What To Do When Binge Urges Won't Go Away
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- Опубліковано 26 тра 2024
- WHAT TO DO WHEN BINGE URGES WON'T GO AWAY - Recovery from binge eating involves mastering those urges to binge. Sometimes binge urges seem to recede when not acted upon and other times they seem to just keep coming back!
One of the most frustrating parts of binge eating disorder recovery is those urges. After all, if there was no urge to binge, we probably wouldn't so it's very easy to make urges our enemy.
In this video I share some tips about how what to do with persistent urges to binge. I share a bit about my binge eating journey and address the question about whether I still get urges to binge.
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You are right, recovery doesn’t have to mean that we are completely free from our urges, but rather that we’ve learned to befriend them/accept them as something that we don’t need to act upon.
If that isn’t true freedom then i don’t know what is.
Thank you so much, Sarah.
Why in the world am I craving foods that cause me physical pain.
I sometimes can tell I'm hungry but most of the time I think its emotional hunger.
I think I binge to relax and it's quite a mindless action. My problem is I've been doing it so long it feels normal. My weight goes up and then I take action which for a short time offers control then before long I'm doing it again. I found the idea of managing my feelings and accepting the urges are there, to be more mindful and aware that they're happening. I used to smoke, but now I don't and it was only through adopting new behaviours and not leaning into that urge that I became a non smoker. It feels a bit similar except bingeing is far more powerful, private and comforting. This video was more important than you know. Thanks Sarah.
This is really interesting because it's the same approach to panic disorder treatment. Learning how to accept and get "comfortable" with discomfort can be so empowering. It's fascinating how the catastrophizing can be so automatic that it can be unconscious. If we can learn to take a step back and be an observer, it is stripped down to an uncomfortable feeling. That's when it loses its power.
Just watched this video while feeling and observing an urge. Mine is a fluttering sensation in my solar plexus region. Its only unpleasant because of what it represents and the thoughts generated as a result. The urge feeling its self would actually be pleasant if it signalled, for example, an urge to visit a friend or similar lol. Thank you, Sarah. Great video!
I LOVE that observation 😍 Thanks for sharing that 🙂
this reminds me of ‘anxiety is excitement unsupported by breathing’ and i wonder can bingeing be stifling excitement
In my case it brings thoughts of my teenage/ high school years, when I was constantly hungry and dieting and failing and bingeing… then I binge to make the uncomfortable thoughts go away…and then the downward spiral starts…
I'm having the binge urge now, and this comment and video made me feel better about it 💕
I might have to do or attend something important but find myself in the kitchen, binging. It’s horrible feeling that I can’t make myself stop binging to do an important thing
See here’s the thing. I don’t think binge-eaters, overeaters etc can’t sit with uncertainty, fear, loss, anger, anxiety, loneliness, shame, etc. One of the problems is that we are consciously experiencing all or some of that most of the time and eating -which has to happen, after all - is what our body thinks of as a break from all that. A short break before we go back on the psychic treadmill, or before a horrible job, lack of work, abusive family member, lack of money, whatever, comes surging back. It’s grim.
I would say that these urges become more far and far apart, milder and definitely more predictable. Tolerable would be the right word. When the food is going good (regular and sufficient meals) and emotions and other life aspects also calmer, they almost disappear in the recovery. You learn how to handle then physically and mentally better and gain the distance from them like Sarah did
you are the first person I've ever heard describe the binge urge feeling. I TOTALLY experience this like ANXIETY when I'm telling myself no don't eat a cake or a reeses cup you had one earlier and like suddenly I'm like FIGHTING with myself that if I don't get it its like a full blown PANIC starts to grip me and it's in my chest and it's like I feel like that Sonic the hedgehog panic timer is going off in my chest that is like zeroing in on the item with the utmost tunnel vision and it doesn't subside unless I snack on it. it's so distressing lol
omg.. thank you so much!!
and for me.. it's my feet. I always wondered what that feeling was about. I just can't sit still and I constantly shake my legs and I just can't put my feet down on the floor. I feel this discomfort in my feet whenever I get urges.
In your feet? I’m fascinated by the different ways our bodies express what’s going on!
Great video, Sarah. My experience is that when I feel something unpleasant and I say to myself it's ok, it doesn't help. What actually helps me go through this and not flight the feeling is verbalizing what I really feel about the feeling, which is usually that I hate it, cursing it etc 😅. Makes me feel authentic that I dont have to be ok with the feeling. At the same time I dont figt it. We just don't like each other 😄
Your eyes have a hypnotic and empathetic effect! Thanks for the lessons. You are the only binge eating therapist i recommend.
Oh Sarah, you are so onto it. It is so refreshing to hear what you ae saying. Thank God someone gets it!! I have felt so ashamed that I can't just stop it! I'll continue to watch your videos. Thank you.
Thank you. It's refreshing to hear that going for a walk or taking a bath will supposedly stop people from wanting to binge...its never helpful and doesn't work in fact, it can make it so much worse. Thanking you for your amazing videos ❤
the breaking into the house scenario made me laugh haha
you described my experience of urges exactly! i kept nodding as you spoke. well explained!
