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Sir apki videos dekhi aesa lgta h hamesha nihayti murkh logo se ghira rehta hu mai to pareshan ho gya kya hi karu papa gov employee hain unhe chahiye ki jo hoga bas gov job se hoga kuch pta vta nhi kya krna chahiye kya nhi sab pagal hain aas paas mai itne bewakoof logo mai rha mai bhi ek no ka bewakoof hu
When i failed JEE my father didn't spoke to me for 1 whole week and scolded me saying i invested lakhs of money on your coaching, you're useless won't do anything in life, that shattered me completely.. Fast forward to today, i work in a reputed MNC and earn a six figure salary, now he scolds me to get a govt job instead as per him pvt jobs are useless. I've learnt this the hard way guys you cannot make people happy just do what you think is best for you, you're your only guardian in this world and marks don't really matter in the long run so don't stress about it too much.❤ Sab loog kuch na kuch kar hi lete h life m
You are a very brave boy. Your father needs some counselling i can say this much as a counsellor. Please do not get affected by his negativity. March on and guide others. Much respect
Middle class is busy with Planning for every weekends Going out for a trip on every long weekends Planning for foreign trip on kids vacation Showing off that my family is happy Sustaining the peer pressure on social Media Throwing parties every birthday n anniversary
Today you struck my chord. Today when I am 40, my mother is always saying I have sacrificed so many things for you, now she is saying that I will give my whatever money and property to some trust or Ramakrishna ashram. She is saying now after being a mother myself of three children, she wants to remote control me.
वास्तव में मिडल क्लास के मां बाप को न तो अपने बच्चो पर और न ही उनके लिए decisions पर विश्वास रहता है , उन्हे डर रहता है कि बुढ़ापे का सहारा दूर न हो जाए । बच्चा केवल उनकी नजरों से ही दुनिया देखे, अपनी अकल न लगाए।
Parents and children should act as team in every decision of life.... Jeeti to team jeeti, haari to team haari....excellent point sir🙏......then there will not be any place for blame game in the family.... As early as 5 years old kids should be encouraged by asking their opinions in small, small things.... this action of parents will teach the children wisdom and maturity....
Parents play a dangerous double game through their hypocritical actions and behaviour, alienated responses make the kids unsure of what the future holds. Some parents act and behave in certain ways under peer pressure, whereas all they really want is total control in their homes.
the bitter part of the video is no parent will see this video and youth become toxic towards their parents ......the sad part is ,no value of this video 🙄🙄🙄
While parents themselves don't know about careers, they don't even think of other ways of helping the child. They'll all give examples of "usko dekho Mircosoft mein naukri lag gayi", "phalaane ke beti IIT chali gayi".. lekin kabhi bhi yeh nahin sochenge ki mere bete/beti ki isse baat kara de toh thodi guidance mil jaaye. I passed out of a top-10 engg college 10 years back and my mama's son (living in a Tier-2 city where there is anyway lack of awareness) was writing the same exams 1 year back.. not once did they bother to even whatsapp me ki thoda guide kar do... the kid ended up not applying to some really good colleges and then finally went to a mediocre one. Bas shaadi-tyohar mein haazir ho jayenge, lekin kaam ki jagah mein dimaag nahin lagaayenge
0:18 the first doglapan was common at my place. My parents always wanted me to marry a man of their choice. But I chose my partner and secretly married him.
I hope u r well settled now , doing great in ur life, but as a elder brother u might guide him or atleast make a call if u already aware of things . He was not a stranger to u and u can better understand maturity level of 18-20 yr old .
@@NikhilVerma-bq1vj Nikhil, do understand context when trying to participate in a discussion... This video is about parents role in kids life. I just illustrated using a real example. You don't know if I did try to reach and their parents didn't show much interest.
What you have said is absolutely right.. but the most SAD part is that those who are new parents now a days, they too are doing those same mistakes with their small kids. FORMAL education has failed to change the mentality of these parents so cycle is getting on repeat mode. So called educated, degree holders..toppers are no different when they become parents.
Mere saath yahi hua tha sir 6 Saal pehle.. Mujhe ladki pasand nhi thi but parents k pressure mein marriage hui.. Aur 3 months mein divorce ho gaya. I wish tab aap hote 😢
Sir India Mein Bacche Ko Baccha Nahin, Investment Samjha Jata Hai Sara Pyar Isliye Hota Hai Taki Budhape Mein Ham Unka Sahara Bane. Ye Ek Tarah Ka Transaction Hai
Yes it's right that parents have no idea about the different kind of sectors in today's world. But they have a good experience of the factors and conditions which are going to rule the married life. And what u expect from today's generation which are only concerned about temporary relationship, party's, adventure trips, brand show offs and following blindly bollywood culture.
Ek dum sahi kaha...parents dusaro ki bato me aakar deside karte he ki kya padhaye lekin Bachchan kya chahta he uska mind kya Kar sakta he ye nahi sochte ..andhi Doud he bhagna he ...bachcho ko subah se sunana shuru Kar dete he fir kahte he humne kya kaha he ....life me kya bolna he kya padhna he parent deside karenge lekin fail hogaya to bachcha padhta nahi ..garib sabar karta he ki kuch to karega hi ..jab tak dum he padh le ....lekin middle class parents Nak ki sidhe life chahte he fully controll ...jab Umar Nikki ja rahi he tab kahenge kuch to Kar lo..hamesha tana marte he hum khila rahe he ..humane pass aaram se rah rahe ho ...din rat padh lo ..padh lo kya Kar rahe ho padh lo ...are bhai bata do kese padhe ..Tarik kya he ..kya likhna he.. kese likhna he .Kitna likhna he ....wo sab tum Jano school me kya karte ho ??? 😢
Maine 2016 me btech kiya tha but starting me private job na krke govt ki preparation krne lga ...lekin 4 exam nikle but kuch hi numbers se fail kr jata tha...abhi bhi mai berojgar hunn meri family ka background accha hai...but mere father mere se bahut gussa rhte hai aur isiliye ab unhone muje bahut humiliate krke ghar se nikal diya..... now I'm thinking ki kuch skills add on krun aur IT sector me career banau....aur mai ab hmesa akela rhna chata hunn...
