My biggest issue with erytrophobia is that it actually rules my life. It's like a little monster sitting inside my head telling me I can't live normally because the redness can come anytime. I can literally blush when someone asks me about my holiday plans, not to mention talking with the guy that I like for example. It stops me from doing things I wanna do. I just can't do with it anymore. Though I'm happy there are more people like me so that I'm not alone.
Erythrophobia is exactly what you just described. It's the fear and obsession around blushing and can control your life. That's why I say that I cured my Erythrophobia, but I still flush/blush. I'm still on my journey with redness, but it does not control my life anymore. That's why I make these videos. So people can know they are not alone and see my journey and find hope for their own journey.
It’s really when the focus gets put on me and it could be anything. It could be a friend who asks me how my new job is going. I feel put on the spot and somewhat exposed and naked. Probably vulnerable would be the word. I think those are the core feelings so I try not to focus too much on the blushing And more on asking my inner child what her needs are and what her feelings are. I do think there is a wounded inner child at the core of it all.
OMG, I am so appreciative for you and your bravery and doing this channel. I feel like the flush is wrapped up in shame and lack of self-confidence. For whatever reason people such as yourself (and myself) have been marked at one point in their life by an experience and I think it goes into the nervous system. It’s such a shame because you are funny and bright and have a lot to offer and should not have to be focused on this at all. I am so glad that you are sharing this though and normalizing the experience for so many. Good for you!!! 💜🙌🥰
I started seeing progress when I gave up on trying to explain it and cover it up. It was extremly hard at first but the more I didn't let it hold me back, the better I got. It's totally possible to be happy and still have erythrophobia!
I live in Nashville and found your IG account awhile back due to being fed up with living with chronic blushing for 30 years or so now. So grateful to have you put yourself out there to help myself and others deal with this issue. I definitely find alcohol makes mine worse on a social level but I’m currently wanting to take on more of a leadership role at my workplace and have found blushing to be an obstacle in me even wanting to pursue that due to my fears of blushing. Looking forward to more content and thanks again!
Hi my fellow Nashvillian! That's so cool that you're local!!! I was able to advance in my career multiple times and I fully believe others can too. I can't wait for you to hear the upcoming interview that I did with Madeleine de Hauke! She was able to cure her blushing and advance in her career after being an "observer" for many years!
Still suffer from it but not as bad as it use to be. One big thing that helped was Toastmasters. They are found all over the world. Provides safe environment to learn to how to stand up in front of others giving speeches and get comfortable with it. Everyone that goes were in the same position at some point and give great advice and confidence. I still need to work on it but it gave me the confidence to put myself forward more. The more confident and practiced you get the less the blushing occurs. You have to put yourself out there to start but recommend 100%.
It would be nice if there were statistics on what people really think of people turning red. I guess most people don't even recognize or does not think anything bad at all about it. For example I NEVER recognized someone turning red talking to me my whole life. And I think it's not because it never happend but because I am always so focused on what I say and how I seem to the other person. I guess many people feel the same way.
I really do think it's a bigger deal in our heads than anyone else's. Which is why I think people who turn red but don't really care, don't struggle with the fear cycle because they don't think that everyone else is judging them.
I’ve literally have had people call me out on it before. Horrifying and my worst nightmare. I had someone from upper management call me out on it in a very informal meeting once and he was like what is wrong with you? He was like why is your face turning red? He Acted like I was a freak and I just shrugged my shoulders and kind of shrunk into myself. It was definitely worst case scenario playing out, and he was super insensitive and confused by it.
I suffered so much from this last year. I couldn’t look anyone in the eye, couldn’t speak up in classes, couldn’t handle eyes on me in conversation, not even my own mom. I was constantly on edge and terrified. I started wearing makeup to cover it and it’s been my safe thing ever since. Now I only feel vulnerable if I’m not wearing my coat of foundation. I don’t know if that’s worse or better but it’s the only thing that helped me. Now I’m just not sure how to become comfortable without it, it feels impossible. As soon as the makeup is off, the fear comes right back. I have hyperhidrosis in the face too, which makes it difficult in the summer or when I’m just walking. Sorry for ranting about it here. But is there anyone else who feels the same? And is there anyone who has overcome it?
Hi! I know many people who utilize makeup to help. This can certainly be an aid as you're navigating this journey. My healing came through self-acceptance and evaluating my self-worth. If you watch my more recent videos over the past 3 months you can see the progression of my healing and how I ultimately healed from this condition.
