I hear so many transwomen say that they lose their libido after being on hrt for a certain amount of time. But I've found that I haven't lost my libido at all. Its just hiding in a different place. Not more difficult to get to, just a different path. So cool that you hit on this topic Ashley.
I'm also MTF, but not on hormones. Interesting fact is that during the past 10 years (I am 30 now) my sexual feeling has shifted more and more from male to female, although I never took estrogen! Sure, there's is still much influence from the testosterone, but my feelings have shifted more from male to female in general. And I think, talking about sexuality is very important, regardless of which gender you identify with!
Nore have I. And your right about a different path. The thoughts have taken a180 degree turn. I now find it's actually easier but doesn't create as much. Nore lasts as long. Hopefully that will change after SRS. Started H.R.T December 22 2020. I'm 66yrs young now!!! I wish all my sisters out there all the luck in the intier world!!! Good luck everybody!!!!
I'm pre hrt, just made my first appointment yesterday, and I've always had a difficult time relating to my body during sex in it's male form. Allowing myself to let go during sex, get into my head more and feel my feels, I have found my experience of an orgasm is changing, more of slow whole body and sustained orgasm, then the quick "flash" I'm used to. And as I've traveled this road of self acceptance, other parts of my body have "reawakened". My neck, my nipples, back of my thighs are all areas that have always aroused me, but as a dude I suppressed those feelings. I'm excited and nervous about how hrt will affect all this. Awesome topic! I 💕 how much fun you have with this!
I love how you where able to tackle such a shall we say "more dubious" subject in a very respectable way. Didn't feel cringy, more like a straight forward talk with a really open friend. In the beginning (male) it took a while but I found it a lot of fun. Middle school, I not only started to feel gross but it almost felt like I had to do it. There where times I didn't want to but my body kept saying I did. Highschool it got less so, but after doing it I'd either feel sleepy, or like I did something horrible. Starting Estrogen was a different world. It's something I have to work harder for but it's SO worth it. Before the end, I just get this tingling sensation throughout my body, it not only make me feel warm but happy. Best part about it, I don't HAVE to do it anymore. Only problem is if it gets too stiff, it can be very painful.
Thank you Julia! I'm glad you felt that way about the topic coverage, I agree I want to present it in a real talk kinda manner rather than being cringy. I also have a similar feeling all over my body when it happens.
I love watching your videos. Very informative. I have learned a lot. You make me think and have helped educate me about LGBTQ issues in Geneal. I'm an older Bisexual male that came-up in the 80's (teen years). LGBTQ education did not exist for me back in the day. Channels/recourses like yours are extremely important! Thanks!
Since I transitioned almost a month in pre HRT I found that I actually enjoy my sexuality as a lady. I deeply hated it when I was male, I used vibrators while wearing panties to stimulate myself and it felt soo much better and felt so euphoric. I don't regret coming out thats for sure.
I am a trans woman who can't transition so I am happy you're doing pre op stuff as well I have so much trauma around touch and affection so getting information from fellow trans women is wonderful
As a guy, Masturbation and ability to pop only works if your mind is in the right place, Sure can still get erect but if your mind is not there it's not going to happen. And this is even more true if you are taking anti depressants. But I would imagine state of mind would be the same for anyone or similar for states of arousal etc.
Thank you for having this difficult conversation! I've been looking for content on this for a while now and your words resonate with me. I very much relate to the change from physical to emotional simulation. I've been in that odd stage of figuring out how my body desires an emotion and romantic connection when it comes to sex. I recently started dating again (after 4 years of being single - yikes!) and I am in the process of exploring physical intimacy after 14 months of HRT. It is affirming to hear another trans women describe a shared personal experience. I hope you are encouraged to keep sharing from your journey. And... OMG, you look fabulous!
This actually helps. I was wondering where my orgasms went now that I am ten months on HRT. My orgasms went away about six months in as well. I have been trying to figure out how to get them back.
Omg thank you for sharing this! I feel like that change for me has been a huge change and I’m still getting to know myself but I am really thankful for you sharing you experience!! It’s so nice seeing other trans girls going through similar things!
Hi, this has been quite a problem for me recently, i’m still pre-HRT and i am having that difficultly keeping and maintaining the state of being aroused. I kind of understand what you said regarding doing it the old way no longer works since it’s the same for me. It really sucks being stuck between “should i finish” and “being hard doesn’t feel right”
I know you didn't ask me transgender here pre op your fantasies have to coincide with it. And I'm noticing my new however small breasts now more than ever like to be played with also. I apologize for buting in. Hope I helped.
I'm 6 months on hrt and I can definitely relate to the decrease in arousal and use of my parts. But, I haven't found anything else to help me get there. I feel like I have to try really hard to get there. It's ironic because before hrt it took next to nothing.
