I think her parents adjusted well in protecting the image of the dad. If it was dealt with restlessly the dad would have been exposed, for example if it happened that the times she asked for money the dad would always say I don't have and the mother would be the one giving money, than money would have been a big problem
Am i the only one who noticed how she really tried to dodge confirming that an unemployed husband also deserves to be maintained? She rather responded by giving an example where a man squandered his pension Anyway thanks for the topic it's very insightful, marriage is a beautiful thing and issues of separation always have massive implications on involved parties and their families.
This is weird what she is saying about the 3 or 4 cases where men/husbands were claiming from their [ex]wives. So, if the household has a helpers does it follow that upon divorce the spouse who is not working cannot claim from the working spouse? Is there any legal definition or requirement that a spouse who is not working ought to be doing to qualify them of a claim upon divorce?
This thing of spousal maintenance is a problem, fine they were unemployed for a duration of the marriage but why must I be the one to maintain them? We already divorced, I have other problems to deal with and other financial commitments since life continues... They must just get a job 🤔, is there something I'm missing here?
@@babalomandela6792 Lol, setback how? Don't women have jobs? Anyway I'm not angry, just puzzled as to why I would need to maintain a grown adult with two hands and a functioning mind.
@@budgetbossrsa yea. Marriage only curb expenses for the both of you, that you might have been living separately. For me there's cultural, religion & contract marriage(which is the birth of the those two marriage failures). The power abuse of cultural & religions marriage end us with these laws, of sanity. The spousal maintain is more of that person cannot/wont/doesn't want to be employed ever again, you got fund them & also your kids.
@@babalomandela6792 you're gonna to excuse me a bit because I like to argue a lot. Traditional roles in a marriage are that the man is the provider and the female is the naturer, and she looks after the home. In this case, I am for things like Spousal maintainance because how else would she look after herself since she was not expected to work either way during the marriage. These days, modern times, both the man and female work. So why would you be expected to pay spousal maintenance in that case? This is the case that I'm against and the case where someone point blank refuses to look for work and they're perfectly able - Women must stop being bums and look at a men to provide in 2024, times have changed.
Are south africans still getting married? Yhoooo in this high divorce rate its like a competition. The last time marriage was a family thing was during the time of our forefathers now marriage is a business. Labafazi abaphuza kuze kuyovalwa worst in South Africa
We do get married. Remember that marriage is from God. And sex without marriage leads you straight to hell. How easy it is for people to forget God and glorify the troubles of this world.
@@nathanaelbartholomew thank you for clearing that up. God comes first in marriage but in ur days it's all about material things. The divorce rate is so high in South Africa ts scary All these kids getting raised by single parents. Another thing we left our African values especially in South Africa. We trying so much to be Americans.
Sho David, i am a bit fan of your podcast. Just one suggestion, when you invite a guest can you go straight to the fundamental questions please, we want want to hear what attracted us to the inteview. If you can limit questions around families, how people were raised, where they schooled, their background etc, because sometimes 3 hours of interview is too much! If you interview a sangoma, go straight to the main questions, no one wants to hear how the father/mother of the sangoma treated them when they were growing up, you get me?
For some reason I disagree with you. The interview wouldn't be authentic . One thing I like about David is authenticity plus you get nice insights when he goes to background
Any man that wants to get married these days is crazy!
If the women respect the man family will last forever ❣️
We get married because marriage is a gift from God. Not all of us live by our instincts. Some of us have taken the word of Jesus Christ to heart.
King David .. one day, I'll be your guest .. mark my wish and remember my name . NOLLEN MDAKA
The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil.
Lack of money is the root of all evil😅
Can't survive without it
I think her parents adjusted well in protecting the image of the dad. If it was dealt with restlessly the dad would have been exposed, for example if it happened that the times she asked for money the dad would always say I don't have and the mother would be the one giving money, than money would have been a big problem
Am i the only one who noticed how she really tried to dodge confirming that an unemployed husband also deserves to be maintained? She rather responded by giving an example where a man squandered his pension
Anyway thanks for the topic it's very insightful, marriage is a beautiful thing and issues of separation always have massive implications on involved parties and their families.
This is weird what she is saying about the 3 or 4 cases where men/husbands were claiming from their [ex]wives. So, if the household has a helpers does it follow that upon divorce the spouse who is not working cannot claim from the working spouse? Is there any legal definition or requirement that a spouse who is not working ought to be doing to qualify them of a claim upon divorce?
So the law now forces you to spy on you ex🤨
This thing of spousal maintenance is a problem, fine they were unemployed for a duration of the marriage but why must I be the one to maintain them? We already divorced, I have other problems to deal with and other financial commitments since life continues... They must just get a job 🤔, is there something I'm missing here?
😂No. You just angry. The marriage is the contract that protects women, as it reveals they take setback at by being with you, you've
@@babalomandela6792 Lol, setback how? Don't women have jobs? Anyway I'm not angry, just puzzled as to why I would need to maintain a grown adult with two hands and a functioning mind.
@@budgetbossrsa yea. Marriage only curb expenses for the both of you, that you might have been living separately. For me there's cultural, religion & contract marriage(which is the birth of the those two marriage failures). The power abuse of cultural & religions marriage end us with these laws, of sanity. The spousal maintain is more of that person cannot/wont/doesn't want to be employed ever again, you got fund them & also your kids.
@@babalomandela6792 you're gonna to excuse me a bit because I like to argue a lot.
Traditional roles in a marriage are that the man is the provider and the female is the naturer, and she looks after the home. In this case, I am for things like Spousal maintainance because how else would she look after herself since she was not expected to work either way during the marriage.
These days, modern times, both the man and female work. So why would you be expected to pay spousal maintenance in that case? This is the case that I'm against and the case where someone point blank refuses to look for work and they're perfectly able - Women must stop being bums and look at a men to provide in 2024, times have changed.
Are south africans still getting married? Yhoooo in this high divorce rate its like a competition.
The last time marriage was a family thing was during the time of our forefathers now marriage is a business.
Labafazi abaphuza kuze kuyovalwa worst in South Africa
We do get married. Remember that marriage is from God. And sex without marriage leads you straight to hell. How easy it is for people to forget God and glorify the troubles of this world.
@@nathanaelbartholomew thank you for clearing that up. God comes first in marriage but in ur days it's all about material things. The divorce rate is so high in South Africa ts scary
All these kids getting raised by single parents. Another thing we left our African values especially in South Africa. We trying so much to be Americans.
Sho David, i am a bit fan of your podcast. Just one suggestion, when you invite a guest can you go straight to the fundamental questions please, we want want to hear what attracted us to the inteview. If you can limit questions around families, how people were raised, where they schooled, their background etc, because sometimes 3 hours of interview is too much! If you interview a sangoma, go straight to the main questions, no one wants to hear how the father/mother of the sangoma treated them when they were growing up, you get me?
Sure, I get you. I also get the people who want to hear the whole story.
Thank you for your support.
For some reason I disagree with you.
The interview wouldn't be authentic .
One thing I like about David is authenticity plus you get nice insights when he goes to background
I also disagree with you. When people open up, they end up giving information they would not give in 5 minutes.
Make your own podcast, buy a notebook take notes as you continue to watch king David. This man is one of the finest in the industry.