Being exposed to music content like this at such a young age (middle school) was so eye opening and amazing. Now in college and being able to see it again, in a new light and with new experience, is so nostalgic and moving. I’m so glad to be able to watch this and reminisce
kayno vang I totally agree with you! Being in college now and working in the domestic violence field makes me feel so naive back in middle school and high school. Hearing this song again after my exposure to the field of domestic violence is just 😭😭😭😭😭
Kathy Thao yes, I love that our peoples views are changing. Things like domestic violence and teen pregnancy and marriage are such societal norms within our culture, and thankfully we are seeing that it’s unhealthy and unsafe and can be toxic. The college amount of Hmong people who are starting to attend college makes me excited. Our community is growing so much and it’s exciting. Even though CSU Monterey Bay only have like 9 Hmong students! Hahah
I was in an abusive marriage when this song first came out. I left almost 10 years ago and accidentally stumbled upon this music video, not knowing that I knew the song. Listening to it made me cry but I am now with a loving man for the last 6 years. I hope this song raises awareness on domestic abuse and violence in our Hmong communities. I hope it gives abused women, and men, the courage to take control of their life.
Thanks for acknowledging the abused men out there. Men are abused as much if not more but never report nor talk about it because is not a manly thing to do. Good luck with your new life.
number1Guru dogg You need better reading comprehension skills. Where did I say ALL Hmong men are abusive? I’m not sure why your ego is hurt by me sharing my experience and having the audacity to call my experience bs. It seems like you have personal issues or you need to improve your reading comprehension.
Sometimes a song is created at the right time of your life as if it was created about you, for you, because of you. This was one of them. At a time when divorce was frowned upon, I was told to “ua siab ntev.” Something alot of us Hmong women have heard 1 too many times. I finally found the courage to stand my ground and never looked back. Who knows where I’ll be right now had I not get up and left that day.
If I were you ×6 You When you were girfriend and boyfriend, he said he will love you forever, he will not let the rain wet you He marries you to be his wife, He will love you and stand by your side By your side Two years go by Mm no You have two kids He doesn't stay with you, he goes out, leaving you waiting at night Waiting at night He hits you He kicks you He disrespect you, spits in your face, He kicks you out kicks you out If I were you, you I wont stay, stay If I were you, you I wont stay, I wont stay I want to run, but Im afraid of what people say (they say), they will say its because of me (because of me) thats why my life is this way I want to run, but I have childrens, they will have no one as their father, why is this life so depressing Friend Im telling you It's not as easy as you say There are many eyes that see, but they dont even want to help They dont even want to help
To all the women out there, you are not alone you have every right to leave an abuse relationship. You do not need the elders approve all you have to do is to tell them you going divorce their son period. This is the tell the Hmong community we as women are educate and not afraid.
I was 12… my sister was 13.. when we heard this song and promised to never end up like this… tell me why my sister lost her life to a domestic violence relationship in 2019 leaving me her 5 young babies… gosh if I knew, I’d turn back and ripped her from his arms… 🥺😢
You’re so strong for taking care of her babies. I hope you are maintaining your wellness in all aspects, physical, mental, emotional, financial, and spiritual. Sending lots of love your way.
I was 7 when I first heard this song. At that age, I watched my brother beat my sister in law, my Dad hurt my mother. This song hits me hard every time I hear it. They are all no longer together and it’s better that way. Thanks for making such a powerful and beautiful song JJen!
This song brings such a sense of nostalgia but it also reminds me so much of how our culture MUST proceed. We, as women, can no longer “ua siab ntev.” Women and men are created equal. We have every right to deserve and find our own happiness. May this song teach future generations, especially the future women of our culture, that we deserve everything we want and aspire to.
I listened to this song when I was abused and going through rough times trying to heal slowly. All the lyrics you sang was my life. Thank you for this song.
The sadness and pain every girl in an abusive relationship goes thru shouldn’t have to feel this way. Props to the strong ones that got themselves out of it.