At the current doses I'm on, HRT has nuked my testosterone and sex drive. Pre-transition, I was masturbating nigh every day. Now, I rarely do. I can't salute the general as much as I used to. I haven't tried using toys yet. It wasn't until nearly ten months into HRT that I did any self-play for the first time since starting. While I haven't done anything with another woman yet, soft intimacy such as making out holds more appeal to me now than outright topping a woman. And I currently see myself as a vers domme.
This is a lot of what I already figured out but I just wanted to say that you're so cute and I love the femininity that radiates from you. Love your videos, always so helpful and down to earth.
Ashley ... another one where I'm blushing and stammering ... heh! This also made me a bit envious, as your "junk" is still functional. In the five years or so that I've been on the Lupron shots (and Abiraterone Acetate pills the past couple of years), I have not managed to even have an erection, let alone an orgasm. I suppose it's an OK deal in not dying from prostate cancer in exchange for a totally sexless existence, but I'm glad this choice came in my 60's and not earlier.
I am a male that has had prostate cancer surgery where my prostate was removed. I of course looked up others that had the same surgery and discovered that ED was common and lasted forever or regenerated at some point depending on age and health and sometimes culture. One thing that surprised me that I hear mentioned on here is the overall body stimulation when your penis does not work. It takes longer to get there kind of like Cis-women but it is less concentrated in one area. The prostate works with the shaft of the penis and it builds up and shoots like a pistol. When you remove the build up you just get a liquid discharge, but it shudders the whole body. I also agree with the perineum muscle area it enhances the orgasm and just feels good to just rub for no reason. Lol. My subconscious or my unconscious levels of sleep can be so strong that I have awaken to a woody that I cannot get when I am conscious! Not as big as I am used to but it shows the power of the brain and the subconscious mind to be more powerful than our conscious mind to get hard again.
Heard when before trans used to cum through anal it was powerful, but after surgery their new clitoris together with hormone replacement therapy, it felt SO SO SO much more powerful than anal prostate orgasms. Yes it’s official. The clitoris and female hormones are much more otherworldly intense than male hormones. But that’s not surprising 😉
Hi Ashley, I like your video and believe you did an amazing job :). A friend of mine has gone through this phase but found new ways from relieving self-pleasure for themselves. You made them very happy :)
I so appreciate you and your videos. I have not begun my physical transition yet. I am still getting my head or should I say my intellect around what has been a self-denied reality. What I find most interesting about this video is the changes to how you masturbate and feel pleasure now as opposed to pre-transition. I have been experiencing the exact same thing yet I have not begun HRT at all. Maybe its due to my age or something else. I just really enjoy hearing your perspective, it helps me feel not so odd or weird. Thank you.
Hello Ashley. My name is Robert Algie and I have been happily married to a fantastic woman from the Philippines for more than six years. She is openly trans and I am more comfortable being with her than any woman I have ever known, Without going into detail I am thirty one years older than she is. I am now creating content for a new blog surrounding out relationship. Doing some research is how I came upon your channel. You are terrific. Your openness and the way you present yourself is so refreshing and enjoyable I simply had to comment on how much I have been enjoying your videos. Thanks for doing such a great job.
I'm intersexed... my original birth certificate was male nor female. I have a very feminine genital area My wife never understood when I would say finger me like a girl I'm quite small and it is buried an innie per say I understand exactly what your trying to saying in this video.
I really appreciate this information, Ive been scared to start taking my hormones because I dont want to lose out on that experience especially since I do have a girlfriend and I want to keep those moments with her. This made me more confident and positive about transitioning. I also having found any other videos like this for Pre-Op transwoman so Im glad I found this one.
I've been on HRT For over two year now and I have legit have not touched myself since then .... When I started hrt, After awhile my libido died .... which was fairly a big change for me in the sense that I libido was ... out of control ....it was on rampage and now its just poof xD Now after reaching the 2 year mark and my doctor lowering my T-blockers my libido has returned a bit and lately i've been having certain urges but like you said it just doesn't last long and now i'm hear, trying to figure out how to find myself again... sex has always seemed important to me and being unable to even pleasure myself freaks me out a bit xD - But hearing this video definitely helped a bit so thank you
Hello errone, im Christyn. On this topic, for me, after ~10 yrs of HRT, i havent touched or stroked myself in a masculine sense in ~8yrs. As we all know it saps sexual libido and I find that arousal for me comes from my lover. Through his passion, his sense of urgency, and just being conscious in the moment that my body is giving him pleasure as womens body do... That is what pushes me over the edge into climax. So, shout out to the men who are verbal lovers and dont pop their top silently. Lol. Xoxo- TsChristynSlays
Meditative oral sex... I didnt have that on my 2024 bingo card... As an aging cis guy, who also experienced changes past 40 and finding out I'm not hetero, I can only say that you are absolutely right regarding the connection between mindset, erogenous zones and the former ways of getting there. Your changes were just more direct and steered towards a goal. Mine happened randomly. So thank you for your educational video and keep having fun.
