Challenging Behaviors and Dementia
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- Опубліковано 18 кві 2017
- Teepa Snow discusses challenging behaviors and dementia. Listen as she shares how to change our perspective and address the unmet need triggering the behavior.
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My wife was diagnosed with young-onset Alzheimer's five years ago, at the age of 57. Teepa has been a huge help in me figuring out what's going on with my wife. She is a gift to all of us. Thank you!
Thank you @MichaelStrahan, we will keep working to get Teepa's messages out to anyone and everyone that is connected to dementia and brain change. Thank you for sharing, please know that you are not alone. If you would like to talk with Teepa or our team, we do offer consultations to practice what we teach: teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
May God bless her and you❤
You gave this woman such blessed relief and a sense of someone understanding her. When she put her head on your shoulder as you two walked - it was a beautiful connection.
Hi, @Mary Spinelli! Thanks so much! It was a special moment and connection for sure.
You’re just… the best, most compassionate and inspiring teacher and carer ever.
Wow, thank you @What?! I'm very touched. If you'd like to see more, check out our latest TikTok videos (www.tiktok.com/@teepasnow?) or visit www.teepasnow.com.
@@teepasnowvideos What I love so much about you, is that you don't judge US, the ' caretakers' as hard as we do our loved ones with the condition, and that really is a positive approach, not only for our loved ones but for us as well. I love you for that. Thanks again. For it is all a matter of mutual understanding and stop (self)judgement. That is where the shame stops and the understanding begins.
I learned more in that 6 mins then I have reading hundreds of articles, thank you for sharing, and bless all involved.
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What a smart funny and attractive person. Great insight, great communicator. Looking to train myself for my mom who is on the slide.
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Thanks for the Video clip! Excuse me for butting in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you thought about - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (just google it)? It is a smashing one of a kind product for becoming an excellent parent without the headache. Ive heard some great things about it and my mate got great results with it.
@@Guide504 Thanks for the compliments!! If you ever want support we offer consulting, group training, and content all virtually:
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Teppa! You are saving my sanity, not only for me (caregiver/grandaughter) but my whole family. I'm blessed to have my husband, two wonderful sons care for mawmaw. Her name is Minnie.. I'm honored to be her grandaughter n sometimes a loving stranger.. God bless!!
I’d love to hear about how to help dementia patients who “sun down” and feel like they need to leave the care home to go back to their home. 😊
@Abree Roy, it sounds like you would like to know more about changes in behavior later in the day. Here is a search of our website (teepasnow.com/search/?_ga=2.132809550.1329023584.1662984802-993054951.1524071132&search=sundowning) that will give you a number of resources or you can call us 1-877-877-1671 to talk with someone.
I also read a study that hypothesized that some "sundowning: people were in pain they couldn't communicate. They tried tylenol in the evening, and a sizeable number of patients settled more easily. WOuld be interested in what Teepa thinks though. Non medicinal choices would be first to try, of course.
Hi, Teepa. My husband and I moved in with my mom who was diagnosed last year with dementia or Alzheimer's, I'm not sure which. I also have a developmentally disabled sister who lives in the house as well. Mom is 88 and has been a widow since she was 46. She has taken care of my sister and their household since becoming a widow. We were told last year they could no longer live alone. Thus, my husband and I moved in with them in May of 2017. It has not been an easy transition for me or for mom. My husband has been amazing. I have learned very much from your videos and for that I am so grateful. I have realized that as I trust God to control my mouth and my attitude that the household runs so much more smoothly. I have failed many times and am so ashamed and saddened each time I say or do something that hurts mom. She, of course, forgets in a moment or 2, but it really weighs on me. She has not left the house almost since we have been here. Lots of people come in and visit, but she doesn't go out. Shopping used to be our favorite thing; now each time I ask her, she says "not today, maybe later." She taught the same Sunday School class for more than 50 years, but hasn't been to church in the year we've been here. But she thinks she has gone every Sunday. I ask her every week, but it's always the same. She seems so sad and stays in her room most all day every day. She thinks we are here because we have no where else to be and has a really hard time accepting my husband doing anything around the house, which, of course, he resents since he has been a handyman by trade for over 50 years. Many times I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place. I really hate being the parent of my dear mom. I just want to love her through this awful time. I'm doing my best, but many times it seems like so little and definitely not enough. Sure would appreciate prayers. Thank you for listening. Judy Hutson
Lovely video content! Forgive me for chiming in, I would love your thoughts. Have you researched - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a great one of a kind guide for becoming an excellent parent minus the headache. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate at last got amazing results with it.