Yes, when I don’t have any make up on, I feel completely naked and exposed. I think that is the inner core feeling of shame. I think that the flushing is just a byproduct of the core feelings obviously. I literally feel naked without foundation or powder on my face to buffer me from the world.
Hey good stuff! I know you mentioned propranolol in the past and how it worked great for you. I was just wondering if that’s something you still make use of occasionally, or was it something that just sort of helped you break through that fear barrier at a specific point in your journey? Thanks again!
Hi Jake! I still have my prescription for Propanolol but don't use it anymore. I'm not in situations where I have to use it since I work from home and have learned to move through my fear around turning red. I still keep it on hand though. It was instrumental in helping to calm my mind enough to get me to stop obsessing over turning red and therefore - able to reframe my thoughts and not let it have such a stronghold over me.
I use propanol and started a new job this week and was invited to lunch with all of management and I did not have any beta blocker on me and I was stressed. I did not want all eyes to turn on me at the table with like eight people there. I just focused on having more personal one on one conversations and got through it. I think it’s the mental obsession that robs me of being present and in the moment. Sometimes I’m so focused on it when people talk to me that I don’t hear a word they say. It can really get in the way of remembering things and doing my job properly.
If you are blushing in this video, I can say you look so beautiful and natural. But as I am a guy, it so weird i got red on face and neck Also, ladies can make up using like concealer to reduce red tone But guy cannot do that
I hear from many people who had similar experiences with their teachers or classmates. I'm sorry that happened to you. I cringe if I ever hear anyone mention how red someone just got.
Hey there! It's interesting that you shared this. I was on a zoom call with a group of people who flush/blush and during the call we ALL turned red when speaking. Even though we knew we were in good company.
Anybody else FEAR people will think you like them or think they are attractive when you blush
This is very common! It's easy to project our thoughts onto others when we're feeling insecure. Reframing has helped me a ton.
My biggest issue with erytrophobia is that it actually rules my life. It's like a little monster sitting inside my head telling me I can't live normally because the redness can come anytime. I can literally blush when someone asks me about my holiday plans, not to mention talking with the guy that I like for example. It stops me from doing things I wanna do. I just can't do with it anymore.
Though I'm happy there are more people like me so that I'm not alone.
Agree.. if someone ask me I'm turning red. Im so confused to my self i always see my face in the mirror. If my face is turning to red😢😢😢
Erythrophobia is exactly what you just described. It's the fear and obsession around blushing and can control your life. That's why I say that I cured my Erythrophobia, but I still flush/blush. I'm still on my journey with redness, but it does not control my life anymore. That's why I make these videos. So people can know they are not alone and see my journey and find hope for their own journey.
It’s really when the focus gets put on me and it could be anything. It could be a friend who asks me how my new job is going. I feel put on the spot and somewhat exposed and naked. Probably vulnerable would be the word. I think those are the core feelings so I try not to focus too much on the blushing And more on asking my inner child what her needs are and what her feelings are. I do think there is a wounded inner child at the core of it all.
OMG, I am so appreciative for you and your bravery and doing this channel. I feel like the flush is wrapped up in shame and lack of self-confidence. For whatever reason people such as yourself (and myself) have been marked at one point in their life by an experience and I think it goes into the nervous system. It’s such a shame because you are funny and bright and have a lot to offer and should not have to be focused on this at all. I am so glad that you are sharing this though and normalizing the experience for so many. Good for you!!! 💜🙌🥰
I started seeing progress when I gave up on trying to explain it and cover it up. It was extremly hard at first but the more I didn't let it hold me back, the better I got. It's totally possible to be happy and still have erythrophobia!
Agreed! It's like we truly have to cross through what we fear most in order to experience the freedom that we're seeking!
Feel it to heal it they say. It does pass but then the mind hooks on it happening again:(
And then they ask why the heck r u red what u gonna answer ?!
I live in Nashville and found your IG account awhile back due to being fed up with living with chronic blushing for 30 years or so now. So grateful to have you put yourself out there to help myself and others deal with this issue. I definitely find alcohol makes mine worse on a social level but I’m currently wanting to take on more of a leadership role at my workplace and have found blushing to be an obstacle in me even wanting to pursue that due to my fears of blushing. Looking forward to more content and thanks again!
