Side Effects of Being Light Skinned with Mona Dixon | Small Doses Podcast
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- Опубліковано 10 тра 2023
- Amanda and Mona Dixon, aka Don’t Call Me White Girl, join forces to talk defying stereotypes, handling trolls, and the difference between bullying and colorism.
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Never had Amanda’s podcast recommended to me on UA-cam but that shows how much i watch Damona, glad i tuned in this was a good convo
Same! Amanda's grown on me. I agree the clips anywhere on IG has her just looking like a complete bitch. But if you watch the full episodes there's balance.
Ditto! So glad it did!
SAME!
Same!! ❤
Me neither and I did like when she came on Mona show so I love
What's sooooo annoying is being a dark skin woman and being called a white girl because I don't "talk black " foh
I hate hearing "you talk white"
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Are people still doing that!!!
@Gloria Brisco some people never been anywhere else sadly
I feel your pain because I got picked on in middle school about that! It’s not talking white it’s speaking proper and sounding like I paid attention in class🤦🏾♀️
I think us black women of all shades need to share our experiences & raise our daughters in a way that they won’t hurt each other in the ways we have. All of our experiences our valid. I think this is an important topic.
This! Because Im light raising light & brown skin daughters. And I refuse for any complexion to make them feel inferior for any reason!
@@emmabanks9168 Love this. I the only light skin in my fam, and my parents gave everyone room to discuss their experiences. My parents didn’t play the “you’re privileged cuz of you skin tone” game which I am thankful for because I very much so did experience colorism just like my darker siblings. Where I live being black is the worst thing you can be, so light or dark, we all got treat horribly.
This! I’m a lightskin black woman who has kids with a Darkskin man… my daugther took after her dad while my son took after me…it’s going be hard difficult conversations But we need to educate our children so this hate & separation in our society can stop. We are all black people who come in many different shades, textures & features
This pairing works so unexpectedly well
So glad to see Mona holding herself accountable about the colorism topic. Playas fuck up too. Love her
I’m ready for this convo! Cause it seems like it taboo for light skin girls to discuss colorism and bullying
Well they wouldn't be discussing colorism because it's not happening to them lol 😆 but bullying is a unfortunate experience
@@neosoulsofree883 yes thank you for correcting her !!!
Im dark skinned with 2 beautiful mixed grand daughters. I have had many conversations with them about colorism. Im here to learn something new.
@@neosoulsofree883 Not you diminishing someone else’s experience 💀
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 WHAT ABOUT ACKNOWLEDGING THEM BEING BULLIED IS "DIMINISHING" DEAR? LOL 😆 🤔 U NEED TO READ THE DEFINITION OF COLORISM! THESE 2 LIGHTSKIN GIRLS HAVE NOT & WILL NEVER EXPERIENCE IT TO HAVE A "CONVERSATION" BUT LIKE I SAID NO BODY DESERVES BEING BULLIED HOWEVER IT IS A MAJOR EXPERIENCE FOR MANY KIDS K-12 IN GENERAL.
This is definitely a healing episode for all shades of black. Understanding our individual experience with skin.
It’s really not! Light skin profiting off of dark skin trauma
@@Justyn-ns8jowhat kind of person makes such an effort to distort plain and simple expressions of one's experience into exploitation??? How sad for you that you cannot see beyond yourself.
@@TheAmandaSeales oh shit it’s that biracial chick that tries so very hard to prove she’s black
When i spoke about my experience as a light skinned child to my mother recently about growing up around all darker skinned family from her side and some of the experiences with girls at school, she took offense and told me don't bring up the topic nomore bcs it just doesnt hold enough weight vs what dark skinned women have to go through. She said I've benefitted my entire life not only being light skinned but so called pretty privilege even. I never brought up the conversation again, i am glad to see other light skinned women speaking on the topic. I wish more did..i believe the support should be on both ends because there is hurt on both ends.
DAMONA IS BRILLANT
As a dark complexed woman, I really enjoyed this convo you 2 black women had. Love you both, thx 🥰💯
Time to bring this one back as a topic! Because after Shannon we saw people literally have you f’d up even trying to label you as biracial, just wild!
