My favourite line to bullies was always "And you're irrelevant to my life, what's your point?" and just walk off It was so funny because I really didn't care about what they said
Something like that happened to me last year! A girl in my class tried making fun of me because I laughed at a funny part in the book I was reading. I just said "Your life must be very boring if you find THIS worth mentioning." She hasn't talked to me since then :D
+Will Jenks Yes, staying calm and saying something too intelligent for their tiny brains to comprehend is always good. It makes you feel good as well when you 'win'.
I'm a boy, and I love drama. I chose it as one of my classes this year, and most other people in my class are people who only took it because they thought it would be an easy lesson. I put my heart in what I do, and these people destroy my confidence when ever I preform because quite frankly, I'm the only who tries and it amuses them. And this video really helped Emma, thank you very much for this ♡
I'm a guy who loves performing too so I may understand what you're going through. We have to support eachother, haha :) Have a great day. And again, don't let them bring you down.
I know how you feel! I didn't have the option of drama at school but there were many things I adored such as English and Irish but no one else was bothered and they would talk and mess and prevent me from learning and the teacher from teaching, now I'm in college studying the preforming arts and oh sweet jesus it is amazing! I love it! The teachers are downright amazing, we know them on a first name basis which adds to the feeling of being treated like an adult, the stuff we learn is very interesting and useful, whenever we've 'preformed' and danced it's been tough but so so much fun. Everyone there has their heart in this and are so so nice. At secondary school hardly anyone liked me, now at college I feel so liked, I'm not afraid to get involved, I made a funny comment to one guy today and he said 'I like this one' and that sky rocketed my confidence. Both the year 1s (my year) and the year 2s are hysterical but also lovely, genuine people. It gets better I promise! Good luck!
Here is just another tip: If you feel like something is "wrong" with you, like with your health or you have any kind of mental problem such as depression, PLEASE do visit a doctor or a therapist. Even if it you just have a slight worry that you might not be doing 100% okay. They are there to help you. I have known so many people who have had issues their whole life mentally or with their health and who struggled a lot with school and never knew what was wrong with them before being diagnosed by a doctor or getting help by a therapist.
The shrug "ok." Thing is so funny to use, I use it all the time. It basically is the equivalent of saying "whatever, I don't give two shits about what you're saying"
ok now i know why im watching, my brother recently started secondary school and its so weird being able to give him advice and be able to show him that the things he is upset about won't really matter in the long run (not that his feelings at the time are valid tho). like when he was still in primary school a couple of months ago, his school went on a trip to alton towers and when he came out of one of the toilets no one was there waiting for him (which the teachers were meant to do - do the counting heads thing lol). he had to find a member of staff because they weren't allowed their phones with them and the teacher (who was also my teacher when i was in his year and this same teacher used to pick on me all the time) ridiculed him and made him feel mortified in front of the WHOLE class. isnt that basically every kids worst nightmare? when he got home he was so upset and was crying and didnt want to go back to school or anything. i had to remind him that the teachers are their to look after them, they are children and the teacher's are the adult supervision. it was not his fault. a teacher should not feel pleasure by ripping the piss out of their students. teacher should not feel like they are allowed to make fun of their students just because they have authority over them(ESPECIALLY PRIMARY SCHOOL TEACHERS WHO ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR LITERAL CHILDREN). stuff like this makes me sad that i can't still be in secondary school with him.
+leah lo my sister is 10 years younger than me so when she's 14 or so ill be 24 and I'll be old enough to give her loads of advice to help her through school
Ah I relate to this. I was always a kind of odd, quiet kid. I had few friends (one close friend) as I tended to keep conversations quite shallow. No one seemed to share the enthusiasm for the things that I did, so I kept quiet about it. Now, perhaps it was because I had my nose in books for a lot of the time, but apparently I was bullied. I had one girl tell me that another one from my homeroom was calling me a lesbian because I looked at her (weirdly apparently) in class (I had glanced back as she had previously told me that a boy she knew thought I was pretty). Though I didn't do anything about it. I didn't care much about it really. I did bore them, and they faded away.
I'm doing my homework right now with this in the background, the thing about bullies struck such a chord and it's so lovely to here what you said from someone who aren't my parents. And with my coursework? I was given contorlled assessment research today that's not due in until Friday and I decided not to do it but seeing this encourages me to actually put some work in! Thank you Emma :)
since I have very light eyebrows people used to tease me simply by going "lol you have no eyebrows" which... wasn't even an insult, it was just the truth..? anyway, one day this kid came up to me and at that point I was _so_ over it, I simply couldn't be bothered anymore. So when he said "you have no eyebrows" I gave him that exact look 12:32 and said "well you have no brain, thank you for the conversation" (that's not even a good response??) and he was SPEECHLESS. I don't remember him teasing me ever again after that
Went into year 10 this year. I gave up on trying to make friends in year 8 and because of that I gained my 2 best friends and they are the best friends I've ever had
That gossiping part oh my Goodness, I really needed that, Emma! I'm in secondary school right now and I have a reputation among my friends of being the "overly sensitive, nonjudgemental" one and they tease me about it (Playfully! They ain't bullies) and it was funny at first but they've really made me question whether I should just suck it up and start talking about people as I please. But this is just a sign for me to absolutely not do it and not be ashamed of it either. So next time they tease me about it, I can just tell them to piss of
I really love this video because quite often people get speeches like this given at school but because it's at school or someone you don't like or don't relate to, no one listens. But here I feel like you can help a lot of people and we respect what's being said. Thank you
I would also like to add that you should find at least one teacher that you like, be the teacher's pet and go to them when you have problems. I had an amazing german teacher that I eventually aided in her class, I got so much stupid crap settled because I was nice and friendly to her. my 1st year of german I was getting bullied a ton, I eventually told her what was going on, told her if she didn't do anything I would hurt the kid (in a nice way) and the kid got kicked out of her class for like two weeks. Never talked to me again. He was in my 2nd year german class with a different teacher, day one of school starting, went to my 1st year teacher and told her about it, instantly got switched to one of her german 2 classes, went on to german 3 the next year, then aided for her, I wasn't doing homework in one of my throwaway senior classes, the teacher got mad about it, and told my german teacher, didn't hear a word about it after.
