just a reaction and that they open their eyes and their hearts and know she is doing all she knows how to help herself and other parents.
Reading her book and hearing her tell her story in interviews just breaks my heart. She seems like a very kind and compassionate person and does not deserve the hate she has received. I get wanting to blame the parents, but it’s clear they were good parents and had no idea what the boys were planning. Yes, they missed signs, but so did everyone else, including the police. Nobody is to blame except the boys. Sue is doing the best she can to tell her story to help others, and I’m sure it’s very painful for her. I admire her and think she is so brave. I hope she knows that there are people in the world that support her.
@@wednesdaymonroeShe can't help anyone. She won't even say sorry. She cant take responsibility for her failure. Shes not qualified to teach us how to prevent this kind of thing. She cant see her own failure, now, she hasn't reflected on this tragedy in a meaningful way.
The trolls in this comment section blaming Sue when Dylan was nearly an adult with his own thoughts,choices, and morale. Youve never done anything in the past and your parents told you you knew better or they raised you better? Really people stop thinking kids are robots who are not capable of making their own decisions. Wake up!
Metal Me no one ever said they hated her from what ive seen but they might as well. Calling her a bitch and saying she responsible for the downfall of the Klebold family and Dylan shooting people when they dont even know the woman and never encountered her in their whole life.
Every April 20th Sue Klebold relives her nightmare...every April 20th the nation relives this nightmare...I'm grateful Sue came forward, she makes Dylan a human
@@trgiun I noticed that Diane Sawyer had a look on her face which suggested that she either had an awful smell under her nose or that she drank an entire bottle of lemon juice. Some of my friends have told me that Diane Sawyer has always been a bitch towards some of the people she has interviewed throughout her career at ABC News.
@@Demonicintrovert666 as a parent, I don't think the extra two should "Rest In Peace." Many, many teens are struggling with mental health issues and have forever. It is a crisis for sure, but these acts were evil and horrendous. In my opinion, of course. I see your point, too.
This takes strength for her to speak about this. In no way do I “condone” her son’s actions but she herself did not have her finger on the trigger nor was it sues fault. PERIODT!! A parent can only do so much it’s like planting a garden you can water it everyday, make sure it’s in a spot where it gets enough sun light, talk to the plants & tell them that you love them etc. but it’s up to the garden how it actually turns out. A parent like Sue obviously did what she could & she obviously did the best she could but guess what she is so brave & has a lot of courage to speak out. I commend her on telling her story! 🙏🏽. Thank you Sue! You are amazing & it’s NOT your fault! Regardless of what people say! Dylan had his own brain & he was his own person who obviously had mental health issues & unfortunate people have to suffer from what he did, & for those ppl I pray for so hard. They are all victims of this tragedy including the parents of these two boys because they probably have suffered enough from all of the comments & lawsuits that they have gone through & this is in NO WAY taking away from the ones who have lost their lives or have had suffered devastating injuries because they are the people that matter in this circumstances. But Sue is brave. Periodt!
The aggressive, violent and polarized nature of society is ignored. Bullying is a major problem, and you can tell by vandalizing protests that the youth is not the most restrained in the world. Compare with polite and respectful Europe for example. This is a structural problem, nowadays even radical left narratives are mainstream in America, it is another reality. Radicalisms, bullying-like behavior, pure aggressiveness towards anyone are not disencouraged at all, if you can't address bullying and this Hollywood-inspired culture in which acting in a loud, arrogant, and mocking way towards others is applauded you will never address this too. The US is multicultural and populous and that could explain those unusual extreme acts too, the whole Europe migrated to the country, but let's just contemplate the differences between moderate Europe to arrest-seeking, vandalizing, politically intolerant liberal America, Europeans are mostly liberals too (Because their continent is stagnating and liberals are pro-establishment and resistent to changes and disruptions in any current "balance of power"), but it is still more polite, their establishment or people don't want to arrest political opponents, call anyone Nazi to demonize and attack them harshly and unjustly... the USA has many things to change. Address this bullying and aggressive behavior.
I love Sue Klebold. She's incredible and an inspiration. My mom committed suicide in 2008. For those of us left behind, we just have to learn to accept that the situation is complicated, our loved ones were complicated, and surviving in the wake of their loss is complicated. You never get any real answers. No definitions. No one way to feel about things. No way to settle the matter. It's just all kinds of emotions and perspectives and you run through the gamut of them all. It's messy and bitter. I'm willing to accept Dylan was a complicated human being that held a lot of love and promise. Nothing can excuse or make his actions acceptable, and he should always be held accountable for it in public record...but on a human, visceral level I am sorry for his loss as well. I'm sorry this poor mom lost her 'Sunshine Boy.' I'm sorry the world lost that boy. May that aspect of Dylan that was genuine and beloved rest in peace too.
Reading your book had helped me to understand that there is a love in this world, and compassion and hope. I truly appreciate your work and honesty. I can’t imagine being in your shoes and yet do such an incredibly important work for so many years
I feel so bad for this woman, She has been agonizing over where she failed as a mother for years. She didn't fail as a mother. I've caused much more trouble than his son did before the masscre. All kods cry in their rooms at some point or even think about suicide yet we dont end up killing anyone. She wouldn't have known in a million yrs what he was up to by trying to read "the signals". There were no signals. And people blame her bc they need answers but she's innocent and she's in pain too.
Totally. I believe we will never really know what the hell was up with Dylan and Eric and why they did what they did, BUT - the strange clues that have been left behind in their midst help trigger an entire movement to study the human brain further and has thus helped to save many lives. There is, in my mind, a 99.9% chance that if one person could back to the past just three months before the shooting it would have been impossible to stop. The only way, I believe, was to throw Dylan into a mental institute and kill Eric like a dog. Let's face the facts: those kids were beyond sick and hopeless.
+Hunter Flores Why kill Eric like a dog? Why does Dylan always get treated like some sad simpleton that got duped into blindly following Eric? Dylan was the one whooping, yelling and laughing during the massacre like he was having the best time of his life. He even wrote months before Eric about doing an "NBK " with another student whose name has been redacted in the 11k. Dylan was just as demented as Eric but because his journal was filled with unrequited love and sadness he gets a pass? They both were hurting inside but Eric chose to hide it behind a tough exterior. .he hated to be seen as weak. Why shouldn't Eric also get the same mental health care that Dylan could of got? I was with you till that dumb remark about" killing Eric like a dog "
Yes, both were human beings and teenagers not only Dylan. They both needed mental health care but I think in the '90 people were generally less educated about mental illness so it was tragically easier to undervalue the signs.
Yeah Dylan had a part time job and was getting Ok grades and had a circle of friends and went to his prom with one of them shit on paper that sounds better than a lot of teens.
Wow!!! The poise of this woman is remarkable. As the mother of a depressed teenager with 5 failed suicide attempts her words are as though my thoughts have coherently manifested themselves and become profound statements. Difficult to hear, but potentially impossible to realize and understand through the pride we develop as parents. Truly heartbreaking.
When I was in high school i was the good, quiet kid. But inside I was miserable, depressed and angry with the world. I wanted to hurt others and myself but thankfully I wasn't in the position to do that. We did not have a guidance councelor, no teacher pulled me aside even when I was changing rapidly, missing much of school and doodling dark things, even handing those in for art class. At that time I myself didn't even realise how bad my mental health was and it took me lots of time to get to a point of where I realised and could finally start and effort to get better and seek help. I very much agree with her statement that depression and suicidality can quickly lead to violence. It's so important to give kids the right support and help them out early on so these things don't keep on happening.