The 1st few minutes already got me weak w/ this dog 😂😂😂😂
Man, I didn’t know I needed this honestly. My experience was people telling me I didn’t have real problems cause I was light skinned. This podcast made me realize how much I internalized that narrative subconsciously that it blocks me from really dealing with my issues cause I really believed the things I went through weren’t truly “bad”. So this started a good conversation with myself and I’m working on some things lol! Thanks Mona and Amanda for this!
That “you’re embarrassing me” to the dog was so triggering and real 😂😭 why do they do that to us?!?
Wait til you see him during the Tabitha Brown ep. He was cuttingggggggg upppppppp
My hi-yella sister and mom have both gone thru this stuff all their lives. There are people who hate them, but love me based on nothing more than the fact that my skin tone is easier to digest… I’m right in the middle of the black spectrum. My sis got bullied and picked on ALL THE TIME! Folks treated her like she was conceited and I was shy, when we both were just raised to be quiet kids… I’m glad y’all are speaking up for yourselves and people like you. This conversation was much needed and needs to grow. You could do a whole series on how differently shaded people are treated differently and at the end reunite everybody and go on retreat to start the healing.
It would be better than another Real Housewives reunion 😂
Does she like being called high yella? Just asking
@@dinicharice this question is important. so important.
Girl why wud u write this 😅lol 😆
@@dinicharice you dyin for lightskin sistas to hate themselves! Question is weird! Focus on you!
She doesn’t like it at all… neither does my mama. They both buy makeup two shades too dark and insist that they aren’t really that light all the time. Sometimes I wonder if they are ashamed of it. As to why I would write this, I think anything that separates us and causes intra-racial conflict needs to change. White folks who hate ALL black folks use the petty ways we treat each other as an excuse to keep people down. We judge folks for stuff like where they live and how educated they are, not just how bright their skin is… but all of it is rooted in white supremacy. I wanna see us prosper as a people but if we can’t get past petty stuff, that will never happen
I haven’t watched Amanda in years, pretty sure this got recommended because of Mona. This was a duo I didn’t know I needed, love how you ladies continuously show up as yourselves ❤️
Yes !!! Mona had Amanda on her podcast as well, good show, check it out
This is why I love Seales.
I had to learn about others experience when it came to being black because my little cousin is light skinned and constantly was being bullied or picked on because she was light skinned. I’m dark skinned and I assumed she wouldn’t have problems. I had to be willing to learn and understand then acknowledge the different experiences because I didn’t want to look at my cousin and say “it doesn’t matter” when she’s upset about being bullied for being light skinned. It was definitely a sister sister moment.
Yes!!! This conversation is so relatable. I NEVER want to discredit my more melanated sisters experience EVER. I strongly feel like a lot of our men started the perpetuation with the "lighter skin is more desirable" and some of us have run with that narrative. I have always made it a point to challenge that thought with my black men and dig deeper into WHY they do that. It frustrates me whenever I see any of us do that comparison. So many more thoughts but this is good. oK BACK TO THE EPISODE :)
I liked the dialogue… but I expected more. Idc about who swipes for me. I do, however, care about how I am treated in the boardroom or classroom. Colorism isn’t something that just stings a little. It’s a form of oppression. White ppl do see lighter skinned women as more civilized and less less aggressive. I don’t care about a man opening a door for me, but colorism will convince Jerome to stop and help my light skinned sister push her broke down car, but let dark skinned and pregnant Kisha figure it out bc she’s built strong. So, again… the conversation was necessary. But…. No shade bc I love these women… it felt very surface level. I get unnerved when the colorism discussion is all about dating and dismisses the bigger issues. I got all excited bc I know Amanda goes in on every subject that impacts the black community. This one felt like a fizzle… for me.
Came here for my girl Damona but I am here to stay! Amanda is definitely a vibe!
My mother told me when she was getting married to my father she was told by her cousin that my father would appreciate, value her more because she was light skinned. This was late fifties Jamaica. No he didn’t value her any more. He likely thought he would be respected more because he was married to a light skinned woman. Double foolishness!Marriage didn’t last long. Just enough for two kids.
I'm a dark skinned black woman and got a lot of colorism in school for being dark. I remember a light skinned girl saying to me one day when I walked into class damn she black. The whole class started laughing. It really hurt. I was hearing guys say dark skinned girls have attitudes. That comment annoyed me because I'm a quiet introvert raised by Creo women who were red boned. My whole family was light but me at the time. So if I have attitude it came from the women in my family who are light skinned who taught me to love my skin and the woman I am.