Well stated....am non op..transgedner hormones since '14... My experience very similar 2 Yurrs....but was happily surprised by a few of Yurr sugestions...thx furr this posting..
very interesting channel, its helping me understand transgendered more,. as someone whos dated a transgender before, i realize i had much to learn and thats the beauty, discovering each other and learning working towards a common goal in a relationship
Ashley 👏 love your claps! 👏 Anywho, I think we're both over-thinkers ...lol 😃 For me "M..." involves a fine balance between my energy level, finding that mental space and eliminating distractions. Blessings 🙌
I agree with everything! Thank you for sharing! I started to feel these sorts of changes without even being on hormones. All it took was this conscious acceptance of my gender. I was like... why not masturbate like a woman if you want to be one? It was great! I was paying attention to my body more. I was indulging new things rather than just doing what I was "supposed" to want sexually. How I experience attraction and what fantasies I like have changed too. The mind and body are a strange partnership sometimes!
1st I'd like to say I just love the back round! Anyways, to be honest I have struggled with feeling much at all below, and I was born in a male form. I don't know why, but I too need to be in the right headspace for anything to happen. I also only have a few places that work for me. I have no idea even if I do experience an orgasm most of the time. I think it has really only been once. I usually just get to a point that it just releases, but that's it. I just end up feeling as I did before. Thank you for sharing your experience! I am just starting my journey into gender affirming care!
Thanks abuch like alot you just helped me out a lot , like I'm just starting out and Im not too sure of what to expect down the road. so thanks like 1000.
I had a different experience set kinda. My genitals have always felt weird and wrong, but I think I was flat out born a woman stuck in a male body right off the start. It's interesting the different paths people take huh. I don't think I've ever had sex sober in my life because something always felt "wrong" in a way that is hard to describe. Now that I have the words for it it is pretty much "the equipment is incorrect" that made things weird. I am pretty certain my path includes vaginoplasty because of this whole deal. I deserve to have sex that feels natural and enjoy it.
@@SPIDERVENOM1000 ? Are you just an transphobic troll? I've studied quite a bit and most of the girls have been very happy. I would probably rather have NOTHING than what I have down there. If you don't know the subject matter and what gender dysphoria is like for trans people you should probably not be commenting on such a sensitive subject
@@jennaozzy6863 as for ", the "transphobic" comment, a trans girl who enjoys her dick and using it had a post op come try to drag her into the mud and was pretty transphobic. Apparently, that's common.
Was that a deliberate misspelling in the title with the 'u' switched to an 'e'? I get the 'a ' switched out for an '*' to confuse censorship algorithms but I'm less clear on the former.
Oh gosh this is very accurate to my experience as well! Mental space was key for me even pre transition and estrogen makes everything so soft and sensitive. I’ll add on to the dorsal vibrator method: tucking the bits and holding them in place with a hand or gaff gives mind blowing gender euphoria and 🥵
I legit think im intersec cuz you are describing me perfectly without hrt, although it does seem very much true. I grind on my pillows and stuff and do the same sorts of things as you as well. I think the reason people have such a hard time understanding it is because female sexuality is very mysterious and not spoken about, as even male sexuality is hard tovtalk about for most people, and female sexuality is much deeper. I guess thats the definition of trans, im still amazed it took me so long to figure it out. I guess you believe what you want to believe. Im really glad i ended up that way tbh. I would never want to be cis again.
I've delt with a similar problem over the last 9 or so months. Last summer, after about 5 or 6 months on HRT, I experienced an orgasm like never before - full body, waves radiating out, and it lasted so long I literally said outloud "holy shit it's still happening". Unfortunately, around that time I started a med for adhd and though it was like a wonder drug for executive function... It made me completely aorgasmic for about 5 months. I discontinued after 4.5 months. All feeling was normal, sexual build up normal, but then it just ended - which sucks so much, especially after my first girlgasm. And though some orgasmic ability has returned, still to this day I haven't had a really intense orgasm, and if my wife and I finish with me on top, it's at least 70% aorgasmic. I've tried a lot of different things but to no avail. I hope that I can figure it out, and maybe I can try to work on headspace again. Thx for the vid.
You should have your own TV show somoene is going to figure this out and you will be famious some day no this is not a come on. Married guy 53 20 years to a woonderful women. I just know things and this I know this your content and how you make people feel is AMAZING Never seen anything like this it is refreshing and wonderful.