It is shameful that the woman had to hear her own governor blame her for all that bloodshed; as if just assigning random blame was going to make the dead come back to life. She had just lost a child, too, for goodness' sake. My heart hurts for her, and for everyone that loses loved ones violently.
Incredible interview... Greatly appreciate Sue's courage and authenticity. The interviewer was phenomenal... She approached Sue - and the subject - with dignity and compassion. Well done.
I don't know about the struggles she might go through from now on, but I hope our society don't fail to be kind to her and her family, from the bottom of my heart!
I got her book 2 days ago and I'm already on page 97. I had to take several breaks and cry for minutes. It's so emotional and real. Everyone who judges her as a parent should read her book. Even Judy Brooks said in an interview how lovely and shy Dylan was. He was a good kid until the year before columbine. It can happen to anyone and any parent. That's the scariest part.
I’ve watched most of Sues interviews and I think this interviewer is phenomenal. She was thorough and incisive without being accusatory or judgmental. Very well done.
The only mistake she made was letting her son hang out with Eric. The friendship was toxic and a bad influence on both boys. Eric was angry, Dylan was suicidal. They fed one another with negative emotions of different kinds. I hope that she finds her peace. I wish they could get proper help.
@@michelemichele5204 Dylan was actually the one who told the Brown family about Eric's threats on his website, but he told Them not to tell Eric that he told them. Dylan wasn't the sad follower you all make him out to be. He definitely knew how to manipulate Eric, he just didn't want confrontation with Eric.
@@Raaauti correct me if i am wrong, but i dont think i am one of the ones who feels sorry for Dylan. his mom yes, Dylan no. if he was so sweet and fragile i think he would have stopped when he saw Eric blow away the first person. and Dylan was very into the killing of the black kid. he was the one who called him a nigger ( i think, and called Eric over), Dylan was just as much into this killing as Eric. i dont think Dylan would have killed anyone, maybe himself ever if he wasnt with Eric tho. i think Eric would have been in prison for terrible things in his lifetime, but if Dylan separated himself from him i dont see him in trouble. as far as your comment above about the threat thing. i never said anything about Dylan telling the Brown's i think i remember reading that he warned them. i did however chastise the Brown;s fro not telling Dylan's mom. mrs. klebold and mrs brown made a pact to always tell eachother what troubles were going on with their kids. why mrs brown didnt tell them is a mystery, AND i think if she had it may have been the last time DYlan would have been welcome to hang with their son. (as much as they could control.) i feel sorry for mrs klebold. you never want to know, i mean really know that your kid is a monster. Dylan absolutely was! he was a bad seed. mrs klebold does apologize and acknowledge a lot about him, but deep inside she still thinks or wants to believe that he was a sweet kid. he wasnt! he had multiple chances to back out, to run from Eric. he chose to stay, he chose to kill, he chose to laugh at them, to torment them. hell, he was having a great time! thats a hard pill for any mom to swallow. she probably knows deep inside, but to actually know it outside, wow, that would be just brutal. so much damage. the kids he killed had families that will never be whole, and even for the klebolds. they lost their marriage, andit seemed like a great, and healthy one that really worked, she lost her health and got cancer, their finances went to shit. the whole family just lost themselves. probably the same for the harris's tho they healed quietly and privately.
Some people just want someone to blame for what was such a traumatic event and they can't blame the shooters as they're dead. This is natural when an event of this magnitude occurs. Others find it hard to understand how the two could keep so many weapons in their bedrooms without the parents knowing anything about it. What you need to keep in mind is that they were 16/17 years old. They were almost adults and parents don't like to sneak around bedrooms at this age. It was a different world back then as well. School shootings were a new phenomena. Nothing even closely similar had happened up until then. Looking back on it, the parents could of been more vigilant but it's unlikely that they;d of stopped the attack.
What a remarkable lady. I read some of her story in ‘Far From The Tree’ by Andrew Solomon so was pleased to hear she’d written her own book. I cannot begin to imagine the horrors she has suffered. I’m glad she survived to bring us her experience and make such a valuable contribution.
Dylan represents a lot of people in this world especially young. I know reading the stuff Dylan wrote about his pain, existence, anger, that I could actually unfortunately connect and relate with him but being able to go from having those feelings in your heart to allowing them to turn into a violent act is hard to understand. I can understand the thoughts from anger of seeking revenge in the moments but never have I actually desired to really do it and yet he did. I wish someone noticed his pain. Eric, on the other hand, I can't connect with in any sense because... Just no. If only someone took a little more notice and nagged the right people to take it seriously.
Dylan tried to hook up with many girls but they all rejected him. Dylan was very unattractive. Dylan became bitter, resentful and very hateful. He allowed himself to become consumed with anger bitternes, resemtment and hatred. Dylan was consumed with rage and hate like a spoiled child throwing temper tantrums because he didn’t get his way. It had nothing to do with bullying. Dylan ended up killing a lot of innocent people all because he couldn’t get over being rejrcted or get his way. Dylan allowed his thoughts to turn into madness. I believe Sue had a lot to do with it. She wasn’t honest with Dylan. She shared her fanatasy world with Dylan. She made him belive he was extra special, very attractive and loved and accepted by everyone. She set him up. Where the mind goes the man follows.
@@enuffeznuffe1338 that's what you think but they were extremely bullied from being called gays to clowns, had thrown tampons with ketchup on them, shoved into lockers, pushed with elbows every time they'd pass, had glass thrown at them and so on which all impacted them and made them hate school and people. I'm not justifying what they've done but i can understand how they deteriorated. Even Eric wrote if only people treated them better all wouldn't of happened.. It's tragic all together how many lives have been lost but we should learn something from this and have more kindness towards people because bullying unfortunately claimed lots of lives and still does
I feel bad for sue. People hate on her & it's not fair. It's not her fault what he did. You gotta think about how she lost her son too and had to deal with the fact he took away lives & took away her right to mourn & tarnished his own name.
+Violet Harmon I so agree with everything you have said. I just wish she wouldn't blame it all on his suicidal tendencies. There was definitely more to it than that. This boy wanted to kill people.
galefray Whatever!! There are many sensitive kids that live in this same "evil world" yet don't shoot up schools and murder people. Let's blame their sensitivity on cold blooded murder; make it not their fault!! What a load of stinky, despicable crap!!!
Goodforyouman I totally agree with you! These are bullshit excuses as to why Dylan murdered a bunch of innocent kids. Dylan and Eric were not bullied. Dylan was the byproduct of his toxic narcissistic mother. Dylan even hated his own mother with a passion and that says a lot about sue Klebold. Dylan’s mother
sammmyveilin How do you know the things you say, to be fact? I'm truly curious. I've been studying this case for years and I've never heard the things you say... Please, enlighten me.
I think children can sometimes suffer mental trauma from developing too early as they become aware of the suffering and darkness of the world too early on when they are still suppose to be thinking about cartoons and toys
I find myself filled with compassion and empathy for Sue. I send her all my love and support. She’s a victim as well and has gone through hell yet still had the strength and courage to try and help others and push for a change I think is now happening.
My heart breaks for her not only loosing her son she has to live with the shame and I don't blame either of the parents and she only not only lost her son in a horrific way the grief tore her marriage apart. It's so sad and heartbreaking. Sending love to sue and the parents❤ I would if I was her remember she loved her kids and she was only parent to speak publicly and she gave her son the best of everything emotionally and physically I commend her for having the bravery to speak publicly.
I was 6 months pregnant. I remember the fear that I had for my unborn child who is now in prison. WoW! None of this is her fault and you have to be crazy to think otherwise.!!!!!!She was a wonderful mother and did the best she could. I am not Wesley!
