my mom didnt want anyOne wear black recently with my Bother funeral we just dressed casual n it was ONLY fam . BOTH times was more of a celebration to be HAPPY they was in our lifes (iSTILL think they are.. if memories still there then they are too) _it just depends on the person on what/how funeral_
Those who feel appalled are obviously privileged, go to a poor town, everyone goes in what they have and it’s fine. Adrienne and Loni understand, which I really appreciate.
Ummm, ever heard of a thrift store?!?! You can pop by and get a blazer and slacks for under $10. Not having money to "dress up" is not an excuse, it's disrespectful and lazy.
@@alos.h256 It's called go to the thrift store! You can get yourself a black dress for $5. SMDH. It's disrespectful and lazy to just "come as you are".
Coley Girl, not everyone’s trying to buy morbid clothing to look good at a damn funeral, especially when- like I said- NOBODY minds it. It’s not like people are going in bathing suits. Unless YOU wanna pay for everyone’s clothes I suggest you shut your mouth and wear whatever you want, without shaming others. Stop being ignorant and shallow.
I went to my first funeral at 21. My boss father passed and during that time I was living paycheck to paycheck and couldn’t afford a pair of nice slacks or dress. So I wore jeans . Plus, we were forced to go since the office was closed .
What have this world come to. You don't wear no Jeans to a Funeral, Why would you even want to because all morals has went out the window. Jeans Really.. That's what wrong people saying why should it matter What Matter, Something Got to Matter.
@@Taikyaa You have your opinion do not tell me what I should feel about the situation, I gave my opinion I can put it together the way I wish just like you. That's why I am getting ready now to go to the House of Worship, with my Dress and Stocking and Hills on. You have a Moral Day.
Doris Coleman again jeans have nothing to do with your morals! Just like you going to church every weekend doesn’t ensure your spot in heaven’ or also have anything to do with morals. Have a great Revaluation day.🌹
thank you, in my culture as well, black isn't the color for funerals it's actually white. So on the day of the funeral and days leading up .. colors are common.. white, purple, people still wear black of course, but you can wear any bright color you want but typically people go for muted or basic colors.
I’m with Adrienne and genuinely confused.. I’m from The Bronx, we didn’t dress up for the wake or funerals.. we would go after school or work and came as we were to pay our respects because ultimately that’s what truly mattered and what we were there for, not for a fashion show.
Yes in my families part of Mexico it’s very impoverished and thrift stores might still be considered a luxury if they existed in that area people wore their regular clothes, but then again all the older ladies always had a way of dressing that managed looking put together even if poor. People didn’t and still don’t dress in all black, of course some other parts of Mexico might. My grandma had her funeral here in the Bronx and people came dressed in a mix of black and non black clothing and it was so not a big deal. Who is that vain? Seems like a first world problem to be mad about people not wearing black....
I come from asian descent so idk if it's how I was brought up..but I think it shouldn't be a fashion show, but some clothes are appropriate and some can be seen as disrespectful to some people. For instance, if I knew there was a funeral, it would be looked down upon to wear a revealing tank top and mini skirt, or dirty ripped jeans with a graphic t shirt and hoodie you wore for the past 3 weeks. Or flip flops, silettos, etc. If you have no other clothes and you pay your respects I wouldn't see it as disrespectful. But at the same time, if you have an entire wardrobe and still dress raggedy..(ex: ripped up, dirty, clothes) it is questionable. If you know everyone is expected to wear a certain color, do it, OR if jeans are allowed, fine. But don't be raggedy.. I think it's best to be mindful and respectful on how you present yourself at a funeral, you don't have to be extravagant and make it a "look at me it's a fashion show" thing either and inspect other's outfits like it's a competition. Dress humbly but appropriately, make the event about the person who passed and honor the life they lived. It's really about respecting the one who passed and their immediate family, you don't want to offend the ones who are grieving most.
Asia Poles I think it depends on the church. If I go to church with my grandma, a very Catholic Church, everyone dresses up. At the church my family goes to, it’s very relaxed so we don’t have to dress up. And, just saying, I appreciate it very much because me and my brother both have chronic illnesses that make waking up early and getting ready hard.
But why should it matter what people wear in church- like honestly god don’t even care about that cause the people who be all dressed down still be sinners , still be fornicating, don’t even be living righteous. Honestly the relationship that you have with God is the only thing that matters, cause that cute dress and heels you have on is not getting you into heaven 🤧.
kai I agree with that if people want to dress up for church that is fine but that does not insure you are going to heaven like Jesus doesn’t care what you wear. He cares more about your spirt and heart than anything else.
@@blackngold007 Make up doesn't change your features it's like a painting on your face, that doesn't men it can make your cheeks smaller or eyebrows higher, it can not change physical features
@@kayleesmith6756 true, but depending on how good you are at doing make up you have the ability to give it that illusion. Just like how artists make their paintings seem so life like. Make up can make you look like a whole different person and you know it.
I went to a memorial in the middle of the school day, I had on my uniform. And this summer, I went to two funerals. I didn't necessarily dress up, but I wore a black dress and black sandals. As long as you wear the right colors, I don't think it should matter what you wear.
There is no reason for anyone to feel unwelcome at a funeral because of their clothes, PERIOD. You are there to say your goodbyes, pay your respects, and console the grieving. Love, grief, and comfort doesn't have a dress code.