@@ooblack5 Bhai very sorry to hear about your experience. I have been through something similar. I lost my job last year and have been struggling to gain employment ever since. But the most painful part is when my mother humiliates me saying that I will never make it big in life. This is despite the fact that I have always listened to my parents and studied very hard. The job market is bad enough but when your own parents make such disparaging remarks, it feels like an uphill battle. Anyway stay strong bro, nothing is permanent be it good or bad times.
मैंने अपने हस्बैंड को उसके माँ बाप के पास छोड़ दिया जा जी ले अपनी जिंदगी इनकी सलाह से अब मैं अपना जीवन खुद चला लूंगी ये मेरी ज़िन्दगी है ऊपर वाले ने मुझे दी है दुबारा हो न हो अपनी मर्जी से जीना है जहां पल पल में अपमान हो आपको छोटा फील कराया जाए वो जगह छोड़ देनी चाहिए
Sir aapki iss video ne toh meri kaafi hadd tak jaan bacha li. Yeh "Kuch meaningful karna hai. Biwi Bacho ki zindagi mein toh sirf jhik jhik hai", waale syndrome se mai recently nikla hoon. Kyunki mere gharwalo ne jeena haram kar diya tha mera. Especially maa kaa yeh same sacrifice waala complain. Toh subscribers and viewers, iss video ko ghol ke pee jao. Ek ek baat satya vachan hai yaahan pe.
Sir life is very tough. Jo baccha baccha kar rahe ho wo baccha age jake bada bhi hoga apni jindagi chalani hogi. Jab tak baap maa shakshyam ho mehenat karlo bacchon. Uske baad koi nei hoga jo aapko dante ya apki help kare. Padhai is the easiest thing you can do to make your life beautiful. Nei to jindagi bhar struggle karoge. Har koi lakhon kamaye jarurat nei but itna kamao ki apni life comfortable kar sako. Koi parents apke paison se aish nei karna chahata but taki aap aish kar sako us paison se. Mere papa mummy ne mujhe padhaya dhanta taki aaj main kuch kar sakun . Aur main forever grateful rahungi unki dant ki.
Sir, please continue videos related to govt jobs, your previous videos helped me a lot, make make some more videos related to that topic, so that I can keep myself motivated to stay away from trap (govt jobs) and continue doing good in my career.
Beta.....apne andar Jo guilty h na govt job na pane Ka usko chupane ya dukh Kam Karne k liye JB dusra video (forced motivation) jarurat paad Jaye na...tab aur kya bole..
Yes you are right was in a bad mood today but apka video dekhke I felt happy and bht jald I will leave my parents and will leave alone mujhe happiness aur freedom chahiye jo yaha nhi milta. Keep it up sir you are doing a great work
Sir you say that there was very less competition way back in time 20-25 years ago from now but at that time there were very less resources too, no smartphones, no internet, no free guidance/lectures available and many more such things. So it more or less becomes equal to today's scenario. Today we have abundant resources to prepare for exams and interviews hence there is a lot of competition and it has become difficult, similarly way back in time it was very difficult to gather correct and helpful resources which even required a lot of money so it was still difficult back then. Yes the increase in population can be taken into account but it was never easy at any time back then and even today to become a Group A officer or to grab a very high pay package in corporates.
@@truedhonifan922 and back then due to less resources and awareness it was still difficult to crack for the lower/middle class (as the rich class doesn't aim for govt jobs), the point I am trying to establish is that these exams were never easy to crack even back then and still they are very difficult same goes for the top notch packages in MNCs but Amit ji is saying that there was less competition back then. When there was less competition, the resources were less and now both have increased so the difficulty and probability of cracking these exams still remain the same.
@@doncorleone3901 I have no past I am still a student and I only want to say that getting into any Group A service or grabbing a hefty package in top MNCs was always difficult and remain to be tough in the future too so we cannot say that a person who achieved something in the past had it easy due to less "competition".
मैं आपके सभी विचारों से सहमत हूं लेकिन जब आप उस विचार प्रक्रिया में नहीं हों तो दूसरों की आलोचना न करें। हो सकता है कि आपको अपने संबंधित क्षेत्र के बारे में बहुत अच्छी जानकारी हो लेकिन बिना कुछ जाने दूसरों का मजाक उड़ाने का आपको कोई अधिकार नहीं है। हाँ, मैं इस बात से पूरी तरह सहमत हूं कि मध्यम वर्ग के माता-पिता उस स्तर की शीर्ष मांग पर हैं, लेकिन अगर युवा आचार्य प्रशान्त जी के साथ जुड़े हुए हैं तो इसका मतलब यह नहीं है कि वे गलत हैं क्योंकि आज के युवा कल के माता-पिता हैं और यह आप भली-भांति जानते हैं कि कुछ अपवादों को छोड़कर बाकी एक निश्चित अवधि के बाद आप किसी के विचार नहीं बदल सकते। इसलिए यदि युवा इन सब चीजों से जुड़े हैं तो कृपया उन्हें गुमराह न करें। और अगर समाज को आप इतनी बारीकी से समझते हैं तो ये भी समझते होंगे कि कुछ गिने-चुने लोगों को छोड़कर कोई नहीं चला जा रहा संन्यास लेने क्योंकि क्षीण होती मानसिकता के लोग अब भी व्यस्त हैं वाहियात कामों में जो समाज के लिए अनगिनत समस्याओं का कारण हैं और न ही वहाँ किसी को संन्यास ले लेने के लिए कहा जाता है। चेतना, बुद्धि और विवेक जैसे शब्द उनके समझ में ही नहीं आएंगे जिन्होंने खुद को ही न जाना हो आजतक। मेरी कोई बात अगर आपको तकलीफ देती है तो क्षमा प्रार्थी हूं लेकिन सिर्फ अपने को सही बताने के लिए दूसरे के काम को बिना ठीक से समझे गलत ठहराना, गलत है।🙏
Please make a video about situation where the only boy out of three kids(two sisters) is settled aboard in a very good job with both husbands wife in IT and making very good money but parents are harassing them and emotionally torturing them to come back to India, and the two sisters are accomplice with mother, to make sure son is left out of property if he decides to stay outside India. And both the sisters are themselves happily settled outside India with their husbands. While mother brain washing the father of the son against her own son to keep him out of property. What should the son do?