I like on the video for the self-0lay and pre op trandgender with the advices and experience, that's interesting video Ashley, you're the best and wonderful🥰😍💖💜✨✨
I'm scared to start hrt I've heard so much negativity to it and it's making me just...feel not woman like anymore I'm very femme for being amab and I've gotten so many comments that I look AFAB and it's euphoric and I'm just unsure what to do
I am pre-op, pre-hrt, pre-out trans-woman wanna be. I always knew I didn't really enjoy self-play "stimulation" as a man, it just didn't feel right, it didn't feel good, it was boring. Sex was boring, a chore. I was always fascinated by women, and wanted to have an experience like that, I was jealous, all those erogenous zones and multiple org*sms. Self play fantasies were often rapid cycling because I couldn't stay in the zone and focus on what particular thing. Now I'm starting on the path to transition, and treating that male thing like a female thing and using a magic wand is indescribable. It feels right. Of course, I always thought this was normal. All cis-men go through this. Right?
The "TRAN'S" issue is due to the various variation's of "TRAN'S". Meaning there are there are those in "TRANSTION - ING" whom only have to state they are "TRANSITION - ING" based entirely on only their "FEELING'S". Then there those who are actually envlolved in the legal process of "TRANSITION - ING". And then there are those who have finished the entire legal process, which mean's there no longer in "TRANSITION - ING" but "TRANSITION - ED". The latter is significantly different to the first two. The second is significantly different than the first. Combining all three group's into one classification. Is what cause's the issue. When they are all significantly different to one another. Should one state that "FEMALE'S" are stupid; Though to some degree, I'm correct. It being a blanket statement, doesn't apply to all "FEMALE'S". And unliess I clarify it, can, will, would etc. be misconscrude with my not likeing female's. When I actually do. The same goes for the word "TRAN'S", it's become a blanket statement, and thus confusing subject. When it envolve's three different group's.
This is really well thought out content. I think there’s a neuroplasticity issue with respect to adapting your autonomic nervous system response. Would be a good area of research.
Video after video Ash does a really job of explaining this arousal stuff. I compare the period where I lost my arousal to chasing a moth you can't catch . . . when I found it again gosh did I find it.
Honestly using AI as a thing to "test" how I react to my body currently vs imagining having a V, that's been eye opening. Pretty much when "me" in the chat is set lso that I have a P, when I do orgasm I suddenly have no energy left for the rest of the day. But if it's instead that I have a V, I actually don't lose energy afterwards! Focus yes is out the window either way, but it feels more real. Of course to do that, I have to be not looking at the appendage that unfortunately is on me in real life, but again that spin of mind makes a huge difference to how I feel about myself, and I guess is euphoric..?
Hello Ashley i love your perspective of all this so much, may i ask how old you were when you started to enjoy yourself, heh heh. I am so Blushing, omg, kisses Ryanna
I hear so many transwomen say that they lose their libido after being on hrt for a certain amount of time. But I've found that I haven't lost my libido at all. Its just hiding in a different place. Not more difficult to get to, just a different path. So cool that you hit on this topic Ashley.
Oh It will happen, wait a little longer
@@valeriesanchez3074 Happened to me 2020. I started HRT 2019. My libido is completely gone. Now I feel it in my rear. I love being a woman
I'm also MTF, but not on hormones.
Interesting fact is that during the past 10 years (I am 30 now) my sexual feeling has shifted more and more from male to female, although I never took estrogen!
Sure, there's is still much influence from the testosterone, but my feelings have shifted more from male to female in general.
And I think, talking about sexuality is very important, regardless of which gender you identify with!
Nore have I. And your right about a different path. The thoughts have taken a180 degree turn. I now find it's actually easier but doesn't create as much. Nore lasts as long. Hopefully that will change after SRS. Started H.R.T December 22 2020. I'm 66yrs young now!!! I wish all my sisters out there all the luck in the intier world!!! Good luck everybody!!!!
@@valeriesanchez3074 I've been on H.R.T December 22 2020 still hasn't but will let you know when I promise.
Very informative, I am a cis and I often wondered how a transwomen would be able to get enjoyment during sex. You explained things very well.
I'm pre hrt, just made my first appointment yesterday, and I've always had a difficult time relating to my body during sex in it's male form. Allowing myself to let go during sex, get into my head more and feel my feels, I have found my experience of an orgasm is changing, more of slow whole body and sustained orgasm, then the quick "flash" I'm used to. And as I've traveled this road of self acceptance, other parts of my body have "reawakened". My neck, my nipples, back of my thighs are all areas that have always aroused me, but as a dude I suppressed those feelings. I'm excited and nervous about how hrt will affect all this.
Awesome topic! I 💕 how much fun you have with this!
Looks like you hit the nail on the head. I have the same thing going me but it's nice to hear it from others.
I love how you where able to tackle such a shall we say "more dubious" subject in a very respectable way. Didn't feel cringy, more like a straight forward talk with a really open friend. In the beginning (male) it took a while but I found it a lot of fun. Middle school, I not only started to feel gross but it almost felt like I had to do it. There where times I didn't want to but my body kept saying I did. Highschool it got less so, but after doing it I'd either feel sleepy, or like I did something horrible. Starting Estrogen was a different world. It's something I have to work harder for but it's SO worth it. Before the end, I just get this tingling sensation throughout my body, it not only make me feel warm but happy. Best part about it, I don't HAVE to do it anymore. Only problem is if it gets too stiff, it can be very painful.