We are praying for you AND you are loving your Mom. This is how you do it. Taking the time to care. Carrying her memories because she cannot. Be consoled. When she goes, you will still have her in so many ways unlike the daughters who stayed away, who put away. The Lord is with you - you need not be perfect- just present.
In Jesus name, have strength and peace, and for your mom too.
Blessings showering upon your family
The world (especially the people of the world that are suffering ), is a better place because of you . Keep talking, sharing your knowledge and loving the life that is left in us.
New subscriber here, I am starting my job placement in aged care and I need to learn these things and more so that I can help better. Thank you!
@Akashasoon Welcome to the fun and exciting world of care partnering!
Here's a link to our webpage with LOTS of free, awesome information about dementia, brain changes, and offering support in a helpful way.
teepasnow.com/about-dementia/
Another link to our list of How To videos for more specific areas of support for a variety of activities and situations.
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Teepa is a gift.
Awwww. Such a great example of redirection and meeting her need.
At the nursing home I work at, we all try to give the residents as much time as we can, I love chatting with them and learning their interests! Unfortunately we are really short staffed, and we can’t spend as much time with them. And bare in mind that it’s not just because “oh we don’t have the time cuz I’m on my phone” or “I just don’t want to give these people attention”. We literally cannot spend as much time with them because it could be putting another resident in danger, and they deserve safety and care just as much as any other resident. I understand the grievances, trust me it makes me very upset too; I’ve seen people give employees to much shit just because we are trying to keep up with everything. And that’s not me saying there isn’t any bad people working, there are in every profession and it’s fair to be angry. But please understand we are doing the best we can for the circumstances; and we love and care about our residents.
Hi, @Panic Regret, thanks for sharing some of your story and for doing this hard work. You are right, you are all doing the best that you can with what you have. We do appreciate it.
I really like the way that Teepa suggests that caregivers & family need to step back and see things from their perspective.
Teepa, you’re an angel on earth....thank you
How could anyone watch this and NOT SMILE? My goodness, she is the most adorable thing!
I get this! I'm trying to figure out what my grandpa is doing when he repeatedly clanks the silverware on the glass, mug, plate or bowl.
One time, with a soft, upbeat, positive and curious voice, I asked him why he was doing it and he said "it sounds pretty".
Do you think that is hos true reason he engages in this behavior/ACTIVITY? Or is it his answer at that moment I asked? I find it to be a rather harmless activity, plus, it keeps him occupied and happy.
So, unless I have a major migraine, or someone is sleeping, then grandpa gets to beat his glass drum for quite some time (usually 15 minutes; then he might set it down and pick it back up in 5 minutes, unless we've cleared the table dishes, which is the tactic I use to distract from the realization that I am taking his drum stick (spoon) and drum (coffee mug).
Up until the past few years, he was always one heck of a chit-chatter. He would talk you ear off, when that was something he was capable of. Now that isn't so much an ability for him, one theory I have, as to why he consistently makes music during mealtimes, is that he is looking for a connection with others and or, he desires attention and affirmation from his favorite people...Kind of a, "look at me!; do you see what I can do?!; doesn't this sound pretty?; ***HE LOOKS UP AND OVER AT ME AND &FLASHES BIG SMILE***
Special times. I musn't forget how short our time is, how much I adore him, and what I would want/need if we traded positions.