My mother comes from a creole speaking country 🇩🇲.
My mother is a red skin woman, always taught me and my sisters to love my skin shade.
Its very interesting how someone can behave the same as another but treated so differently due to the shade of their skin.
Keep your head up sis ❤
Get over it!
Same goes for light skinned women...just get over it already.
People are dying in Ukraine so I'm sure you and your light skinned black girls can survive mere words of insult.
Besides, EVERyONe gets bullied regardless.
it may not be colorism but its still prejudice based on someones skin color, something they cant control. My dad experienced this all through his life just for being lightskin they would call him albino and whiteboy and so many other things he was literally bullied for the color of his skin. Having light skin didnt garner him any special privileges.
Sadly that's why our community continues to hurt each other. Misguided and the tough conversations don't get had. So these prejudices, projecting and colorism is still an issue. And as Amada Seales said it's all a by-product of white supremacy.
that part
He went through all that but it wasn’t colorism and that’s okay if his experience doesn’t meet the criteria to be called colorism. Just because it’s not called colorism doesn’t diminish what happened to him, that’s the crux of the convo.
This was a great podcast! As a deeper pigmented black woman (born to and around light skinned women), I’ve experienced and seen somethings. It became my responsibility to extract myself from the mammy archetype, beginning that all of them had a ton of drama being the highly preferred. Unfortunately, my mother prioritized her visibility over the protection of her only darkskinned child. We come out as we are and we are born to who we were. In my undersirablity, I had to learn to cultivate my sense of worth. Everyone doesn’t survive it and it makes me sad. For those of us who are still snubbed, I strongly suggest you become your own advocate. You are your best ally. No one platform will be able to fully address your hurts, past/present. As much as it sucks, you are at a major advantage to really Seeeeee people for who you are. Just know there are better people. I really appreciated them talking about the success portion, with your come up. It’s sooo true! People get weird when others excel!! And sometimes they have more than you!! SMH!! But on the colorism part… dark skinned women… live the life you truly want! Transcend. The light skinned women have preference and black men tend to be gatekeepers. I strongly believe there is plenty and a world outside of all of these things. When people show you that you are not worth being prioritized, pay them dust. Alchemize your rage. ✨
Darkskin women have plenty of options and plenty of us black men love them I’m a dark skin man with a dark skin women. My preference is not light skin and there is a lot of us like that. Stop speaking for us because it’s obvious you don’t know us. Now if your overweight like your name implies I can understand your issues. But if your an attractive dark skin women that’s in shape you won’t have any problems dating any kind of man. Stop with the propaganda.
Wrong
@@mcbthird I don't know if this comment is for me. I am dark skinned and I am BIG...in every aspect. This was a first person testament of my journey. I can not reconcile your point, but I would love the see the collective get to a place to make room for other's POV. I do not need to go out of my way to disqualify anyone else's journey to highlight my own..kinship in struggle or not. Be very well.
It's my 1st time to the UA-cam page, I usually listen on Spotify....BUT lemme say this, Amanda Seales is a national black treasure that must be protected at all cost!!!! She is that precious. And also I love this episode. The dynamic is so smooth and entertaining yet enlightening. I'd pay top dollar to see yall do a pod or talk show.
SAME & SAME I always listen and never watch and this was soooo good!
Oh yayyy!!! Thank you for the love and glad you enjoyed the watch!
I LOVED and appreciated this. I definitely feel like ppl want me to be ashamed of the literal skin I was born in that happens to be light, and baby I’m sorry but it ain’t happenin. I’m the only light bright in my family and I think by default I can’t see anything other than beauty in chocolate and dark chocolate skin. One will never cancel out the other for me!
That's how I ammmmm 🙋🏽♀️
And now it's easier with my daughter being chocolate, I know how to uplift her and make her feel how I feel about her.
@OnnaMargret-zv4gc Oh, I guess you’re right. I must’ve been walking around with a filter my whole life. Guess I came out the vag with a filter too. Thank you for the correction❤️
Get over it!
People in Ukraine are dying from drone attack so I'm sure you can survive a few words of insult.
Black people are such wannabe victims omg!
But remember you're beautiful as well!
I literally loveeeee everything about these two lovely ladies coming together
I’m dyin’ at the opening scene! I just finished the TS Madison episode and Geordi was acting completely different. 😂
right?! he was on one with Mona😆
Some blk ppl get called lightskin and are actually brown skin….😅
Me
does it matter ?