Sue Klebold is such a strong and truly incredible women. I’m so glad she spoke up about her side of things. After reading her book I was brought to tears many times due to the pain she and the Klebold family went through with everyone blaming them for the actions of Dylan. I can’t imagine what that must of felt like but my God I don’t think I would of survived it. The depression, grief and guilt that she experienced alone with a nation blaming her for the tragedy must of been so overwhelming and isolating. I hate that the Columbine tragedy happened but I’ve never blamed the Harris or Klebold family for the actions of Eric and Dylan. Eric and Dylan was responsible. Not their family. Personally I think columbine could of been prevented if people picked up on Eric and Dylan’s behaviour and acted on it immediately. Dylan was depressed and needed help and Eric was clearly dealing with a lot of anger and resentment at society which could of been addressed properly by a professional. There’s a lot of “what if’s” and unfortunately we’ll never know. RIP to all the victims
I believe she really has good intentions BUT I think she knew her son had problems. Maybe not to the extent he took it but some problems. I commend her for her work now.
Leslie Boozer... I think it is a natural response and a coping mechanism for her to minimize some of his behaviors before the shooting. This is very understandable and I sympathize with her because this is a nightmare that she will have to live with for the rest of her life. People are entirely too judgemental of her.
I commend her so much!! She is in no way responsible for the actions of her son and she has come forward to never condone what Dylan did but to help us learn! Not only does she live with the grief of losing a child, but losing a child to suicide, and living with the guilt that her son inflicted pain, suffering and death upon so many people! Eric Harris’s parents have not said ONE WORD! Not one!
Eric and Dylan were also victims. Yes they shot and killed those kids but they were a victim of the society we have created of anger and killing is the answer to solving problems.
Watching this makes me wonder how many times people have told Sue something she deserves: "I'm sorry for your loss". She was clearly a loving mother of a son with problems, and she reached out several times to people, who should have seen Dylan's depression and the anger it brought along. Seeing depression in others can be difficult, and everyone seemed to blame everything from computer games to black clothing. I'm still waiting for the day, where the US recognize they have a system, where young people don't feel safe to/aren't able to ask for help, when they need it. And most important: how two teenagers could buy guns. This could not have happened if it wasn't so easy to get access to guns. I wish Sue and her family all the best. No one deserves to go through this.
A beautiful video, unfortunately, these lessons were learned too late for Sue. I am 28 years old, and have experienced continual mental health difficulties since I was 14. I find that a lot of the frustrations she talks about, are things I feel towards my parents. it feels They just wanted to carry on, assuming nothing was wrong. I did not feel able to really participate in the world, I would say depression just sucked me dry. And now I feel that I am unable to join it. There are times emotionally when I feel positive, and what I imagine to be my healthy persona comes forward. Those times feel like a carrot dangling in front of my face, in some way teasing me. I am currently having difficulty as my employment history is not that flash. I am looking for work, applying for places such as McDonald's. They seem not to be interested. I can understand why my C.V looks crap. But I do wonder how I am supposed to reintegrate into society. Perhaps, what I am learning is some of the difficulties people living with mental illness struggle. Am I the only one who has had these experiences? Am I just pathetic? Is it my fault? How do I put the effort in, that I want to put in? How I structure my life properly, so I can lead from here, into a more positive life? All these questions are in my head? I assume I am not the only one, who has failed to keep up with life's developmental stages. Who has not had a friend, and so on. I currently am at university studying psychology. But man the strain is real.
I rarely reply to comments like yours, but I had to for this one. Every word you're saying could be coming out of my mouth. Every single one of them. You are definitely not the only one feeling this way. I've also studied psychology btw. I hope you're in a better place today.
I was so pleased to see that TED finally disabled the comments for their video. I am sure I was not the only one to point out to them how vicious people were and being so disrespectful to Mrs. Kelbold. I wish these people would do the same here.
MadelineToppe Hi deeagle .... I see you’re a using a new UA-cam account? Is that your 65th UA-cam account? Lol ... you can’t fool everyone you morbidly obese cow!
This is a reminder to be kind to everyone you never know what folks are going through yes its easy to judge but what purpose does that judgement serve? none its serves no purpose nobody's perfect so try to be mindful ✌️
Sue Klebold and Tom Mauser are two of the most admirable voices that have risen in response to this tragedy. I don't know if they have spoken but they seem to share some common ground. Mr Mauser has said something to the effect that he can't forgive the two for what they've done, but I can forgive them for becoming the disturbed, angry individuals who were living in such a painful state. The question WHY? will never be answered. HOW? is the one we should focus on
www.buzzfeednews.com/article/judithkelly/opinion-i-taught-at-columbine-it-is-time-to-speak-my-truth Words are just words. I can give a speech about how strong women are, and how they are the future of this country. But then go home and beat my wife, now how much does my speech matter? Sue is just a lady full of words, nothing more. She had a roommate, not a son.
No. Tom doesn’t like what Sue is doing and I don’t either. She has completely tried to humanize her killer son into some sort of “suicide victim” and the families do not agree. Dylan was a manipulative killer that killed hulk self to avoid consequences. He didn’t die at his own hand quietly. She’s in denial and needs to stop this because it’s victimizing the true victims.
I think the message is that this could potentially be anyone’s parent. Think! How many of us had parents who loved us, cared for us, were excellent providers, but never really knew what we were experiencing?
I always thought Dylan were the only child but he had an older brother. Sue is unbelievable strong and did not fail as a mother, her second son is proof of that
In her book a mother's reckoning it states he also has a sister. I think she likes to remain anonymous because there's no mention of her name or a picture of her
@@michaellovely6601 sorry I read the page wrong, it's where she shows Dylan playing cards with her brother and sister and I thought it said his sister. Sorry my mistake
Both boys had older brothers, I do wonder about them and how their lives have been, they have families of their own apparently...I can't imagine how you'd tell your future spouse about what your little brother did
before you blame either of Dylan's parents, when is or was the last time you as a parent were so into your son's needs that u picked up the fact that your son's voice pitch is tight, and that u r concerned with his feelings? when ? probably never! his parents were some of the best if not the best! i have never ever known even one parent who is more involved and concerned about their kids everything-feelings, academics, relationships, education, nutrition, i mean everything! anyone who gets on these parents is a loser and a dishonest liar! no way are you anywhere near as good a parent as they are EVEN when you have this tradegy to have learned from.probably very few parents ever learned from this. that is probably why she fights every day to try and help others. it is like banging your head against the wall!
She is brave, dignified and eloquent. I am glad she came forward with her truth. Blaming her teaches us nothing; but being with her in compassion does. Her point that at some point suicide became homicide is a salient observation that should interest us all in preventing future homicidal behavior by adolescent males.
Mental illness is a sickness-like physical illness-once you get infected, you are affected,it does not choose your nationality or how well your parents raised you.it is difficult to distinguish mental illness because on the outside,everything looks normal but on the inside-there’s turbulence and storms
Having compassion for Sue Klebold doesn't mean condoning Dylan's actions in any way!
Yes she was also a mother, and experienced shame guilt and agony and loss all at the same time. Good for her for moving on and doing what she can to bring some positives out of this tragedy
Beautifully said!
She's trying to White Wash/Lowet her son's role in the Massacre. She points out he was a depressed follower of Eric Harris. Even though, Dylan was the first to write about killing people and giving the name NBK for the 4/20 plan.
@@maximumpayne575 Maximum Payne... she is repeating what many psychologist that have studied this case extensively have concluded. Harris was a psychopath and Klebold was the depressive follower. The FBI agrees with this analysis. I do sense a little bit of minimization on the part of her son however this isn't due to her being a bad mother/person. I suspect that this entire thing has been so incredibly painful for her that minimizing is the only thing she can use as a coping mechanism. Imagine being in her position for a second. Your son whom you think is a normal, functional human being goes on to brutally murder several people, commits suicide and then the world is blaming you for it. No parent would predict their child would do something like this on such a grand scale. We shouldn't judge her so harshly.