Am I TRULY in so much of a hurry to get out to the garage to do laundry that I can't stop, acknowledge him and engage in 30 seconds of dialogue? Is it REALLY too much to ask of me, to stop what I'm doing as I walk near, say hello grandpa and make eye contact with him? It really is a quick check in. Visually scan the area for needs/wants and base communication around your visual assessment. Look for and Pick-up dropped napkin...otherwise he will try to and likely fall; is his walker within reach? Does he need a drink refill? Napkins and Kleenex are at his beckon call?Ask questions such as: How is your snack? Are you enjoying your view of the garden? Is there anything I can do you? Would you like to listen to some music?
If you have any feedback for me, please feel free to share it with me, as long as it's positive or constructive.
Wow! Sounds like you are figuring out a lot of great things about your grandpa! Have you tried giving him some quieter materials to drum with or is it just the cup and spoon? If you connect with us via email, we can get you connected to someone that can talk through some of this with you and help you get some answers.
How come so many people I meet in the medical field DON'T think like Teepa!!!???!!!!!!!!!!!
Rather, they have the other approach of "the patient is misbehaving"!!!!!!!! WHY DO THEY THINK LIKE THAT!!!!!??!!!!!!
It's sad. People have lost their love and respect, but for those people like people like Teepa, G-d bless them all!!
Yes @Jordan, that is what we are trying to change!!
Here is Teepa's mission: teepasnow.com/about/pac-mission-and-values/
Teepa believes that when people know better, they will do better! Help us bring awareness and knowledge to everyone by sharing and subscribing!!
@@ilovenoodles7483 it can be hard to see the person for the actions, but thank you for joining us in seeing what remains rather than what is lost! If you want to learn more about Teepa's progression model: teepasnow.com/about/about-teepa-snow/the-gems-brain-change-model/
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Wow. You responded to me. Thank you so much!
Your videos have really helped me on this journey and it seems like I'm the only one in my family who wants to actually help and support my dad through this journey.
My mom was even a caregiver for a couple that both had dementia and they were both living at home but my dad is the clingy type of dementia person so he clings (and follows my mother, just like you described in one of your videos) and it could get stressful for my mom, but she told me that she has seen...even in nursing homes, where nursing home providers will actually hit and assault dementia patients because dementia patients are "misbehaving" and providers just get tired of them and hitting them is a means to shut them up.
And in my town, a big city, especially in the last 5 years, a lot of nursing homes have been legitimately charged with assaulting their patients. A lot of them have shut down operations because of that reason. It's horrible!
We have decided as a family, to no matter what, keep my loved one at home. But it still sucks because I feel like my family isn't treating our loved one like a person. They just tell him to "stop talking, shut up, sit down and watch t.v." all day, because they don't want to deal with him. They even threaten to send him to a nursing home if he doesn't "behave." 😥🤦🏼♀️ Their definition of "behaving" is all screwed up.
OH wow! I am so sorry that is happening for you and your family. This journey is hard and unpredictable, which can really tear families apart. We would love to talk and help you find the next step to take towards where you would like to see your family, working together as a team, learning new stuff, and maybe building skills, even though this feels overwhelming right now!
Please connect and do a free 30 minute consult so that we can join your team and support you where you are: teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
I immediately thought "It looks like maybe she's trying to dust the chairs". Well done!
Nice work!
That was amazing. Thank you soo much.
It will help me to assist a lady that is starting to have distressed behaviour.
That was great! Oh, Mrs. Snow you're awesome. May God bless you today and always❤
Teepa you are an Angel . Thank you
Great video, Teepa! I just don't see people who work in elder care facilities as being able to spend this much time with anyone for problem solving. Facilities I have been in seem to always be short staffed and the employeees too often are short tempered with these folks who are needing and deserving of our time & patience. How can we help to ensure that our loves ones in "skilled nursing" facilities are actually receiving the skilled nursing that they (and/or their insurance or their families) are being charged a fortune for?