I said this very thing and thought this while watching this video. I actually commented on someone recently who did this. I was like "gurl, you're not even light skinned or even that light. You're brown" lol
Well ppl perception of light, brown, dark are different depending where they are from
@@derrell920 no. It’s the same thing. Probably not yella. But, still light.
They feel like cousins raised in different neighborhoods but cool with each other.
Hahaha PERFECT analogy!
Definitely love the camaraderie between you two!!! It just FLOWS!!!!!!!
I really loved the talk on colorism and being lightskined !! I also think it was a really good point made in having these type of conversations with yt people too and not just in the black community!!!!! Also I Lovveee your pink setup🎀💖!!!
I like when Mona gets interviewed. I think what makes this work so good is that Amanda is steering the conversation and then Mona is being her awesome self.
The whole time I’m watching it, I’m screaming, “Amanda, just put the pooch away for now..” lol 🤣🐾💙
Big facts that dog woulda had to be put somewhere
Been waiting for a real convo like this pertaining to this topic. Ya’ll have great chemistry as well.
This was nice, the combo I didn’t know we needed. I love you two!
this was a really good show, y'all together is something special
I love this segment and as a light skinned women, representation matters and colorism is so real especially in Midwest. These people are so anti-black it is sad; I mean black folks. Glad this convo is taking place .
My favorite two people this was the collaboration i never knew i needed. Thank you both💕💕😍😍
I was waiting for this. Great conversation
Amanda, this is such a delightful conversation.
Wow, so the title got me! I’m into this! I’ve been waiting for this to be a conversation because it SEPARATES WOC soooo bad!! I love yall 💜
Love y’all together. & I love y’all for discussing this topic!!!!
Two of my favorites! I hope you do more collaborative things ❤
This resonates with me so much!! I’ve had some if not all of those same experiences and I felt when I tell my experience it’s downplayed.
This is the podcast that my soul needed. I have been getting so weary of being double discriminated against.
Glad y’all linked back up!!!
Loved this episode! You two are magic together. 💚
Wow 🎉
I love this episode. I’ve been following Amanda all my life and Mona for the past two year. I really appreciate both of their perspectives and wisdom. I love that they collaborated again. ❤
Another brilliant convo.. tricky subject & you guys managed to be sensitive to that yet funny throughout 💗( Geordi is too cute 😍love how he makes an appearance every episode! )
I just had a conversation with my best friend who is also mixed about how I don't like when men date me just because I'm light skin but look Hispanic & all their ex are Hispanic,. My mama, aunties & 52 cousins who all raised me are gorgeous black (dark skin) women . So I do get offended.
I love this queen! I am dark skinned and I have white and black people tell me I have white features and act white but it’s still offensive because that is also associated with my beauty. I also take offense and dismiss black men who tell me I am the first black woman they will date SMH We have a lot of healing to do in our community 🙏🏾
We need more of this! It was like blending two different worlds😂
As a light skin male who is of Afro-Caribbean descent. I have had some negative experiences with both darker-skinned males and females in the black community unsolicited and unprovoked by me just going about my business. There are literally Memes on the internet with jokes about light skin men, e.g. that one with Shemar Moore laying down on his side, captioned "This is how light skin men take their driver's license pictures" or the stereotype that light skin men can't fight. Most times I catch on after the negative experience, sometimes I am like, did he? Was that? Is it because? Naah. I don't have to say I am from the projects to make you feel comfortable or that I have been to jail. I am NOT the lightest black person in my family I have cousins who are lighter than me and they are bad ASF they will fight you for nothing. White people don't care if you are light skin some can't even tell the difference all they see is a NEGRO. Yes, Colorism does not apply to light-skin people this is true but everyone's feelings are valid so maybe we need a term for this.
Great collab! I didn’t even know about Mona before this. Good dialog on a real topic. As a dark father of two light daughters and a brown daughter, the dynamics are complex. Thanks to both of you for opening up and sharing your truth from your experience. It is valid. ✊🏾
Both of y’all are so real and genuine! I’m glad Mona came on your show! Love you both 😍😍
We here Queen!! Anything for you!