Thank you Julia! I'm glad you felt that way about the topic coverage, I agree I want to present it in a real talk kinda manner rather than being cringy. I also have a similar feeling all over my body when it happens.
I love watching your videos. Very informative. I have learned a lot. You make me think and have helped educate me about LGBTQ issues in Geneal. I'm an older Bisexual male that came-up in the 80's (teen years). LGBTQ education did not exist for me back in the day. Channels/recourses like yours are extremely important! Thanks!
Since I transitioned almost a month in pre HRT I found that I actually enjoy my sexuality as a lady. I deeply hated it when I was male, I used vibrators while wearing panties to stimulate myself and it felt soo much better and felt so euphoric. I don't regret coming out thats for sure.
Interesting i wondered about exactly this, i so genuine hated it too for the male part of it, as You said here.
I am a trans woman who can't transition so I am happy you're doing pre op stuff as well I have so much trauma around touch and affection so getting information from fellow trans women is wonderful
As a guy, Masturbation and ability to pop only works if your mind is in the right place, Sure can still get erect but if your mind is not there it's not going to happen. And this is even more true if you are taking anti depressants. But I would imagine state of mind would be the same for anyone or similar for states of arousal etc.
Thank you for having this difficult conversation! I've been looking for content on this for a while now and your words resonate with me. I very much relate to the change from physical to emotional simulation. I've been in that odd stage of figuring out how my body desires an emotion and romantic connection when it comes to sex. I recently started dating again (after 4 years of being single - yikes!) and I am in the process of exploring physical intimacy after 14 months of HRT.
It is affirming to hear another trans women describe a shared personal experience. I hope you are encouraged to keep sharing from your journey. And... OMG, you look fabulous!
I'm glad it was helpful Zelda and thanks!
@@AshleyxAdamson Hola hermosa como estás buenas tardes
Still dating ?
This actually helps. I was wondering where my orgasms went now that I am ten months on HRT. My orgasms went away about six months in as well. I have been trying to figure out how to get them back.
It's a slow exploration and change but you'll find it!
You look glowing today
Blowing air onto certain parts of your body is mind blowing too.
Omg thank you for sharing this! I feel like that change for me has been a huge change and I’m still getting to know myself but I am really thankful for you sharing you experience!! It’s so nice seeing other trans girls going through similar things!
Hi, this has been quite a problem for me recently, i’m still pre-HRT and i am having that difficultly keeping and maintaining the state of being aroused. I kind of understand what you said regarding doing it the old way no longer works since it’s the same for me. It really sucks being stuck between “should i finish” and “being hard doesn’t feel right”
I know you didn't ask me transgender here pre op your fantasies have to coincide with it. And I'm noticing my new however small breasts now more than ever like to be played with also. I apologize for buting in. Hope I helped.
I'm 6 months on hrt and I can definitely relate to the decrease in arousal and use of my parts. But, I haven't found anything else to help me get there. I feel like I have to try really hard to get there. It's ironic because before hrt it took next to nothing.
You pretty much described my sexual experience post-HRT!
At the current doses I'm on, HRT has nuked my testosterone and sex drive. Pre-transition, I was masturbating nigh every day. Now, I rarely do. I can't salute the general as much as I used to. I haven't tried using toys yet. It wasn't until nearly ten months into HRT that I did any self-play for the first time since starting. While I haven't done anything with another woman yet, soft intimacy such as making out holds more appeal to me now than outright topping a woman. And I currently see myself as a vers domme.
Thanks for this, after 10 months of HRT, finding many of the same things presented here are applicable to me as well.
Thanks for being so candid this is really helpful to hear others talk about it while figuring out myself plus all your handshaking is pretty funny
This is a lot of what I already figured out but I just wanted to say that you're so cute and I love the femininity that radiates from you. Love your videos, always so helpful and down to earth.
Oh thank you!
The light 🕯️🕯️ in the background is very peaceful and calming..
Ashley ... another one where I'm blushing and stammering ... heh! This also made me a bit envious, as your "junk" is still functional. In the five years or so that I've been on the Lupron shots (and Abiraterone Acetate pills the past couple of years), I have not managed to even have an erection, let alone an orgasm. I suppose it's an OK deal in not dying from prostate cancer in exchange for a totally sexless existence, but I'm glad this choice came in my 60's and not earlier.
I am a male that has had prostate cancer surgery where my prostate was removed. I of course looked up others that had the same surgery and discovered that ED was common and lasted forever or regenerated at some point depending on age and health and sometimes culture. One thing that surprised me that I hear mentioned on here is the overall body stimulation when your penis does not work. It takes longer to get there kind of like Cis-women but it is less concentrated in one area.