Great Questions! I wish there was an easy answer - we will look into using this as a discussion point on the next Ask Teepa Anything!
amen. very few caretakers at my mothers expensive assisted living place stick around or can bother to look up from their cell phones to interact with an alzheimers patient. they used to be real people and deserve better
Thank you, Teepa! You're amazing!
Great visual/techniques and explanation and reassurance of current teachings and demonstration in my practice. You are such a valuable asset to all of the practitioners and care partners on this journey. It has been a pleasure meeting you three times all in BC. Look forward to the next time! Keep doing you and sharing so much for us!
Thank you Teepa
I’m a support worker and this video is very very true !!! Thankyou
over the years i have followed your advice and i owe you for truly being able to say i am a great care giver during my work life i have implemented most everything i have learned from you and i want to say thank you for constantly changing the way i give great care.
Hey Shooby! Thanks for all that YOU are doing to support those around you.
Oh my gosh you are my role model. I am so excited that you even took the time to look at my post.
I feel the same. Teepa's videos are priceless.
This was awesome! Great advice, Teepa! Thumbs up.
I hope my parents get this type of care. I’m learning it too. Thank you Teepa. The chance for a sense of security and the chance to thrive is so much better with this info! May G-d bless you.
This is so nice I've learned something that I didn't know before. Thank you so much!
That's certainly a very different perspective. Very helpful.
I have learned so much from watching your videos! Thank you!
And this switch was beautifully orchestrated for success. Thank you, MaryAiñe
Absolutely brilliant!
See it from their side. Feel what they are feeling
I love it ! Just very simple the way to see somebody else´s world.
omg that's flipping AMAZING! I'm in awe!!!! genius!!!!
Fantastic! Thank You 💙
Wow that was amazing to watch!!! Thank you!!!
Lord have Mercy!! U are an ANGEL!! THIS IS AMAZING INFORMATION/TECHNIQUE
I sure wish I had found you while I was caring for my mother
I have to add, I feel so lucky, that I found you while caring for my aunt and now my mom. Thank you!
Thank you! Showing us that example was incredible.
Glad you liked it @TomHutchinson5!
I love the interior of their home! ♥
This made my heart smile
She seemed much happier with the rag. Cleaning chairs with maracas sounds like a huge pain in the ass, but if anyone could do it it’s this lady.
Hi @A Garcia, nice noticing! She does seem happier with the rag and really liked doing what she always did in the past. If you'd like to see more, please visit www.teepasnow.com or check out what Teepa's doing on TikTok (www.tiktok.com/@teepasnow?)
You are so gifted.
Wow! Thank you!
Ohhh wow ❤ love it! I'll definitely be using this tactic. Love my job working with the elderly, they teach me so much everyday 🙌 🤗 ❤
Thank you so much for this helpful video. Seeing the palm-to-palm concept in action toward the end was also very beneficial. :)
Hi, @zecroshac, glad you found it helpful. We call that technique, Hand-under-Hand and if you'd like to know more, please check out these items from our website (teepasnow.com/search/?search=hand-under-hand)
Love this, great approach
I've not had any experience dealing with anyone with Alzheimer's, but learning more of it and how best to sympathise and deal with those affected by it is quite valuable to learn beforehand. Thank you for having these helpful and high-quality videos up for everyone.
Hey, @Foxxo, glad that you found this video helpful. We appreciate hearing back from folks so much.
Wow, this went from sounding too complicated to actually seeing the person respected and redirected appropriately! My years of working with individuals with brain injuries as Community Integration Counselor often required teaching family and service providers with similar skills! I could write a book of interventions covering twenty years, how often changing the perception of providers increased independent skills of individuals! Thank you for your years of service to these communities!
Thanks, @alicejump2290! So glad to know that there are others out there who recognize that changing our perceptions can make a difference. Thanks for all of your years of work too!
You're bnrilliant. Really. I'd love to learn how to help my Dad when he gets upset with something.
Hello @Su Tash. It's Cheryl from Teepa's team. Thanks for watching Challenging Behaviors with Teepa. Thank you as well for recognizing what needs to change, that is our goal too!!