@@mynameisstolen Absolutely not true. Judging by your response, you have bigger issues than jeans at a funeral. But you know… try to have a better day… or work on yourself as a person. Both are great options. 😁
You dont have to buy new clothes. Wear something that you would wear to a interview...I'm sure people got something decent in their closet. If not, there is a goodwill and also maybe a family or friend would let you borrow something. Alot of times...just come like Loni said. Dont come because you dont feel like your dressed up. People remember your attendance than your clothes as time goes by.
@@celestematthews3266 Wrong. The Lord don't care about your stupid clothes. You'd be the first to pass judgment on people who look like crap in church and the Lord has spoken on that behavior in the Bible. God hates that kind of judgment and man made rules in the church.
That whole thought process seems really old fashioned to me. You're there at church isn't that all that matters? I'm not saying show up all scantily clad but the whole having to dress up thing doesn't make much sense. Jesus already got you there he shouldn't care what you're wearing he should only care that you're there.
Dani Swift I agree to an extent but I feel like if we make an effort to dress professionally to go to work and dress well to go to weddings and other important events, why are people so unwilling to dress well when they are going to fellowship? It’s the lack of effort that makes question things. I think this logic would only apply for me if you have a person who doesn’t dress well to go anywhere and likewise, doesn’t dress well to go to church either. But if you have person who will pull out all the stops to impress at other events but wouldn’t even put on a proper dress shirt or pants for church, I think that person should just search within themselves and find out why they don’t view church to be an important event and which of these events holds the most power in their lives.
Kat A. Church isn’t an event though at all since when was church ever in event? I don’t care what people wear the church doesn’t matter to me at all what does matter is their heart and their love for god. How they dress and what they look like does not matter to me at all.
morgan glenn Unless you go to church every single day, I consider church to be an “event.” We set aside a specific time weekly to go to church, and most people don’t even do that. Most people go to church on holidays. So I maintain my original word use. It’s not like going to the supermarket or going to the post office. It’s a place of worship that people go to on special occasions or routinely every week. It’s perfectly fine if you don’t care what people wear in church. However, I would hope you hold that same logic in your every day life. I’m an accountant. Would you hire me to do your tax return if you met me in my office and I had on sweats, a tank top and my hair was unkempt? My point here is why do we hold people to a higher standard in our daily lives, but when it comes to church, people don’t even want to make the bare minimum effort to look presentable and come up with every excuse in the book? If you can’t afford a nice outfit, by all means, come as you are. But then those same people who can’t afford a $10 belt for church will turn around and spend $300 on a pair of yeezys to flash around in front of all their friends. The problem is not that people don’t dress up to go to church. I don’t care whether anyone dresses up to go to church. The problem is the lack of effort and people’s willingness to go above and beyond in other aspects of their lives but not when it comes to God. “Do not come any closer. Take off your sandals, for the place where you are standing is holy ground.” That line ought to be a guideline for us in how we view church. It’s a holy place and the way that we choose to present ourselves should glorify God.
Kat A. Yes I hold the same standard in my real life do I agree with you in everything you said no not all but I respect your opinion in the matter. I don’t think we need to to dress a special way to glorify god at all. Wearing nicer clothes doesn’t make you anymore holy than you are. I think this is the problem with church now we care more about appearance than people this days.
We always had to wear black or white to funerals. Or at least dress nicely like what we would wear to church but maybe its because were religious so it was always a church service. I guess i dont really mind jeans as long as its not jean booty shorts 😂 i may be dead but im still watching you
I think we need to distinguish the difference between VIEWINGS and funerals. Viewings are much more casual, come and go type processions, so in my opinion, you don’t need to dress fancy.
Who are the people thinking of dress code at a funeral. When I lost my mom, I was on the floor crying and a big mess in general. Today makes it a year. ♥
From the Bronx NY, even though I was brought up getting dressed up for a funeral I’m also use to seeing people go in jeans. Honestly you’re there to pay respect to the deceased not for a fashion show for everyone else.
As a fellow New Yorker (not speaking for all of us), but I understand Adrienne. A lot of the funerals I went to would be split up in 2 Separate days anyways, so day one would be a viewing where you can come pay your respects to the family, come view the body, and have whatever private conversation you wanted to have. Day 2 or 3 would typically be the actually home going service, where more people would tend to dress up, and who ever wanted to go to the burial after was more than welcomed.
I have only been to two funerals and both were religious. Beforehand when people were just stopping by and paying their respects were wearing everyday clothes. When their was the actual funeral everyone was dressed up but it was only close friends and family.
I think it's more about how a person was raised. I'm from Michigan and I was taught to regard funeral as a serious occasion and that it's in good manner to dress as such. We never had to go out to buy "new" clothes for a funeral because we always had "dressy" clothing. I'm sure a good majority of us working adults have something nice in our closet to wear..... Interview clothes will also suffice
Have a Good Day you are exactly right . I just buried my great grand mother a week ago and did I have on a full suit .. no but I had on dress slacks nice shoes and. A short collar shirt.. but I would have not dared to walk in that church with jeans on ... my mother and grandmother would have killed me😂
This is interesting because coming from an African household,dressing up for a funeral is what’s required from everyone. You can’t rock up to a funeral with the clothes you clean the house with,hai😂🙅🏾♀️.
It’s a great discussion! At first I was absolutely you dress up. Then Adrienne showed a different environment then some are used to growing up in. It’s funny how when you don’t have money at all... it becomes less about who you’re, what you’re wearing and more about showing up to pay respect to the person who everyone lost. Love that
adrienne grew in a latino community cause that’s exactly how we do it in Puerto Rico too. I would go to funerals in my school uniform, jeans or anything i had on. my mom would just tell me “we have a funeral to go to and we going after i pick you up from school” and we would go as is. at least we don’t really see anything with it 🤷🏻♀️
Its so good to see most people on the comments agreeing that respect matters more than clothing. And understanding that not everybody is a rich celebrity.
