We keep downplaying physical attraction in the Christian Community, and this is a big issue. I think we tend to mix being spiritually different from non-believers with our physical design which is the same. Attraction is a natural part of our design, with both men and women seeking specific traits in partners. For men, youth and beauty often signify reproductive potential, while for women, height, competence, and strength can indicate protection and provision. These preferences are hardwired into us and shouldn't be ignored. If you're not physically attracted to someone, it's wise to consider whether pursuing a romantic relationship is the right path. Prayer would be the right recommendation to ask God for guidance and for such attraction to show up if it's his will. But if that doesn't happen and you walk into this you're setting yourself up for a difficult relationship long-term. It's true that physical traits fade away, but it normally takes 30-40 years to happen, which is most of your life.
Exactly right, attraction is natural and a good gift from God. No one should ever date or marry someone they are not physically attracted to because it will cause a lot of heartache and become a breeding ground for resentment. I wouldn't want to marry someone that isn't physically attracted to me. There is a reason why so many wives and husbands start having serious marital issues and have their self-esteem destroyed upon hearing that their spouse doesn't find them attractive.
The “some subpar parts” comes out fast with me and often leaves me alone with the “what are you doing with your life, money, job or career, etc.” My history is one of brokenness and suffering with me just coming back to Jesus and the Sacraments recently at 28. Despite the sins and trying to makeup for my lost years right out of college, it’s hard finding someone to look past it all in comparison to those my age who have the career and stability.
6:21- 6:33 “that’s a characteristic that they can’t change.” Ugh, this is true! I am realizing I’m not extending the same grace that I have requiring from others about myself. Forgive me Lord 😩 Help me to see them the way YOU see them. Give me discernment on if this person is for me amen 🙏
So there was this guy I went on a few dates with who had lots of similar interests as me, but he also came across as closeted homosexual. I tried to look past that. But when even he was joking about his interests and all his friends being women kinda making him seem gay…I just couldn’t laugh along. Had to end it. 😓
In this context there is nothing like "just dating": we should always take into consideration the person as a story with a past, present and future in which I might be invited to participate. A date is not just this dinner we are sharing this evening. Taking it as "just a moment of fun" would be a lack of respect for the other person. We can never ignore the big question: could this person be my better half? They will be studying each other, even if there is mostly chitchat, jokes, laughter and so on. Human love is such a serious thing that every time you are "just dating" a nice guy / girl, they are both wondering: could this be the one? If the answer is "not", out of respect, I should stop playing with the feelings of the other one. Maybe I consider it "just a date", but what if the other person is falling in love? The sooner I get out of there, the better: to continue playing would be cruel.
We keep downplaying physical attraction in the Christian Community, and this is a big issue. I think we tend to mix being spiritually different from non-believers with our physical design which is the same.
Attraction is a natural part of our design, with both men and women seeking specific traits in partners. For men, youth and beauty often signify reproductive potential, while for women, height, competence, and strength can indicate protection and provision. These preferences are hardwired into us and shouldn't be ignored.
If you're not physically attracted to someone, it's wise to consider whether pursuing a romantic relationship is the right path. Prayer would be the right recommendation to ask God for guidance and for such attraction to show up if it's his will. But if that doesn't happen and you walk into this you're setting yourself up for a difficult relationship long-term.
It's true that physical traits fade away, but it normally takes 30-40 years to happen, which is most of your life.
Exactly right, attraction is natural and a good gift from God. No one should ever date or marry someone they are not physically attracted to because it will cause a lot of heartache and become a breeding ground for resentment.
I wouldn't want to marry someone that isn't physically attracted to me. There is a reason why so many wives and husbands start having serious marital issues and have their self-esteem destroyed upon hearing that their spouse doesn't find them attractive.
Okay, okay this channel is so amazing and full of rich theology! Have y’all done a video of attraction while married??
The “some subpar parts” comes out fast with me and often leaves me alone with the “what are you doing with your life, money, job or career, etc.” My history is one of brokenness and suffering with me just coming back to Jesus and the Sacraments recently at 28. Despite the sins and trying to makeup for my lost years right out of college, it’s hard finding someone to look past it all in comparison to those my age who have the career and stability.
6:21- 6:33 “that’s a characteristic that they can’t change.” Ugh, this is true! I am realizing I’m not extending the same grace that I have requiring from others about myself. Forgive me Lord 😩
Help me to see them the way YOU see them.
Give me discernment on if this person is for me amen 🙏
Thank you so much for this video. Many great and practical advises for young people and not only! I appreciate so much your content! God bless!
This really helped! Thank you
So what should you do if your spouse lets themselves get wildly overweight? Should you not say anything to spare their feelings?
Speak up! Heart disease, diabetes, hypertension, and stroke don't care about our feelings.
I wish I heard this 60 years ago.
So there was this guy I went on a few dates with who had lots of similar interests as me, but he also came across as closeted homosexual. I tried to look past that. But when even he was joking about his interests and all his friends being women kinda making him seem gay…I just couldn’t laugh along.
Had to end it. 😓
What about when it comes to just dating?
In this context there is nothing like "just dating": we should always take into consideration the person as a story with a past, present and future in which I might be invited to participate. A date is not just this dinner we are sharing this evening. Taking it as "just a moment of fun" would be a lack of respect for the other person. We can never ignore the big question: could this person be my better half? They will be studying each other, even if there is mostly chitchat, jokes, laughter and so on. Human love is such a serious thing that every time you are "just dating" a nice guy / girl, they are both wondering: could this be the one? If the answer is "not", out of respect, I should stop playing with the feelings of the other one. Maybe I consider it "just a date", but what if the other person is falling in love? The sooner I get out of there, the better: to continue playing would be cruel.
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