Kids these days (bam i'm 50 year old) really need this kind of video. We're pretty much the same in the end, all going through the same school related problems and so on. Teens need to know that there not alone and "unique". Some of us went through that before and we survived and it made us even stronger. Work hard and don't let anything or anyone bring you down people ;)
I know this may sound exaggerated but the bullying thing you said when you said it's not your fault you saved my life I was so upset I wanted to die but now I'm going to keep trying
I knew a bully in my design class at school, she tried to make my life a living hell and threatened to hurt me and such, then we got to college and she was in my Psych class and for a week were going to get paired up with someone else, all I could think was 'please don't pair me with her literally anyone but her', of course, the fates dealt me their hand, and the hand came in the form of the bully from design being paired up with me. We sat down together and she was the nicest person you could ever meet? We didn't ever really become friends but she told me she was glad she was paired up with me. Sometimes people can do a complete 180 and I'm glad I was lucky enough to 'confront' my school bully I guess and solve things.
something i learnt from being in college at 19/20 - learn to value the fact that you can and will enjoy your own company. i used most of my free lessons doing work in the library because i fell behind, and at first i was upset because i thought i was missing out in a friendship group but i realised that it felt so much better to have work out of the way, and just chilling out with your headphones on and some good music whilst working was better than just sitting in a corridor with some people you'll never talk to after you leave. other people's company doesn't measure your worth, you are lovely and interesting and fun to hang out with but you don't need them to prove that.
I know that this video came out a long time ago, but I'm getting bullied right now, and I took some of this advice, and it really helps, genuinely. Thanks emma
I've been a pretty lonely kid my entire life and I definitely related to how tv would show these friends being so good to e/o and in reality that didn't happen much I was never picked on seriously (if I was, it didn't affect me much) but I'd feel very alienated from my own friends and how they just seemed to forget I existed or call me too sensitive and even point things that were "wrong" w my face and I doubt they ever did any of it maliciously, but it can really feel that way sometimes
+Jacovich Stabs true story i was doing english coursework and we were talking about the different versions of romeo and juliet films and i got so confused their was a point i had a argument with my teacher that i clamed shakespear didnt write it
I've always said teachers don't get paid nearly enough to be in school with kids/teenagers for the rest of their life unless they truly enjoy it. Of course if you were in high school 30 extra years you'd have bad days and get tired of people's crap as well. Try to understand that teachers have to deal with hundreds of teenagers every day, and you would be just as grumpy in their shoes. They do really appreciate a good student taking actual interest in learning. Not all teachers are going to be your friend, but you'll find a few that end up being some of the most helpful and supportive friends you'll have through school.
As a fellow old lady (even older than Emma :O) I can only agree with every single point in this video. But I want to add that you shouldn't beat yourself up if you don't succeed in following this advice to a tee. I gossiped, I let my bullies see me cry every week, I did my homework waiting for class and, even though I really wish I didn't do any of that, I am still a happy and pretty successful (whatever that means) adult today. It will sort itself out in the end.
As a current year 11 I had already given up on by exams in year 10, but somehow I had got into doing 3 of my 6 science GSCE exams early (end of year 10). At this time I thought, oh well its a couple of exams who cares. I got my results back at the start of this year...2 d's and a C, now in any case I would have been happy with this but I wanted to do Biology for A level and now I can't. Just wanted to share this in case anyone was thinking the same thing I did and I wish I would have revised and cared more. (yes I can retake this but I don't think I will).
So many good pieces of advice here! One thing I wish I'd realised sooner was not to be afraid to ask teachers for help when you don't really understand something, especially with GCSEs and A Levels. Teachers are there because they want to help you do well and so most of the time they will be happy to sit with you after school to explain it again to you which is so so much better than falling behind, plus being called a teacher's pet or whatever because of it is definitely not a bad thing when you're taking responsibility for your learning :)
I'd bet money more people like you than you think, or maybe even more than you'd like to believe. Either way that person who makes you realize that will come along
I love this. I know I'm not experiencing this at the moment because I do try to avoid these (and I'm doing it quite well). I remember vaguely experiencing this when I was little only. School would bring this foreign thing called being a bully. Sure, I have seen it, but I didn't really care about it. These things about bulling verbally, physically, digitally, (and another one I'm forgetting) are very eye opening. They tell the psychological roots about how people can be mean when we could actually be good-nature people who help each other. I love knowing the aftermath and wisdom you have gained from it. Thank you for sharing.
I wish someone had sat me down and had this conversation with me when I was younger. I didn't even get picked on that much but whenever people chose to do that to me I always let it get to me and I made it very clear that I was upset in that moment, and because I was chastised by my peers for it I never had the courage or self confidence to go to someone who actually cared about me and express those same feelings in a healthier environment. Emma, your advice in this video is on point.
I had the whole "hoping people liked me" thing. I wasn't popular but I didn't think I was an outcast but then maybe I was. I changed throughout school and for the best. You're totally right that not everyone will like you but I was always so wrapped up in what people thought of me. I'm now in Uni, final year, but I wish I'd had the strong support network that UA-cam offers kids now when I was younger. Good video :)
Apparently I was bullied before, some guy once texted me "No wonder you get bullied" and I was like, wtf I get bullied? It was actually quite funny for me, but it was annoying that he was a dick and yet lots of nice people didn't know he was a dick.
Thank you, Emma, for this video. I just watched it today and I have just finished my first semester of college in the US. A lot of people I had to be around constantly did not enjoy me. It felt horrible but listening to you talking about it, it really made me feel better. I plan to enter next semester with this mindset and I can already feel it will be better. Thank you very much. :)
Danner - they mean. Well. The pencils would be the person’s reaction when they are bullied. The bully drawing would be them HOPING for that reaction, imagining it, envisioning it - they WANT to draw. But if they’re not given pencils (the reaction), they cannot draw (have a fight).
This reminds me of the video about back to school from boxes and foxes you posted last year, truly when you deleted boxes of foxes I was mainly sad because I was going to lose that video, I'm so happy to see a new calmed video talking about school, and giving good advice without sounding auntie. I needed this, I start school tomorrow. You were very sweet and helpful
I really liked the advice you gave on bullies and do think it's good advice. But I always wonder why the victims of bulling have to be the ones to "be better", "raise above", "take the high road" or "just ignore them" . Why is it that bullies ar hardly ever reprimanded for their actions. I know this comparison is a bit extreme but recently people have been speaking up about the way we talk to and about rape victims. That telling them to change their behavior to prevent rape is like telling them it's their fault. But why is that not our view concerning bulling? I understand that the advice we give victims is meant well, is logical and could/would help them. I don't walk home alone when it's dark out. And I don't let bullies get the better of me. But what about them? Things like this won't change because the victims avoid the situations. Not that I have any ideas or solutions about it. I just feel like this part of the conversation isn't really talked about. We're told how to cope with bullies not how to prevent bulling. I was just wondering what your thoughts on this were?
I think the problem is that many times bullies will bully no matter what. Although I do think that part of the issue is that most people don't think they're actually being a bully. they could think what they're doing is light/playful teasing. Or they think the person deserves it for whatever reason. But even still, bullies essentially never think that they're bullies. So tell a bully, "don't bully", and they'll likely agree that bullying is wrong because that do not identify as a bully.