It sounds like Adrienne is describing a “wake” or viewing and Tamera is describing a funeral. Where I’m from People don’t walk in and out of a funeral. Generally people dressed up for funerals. Especially since they usually happened in a church. Doesn’t mean it must stay that way or that’s the only way but that’s why people dressed up
2:35 ‘it’s weird talking about it’ this is one of those moments where you can tell Tamera realized how privileged she is. Adrienne is describing what it’s like to grow up in poverty. In the hood, it’s a struggle just to afford burying a loved one let alone dressing up for their funeral. I can tell Tamera felt a bit uneasy. It’s not her fault though, she didn’t live that life. I’m glad Adrienne brought it up, though.
As I was a child and attended my first funeral of a close person in my life I was very insecure because I didn't know what to wear and my mum told me to wear something I'm very comfortable in because my grandma wouldn't mind if I could've asked her. And to this day that's what I believe in, it's about the person who passed away, not about what you're wearing. Ofc you don't show up wearing something inappropriate but that's common sense I think.
I’m with Adrienne. The only time I’ve “dressed up” is for immediate family. Now I’m not going in jogging pants but some nice jeans is ok. At least for me. And when I die I will haunt anyone who comes to my funeral in black lol
I never put thought into this... When a family passes the least I’m worried about is slaying an outfit. I’ve been so down dressed for all the funerals I’ve attended. The clothes I wear is the last thing on mind, or not even in mind
THANK YOU! Many of the comments on this video were just too ridiculous. As if anyone said you had to buy new clothes to attend a funeral. NOOOO! If you already have something nice to wear or something dressy, okay fine, wear it! If not, nobody's asking you to break the bank on clothes. Just keep in mind the occasion and exercise common sense when getting dressed, geez!
At my dads funeral, his tradie (plumbers, builders etc) friends showed up in their work gear. They had taken time off to come and pay their respects. The local rugby team who my dad coached showed up in their rugby uniforms. In my culture, only the immediate family wear black. Everyone else can wear whatever they want. It's the attendance that counts, not the appearance.
When Adrienne mention that in New York people just come off the street to pay their respects i think its called a "viewing" I just went to a funeral and before the funeral their was something called a "viewing" which anybody can just come off the street dressed very casual to pay their respects then the day after is the mass "funeral" at the church where you want to dress formal and then its the commute to the cementary to lay them down in their final resting place. I always dress up for a funeral going casual just seems lazy.
I feel like Jeannie and Tamera are more closer than they have ever been. Tamera has been really very supportive to Jeannie's single life and dating. I love these ladies❤️ Incredible things happen when women support women!
It sounds like to me that Adrienne is referencing a visitation service, where people come and go to visit with the family. Where I live in the South most people actually have two "services" - a visitation the evening before the funeral where people come to hug the family and view the deceased, and then a more formal service the following day. Most of the time people come in more casual clothes at the visitation, but dress more formally for the actual service. And the visitation is usually a couple hours long, and you can come and go between the start time and end time. But the service is at a specific time, and it's a planned service.
@@sabrinabarkhadle3104 Possibly. It just made me wonder if some places only do a visitation type service. Everyone has different traditions so I was curious about that
At my funeral I don't want everyone to be down and crying, y'all better be celebrating that I'm not in this corrupted world anymore like the only reason you should be crying is because you're happy for me
It all depends on your culture, family, beliefs, community, and at times socioeconomic status. I’ve attended funerals where people were formally dressed and in another instance were jeans and T-shirt were the norm, as long as you’re there to pay your respect, it shouldn’t matter
I feel the same way as Loni and Adrienne. I had a cousin who passed away in 2007. His family and friends wore a t-shirt with his picture on it to the funeral. Some of us wore jeans, khaki or black slacks, and some ppl came in dresses & suits.
I'm shocked so many think wearing jeans is normal... I pass no judgment but It definitely makes me feel thankful and blessed with my childhood. I ALWAYS dress up for funerals.
I agree with Tamera. We are going to church or a religious service, we dress as such. That being said, even that looks different today than it used to.
Coming from the working class. I think Adrienne is in touch with reality. People are coming out of work wearing a uniform etc. just to pay their respect. It's not what youI wear it's the support that you can provide.
I'm Dominican and we usually wear black or white. For example, you can wear jeans but pair it with a black or white shirt. For my aunt's funeral I wore black jeans with a black tank and a white blazer.
My family are all country western. For my moms funeral we all wore dallas cowboys jerseys and jeans. They were starched wrangler jeans cowboy boots and jerseys. I got to wear my moms jersey in honor of her. It doesn't matter what u wear as long as u are there.
Tamera sounds so privileged here. I agree with A. Im from a poor family; dressing up is not the option. Some people can’t afford to miss work so they go to funerals on their breaks in their work clothes from factory or field jobs. Also the for lord .. don’t go broke buying fancy attire to go to church.
I live in the country. Everyone wears what ever they want. Before my son passed he told me he wanted everyone to wear every day clothes that he remembers seeing them in. So we honor his wishes.
My family is all ranchers so Jean's is pretty normal for that as long as you also wear black. Some people, though my mother had us wear all black even if it wasnt super fancy. I always liked to wear a tiny splash of color.
Same as Adrienne, grew up in south chicago and we went to funerals in denim and jerseys. We can’t afford to dress up in a full 3 piece and a cocktail dress. Also people dressed ok whatever the wanted at church also. The lord don’t care if you show up in a blazer or a jersey. You’re showing up, that’s what matters.