Here is Teepa's mission: teepasnow.com/about/pac-mission-and-values/
Teepa believes that when people know better, they will do better!
Help us bring awareness and knowledge to everyone by sharing and subscribing!!
Here is another free resource you may like: (teepasnow.com/about-dementia/)
Su Tash are you aware that PAC offers 30 minute free consults with a PAC Consultant to explore strategies with you further to support you and your PLwD. As well please take a look at our Care Partner Support Series by clicking here : teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
So helpful! 🌞
Dear Teepa you are my hero I understand my mom so much better now I don't have fights with her anymore
The AHA moment was to stop reasoning, it has to be reasonable in HER world, not in mine! I was just too honest to her so now I understand a little lie for the best goods thank you again so much!!!!!
Hi, @Stephanie Veenstra, so glad to hear that you had an "aha" moment and that things are now better with your mom. That is what we hope for others who watch these videos or want to learn more from the Positive Approach to Care team. Please visit www.teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671 if you want to know more.
Very insightful.
Brilliant!
Hello, I'd love to get a comment of this "rushing" head down so quickly compared to normal slow walking. My client is tiny, maybe 100lbs and very strong. In the past year she's adopted this "rushing" behavior so strongly that she'll fall or crash.
I was told that it happened before. She fell or crashed into the bathtub with a previous caregiver. Bathtub was a straight 40 ft from the dining room. Keeping her safe is my top priority.
On Monday we were out walking before it became to hot. She started winding up, going gradually faster, and then tripped on the sidewalk. She fell fasster than I could hold onto her. I had her sit on the grass in the shade for a bit and gave her water.
As soon as we started for home, a block away, she was rushing again. I have to really hold her back if on an incline when this happens. She's so determined to forge ahead.
At the house she drank 3oz of water, then an hour later drank a second glass. This is unusual. She lives in air conditioning and loves to go outside.
Could dehydration cause or be a part of her rushing full speed ahead?
And/ OR
She has a history of being bipolar and took medication for it, but not now.
Could this be a manic episode?
She is 76. She hardly talks except for no, yes, thank you, get out of here. She does do more rhymic talking kind of to herself now but not clearly. The rhythm is good though. Her husband works full time.
Hi, @deeperthanmemorywithmaryai9900, it sounds like you are dealing with a difficult sitatuation. As a member of Teepa's team, I can't say specifically what may be causing her to "rush". If this is a really fast change, it may be something medical or there could be something else affecting her. She could also be wanting to get away from a situation to a new place and fear, want, or something else might be causing her to move quickly. There are so many variables and I'm really curious to know more, so I'm wondering if you would be willing to connect with one of our consultants to talk it through. Please contact us at consult@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671 to set it up.
I wish I know how to deal with my mom's toilet paper hoarding . She has been taking rolls and rolls of toilet paper and paper towels taking them off the rolls and stuff them in her sleeves , pants shoes wrap everything on toilet paper , we never see her do it, yet we find lots of things wrapped and hidden .
Hello @Gratitude. It's Cheryl from Teepa's team. Thanks for watching Challenging Behaviors with Teepa. Thank you as well for recognizing what needs to change, that is our goal too!! Here is Teepa's mission: teepasnow.com/about/pac-mission-and-values/ Teepa believes that when people know better, they will do better! Help us bring awareness and knowledge to everyone by sharing and subscribing!! Here is another free resource you may like: (teepasnow.com/about-dementia/)
Gratitude are you aware that PAC offers 30 minute free consults with a PAC Consultant to explore strategies with you further to support you and your PLwD. As well please take a look at our Care Partner Support Series by clicking here : teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
You are so inspiring! Thank you for this video!
You are very welcome, @georginabassett9365. Thanks for watching and commenting too!
This is great! Looking for explanations and seeing things through their mind! If you want things to change, then you (the caregiver) has to change!
I agree, completely.
