I no longer strive for happiness. I strive for contentment. When people ask me if I'm happy, most days I am, some days I'm not, but that doesnt mean I'm disgruntled. Being happy is a monotonous feeling. Being contented, means I can be both sad about certain things, yet happy about others, and that's just what life is.
My happiness is just so simple. Enough food on table for my family. My family are with me. A roof over my head. And just being healthy. And my tip is to have a work life balance. Just be contented with my life and be kind to myself and others. 😊. That's my interpretation of being the best version of self.
everything is so spot on. Germaine's analogy about the plane safety feature is something i believe in and always tell my mom to always put urself first. imagine the plane crash happened and you decided to put the oxygen mask on ur kid, but failed to do it on urself, and died, ur kid is forever going to blame themselves for the death of their mother. i rather my kid dies and i take on the suffering. Dying is really not bad, its the people that are still alive that feels the repercussions.. Ive also grown up in a family where emotions are looked down upon and i developed only anger towards many things. im recently not in the rightest of minds and i realise these anger problems really affected how my staffs look at me, like "wow my boss is so emotionally unstable". i might be early 20s and one part of me wishes my staffs of similar ages will understand my struggles, but at the same time i want to be a good example for them as well.. i told my staffs that im going to work better on my anger problems because they can be my anger police, the moment im a bit emotional, i look at them and remembers the promise i made with them and that kind of really helped.
i totally feel germaine when she said she doesn't want to hear something that changes her perspective. ITS SO RELATABLE when u just needed comfort but ended up drawing unnecessary advices 🥲
Kudos girls! Only you could pull off an entire conversation on happiness without even attempting to define what it means.😀 Ever wondered why the world is such an unhappy place when every indicator seems to suggest that we've never had it better as a species? This paradox probably best sums up the zeitgeist of our times, doesn't it? Take that Abraham Maslow! If only we can jettison the relentless pursuit of happiness and adopt the mantra C'est la vie we'd all be lot happier (who knows what that means anyway😂).
19:11 But did you first talk to the other person to see if he/she sees it the same way as you do? Maybe you feel pressured to maintain the relationship because you felt you weren't giving it enough attention, or you were spending too much time pursuing your career etc. Isn't this pressure self-generated? Did the other person feel left out or neglected? Or was the other person understanding enough and supportive of your pursuits in your career? Maybe he/she didn't need that much attention?
Someone told me this exactly “ he didn’t want additional stress beside his work. His work is quite stressful enough.” I didn’t know how to respond to it. He said that because he wanted to end the relationship? I didn’t know how to react and he didn’t elaborate
@@Blueskyismyfave Ask him. There's nothing wrong with asking for clarification. Tell him you don't know what to say to that, or what he actually means or want from you when he says that.
Hey Germaine if they are not down to be friends then let them. If they cannot understand the value of having an analytical friend then to hell with them.
I no longer strive for happiness. I strive for contentment. When people ask me if I'm happy, most days I am, some days I'm not, but that doesnt mean I'm disgruntled. Being happy is a monotonous feeling. Being contented, means I can be both sad about certain things, yet happy about others, and that's just what life is.
My happiness is just so simple. Enough food on table for my family. My family are with me. A roof over my head. And just being healthy.
And my tip is to have a work life balance. Just be contented with my life and be kind to myself and others. 😊. That's my interpretation of being the best version of self.
this is such a good episode, it made me feel like i can take many many more steps forward. thank you for this episode!
everything is so spot on. Germaine's analogy about the plane safety feature is something i believe in and always tell my mom to always put urself first. imagine the plane crash happened and you decided to put the oxygen mask on ur kid, but failed to do it on urself, and died, ur kid is forever going to blame themselves for the death of their mother. i rather my kid dies and i take on the suffering. Dying is really not bad, its the people that are still alive that feels the repercussions.. Ive also grown up in a family where emotions are looked down upon and i developed only anger towards many things. im recently not in the rightest of minds and i realise these anger problems really affected how my staffs look at me, like "wow my boss is so emotionally unstable". i might be early 20s and one part of me wishes my staffs of similar ages will understand my struggles, but at the same time i want to be a good example for them as well.. i told my staffs that im going to work better on my anger problems because they can be my anger police, the moment im a bit emotional, i look at them and remembers the promise i made with them and that kind of really helped.
Omgg! i used to have the negative friend...
Side note where are everyone’s outfits from!! 😍 Great episode hehe, I look forward to every upload!
i totally feel germaine when she said she doesn't want to hear something that changes her perspective. ITS SO RELATABLE when u just needed comfort but ended up drawing unnecessary advices 🥲
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Kudos girls! Only you could pull off an entire conversation on happiness without even attempting to define what it means.😀 Ever wondered why the world is such an unhappy place when every indicator seems to suggest that we've never had it better as a species? This paradox probably best sums up the zeitgeist of our times, doesn't it? Take that Abraham Maslow! If only we can jettison the relentless pursuit of happiness and adopt the mantra C'est la vie we'd all be lot happier (who knows what that means anyway😂).
19:11 But did you first talk to the other person to see if he/she sees it the same way as you do? Maybe you feel pressured to maintain the relationship because you felt you weren't giving it enough attention, or you were spending too much time pursuing your career etc. Isn't this pressure self-generated? Did the other person feel left out or neglected? Or was the other person understanding enough and supportive of your pursuits in your career? Maybe he/she didn't need that much attention?
Someone told me this exactly “ he didn’t want additional stress beside his work. His work is quite stressful enough.” I didn’t know how to respond to it. He said that because he wanted to end the relationship? I didn’t know how to react and he didn’t elaborate
@@Blueskyismyfave Ask him. There's nothing wrong with asking for clarification. Tell him you don't know what to say to that, or what he actually means or want from you when he says that.
Meanwhile I still haven’t grasp the concept of happiness
In the 90s : what is happiness can eat ?
Hey Germaine if they are not down to be friends then let them. If they cannot understand the value of having an analytical friend then to hell with them.