Well I've done both. I went to a distant relatives funeral in jeans but brought a nice top to change into. A lot of people judged me. Then, at my grandmas funeral, my family made sure all the grandchildren dressed presentable. We wore dresses and had our hair done. I know it shouldn't matter but in our eyes we were representing my grandmother so we wore our best.
When my fiance passed his friends and cousins all wore jeans and t-shirts with his photo printed on it. I along with the rest of the immediate family dressed up. Funerals have become something different that now there is no set all black mourning period.
When my grandfather and grandmother passed away last year 4 months of each other. And they were wearing street clothes because they were going to be cremated. I wore a nice shirt and jeans and my cousin was wearing Short shorts and a tank top and let’s just say it was a sight i didn’t wanna see
i'm like Jeanie i want a lot of color at my funeral i don't want mine to be too sad obviously people are gonna go through grief but just be happy i was in ur life at some point! i watch this family channel and they're son/brother passed at 13 and his motto was "always remember to celebrate life" that's how i want my funeral to be, like a celebration of my life so lots of dancing and singing i want people to be at peace
I'm with Adrienne on this one.
Paying your respect is what matters - not what you wear.
my mom didnt want anyOne wear black
recently with my Bother funeral we just dressed casual n it was ONLY fam .
BOTH times was more of a celebration to be HAPPY they was in our lifes (iSTILL think they are.. if memories still there then they are too)
_it just depends on the person on what/how funeral_
I'm with them to
Syver or what loni said just come because she is dead anyways not like her spirit will judge what kind of outfit you’re wearing.
You shouldnt dress promiscuous at someone's funeral. The legs, boobs & form fitting clothes should be left out.
@@ultimatefirecracker1486 when the grim reaper tortures the deceased soul for innaprpriate dress code... you'll care
Y are people studying what other people are wearing? They should focus on comforting the family members ...
Libra Child honestly
Exactly
Excaly well said
THAT'S NOT THE PLACE FOR THAT
Yea, but be respectful. This isnt a casual setting, this is a funeral. You dont have to dress up to the nines, but not in Jeans either.
Those who feel appalled are obviously privileged, go to a poor town, everyone goes in what they have and it’s fine. Adrienne and Loni understand, which I really appreciate.
Exactly! Not every woman has a little black dress, and not every man has a blazer waiting to be used. It's about showing up and paying respect.
Ummm, ever heard of a thrift store?!?! You can pop by and get a blazer and slacks for under $10. Not having money to "dress up" is not an excuse, it's disrespectful and lazy.
@@alos.h256 It's called go to the thrift store! You can get yourself a black dress for $5. SMDH. It's disrespectful and lazy to just "come as you are".
Coley Girl, not everyone’s trying to buy morbid clothing to look good at a damn funeral, especially when- like I said- NOBODY minds it. It’s not like people are going in bathing suits. Unless YOU wanna pay for everyone’s clothes I suggest you shut your mouth and wear whatever you want, without shaming others. Stop being ignorant and shallow.
I went to my first funeral at 21. My boss father passed and during that time I was living paycheck to paycheck and couldn’t afford a pair of nice slacks or dress. So I wore jeans . Plus, we were forced to go since the office was closed .
What Adrienne has on right now is appropriate funeral attire no shade.
Sarah Ganga Sooo true so true and she looks good too. Lol. 😆😊
It’s a good outfit
That cleavage at a funeral 😳
Lol thats what i thought
The suit is nice but she would need to cover the cleavage.
It shouldn’t be about what you’re a wearing to a funeral it should be about paying your respects to the person who has passed away.
What have this world come to. You don't wear no Jeans to a Funeral, Why would you even want to because all morals has went out the window. Jeans Really.. That's what wrong people saying why should it matter What Matter, Something Got to Matter.
Doris Coleman jeans and morals shouldn’t even be in a sentence together smh
@@Taikyaa You have your opinion do not tell me what I should feel about the situation, I gave my opinion I can put it together the way I wish just like you. That's why I am getting ready now to go to the House of Worship, with my Dress and Stocking and Hills on. You have a Moral Day.
Doris Coleman again jeans have nothing to do with your morals! Just like you going to church every weekend doesn’t ensure your spot in heaven’ or also have anything to do with morals. Have a great Revaluation day.🌹
@@Taikyaa You keep being the person that you are, Beleive in what you believe in. And that's the end of the conversation for me. Have a good one.
It’s cultural. So it depends on where you’re from and your background.
thank you, in my culture as well, black isn't the color for funerals it's actually white. So on the day of the funeral and days leading up .. colors are common.. white, purple, people still wear black of course, but you can wear any bright color you want but typically people go for muted or basic colors.
Yup, in Jamaica we dress up like it's a formal occasion
@@tally3985 I’m from Jamaica too.
I’m with Adrienne and genuinely confused.. I’m from The Bronx, we didn’t dress up for the wake or funerals.. we would go after school or work and came as we were to pay our respects because ultimately that’s what truly mattered and what we were there for, not for a fashion show.
Same here, but I come from Eastern Europe.
Yes in my families part of Mexico it’s very impoverished and thrift stores might still be considered a luxury if they existed in that area people wore their regular clothes, but then again all the older ladies always had a way of dressing that managed looking put together even if poor. People didn’t and still don’t dress in all black, of course some other parts of Mexico might. My grandma had her funeral here in the Bronx and people came dressed in a mix of black and non black clothing and it was so not a big deal. Who is that vain? Seems like a first world problem to be mad about people not wearing black....
