Elliot, in a video you mentioned the necessity of needing structure in a relationship. May you make a video more on this? I don’t see a lot of dating coaches talking about this. Thanks 🙏🏼⭐️
We need to listen to Elliott. Yes, what happened? I've asked this question myself over time. I've seen guys flat out lie. About some pretty personal stuff. So I would have to agree that the "INVESTMENT" needs to be there. Also, he has to be around. The thing with my ex husband; he was I swear trying to live 2 different lives. He needs to bring you into his world. Do you know the parents, the friends, any relatives????/
I love this 😂 I have value, and I experience love bombing too often.. Absolutely hate it. The male dating tendency has been a challenge and taught me to be ruthless which is not in my innate character. Walking away from toxic behaviour is truely draining.
I met a guy i liked, he was messing me about abit so i binged your videos because it made me feel better during the broken hearted bit. i mainly just followed your tips for tinder, things like casting the net really small...5mins later i meet someone much nicer who pays me attention. And youve been guiding me through the whole thing so i dont f it up. So thanks bro x
Since he keeps talking about risk avoidance and guys pulling away, he might as well talk about childhood development and attachment styles. I do believe they are related. I have pulled away a lot myself
It'd be great if you do a video about texting and/or how to text with guys. I've noticed A LOT of guys are pretty bad texters (and communicators, for that matter) or just not into it that much. I mean, even if he wasn't into texting he should be texting you if he's interested... right? Well I know this guy that when in person (we have a common group of friends) will have every single sign he's interested (and it actually feels like building up, although slowly), but he will almost never text first, even though he has no problem responding... two opposites, which one should I believe?
He's probably following some inane rules regarding double texting and who's "turn" it is to text. I had a guy that I knew was interested but I gave up on him because he played games with texting like that. Normal people don't care who texts first or last 🙄 If they want to talk to you they will. I want someone who can just communicate without a bunch of rules getting in the way!
If he’s a bad texter, then get him on the phone. If he doesn’t want to chat on the phone, then u have your answer = HES NOT THAT INTO YOU. Besides he should be wanting to go out on dates with you and want to spend time with you. If he doesn’t make the effort, personally I would assume he wasn’t that interested and I would then distance myself and lose attraction for him. I’m attracted to a man who shows he’s interested and wants to persue me. I don’t have time/patience to deal with wishy washy bullshit. U either like me or u don’t.
@@creatureofstylehe didn’t really like you then. If a guy really likes you, he won’t want to risk lose you and won’t care about stupid rules. He would chase u if he saw his stupid bullshit was pushing you away. He may have liked you, but not enough to want to be in a relationship with you. Probably just wanted sex.
Love the video, you're one of the best dating coaches I've come across. I think your frustration is coming from teaching the way men think to women whilst assuming we understand the basics of your thought process. I think what you're suggesting is for women to understand their monetary/reproductive worth to men and choose a man as a female animal would, for genetics and resources, knowing they are replaceable. What you're trying to do is teach us a gold diggers mentality and I think unless you're expressly say that, you'll always have some women being left behind as it's not a natural mentality. Women don't see dating as a market, we don't put values on people like they're slaves to be purchased or products to be traded. If you don't expressly say this is a male mentality untill you can get him emotionally attached we assume men can get emotionally attached like we do.
Okay , So Guy's In Their Fifties Play These Games As Well . Especially If They Have Been Divorced Twice . They Don't Want To Commit At All Just Play These Games . 😐
Be untouchable. No S*x, no sleeping in the same bed, no cooking for him until he wants to be in a relationship with you or put the ring on your finger!
I am a 62 year old female former model who has done a lot of inner healing work and psychological tweaking on herself for the past 30 years…wake up…guys in their 50’s, 60’s 70’s still play games. It’s important to keep learning and evolving bcuz what worked 30 years ago isn’t going to work today… but what does work is not giving into sex early if you want to have a long term relationship that ends up in marriage. That choice never goes out of style. That self respect is pure upper class. This channel is the best dating coach channel I have ever watched hands down.
@@solutions4tenants141exactly, especially to show a man you’re not a pushover, especially in this current culture. These younger girls have no idea or patience to know, love is a game. And the woman who says no keeps a man intrigued cause like anyone, they want what takes effort to attain. Hold your worth by showing self respect.❤
“You’re focusing on watching videos to see if a guy likes you!” LOL😆. …He’s an instructor in a group I belong to + there’s other students around so, I WISH it was as simple as you say. Cheers.
Girls don’t waiste your time on emotionally unavailable men I moved on from that kind of a man and I found great man don’t have to wonder where I am standing with him
I’m a little confused. My boyfriend has only pulled away twice but each time it was due to stress at work and needing space. I do believe him until I start analyzing it lol
@@ElliotScottDating update: I followed your advice and became less available, kept busy working on myself. Now the tables have turned and he’s chasing me. Ironically, I’m not even interested in him anymore lol
Well I'm skittish and will probably become a cat lady and if I start seeing the slightest red flags I will skate out slicker than shit at the first signs lol
Hey Elliot! I really enjoyed this video. I have a question. When you're talking about tactics a guy will use, are they always intentional? For context, the guy I've had a situationship with and I are both 25. I'd been willing to look past bad behaviour because I thought it was from a place of naivety and learning, we're both young, and not from him intentionally acting a certain way to get what he wants. Does it depend on age? Could it be argued that we are both just learning how to communicate, and he isn't trying to be manipulative? Or does he know what he's doing and I'm being a damn fool? Always appreciate your honesty.
