ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

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  • Опубліковано 2 бер 2021
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  • @KiwikimNZ
    @KiwikimNZ 3 роки тому +43

    This is making me cry. Talking about the age at which the parent noticed changes in their child’s self esteem. I am going for my first adhd diagnoses appointment at 51 years old. You talking of the lack of self esteem bought back horrible memories of the terror of going to school due to the way I was treated by peers and teachers due to my ability to problems with my learning. Back in the 70s at primary school I was viewed as being just dumb and not trying. I was always behind snd struggled. I was pointed out as being stupid by my teachers and laughed at by my class mates. I was always made an example of if I was struggling. I remember being that lonely kid in the play ground feeling so sad. At an early age I hated school so much that I would leave half way through the day without telling anyone and just go home to an empty scary house. I would find myself in big trouble for this behaviour. It spiralled from there. I was always so so sad. I have terrible problems with reflection, lashing out through emails or physical violence towards others. Thank you for this it is helping me to understand why I am the way I am. I have been diagnosed with bipolar without ever having a manic episode in my life! I’ve been thrown lithium and so tried so many antidepressants that have never worked. I’m so angry that I have not been listened to and thought of as a drug seeker when trying to tell clinicians that I feel I have adhd! No one listens. Thank you for your kind and non judgemental approach to this disorder. It is frustrating, paralysing, confusing, unorganised, depressing, jumbled and heartbreaking to live like this. X

    • @GenXdad
      @GenXdad Рік тому +3

      I also have just recently had my first diagnosis at 51.

    • @shirleymoore5201
      @shirleymoore5201 Рік тому +5

      The same for me school was a nightmare I am 63 now..No diagnosis I live in Ireland 2 year waiting lest and there's only one doctor on the whole Island 🏝 For adults 😑

    • @chriscros13
      @chriscros13 Рік тому +3

    • @grace-n-mercy5426
      @grace-n-mercy5426 9 місяців тому +1

      My heart goes out to you, I can identify with a lot of what your saying. Hope you are doing better today. One thing about us ADHD folks is we very resilient. Many of us been through so much, but we keep on fighting.

    • @KiwikimNZ
      @KiwikimNZ 9 місяців тому

      @@grace-n-mercy5426 thank you! Wow 2 years ago! I’m doing so much better. I got my diagnoses ADHD combined type moderate to severe. I’ve been able to find some tools and implement them into my daily life and started meds, but I don’t take them very often, only if I have a lot of things to get done and need focus. The diagnoses was a huge break through for me, it was like everything made sense. I still loose everything and still procrastinate lol but I’ve made small changes that have helped. You are right resilient ! That’s us to a T x

  • @catherinehoward7012
    @catherinehoward7012 Місяць тому

    wow! I was recently diagnosed with combined ADHD at 55 and I am a RTC patient of ADHD 360. It is a lightbulb moment for me to be told my inappropriate outbursts and uncontrolled tears and frustration are no character defects - they are pre-frontal cortex deficits. Thank you so, so much xx

  • @xorqwerty8276
    @xorqwerty8276 Рік тому +6

    I’m so afraid of the rejection and the failing that I completely isolate myself and don’t try anything

  • @2brunhilda
    @2brunhilda Рік тому +4

    This is me and I really discovered it at 70 years old

  • @lindaearl5486
    @lindaearl5486 Рік тому +10

    I am 75 and have adhd. I was on aderall, my Dr. Retired and I've been to 2 doctors so far and they make it too hard to get the meds. So I quit taking it and I've noticed it's back to the old life, including the hurt feelings, lack of motivation. Butting in, not fitting in, rejection., lashing out. It's a hard thing and nobody thinks it's a problem. These videos are what I'm relying on. Lots of info on them and I appreciate it. It's too bad they make getting the meds you need so hard. I've never had a drug problem in my life.