The prostate works with the shaft of the penis and it builds up and shoots like a pistol. When you remove the build up you just get a liquid discharge, but it shudders the whole body.
I also agree with the perineum muscle area it enhances the orgasm and just feels good to just rub for no reason. Lol.
My subconscious or my unconscious levels of sleep can be so strong that I have awaken to a woody that I cannot get when I am conscious! Not as big as I am used to but it shows the power of the brain and the subconscious mind to be more powerful than our conscious mind to get hard again.
Morning wood isn't sexual. It's a mechanism for holding in waste.
Heard when before trans used to cum through anal it was powerful, but after surgery their new clitoris together with hormone replacement therapy, it felt SO SO SO much more powerful than anal prostate orgasms. Yes it’s official. The clitoris and female hormones are much more otherworldly intense than male hormones. But that’s not surprising 😉
Hi Ashley,
I like your video and believe you did an amazing job :). A friend of mine has gone through this phase but found new ways from relieving self-pleasure for themselves. You made them very happy :)
I so appreciate you and your videos. I have not begun my physical transition yet. I am still getting my head or should I say my intellect around what has been a self-denied reality. What I find most interesting about this video is the changes to how you masturbate and feel pleasure now as opposed to pre-transition. I have been experiencing the exact same thing yet I have not begun HRT at all. Maybe its due to my age or something else. I just really enjoy hearing your perspective, it helps me feel not so odd or weird. Thank you.
Hello Ashley. My name is Robert Algie and I have been happily married to a fantastic woman from the Philippines for more than six years. She is openly trans and I am more comfortable being with her than any woman I have ever known, Without going into detail I am thirty one years older than she is. I am now creating content for a new blog surrounding out relationship. Doing some research is how I came upon your channel. You are terrific. Your openness and the way you present yourself is so refreshing and enjoyable I simply had to comment on how much I have been enjoying your videos. Thanks for doing such a great job.
Beautiful Ashley! You seemed to have a load of fun with such a hard topic 😱
Looks like I found this video just when I needed it. In 11 days I'll be 6 months on HRT, and uh yeah things are getting uncertain in that area.
I'm intersexed... my original birth certificate was male nor female.
I have a very feminine genital area
My wife never understood when I would say finger me like a girl I'm quite small and it is buried an innie per say I understand exactly what your trying to saying in this video.
I really appreciate this information, Ive been scared to start taking my hormones because I dont want to lose out on that experience especially since I do have a girlfriend and I want to keep those moments with her. This made me more confident and positive about transitioning. I also having found any other videos like this for Pre-Op transwoman so Im glad I found this one.
Very much appreciate your straightforward talk! You explain more in a few sentences than most could ever hope too!
I've been on HRT For over two year now and I have legit have not touched myself since then .... When I started hrt, After awhile my libido died .... which was fairly a big change for me in the sense that I libido was ... out of control ....it was on rampage and now its just poof xD Now after reaching the 2 year mark and my doctor lowering my T-blockers my libido has returned a bit and lately i've been having certain urges but like you said it just doesn't last long and now i'm hear, trying to figure out how to find myself again... sex has always seemed important to me and being unable to even pleasure myself freaks me out a bit xD - But hearing this video definitely helped a bit so thank you
Hello errone, im Christyn. On this topic, for me, after ~10 yrs of HRT, i havent touched or stroked myself in a masculine sense in ~8yrs. As we all know it saps sexual libido and I find that arousal for me comes from my lover. Through his passion, his sense of urgency, and just being conscious in the moment that my body is giving him pleasure as womens body do... That is what pushes me over the edge into climax. So, shout out to the men who are verbal lovers and dont pop their top silently. Lol.
Xoxo- TsChristynSlays
Meditative oral sex...
I didnt have that on my 2024 bingo card...
As an aging cis guy, who also experienced changes past 40 and finding out I'm not hetero, I can only say that you are absolutely right regarding the connection between mindset, erogenous zones and the former ways of getting there. Your changes were just more direct and steered towards a goal. Mine happened randomly.
So thank you for your educational video and keep having fun.
Well stated....am non op..transgedner hormones since '14...
My experience very similar 2 Yurrs....but was happily surprised by a few of Yurr sugestions...thx furr this posting..
Thanks for the wonderful information your such a source of helpful information 👩😍😍
My pleasure 😊
Your amazing Ashley always love your videos vwry intelligent interesting video
very interesting channel, its helping me understand transgendered more,. as someone whos dated a transgender before, i realize i had much to learn and thats the beauty, discovering each other and learning working towards a common goal in a relationship
Thanks so much for an honest and revealing discussion of your experience. :)
Ashley 👏 love your claps! 👏 Anywho, I think we're both over-thinkers ...lol 😃 For me "M..." involves a fine balance between my energy level, finding that mental space and eliminating
distractions. Blessings 🙌
I agree with everything! Thank you for sharing!