Another part of the problem is that bullying is instinctual unfortunately (not justifiable) but look at the animal world. bullying among animals is incredibly common. Try researching wolf pack behavior and you'll see my point immediately. that's just one example.
random thing i remembered from this video: once in 4th grade someone called me "satan's gift", back then that hurt me but now i'm like "same, thanks bro i already know" just shows how the internet changed me
Thank you Emma for the advice on bullying because I get bullied because of my height, because my appearance. But when you said just keep a straight face that really helped. I would literally start crying in their face and they would make even worst because of me crying
I am a very anxious person and a few years back, the thought about changing schools frightened me. This year (I'm year 10) I switched my old school for a better one and I honestly couldn't be more proud of myself. Yes, I do get very anxious from time to time and yes I do have some health problems due to stress, but it was one of the best decisions in my life. Thank you so much Emma for this video!
Hey Emma, thanks so much for making this video, i hope it helps a lot of kids. I'm 22 now, my advice to school students echoes a lot of what you have to say- mainly to work hard and be kind! There is almost nothing more important than those two things, no amount of procrastination will make you feel prouder than getting an A in an exam and no amount of popularity is better than true friends. Good luck to your sister :)
Things have changed so much since my school days. Every subject had coursework back then. I was the guinea pig year for GCSE and nobody had a clue what they were doing. We'd get curriculum's the Xmas before mock exams took place!!
Well for things like drama art DT and cooking there will Always be coursework as its a practical subject but the rest EG English history geography science ect will be without coursework
I spent every lunchtime in the library by myself (doing homework revising etc), really isolating myself from everyone and got very very sad, so much so I couldn't do any work anymore. Just a warning. Great video Emma!
Good advice! A couple of comments: 1) It is important to develop friendships, but as you said, trying to get the people who pick on you to like you is a waste of time and energy. Plus, when you're busy focusing on those people, you can miss out on the people who could really be good friends. 2) Grades don't necessarily matter in the long run (like post-college), but the learning and the good habits you develop while working for them do. Do the best work you can - that's what's important. Keep making videos like this!
I can't say that I was ever bullied. There was occasional hassle and taunts but everyone got that at some point. But whenever anyone did say something bad/mean to me, I'd simply say "Thanks for the compliment." After that they have a strange look on their face and don't know what to say. Usually it's "You're an idiot" and then they walk off. But I couldn't agree more with getting homework out of the way asap. I didn't realise this until A-Levels and it made things so much better. You're going to be doing the work anyway, so why do it in a panicked, stressful rush? You actually end up with more free time and it's on your schedule.
I just graduated 😕 but still, I really really wish that someone had told me this earlier! Thank you Emma, you are so so amazing and very smart. You're thoughts make me and other feel better and help us to grow and get stronger and I think that's beautiful. 💕 thank you beautiful
I really like this video. Wish I'd had this to watch when I was at school! So true about the friend groups in school, I had a group of "close friends" none of which I talk to anymore. School is such a consuming place when you're there, but it's so nice leaving knowing you don't have to talk to anyone you don't want to anymore. My sister is 9 too and she's having to deal with bullies, it makes me so mad to see her upset, I'm definitely going to show her this video. Xx
I'm one of those people who should steriotipcicaly be bullied. I'm good at science and math, VERRY feminine, and overall geeky. What I do is I try my hardest to be invisible. So far works like a charm. A way I avoid acciedently spreding or enforcing rumors is if some one's like "Blank is SUCH a bitch right" I'll usualy reply with "I do not know them enough to have a judgment" and they move on.
great advise emma!! even though I'm in college now I'm actually finally trying to do my homework as soon as possible and it really does make a difference. I do so much better in my classes because I am doing the work I am supposed to and not rushing it. it is great advise for anyone struggling in school
you are so inspiring. I'm in school now so I can't really remonise on this kind of stuff but this inspires me to try my best at my work and not worry about others opinion on me so, thank you so much for this inspiration and for being here to share your great advise!
If only I had you around during school. I was bullied from ages 6 to 11 and I keep saying that even though people (my parents even) tell me it wasn't that bad, it still damages you. It damaged me to a point where I got major trust issues, as well as the fact that it just... in a way, broke me. I don't know how to talk to someone, I don't know how to socialize or make friends, or be like other people. I'm 22 now and honestly, I feel soooo left out of everything, but I'm so scared all the time of what people may think of me, that I start thinking it about myself before they even can.
Thanks for the great advice Emma. I've recently had to deal with petty and stupid comments and I've had enough of it. I think I'll follow your advice and just agree with them to disarm them completely. :-) Thanks again!!
My teachers don't believe in me I'm sick of it I love many of my teachers like my best friends however they low key think I can't do it which I can I'm 13 and getting b's I don't want to call them out on this because I don't want to destroy my relationship with them
hey! from Bs at 13, I would say that you can DEFINITELY get A*s at GCSE and A level (if you are in the UK lol but same for other countries and other qualifications .) I would say, prove them wrong! if there's stuff you don't understand, ask the teachers, and if you still don't understand, ask other teachers from the same subject, or find videos on UA-cam that can help you, basically keep going until you can do the subject , you don't have to be spending hours a day, but do it until you understand it, find the best way you learn, like try out loads of different ways, flashcards, recording yourself speaking, mnemonics. if it's the memory side of things you struggle with, there's this really good book called "how to pass exams" i can't remember who it's by but it has an orange front cover. also, remember, grades don't define your intelligence, especially at that level, they only define your ability to remember stuff. whatever you want, just go for it, try your hardest, you may get there, you may not, but if you work hard at your goals, even if you don't get them,you'll still end up doing something pretty darn awesome!! :) good luck
Don't worry! When I was 12/13 I also got sevend and eights (in my country the highest mark is a 10, and the lowest one a 0, so a 7/8 would be a B I think in the UK). It was really frustrating because before entering in the secondary education I had almost perfect marks... But with a bit of effort I've started getting those marks again! I also think that your marks will naturally improve these years, that also happened to me and to everyone I know. What really helped me to improve though was this kid in my class who always had the same marks as me, but then he started studying more and I couldn't stand having worse marks (sorry I'm really competitive, but he's one of my best friends so I wasn't angry or anything). I thought "well if he can I'm sure I can too" and I tried getting the same marks. However his marks got even better, and I started to put even more effort. I'm really thankful to him because he basically gave me the will to improve even if he didn't mean to 😂 And also because I didn't think it was possible to get marks that high. So the reason I've told this story (sorry for writing too much) is that you need to find something thar keeps you going (yeah, it's hard, I know, and it sounds stupid when talking about studies). I'm not saying that you don't study, because I did too, but when you have a clear and easy to achieve objective, not something such as "I want to get a job" or "I want to get into university", it's easier to put more effort into it.