@@maximumpayne575 Maximum Payne... I am sure this entire thing is too painful for her brain to completely except. I am sure if she is minimizing her son's role, it isn't because she is a bad person but because it is a coping mechanism. I can only feel compassion for this woman.
I want to give Sue a big hug and tell her how much I apreciate her honesty and bravery. I dont blame her for her sons actions.
Crave88evarC Agreed. I hope she knows she is loved.❤️
He was old enough to know better. His fault not hers
@@littlereddress82 he was 17 no ones fully grown then, everyone does stupid shit in that age. But he went the extra mile, no excuses for that.
Do you blame her for your terrible grammar? And btw, if your child had been assassinated that day, you WOULD blame her. Shame on you.
@@littlereddress82 he was sick with mental issues. He fail to communicate to his family. Sorry for the victims and their families. It is so sad
I absolutely LOVE that they allowed her to be a regular mother for one moment in her life, and asked her to describe the child she knew. That was so compassionate of them and must have lifted such a weight off of Mrs. Klebold's shoulders, to be given a moment to just describe her baby once again.
She had that chance to be a normal mother for nearly 18 years she shouldn’t have taken it for granted.
Oh please!!🙄
I have felt badly for both Dylan and Eric's parents from the beginning. I can't imagine the horrors they've endured since the shooting. For each of the families and loved ones of the victims and the horrors and tragedy they've experienced, Dylan and Eric's parents have likely endured more. I'm grateful that Sue has found some small semblance of peace in knowing that it wasn't her fault.
I believe her, but did she knew that something was wrong when Erric had such a bad influance on Dylan? Did the family try to stop it? or did they think it was just a harmless friendship? We can't judge, cause that's what is going on now.
Mishelle Bookout I have felt the same way. I can't speak to the pain someone else has endured because it is not my life experience. But I can say with the 28 years of life experience I've had, it must have been extremely difficult for Eric and Dylan's families to not only deal with the grief of loss but also the weight of knowing that their children had a hand in the loss of so many others. It's a twofold weight to carry for them. And I continue to see anger and vitriol spat at them in comments on videos and such. Those people, God forbid, will never know what they went through and the confusion that comes with it. Everyone learns compassion differently and some never learn. I think Sue is an incredible woman and I greatly appreciate her giving of herself and her experience if it helps stop horrible things in the future.
And to answer the other comment down below, the Klebolds did try to keep Dylan and Eric separated after the theft incident but it's hard to do when they attend school together. Eric was very good at putting on a show so people didn't suspect anything. Many parents of his friends were shocked that he did what he did because Eric was known to be a gentleman and respectful. As was Dylan. The difference between the two was Eric had a very hidden harsh mentality. He was cunning and very much the ring leader. Dylan, because of what he was experiencing in school, was just along for the ride. I think his life could have gone very differently had he not ever known Eric. And Eric's life may have gone differently had he not known Dylan. But, in my humble opinion, I think eventually, Eric would have shown his dark side in some way or another. He seemed almost driven to it. I also think that certain prescription medications he was rotated through added fuel to his mental fire. What works for one person, does not work for another. There are records of several anti-depressants he was put on. None were working for him and a few actually made him worse. And many of them were not meant to be taken by people younger than 25 (when brain physiology is mostly set and finished with its growth).
There are so many factors in play in this case, it was nigh impossible for people to spot the red flags with the information they had 2 decades ago. I can't assign blame to any one person or institution in this case because they were only working with the information they had at that time. A lot changes in nearly 20 years and that's why it is so important that Sue is taking a stand to make what she learned along the way known to the rest of us.
Mishelle Bookout this is so true.. they have to pay for what their kids have done, and they lost their kid too, but not allowed to cry for their loss , this situation is so weird, poor woman.. she is so strong and I admire her so much.
(Sorry for my english Im french) 🙏🏼
@@TheRisskee Wow, you are a very bright intelligent person. I'm very moved by what you wrote. You are so right about everything too. I have Sue Klebold's book but I haven't read it yet. Right now I'm reading No Easy Answers The Truth Behind Death At Columbine by Brooks Brown and Rob Merritt. It is really good, a powerful inside look told from a friend of Dylan and Eric's. Brooks Brown is an amazing man. To see what he had to endure with them is sad. Mostly with Eric because he was the ring leader and a very caniving dark person who fooled many!
Every time this happens they criticize the parents and say “oh it’s their fault! I would know if my kid was a fucking maniac!” As if they’re fucking super parents. It’s bullshit. That’s really easy to say when you’re not the parent of a kid who becomes a killer.
I cannot even fathom the emotional pain this woman has endured. My heart breaks for her! 😥 She is beautiful and brave!
i feel really bad for her knowing that she'll always remember what awful thing her son did! it can't leave her mind; it's stuck their because it was her family member.💔
trevor . . .
I can . . .
It is actually more like confusion than it is pain . . .
I can still remember falling off of the symbolic edge and wondering if I could survive the fall . . .
all the time not knowing where to turn . . .
what to do . . .
putting one foot in front of the other . . . with no place to go ! ! !
She is just as much of a victim of her sons action as anyone. He hurt her too
@@littlereddress82 so true
No
I’ve long wanted to say something about Mrs. Klebold but never had found the appropriate place to do it and this seems as good as any. I read A Mother’s Reckoning as soon as it came out, I just stumbled upon it. This book gave me so much compassion for her, a new perspective on what the Columbine tragedy was. When I saw school shootings on the news, I did feel sorry for the families of the shooters, who became judged and ostracized by the world in an instant but I always wondered, “How didn’t they know? What type of people were they?” This book taught me that. Taught me how “they” could so easily be “me”. And what a thing to have to live with knowing my child, my heart and soul, had murdered other children and then killed themselves. I feel so much love and compassion for this woman and this family. I think she is brave. I think she is genuine. And it breaks my heart when I see people still lash out at her and accuse her of trying to “defend” her son or “why is she speaking NOW” or the still ever prevalent, “How did you not know?” She could have stayed a hermit, trying to protect herself from the world but instead she comes forward, in full vulnerability, to educate others, to inform others, to attempt to stop one of the worst things that happen across America. Mrs. Klebold, I admire you, I am in awe of your bravery, of your vulnerability, and I send so much love to you and to all those children, all those families, all those involved in Columbine.
So well said. Thank you!
Beautifully said, you articulate what so many people feel, I also have just read her book. I so admire her.
beingbailey x
Here is a message I posted a couple months ago on one of the many Klebold videos . . .
I hope this helps . . .
Nickel Song (1971)
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Fifty years ago and the message is stronger than ever . . .
Thirty years before nine-eleven . . .
When you think about it we are all victims of our own ignorance and neglect . . .
I think Sue has the right idea . . .
Just struggling with the words to express that idea . . . BTDT
Lmao nice fake account sue
Wow she s desperate. I hate you sue.
I think she's extremely brave to come forward. It's not her fault Dylan did what he did and you can tell she loved him greatly.
How?
AdventureswithMacKenzie&Mick I think the best part about this is that she says" I love my son"
Metal Me
You still didn't answer the question.
jeep23682 Chances are, none of these people that are trolling have read the book. They are just interested in creating drama and enjoy it. They may say I do like to create drama, too, well perhaps. It's only because they all piss me off so much! I have read the book. TWICE!
What a bunch of weirdos on this thread. Are you all 10 years old or what? Writing nonsense.