I started to feel these sorts of changes without even being on hormones. All it took was this conscious acceptance of my gender. I was like... why not masturbate like a woman if you want to be one? It was great! I was paying attention to my body more. I was indulging new things rather than just doing what I was "supposed" to want sexually. How I experience attraction and what fantasies I like have changed too. The mind and body are a strange partnership sometimes!
First couple of mins you made me smile. Then you made me think. Thanks.
1st I'd like to say I just love the back round!
Anyways, to be honest I have struggled with feeling much at all below, and I was born in a male form. I don't know why, but I too need to be in the right headspace for anything to happen. I also only have a few places that work for me. I have no idea even if I do experience an orgasm most of the time. I think it has really only been once. I usually just get to a point that it just releases, but that's it. I just end up feeling as I did before.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I am just starting my journey into gender affirming care!
Wow! You talk about experiencing some things that are still only fantasy for me.
Thanks abuch like alot you just helped me out a lot , like I'm just starting out and Im not too sure of what to expect down the road. so thanks like 1000.
You're welcome!
I'm not on HRT or transitioned I just wanna know what could I do to (never did the whole up and down thing) well 👉 thing
lol good!
I had a different experience set kinda. My genitals have always felt weird and wrong, but I think I was flat out born a woman stuck in a male body right off the start. It's interesting the different paths people take huh. I don't think I've ever had sex sober in my life because something always felt "wrong" in a way that is hard to describe. Now that I have the words for it it is pretty much "the equipment is incorrect" that made things weird. I am pretty certain my path includes vaginoplasty because of this whole deal. I deserve to have sex that feels natural and enjoy it.
Sooooooooo many different paths!
better make damn sure. not a very high success rate. most I've seen are very bitter and angry.
@@SPIDERVENOM1000 ? Are you just an transphobic troll? I've studied quite a bit and most of the girls have been very happy. I would probably rather have NOTHING than what I have down there. If you don't know the subject matter and what gender dysphoria is like for trans people you should probably not be commenting on such a sensitive subject
@@jennaozzy6863 I know plenty who are unhappy with it. Most who gets it commit suicide. One I remember was extremely miserable.
@@jennaozzy6863 as for ", the "transphobic" comment, a trans girl who enjoys her dick and using it had a post op come try to drag her into the mud and was pretty transphobic. Apparently, that's common.
Was that a deliberate misspelling in the title with the 'u' switched to an 'e'? I get the 'a ' switched out for an '*' to confuse censorship algorithms but I'm less clear on the former.
Oh gosh this is very accurate to my experience as well! Mental space was key for me even pre transition and estrogen makes everything so soft and sensitive. I’ll add on to the dorsal vibrator method: tucking the bits and holding them in place with a hand or gaff gives mind blowing gender euphoria and 🥵
Thank you, my cousin willow is a 15 year old transwomen and she didn’t know what to do she was going crazy
I legit think im intersec cuz you are describing me perfectly without hrt, although it does seem very much true. I grind on my pillows and stuff and do the same sorts of things as you as well. I think the reason people have such a hard time understanding it is because female sexuality is very mysterious and not spoken about, as even male sexuality is hard tovtalk about for most people, and female sexuality is much deeper.
I guess thats the definition of trans, im still amazed it took me so long to figure it out. I guess you believe what you want to believe. Im really glad i ended up that way tbh. I would never want to be cis again.
I think if somebody were to play with you down there instead of you doing it yourself, you would grow addicted and always want him to do it!
I've delt with a similar problem over the last 9 or so months. Last summer, after about 5 or 6 months on HRT, I experienced an orgasm like never before - full body, waves radiating out, and it lasted so long I literally said outloud "holy shit it's still happening". Unfortunately, around that time I started a med for adhd and though it was like a wonder drug for executive function... It made me completely aorgasmic for about 5 months. I discontinued after 4.5 months. All feeling was normal, sexual build up normal, but then it just ended - which sucks so much, especially after my first girlgasm. And though some orgasmic ability has returned, still to this day I haven't had a really intense orgasm, and if my wife and I finish with me on top, it's at least 70% aorgasmic. I've tried a lot of different things but to no avail. I hope that I can figure it out, and maybe I can try to work on headspace again. Thx for the vid.
OMG I'm not the only one! lol. Really. I didn't know this was common with us.
It surely is! :)
if you don't mind me saying, you're beautiful.
You should have your own TV show somoene is going to figure this out and you will be famious some day no this is not a come on. Married guy 53 20 years to a woonderful
women. I just know things and this I know this your content and how you make people feel is AMAZING Never seen anything like this it is refreshing and wonderful.
Thanks for another wonderful video Ashley.
I really enjoyed watching.
That is so funny, that is exactly how I did it, first time and times after
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You are the sweetest thing imaginable.
