The Unperturbable Man
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- Опубліковано 1 гру 2024
- The importance of becoming the unperturbable man who is always centered, masculine, indifferent & calm.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a twenty eight year old woman who is a self-described alpha female who is about to graduate and become a doctor of psychology. She met a guy recently who is a med student. Because she asked some high quality questions, she discovered some major red flags that he was abrasive, hurtful and emotionally abusive towards his ex who had cheated on him and was also a compulsive liar. She wonders if the conflict they have sometimes is because she is too masculine and not as submissive as she could be. The reality is that she is dating a man who is stuck living in the past, lacks emotional self control and is too easily perturbable. She asks my opinion.
“The unperturbable man is a man who is sure of himself, calm, indifferent to chaos and exercises emotional self control. Exercising emotional self-control when angry or upset is the definition of masculinity. Remaining calm under fire or pressure is the best state to be in because we make better and more efficient decisions when we are in a peaceful and relaxed state. The unperturbable man chooses to remain calm, centered and in control of himself because he experiences his emotions, but is not hijacked by them.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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Once you find your center, never let a woman knock you out of it.
Replace woman with anyone and we're in agreement
There he is! 😄
Anyone
@David Michaels doc should have let it go tbh. U ain't a man. Don't deserve to have a package.
@David Michaels That sucks, but it sounds like karma. Hope you learned something from that experience and will start treating others with the same respect you hope to receive.
“ Whatever you tolerate you invite more into your life”
Absolutely
This man should have 10mil subs. Finding Corey Wayne 5 or 6 years ago changed my life for the better. Thanks Corey!
If he had ten million subscribers, only fans would take a major hit, less subs and more alphas!!! I’m with it!
I feel the same. But I think its more about quality, not quantity with coach
We don't want this valuable information too mainstream! He makes enough money!
The road to success is narrow
Being thick skinned, stoic, and being able to process things objectively are some of the best traits that I have ever worked on since I followed Corey in 2017. Once you understand that emotions are feedback from the world built into us millions of years ago but that our brain has the ability to process these and understand them is what has allowed humans to break free from every other animal on earth. Most emotions stem from your ego trying to protect you from reality. Once you can let go then life becomes way easier.
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To ANYONE who can read this comment, you're AMAZING and I BELIEVE in you BROTHER!
Thank you!!
Thanks you too :)
I belive in you too BROTHER!!!!!
Back at you bro.
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"You shouldn't care more about other people than they care about themselves or you're gonna be frustrated because they're not going to match your expectations because they're not doing what you hope they would do in order to become what you want them to." So true!
I’m a simple man. I see new Corey Wayne videos I click like.
Why are people talking about their past relationships with a potential lover?! That is a common mistake, and men are guilty because they are sucked in by women to discuss their past with women from the moment they meet. Doc Love once said: " Keep it positive on the date, no heavy subjects!"
Jordan says, “but there’s an ‘i’ in ‘win’.”
I didn’t no “I” was so selfish lol kiddin
When we've had narcissistic parents and or partners... we tend to be attracted to worse and worse narcissists until it gets bad enough that we seek to learn why we're repeating such a downward spiral of a pattern. When you heal much of that deep trauma, then your eyes begin to open in such a way like never before. You start to see how standing up for yourself is worth it and just the beginning of living. It's a beautiful process. Understanding is everything.
Always interesting to see the emails from female listeners. Sometimes we might not understand/realize the impact of our actions on the people around us (eg being controlling & freaking out)
Corey, thank you for your work. You often talk about the *importance* of being unperturbable, but I would appreciate more specific advice about *how* to achieve that.
I follow a guy called HG Tudor. He has a great channel on YT all
About narcissism. How to recognise one etc etc. Love his narc tales, and seduction and ensnared story series - great for testing your new skills! For me, I can pick up on red flags that Coach Corey talks about, when following his teachings too.
I met a 40 year old woman last week. She's 7/10, but warm, fun personality. She said she got 2,800 likes on Tinder. Remember this when you're not having much luck with online dating.
I use to be a toxic shit bag I'm so glad I'm not any more lots of work and still working on my self everyday!