Mrs. Klebold- I was 7/8 when your son committed murder and then suicide. I am now 27 and a mother myself. I pray every day I never have to be in your shoes. I have an unmeasurable amount of respect for you, every child and adult that survived, and their guardians as well. Thank you for being willing to talk about this. I think talking about these things is incredibly important to learning and healing. I am sending you a hug virtually so I hope you are okay with hugs.
well said Aurelia!
I was a 12th grader in Pittsburgh Pa when this happened we had a moment of Silence for everyone that day in school 😢
It's scary that most of us are older than both dylan and eric now
Respect for monsters ?
I love how they made her feel so welcomed 💕 this woman is so strong and is doing everything she can to help parents better their children’s mental health in order to prevent other tragedies and deaths.
I love the lady interviewing she does it with compassion in her voice not in a “judgey” tone. Great interview, and Sue is an amazing woman!
Who was the one who spoke to her in a judgmental manner? I think it was Diane Sawyer but I'm not sure if that's her name.
@@LyricalXilence
Yes, it was Diane Sawyer
I’m not a parent... but my heart ❤️ goes out to sue Klebold and everything she has went through since April 20, 1999.
Really? Do your heart goes to the families of the victims that this bitch s Monster killed?
Sue Klebold is one of the strongest people i have ever heard of. Knowing that her child did this and knowing that so many blame her and she still put herself out in public. Anyone who blames the parents i hope that it is just a reaction and that they open their eyes and their hearts and know she is doing all she knows how to help herself and other parents.
Reading her book and hearing her tell her story in interviews just breaks my heart. She seems like a very kind and compassionate person and does not deserve the hate she has received. I get wanting to blame the parents, but it’s clear they were good parents and had no idea what the boys were planning. Yes, they missed signs, but so did everyone else, including the police. Nobody is to blame except the boys. Sue is doing the best she can to tell her story to help others, and I’m sure it’s very painful for her. I admire her and think she is so brave. I hope she knows that there are people in the world that support her.
I love interviewer she so compassionate, she asked questions in caring way
This lady has been through a lot and I love her honesty and authenticity. It wasn't her fault. I respect her a lot.
Yes she s the Real victim poor sue
Sue is a victim as well and her speaking out like this to help other people is so brave! I have so much respect for her. ❤❤❤❤
Imagine how hard this must be for all those parents who lost their beloved kids to watch her perform as a celebrity?
Incredibly lame performance
@radorad6131 she's trying to help prevent suicide and tragedies happen...
@@wednesdaymonroeShe can't help anyone. She won't even say sorry. She cant take responsibility for her failure.
Shes not qualified to teach us how to prevent this kind of thing. She cant see her own failure, now, she hasn't reflected on this tragedy in a meaningful way.
The trolls in this comment section blaming Sue when Dylan was nearly an adult with his own thoughts,choices, and morale. Youve never done anything in the past and your parents told you you knew better or they raised you better? Really people stop thinking kids are robots who are not capable of making their own decisions. Wake up!
ekadlover sorry for your loss was your daughter one of the columbine victims?
Metal Me no one ever said they hated her from what ive seen but they might as well. Calling her a bitch and saying she responsible for the downfall of the Klebold family and Dylan shooting people when they dont even know the woman and never encountered her in their whole life.
Males Odom Thankfully, Elizabeth was not a Columbine victim, but we did lose her.
deeagle I knew you were crazy
Pedophile creeper23862, did you say something? Oh that's what I though, again, WHAAAATEVER
Every April 20th Sue Klebold relives her nightmare...every April 20th the nation relives this nightmare...I'm grateful Sue came forward, she makes Dylan a human
What a sweet and caring interviewer! Also the things she said about her son Dylan at the end of the video are so touching and impressive.
so true! diane sawyer seemed so cold and belittling of sue
@@trgiun I noticed that Diane Sawyer had a look on her face which suggested that she either had an awful smell under her nose or that she drank an entire bottle of lemon juice. Some of my friends have told me that Diane Sawyer has always been a bitch towards some of the people she has interviewed throughout her career at ABC News.
I just can't believe she never notice that he needed help
15 people died that day. I think it is equally important that we address the shooters acts of suicide, especially as it pertains to mental health.
yes 15 not 13 it pisses me off when people say rip all 13
@@Demonicintrovert666 as a parent, I don't think the extra two should "Rest In Peace." Many, many teens are struggling with mental health issues and have forever. It is a crisis for sure, but these acts were evil and horrendous. In my opinion, of course. I see your point, too.
Because of Sue's book and the Columbine tragedy, I plan to become a volunteer with my local suicide prevention chapter.
I feel so bad for everyone mistreating her for dylans
Actions it's not her fault
Dylan's actions led to killing
People he just need help
Dylan needed God.
@@AperioNortheast nah😒
This takes strength for her to speak about this. In no way do I “condone” her son’s actions but she herself did not have her finger on the trigger nor was it sues fault. PERIODT!! A parent can only do so much it’s like planting a garden you can water it everyday, make sure it’s in a spot where it gets enough sun light, talk to the plants & tell them that you love them etc. but it’s up to the garden how it actually turns out. A parent like Sue obviously did what she could & she obviously did the best she could but guess what she is so brave & has a lot of courage to speak out. I commend her on telling her story! 🙏🏽. Thank you Sue! You are amazing & it’s NOT your fault! Regardless of what people say! Dylan had his own brain & he was his own person who obviously had mental health issues & unfortunate people have to suffer from what he did, & for those ppl I pray for so hard. They are all victims of this tragedy including the parents of these two boys because they probably have suffered enough from all of the comments & lawsuits that they have gone through & this is in NO WAY taking away from the ones who have lost their lives or have had suffered devastating injuries because they are the people that matter in this circumstances. But Sue is brave. Periodt!
Moron
"Welcome to Canada". I love it, and love listening to Mrs Klebold.
How brave this woman is. Wow. My heart truly goes out to her. And how unprofessional and disgraceful the governor blamed this on the parents!
Government don't want to admit there faults and blame the families typical
The aggressive, violent and polarized nature of society is ignored. Bullying is a major problem, and you can tell by vandalizing protests that the youth is not the most restrained in the world. Compare with polite and respectful Europe for example. This is a structural problem, nowadays even radical left narratives are mainstream in America, it is another reality. Radicalisms, bullying-like behavior, pure aggressiveness towards anyone are not disencouraged at all, if you can't address bullying and this Hollywood-inspired culture in which acting in a loud, arrogant, and mocking way towards others is applauded you will never address this too. The US is multicultural and populous and that could explain those unusual extreme acts too, the whole Europe migrated to the country, but let's just contemplate the differences between moderate Europe to arrest-seeking, vandalizing, politically intolerant liberal America, Europeans are mostly liberals too (Because their continent is stagnating and liberals are pro-establishment and resistent to changes and disruptions in any current "balance of power"), but it is still more polite, their establishment or people don't want to arrest political opponents, call anyone Nazi to demonize and attack them harshly and unjustly... the USA has many things to change. Address this bullying and aggressive behavior.
I love Sue Klebold. She's incredible and an inspiration. My mom committed suicide in 2008. For those of us left behind, we just have to learn to accept that the situation is complicated, our loved ones were complicated, and surviving in the wake of their loss is complicated. You never get any real answers. No definitions. No one way to feel about things. No way to settle the matter. It's just all kinds of emotions and perspectives and you run through the gamut of them all. It's messy and bitter. I'm willing to accept Dylan was a complicated human being that held a lot of love and promise. Nothing can excuse or make his actions acceptable, and he should always be held accountable for it in public record...but on a human, visceral level I am sorry for his loss as well. I'm sorry this poor mom lost her 'Sunshine Boy.' I'm sorry the world lost that boy. May that aspect of Dylan that was genuine and beloved rest in peace too.