I love how Geordi was barking and growling then asked for pets 😂 4:55
I really love you two together talking about this conversation bc it’s much needed in our community 🫶🏆
i love this ep because they're sooo different and yet similar, and i think that's the most important take away
I've been waiting on this one since yall were on live ❤❤
I really enjoyed this conversation and I learned somethings too. Thanks!!
I’m glad you are having the conversation. Colorism isn’t specific to black women. Asians Latinos and others use colorism to separate
Yes but it is all rooted in the ideology that blackness or proximity thereof, is inherently wrong.
Love this conversation!!! I was thinking about this today and then you popped up on my feed. Well framed arguments and conservation. Just hit subscribe. I am darkskinned from a Caribbean family of all different looks and outside of the people in my family I am soooo fucking bored of internslised racism/colourism.
Loved all of the points made. My only build is that as a dark skinned bog ass grown woman it really bothers people that I have never let colourism make me feel like I am less than or less attractive.
I think Dr Donna calls it "Color Based Prejudice" for the instances of Violence and Exclusion that light skinned ppl experience.
It's a Micro vs Macro thing and I think ppl get caught up in the feeling of being dismissed and just can't hold space for those who face a lot more extreme outcomes from Prison Sentences to Job Salaries
I never used Reverse Colorism as a term but it's a lot of ppl who don't recognize their privilege so it's still a journey (for me as well) learning less abrasive approaches to these discussions & to hold space for darkskinned ppl
When are lightskin ppl EVER being evicted excluded lmaooooo 😂😂
It's the EXCLUSION and SUSPICION that hurts, even though it's understandable.
When I see u, I see me...but u don't. And that hurts.
(I'm generalizing).
The comment below is why. She hates lightskin people. Do you know all lightskin people? You're so ignorant. I guess only dark-skinned people get evicted now? Lol smh
I love y’all both! this was great
Well spoken!!!! Love it!!
Love that disclaimer in the beginning of the comment because it’s the first time I’m commenting. I love you guys. You need to have a segment with you both all the time on different topics you should collaborate constantly needed in my life. You guys are good with each other.
Amanda will always be one of my favorites💛
Been waiting on this. You teased us! Excited for us awkward light-skin girls. ❤
Omg lol 😆 I'm sorry u went threw bullying!🤔 ...most kids do
Dayummm My favorite episode so far. Mona Dixon!!! Checkin this out now that she's down with Amanda! Eeeeeeeeee!!!!
Thoroughly enjoyed this conversation.
The conversation was great but the dog is adorable! ❣️
Always loved Amanda. 😍 Thank you for this. 💙
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🔥 this was fun 🤩
I have never heard of Damona, she is hilarious! Amanda this was great. I get so frustrated when a message is wrapped in hatred.
Okay Mona! Can’t wait to watch
❤️❤️ BLESSSSS ~ great Conversation🤲🏽 beautiful people ✨ appreciate both of you ur vulnerability and insights.
Ok, premiere countdown! This some professional sh*t. IN DIFFERENT AREAS!
we needed this
❤❤ Amanda and Mona this great!!
You guys should do a tour. The energy and chemistry is all that💯
I love both these ladies! Perfect combination!
I swear you both are on my list of favorite people ❤
I am certainly a fan of both of you 🥂
Love this! I’m joked at your dog taking a good ol nap during the podcast 😂
Two of my favorites in one interview always makes my whole Lightskinned DAY! 🥹😊😍🥰 love y’all
Whew* this whoooollllleeee conversation 😢 it makes me so sad that we have to talk about this, being our own worse enemy. As a “red bone, 6ft masculine of center, nonbinary individual-There’s still so much to unpack but I’m glad that you’re going after the difficult topics. Props! 💯🫵🏽❤️✊🏽
I was waiting for this one!
Dayum more love more respk
Love you, Amanda Seales!❤❤❤❤ With your spoken self.
AGREEEDDDDD! I love this conversation!
Great episode!!!
Loved this!!!
❤ loved this convo
This was a great convo 💯 All shades of black are beautiful ❤ I wish everyone could understand that and uplift each other instead of nitpicking about skin tone!
💯 🎯
I love Amanda and Mona...I have been waiting for this ❤
Amanda loved y'all chemistry on DCMWG show so I knew this was gone be lit!!
This was sooo awesome and educational-luv it❤
The best gift for today! 🎉 👑
this is exactly what i didn’t know i needed🥳🤭