At this point, it could be your energy. Change your mindset to being welcoming and inviting and also journal to god what your soul desires in a partner. ❤ hope that this helps you
@leeslyrose since I left that comment I've realised I'm a very masculine woman whose toxic and addicted to chaos. Very few men wanna be with a woman who thinks like a man 😆
okey I am confused. After two months of hooking up.. he never text me daily… last weekend I went to a club where a friend of him was , this guy has a crush on me. And my hook up immdiatly he came to the club and kissed me. The next day he asked to see me. I think he kinda realised that I mean something to him. Then after two days he texted first again. And now nothing since then. I am confused bc when he is with me, he hug me as he love me & is the sweetest guy but never take me on dates. p.s: three weeks ago ge told me he can‘t see me or text ne bc he has so much going on & I should find me someone else. So why is he seeing me still.? He is very good looking and he travels with car one hour to my apartment. Maybe he is unavailable bc he broke up 8 months ago and was two years with this woman.
I guess it’s because he gets all these things for free from you without commitment. Why should a man work for a woman who has no boundaries? Sorry to be harsch but please don’t be to easy. 🙄
@@Franziska1008he has too many options & he lives in a bigger city then me. If I stress him over a RP - he is gone. I don‘t wanna loose him. I don‘t have any other options anyway. But ni he plans for christmas to go to his hometown for a whole month !!! I don‘t know what will be, I hope he doesn‘t cheat. Also it makes me sad that he barely text me or nothing at all . Only he reach out when he wanna come over.
Unless he has came out of a longterm relationship/marriage. Then 3-4 years... If its longer than that, it shows you that he is relationship oriented. And especially after 35/40..
You can NEVER tell for sure.
I can always tell. I have never been wrong.
@@ElliotScottDatingi got ur no contact guide, 😢 i doesn’t work for me cuz I’m older than him
@@ElliotScottDating 😀 the audacity
@@raniaabusitta4665what do u mean it doesn’t work for you?
Your intuition will let you know. But are you in tune with yourself is the question? Sometimes signs are very subtle. You have to pay attention.
Usually the games start early, we as women don’t want to see it . Stop being outcome dependent.
I’ve been single for 5 plus years because I’ve been in situationships because THATS ALL MEN WANT AND GIVE
Elliot, in a video you mentioned the necessity of needing structure in a relationship. May you make a video more on this? I don’t see a lot of dating coaches talking about this. Thanks 🙏🏼⭐️
We need to listen to Elliott. Yes, what happened? I've asked this question myself over time. I've seen guys flat out lie. About some pretty personal stuff. So I would have to agree that the "INVESTMENT" needs to be there. Also, he has to be around. The thing with my ex husband; he was I swear trying to live 2 different lives. He needs to bring you into his world. Do you know the parents, the friends, any relatives????/
I love this 😂 I have value, and I experience love bombing too often.. Absolutely hate it. The male dating tendency has been a challenge and taught me to be ruthless which is not in my innate character. Walking away from toxic behaviour is truely draining.
So glad we have you to guide us :)
Happy to help!
I met a guy i liked, he was messing me about abit so i binged your videos because it made me feel better during the broken hearted bit. i mainly just followed your tips for tinder, things like casting the net really small...5mins later i meet someone much nicer who pays me attention. And youve been guiding me through the whole thing so i dont f it up. So thanks bro x
Where’s the tinder video?
Since he keeps talking about risk avoidance and guys pulling away, he might as well talk about childhood development and attachment styles. I do believe they are related. I have pulled away a lot myself
Why? Enough idiots discuss the latest fad called attachment styles.
It'd be great if you do a video about texting and/or how to text with guys. I've noticed A LOT of guys are pretty bad texters (and communicators, for that matter) or just not into it that much.
I mean, even if he wasn't into texting he should be texting you if he's interested... right?
Well I know this guy that when in person (we have a common group of friends) will have every single sign he's interested (and it actually feels like building up, although slowly), but he will almost never text first, even though he has no problem responding... two opposites, which one should I believe?
He's probably following some inane rules regarding double texting and who's "turn" it is to text. I had a guy that I knew was interested but I gave up on him because he played games with texting like that. Normal people don't care who texts first or last 🙄 If they want to talk to you they will. I want someone who can just communicate without a bunch of rules getting in the way!
If he’s a bad texter, then get him on the phone. If he doesn’t want to chat on the phone, then u have your answer = HES NOT THAT INTO YOU. Besides he should be wanting to go out on dates with you and want to spend time with you. If he doesn’t make the effort, personally I would assume he wasn’t that interested and I would then distance myself and lose attraction for him. I’m attracted to a man who shows he’s interested and wants to persue me. I don’t have time/patience to deal with wishy washy bullshit. U either like me or u don’t.