Maverick Rose and I am from Flatbush Brooklyn
I come from asian descent so idk if it's how I was brought up..but I think it shouldn't be a fashion show, but some clothes are appropriate and some can be seen as disrespectful to some people. For instance, if I knew there was a funeral, it would be looked down upon to wear a revealing tank top and mini skirt, or dirty ripped jeans with a graphic t shirt and hoodie you wore for the past 3 weeks. Or flip flops, silettos, etc. If you have no other clothes and you pay your respects I wouldn't see it as disrespectful. But at the same time, if you have an entire wardrobe and still dress raggedy..(ex: ripped up, dirty, clothes) it is questionable. If you know everyone is expected to wear a certain color, do it, OR if jeans are allowed, fine. But don't be raggedy.. I think it's best to be mindful and respectful on how you present yourself at a funeral, you don't have to be extravagant and make it a "look at me it's a fashion show" thing either and inspect other's outfits like it's a competition. Dress humbly but appropriately, make the event about the person who passed and honor the life they lived. It's really about respecting the one who passed and their immediate family, you don't want to offend the ones who are grieving most.
Same. I'm from Bushwick Brooklyn.
All their outfits are bombbb in this clip 😍😍😍
Kiwii Kiwii they look so good 😍
Kiwii Kiwii 🙄😮Except for Loni’s outfit sorry not feeling her yellow get up at all. 😮But her hair and makeup is on point. 😊
Renee Smith i think if it was another shade of yellow it would look so BOMB on her! Yellow goes so good with her beautiful chocolate skin 😍
They all have stylists who dress them and do their Hair & Makeup. So kudos to the Stylist.
Ok the ladies dress like they about to slay an award show
Simply Quelly iKR! Especially Jeannie and Adrienne who ironically is wearing black
Loki looks like she expensive PJs on. I love Loni thi.
They are going for funeral.
Times have changed people wear whatever now even at church
Agree.. hate the things that have changed in the new times but....
Facts
Asia Poles I think it depends on the church. If I go to church with my grandma, a very Catholic Church, everyone dresses up. At the church my family goes to, it’s very relaxed so we don’t have to dress up. And, just saying, I appreciate it very much because me and my brother both have chronic illnesses that make waking up early and getting ready hard.
But why should it matter what people wear in church- like honestly god don’t even care about that cause the people who be all dressed down still be sinners , still be fornicating, don’t even be living righteous. Honestly the relationship that you have with God is the only thing that matters, cause that cute dress and heels you have on is not getting you into heaven 🤧.
kai I agree with that if people want to dress up for church that is fine but that does not insure you are going to heaven like Jesus doesn’t care what you wear. He cares more about your spirt and heart than anything else.
I'm on the side of Adrienne and it being normal for us to wear whatever. We were too busy praying and crying at the funerals I've been to.
i love Jeanie's outfit!
Bolorunso ADEKANMI ikr she looks like a super sexy spy
Bolorunso ADEKANMI
The white outfit and nude heels look GORGEOUS and makes her makeup pop!
I like Tamera's outfit color!!!
Even going to church, I always heard come as you are The Lord does not discriminate.
EXACTLY I'M PRETTY SURE THAT IS THE LEAST WORRIES OF GOD AS LONG AS YOU GIVE HIM YOUR HEART!!! ☺️
AMEN!
Come as you are dont mean coming ratchet and from what I learned, come as you are is not always about what u wear.
God says you're supposed to dress modestly but yeah, God sees us naked every day. And he judges the heart first.
I’m with Tamera. I was raised to go to funerals dressed up like I would for church and everyone must be wearing black or white. No red.
Same here!
Exactly!
I just went to a memory and they requested everyone to wear red and white
That's snotty though. Looking pretty can't cover up the sinfulness.
We don’t wear black to funerals in my country (Argentina). We dress as we normally do. I don’t see the point in wearing black 🤷🏻♀️
micaela fernandez alvi cause ur grieving
micaela fernandez alvi yeah I’m an American and I don’t understand why we do it either. I’d rather people show up in jeans then not show up at all
Mione Rubinia I can grieve in jeans
True! I'm argentinian too and I attended a funeral wearing leggings. There are more important things in that moment than clothes.
UNFORTUNATELY....THIS IS TRUE
Can't believe these women are 40 or almost 40 and look so beautiful!
fake up
@@blackngold007 Make up doesn't change your features it's like a painting on your face, that doesn't men it can make your cheeks smaller or eyebrows higher, it can not change physical features
@@kayleesmith6756 true, but depending on how good you are at doing make up you have the ability to give it that illusion. Just like how artists make their paintings seem so life like. Make up can make you look like a whole different person and you know it.
I think Adrienne is talking about more of a viewing in a funeral, home, not a formal memorial service.
I went to a memorial in the middle of the school day, I had on my uniform. And this summer, I went to two funerals. I didn't necessarily dress up, but I wore a black dress and black sandals. As long as you wear the right colors, I don't think it should matter what you wear.
I love all of their oufits so nice especially tamera’s
There is no reason for anyone to feel unwelcome at a funeral because of their clothes, PERIOD. You are there to say your goodbyes, pay your respects, and console the grieving. Love, grief, and comfort doesn't have a dress code.
Yeah but it’s disrepectful wearing JEANS to a god damn funeral.
@@mynameisstolen Absolutely not true. Judging by your response, you have bigger issues than jeans at a funeral. But you know… try to have a better day… or work on yourself as a person. Both are great options. 😁
Not everyone can afford to buy new clothes.
THANK YOU!