Your big sister advice really helped! Hope you can do more. My babysister just entered first grade and I am so anxious for her. We are 14 years apart. And I failed at school in all aspects. Social and educational. So I search for the right things to tell her. As a twenty year old who as she tells me "you're not an adult you are a big child" I try to be wise for her sake.
I really needed this. A girl started publicly humiliating me by calling me a nerdy bitch and things like that at the end of the year because I do science projects, and you have given me courage to face her this school year! THANK YOU
Another way to help with bullying, be really nice to that person. If they look at you, smile. If they say "Hi [insert mean name]", say "Hey," in a kind tone. And like Emma says, if they insult you, just shrug and say "okay" in an indifferent voice. It really confuses them and it's so funny. I started doing it in primary school and after a couple of weeks, my bully of seven years suddenly left me alone and it was amazing. Plus they get flustered and embarrassed and it's like mild payback.
I agree, a lot of bullies bully because they have troubles going on in their own life and they pick easy targets to take it out on. I made the mistake of biting back and they loved winding me up to get a reaction. I wish I had been told this at 11 years old and just ignored them
Something that I'd like to add to the bullying thing: When I was bullied at school, I had two other methods to make them shut up. One of them was pretty similar to the "okay" thing you mentioned; whenever someone called me ugly or fat or whatever, I looked at them with a straight face and asked "So what?". They all went quiet immediately because there simply was nothing to reply to that. It made them look as if they were stupid and just pointed out the obvious, and it sometimes even ended in people laughing at them instead of me.
Back in College I also got bullied by standing out. I wasn't that much of a talker, so they kept bothering me and asking annoying questions about my life. By just saying okay I was desperately trying to stop the person. And it did help me! I wasn't that much in touch with my feelings back then, but it did help me get through the day and focus. Now that I am in Uni, things are so different here. Everyone is willing to help each other out and so far, I haven't seen anyone being bullied. We're all adults now.
Thank you Emma, I have my GCSEs this year and I'm bricking myself. I'm a good student but I've been bullied most of my life so my confidence is quite low, but this is really encouraging. You're like a big sister xx
I completely agree with everything you are saying!!! I wasn't popular at school at all, but I had two really good friends that I still have now. I would much rather have those close friends than have a big group of people I only vaguely like.
I love watching pretty long, chatty videos whilst I do my makeup in the morning before school and omfg this was perfect this morning. I feel like it really kinda refreshed my mind and I went out to the bus pretty calm and relaxed as opposed to anxious and tired
Starting high school (not sure what the equivalent is in Britain) at the end of the month and trying to motivate myself before I start. Writing goals, thinking about how to study, and trying to set myself up for success. Thanks for making videos like this!
Thank you for these videos, they're amazing - I'm so glad for this channel. You're so real about everything. I hate the patronizing adults who say, "Just tell the teacher, they'll stop" or, as you said, "Just ignore them, don't let it get to you" because it DOES hurt and they DON'T stop! So, thanks for keeping it real like this - it makes me a bit less angry when I know that there are people who give real advice and know how things like bullying actually go :D xxx Ly Emma!
this whole video was like... calming? the background, your makeup and your voice are so soothing. anyway amazing advice, wish I saw this when I was in high school. but the procrastination part? me right now, I'm ashamed of how much I leave stuff on the side before exams come. but the ending in particular really gave me a little bit of motivation to get better. thank you for the video, stay awesome Emma x
Looking back at school I have experienced bullying but I was never bullied that much and I think it's because I was unintentionaly doing what you were saying, it's a great advice and it does work
Hey, just think - while you're busy getting a good job for being nerdy and clever, they're too busy teasing you for it that they won't get good grades and get far in school because they were too busy bullying people who were unique and cleverer than them.
My favourite line to bullies was always "And you're irrelevant to my life, what's your point?" and just walk off
It was so funny because I really didn't care about what they said
Something like that happened to me last year! A girl in my class tried making fun of me because I laughed at a funny part in the book I was reading. I just said "Your life must be very boring if you find THIS worth mentioning." She hasn't talked to me since then :D
+ActuallyFinn Good to hear that calmly roasting bullies works for more than just me xD
+Will Jenks Yes, staying calm and saying something too intelligent for their tiny brains to comprehend is always good. It makes you feel good as well when you 'win'.
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I'm a boy, and I love drama. I chose it as one of my classes this year, and most other people in my class are people who only took it because they thought it would be an easy lesson. I put my heart in what I do, and these people destroy my confidence when ever I preform because quite frankly, I'm the only who tries and it amuses them. And this video really helped Emma, thank you very much for this ♡
I mentioned I was a boy because all of my friends in my class are girls who take it seriously
having a passion is so important. you can do this regardless of what these people do or think. I believe in you :)
+Octobris Thank you so much, it's reassuring to hear that
I'm a guy who loves performing too so I may understand what you're going through. We have to support eachother, haha :) Have a great day. And again, don't let them bring you down.
I know how you feel! I didn't have the option of drama at school but there were many things I adored such as English and Irish but no one else was bothered and they would talk and mess and prevent me from learning and the teacher from teaching, now I'm in college studying the preforming arts and oh sweet jesus it is amazing! I love it! The teachers are downright amazing, we know them on a first name basis which adds to the feeling of being treated like an adult, the stuff we learn is very interesting and useful, whenever we've 'preformed' and danced it's been tough but so so much fun. Everyone there has their heart in this and are so so nice. At secondary school hardly anyone liked me, now at college I feel so liked, I'm not afraid to get involved, I made a funny comment to one guy today and he said 'I like this one' and that sky rocketed my confidence. Both the year 1s (my year) and the year 2s are hysterical but also lovely, genuine people.
It gets better I promise! Good luck!
I guess being a nerd has its benefits.
#goodgradesbecauseihavenothingbettertodosquad
Here is just another tip: If you feel like something is "wrong" with you, like with your health or you have any kind of mental problem such as depression, PLEASE do visit a doctor or a therapist. Even if it you just have a slight worry that you might not be doing 100% okay. They are there to help you. I have known so many people who have had issues their whole life mentally or with their health and who struggled a lot with school and never knew what was wrong with them before being diagnosed by a doctor or getting help by a therapist.
Your makeup is 👌🏻 in this video
Ikr and I like your bun bun profile pic.
The pain never ends😭
+Lukeyousmellofmilk oh my lord i see you everywhere :D
Ayy😝
Hello fellow Emma + Luke Fan who I keep seeing, how is your day?
The shrug "ok." Thing is so funny to use, I use it all the time.