My only question, though, is how do you see a hallucination or a delusion from their perspective?
I mean, both hallucinations and delusions aren't real; it's all in the dementia patient's head.
Amazing example.....thank you sharing such a valuable vedio...
Such a beautiful video, thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Bravo!!!
I love it!!!
I get it. Thanks.
Awesome 💜💜💜💜
I am very simple minded how do I deal with wife with lewy who does not accept her condition doesn't think she has any issues. Zero short term now after 6 years. We just lost her fur baby dog now she doesn't understand continually calling for him. This morning woke up screaming and hollering demanding where's Juno in mean destructive manner. Cannot get her to accept tried telling her he went on a visit gone for awhile anything I can think to redirect but nothing works. She doesn't take meds won't take meds as there is nothing wrong with her in her mind
Hello @Joe. It's Cheryl from Teepa's team. Thanks for watching Challenging Behaviors with Teepa. Wow Joe I am so sorry for your loss of Juno. This would be very hard for sure for your wife and yourself!
Joe are you aware that PAC offers 30 minute free consults with a PAC Consultant to explore strategies with you further to support you and your wife. As well please take a look at our Care Partner Support Series by clicking here : teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
Blessings
What about those LO who already had behavior and social issues prior to being diagnosed with dementia? What about those who were narcissistic or selfish to begin with? What about those who were verbally abusive before this all started? And now they yell and scream and curse at you? How do you let that go? How do you diffuse it, even if you validate their feelings and they don't accept it? Someone who doesn't get instant validation or gratification as if they are a toddler again? When you validate what they say, and they still say you are against them? When you are in the midst of answering a question, and the person interrupts and then yells that you didn't listen to what that person was saying?
Yeah...that's really hard to work with - especially if you have had a long term relationship with this person. We do offer free consultations if you would like to speak with someone in more detail. Please connect with us via our website and we'll get you connected to someone who can help you figure out some things to try.
Very good. Now what would you do if someone's challenging behaviour is aggression, swearing, name calling and delusions? My father with bvFTD is constantly accusing me of stealing. He can't find his stuff because he is hiding them and in his hoarding home he can't find anything. Then he throws stuff at you and causes injury calling you names?
There's no easy answer for this but we do have some things to try. Alot of the HOW and WHY depends more on the details of who your father is and has always been. Please contact us via email or by phone and we can get you connected to someone who can talk more in details.
This is our 6th year with lewy going on 7 I have been home caring on my own for 4 of them years and currently have a live in carer who helps now
Hello @Joe. It's Cheryl from Teepa's team reaching back out to you! Joe I am so happy to read that you are no longer the lone ranger with your wife's care. Joe I have added this information once again to be sure that you see it-PAC offers 30 minute free consults with a PAC Consultant to explore strategies with you further to support you and your wife. As well please take a look at our Care Partner Support Series by clicking here : teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
Very helpful, thanks
Glad to hear it @user-re6wj6hr6b
My mother in law was diagnosed with Dementia 3 years ago. She has lived with us for 3 1/2 years. She is fixated with urination. Hardly anything comes out but she insists on sitting on the toilet. She drinks less than 8oz of liquid a day for almost 70 years . Recently she has started taking dirty napkins, Kleenex, paper towels, coffee filters and dryer sheets out of trash cans both at home and in public to wipe with later. We keep finding them stashed in her drawers, pockets, and bed. She has wiped with these filthy things. We are at our wits ends.
Hello, @Alive With Hemp, it sounds like there have been a lot of challenges for all of you in this dementia journey. We would be happy to help you figure things out, so please contact us for a free 30-minute consultation (consult@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671). You may also want check out some resources at our website through this search (teepasnow.com/search/?search=challenging)
How do you do that in the middle of the street? Or simply when said behaviour is dangerous for them? How do you do that when you need to act quickly? I'm always scared to take my Dad for a walk because he wants to cross the street wherever he wants and not in the traffic lights.