I’m so sorry for your loss❤️
You have friends here, Sue Klebold! XO
I admire your bravery and courage. You are not to blame for your son's actions. You have inspired me and given me hope.
Reading your book had helped me to understand that there is a love in this world, and compassion and hope. I truly appreciate your work and honesty. I can’t imagine being in your shoes and yet do such an incredibly important work for so many years
Thank you for sharing your story. You are a kind and brave soul and I’m very sorry for your loss.
Truely a very strong human being.. I hope this journey of writing and sharing this story is finding you some peace
I feel so bad for this woman, She has been agonizing over where she failed as a mother for years. She didn't fail as a mother. I've caused much more trouble than his son did before the masscre. All kods cry in their rooms at some point or even think about suicide yet we dont end up killing anyone.
She wouldn't have known in a million yrs what he was up to by trying to read "the signals". There were no signals.
And people blame her bc they need answers but she's innocent and she's in pain too.
Totally. I believe we will never really know what the hell was up with Dylan and Eric and why they did what they did, BUT - the strange clues that have been left behind in their midst help trigger an entire movement to study the human brain further and has thus helped to save many lives. There is, in my mind, a 99.9% chance that if one person could back to the past just three months before the shooting it would have been impossible to stop. The only way, I believe, was to throw Dylan into a mental institute and kill Eric like a dog. Let's face the facts: those kids were beyond sick and hopeless.
+Hunter Flores Why kill Eric like a dog? Why does Dylan always get treated like some sad simpleton that got duped into blindly following Eric? Dylan was the one whooping, yelling and laughing during the massacre like he was having the best time of his life. He even wrote months before Eric about doing an "NBK " with another student whose name has been redacted in the 11k. Dylan was just as demented as Eric but because his journal was filled with unrequited love and sadness he gets a pass? They both were hurting inside but Eric chose to hide it behind a tough exterior. .he hated to be seen as weak. Why shouldn't Eric also get the same mental health care that Dylan could of got? I was with you till that dumb remark about" killing Eric like a dog "
Looking back, I have to agree with you. I apologize.
Yes, both were human beings and teenagers not only Dylan. They both needed mental health care but I think in the '90 people were generally less educated about mental illness so it was tragically easier to undervalue the signs.
Yeah Dylan had a part time job and was getting Ok grades and had a circle of friends and went to his prom with one of them shit on paper that sounds better than a lot of teens.
Wow!!! The poise of this woman is remarkable. As the mother of a depressed teenager with 5 failed suicide attempts her words are as though my thoughts have coherently manifested themselves and become profound statements. Difficult to hear, but potentially impossible to realize and understand through the pride we develop as parents. Truly heartbreaking.
When I was in high school i was the good, quiet kid. But inside I was miserable, depressed and angry with the world. I wanted to hurt others and myself but thankfully I wasn't in the position to do that. We did not have a guidance councelor, no teacher pulled me aside even when I was changing rapidly, missing much of school and doodling dark things, even handing those in for art class. At that time I myself didn't even realise how bad my mental health was and it took me lots of time to get to a point of where I realised and could finally start and effort to get better and seek help. I very much agree with her statement that depression and suicidality can quickly lead to violence. It's so important to give kids the right support and help them out early on so these things don't keep on happening.
It is shameful that the woman had to hear her own governor blame her for all that bloodshed; as if just assigning random blame was going to make the dead come back to life. She had just lost a child, too, for goodness' sake. My heart hurts for her, and for everyone that loses loved ones violently.
Once a person is a certain age they are responsible for their actions.
Her resilience, courage and love for humankind is unheard of. Thank you Sue xoxoxo
Incredible interview... Greatly appreciate Sue's courage and authenticity. The interviewer was phenomenal... She approached Sue - and the subject - with dignity and compassion. Well done.
I don't know about the struggles she might go through from now on, but I hope our society don't fail to be kind to her and her family, from the bottom of my heart!
I got her book 2 days ago and I'm already on page 97. I had to take several breaks and cry for minutes. It's so emotional and real. Everyone who judges her as a parent should read her book.
Even Judy Brooks said in an interview how lovely and shy Dylan was. He was a good kid until the year before columbine. It can happen to anyone and any parent. That's the scariest part.
Poor sue, I can’t even imagine what she had to go through, how do you even process all of that shock.
My heart can’t go out enough for Sue. PERIOD.
The fact that she has the balls to talk about her personal story is just mind blowing.
Perhaps it should've been you in the library of that high school that day in 1999...
Sending love and peace to Sue and love and peace to all families involved in the tragedy.
I like to see the smile on her face! I want to hug her and to say “thank you, Sue!” I admire her bravery and honesty. Such a strong woman
my heart breaks so much for her even now i can't even imagine what she went through, so sad. But she seems like a strong and wonderful person.
I ADMIRE HER.
WHAT A TERRIBLE EVENT, TO LIVE WITH.
A BRAVE LADY.
Bless her heart I understand how hard it can be to try to raise a troubled child
Yes standing ovation for sue 🙏👏👏👏👏may God bless her so much and her family and may Dylan klebold rest in heavenly peace 🙏
I have such deep respekt for her strength and her situation. And i would never ever come to the conclusion that it was her fault
I’ve watched most of Sues interviews and I think this interviewer is phenomenal. She was thorough and incisive without being accusatory or judgmental. Very well done.
The only mistake she made was letting her son hang out with Eric.
The friendship was toxic and a bad influence on both boys.
Eric was angry, Dylan was suicidal. They fed one another with negative emotions of different kinds.
I hope that she finds her peace.
I wish they could get proper help.
Agreed!
this is so very true! her was a follower when it came to Eric. he even showed fear of Eric, but he couldnt let the friendship go.
@@michelemichele5204 Dylan was actually the one who told the Brown family about Eric's threats on his website, but he told Them not to tell Eric that he told them. Dylan wasn't the sad follower you all make him out to be. He definitely knew how to manipulate Eric, he just didn't want confrontation with Eric.
@@Raaauti correct me if i am wrong, but i dont think i am one of the ones who feels sorry for Dylan. his mom yes, Dylan no. if he was so sweet and fragile i think he would have stopped when he saw Eric blow away the first person. and Dylan was very into the killing of the black kid. he was the one who called him a nigger ( i think, and called Eric over), Dylan was just as much into this killing as Eric. i dont think Dylan would have killed anyone, maybe himself ever if he wasnt with Eric tho. i think Eric would have been in prison for terrible things in his lifetime, but if Dylan separated himself from him i dont see him in trouble. as far as your comment above about the threat thing. i never said anything about Dylan telling the Brown's i think i remember reading that he warned them. i did however chastise the Brown;s fro not telling Dylan's mom. mrs. klebold and mrs brown made a pact to always tell eachother what troubles were going on with their kids. why mrs brown didnt tell them is a mystery, AND i think if she had it may have been the last time DYlan would have been welcome to hang with their son. (as much as they could control.) i feel sorry for mrs klebold. you never want to know, i mean really know that your kid is a monster. Dylan absolutely was! he was a bad seed. mrs klebold does apologize and acknowledge a lot about him, but deep inside she still thinks or wants to believe that he was a sweet kid. he wasnt! he had multiple chances to back out, to run from Eric. he chose to stay, he chose to kill, he chose to laugh at them, to torment them. hell, he was having a great time! thats a hard pill for any mom to swallow. she probably knows deep inside, but to actually know it outside, wow, that would be just brutal. so much damage. the kids he killed had families that will never be whole, and even for the klebolds. they lost their marriage, andit seemed like a great, and healthy one that really worked, she lost her health and got cancer, their finances went to shit. the whole family just lost themselves. probably the same for the harris's tho they healed quietly and privately.