Jazzy Lopez-Vasquez you can buy a dress at Ross for less then 20 bucks.. don’t act so cheap... going to the movies cost more then that..
You dont have to buy new clothes. Wear something that you would wear to a interview...I'm sure people got something decent in their closet. If not, there is a goodwill and also maybe a family or friend would let you borrow something. Alot of times...just come like Loni said. Dont come because you dont feel like your dressed up. People remember your attendance than your clothes as time goes by.
@@leah_jordea1 love your coment
I ABSOLUTELY AGREE with Tamera dress appropriately
U can still dress appropriately with jeans
@@17jazzyy AGREED I DONT HAVE ANYTHING AGAINST A PERSON WEARING THEM, ITS JUST BETTER TO BE WELL DRESSED IN THE HOUSE OF THE LORD.
@@celestematthews3266 Wrong. The Lord don't care about your stupid clothes. You'd be the first to pass judgment on people who look like crap in church and the Lord has spoken on that behavior in the Bible. God hates that kind of judgment and man made rules in the church.
@@saltycat662 Dressing dont put you in heaven true, God looks at the heart but dress appropriately.
Jeannie looks so cute with her ponytail just like it is... so her!!!:)
I agree with Tamera. When I go to a funeral, I consider it to be a church service so I dress up.
That whole thought process seems really old fashioned to me. You're there at church isn't that all that matters? I'm not saying show up all scantily clad but the whole having to dress up thing doesn't make much sense. Jesus already got you there he shouldn't care what you're wearing he should only care that you're there.
Dani Swift I agree to an extent but I feel like if we make an effort to dress professionally to go to work and dress well to go to weddings and other important events, why are people so unwilling to dress well when they are going to fellowship? It’s the lack of effort that makes question things. I think this logic would only apply for me if you have a person who doesn’t dress well to go anywhere and likewise, doesn’t dress well to go to church either. But if you have person who will pull out all the stops to impress at other events but wouldn’t even put on a proper dress shirt or pants for church, I think that person should just search within themselves and find out why they don’t view church to be an important event and which of these events holds the most power in their lives.
Kat A. Church isn’t an event though at all since when was church ever in event? I don’t care what people wear the church doesn’t matter to me at all what does matter is their heart and their love for god. How they dress and what they look like does not matter to me at all.
morgan glenn Unless you go to church every single day, I consider church to be an “event.” We set aside a specific time weekly to go to church, and most people don’t even do that. Most people go to church on holidays. So I maintain my original word use. It’s not like going to the supermarket or going to the post office. It’s a place of worship that people go to on special occasions or routinely every week. It’s perfectly fine if you don’t care what people wear in church. However, I would hope you hold that same logic in your every day life. I’m an accountant. Would you hire me to do your tax return if you met me in my office and I had on sweats, a tank top and my hair was unkempt? My point here is why do we hold people to a higher standard in our daily lives, but when it comes to church, people don’t even want to make the bare minimum effort to look presentable and come up with every excuse in the book? If you can’t afford a nice outfit, by all means, come as you are. But then those same people who can’t afford a $10 belt for church will turn around and spend $300 on a pair of yeezys to flash around in front of all their friends. The problem is not that people don’t dress up to go to church. I don’t care whether anyone dresses up to go to church. The problem is the lack of effort and people’s willingness to go above and beyond in other aspects of their lives but not when it comes to God. “Do not come any closer. Take off your sandals, for the place where you are standing is holy ground.” That line ought to be a guideline for us in how we view church. It’s a holy place and the way that we choose to present ourselves should glorify God.
Kat A. Yes I hold the same standard in my real life do I agree with you in everything you said no not all but I respect your opinion in the matter. I don’t think we need to to dress a special way to glorify god at all. Wearing nicer clothes doesn’t make you anymore holy than you are. I think this is the problem with church now we care more about appearance than people this days.
The ladies are looking sooooo fabulous in this clip especially Adrienne.
Each to there own. What matters to me is the support that comes from the loved ones that are attending the funeral.
Why am I not surprised by anything Jeannie says lol😂😂😁 jeannie is my friend in my head
Jeannie's hair though 👊
We always had to wear black or white to funerals. Or at least dress nicely like what we would wear to church but maybe its because were religious so it was always a church service. I guess i dont really mind jeans as long as its not jean booty shorts 😂 i may be dead but im still watching you
I think we need to distinguish the difference between VIEWINGS and funerals. Viewings are much more casual, come and go type processions, so in my opinion, you don’t need to dress fancy.
All of yall outfits looked fire this day 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫
Idc what you wear as long as you came is all that matters to me
RIGHT
In my culture we mostly wear black but white is more for close family. But purple is also acceptable.
You’re there to support the family, it’s not a red carpet or fashion show 🙄
Who are the people thinking of dress code at a funeral. When I lost my mom, I was on the floor crying and a big mess in general. Today makes it a year. ♥
From the Bronx NY, even though I was brought up getting dressed up for a funeral I’m also use to seeing people go in jeans. Honestly you’re there to pay respect to the deceased not for a fashion show for everyone else.
They all look like Charlie's Angels in this clip! 🔥🔥🔥
As a fellow New Yorker (not speaking for all of us), but I understand Adrienne. A lot of the funerals I went to would be split up in 2 Separate days anyways, so day one would be a viewing where you can come pay your respects to the family, come view the body, and have whatever private conversation you wanted to have. Day 2 or 3 would typically be the actually home going service, where more people would tend to dress up, and who ever wanted to go to the burial after was more than welcomed.