    • @RavenVapor873
      @RavenVapor873 Рік тому

      I think it's absurd that your doctor is so ill informed ! Could you find someone different that knows that ADHD is lifelong? You deserve to have the treatment that works best for you. Maybe he needs to watch some of these wonderful podcasts. How frustrating !

  • @taramoonshadow7260
    @taramoonshadow7260 Рік тому +4

    Bless your work, all of you! You are all SO compassionate!!

  • @markcrossley1979
    @markcrossley1979 Рік тому +2

    Best video on the subject of ADHD ever

  • @lizard45sa
    @lizard45sa 2 роки тому +5

    This info is really amazing! It all makes so much sense! I was officially diagnosed today and I feel such relief!!

  • @bystandersarah
    @bystandersarah 9 місяців тому +1

    I could have easily been the top of my class if I had been treated when I was a kid. I often think about what could have been in my life. Instead of a continuous hidden disaster in my 40’s, I could have been identified and treated. Doctors need to screen everyone imo. And that screening needs to ask better diagnosis questions. I got my diagnosis recently after accidentally watching a motivation video that explained adhd motivations like urgency, competition, novelty etc as opposed to neurotypicals. It was this that led me to a diagnosis but my doctor’s diagnostic questions were terribly inept. If I hadn’t done a lot of prior research, I might have answered her questions differently. When she asked if I have trouble staying in my seat, I knew these questions are not for adhd adults. I Can stay in my seat but my mind is racing, I have to entertain myself to stay there and I would prefer to get up, but yes, I can stay in my seat when it’s expected of me. When I was 6, however, I was bouncing all over the place 😂.
    When she asked me if I was tangential, and remarked that she hadn’t noticed that in me, I had to tell her that I actively have to keep myself on the conversational track and I work hard to stay on topic. Or at least make sure my topics connect and circle back to the original topic.
    My point is, the questions are woefully I adequate. Especially for adults. It’s ridiculous actually and makes me angry. I blame my childhood doctor because my teachers kept saying I had adhd and my doctors said I didn’t. Of course, I was on my best behavior at the doctors office and they asked stupid questions back then as well. 😡

  • @ovedach
    @ovedach Рік тому +2

    omg .... wauv... this just makes perfect sense ... being that guy that would cram everything up inside at going from 99-100 in a split second, and never understanding why i couldnt control the emotions .....

  • @barbaradouglas2283
    @barbaradouglas2283 Рік тому +3

    I’m struggling with wanting to stay alive. I’m truly fed-up with my issues that haven’t been properly treated yet, also have trauma as well. Have noticed that when something triggers me, I experience the feelings of tears 😭 starting to emerge into my throat. Have come extremely close to exploding in the church> felt like my nerves were touched.

    • @grace-n-mercy5426
      @grace-n-mercy5426 9 місяців тому

      Very sad that many in the body of Christ is extremely ignorant when it comes to mental health. Many just try to fix you like a 30 day spiritual program, and if the treatment don't work, obviously you the problem, or you just need to have more faith and fast it away. There is such a difference to what people say when someone is physically sick compared to when they mentally unstable. Biggest thing is, we should just ignore our negative feelings and intrusive thoughts and just pray more, go to Church, and be more obedient to God’s word... again, it becomes our problem and we should know how to stop it. I was told by someone, Adhd is not from God and it can be fixed by realizing who I am in Christ...utter foolishness and ridiculousness.

  • @louisekavanagh1988
    @louisekavanagh1988 2 роки тому

    Great webinar. 6 months late but thanks so much for sharing! New to the topic and found it really interesting

  • @Trippy_Space_Bunny
    @Trippy_Space_Bunny 2 роки тому +5

    37 and only now figuring this all out my life has been so hard when it comes to these things, you're explaining my life and I wish it had been taken care of when I was six instead of my parents ignoring it and refusing to get me taken care of because of "poison" medicine that could have helped. Now I can't afford to have any of it looked at or taken care of. T-T

    • @emma8634
      @emma8634 Рік тому +1

      Basically same here. I am now just starting the process of getting diagnosed, but it's totally overwhelming to find new things everyday that could have been different or easier if I had been noticed as a child. Extremely difficult to deal with the regret and disappointment.