Great work as always Corey. A great book on the topic of Narcissistic recovery is "The Human Magnet Syndrome" by Ross Rossenberg.
Don't waste your time where you don't belong!
Excellent content, spot on analysis. Keep up the great work. 👍
10:15 hit the nail on the head! I can relate.
9:30 Becoming perturbable is not masculine. That’s a lack of masculinity and of emotional self-control.
10:00 People that go around accusing others all the time of cheating or potentially cheating is because the reality is they’re not a very loyal or faithful person. Big red flag. *As human beings, we all project what’s inside of us.*
11:24 It’s not the woman’s job to be a man’s mommy or psychologist. He’s supposed to be your teammate - your partner. She doesn’t want a man baby that she’s got to take care of.
I ve gone through your book 6 times now, I ve highlighted the most important parts. I watch your videos. Every time I think I m gonna do it, piece of cake. Then the reality comes, and I m as just bad as always. I wonder where I lost my confidence. Keep trying though 💪
Nobody’s going to mention “captain save-a-hoe” 😂😂😂…gold
Real men value themselves and value women. Alpha is not dominance over others, it’s self-dominance
Well said
Amazing content 🙏 thank you coach Corey wayne 💯🤜🤛
Coach, I am waiting for your new audiobook in the Audible India store. Could you please nudge them a little to release it soon here? Thanks so much for all your work and generosity, it truly helps us a lot! :)
one of your best clips
If he was going to school to be a nurse, instead of a surgeon, she would have dumped the guy already. Lol!
I asked a woman I was dating/ sleeping with if she would be interested if I had a lesser job. She was a CNA. Hated her job, had no anything. She wanted marriage. No way I saw how this was going. She gets a ring , I get the shaft.
you are great coach
I like that he uses an example of a weak man to show us what a strong man should be!
Road to 500k!! Let’s Go!!!
Looking great coach!
"It's no I in team but it is a me in that muthf%^$" - Kobe
thanks for not adding that irritating music
What you tolerate you invite into your life
You rock man!
This girl sounds great, wanting to do the work on herself, communicate, being healthy, but, why does she fall in love with this guy? Why does she feel she deserves him, and abusive, insecure manchild? Is she a fixer? Another form of control by the way, attract slightly broken partners, so the focus is on the other person.
She can, and will do better than this guy, time to focus on yourself, forget long distance relationships, they never work anyway.
@Cheyan Lin what you're saying doesn't make sense to me.
How can one be "attracted to a persons inner thoughts" ? And of course she's an emotional being, all women are. I stand by what I said earlier.
Thank you Corey! Looking fly as usual!!!
Fit Latina alpha female holy cow talk about a headache she’s be just listen to her
I was married to a Portuguese woman seemed like love of my life was very insecure abusive and had trust issues eventually had affair and destroyed our family ..
She always accused me of cheating and I never did that to her pay attention to signs
I found the title of this video from Lester Levenson. Great book- Happiness is Free.
Corey found his favorite word!
Haha be a turtle, turtle always gets there eventually. Fire video coach 🔥🔥🔥
Words of wisdom
From watching this video I've realised I'm one of those perturbable guys. I believe it is to do with my past although I'm not consciously focused on it. I've moved on pragmatically but not emotionally and unconsciously. And the only way I can do that is by acting out the opposite of my worst self.
I’m late in the comment thread but at least her overcoming this will help her be a better psychiatrist.
Hey Coach. Can you do some business videos or videos on how your knowledge on women relates to business?
The turtle is great he always gets there *commercial plays* eventually😂
Im a perturbable man from time to time. Mostly when i get disrespected, lied to, and my time wasted. I try to be unperturbable in those situations, but i just get the fuck it attitude and unleash. Ah well, something to work on.
That's the result of too much tomato sauce in your diet.
Too soon, he should not be having that much thoughts about ex. Also to quote Will Smith don’t make new one pay for the old one.
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5:40 If you’re going to date a very emotional woman like a Latina, you’ve got to have your shit together and be unperturbable.
7:00 Man dating woman who cheats on him for 10+ years, she’s submissive because she’s insecure. His self esteem is terrible. Unhealthy relationship.