@@michelemichele5204 Read your last comment.
Some people just want someone to blame for what was such a traumatic event and they can't blame the shooters as they're dead. This is natural when an event of this magnitude occurs. Others find it hard to understand how the two could keep so many weapons in their bedrooms without the parents knowing anything about it.
What you need to keep in mind is that they were 16/17 years old. They were almost adults and parents don't like to sneak around bedrooms at this age. It was a different world back then as well. School shootings were a new phenomena. Nothing even closely similar had happened up until then. Looking back on it, the parents could of been more vigilant but it's unlikely that they;d of stopped the attack.
What a remarkable lady. I read some of her story in ‘Far From The Tree’ by Andrew Solomon so was pleased to hear she’d written her own book. I cannot begin to imagine the horrors she has suffered. I’m glad she survived to bring us her experience and make such a valuable contribution.
Dylan represents a lot of people in this world especially young. I know reading the stuff Dylan wrote about his pain, existence, anger, that I could actually unfortunately connect and relate with him but being able to go from having those feelings in your heart to allowing them to turn into a violent act is hard to understand. I can understand the thoughts from anger of seeking revenge in the moments but never have I actually desired to really do it and yet he did. I wish someone noticed his pain. Eric, on the other hand, I can't connect with in any sense because... Just no. If only someone took a little more notice and nagged the right people to take it seriously.
Dylan tried to hook up with many girls but they all rejected him. Dylan was very unattractive. Dylan became bitter, resentful and very hateful. He allowed himself to become consumed with anger bitternes, resemtment and hatred. Dylan was consumed with rage and hate like a spoiled child throwing temper tantrums because he didn’t get his way. It had nothing to do with bullying. Dylan ended up killing a lot of innocent people all because he couldn’t get over being rejrcted or get his way. Dylan allowed his thoughts to turn into madness.
I believe Sue had a lot to do with it. She wasn’t honest with Dylan. She shared her fanatasy world with Dylan. She made him belive he was extra special, very attractive and loved and accepted by everyone. She set him up.
Where the mind goes the man follows.
@@enuffeznuffe1338 that's what you think but they were extremely bullied from being called gays to clowns, had thrown tampons with ketchup on them, shoved into lockers, pushed with elbows every time they'd pass, had glass thrown at them and so on which all impacted them and made them hate school and people. I'm not justifying what they've done but i can understand how they deteriorated. Even Eric wrote if only people treated them better all wouldn't of happened.. It's tragic all together how many lives have been lost but we should learn something from this and have more kindness towards people because bullying unfortunately claimed lots of lives and still does
I really wish my mom would be as supportive and comprehensive as Sue. She is great.
Bruh then you would be a mass murderer
I feel bad for sue. People hate on her & it's not fair. It's not her fault what he did. You gotta think about how she lost her son too and had to deal with the fact he took away lives & took away her right to mourn & tarnished his own name.
+Violet Harmon I so agree with everything you have said. I just wish she wouldn't blame it all on his suicidal tendencies. There was definitely more to it than that. This boy wanted to kill people.
I agree
A bright soul. She is doing good work. I hope people will be kind to her and listen to her wisdom on helping their children.
The were two REALLY sensitive kids, driven to madness by the evil in the world, there probably was no way to stop it.
galefray Whatever!! There are many sensitive kids that live in this same "evil world" yet don't shoot up schools and murder people. Let's blame their sensitivity on cold blooded murder; make it not their fault!! What a load of stinky, despicable crap!!!
Goodforyouman I totally agree with you! These are bullshit excuses as to why Dylan murdered a bunch of innocent kids. Dylan and Eric were not bullied. Dylan was the byproduct of his toxic narcissistic mother. Dylan even hated his own mother with a passion and that says a lot about sue Klebold. Dylan’s mother
He was bullied you dumb ass. You probably were or are a bully and want to excuse bullying.
david myers Stop talking about yourself ..... ....dumbass. Lol
sammmyveilin How do you know the things you say, to be fact? I'm truly curious. I've been studying this case for years and I've never heard the things you say... Please, enlighten me.
This Mother is brave, clever, and she's ALSO a SURVIVOR from Columbine.❤My heart and thoughs go with her❤
I think children can sometimes suffer mental trauma from developing too early as they become aware of the suffering and darkness of the world too early on when they are still suppose to be thinking about cartoons and toys
Dear Mrs. Klebold! I feel so sad for you. I hope the best for you. Don´t give up.
Much love to you, Sue. Stay strong.
We care about u Sue klebold 💜💜💜🦋🦋🦋🌟🌟🌟 praying for u!
Bless you Sue for speaking out. Your son killed so many but through your book your bravery of going on shows like this, how many lives have you saved?
She's right about how depressed people feel. I think she understands now, I lament what happened back then.
I find myself filled with compassion and empathy for Sue. I send her all my love and support. She’s a victim as well and has gone through hell yet still had the strength and courage to try and help others and push for a change I think is now happening.
That's exactly what's she wants you to feel. She raised a mass murderer with tons of signs that she chose to ignore. Poor Sue...
She doesn’t have any empathy for anyone but herself.
My heart breaks for her not only loosing her son she has to live with the shame and I don't blame either of the parents and she only not only lost her son in a horrific way the grief tore her marriage apart. It's so sad and heartbreaking. Sending love to sue and the parents❤ I would if I was her remember she loved her kids and she was only parent to speak publicly and she gave her son the best of everything emotionally and physically I commend her for having the bravery to speak publicly.
Bless Sue Klebold ❤️
I was 6 months pregnant. I remember the fear that I had for my unborn child who is now in prison. WoW! None of this is her fault and you have to be crazy to think otherwise.!!!!!!She was a wonderful mother and did the best she could. I am not Wesley!
Wow she really brings it home ....thank you, Ms Sue !!continued peace .
Sue Klebold is such a strong and truly incredible women. I’m so glad she spoke up about her side of things. After reading her book I was brought to tears many times due to the pain she and the Klebold family went through with everyone blaming them for the actions of Dylan. I can’t imagine what that must of felt like but my God I don’t think I would of survived it. The depression, grief and guilt that she experienced alone with a nation blaming her for the tragedy must of been so overwhelming and isolating. I hate that the Columbine tragedy happened but I’ve never blamed the Harris or Klebold family for the actions of Eric and Dylan.
Eric and Dylan was responsible. Not their family.
Personally I think columbine could of been prevented if people picked up on Eric and Dylan’s behaviour and acted on it immediately. Dylan was depressed and needed help and Eric was clearly dealing with a lot of anger and resentment at society which could of been addressed properly by a professional. There’s a lot of “what if’s” and unfortunately we’ll never know.
RIP to all the victims
Sue is a wonderful person and a wonderful mum.
I hate the way some people seem to think a parent should've been able to look at their kid and say, "ah, hah!!!, you're planning a school shooting!!!"
Thankyou Sue😻
She's amazing..My heart goes out to everyone involved with and affected by the tragedy of Columbine.
I believe she really has good intentions BUT I think she knew her son had problems. Maybe not to the extent he took it but some problems. I commend her for her work now.
Leslie Boozer... I think it is a natural response and a coping mechanism for her to minimize some of his behaviors before the shooting. This is very understandable and I sympathize with her because this is a nightmare that she will have to live with for the rest of her life. People are entirely too judgemental of her.
Yes, you are one of the few who see that. Her son needed God and the joy that comes with knowing Christ personally.
It’s also worth noting that bad therapists play a role too
I was seriously suicidal I managed to convince 4 people that I was fine and just a bit down they let me out and I tried to kill myself 3 hours later
@@TJSPARKLEhoping that you are better and have some solace in your life.