It is easy to generalise, and whatever you said might be true for most middle class parents, but some parents genuinely make effort for their kids still kid fail
Gurjit. Please post video on mother tongue in English medium going kids in house..what's way ahead..should we forego mother tongue and ask children to focus on English/Hindi because in society we feel slightly led down when we see kids of others speaking in fluent English and we feel that's the future, let them think in English...thins in respect of children aged between 3yrs to 10yrs... please post video & guide..will be greatful 🙏
Mera beta muje samne se hi putchta he ki mumma ap hi batao main kya padu..? And dusri baat woh abhi se hi myje kehta he ki mumma mere liye ladki ap hi dundhna muje samaj me nai ayega kesi ladki dundhu main... Bht innocent aur cute he mera bacha... Par ab muje aur zayada responsibility lagti he ladki dundhne k mamale me... Main hamesha god ko pray karti hu ki bhagwan joh bhi ho mere bete ko ek atchi life partner dena....
@@Dishapatel-ju3epfek raha hai…. 26 ka hun… ya toh uske hormones thik se release hona suru nai hue hai ya ek do saal lagenge…. Kisi opposite gender ko like krna hm sbme hai… wo 16 saal ka bachha kuch bol raha toh intna serious lene ki kya jarurat hai apko…. Andar se apko sochna chahiye … bachha hai wo toh ye decide nai kr skta ki kapde kon se pehne ……. Apne uski is decision ko serious le liya ki uske kiye ladki aap chuno subject aap chuno… arey madam realistic bano…. Kyu usey baad mein ghutne k liye majboor kr rahe ho…. Ki tune to kaha tha ki mai teri liye sb decide karungi…. Arey bachha hai apse pyar krta hai ….toh khus krne k liye kuch v bolta rehta hai…. Aur aap ho ki serious ho gay ho…. 25 26 ka hone do … tb wo jo faisla le uski respect krna. Abhi bachha hai uski baato ka koi mol nai hai… yaad rakhna.
As much as i agree on the video i would also like to call out the fact that the work of homemakers or housewives is not anything less than a job. Infact, I myself cannot imagine having that many workload. Please acknowledge their hardwork. Other than that, i agree.
Sir aap ne jo bhi bola vo tik hai ...but isme bhi ek lop fall hai...aaj kal ke bache kuch ker ke hi nahi dete...unko her chiz hi paki pakai hi chahiye...aisa bhi nahi hai ki hume bachpan se kuch kerna hi nahi sikhaya...sab kerte the ...sab routine set tha in school days... ghar ke kaam me bhi help kerwate the ...but now both r in their college ...ab to apna bhi kaam nahi kerte like no routine no time....like u said My life My rule ...jo ki unka koi rule hi nahi hai😂 today's generation is too lazy ...hmare time me to parents ko kabhi kuch khne ki hi jarurat nahi padti thi . ..hum to sab kerte the study as well as ghar ke kaam me bhi help....but today's generation study hi ker le vhi bhut badi baat hai...humne to khna hi band ker Diya hai...jab sir pe pde gi apne aap hi kere GE
Mere papa indian railways me the...2nd post mesan the....mujhse kahte the....baitry rickshaw chalaw... Middle class khud ko change nai karte ,,, baccho ko nobel prize winner banate hai😂😂😂.
Most middle class parents have suffered from their genetics. They had faced the same difficulty from their parents. They want their children to remain near them. They don't want to lose them so they interfere with every decision making of their child. The child suffers from anxiety and decision making.
Mere husband high school me 2 bar ke failiar ..50% se up marks nahi he ..lekin vivek jag gaya kamar kas ke competition ki tyari shuru kar di or Govt officer ban gaye ..kisan ghar ke the ...lekin aj ki date me 70%_92%number lane wale bachcho ke number 100% chahiye ...dimag ka dahi kar rakha he ..adha samay to bachcho ko realize karne me jata he ..bachcha kahta he science nahi karni ..me batati hu ki bahut subject he .dont mind ..me batati hu ki 60% to mere bhi kabhi nahi aaye kyu nahi aye kya kami he ye bhi...meri team bachcho se bani he ...
Mil jul ke kaise decision le lenge parents? 😂 Decisions ke time pe parents have the ultimate thing called 'experience' Jab decision galat ho jata hai to bolte hain, tu kar leta apne hisab se, humne kahan roka tha.