Not only females are emotional, males too. Also South Europeans.
there is no I in team...could you pls make a video in which you give examples on what it means to be masculine in a relationship or recommend a book other than the 3% which I read dozen times at least.
What if the girl agrees to hang out, but directly says to you that "it is not a date" - is that still considered "hanging out"? Should a guy accept that meetup with the girl??
Words from The OG
I’m just curious. A lady and I had a fling a few months back and it didn’t work. She tried to get her ex back but failed. It was my fault it didn’t work. Anyways, she has no problems staring at me, smiling at me or looking scared at me while I talk to other women but she doesn’t want to talk to me. I can tell she regrets it. I could tell everyone and that would make a lot of people hate her but that’s a low quality act, which I won’t do. She “forgot” telling me one day she’ll love to call me her boyfriend. She even at a game tried to approach me but chickened out and third time it happened, she cried. What’s a good idea on my end? I’m not aiming to chase her or beg for her.
Classic game playing from a girl who has no self esteem. I personally wouldn't date someone like this but if you like her and she likes you then what is stopping you from just asking her out. It's easy walk up. Say "I figured I'd help you get over your approach anxiety since I can see you're struggling." Make fun of her a little but not serious or anything. Set a date. Hang out, have fun, and hook up.
I like walking without a shirt when I take my dog outside it's technically not illegal for men
I was walking outside just yesterday in only shorts when a woman with a dog passed me, and said, "I wish I could walk outside without a shirt on"! To which I replied, "don't let me stop you"!
This girl sounds like she has some issues of her own too. To be fair though, most of us do in one form or another.
The only reason she is putting in this much work into him is because he is probably a 9-10 in the looks department. Guys like that can get away with murder with certain woman. She would never if he was a average lookin dude.
This man has been a rock in the relationship advice community for years. It's such a shame now that we're seeing all these other guys crying about women and getting even more followers for promoting resentment and contempt. You see videos now calling women garbage etc. and it makes zero sense. Just a bunch if hurt men making an entire platform off open wounds. I commend Corey for staying consistent and always being that balanced, centered alpha male in the "red pill" community. Those women who used to criticise him years ago are probably looking at today's crowd of hyenas, realising Corey was the rational one.
Sure, lets pretend him becoming a Surgeon had nothing to do with her view of him
"Being complete", "not fixing them", while l agree there's a threshold, but one might argue one is never really "complete", in a way, life is finding your way and there are lots of bumps on the road.
Life ain't always a walk in the park for everyone as well, so what does that mean ? Most should stay single ? Perhaps. You can be incomplete withouy being broken yes ?
Is the will to get better and better enough or is it red flag ? I can understand having a drive but sometimes it comes off as a bit elitist. But then again the animal kindgom and breeding are elitist areas l suppose.
Feels great to be 3% doesn't it!!!!???
This chic is Corey’s type… I wonder if Coach made a move?
Imperturbable*
little typo there... almost certain it's "imperturbable" :P
Hit the road Jack!
And that's when Jack realized that he F****d up and belonged to the streets 😆
Captain save ah ho. 🤣🙌
I've been single for at least 15 years (long story) and I truly wonder if I have the mentality to be in a relationship.
First step is acceptance. Well done. What must you do next? You already know, trust me 😉
Fk it buckets do whatever you want bro 😎
Follow ya ❤️
Amazing bro
Cant meet them or see them where they are if they lie to you.
I never knew what that word meant but I myself am a unperturbable guy. At least with females.
Coach Cowey Wayne
Red flag painted blue. She sounds like shes been reading about women and men in mens channels, and like she is repeating slogans. I dont know man, my lizard sense would tickle with this "perfect" wise,healthy, fit, young, dr woman... cmon. . RED FLAG painted blue
Not sure you can assume the guy is a cheater, might just have very low self worth.
take it back guy sounds like an *rseh0le
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Captain Saveahoe :)
Unflappable 😎
Man baby =/ man jina
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Yay!!!! 🤗🤗🤗😂
Un per tu ba ble... gees man.
Alpha female and she juices lool ? Is she on steroids 🤣🤣 ( joke ) than again she’s latina so she doesn’t need a performance enhancing drug 😂💉 good job mister wayne i absolutely love your videos ! Have been whatching you since 2016
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