Like some of the. women who've commented, I was also in an abusive marriage when this song first came out. The first time I heard this song, it hit me so hard that I could not contain my tears and sorrow because every word of the lyrics matched my life and situation. Like the girl the original song was dedicated to, I was also forced into a marriage at the age of 13 and also had 2 children. I was in the marriage for 7 years until I gathered enough courage to leave. It's been 13 years since I left and I am no remarried to a man who I never imagined could love me so much, after all I have been through. Thank you for such a powerful song, Jjenn.
It takes immense courage to walk away and start anew. Thank you for sharing your story and reaffirming for people that authentic love is out there for each of us.
domestic violence is a serious issue in our community. often individuals who are abused do not know what to do, where to get help or blame themself for their situation. domestic violence is something we shouldn't deny anymore. thank you JJen for your voice.
I have always loved this song because it was so deep and unfiltered. I appreciate this song because it brought awareness of DV in the Hmong community. I do recall this song was dedicated to someone and I hope that individual is in a safer place today. Much love!
Thank you for your support. Feels great to be back, and it feels even better to feel the positivity from everyone. You guys, honestly, keep us moving forward ❤
Jjenn Music this song was really popular back then and to hear it again is truly amazing and makes many of us miss our childhood plus for it to be back the younger kids now can listen to what we use to listen to. I hope to see more in the future. Good luck ☺
Love the message. We need more awareness about issues such as domestic abuse in our Hmong community, it is so amazing you are using your platform to make this visible. I cannot wait to see more of your work and support you Jjenn!
This is so true because not many people understand what marriage women are going through. People make it sound easy but it actually hard because you don’t wanna leave the kids without a dad and you don’t want people to talk bad about you and your family. Pride is the most important thing in a Hmong Family. Not many of you will agree and that fine.
Thanks for releasing this. I bought your album but I lost it over the years. Your album is a piece of art and hits the soul now a part of hmong history. Not just an album but a story. I hope you come out with another album in the future that would be awesome.
Whoever directed this did one hell of a great job!! Song is good just feel the singers are sluring some words together, but I love the message. It's so powerful.
I love jjen and no love in middle school. But this new one remaKe definitely made tears came out. Life isnt easy when you feel obligated to stay for so many reasons.
Lol I was listening to music at 12:15 am and all suddenly everything went silent and I heard this little voice saying ,” mommy” scared the heck out of me !! Lol
I seriously have been waiting forever for Jjenn's second album!. Even if it doesn't happen, I'm still glad you re sharing your previous works! Thank you for sharing this song in support to domestic violence awareness month.
😍 I haven’t heard this song ever since my childhood!! Now listening to it and listening to the lyrics makes me cry because I can relate to this song sometime😢❤️❤️ thanks for sharing again😊
I feel this song. I am not currently in a domestic violence relationship but this music video portrays for Hmong women today that is going through all pain alone that their husband cause them. I hope I won't go through it in life . Thanks for this video
I'm glad I was strong to move on from an abusive ex. It was hard being in the Hmong community it was taboo to be divorced but I gave the idgaf attitude and survived. Be a real woman and leave an abusive relationship when you see signs. Don't let your grave be the last thing you see from heaven be that sign. God bless!
CHILI is FISHING this versions way better..Original one was real cringe especially with no love rapping and talking lol and in this version jenns voice sounds way better and alot smoother.....
Wow!! every word resonates. Sadly, we either know one or heard about an abused victim(s). I don't typically jump onto UA-cam to leave comments, but the message in this song and the music video deserves recognition. Thank you for not going in the direction of the obvious (showcasing a battered woman), this video speaks volume. I look forward to all your future work. Great Job, Jjenn.
I listened to this song my teenage years because of the beat and not knowing anything about the lyrics. Now, I'm in my late 30s, I'm more experienced in life. The beat is gone but they lyrics remains as I've learned to understand it.
Ahhhhhh! I remember being at the Fresno New Year back in 2005 and hearing you perform this on the stage and thought to myself.... Who is this? I need to get their CD! Nice update to a classic!