The ladies look so classy today !!! I love it 😍😍😍
I have only been to two funerals and both were religious. Beforehand when people were just stopping by and paying their respects were wearing everyday clothes. When their was the actual funeral everyone was dressed up but it was only close friends and family.
In Barbados you wear church attire. Men might wear jeans with a button down shirt. Women wear formal wear.
Love Adrienne's makeup look.
I’m Caribbean and old school, no jeans for me. Also, full black, yeeep!
Nooooooo jeans at a funeral period! But we are in the south and that is disrespectful
Facts
James Hayes amen brother
I think it's more about how a person was raised. I'm from Michigan and I was taught to regard funeral as a serious occasion and that it's in good manner to dress as such. We never had to go out to buy "new" clothes for a funeral because we always had "dressy" clothing. I'm sure a good majority of us working adults have something nice in our closet to wear..... Interview clothes will also suffice
Have a Good Day you are exactly right . I just buried my great grand mother a week ago and did I have on a full suit .. no but I had on dress slacks nice shoes and. A short collar shirt.. but I would have not dared to walk in that church with jeans on ... my mother and grandmother would have killed me😂
@@jameshayes7937 in sorry to hear that! My condolences.
This is interesting because coming from an African household,dressing up for a funeral is what’s required from everyone. You can’t rock up to a funeral with the clothes you clean the house with,hai😂🙅🏾♀️.
Lol!!!!
It’s a great discussion! At first I was absolutely you dress up. Then Adrienne showed a different environment then some are used to growing up in. It’s funny how when you don’t have money at all... it becomes less about who you’re, what you’re wearing and more about showing up to pay respect to the person who everyone lost. Love that
adrienne grew in a latino community cause that’s exactly how we do it in Puerto Rico too. I would go to funerals in my school uniform, jeans or anything i had on. my mom would just tell me “we have a funeral to go to and we going after i pick you up from school” and we would go as is. at least we don’t really see anything with it 🤷🏻♀️
Its so good to see most people on the comments agreeing that respect matters more than clothing. And understanding that not everybody is a rich celebrity.
It depends on where you grew up. In the south, traditionally we don’t do that. Everything is so different now.
Why does it matter. Not even if it’s in a church. Just thankful someone came to show support
I respect the person that comes as he are. Thank the attendees for honoring my deceased life. It isn't a fashion show. Love the Sincere people.
It sounds like Adrienne is describing a “wake” or viewing and Tamera is describing a funeral. Where I’m from People don’t walk in and out of a funeral. Generally people dressed up for funerals. Especially since they usually happened in a church. Doesn’t mean it must stay that way or that’s the only way but that’s why people dressed up
I agree with loni as usual. She is always the most down to earth
While we're talking about outfits.... Tamara looks so beautiful in that dress like omg I need that dress in every color possible! Sis wore that thing!
2:35 ‘it’s weird talking about it’ this is one of those moments where you can tell Tamera realized how privileged she is. Adrienne is describing what it’s like to grow up in poverty. In the hood, it’s a struggle just to afford burying a loved one let alone dressing up for their funeral. I can tell Tamera felt a bit uneasy. It’s not her fault though, she didn’t live that life. I’m glad Adrienne brought it up, though.
I grew up with the same upbringing that Tamera did. It had nothing to do with being privileged, it was just the way I was brought up.
funeral fashion trend 🤣🤣 never heard that one before
We don't dress up for funerals here in the Philippines. Usually we wear casual but make sure it is still appropriate.
i love adrienne's makeup and hair in this episode
As I was a child and attended my first funeral of a close person in my life I was very insecure because I didn't know what to wear and my mum told me to wear something I'm very comfortable in because my grandma wouldn't mind if I could've asked her. And to this day that's what I believe in, it's about the person who passed away, not about what you're wearing. Ofc you don't show up wearing something inappropriate but that's common sense I think.
I’m with Adrienne. The only time I’ve “dressed up” is for immediate family. Now I’m not going in jogging pants but some nice jeans is ok. At least for me. And when I die I will haunt anyone who comes to my funeral in black lol
I never put thought into this...
When a family passes the least I’m worried about is slaying an outfit. I’ve been so down dressed for all the funerals I’ve attended.
The clothes I wear is the last thing on mind, or not even in mind
how about people wear whatever they want.
i think it’s only disrespectful if you have nicer clothes to wear but you choose not to!
THANK YOU! Many of the comments on this video were just too ridiculous. As if anyone said you had to buy new clothes to attend a funeral. NOOOO! If you already have something nice to wear or something dressy, okay fine, wear it! If not, nobody's asking you to break the bank on clothes. Just keep in mind the occasion and exercise common sense when getting dressed, geez!
I only been to funerals to Mexico since I have family their and we never wear any fancy. I just remember to giving flowers was necessary.
At my dads funeral, his tradie (plumbers, builders etc) friends showed up in their work gear. They had taken time off to come and pay their respects. The local rugby team who my dad coached showed up in their rugby uniforms. In my culture, only the immediate family wear black. Everyone else can wear whatever they want. It's the attendance that counts, not the appearance.
I think this practice is very culturally oriented.
When Adrienne mention that in New York people just come off the street to pay their respects i think its called a "viewing" I just went to a funeral and before the funeral their was something called a "viewing" which anybody can just come off the street dressed very casual to pay their respects then the day after is the mass "funeral" at the church where you want to dress formal and then its the commute to the cementary to lay them down in their final resting place. I always dress up for a funeral going casual just seems lazy.
I wore jeans at my auntie funeral but that was she wore all the time and plus she wouldn’t want us to dress up be all in black.