I have worst neighbour I hate my parents, family a lot I am from haryana and I wanted to live in better state with good amount of money I hate everyone around me My parents are the reason which they wanted to spoil my life
Middle class parents ka doglapan isliye bhi hai shayad ki unhone bhi wahi doglapan ya to face kiya hai... Jaise meri sister without even realising humare parents ke track pe hai the only deference is that wo apne bacche ko clear bata k rakhe hue hai ki wo unka investment hai, n that he will have to attain or achieve such or such in order to repay their investment... Not in terms of the money invested but time, resources, facilities etc. Secondly, parents isliye dogle hote hain ki wo ignorant hote hain apni conditioning ko le ke.. Agar parents khud humble background se ate hain n unhone kuchh better (job) achieve kar liya to obviously unke parents ka bhi Naam Hua. To ye ummeed unki apne bacchon se badh jaati hai... Ki tumhe bhi ye karna hi karna hai. N that's true... Ki parents nhi samjh pa rahe ki unki achievement hai to that means ek level wo bhi upar aaye previous generations se. Aap goan se shahar mein aa gye, acchi job hai, aap apni betiyon ko padha rahe hain.. Aur apki generation bhi apse ek level upar hi jayegi.. Wo already shahar mein hain, acchi job unhone bhi ke li... But yahan parents unko previous generations ke level pe rakhna chahte hain... "Sar dhako, asli paridhan to saree hai, teen tyohar ka dabaav, bolo mat, sunte raho, shaadi ka decision bhi ghar parivar k izzat se drive hoga... " To... I think, abhi 60s mein run kar rahe parents transition k aise daur mein hain ki aage-peechhe mein phans gye hain.khud mein Kuchh sahi faisle karne ki himmat nhi aur Sara pressure apne bacchon pe.
Mere parents sarkari naukri ke piche pade hain aur main 21age mein JNU ke pg entrance ki prep kar rahi hu lekin unse dekha nahi ja raha. Roz ye baatein sunke suicide ka mann karta hai par somehow manage kar rahi hu bas mann lagake padhai karne ki. Kabhi kabhi lagta hai kaash mere parents koi aur hote. Maine sochke rakha hai JRF ban jaungi toh 37k mein 6k ka rent khojungi kese bhi rehlungi bas max se man paisa parents ko hu bhejungi, inke liye success yehi hai ki bachche ka kitna package crack hua kitna salary hai, isliye sirf paise bhejdungi bhale mujhe pata hai 37k inke liye bohot kam hai. Mujhe farak nahi padta mujhe bas wohi karna hai jo mujhe lagta hai meri kaabiliyat hai, kyunki ye vishwas(self-esteem) ka murder ko maa-baap wese hi bachpan me kar dete hain.
Ek ladke ke father ne kaha engineer ban ..admission karwa deta hu usne kaha nahi Kar paunga..hotel management me Jana he ..Aj wo manager he ...time pe life settle he ...
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Sir, main apna career Film making mein as a Director karna chahata hun.
Aap ek video film Making career per banaye please!
Ye career kaisa hai?
@@nayakpradeep1yes bro I also interested this topic
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Sir apki videos dekhi aesa lgta h hamesha nihayti murkh logo se ghira rehta hu mai to pareshan ho gya kya hi karu papa gov employee hain unhe chahiye ki jo hoga bas gov job se hoga kuch pta vta nhi kya krna chahiye kya nhi sab pagal hain aas paas mai itne bewakoof logo mai rha mai bhi ek no ka bewakoof hu
When i failed JEE my father didn't spoke to me for 1 whole week and scolded me saying i invested lakhs of money on your coaching, you're useless won't do anything in life, that shattered me completely..
Fast forward to today, i work in a reputed MNC and earn a six figure salary, now he scolds me to get a govt job instead as per him pvt jobs are useless.
I've learnt this the hard way guys you cannot make people happy just do what you think is best for you, you're your only guardian in this world and marks don't really matter in the long run so don't stress about it too much.❤
Sab loog kuch na kuch kar hi lete h life m
1st job according to their wish.
Then marry according to their wish.
Then spend tremendous amount of money on stupid function.
You are a very brave boy. Your father needs some counselling i can say this much as a counsellor. Please do not get affected by his negativity. March on and guide others.
Much respect
@@shivanginipathak3347 thank you Shivangi for your kind words.
All the best Mann. Do what makes you happy. Whatever you are doing is more than enough. Keep it upp
Very smart and wise. I wish you peace and success.
Jabardast statement "Asli pitaji failure ke pitaji hote hai, success ke liye bahot pitaji hote hai"👏👏
Exactly
Middle class is busy with
Planning for every weekends
Going out for a trip on every long weekends
Planning for foreign trip on kids vacation
Showing off that my family is happy
Sustaining the peer pressure on social
Media
Throwing parties every birthday n anniversary
Yani apni kamjor mentality ki wajah se khud hi kai sari bimari paal li..
Foreign trip to nhi bhai
True
Instagram peer pressure among females mostly
Today you struck my chord. Today when I am 40, my mother is always saying I have sacrificed so many things for you, now she is saying that I will give my whatever money and property to some trust or Ramakrishna ashram.
She is saying now after being a mother myself of three children, she wants to remote control me.
वास्तव में मिडल क्लास के मां बाप को न तो अपने बच्चो पर और न ही उनके लिए decisions पर विश्वास रहता है , उन्हे डर रहता है कि बुढ़ापे का सहारा दूर न हो जाए । बच्चा केवल उनकी नजरों से ही दुनिया देखे, अपनी अकल न लगाए।
True
My dad always used to say..
Succeess is bastard and failure is orphan....
Is the quote - "Success has many fathers but failure is an orphan"
Parents have become children's emergency fund and children became parents retirement fund.
Mutual fund.
That's a smart ass comment
Well said. Perfect analysis!
@@nayaknaresh One day you will also become a parent.
@@sudershansingh2839 One day they will also become parents.
Parents and children should act as team in every decision of life.... Jeeti to team jeeti, haari to team haari....excellent point sir🙏......then there will not be any place for blame game in the family....
As early as 5 years old kids should be encouraged by asking their opinions in small, small things.... this action of parents will teach the children wisdom and maturity....
Parents will think it as insult to their holy authority if they have to ask their child's opinion.