It basically is the equivalent of saying "whatever, I don't give two shits about what you're saying"
im a uni student why am i watching this
ok now i know why im watching, my brother recently started secondary school and its so weird being able to give him advice and be able to show him that the things he is upset about won't really matter in the long run (not that his feelings at the time are valid tho). like when he was still in primary school a couple of months ago, his school went on a trip to alton towers and when he came out of one of the toilets no one was there waiting for him (which the teachers were meant to do - do the counting heads thing lol). he had to find a member of staff because they weren't allowed their phones with them and the teacher (who was also my teacher when i was in his year and this same teacher used to pick on me all the time) ridiculed him and made him feel mortified in front of the WHOLE class. isnt that basically every kids worst nightmare? when he got home he was so upset and was crying and didnt want to go back to school or anything. i had to remind him that the teachers are their to look after them, they are children and the teacher's are the adult supervision. it was not his fault. a teacher should not feel pleasure by ripping the piss out of their students. teacher should not feel like they are allowed to make fun of their students just because they have authority over them(ESPECIALLY PRIMARY SCHOOL TEACHERS WHO ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR LITERAL CHILDREN). stuff like this makes me sad that i can't still be in secondary school with him.
+leah lo my sister is 10 years younger than me so when she's 14 or so ill be 24 and I'll be old enough to give her loads of advice to help her through school
***** true haha
I'm a uni student too and I'm watching this for nostalgia, I guess? I kinda miss high school. :/
same haha.
It's relatable tho
Yeah but could you possibly look MORE like Max from Life is Strange in the thumbnail for this? Crikey.
Bun Bun ;-;
Oh my god she DOES! Proud member of the LiS Steam forums since 2014 :D
Yessssss
Pricefield flashbacks agh!
exactly!
Ah I relate to this. I was always a kind of odd, quiet kid. I had few friends (one close friend) as I tended to keep conversations quite shallow. No one seemed to share the enthusiasm for the things that I did, so I kept quiet about it. Now, perhaps it was because I had my nose in books for a lot of the time, but apparently I was bullied. I had one girl tell me that another one from my homeroom was calling me a lesbian because I looked at her (weirdly apparently) in class (I had glanced back as she had previously told me that a boy she knew thought I was pretty). Though I didn't do anything about it. I didn't care much about it really. I did bore them, and they faded away.
i love this lighting so much it's so soft and warm
You know it's a good day when Emma posts a Video that is shy of 20 Minutes long...
I'm doing my homework right now with this in the background, the thing about bullies struck such a chord and it's so lovely to here what you said from someone who aren't my parents. And with my coursework? I was given contorlled assessment research today that's not due in until Friday and I decided not to do it but seeing this encourages me to actually put some work in! Thank you Emma :)
I really needed to hear this right now; thank you 💜
Yaaaaasss
ikr
I'm going back to school (college) to resit my GCSE's :D I actually made this decision like 5 days ago and i start tomorrow :D
GOOD LUCK! I hope it goes well!!
since I have very light eyebrows people used to tease me simply by going "lol you have no eyebrows" which... wasn't even an insult, it was just the truth..? anyway, one day this kid came up to me and at that point I was _so_ over it, I simply couldn't be bothered anymore. So when he said "you have no eyebrows" I gave him that exact look 12:32 and said "well you have no brain, thank you for the conversation" (that's not even a good response??) and he was SPEECHLESS. I don't remember him teasing me ever again after that
also nice Sonic Youth shirt Emma!
I'm really proud of how you have evolved as a person from where you were years ago. Well done. I hope I can make such a positive change to myself too.
Went into year 10 this year. I gave up on trying to make friends in year 8 and because of that I gained my 2 best friends and they are the best friends I've ever had
That gossiping part oh my Goodness, I really needed that, Emma! I'm in secondary school right now and I have a reputation among my friends of being the "overly sensitive, nonjudgemental" one and they tease me about it (Playfully! They ain't bullies) and it was funny at first but they've really made me question whether I should just suck it up and start talking about people as I please. But this is just a sign for me to absolutely not do it and not be ashamed of it either. So next time they tease me about it, I can just tell them to piss of
"It's easy to be lazy and procrastinate"
*watches this as procrastinating*
I really love this video because quite often people get speeches like this given at school but because it's at school or someone you don't like or don't relate to, no one listens. But here I feel like you can help a lot of people and we respect what's being said. Thank you
I would also like to add that you should find at least one teacher that you like, be the teacher's pet and go to them when you have problems. I had an amazing german teacher that I eventually aided in her class, I got so much stupid crap settled because I was nice and friendly to her. my 1st year of german I was getting bullied a ton, I eventually told her what was going on, told her if she didn't do anything I would hurt the kid (in a nice way) and the kid got kicked out of her class for like two weeks. Never talked to me again. He was in my 2nd year german class with a different teacher, day one of school starting, went to my 1st year teacher and told her about it, instantly got switched to one of her german 2 classes, went on to german 3 the next year, then aided for her, I wasn't doing homework in one of my throwaway senior classes, the teacher got mad about it, and told my german teacher, didn't hear a word about it after.
Kids these days (bam i'm 50 year old) really need this kind of video. We're pretty much the same in the end, all going through the same school related problems and so on. Teens need to know that there not alone and "unique". Some of us went through that before and we survived and it made us even stronger. Work hard and don't let anything or anyone bring you down people ;)
I know this may sound exaggerated but the bullying thing you said when you said it's not your fault you saved my life I was so upset I wanted to die but now I'm going to keep trying
I hope you're okay now. I hope you've realised that you're beautiful & better than that. & I'm sure you're doing much better than them now💓
I knew a bully in my design class at school, she tried to make my life a living hell and threatened to hurt me and such, then we got to college and she was in my Psych class and for a week were going to get paired up with someone else, all I could think was 'please don't pair me with her literally anyone but her', of course, the fates dealt me their hand, and the hand came in the form of the bully from design being paired up with me. We sat down together and she was the nicest person you could ever meet? We didn't ever really become friends but she told me she was glad she was paired up with me. Sometimes people can do a complete 180 and I'm glad I was lucky enough to 'confront' my school bully I guess and solve things.
I'm going to 8th grade tomorrow and this helped a lot!
thanks emma
Good luck! (And don't worry, 8th grade isn't as scary as it seems.)
8th grade is easy af! You'll do fine!
8th grade is the best seriously
sounds gr8
#BadPuns😐
How are you only just going into school tomorrow... Also it's just an easy year
something i learnt from being in college at 19/20 - learn to value the fact that you can and will enjoy your own company. i used most of my free lessons doing work in the library because i fell behind, and at first i was upset because i thought i was missing out in a friendship group but i realised that it felt so much better to have work out of the way, and just chilling out with your headphones on and some good music whilst working was better than just sitting in a corridor with some people you'll never talk to after you leave. other people's company doesn't measure your worth, you are lovely and interesting and fun to hang out with but you don't need them to prove that.