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Being exposed to music content like this at such a young age (middle school) was so eye opening and amazing. Now in college and being able to see it again, in a new light and with new experience, is so nostalgic and moving. I’m so glad to be able to watch this and reminisce
kayno vang thanks! So humbled to hear that our music can reconnect with you and our first listeners from way back when. Stay blessed.
kayno vang I totally agree with you! Being in college now and working in the domestic violence field makes me feel so naive back in middle school and high school. Hearing this song again after my exposure to the field of domestic violence is just 😭😭😭😭😭
Kathy Thao yes, I love that our peoples views are changing. Things like domestic violence and teen pregnancy and marriage are such societal norms within our culture, and thankfully we are seeing that it’s unhealthy and unsafe and can be toxic. The college amount of Hmong people who are starting to attend college makes me excited. Our community is growing so much and it’s exciting. Even though CSU Monterey Bay only have like 9 Hmong students! Hahah
I was in an abusive marriage when this song first came out. I left almost 10 years ago and accidentally stumbled upon this music video, not knowing that I knew the song. Listening to it made me cry but I am now with a loving man for the last 6 years. I hope this song raises awareness on domestic abuse and violence in our Hmong communities. I hope it gives abused women, and men, the courage to take control of their life.
Gao Shin if you haven’t check out their new video please check it out. ua-cam.com/video/tuvpbWxx1F0/v-deo.html
Thanks for acknowledging the abused men out there. Men are abused as much if not more but never report nor talk about it because is not a manly thing to do. Good luck with your new life.
Just bc you were abused it doesn't mean all Hmong men are that way. Thanks for the bs tho
number1Guru dogg You need better reading comprehension skills. Where did I say ALL Hmong men are abusive? I’m not sure why your ego is hurt by me sharing my experience and having the audacity to call my experience bs. It seems like you have personal issues or you need to improve your reading comprehension.
I wish I can be strong like u I’ve been in an abused marriage for almost thirty years and having a hard time...I’m glade ur happy now
I like how she looks so natural, no make up, nothing extra. She is beautiful just the way she is.
NeverLetGo gbVF ikr man shes fine
True
It signify a woman who has nothing but just a piece of simple clothe on her...running away from fear, from a life that she can no longer bear.
Intro
Yog kuv yog koj (×6)
Thaum nws yuav koj los nrog
Nws tias yuav hlub mus tas ib txhim
Nws yuav tsis pub ntuj nag ntub koj
Nws tias yog nws yuav tau
koj los ua nws tus poj niam
Nws yuav hlub koj tiag
Sawv ntawm koj ib sab
Ntawm koj ib sab
Ob xyoo dhau los
Koj yug tau ob tug menyuam
Nws twb tsis nrog koj nyob tu hlob
niaj hnub mus uasi es
Tseg koj nyob hmo ntuj tos
Hmo ntuj tos
Nws muab koj ntaus
Nws muab koj ncaws
Nws saib tsis tau
nws nti qhov ncaug rau koj ntsej muag
Nws ntiab koj tawm
Ntiab koj tawm
Chorus
Yog kuv yog koj
Kuv yuav tsis nyob (×2)
Kuv xav khiav los kuv ntshai
tsam zej zos lawm hais
Luag yuav hais tias yog vim kuv xwb
Kuv lub neej thiaj li zoo li no
Kuv xav tig tam sis lig
kuv twb muaj menyuam
Nkawv yuav tsis muaj
leej twg ua nkawv txiv
Cas lub neej no txom nyem ua luaj
Phooj ywg kuv qhia rau koj
Tsis yooj yim li koj hais
Muaj ntau lub kua muag poob
Los luag twb tsis xav pab
Laug twb tsis xav pab
Sometimes a song is created at the right time of your life as if it was created about you, for you, because of you. This was one of them. At a time when divorce was frowned upon, I was told to “ua siab ntev.” Something alot of us Hmong women have heard 1 too many times. I finally found the courage to stand my ground and never looked back. Who knows where I’ll be right now had I not get up and left that day.