    • @robertstan298
      @robertstan298 11 місяців тому

      34 and in a very similar situation... :(

  • @kristina9079
    @kristina9079 Рік тому +1

    Step 4 - triggered emotions - should include "freeze".

  • @jonathanberry1111
    @jonathanberry1111 7 місяців тому

    🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
    03:40 🧠 *Understanding Executive Functions and ADHD*
    - Executive functions are brain processes found in the prefrontal cortex.
    - They help regulate emotions, manage time, and organize belongings.
    - Both speakers emphasize the significance of executive functions for societal contribution and individual well-being.
    07:20 🎯 *Rejection Sensitivity in ADHD*
    - Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is discussed as a symptom associated with ADHD.
    - The discussion highlights the challenges of labeling ADHD and the need for more meaningful descriptors.
    - There's a strong emphasis on recognizing RSD as a genuine impairment in individuals with ADHD.
    12:42 🚸 *ADHD Symptoms and Impacts from a Young Age*
    - Emphasis on recognizing ADHD symptoms in children as young as four years old.
    - Discussion revolves around the emotional and self-esteem challenges faced by children with ADHD.
    - Anecdotes from clinical experience highlight the profound impact of ADHD on a child's self-perception and interaction with peers.
    16:02 📚 *Treatment Considerations for Young ADHD Patients*
    - The age-based treatment protocol for ADHD is explored, focusing on the age of six as a starting point.
    - The need to consider individual cases and not solely rely on age-based clinical trials is emphasized.
    - Clinical experiences are shared to illustrate the importance of early intervention and individualized treatment approaches.
    24:53 🧠 *Fear of Failure and Executive Function Challenges*
    - Exploring the paralyzing fear of failure in individuals with executive function challenges.
    - Many individuals with executive function challenges possess a fixed mindset due to a deep-rooted fear of failure.
    - This fear can be paralyzing, preventing growth and progress in personal development.
    - The constant dread of failure affects self-esteem and willingness to engage in new activities or challenges.
    26:29 🌡️ *Understanding Rejection Sensitivity and its Impact*
    - Discussion on rejection sensitivity, its manifestations, and its significant impact on individuals, especially those with ADHD.
    - Rejection sensitivity can lead to explosive reactions when individuals feel they've been rejected or criticized.
    - Anecdotes highlight the intense emotional toll of rejection sensitivity on relationships and self-perception.
    - The consequences of untreated rejection sensitivity can manifest in substance abuse and strained relationships.
    29:30 🚫 *Addressing Long-standing Fear of Failure*
    - Delving into the prolonged and deep-seated fear of failure, especially in individuals who've carried it from childhood into adulthood.
    - Individuals often develop a persistent fear of failure, which intensifies as they age and assume more responsibilities.
    - The overwhelming fear of failure contributes to procrastination, emotional dysregulation, and potential suicidal ideation.
    - Recognizing and addressing this fear early on can lead to better mental health outcomes and improved self-perception.
    48:55 💊 *Medication considerations for ADHD treatment*
    - The importance of choosing the right medication with a calming effect.
    - In Chinese, originally used for hypertension, is highlighted for its calming side effects and 24-hour coverage.
    - Addressing the misconception of medication turning children into "zombies."
    51:11 🧠 *Treating underlying causes of anxiety in ADHD*
    - Anxiety and compulsion are seen as byproducts of ADHD impairments.
    - Focus on treating the root cause rather than just the symptoms of anxiety.
    - Case studies highlight the link between ADHD, anxiety, and other physical health manifestations.
    52:45 🔄 *Impact of ADHD treatment on depression and anxiety*
    - A significant portion of adult ADHD patients also present with depression or anxiety.
    - Properly treating ADHD often leads to a reduction in associated depression and anxiety symptoms.
    - Considerations for coexisting conditions like autism when prescribing medications.
    55:51 🚫 *Medication as a proactive approach, not a last resort*
    - Emphasizing the importance of not waiting until a child fails before considering medication.
    - Addressing misconceptions about medication transforming children into "zombies."
    - Highlighting the positive changes medication can bring to a child's behavior and well-being.
    59:32 🤝 *Emotional dysregulation and the importance of empathy*
    - Recognizing rejection sensitivity as a significant characteristic of ADHD.
    - Emphasizing the need to acknowledge and empathize with feelings of those with ADHD.
    - Strategies and techniques to change triggers and prevent emotional dysregulation.
    01:00:01 🎯 *Addressing feelings and complaints in ADHD management*
    - The significance of acknowledging feelings and complaints, irrespective of agreement.
    - The role of duty of candor in addressing emotional dysregulation and rejection sensitivity.
    - Strategies to change triggers and foster a more empathetic approach in interactions.
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  • @lindaearl5486
    @lindaearl5486 Рік тому