I know that this video came out a long time ago, but I'm getting bullied right now, and I took some of this advice, and it really helps, genuinely. Thanks emma
I've been a pretty lonely kid my entire life and I definitely related to how tv would show these friends being so good to e/o and in reality that didn't happen much
I was never picked on seriously (if I was, it didn't affect me much) but I'd feel very alienated from my own friends and how they just seemed to forget I existed or call me too sensitive and even point things that were "wrong" w my face and I doubt they ever did any of it maliciously, but it can really feel that way sometimes
Good luck to your sis at school
Plus I wish I did all my homework and coursework on time
+stuart balchin me to but I know I wouldn't be bothered even if I got a second chance yeah, I'm that lazy
+Jacovich Stabs true story i was doing english coursework and we were talking about the different versions of romeo and juliet films and i got so confused their was a point i had a argument with my teacher that i clamed shakespear didnt write it
I've always said teachers don't get paid nearly enough to be in school with kids/teenagers for the rest of their life unless they truly enjoy it. Of course if you were in high school 30 extra years you'd have bad days and get tired of people's crap as well. Try to understand that teachers have to deal with hundreds of teenagers every day, and you would be just as grumpy in their shoes. They do really appreciate a good student taking actual interest in learning. Not all teachers are going to be your friend, but you'll find a few that end up being some of the most helpful and supportive friends you'll have through school.
There's a lot of people who really don't need to increase their drama skill.
As a fellow old lady (even older than Emma :O) I can only agree with every single point in this video. But I want to add that you shouldn't beat yourself up if you don't succeed in following this advice to a tee. I gossiped, I let my bullies see me cry every week, I did my homework waiting for class and, even though I really wish I didn't do any of that, I am still a happy and pretty successful (whatever that means) adult today. It will sort itself out in the end.
As a current year 11 I had already given up on by exams in year 10, but somehow I had got into doing 3 of my 6 science GSCE exams early (end of year 10). At this time I thought, oh well its a couple of exams who cares. I got my results back at the start of this year...2 d's and a C, now in any case I would have been happy with this but I wanted to do Biology for A level and now I can't. Just wanted to share this in case anyone was thinking the same thing I did and I wish I would have revised and cared more. (yes I can retake this but I don't think I will).
You can still do Biology A Level with a D ;)
In other schools I don't know but sadly in mine to do a A level course in a academic subject you have to get at least a B :)
+RubyKitsune Talk to your school, they may be willing to make an exception ;)
I hope so :) I'm hoping that if I can get an A or above in my second biology exam that they may take me :D
+RubyKitsune Hopefully! I wish you luck
So many good pieces of advice here! One thing I wish I'd realised sooner was not to be afraid to ask teachers for help when you don't really understand something, especially with GCSEs and A Levels. Teachers are there because they want to help you do well and so most of the time they will be happy to sit with you after school to explain it again to you which is so so much better than falling behind, plus being called a teacher's pet or whatever because of it is definitely not a bad thing when you're taking responsibility for your learning :)
Food before friends, or in your case blogs before food
Great advice! Especially the stuff about not showing big emotional responses to bullying.
Man, I don't want everybody to like me, I just want SOMEBODY to like me.
I'd bet money more people like you than you think, or maybe even more than you'd like to believe. Either way that person who makes you realize that will come along
I love this. I know I'm not experiencing this at the moment because I do try to avoid these (and I'm doing it quite well). I remember vaguely experiencing this when I was little only. School would bring this foreign thing called being a bully. Sure, I have seen it, but I didn't really care about it. These things about bulling verbally, physically, digitally, (and another one I'm forgetting) are very eye opening. They tell the psychological roots about how people can be mean when we could actually be good-nature people who help each other. I love knowing the aftermath and wisdom you have gained from it. Thank you for sharing.
Emma: JOIN ALL THE CLUBS!!!!! YOU WON'T LOSE ANYTHING!!!!!!
Me: I will waste my valuable UA-cam time on things I hate i.e PE and Drama etc.
I wish someone had sat me down and had this conversation with me when I was younger. I didn't even get picked on that much but whenever people chose to do that to me I always let it get to me and I made it very clear that I was upset in that moment, and because I was chastised by my peers for it I never had the courage or self confidence to go to someone who actually cared about me and express those same feelings in a healthier environment. Emma, your advice in this video is on point.
It's really off topic but your hair looks so good in this video!! What hair products do you use?
I had the whole "hoping people liked me" thing. I wasn't popular but I didn't think I was an outcast but then maybe I was. I changed throughout school and for the best. You're totally right that not everyone will like you but I was always so wrapped up in what people thought of me. I'm now in Uni, final year, but I wish I'd had the strong support network that UA-cam offers kids now when I was younger. Good video :)
Apparently I was bullied before, some guy once texted me "No wonder you get bullied" and I was like, wtf I get bullied? It was actually quite funny for me, but it was annoying that he was a dick and yet lots of nice people didn't know he was a dick.
same
Thank you, Emma, for this video. I just watched it today and I have just finished my first semester of college in the US. A lot of people I had to be around constantly did not enjoy me. It felt horrible but listening to you talking about it, it really made me feel better. I plan to enter next semester with this mindset and I can already feel it will be better. Thank you very much. :)
The sonic youth shirt makes you 20% cooler
Actually nah the entire video is 20% cooler :)
i noticed that too oml
no it makes it Kooler
Ana araujo
Tru Tho
the bullying advice truly about ignoring the bully is the best advice you can give
I'll shorten the bully part with one simple sentence
"If you don't give them pencils, they can't draw for shit."
What do you mean?
Danner - they mean. Well. The pencils would be the person’s reaction when they are bullied. The bully drawing would be them HOPING for that reaction, imagining it, envisioning it - they WANT to draw. But if they’re not given pencils (the reaction), they cannot draw (have a fight).
Bullies will always find a reason to hate you.
This reminds me of the video about back to school from boxes and foxes you posted last year, truly when you deleted boxes of foxes I was mainly sad because I was going to lose that video, I'm so happy to see a new calmed video talking about school, and giving good advice without sounding auntie. I needed this, I start school tomorrow. You were very sweet and helpful
I really liked the advice you gave on bullies and do think it's good advice. But I always wonder why the victims of bulling have to be the ones to "be better", "raise above", "take the high road" or "just ignore them" . Why is it that bullies ar hardly ever reprimanded for their actions.
I know this comparison is a bit extreme but recently people have been speaking up about the way we talk to and about rape victims. That telling them to change their behavior to prevent rape is like telling them it's their fault. But why is that not our view concerning bulling?
I understand that the advice we give victims is meant well, is logical and could/would help them. I don't walk home alone when it's dark out. And I don't let bullies get the better of me. But what about them? Things like this won't change because the victims avoid the situations.
Not that I have any ideas or solutions about it. I just feel like this part of the conversation isn't really talked about. We're told how to cope with bullies not how to prevent bulling. I was just wondering what your thoughts on this were?