If I were you ×6
You
When you were girfriend and boyfriend, he said he will love you forever, he will not let the rain wet you
He marries you to be his wife, He will love you and stand by your side
By your side
Two years go by
Mm no
You have two kids
He doesn't stay with you, he goes out, leaving you waiting at night
Waiting at night
He hits you
He kicks you
He disrespect you, spits in your face, He kicks you out
kicks you out
If I were you, you
I wont stay, stay
If I were you, you
I wont stay, I wont stay
I want to run, but Im afraid of what people say (they say), they will say its because of me (because of me) thats why my life is this way
I want to run, but I have childrens, they will have no one as their father, why is this life so depressing
Friend Im telling you
It's not as easy as you say
There are many eyes that see, but they dont even want to help
They dont even want to help
To all the women out there, you are not alone you have every right to leave an abuse relationship. You do not need the elders approve all you have to do is to tell them you going divorce their son period. This is the tell the Hmong community we as women are educate and not afraid.
Music video for "qhib koj lub qhov muag" & "maj mam" too please?!?!
^^^^
I was 12… my sister was 13.. when we heard this song and promised to never end up like this… tell me why my sister lost her life to a domestic violence relationship in 2019 leaving me her 5 young babies… gosh if I knew, I’d turn back and ripped her from his arms… 🥺😢
You’re so strong for taking care of her babies. I hope you are maintaining your wellness in all aspects, physical, mental, emotional, financial, and spiritual. Sending lots of love your way.
I think I know you. Or your big sis. ❤❤❤ I’m so sorry for your loss, but those babies have such a great auntie/mom to take care of them.
Plz who are you!!!! Ill support you. I don't have much. But coming from a huge family i wanna help
❤️❤️🧡🧡💔much love…
Only one will know of a sibling’s love…
Pls reach out if there’s anything we can do🙏🏼
😢
I was 7 when I first heard this song. At that age, I watched my brother beat my sister in law, my Dad hurt my mother. This song hits me hard every time I hear it. They are all no longer together and it’s better that way. Thanks for making such a powerful and beautiful song JJen!
Hugs to all those feeling trapped..... it's not easy, not black and white. Take care.
This song brings such a sense of nostalgia but it also reminds me so much of how our culture MUST proceed. We, as women, can no longer “ua siab ntev.” Women and men are created equal. We have every right to deserve and find our own happiness. May this song teach future generations, especially the future women of our culture, that we deserve everything we want and aspire to.
I agreed!!! I love what Jjenn stands for. They’re so different from other artist. They just released a new mv. It’s definitely on repeat.
Ended up here after YAYA announced she was going to be on the lineup, gawd this brings back so many memories
I listened to this song when I was abused and going through rough times trying to heal slowly. All the lyrics you sang was my life. Thank you for this song.
The sadness and pain every girl in an abusive relationship goes thru shouldn’t have to feel this way. Props to the strong ones that got themselves out of it.
Like some of the. women who've commented, I was also in an abusive marriage when this song first came out. The first time I heard this song, it hit me so hard that I could not contain my tears and sorrow because every word of the lyrics matched my life and situation. Like the girl the original song was dedicated to, I was also forced into a marriage at the age of 13 and also had 2 children. I was in the marriage for 7 years until I gathered enough courage to leave. It's been 13 years since I left and I am no remarried to a man who I never imagined could love me so much, after all I have been through. Thank you for such a powerful song, Jjenn.
It takes immense courage to walk away and start anew. Thank you for sharing your story and reaffirming for people that authentic love is out there for each of us.
domestic violence is a serious issue in our community. often individuals who are abused do not know what to do, where to get help or blame themself for their situation. domestic violence is something we shouldn't deny anymore. thank you JJen for your voice.
This brings back the vibes from your old music that I would jam out to. I loved the oldies.
I have always loved this song because it was so deep and unfiltered. I appreciate this song because it brought awareness of DV in the Hmong community. I do recall this song was dedicated to someone and I hope that individual is in a safer place today. Much love!