Parents play a dangerous double game through their hypocritical actions and behaviour, alienated responses make the kids unsure of what the future holds. Some parents act and behave in certain ways under peer pressure, whereas all they really want is total control in their homes.
ये सब बात मैं घर में कहता हूं तो मुझे लोग बुरा बना देते थे , बड़े दिनों बाद कोई ढंग के अच्छे व्यक्ति मिले है ❤❤
the bitter part of the video is no parent will see this video and youth become toxic towards their parents ......the sad part is ,no value of this video 🙄🙄🙄
Realty hey kum sey kum apney baacho key sath to nahi karigey na yesey jo hamare sath huaa hum bo apney baachey key stah nahi karugey
Middle class is a strange kind of mental sickness 😂😂
Completely accurate. Middle Class people literally think they know everything. But there reality is way different from their expectations.
success has many fathers , failure has none .
Failure has mothers
While parents themselves don't know about careers, they don't even think of other ways of helping the child. They'll all give examples of "usko dekho Mircosoft mein naukri lag gayi", "phalaane ke beti IIT chali gayi".. lekin kabhi bhi yeh nahin sochenge ki mere bete/beti ki isse baat kara de toh thodi guidance mil jaaye.
I passed out of a top-10 engg college 10 years back and my mama's son (living in a Tier-2 city where there is anyway lack of awareness) was writing the same exams 1 year back.. not once did they bother to even whatsapp me ki thoda guide kar do... the kid ended up not applying to some really good colleges and then finally went to a mediocre one. Bas shaadi-tyohar mein haazir ho jayenge, lekin kaam ki jagah mein dimaag nahin lagaayenge
0:18 the first doglapan was common at my place. My parents always wanted me to marry a man of their choice. But I chose my partner and secretly married him.
I hope u r well settled now , doing great in ur life, but as a elder brother u might guide him or atleast make a call if u already aware of things . He was not a stranger to u and u can better understand maturity level of 18-20 yr old .
@@NikhilVerma-bq1vj Nikhil, do understand context when trying to participate in a discussion... This video is about parents role in kids life. I just illustrated using a real example.
You don't know if I did try to reach and their parents didn't show much interest.
What you have said is absolutely right.. but the most SAD part is that those who are new parents now a days, they too are doing those same mistakes with their small kids.
FORMAL education has failed to change the mentality of these parents so cycle is getting on repeat mode.
So called educated, degree holders..toppers are no different when they become parents.
Degree is a outdated concept
Mere saath yahi hua tha sir 6 Saal pehle.. Mujhe ladki pasand nhi thi but parents k pressure mein marriage hui.. Aur 3 months mein divorce ho gaya. I wish tab aap hote 😢
Sir India Mein Bacche Ko Baccha Nahin, Investment Samjha Jata Hai Sara Pyar Isliye Hota Hai Taki Budhape Mein Ham Unka Sahara Bane. Ye Ek Tarah Ka Transaction Hai
These days people who are choosing NOT to have kids are regarded as smart ones...
I don’t agree .. u will
Understand this when u become a parent and raise your kids ..
Saath hi saath unka naam ho.Lekin aajkal ke competition mein unke bachche kehan honge yeh bhi chinta unko sataati hai.
@@pran10000 Ve tumhari bhalaai ki sochte hain.
@@ashitmukherjee5934 han but ho ulta jata hai
Yes it's right that parents have no idea about the different kind of sectors in today's world.
But they have a good experience of the factors and conditions which are going to rule the married life.
And what u expect from today's generation which are only concerned about temporary relationship, party's, adventure trips, brand show offs and following blindly bollywood culture.
This is good point. Parents can actually contribute positively to marriage decision. They know their children and what works with them
Sir my RESPECTS to you for tackling such a serious issue.
Success has many fathers, Faliure is an Orphan.
Ek dum sahi kaha...parents dusaro ki bato me aakar deside karte he ki kya padhaye lekin Bachchan kya chahta he uska mind kya Kar sakta he ye nahi sochte ..andhi Doud he bhagna he ...bachcho ko subah se sunana shuru Kar dete he fir kahte he humne kya kaha he ....life me kya bolna he kya padhna he parent deside karenge lekin fail hogaya to bachcha padhta nahi ..garib sabar karta he ki kuch to karega hi ..jab tak dum he padh le ....lekin middle class parents Nak ki sidhe life chahte he fully controll ...jab Umar Nikki ja rahi he tab kahenge kuch to Kar lo..hamesha tana marte he hum khila rahe he ..humane pass aaram se rah rahe ho ...din rat padh lo ..padh lo kya Kar rahe ho padh lo ...are bhai bata do kese padhe ..Tarik kya he ..kya likhna he.. kese likhna he .Kitna likhna he ....wo sab tum Jano school me kya karte ho ??? 😢
Maine 2016 me btech kiya tha but starting me private job na krke govt ki preparation krne lga ...lekin 4 exam nikle but kuch hi numbers se fail kr jata tha...abhi bhi mai berojgar hunn meri family ka background accha hai...but mere father mere se bahut gussa rhte hai aur isiliye ab unhone muje bahut humiliate krke ghar se nikal diya..... now I'm thinking ki kuch skills add on krun aur IT sector me career banau....aur mai ab hmesa akela rhna chata hunn...
Bro are you alright now?
@@Zemeno not at all brother
@@Zemeno salary is too low
@@ooblack5 Bhai very sorry to hear about your experience. I have been through something similar. I lost my job last year and have been struggling to gain employment ever since. But the most painful part is when my mother humiliates me saying that I will never make it big in life. This is despite the fact that I have always listened to my parents and studied very hard. The job market is bad enough but when your own parents make such disparaging remarks, it feels like an uphill battle. Anyway stay strong bro, nothing is permanent be it good or bad times.
@@rgseven6557 now the conditions became like hell
Sir, aap itna Sachh kaise bol lete hain. One needs courage to be so true . Hatsoff Sir.
