May Allah reward you Ustadah Fatima and Sh Haitham for sharing your words of wisdom. May Allah grant us the ability to raise righteous children. Allahuma Ameen
Masha’Allah. One of the best pieces of advice I received was to enrol kids in madrassa from an early age, to establish the discipline of seeking knowledge every day and to get them used to being in a 100% Islamic environment, even if for just a couple of hours a day.
It’s easy to say “have a unified vision” but hard to accomplish practically. Agreement on the role of religion is usually difficult, unless there is a natural convergence or a predetermined selection prior to marriage. The shaykh needs to move beyond slogans and perhaps address this complex matter with more detail and insight, especially in instances where this issue was not considered or addressed explicitly prior to marriage and children.
I’m sorry if this comes across rude, I’m just curious. If Islam does turn out to be a man made religion, because there’s a very real chance it is (otherwise there would be consensus on religion), would you not feel bad for indoctrinating your kids before they reached the age they could decide for themselves what to believe in? Concepts like hell are incredibly powerful tools at removing any desire or ability to question from kids, just something to think about. I write this as someone who loves an ex-Muslim who has suffered deeply due to the environment she had been raised in and that trauma has stayed for many years. Recently it’s even been given a name in the medical community- Religious Trauma Syndrome, and the more fundamentalist the approach the more likely it is and stronger it presents. Sorry if this is completely unwanted I just felt it might be helpful to share 😊
I don’t know the details of the ex Muslim, but at first I don’t think that is linked to religion, but to cultural “rules”, as if you have a true pure heart and you follow the rules of Islam, cause we are not allowed to harm one another. I myself suffers from many forms of abuse by a (shia) Muslim, who said in his abuse that it was totally Islamic. But now I got out I know it was never Islam that allowed what happend to me. It was cultural and because of his own traumas. I’m not saying that a religious person never hurts another human but if you look at de Islamic rules it’s just not justified but forbidden and the abuser will be punished very hard by Allah.
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May Allah reward you Ustadah Fatima and Sh Haitham for sharing your words of wisdom. May Allah grant us the ability to raise righteous children. Allahuma Ameen
Same to you. Ameen
Masha’Allah. One of the best pieces of advice I received was to enrol kids in madrassa from an early age, to establish the discipline of seeking knowledge every day and to get them used to being in a 100% Islamic environment, even if for just a couple of hours a day.
Alhamdulillah
جزاك الله خير أستاذة فاطمة
Wa iyyakum
I'm from India 😅
It’s easy to say “have a unified vision” but hard to accomplish practically. Agreement on the role of religion is usually difficult, unless there is a natural convergence or a predetermined selection prior to marriage. The shaykh needs to move beyond slogans and perhaps address this complex matter with more detail and insight, especially in instances where this issue was not considered or addressed explicitly prior to marriage and children.
My webinar about writing a vision for your family may be helpful: www.raisingbelievers.com/workbook
I’m sorry if this comes across rude, I’m just curious. If Islam does turn out to be a man made religion, because there’s a very real chance it is (otherwise there would be consensus on religion), would you not feel bad for indoctrinating your kids before they reached the age they could decide for themselves what to believe in?
Concepts like hell are incredibly powerful tools at removing any desire or ability to question from kids, just something to think about.
I write this as someone who loves an ex-Muslim who has suffered deeply due to the environment she had been raised in and that trauma has stayed for many years. Recently it’s even been given a name in the medical community- Religious Trauma Syndrome, and the more fundamentalist the approach the more likely it is and stronger it presents.
Sorry if this is completely unwanted I just felt it might be helpful to share 😊
I don’t know the details of the ex Muslim, but at first I don’t think that is linked to religion, but to cultural “rules”, as if you have a true pure heart and you follow the rules of Islam, cause we are not allowed to harm one another.
I myself suffers from many forms of abuse by a (shia) Muslim, who said in his abuse that it was totally Islamic. But now I got out I know it was never Islam that allowed what happend to me. It was cultural and because of his own traumas.
I’m not saying that a religious person never hurts another human but if you look at de Islamic rules it’s just not justified but forbidden and the abuser will be punished very hard by Allah.