THIS is soooo powerful ❣️I really resonate with your wisdom and perspective…I feel great appreciation 💖thank you! ✨✨✨
Oh my god it’s actually so sad how we always think that we are alone on these types of things because you talked about the uncomfortable sensations people can get and I get it in my mouth it’s like a minty taste but not. Thank you so much for your advice it has really helped to know that these types of things are out there and people need to share more of it I’ve been watching loads of videos btw but your video was different to all of them because you mentioned the uncomfortable sensations🥇👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you so much for all these videos! I have been struggling with binge eating for a long time now. These videos are super helpfull for me learning about binge eating, especially in understanding the urges. My urges always get so strong, its really hard not to binge..but learning to accept the uncomfortable feeling and observing the thoughts and beliefs might help me the next time I feel an urge...
Glad I found u. I was begin to think I never get better
This was brilliant thank you
Thank you Sarah. Your videos mean a great deal to me.
Love this, Acceptance and commitment therapy themes
Really, really helpful. I'm so glad I've found you. I'm looking forward to BINGE watching 😉 your videos ❤️
Hi Sarah. What you say makes complete sense and I love how you make your ideas accessible. It's clear you've experienced what I experience and that makes a world of a difference. I love how you know that jotting down how you feel when you experience an urge simply won't work. That bit made me smile in recognition. I'm going to watch more of you videos and have ordered your book. Very very happy x
Ahhh, I'm glad it resonated and welcome to my channel. I'm always open to ideas for videos is there is anything you would like to see covered x
Very interesting I will try your method
I absolutely love this video. Thank you so much. Especially the part about identifying what part of our body is feeling this. Not easy to identify, but crucial.
Thanks for the video s x
this makes so much sense! thank u so much! i have been struggling with bulimia for so many years, this is very helpful! thank u!
Very glad to hear it! ❤️
This is really helpful❤ Thank You soo much! God bless you 💕
Amazing !!
This has been extremely helpful.
Thank you!!!
Hi Sarah I am a few chapters into your book and now watching your vids. The things you say really resonate with me and have me thinking about my relationship with food. I think I am finally ready to surrender to my war with food. Thank you for helping me to reflect and getting me motivated to start this journey.
Candy May You are so very welcome 🙏🏻 I know it’s not a popular word, but I love the concept of surrender. I can’t speak for everyone, but it brought me liberation 💕
Sarah, your channel is LIFE ALTERING. I listen to at least one or, usually much more :) of them every day.
I have struggled with the binge eating particular on certain foods for, so many years.
I would like to ask you about certain foods for example and what idf we have a history of binge eating these foods,? How do we ever if at all relearn to eat any item, dessert, snack, condiment so on....how can we relearn to eat without a binge if it is at all possible?
Hey, thanks for your lovely comment ❤️
I think I may have mentioned it once or twice in videos somewhere, but one of the things I did during my recovery was allowing myself to eat any of my binge foods as long as I sat at the table with no TV, screens or distractions and did my best to really enjoy the foods. I chose to do this because I felt that I needed to break the association between those foods and numbing in front of the TV.
I did this faithfully for two months and it really helped me shift my relationship with my binge foods. It wasn’t easy. I kept surrendering to the uncomfortable urge to eat and numb while having full permission to eat those foods as long as I stayed present with them.
This was something that really helped me. I couldn’t have done it at the start of my recovery though
Thank you💕i have looked at many of your videos and I getting help and hope and strength 😀finally someone that know what’s going on and can help me finding a way through this🇳🇴 a big hug from Ellen in Norway
Hello Ellen! I’m so glad to hear my content has been so helpful to you. Sending a big hug back from London 🇬🇧
Oh Thank so much ❤❤💖💖💖💖 I can't thank you enough this has been so helpful.
Morning and lunch are fine it's right after dinner that I start
Mine is out of control for over 12 months now - all the weight I took 3 years to loose is creeping back up - I feel like not existing anymore, I wish I knew how to stop this…
I’m old and alone 90% of the time ,so I go and fix a nice meal.
I find the urge in my jaw when I want to binge 😮 it feels very tense and I get so restless.
Are there any distinguishing factors between physical/ hunger driven urges and emotional. I think mine are physical as they are so strong and if I manage not to binge, it comes back the next day and then the next until I give in.
Sorry Sarah! I’m only just seeing your question now and what a good question. I think I will do a video on this as I’m not sure I can prove a proper answer in a couple of paragraphs…
There is no story around binging. It happens and you are not even fully aware it’s happening. It’s no where and everywhere. The only way to combat that event is to plan against it in advance. If you can.
Would you say it is possible to recover from binge eating but still overeat?
Yes, absolutely. My most recent video covers this
Very similar to Brain Over Binge
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Out of curiosity what is after all this fight your current weight in the sense are you over weight? Wait what happens with cholesterol diets and wait it cannot be both ways either you get cholesterol or binge eating what do you prefer? Lord it should not be like this
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