I think the problem is that many times bullies will bully no matter what. Although I do think that part of the issue is that most people don't think they're actually being a bully. they could think what they're doing is light/playful teasing. Or they think the person deserves it for whatever reason. But even still, bullies essentially never think that they're bullies. So tell a bully, "don't bully", and they'll likely agree that bullying is wrong because that do not identify as a bully.
Another part of the problem is that bullying is instinctual unfortunately (not justifiable) but look at the animal world. bullying among animals is incredibly common. Try researching wolf pack behavior and you'll see my point immediately. that's just one example.
random thing i remembered from this video: once in 4th grade someone called me "satan's gift", back then that hurt me but now i'm like "same, thanks bro i already know" just shows how the internet changed me
Who else is part of the #JustStartedALevels squad? ✌👏
#JustStartedGCSEssquad welcome, #JustStartedUni squad can come join, and the #JustStartedWork squad WOW YOU ARE OLD
I haven't but my brother has, good luck in yours :)
GCSEs Good so far
Started year 10 and the whole new exam system is HARD and freaking me out haha
yep. 100% feel your pain
Thank you Emma for the advice on bullying because I get bullied because of my height, because my appearance. But when you said just keep a straight face that really helped. I would literally start crying in their face and they would make even worst because of me crying
The thing is, I physically can not do homework the day it is set. I don't know why though. I just can't..
Sleevy I feel your pain
phantrashlauren PHAM
I am a very anxious person and a few years back, the thought about changing schools frightened me. This year (I'm year 10) I switched my old school for a better one and I honestly couldn't be more proud of myself. Yes, I do get very anxious from time to time and yes I do have some health problems due to stress, but it was one of the best decisions in my life. Thank you so much Emma for this video!
you look bloody gorgeous in this vid! great stuff!
Hey Emma, thanks so much for making this video, i hope it helps a lot of kids. I'm 22 now, my advice to school students echoes a lot of what you have to say- mainly to work hard and be kind! There is almost nothing more important than those two things, no amount of procrastination will make you feel prouder than getting an A in an exam and no amount of popularity is better than true friends.
Good luck to your sister :)
Coursework is gone emma ;) mine was last year for GCSE coursework
Things have changed so much since my school days. Every subject had coursework back then. I was the guinea pig year for GCSE and nobody had a clue what they were doing. We'd get curriculum's the Xmas before mock exams took place!!
ah well the year below me (year 11) is the new guinea pig year! :P its all changing again
+RZED I'm in year 11 and we have coursework again :( everything sucks life is bad kids
+RZED current year 10s are the guinea pig year I think. Because I only have a small bit of course work in my drama and art class. But no other classes
Well for things like drama art DT and cooking there will
Always be coursework as its a practical subject but the rest EG English history geography science ect will be without coursework
I spent every lunchtime in the library by myself (doing homework revising etc), really isolating myself from everyone and got very very sad, so much so I couldn't do any work anymore. Just a warning. Great video Emma!
Yay a new video. this is now my favourite channel (well, joint fave)
Good advice! A couple of comments: 1) It is important to develop friendships, but as you said, trying to get the people who pick on you to like you is a waste of time and energy. Plus, when you're busy focusing on those people, you can miss out on the people who could really be good friends. 2) Grades don't necessarily matter in the long run (like post-college), but the learning and the good habits you develop while working for them do. Do the best work you can - that's what's important.
Keep making videos like this!
Oh, look! #2 is pretty much the topic of the next video! :)
You know how to make me happy love you Emma vloggery 💙
I can't say that I was ever bullied. There was occasional hassle and taunts but everyone got that at some point. But whenever anyone did say something bad/mean to me, I'd simply say "Thanks for the compliment." After that they have a strange look on their face and don't know what to say. Usually it's "You're an idiot" and then they walk off.
But I couldn't agree more with getting homework out of the way asap. I didn't realise this until A-Levels and it made things so much better. You're going to be doing the work anyway, so why do it in a panicked, stressful rush? You actually end up with more free time and it's on your schedule.
I love this channel its just amazing!
I just graduated 😕 but still, I really really wish that someone had told me this earlier! Thank you Emma, you are so so amazing and very smart. You're thoughts make me and other feel better and help us to grow and get stronger and I think that's beautiful. 💕 thank you beautiful
15 seconds? I AM SO EARLY ARE YOU PROUD OF ME EMMA
I really like this video. Wish I'd had this to watch when I was at school! So true about the friend groups in school, I had a group of "close friends" none of which I talk to anymore. School is such a consuming place when you're there, but it's so nice leaving knowing you don't have to talk to anyone you don't want to anymore. My sister is 9 too and she's having to deal with bullies, it makes me so mad to see her upset, I'm definitely going to show her this video. Xx
I'm one of those people who should steriotipcicaly be bullied. I'm good at science and math, VERRY feminine, and overall geeky. What I do is I try my hardest to be invisible. So far works like a charm. A way I avoid acciedently spreding or enforcing rumors is if some one's like "Blank is SUCH a bitch right" I'll usualy reply with "I do not know them enough to have a judgment" and they move on.
great advise emma!! even though I'm in college now I'm actually finally trying to do my homework as soon as possible and it really does make a difference. I do so much better in my classes because I am doing the work I am supposed to and not rushing it. it is great advise for anyone struggling in school
i am perfect bulling material but i never got bullied. do you know why? bc i am the queen of the eye roll.
you are so inspiring. I'm in school now so I can't really remonise on this kind of stuff but this inspires me to try my best at my work and not worry about others opinion on me so, thank you so much for this inspiration and for being here to share your great advise!
Really irrelevant: you look and seem really lovely in this video! Xx
If only I had you around during school. I was bullied from ages 6 to 11 and I keep saying that even though people (my parents even) tell me it wasn't that bad, it still damages you. It damaged me to a point where I got major trust issues, as well as the fact that it just... in a way, broke me. I don't know how to talk to someone, I don't know how to socialize or make friends, or be like other people. I'm 22 now and honestly, I feel soooo left out of everything, but I'm so scared all the time of what people may think of me, that I start thinking it about myself before they even can.
COURSEWORK DOESNT EXIST ANYMORE FML it is now all exam based
I know we got told that today :(
for some subjects it is more coursework based than exam based
+I live in the theatre With theatre friends I was part of the last Y10s to do it and we didn't have it for English but good luck guys 😂
OML IK WE'RE ALL FUCKED
what year are you in? I'm in year 11 and we still have coursework for some stuff, the younger years might not have it now
Thanks for the great advice Emma. I've recently had to deal with petty and stupid comments and I've had enough of it. I think I'll follow your advice and just agree with them to disarm them completely. :-) Thanks again!!