I commend her so much!! She is in no way responsible for the actions of her son and she has come forward to never condone what Dylan did but to help us learn! Not only does she live with the grief of losing a child, but losing a child to suicide, and living with the guilt that her son inflicted pain, suffering and death upon so many people! Eric Harris’s parents have not said ONE WORD! Not one!
I admire Sue very much I wish her peace
The woman at the start is wrong she said 13 dead. *15 people dead.
Straight E I think she might've been referring to the victims and not the shooters.
mortalbodiestimelesssouls then she should have said 13 victims and 15 Dead.
Straight E agreed
Straight E
The shooters were victims to in there own way .-.
Elfish Gaming They were victims in their own way, but she was referring to the victims who were killed.
Eric and Dylan were also victims. Yes they shot and killed those kids but they were a victim of the society we have created of anger and killing is the answer to solving problems.
God bless this woman..... She's so brave! Wonderfull!!!
Watching this makes me wonder how many times people have told Sue something she deserves: "I'm sorry for your loss".
She was clearly a loving mother of a son with problems, and she reached out several times to people, who should have seen Dylan's depression and the anger it brought along. Seeing depression in others can be difficult, and everyone seemed to blame everything from computer games to black clothing.
I'm still waiting for the day, where the US recognize they have a system, where young people don't feel safe to/aren't able to ask for help, when they need it.
And most important: how two teenagers could buy guns. This could not have happened if it wasn't so easy to get access to guns.
I wish Sue and her family all the best. No one deserves to go through this.
Or that 's your blame bitch
A beautiful video, unfortunately, these lessons were learned too late for Sue. I am 28 years old, and have experienced continual mental health difficulties since I was 14. I find that a lot of the frustrations she talks about, are things I feel towards my parents. it feels They just wanted to carry on, assuming nothing was wrong. I did not feel able to really participate in the world, I would say depression just sucked me dry. And now I feel that I am unable to join it. There are times emotionally when I feel positive, and what I imagine to be my healthy persona comes forward. Those times feel like a carrot dangling in front of my face, in some way teasing me.
I am currently having difficulty as my employment history is not that flash. I am looking for work, applying for places such as McDonald's. They seem not to be interested. I can understand why my C.V looks crap. But I do wonder how I am supposed to reintegrate into society. Perhaps, what I am learning is some of the difficulties people living with mental illness struggle. Am I the only one who has had these experiences? Am I just pathetic? Is it my fault? How do I put the effort in, that I want to put in? How I structure my life properly, so I can lead from here, into a more positive life? All these questions are in my head? I assume I am not the only one, who has failed to keep up with life's developmental stages. Who has not had a friend, and so on. I currently am at university studying psychology. But man the strain is real.
How are u today?
Praying for you Oliver. Hope you are good?
I rarely reply to comments like yours, but I had to for this one. Every word you're saying could be coming out of my mouth. Every single one of them. You are definitely not the only one feeling this way. I've also studied psychology btw. I hope you're in a better place today.
I was so pleased to see that TED finally disabled the comments for their video. I am sure I was not the only one to point out to them how vicious people were and being so disrespectful to Mrs. Kelbold. I wish these people would do the same here.
deeagle Oh shut up already you fat pig. The comments were not disabled. You’re a liar and big fat hypocrite too.
deeagle You’re a stalker and a lying hypocrite.
MadelineToppe Hi deeagle .... I see you’re a using a new UA-cam account? Is that your 65th UA-cam account? Lol ... you can’t fool everyone you morbidly obese cow!
And it really is misogyny. People aren't being like that on the video of the man that said he almost was a school shooter.
This is a reminder to be kind to everyone you never know what folks are going through yes its easy to judge but what purpose does that judgement serve? none its serves no purpose nobody's perfect so try to be mindful ✌️
I do feel if Eric and Dylan never met this wouldn’t of happened.
Listening is loving.
This woman is just spectacular..!
For what?
@@JPeraltavideos For pushing out through her birth canal two complete losers, a drug-addicted drunk and a sociopathic mass murderer?
For her courage and ability to move forward and talk about what she has had to go through Because of her son @@JPeraltavideos
Sue Klebold and Tom Mauser are two of the most admirable voices that have risen in response to this tragedy.
I don't know if they have spoken but they seem to share some common ground.
Mr Mauser has said something to the effect that he can't forgive the two for what they've done, but I can forgive them for becoming the disturbed, angry individuals who were living in such a painful state.
The question WHY? will never be answered. HOW? is the one we should focus on
www.buzzfeednews.com/article/judithkelly/opinion-i-taught-at-columbine-it-is-time-to-speak-my-truth
Words are just words. I can give a speech about how strong women are, and how they are the future of this country. But then go home and beat my wife, now how much does my speech matter? Sue is just a lady full of words, nothing more. She had a roommate, not a son.
No. Tom doesn’t like what Sue is doing and I don’t either. She has completely tried to humanize her killer son into some sort of “suicide victim” and the families do not agree. Dylan was a manipulative killer that killed hulk self to avoid consequences. He didn’t die at his own hand quietly. She’s in denial and needs to stop this because it’s victimizing the true victims.
I think the message is that this could potentially be anyone’s parent. Think! How many of us had parents who loved us, cared for us, were excellent providers, but never really knew what we were experiencing?
I always thought Dylan were the only child but he had an older brother. Sue is unbelievable strong and did not fail as a mother, her second son is proof of that
In her book a mother's reckoning it states he also has a sister. I think she likes to remain anonymous because there's no mention of her name or a picture of her
@@gemmaraine Which chapter? What page? I know that Sue Klebold has a sister named Diane and a brother named Philip.
@@michaellovely6601 sorry I read the page wrong, it's where she shows Dylan playing cards with her brother and sister and I thought it said his sister. Sorry my mistake
@@gemmaraine No problem.
Both boys had older brothers, I do wonder about them and how their lives have been, they have families of their own apparently...I can't imagine how you'd tell your future spouse about what your little brother did
I love u sue klebold you are an amazing woman and strong as it gets keep your head up and smile because your Beautiful inside and out
She's truly such a beautiful soul. I hope that she knows that people don't blame her.
Sue.. You are a marvellous being. You have such a strong Soul.
I would like giving you a present,an hug,love.
She is an amazing women of strength and character.
before you blame either of Dylan's parents, when is or was the last time you as a parent were so into your son's needs that u picked up the fact that your son's voice pitch is tight, and that u r concerned with his feelings? when ? probably never! his parents were some of the best if not the best! i have never ever known even one parent who is more involved and concerned about their kids everything-feelings, academics, relationships, education, nutrition, i mean everything! anyone who gets on these parents is a loser and a dishonest liar! no way are you anywhere near as good a parent as they are EVEN when you have this tradegy to have learned from.probably very few parents ever learned from this. that is probably why she fights every day to try and help others. it is like banging your head against the wall!
@kukku ktrktrktr if you cant follow ALL of the conversation idiot, it is best to stay out of it. LOL
this was a very good environment, the interviewer and audience were so kind and gentle with Sue. :)
She is brave, dignified and eloquent. I am glad she came forward with her truth. Blaming her teaches us nothing; but being with her in compassion does. Her point that at some point suicide became homicide is a salient observation that should interest us all in preventing future homicidal behavior by adolescent males.
no, she is a con artist with a scumbag of a son.
Mental illness is a sickness-like physical illness-once you get infected, you are affected,it does not choose your nationality or how well your parents raised you.it is difficult to distinguish mental illness because on the outside,everything looks normal but on the inside-there’s turbulence and storms
No one should ever feel ashamed or guilty for loving their child.