1st time I heard this song I cried n it made me stronger I finally stood my ground
Dao Xiong more power to you. We know it's not easy. Sending you our love and many blessings ❤❤❤
First one to comment. Lets go!!!! Thats my sister!!!
Liader Yang bro I was about to say. Aint that Maria
Tell her I said "what it do".
We can be brothers in law.
Omg. My heart this brings back so much memories. This song is still good. Glad you're back!!!!!
Thank you for your support. Feels great to be back, and it feels even better to feel the positivity from everyone. You guys, honestly, keep us moving forward ❤
Jjenn Music this song was really popular back then and to hear it again is truly amazing and makes many of us miss our childhood plus for it to be back the younger kids now can listen to what we use to listen to. I hope to see more in the future. Good luck ☺
Chaialoves
Holy shit I got chills. Subscribing. Jjen got me in tears once again. Actress did a god damn good job, powerful mv and perfect vocals.
Love the message. We need more awareness about issues such as domestic abuse in our Hmong community, it is so amazing you are using your platform to make this visible. I cannot wait to see more of your work and support you Jjenn!
This is so true because not many people understand what marriage women are going through. People make it sound easy but it actually hard because you don’t wanna leave the kids without a dad and you don’t want people to talk bad about you and your family. Pride is the most important thing in a Hmong Family. Not many of you will agree and that fine.
Goosebumps everytime! There is no one like you guys!
Thanks for releasing this. I bought your album but I lost it over the years. Your album is a piece of art and hits the soul now a part of hmong history. Not just an album but a story. I hope you come out with another album in the future that would be awesome.
This is a great step forward in our Hmong community. Thank you for this video.
Whoever directed this did one hell of a great job!! Song is good just feel the singers are sluring some words together, but I love the message. It's so powerful.
Great song, good actress!!! ❤
I love jjen and no love in middle school. But this new one remaKe definitely made tears came out. Life isnt easy when you feel obligated to stay for so many reasons.
Lol I was listening to music at 12:15 am and all suddenly everything went silent and I heard this little voice saying ,” mommy” scared the heck out of me !! Lol
This song and actress and music video is so good!
I seriously have been waiting forever for Jjenn's second album!. Even if it doesn't happen, I'm still glad you re sharing your previous works! Thank you for sharing this song in support to domestic violence awareness month.
Thank you Lia Lo for your continued support! We just checked out your channel and love your voice! Keep it up!
Jjenn Music 🙀I can't believe you stopped by! Thank you for the compliment and the encouragement!☺️☺️☺️
😍 I haven’t heard this song ever since my childhood!! Now listening to it and listening to the lyrics makes me cry because I can relate to this song sometime😢❤️❤️ thanks for sharing again😊
I feel this song. I am not currently in a domestic violence relationship but this music video portrays for Hmong women today that is going through all pain alone that their husband cause them. I hope I won't go through it in life . Thanks for this video
Very heartfelt song, words from the heart.. music from the heart..keep up the great work..❤
I’m happy y’all are back!
Music with an actual purpose? DAYUMMMMNNNNNNNN SON!
Always love this song
Wow the video along with the new rendition of the song are so amazing! It's on repeat for me!
I'm glad I was strong to move on from an abusive ex. It was hard being in the Hmong community it was taboo to be divorced but I gave the idgaf attitude and survived. Be a real woman and leave an abusive relationship when you see signs. Don't let your grave be the last thing you see from heaven be that sign. God bless!
Theresan Vong sister I am with you. No longer can hold on to the idea of being a good daughter and ua siab ntev uv.
🔥🔥🔥😍 bring it back
Thanks for bringing it back. Love it! ❤❤
Beautiful video and beautiful message. Watching it brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for bringing this song back.
This is amazing. The video is simple and pure but it carries a powerful message.
Always love you 2 sisters voice..im a close friend of your brother Doua..
Such a powerful message and representation with music. Amazing work and time putting this video together, go JJENN and her team.