My teachers don't believe in me I'm sick of it I love many of my teachers like my best friends however they low key think I can't do it which I can I'm 13 and getting b's I don't want to call them out on this because I don't want to destroy my relationship with them
One of my favourite teachers left and I still talk to her and she believes in me and I love her for that
hey! from Bs at 13, I would say that you can DEFINITELY get A*s at GCSE and A level (if you are in the UK lol but same for other countries and other qualifications .) I would say, prove them wrong! if there's stuff you don't understand, ask the teachers, and if you still don't understand, ask other teachers from the same subject, or find videos on UA-cam that can help you, basically keep going until you can do the subject , you don't have to be spending hours a day, but do it until you understand it, find the best way you learn, like try out loads of different ways, flashcards, recording yourself speaking, mnemonics. if it's the memory side of things you struggle with, there's this really good book called "how to pass exams" i can't remember who it's by but it has an orange front cover.
also, remember, grades don't define your intelligence, especially at that level, they only define your ability to remember stuff.
whatever you want, just go for it, try your hardest, you may get there, you may not, but if you work hard at your goals, even if you don't get them,you'll still end up doing something pretty darn awesome!! :) good luck
fuck em, prove wrong
Don't worry! When I was 12/13 I also got sevend and eights (in my country the highest mark is a 10, and the lowest one a 0, so a 7/8 would be a B I think in the UK). It was really frustrating because before entering in the secondary education I had almost perfect marks... But with a bit of effort I've started getting those marks again! I also think that your marks will naturally improve these years, that also happened to me and to everyone I know.
What really helped me to improve though was this kid in my class who always had the same marks as me, but then he started studying more and I couldn't stand having worse marks (sorry I'm really competitive, but he's one of my best friends so I wasn't angry or anything). I thought "well if he can I'm sure I can too" and I tried getting the same marks. However his marks got even better, and I started to put even more effort. I'm really thankful to him because he basically gave me the will to improve even if he didn't mean to 😂 And also because I didn't think it was possible to get marks that high.
So the reason I've told this story (sorry for writing too much) is that you need to find something thar keeps you going (yeah, it's hard, I know, and it sounds stupid when talking about studies). I'm not saying that you don't study, because I did too, but when you have a clear and easy to achieve objective, not something such as "I want to get a job" or "I want to get into university", it's easier to put more effort into it.
+Paula Marina *sevens and *that
I can relate so much. Also not heard the word Boffin, since school, that was a serious blast from the past!!!!
Emma, why are you progessively looking like Max Caulfield from LifeIsStrange as each video goes along?
I love just brushing off comments that people throw at me. It brings the power right back to you.
lOVE YOU AND THIS VIDEO
Your big sister advice really helped! Hope you can do more.
My babysister just entered first grade and I am so anxious for her. We are 14 years apart. And I failed at school in all aspects. Social and educational. So I search for the right things to tell her. As a twenty year old who as she tells me "you're not an adult you are a big child" I try to be wise for her sake.
I really needed this. A girl started publicly humiliating me by calling me a nerdy bitch and things like that at the end of the year because I do science projects, and you have given me courage to face her this school year! THANK YOU
Another way to help with bullying, be really nice to that person. If they look at you, smile. If they say "Hi [insert mean name]", say "Hey," in a kind tone. And like Emma says, if they insult you, just shrug and say "okay" in an indifferent voice. It really confuses them and it's so funny. I started doing it in primary school and after a couple of weeks, my bully of seven years suddenly left me alone and it was amazing.
Plus they get flustered and embarrassed and it's like mild payback.
I agree, a lot of bullies bully because they have troubles going on in their own life and they pick easy targets to take it out on. I made the mistake of biting back and they loved winding me up to get a reaction. I wish I had been told this at 11 years old and just ignored them
Something that I'd like to add to the bullying thing: When I was bullied at school, I had two other methods to make them shut up. One of them was pretty similar to the "okay" thing you mentioned; whenever someone called me ugly or fat or whatever, I looked at them with a straight face and asked "So what?". They all went quiet immediately because there simply was nothing to reply to that. It made them look as if they were stupid and just pointed out the obvious, and it sometimes even ended in people laughing at them instead of me.
I just say "cool" or "love you too" to bullies 😂
Back in College I also got bullied by standing out. I wasn't that much of a talker, so they kept bothering me and asking annoying questions about my life. By just saying okay I was desperately trying to stop the person. And it did help me! I wasn't that much in touch with my feelings back then, but it did help me get through the day and focus. Now that I am in Uni, things are so different here. Everyone is willing to help each other out and so far, I haven't seen anyone being bullied. We're all adults now.
Thank you Emma, I have my GCSEs this year and I'm bricking myself. I'm a good student but I've been bullied most of my life so my confidence is quite low, but this is really encouraging. You're like a big sister xx
I completely agree with everything you are saying!!! I wasn't popular at school at all, but I had two really good friends that I still have now. I would much rather have those close friends than have a big group of people I only vaguely like.
I love watching pretty long, chatty videos whilst I do my makeup in the morning before school and omfg this was perfect this morning. I feel like it really kinda refreshed my mind and I went out to the bus pretty calm and relaxed as opposed to anxious and tired
I relate to so much of this, especially at the beginning.
You've got such a good mindset and it's refreshing to watch. Keep up the good work.
Starting high school (not sure what the equivalent is in Britain) at the end of the month and trying to motivate myself before I start. Writing goals, thinking about how to study, and trying to set myself up for success. Thanks for making videos like this!
When she said "the people that upset you" I immediately sang in my head "are now my enemies too" :)
Thank you for these videos, they're amazing - I'm so glad for this channel. You're so real about everything. I hate the patronizing adults who say, "Just tell the teacher, they'll stop" or, as you said, "Just ignore them, don't let it get to you" because it DOES hurt and they DON'T stop! So, thanks for keeping it real like this - it makes me a bit less angry when I know that there are people who give real advice and know how things like bullying actually go :D xxx Ly Emma!
Amazing video, Emma.
this whole video was like... calming? the background, your makeup and your voice are so soothing. anyway amazing advice, wish I saw this when I was in high school. but the procrastination part? me right now, I'm ashamed of how much I leave stuff on the side before exams come. but the ending in particular really gave me a little bit of motivation to get better. thank you for the video, stay awesome Emma x
Looking back at school I have experienced bullying but I was never bullied that much and I think it's because I was unintentionaly doing what you were saying, it's a great advice and it does work
This video made me cry because the insults she was saying hit a bit close to home. But thank you for making it, made me feel better!
Wow thank you emma so much for these advice. Especially for bullying. I am a nerd and I get bullied sometimes. So thank you
nerds are cool!
Hey, just think - while you're busy getting a good job for being nerdy and clever, they're too busy teasing you for it that they won't get good grades and get far in school because they were too busy bullying people who were unique and cleverer than them.
it's kinda mean but honestly i just think "i don't care if they think i'm fat bc they'll be taking my order soon enough".
+Ronja Maria Yes they are!!!😊😊😊