Wow @Su Tash great question for sure. Dad's safety is very important and not recognizing safety awareness can be scary for sure. Su Tash are you aware that PAC offers 30 minute free consults with a PAC Consultant to explore strategies with you further to support you and your PLwD. As well please take a look at our Care Partner Support Series by clicking here : teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
thats wonderful
Thank you for watching and reaching out! Did you know Teepa is now on TikTok, too? She has been sharing short "how to" type clips if you'd like to check her out.
I get it
Very Good video very helpful tips
Thanks, @Dewii-qo2ed! Glad that you found the tips helpful.
I really have enjoyed your videos, why'll I'm in school to become a care aide.❤
Hey, @pinky pie! So glad to know that you want to be a care aide. Congrats on that decision! If you ever want to connect with our team, please visit www.teepasnow.com or contact us at info@teepasnow.com
Hi Teepa, it would be super helpful if you could give some tips on communicating remotely with our loved ones who are agitated or angry. I'm in lockdown in a different city and am not permitted to visit. I call her every day on Facetime and am running out of things to tell my mother to distract her from her anger over a couple of subjects that she's fixated on. I am in the process of applying for control over her affairs and I'm expecting a very irate reaction and don't know how to approach trying to explain it to her or calm her, especially since I cannot even be in the same city as her when it happens. Please help!
We have some videos that you might find helpful on our playlist titled Dementia and Contagion Control. If that doesn't work, please connect with us via teepasnow.com and we can setup a time to meet with you for a free consultation.
Very good learning Material
Glad you think so!
She's a shaman and she's clearing the old energy from the chairs. Just saying it's possible.
@MaryAine - you are too funny, we haven't heard that one yet, but entirely possible! Thanks for bringing some light and humor with you wherever you go.
I saw rhythm and music during the first part.
@inlywriter , this is Paula from the PAC team. Rhythm and music can be very important. I am adding a link to a you tube video that Teepa has on Music and Rhythm I hope you find it useful.
ua-cam.com/video/m-lckAgnVQw/v-deo.html
Please check out our website at teepasnow.com for a lot more resources. Have a great day.
I train positive approaches for the agency I am employed with. We work with persons who have disabilities both Intellectual Disabilities and Mental Health Diagnosis. We also work with people who have Acquired Brain Injury. I love your approach , it is much like my own. MEET THE NEED~.....I use the SCIP R (Strategies in crisis intervention prevention ) and Positive approaches....it works. Do you ever speak publicly and would you be interested in speaking to our group?
Hey Barb, Thanks for connecting with us. Teepa and her team speak all over the world. Please visit our website to learn more or to get contact info for more info on our curriculum.
She looks like she's blessing those chairs to me. I'd ask her if she needs help, lol. I'll get the holy water ;) (I like Teepa's approach of course, that worked too ;)
Thank you for watching, if you need more assistance please reach out to our free 30 minute consult at teepasnow.com/services/consulting/phone-consultations/.
My mother’s unmet need is she needs her cat and memory care will not allow her cat to live with her. Another unmet need: she wants to come back to my home and have me cater to her 24/7. Only me. She does not want memory care. She does not need help. That’s what she tells me. She says I’m a hateful person to make her live there. I have no answers. I’m just a bad person and it really hurts, as a daughter, to be verbally abused by my mother. I drove 60 miles today to take her to her favorite woman who does her hair. All mom did was put me down and complain about me. And missing her cat. She usually loves going to get her hair done. I give up. It just seems she hates me and I can’t take her verbal abuse. She was a controlling person all her life and she doesn’t have all that control anymore and I can’t make it better for her and I’m not wanting to see her anymore because of her verbal abuse. I have other stressors in my life. I can’t take more painful things hitting me in the heart.
Hi, @gracegrace1896, I'm so sorry that you are dealing with so much anger from your mother. It is so hard to deal with someone who now has trouble understanding all that happening for herself as well as you. It's just not fair is it? I'm wondering if you would like to connect with one of our team to talk through things. We offer a free 30-minute consult at consult@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671. Maybe we can help you find some coping mechanisms for yourself and some ways to interact that may not cause the pain for both of you. I hope that we hear from you soon. We are here to help you.