Love this song as it brings so much memories!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Jjenn
RIP to our two sisters who lost their lives this past weekend to domestic abuse 💔
Love jjen till death even if imma guys. Grew up listen to these two ladies.
Love this music video! Beautifully done!
Everything was BEAUTIFULLY done. The editing, song/lyrics, and message.
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥...................@2:19 I thought NOLOVE was going to jump in 😎
CHILI-OUTDOORS ikr kill it
CHILI is FISHING this versions way better..Original one was real cringe especially with no love rapping and talking lol and in this version jenns voice sounds way better and alot smoother.....
CHILI is FISHING no love should do a remix
Wow!! every word resonates. Sadly, we either know one or heard about an abused victim(s). I don't typically jump onto UA-cam to leave comments, but the message in this song and the music video deserves recognition. Thank you for not going in the direction of the obvious (showcasing a battered woman), this video speaks volume. I look forward to all your future work. Great Job, Jjenn.
sua Thao they have a new music video!!!! So excited!!!
Thank you for coming back !!!!
Omg, so good. Love everything, even made me cry. Super great job! One of my favorite hmong music video!
I'm so glad you girls are back. Your music seriously helped me got through so much shit back in the days. I'm looking forward to your future releases!
I'm so glad you're back! This song is so deep it hurts.
Your voice is amazing! keep it up!
Wow!!!!! Love it!!! This song brings back so much memories! Thank you Jjen for your wonderful music! ♡
Made me cry. The music video portrayed the song beautifully.
I listened to this song my teenage years because of the beat and not knowing anything about the lyrics. Now, I'm in my late 30s, I'm more experienced in life. The beat is gone but they lyrics remains as I've learned to understand it.
Jjenn you the best. You need to keep writing song like this
Awesome music video. Awesome acting.
Beautiful and captivating
Love you JJEN. You definitely impacted my childhood !
hmong people are so pretty
❤️❤️❤️ i love you jjenn! Biggest fan here!!
We love you, too!
Awesome job maria!!! This video was touching guys great job
Sony your Favorite!
Love this song. Miss Jjenn! Please come out with a new album 🙏
Jjen please comeback
Looking forward for new upcoming song
#1 Fan here
Bring me so much memories
Will be on repeat!!!❤️
Ahhhhhh! I remember being at the Fresno New Year back in 2005 and hearing you perform this on the stage and thought to myself.... Who is this? I need to get their CD! Nice update to a classic!
Loved all your meaningful songs!!!
Wonderfully done!!! Love it!!!
JJEN I’m so glad u r coming back...bring it on girl we’ve been waiting.
Very well made video interpreting the song and its emotions.
Yessssss!!! Go Jjenn!!
definitely brings back memories from my childhood. love it. pls never stop! love JJen
Love this song so much!!! 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
itstheena yog kuv yog koj
how long has it been? 10 years or 15 years and my niece use to be singing this back then?
Love it.. Been listening this song..
A Hmong classic remastered. Love this song.
Always a tight ass song, brings back memories!
Listen to this song when a teen, almost 30. Still listening to it!
It's great to hear her work again...👏
I love this! And I have no idea how I got here anyways. I'm going to subscribe.
I never watched to the end before. When I heard the child calling her my heart dropped. ❤️ we try to stay strong for our children
Please continue to sing !!!
I love this!
Thanks so much for doing this to help our Hmong Women 😭😭
Y'all Rock..keep it up..much love peace out
Love the remake! You should remake all your old songs!! Would totally be a hit!!!
The subscribers jumped!!
Finally!!!!!! YAHHHH 😍😍😍😍
Where have you been? Loved your music since forever, so touching and unique
Finally a video, been waiting eversince i was 8. Now im 22.
what a great vid for a cause! I saw every emotion she was going thru fr her facial expression n gestures! so heartfelt.
Thank u for making me feel old. 😩
luv u after all these years haha you finally did it
Mr. Her they have a new music video!!! So excited!