Hi my fellow Nashvillian! That's so cool that you're local!!! I was able to advance in my career multiple times and I fully believe others can too. I can't wait for you to hear the upcoming interview that I did with Madeleine de Hauke! She was able to cure her blushing and advance in her career after being an "observer" for many years!
Still suffer from it but not as bad as it use to be. One big thing that helped was Toastmasters. They are found all over the world. Provides safe environment to learn to how to stand up in front of others giving speeches and get comfortable with it. Everyone that goes were in the same position at some point and give great advice and confidence. I still need to work on it but it gave me the confidence to put myself forward more. The more confident and practiced you get the less the blushing occurs. You have to put yourself out there to start but recommend 100%.
It would be nice if there were statistics on what people really think of people turning red. I guess most people don't even recognize or does not think anything bad at all about it. For example I NEVER recognized someone turning red talking to me my whole life. And I think it's not because it never happend but because I am always so focused on what I say and how I seem to the other person. I guess many people feel the same way.
I really do think it's a bigger deal in our heads than anyone else's. Which is why I think people who turn red but don't really care, don't struggle with the fear cycle because they don't think that everyone else is judging them.
I’ve literally have had people call me out on it before. Horrifying and my worst nightmare. I had someone from upper management call me out on it in a very informal meeting once and he was like what is wrong with you? He was like why is your face turning red? He Acted like I was a freak and I just shrugged my shoulders and kind of shrunk into myself. It was definitely worst case scenario playing out, and he was super insensitive and confused by it.
I suffered so much from this last year. I couldn’t look anyone in the eye, couldn’t speak up in classes, couldn’t handle eyes on me in conversation, not even my own mom. I was constantly on edge and terrified. I started wearing makeup to cover it and it’s been my safe thing ever since. Now I only feel vulnerable if I’m not wearing my coat of foundation. I don’t know if that’s worse or better but it’s the only thing that helped me. Now I’m just not sure how to become comfortable without it, it feels impossible. As soon as the makeup is off, the fear comes right back. I have hyperhidrosis in the face too, which makes it difficult in the summer or when I’m just walking. Sorry for ranting about it here. But is there anyone else who feels the same? And is there anyone who has overcome it?
Hi! I know many people who utilize makeup to help. This can certainly be an aid as you're navigating this journey. My healing came through self-acceptance and evaluating my self-worth. If you watch my more recent videos over the past 3 months you can see the progression of my healing and how I ultimately healed from this condition.
Yes, when I don’t have any make up on, I feel completely naked and exposed. I think that is the inner core feeling of shame. I think that the flushing is just a byproduct of the core feelings obviously. I literally feel naked without foundation or powder on my face to buffer me from the world.
@@Visioneering1 me too, glad I’m not alone.
Hey good stuff! I know you mentioned propranolol in the past and how it worked great for you. I was just wondering if that’s something you still make use of occasionally, or was it something that just sort of helped you break through that fear barrier at a specific point in your journey? Thanks again!
Hi Jake!
I still have my prescription for Propanolol but don't use it anymore. I'm not in situations where I have to use it since I work from home and have learned to move through my fear around turning red. I still keep it on hand though. It was instrumental in helping to calm my mind enough to get me to stop obsessing over turning red and therefore - able to reframe my thoughts and not let it have such a stronghold over me.
@@blushingphoenix good to hear! Thanks for the reply, stay well!
i also need this answer :D
I use propanol and started a new job this week and was invited to lunch with all of management and I did not have any beta blocker on me and I was stressed. I did not want all eyes to turn on me at the table with like eight people there. I just focused on having more personal one on one conversations and got through it. I think it’s the mental obsession that robs me of being present and in the moment. Sometimes I’m so focused on it when people talk to me that I don’t hear a word they say. It can really get in the way of remembering things and doing my job properly.
If you are blushing in this video, I can say you look so beautiful and natural. But as I am a guy, it so weird i got red on face and neck
Also, ladies can make up using like concealer to reduce red tone
But guy cannot do that
I hear from many people who had similar experiences with their teachers or classmates. I'm sorry that happened to you. I cringe if I ever hear anyone mention how red someone just got.
my dream would be to be in a whole class with just ppl who have erythrophobia then my life would be so easy knowing other ppl are like me
Hey there! It's interesting that you shared this. I was on a zoom call with a group of people who flush/blush and during the call we ALL turned red when speaking. Even though we knew we were in good company.
So whats the ONE THING?
Exposure