I shouldn't say "misbehaving"; it's more like they think the person with dementia isn't listening. For example, a physical therapist I meet will raise his voice a bit if the person with dementia doesn't follow directions.
IT'S NOT THAT THEIR NOT FOLLOWING DIRECTIONS, PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GOSH, IT'S JUST SO ANNOYING, THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE I MEET THINK IN TERMS OF THE DEMENTIA PERSON "FOLLOWING DIRECTIONS" OR "LISTENING"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THEY JUST DON'T GET IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW COME!!!!!!!????!!!!!!!
Wait. Empathy is fine. Not judging. Even better. Here’s the thing: you will never get in their shoes, NEVER. You had better hope! Do step back, but stop the figuring. Wait and come back later. I don’t always have to know what’s going on when you take out knives and leave them around the house. Disturbing especially since you are so angry. And I know WHY you are angry because I’m not a novice at this anymore. It has nothing to do with me. What I do tho is Put them back. No talking. Redirect to the next best thing. Happens again? We continue. No judgement but the knives could turn into weapons. Why would I act like the person with no sense? All needs cannot be met including mine! The difference is I know where to go with my unmet needs and my sister does not.
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Sonia, Thank You! If you are looking for more content please subscribe to my UA-cam channel as well as to our free monthly Online Dementia Journal (teepasnow.com/online-dementia-journal/).
what about cussing you out, being verbing abusive?!!!!!!
@Sherry, This language can be absolutely surprising and frustrating when you are trying to help! We have lots of videos that explain why this is happening and what to do about it!
Check out:
ua-cam.com/video/0BlZF_4EKp4/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/VWZmGAUS4VQ/v-deo.html
teepasnow.com/blog/language-changes/
teepasnow.com/blog/teepa_snow_tips_for_communicating_better/
teepasnow.com/about-dementia/
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Hi I have a question am new to cna. There is no personal history on our residents and so I know very little about. Just kinda piece together what I can. I have all the behaviors on my side as they say. Very little family sees they but if they i do ask if its ok to ask questions about the resident to get know they better so i can give better care. But again since I've started only 3 out of 12 has had visitors in 2 months. My question when I have a prone to violence resident one minute shes sweet and laughing next a switch hits and have to keep an eye one her. I know what music she likes i play it one minute she will be fine with it next angry. Whats the best way to care for her.
Hi Julie - thank you for connecting. Please connect with our consultant team so that they can provide some more info and resources: teepasnow.com/services/consulting/phone-consultations/
Just one question I have is how would this advice work with paranoia, and other delusions?
That's a bit of a different game and really depends on the person you are working with. Email us if you would like to learn more or want to speak with someone. We would want to get some more detail from you to help you figure out some things to try.
Also, did Ms. Leona actually get to go to the bathroom in the end, or did you have to change her?
Yes - she did!
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You mean she went to the bathroom, right?
@@jordanshepetofsky2677, Yes, she went to the bathroom:-)
But none of this explains how to get my husband to quit hitting and kicking me.
Hey Angela, I'm so sorry! Unfortunately, hitting and kicking can't be solved with a video. Please connect with us via email and we can connect you with someone that can discuss this in detail and help you figure out some things to try.
Talk about stating the obvious. Sorry, but this woman comes across as aggressive. She’s doing exactly what I have been doing for the past 32 years with dementia patients. Stop judging people to be idiots.
Hello, @Gareth Farmer, I'm sorry if you find Teepa's tone aggressive. She definitely didn't mean it to come across that way. Many people do not realize how judgement and making quick assessments might not garner the type or response we are hoping to get. I'm also glad that you've been doing work with those living with dementia for such a long time. I'm sure that you could share even more with us. Please consider reaching out to talk to someone on our team as we would very much like to learn. Please email info@teepasnow.com or call us at 1-877-877-1671.