I like on the video for the self-0lay and pre op trandgender with the advices and experience, that's interesting video Ashley, you're the best and wonderful🥰😍💖💜✨✨
I'm scared to start hrt I've heard so much negativity to it and it's making me just...feel not woman like anymore I'm very femme for being amab and I've gotten so many comments that I look AFAB and it's euphoric and I'm just unsure what to do
I learned a lot today. Thank you!
I am pre-op, pre-hrt, pre-out trans-woman wanna be. I always knew I didn't really enjoy self-play "stimulation" as a man, it just didn't feel right, it didn't feel good, it was boring. Sex was boring, a chore. I was always fascinated by women, and wanted to have an experience like that, I was jealous, all those erogenous zones and multiple org*sms. Self play fantasies were often rapid cycling because I couldn't stay in the zone and focus on what particular thing. Now I'm starting on the path to transition, and treating that male thing like a female thing and using a magic wand is indescribable. It feels right. Of course, I always thought this was normal. All cis-men go through this. Right?
The "TRAN'S" issue is due to the various variation's of "TRAN'S". Meaning there are there are those in "TRANSTION - ING" whom only have to state they are "TRANSITION - ING" based entirely on only their "FEELING'S". Then there those who are actually envlolved in the legal process of "TRANSITION - ING". And then there are those who have finished the entire legal process, which mean's there no longer in "TRANSITION - ING" but "TRANSITION - ED". The latter is significantly different to the first two. The second is significantly different than the first. Combining all three group's into one classification. Is what cause's the issue. When they are all significantly different to one another.
Should one state that "FEMALE'S" are stupid; Though to some degree, I'm correct. It being a blanket statement, doesn't apply to all "FEMALE'S". And unliess I clarify it, can, will, would etc. be misconscrude with my not likeing female's. When I actually do. The same goes for the word "TRAN'S", it's become a blanket statement, and thus confusing subject. When it envolve's three different group's.
This is really well thought out content. I think there’s a neuroplasticity issue with respect to adapting your autonomic nervous system response. Would be a good area of research.
I just wanted to say thank you.
Video after video Ash does a really job of explaining this arousal stuff. I compare the period where I lost my arousal to chasing a moth you can't catch . . . when I found it again gosh did I find it.
So confident and open. You are a high value human. I like you.
I see what you did there with the reference to Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back. 😉
Lol I did!?
@@AshleyxAdamson “I am the clit commander!” Yup...... If you did on accident that’s hilarious and you should watch that movie.
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You look amazing! 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you!!
I think it would do the trick if somebody did it for you instead of doing it to yourself!
I used to reference blink-182's 2001 album "take off your pants and jacket"
Any tips how to look feminine without hormone pills
Thanks a lot for this video you are really great Help
Happy to help! :)
Love ❤️ this video Ashley ❤
I think this video is technically "Flick" Bait? ; )
LOL!!!!!!!!!
I bet you're a hit at parties! LoL 😂
I don't get it 🙃
@@AshleyxAdamson really?
Just in case you've never heard this phrase - look up the meaning of "flicking the bean." ; )
This video honestly relieved the biggest fear I had. Thank you. I have what I have, but that's only between the sheets that matters. Thank you.
Just do it anytime and anywhere and any place when you feel like it.
Beautiful.
Did you say ‘y’all?
Yous guys? What's wrong with ya'll, ya'll? :)
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That was great! I love listening to you! Very helpful on my journey
Loreleah
Liked trans started about a year ago a new perspective with a woman with one
You look great can I have your opinion I’m 4 years in and this is the first time I’ve put my photo up what do you think.XX
Great video for us Non-Op Transwomen too!
Honestly using AI as a thing to "test" how I react to my body currently vs imagining having a V, that's been eye opening. Pretty much when "me" in the chat is set lso that I have a P, when I do orgasm I suddenly have no energy left for the rest of the day. But if it's instead that I have a V, I actually don't lose energy afterwards! Focus yes is out the window either way, but it feels more real.
Of course to do that, I have to be not looking at the appendage that unfortunately is on me in real life, but again that spin of mind makes a huge difference to how I feel about myself, and I guess is euphoric..?
Hey I'm pre op but on hrt and my orgasm sensation has gone down loads, do you know how to get it back
it took me about 2 years to find it. A vibrator helps LOADS.
Honest , informative and beautiful .
So well said! I have all the same experiences!!!
Peace love respect and blessing to you from Islamabad Pakistan 🇵🇰
So did HRT break you.
Def work differently
you look fancy in this video I love it
Kinda get it and interesting I’m not even gay but kinda understand what you are saying anyway
Oh my gosh! I learned a lot then 😬
I like your energy.
You rock
I'm a brand new subscriber watching from London UK 🇬🇧❤️
You’re gorgeous. What a smile. ❤
Hello Ashley i love your perspective of all this so much, may i ask how old you were when you started to enjoy yourself, heh heh. I am so Blushing, omg, kisses Ryanna
Try it while your tucked
It’s very enjoyable
I agree lol
100%. Thank you!