I feel like Jeannie and Tamera are more closer than they have ever been. Tamera has been really very supportive to Jeannie's single life and dating. I love these ladies❤️
Incredible things happen when women support women!
Tamera be looking annoyed at Jeannie's ratchetness though lol.
@@saltycat662 lol Tamera is annoyed at anyone who’s ratchet she’s a white lady
It sounds like to me that Adrienne is referencing a visitation service, where people come and go to visit with the family. Where I live in the South most people actually have two "services" - a visitation the evening before the funeral where people come to hug the family and view the deceased, and then a more formal service the following day. Most of the time people come in more casual clothes at the visitation, but dress more formally for the actual service. And the visitation is usually a couple hours long, and you can come and go between the start time and end time. But the service is at a specific time, and it's a planned service.
Well she said her grandmother's funeral was the same if there were two wouldn't she say that she had to put on a formal dress or outfit
@@sabrinabarkhadle3104 Possibly. It just made me wonder if some places only do a visitation type service. Everyone has different traditions so I was curious about that
I Love Adrienne's suit
At my funeral I don't want everyone to be down and crying, y'all better be celebrating that I'm not in this corrupted world anymore like the only reason you should be crying is because you're happy for me
AMEN
It all depends on your culture, family, beliefs, community, and at times socioeconomic status. I’ve attended funerals where people were formally dressed and in another instance were jeans and T-shirt were the norm, as long as you’re there to pay your respect, it shouldn’t matter
omg adrienne's makeup is so good!
Jeannie, I LOVE you... that chuckle when you're getting ratchet... 🤣🤣🤣
I feel the same way as Loni and Adrienne. I had a cousin who passed away in 2007. His family and friends wore a t-shirt with his picture on it to the funeral. Some of us wore jeans, khaki or black slacks, and some ppl came in dresses & suits.
Okay can we take a minute to appreciate how good they all look 😍
Adrienne’s makeup is on pointtttt
I'm shocked so many think wearing jeans is normal... I pass no judgment but It definitely makes me feel thankful and blessed with my childhood. I ALWAYS dress up for funerals.
I always dress up for funerals, but it really depends on the cultural. My Polynesian friends and Mexican family do it all the time.
I agree with Tamera. We are going to church or a religious service, we dress as such. That being said, even that looks different today than it used to.
I'm always anticipating Loni's views on everything. ..#SoReal
Coming from the working class. I think Adrienne is in touch with reality. People are coming out of work wearing a uniform etc. just to pay their respect. It's not what youI wear it's the support that you can provide.
They are confusing an a wake/viewing and a funeral.
I'm Dominican and we usually wear black or white. For example, you can wear jeans but pair it with a black or white shirt. For my aunt's funeral I wore black jeans with a black tank and a white blazer.
My family are all country western. For my moms funeral we all wore dallas cowboys jerseys and jeans. They were starched wrangler jeans cowboy boots and jerseys. I got to wear my moms jersey in honor of her. It doesn't matter what u wear as long as u are there.
Tamera sounds so privileged here. I agree with A. Im from a poor family; dressing up is not the option. Some people can’t afford to miss work so they go to funerals on their breaks in their work clothes from factory or field jobs. Also the for lord .. don’t go broke buying fancy attire to go to church.
Love Loni's response... Just come. Although I can see Tamara's response to dress up like if you're attending Sundays best.
Jeans To A Funeral = Trifl!ng !!!
I live in the country. Everyone wears what ever they want. Before my son passed he told me he wanted everyone to wear every day clothes that he remembers seeing them in. So we honor his wishes.
My family is all ranchers so Jean's is pretty normal for that as long as you also wear black. Some people, though my mother had us wear all black even if it wasnt super fancy. I always liked to wear a tiny splash of color.
Same as Adrienne, grew up in south chicago and we went to funerals in denim and jerseys. We can’t afford to dress up in a full 3 piece and a cocktail dress. Also people dressed ok whatever the wanted at church also. The lord don’t care if you show up in a blazer or a jersey. You’re showing up, that’s what matters.
Jeannie looks AMAZING!!!
Adrienne ! You look gorgeous!
Well I've done both. I went to a distant relatives funeral in jeans but brought a nice top to change into. A lot of people judged me. Then, at my grandmas funeral, my family made sure all the grandchildren dressed presentable. We wore dresses and had our hair done. I know it shouldn't matter but in our eyes we were representing my grandmother so we wore our best.
When my fiance passed his friends and cousins all wore jeans and t-shirts with his photo printed on it. I along with the rest of the immediate family dressed up. Funerals have become something different that now there is no set all black mourning period.
I LOVE you ladies. The Real is my favorite show!! #thereal #muchrespect #beautifulladies
Loni I love that fit! And Adrienne I felt that! When u grow up in the hood and death happens so often it’s how it goes 💔
I’m Brazilian and no one dresses fancy for funerals.
It doesn’t matter what you wear , it’s not about you , it’s about saying goodbye to your loved ones . That’s it
When my grandfather and grandmother passed away last year 4 months of each other. And they were wearing street clothes because they were going to be cremated. I wore a nice shirt and jeans and my cousin was wearing Short shorts and a tank top and let’s just say it was a sight i didn’t wanna see
Love your outfits♡♡♡♡..especially jeannie's♡
i'm like Jeanie i want a lot of color at my funeral i don't want mine to be too sad obviously people are gonna go through grief but just be happy i was in ur life at some point! i watch this family channel and they're son/brother passed at 13 and his motto was "always remember to celebrate life" that's how i want my funeral to be, like a celebration of my life so lots of dancing and singing i want people to be at peace