If industrialization happens on a large scale in India, these career issues will sort out easily. Hope the govt does something more.😢
Era of industrialisation is gone. It’s time to adapt new technologies (AI) or start small scale businesses
Very true. A lot of parents will do anything for their kids except let them be themselves.
Because most can't do decision like intelligent person
@@roshinitoenlightenmentkeya parentsa decide hamyesa Shai hota hey keya
You are right ,parents smtimes try to fulfill their dreams through their kids
Bahut dino se ye mere dimag me chal rha tha, thank you for giving words to my thoughts.
मैंने अपने हस्बैंड को उसके माँ बाप के पास छोड़ दिया जा जी ले अपनी जिंदगी इनकी सलाह से अब मैं अपना जीवन खुद चला लूंगी ये मेरी ज़िन्दगी है ऊपर वाले ने मुझे दी है दुबारा हो न हो अपनी मर्जी से जीना है जहां पल पल में अपमान हो आपको छोटा फील कराया जाए वो जगह छोड़ देनी चाहिए
My father tortured me a lot mentally and in other ways.
Very informative, penetrative & much needed video Sir... Big clap for you
Bilkul sahi kaha aapne children ke liye consultation se pehle parents ko consult ki jarurat hai
Sango uncle is doing a very good job for society. 👍👏
Sir aapki iss video ne toh meri kaafi hadd tak jaan bacha li. Yeh "Kuch meaningful karna hai. Biwi Bacho ki zindagi mein toh sirf jhik jhik hai", waale syndrome se mai recently nikla hoon. Kyunki mere gharwalo ne jeena haram kar diya tha mera. Especially maa kaa yeh same sacrifice waala complain. Toh subscribers and viewers, iss video ko ghol ke pee jao. Ek ek baat satya vachan hai yaahan pe.
Parents are experts in overacting and also doglapan.
Sir life is very tough. Jo baccha baccha kar rahe ho wo baccha age jake bada bhi hoga apni jindagi chalani hogi. Jab tak baap maa shakshyam ho mehenat karlo bacchon. Uske baad koi nei hoga jo aapko dante ya apki help kare. Padhai is the easiest thing you can do to make your life beautiful. Nei to jindagi bhar struggle karoge. Har koi lakhon kamaye jarurat nei but itna kamao ki apni life comfortable kar sako. Koi parents apke paison se aish nei karna chahata but taki aap aish kar sako us paison se. Mere papa mummy ne mujhe padhaya dhanta taki aaj main kuch kar sakun . Aur main forever grateful rahungi unki dant ki.
Ek debate toh banta hai Acharya Prashant or aapka
Sir, please continue videos related to govt jobs, your previous videos helped me a lot, make make some more videos related to that topic, so that I can keep myself motivated to stay away from trap (govt jobs) and continue doing good in my career.
Beta.....apne andar Jo guilty h na govt job na pane Ka usko chupane ya dukh Kam Karne k liye JB dusra video (forced motivation) jarurat paad Jaye na...tab aur kya bole..
Sahi kaha...paise ban Jaye toh parents ki wajah Sai.. Loss ho Jaye toh betai ki wajah Sai...
Millennial are suffering like anything..
Yes you are right was in a bad mood today but apka video dekhke I felt happy and bht jald I will leave my parents and will leave alone mujhe happiness aur freedom chahiye jo yaha nhi milta. Keep it up sir you are doing a great work
my parents always supported me in every decision and they still do...proud :)
Neha and rohit still permanent 🤣😂
3 cheers for Sacrifice
God bless
Sir you say that there was very less competition way back in time 20-25 years ago from now but at that time there were very less resources too, no smartphones, no internet, no free guidance/lectures available and many more such things. So it more or less becomes equal to today's scenario. Today we have abundant resources to prepare for exams and interviews hence there is a lot of competition and it has become difficult, similarly way back in time it was very difficult to gather correct and helpful resources which even required a lot of money so it was still difficult back then. Yes the increase in population can be taken into account but it was never easy at any time back then and even today to become a Group A officer or to grab a very high pay package in corporates.
The more the population increases more complex the things shall be.
These resources are exactly what which are increasing competition
@@truedhonifan922 and back then due to less resources and awareness it was still difficult to crack for the lower/middle class (as the rich class doesn't aim for govt jobs), the point I am trying to establish is that these exams were never easy to crack even back then and still they are very difficult same goes for the top notch packages in MNCs but Amit ji is saying that there was less competition back then. When there was less competition, the resources were less and now both have increased so the difficulty and probability of cracking these exams still remain the same.
@akshatsharma2064 whats your point? Is it to justify your past or tell younger people that they must do things we did not? Whats the moral
@@doncorleone3901 I have no past I am still a student and I only want to say that getting into any Group A service or grabbing a hefty package in top MNCs was always difficult and remain to be tough in the future too so we cannot say that a person who achieved something in the past had it easy due to less "competition".
Considering myself a middle class I enjoy your video.
He is always so accurate. Respect you Sir for being so brutally honest
सच्चाई बहुत कड़वी होती है, आप की बाते सब सच है
Aacharya ji ne apne pas aane ke liye nhi bola... Unhone sachae dikhae h... Or h sachae.... Or vo bolte h karm kro...na ki sadhu sant bn jao.......