    My son has it too, and when all the "good" kids got to play with clay cause 6they got their work done he couldn't. His 2nd grade teacher tied him to his chair, because he couldn't sit still. He didn't tell me about it till the school year was over.

  • @barbaradouglas2283
    @barbaradouglas2283 Рік тому +3

    Has anyone heard about emotional dysregulation? On top of the ADHD, plus the diagnosis of anxiety etc? This is a lot to deal with/handle it correctly. Apparently I’ve been having genuine troubles: 1 of the ladies in my church who I thought I could trust & rely on isn’t accurate. She’s accused me now of being as she stated it: “Quite being so sensitive!” I need to ask; how is this possible when you’ve always been that way? She said my name of course before telling me to quit being so sensitive. How can I or anyone that doesn’t understand this situation get it through their heads is that I’m not trying to be this way! I’m uncomfortable with all these issues that I’ve had to exist with since childhood. I’m now in my 60’s & this lady had the nerve to say this to me!!! 😳😠💔😑😞I seriously want to know how to get my brain issues under proper control for me, for exactly what ails me! Another words > treatment that’d really work for me just right. And what group can I join where I’ll be & feel truly understood. Can someone who has the answer to my question please contact me ASAP?! I’m needing serious correct personal treatment that I know inside myself will work out well. Don’t know how to reach out to the right person here. Can someone type the info out please? Appreciate it a lot!

    • @bridaw8557
      @bridaw8557 Рік тому

      Going for so long with past Trauma from ring a young person in a societal system which responds with punishment emotionally and often physically can set women up for these kind of experiences, there isn’t much help in groups that don’t frame it as mental illness and focus on strengths. Collecting so many traumas due to processing differences makes us experience learned helplessness. Learning to like who you are and not let these things derail you is hard and seems impossible.
      Inner Compass Initiative and the national ADHD alliance can help you find resources in your area.

    • @RavenVapor873
      @RavenVapor873 Рік тому +1

      I was just diagnosed last November. I'm 69 and I can totally relate to your comment. I'm still feeling angry about being diagnosed so late in life. My life could have been so much better if I had known and gotten treatment. Now I'm just a mess trying to regulate my executive functioning and all the other stuff. Plus I have OCD with it. I just want to scream some times then I try to find some humor in all of it. I'm learning more every single day. Now I have to start learning ways to start dealing with it. I can't afford to seek out a psychologist
      because they are too expensive. I'm on a fixed income. Sigh..
      I wish you so much luck in your journey. You're not alone. I can't tell how it makes me feel. But I'm still going to try and use what I have learned.

  • @loridennis6979
    @loridennis6979 Рік тому

    I was trying to understand the specific medication that was discussed in the video. It sounded like Inchinive, but the transcript says incentive. Can anyone clear this up?

  • @cuttypip
    @cuttypip 6 місяців тому

    this goes hard in 1.5x speed

  • @martingonzales
    @martingonzales 6 місяців тому

    Who here is also an artist?