U are realy touching heart of me ...covering issues that I wanted to realy know Or discuss with someone who is experienced and well informed
What a personality you are ❤❤❤
मैं आपके सभी विचारों से सहमत हूं लेकिन जब आप उस विचार प्रक्रिया में नहीं हों तो दूसरों की आलोचना न करें। हो सकता है कि आपको अपने संबंधित क्षेत्र के बारे में बहुत अच्छी जानकारी हो लेकिन बिना कुछ जाने दूसरों का मजाक उड़ाने का आपको कोई अधिकार नहीं है। हाँ, मैं इस बात से पूरी तरह सहमत हूं कि मध्यम वर्ग के माता-पिता उस स्तर की शीर्ष मांग पर हैं, लेकिन अगर युवा आचार्य प्रशान्त जी के साथ जुड़े हुए हैं तो इसका मतलब यह नहीं है कि वे गलत हैं क्योंकि आज के युवा कल के माता-पिता हैं और यह आप भली-भांति जानते हैं कि कुछ अपवादों को छोड़कर बाकी एक निश्चित अवधि के बाद आप किसी के विचार नहीं बदल सकते। इसलिए यदि युवा इन सब चीजों से जुड़े हैं तो कृपया उन्हें गुमराह न करें। और अगर समाज को आप इतनी बारीकी से समझते हैं तो ये भी समझते होंगे कि कुछ गिने-चुने लोगों को छोड़कर कोई नहीं चला जा रहा संन्यास लेने क्योंकि क्षीण होती मानसिकता के लोग अब भी व्यस्त हैं वाहियात कामों में जो समाज के लिए अनगिनत समस्याओं का कारण हैं और न ही वहाँ किसी को संन्यास ले लेने के लिए कहा जाता है। चेतना, बुद्धि और विवेक जैसे शब्द उनके समझ में ही नहीं आएंगे जिन्होंने खुद को ही न जाना हो आजतक। मेरी कोई बात अगर आपको तकलीफ देती है तो क्षमा प्रार्थी हूं लेकिन सिर्फ अपने को सही बताने के लिए दूसरे के काम को बिना ठीक से समझे गलत ठहराना, गलत है।🙏
बहुत अच्छा लगा
You are always on point sir 😍
Please make a video about situation where the only boy out of three kids(two sisters) is settled aboard in a very good job with both husbands wife in IT and making very good money but parents are harassing them and emotionally torturing them to come back to India, and the two sisters are accomplice with mother, to make sure son is left out of property if he decides to stay outside India. And both the sisters are themselves happily settled outside India with their husbands. While mother brain washing the father of the son against her own son to keep him out of property. What should the son do?
India aake kya karoge ? 10cr rs ki property hai kya parents ki ??
Sir, parents ka bachcho ka comparison padosi k bachche k saath wala bhi banana
This is the story of my life
It is easy to generalise, and whatever you said might be true for most middle class parents, but some parents genuinely make effort for their kids still kid fail
This video is not about those parents
😢children should also recognise that their parents are middle class
but Sad part is our parents are not watching such videos...should I recommend them
No
Gurjit.
Please post video on mother tongue in English medium going kids in house..what's way ahead..should we forego mother tongue and ask children to focus on English/Hindi because in society we feel slightly led down when we see kids of others speaking in fluent English and we feel that's the future, let them think in English...thins in respect of children aged between 3yrs to 10yrs... please post video & guide..will be greatful 🙏
Mera beta muje samne se hi putchta he ki mumma ap hi batao main kya padu..? And dusri baat woh abhi se hi myje kehta he ki mumma mere liye ladki ap hi dundhna muje samaj me nai ayega kesi ladki dundhu main... Bht innocent aur cute he mera bacha... Par ab muje aur zayada responsibility lagti he ladki dundhne k mamale me... Main hamesha god ko pray karti hu ki bhagwan joh bhi ho mere bete ko ek atchi life partner dena....
kya age hai aapke bete ki ??
@@fwefhwe4232 16.5
@@Dishapatel-ju3epfek raha hai…. 26 ka hun… ya toh uske hormones thik se release hona suru nai hue hai ya ek do saal lagenge…. Kisi opposite gender ko like krna hm sbme hai… wo 16 saal ka bachha kuch bol raha toh intna serious lene ki kya jarurat hai apko…. Andar se apko sochna chahiye … bachha hai wo toh ye decide nai kr skta ki kapde kon se pehne ……. Apne uski is decision ko serious le liya ki uske kiye ladki aap chuno subject aap chuno… arey madam realistic bano…. Kyu usey baad mein ghutne k liye majboor kr rahe ho…. Ki tune to kaha tha ki mai teri liye sb decide karungi…. Arey bachha hai apse pyar krta hai ….toh khus krne k liye kuch v bolta rehta hai…. Aur aap ho ki serious ho gay ho…. 25 26 ka hone do … tb wo jo faisla le uski respect krna. Abhi bachha hai uski baato ka koi mol nai hai… yaad rakhna.
As much as i agree on the video i would also like to call out the fact that the work of homemakers or housewives is not anything less than a job. Infact, I myself cannot imagine having that many workload. Please acknowledge their hardwork. Other than that, i agree.
7:30 exactly this is the real issue sir🙏🙏
Sir aapke baat 100% baat satya hai
Sir aap ne jo bhi bola vo tik hai ...but isme bhi ek lop fall hai...aaj kal ke bache kuch ker ke hi nahi dete...unko her chiz hi paki pakai hi chahiye...aisa bhi nahi hai ki hume bachpan se kuch kerna hi nahi sikhaya...sab kerte the ...sab routine set tha in school days... ghar ke kaam me bhi help kerwate the ...but now both r in their college ...ab to apna bhi kaam nahi kerte like no routine no time....like u said My life My rule ...jo ki unka koi rule hi nahi hai😂 today's generation is too lazy ...hmare time me to parents ko kabhi kuch khne ki hi jarurat nahi padti thi . ..hum to sab kerte the study as well as ghar ke kaam me bhi help....but today's generation study hi ker le vhi bhut badi baat hai...humne to khna hi band ker Diya hai...jab sir pe pde gi apne aap hi kere GE
Also nowadays they are sleeping during the day and awake at night..So we really can't interact much with them
To AAP unko Ghar se nikal dijiye. You'll see that they'll live.
👌👌👌👍, tenth class is deciding Best. 12th is late to decided.
Good point at 08:00 .about aachary Prashant
Mere papa indian railways me the...2nd post mesan the....mujhse kahte the....baitry rickshaw chalaw...
Middle class khud ko change nai karte ,,, baccho ko nobel prize winner banate hai😂😂😂.
errickshaw wale bhi 50 hajaar rs mahina kamate hain. galat kya hai ??
How to uplift the failed students?
Most middle class parents have suffered from their genetics. They had faced the same difficulty from their parents. They want their children to remain near them. They don't want to lose them so they interfere with every decision making of their child. The child suffers from anxiety and decision making.
Mere husband high school me 2 bar ke failiar ..50% se up marks nahi he ..lekin vivek jag gaya kamar kas ke competition ki tyari shuru kar di or Govt officer ban gaye ..kisan ghar ke the ...lekin aj ki date me 70%_92%number lane wale bachcho ke number 100% chahiye ...dimag ka dahi kar rakha he ..adha samay to bachcho ko realize karne me jata he ..bachcha kahta he science nahi karni ..me batati hu ki bahut subject he .dont mind ..me batati hu ki 60% to mere bhi kabhi nahi aaye kyu nahi aye kya kami he ye bhi...meri team bachcho se bani he ...
Mere parents ne to mere 30 saal ke hone ke bad bhi shadi jabardasti kar di. Now I am suffering.
Sir stream bhi kaun decide karne deta hai. Science fix hai😐😐
Its factz same sir apki jesi thinking meri mother ki h but my father is too hypocrisy he always torcher my family 😢
Parents behosh hai
On point
Acharya Prashant was not harmed while making this video
😂😂
i know it sir my parents are like that only
Video on CA please
+1
Mil jul ke kaise decision le lenge parents? 😂
Decisions ke time pe parents have the ultimate thing called 'experience'
Jab decision galat ho jata hai to bolte hain, tu kar leta apne hisab se, humne kahan roka tha.
1:44
dhari wala means prasant baba
Daariwala kaun hai? Aachariya Prashant?
Vaishakh nandan
Rohit Neha are must 💕💕
Yes. Right sir.
Misguiding youth to gain views . Kyoki UA-cam chalane wale bacche jyada hai jo job nahi krte ,social media mein jyada active hai.
Very informative vedio 👏👏
Good way to earn attention, trust of today's generation, by talking what they want, they are frustrated with societal expectations
right
Dil ki baat! 😭💗
I have worst neighbour
I hate my parents, family a lot
I am from haryana and I wanted to live in better state with good amount of money
I hate everyone around me
My parents are the reason which they wanted to spoil my life
Bahut Sahi Kaha
Sir aap kaha the mera pura bachpan...jawani k begining sab ultimate tourture tha😂
Middle class parents ka doglapan isliye bhi hai shayad ki unhone bhi wahi doglapan ya to face kiya hai... Jaise meri sister without even realising humare parents ke track pe hai the only deference is that wo apne bacche ko clear bata k rakhe hue hai ki wo unka investment hai, n that he will have to attain or achieve such or such in order to repay their investment... Not in terms of the money invested but time, resources, facilities etc.
Secondly, parents isliye dogle hote hain ki wo ignorant hote hain apni conditioning ko le ke.. Agar parents khud humble background se ate hain n unhone kuchh better (job) achieve kar liya to obviously unke parents ka bhi Naam Hua. To ye ummeed unki apne bacchon se badh jaati hai... Ki tumhe bhi ye karna hi karna hai.
N that's true... Ki parents nhi samjh pa rahe ki unki achievement hai to that means ek level wo bhi upar aaye previous generations se. Aap goan se shahar mein aa gye, acchi job hai, aap apni betiyon ko padha rahe hain.. Aur apki generation bhi apse ek level upar hi jayegi.. Wo already shahar mein hain, acchi job unhone bhi ke li... But yahan parents unko previous generations ke level pe rakhna chahte hain...
"Sar dhako, asli paridhan to saree hai, teen tyohar ka dabaav, bolo mat, sunte raho, shaadi ka decision bhi ghar parivar k izzat se drive hoga... "
To... I think, abhi 60s mein run kar rahe parents transition k aise daur mein hain ki aage-peechhe mein phans gye hain.khud mein Kuchh sahi faisle karne ki himmat nhi aur Sara pressure apne bacchon pe.
Mere parents sarkari naukri ke piche pade hain aur main 21age mein JNU ke pg entrance ki prep kar rahi hu lekin unse dekha nahi ja raha. Roz ye baatein sunke suicide ka mann karta hai par somehow manage kar rahi hu bas mann lagake padhai karne ki. Kabhi kabhi lagta hai kaash mere parents koi aur hote. Maine sochke rakha hai JRF ban jaungi toh 37k mein 6k ka rent khojungi kese bhi rehlungi bas max se man paisa parents ko hu bhejungi, inke liye success yehi hai ki bachche ka kitna package crack hua kitna salary hai, isliye sirf paise bhejdungi bhale mujhe pata hai 37k inke liye bohot kam hai. Mujhe farak nahi padta mujhe bas wohi karna hai jo mujhe lagta hai meri kaabiliyat hai, kyunki ye vishwas(self-esteem) ka murder ko maa-baap wese hi bachpan me kar dete hain.
Same to same condition here too ...... Wat to do then.....
Doglapan hum bhi pehle se kehte the
Ek ladke ke father ne kaha engineer ban ..admission karwa deta hu usne kaha nahi Kar paunga..hotel management me Jana he ..Aj wo manager he ...time pe life settle he ...
Sahi kaha aapne
Sir u r right
Nahin yeh to uttha hi nahin hai😂😂😂😂
Right said this class is poor from everywhere
Sir very true!
Love you Sir