@@creatureofstylehe didn’t really like you then. If a guy really likes you, he won’t want to risk lose you and won’t care about stupid rules. He would chase u if he saw his stupid bullshit was pushing you away. He may have liked you, but not enough to want to be in a relationship with you. Probably just wanted sex.
Keep doing the work that you do Elliott! love these videos and advice.
Glad you like them!
This was really good thank you for opening my eyes!👀
Love the video, you're one of the best dating coaches I've come across. I think your frustration is coming from teaching the way men think to women whilst assuming we understand the basics of your thought process.
I think what you're suggesting is for women to understand their monetary/reproductive worth to men and choose a man as a female animal would, for genetics and resources, knowing they are replaceable. What you're trying to do is teach us a gold diggers mentality and I think unless you're expressly say that, you'll always have some women being left behind as it's not a natural mentality. Women don't see dating as a market, we don't put values on people like they're slaves to be purchased or products to be traded. If you don't expressly say this is a male mentality untill you can get him emotionally attached we assume men can get emotionally attached like we do.
One of the best? I AM zee best!
Elliot you crack me tf up😂😂 I love how you’re so real with us!! Never stop that!!❤
were so lucky to have you jajaja love the realness, keeping it real! Wish we didn't have so many feelings so quickly jajaja
te amo
I love Elliot ❤
Absolutely confirmed my opinion. 💕
Okay , So Guy's In Their Fifties Play These Games As Well . Especially If They Have Been Divorced Twice . They Don't Want To Commit At All Just Play These Games . 😐
Be untouchable. No S*x, no sleeping in the same bed, no cooking for him until he wants to be in a relationship with you or put the ring on your finger!
Dam straight 😊
The capitalization
I am a 62 year old female former model who has done a lot of inner healing work and psychological tweaking on herself for the past 30 years…wake up…guys in their 50’s, 60’s 70’s still play games. It’s important to keep learning and evolving bcuz what worked 30 years ago isn’t going to work today… but what does work is not giving into sex early if you want to have a long term relationship that ends up in marriage. That choice never goes out of style. That self respect is pure upper class. This channel is the best dating coach channel I have ever watched hands down.
@@solutions4tenants141exactly, especially to show a man you’re not a pushover, especially in this current culture. These younger girls have no idea or patience to know, love is a game. And the woman who says no keeps a man intrigued cause like anyone, they want what takes effort to attain. Hold your worth by showing self respect.❤
I love you and say it with respect. Thank you for this free content. I was laughing and felt stupid all at the same time. Thank you!
The face he made when he said "which he knows that ladies!" Cracked me up. 14:41
I’m tired of liars !!!
The truth is that men say women are too easy, then when you raise the bar and play it hard, they give up.
Ignore them. Any man whom comes to you then gives up is a loser. Looking for attention and validation.
“You’re focusing on watching videos to see if a guy likes you!” LOL😆. …He’s an instructor in a group I belong to + there’s other students around so, I WISH it was as simple as you say.
Cheers.
This is why I love my two cats lol
Can you do a video about guys who’ve been cheated on in a previous relationship?
Girls don’t waiste your time on emotionally unavailable men I moved on from that kind of a man and I found great man don’t have to wonder where I am standing with him
I’m a little confused. My boyfriend has only pulled away twice but each time it was due to stress at work and needing space. I do believe him until I start analyzing it lol
Only? lol. Once is too much.
@@ElliotScottDating update: I followed your advice and became less available, kept busy working on myself. Now the tables have turned and he’s chasing me. Ironically, I’m not even interested in him anymore lol
Another amazing video thank you Elliott
Glad you enjoyed it
When Elliot realized that finger was just dangling in the wind 😂😂😂
They go FAST INITIALLY because they're trying to get you in bed!!!!!
Thank you. We should go on date coach 😊❤
I mean, if you cute then yes.. If you ugly then I would but I am busy lol.
I laughed so hard over the panties walking my doggo in the park 😂😂😂😂
Well I'm skittish and will probably become a cat lady and if I start seeing the slightest red flags I will skate out slicker than shit at the first signs lol
I do that too honestly
Fortune favors the brave.
Thanks for making my Petco stock pop off, ladies!
You look great in Black ❤. Great video. Love Julie from California
Hey Elliot! I really enjoyed this video. I have a question. When you're talking about tactics a guy will use, are they always intentional? For context, the guy I've had a situationship with and I are both 25. I'd been willing to look past bad behaviour because I thought it was from a place of naivety and learning, we're both young, and not from him intentionally acting a certain way to get what he wants. Does it depend on age? Could it be argued that we are both just learning how to communicate, and he isn't trying to be manipulative? Or does he know what he's doing and I'm being a damn fool? Always appreciate your honesty.
Why be in a situationship if you want a relationship?
@@taralo3371 I'm in the process of moving on, he kept changing his mind, I know you're right, I just have trouble setting boundaries
I actually just pulled up your video to fall asleep to 🙈
Im fearful avoident anyone who actually likes me triggers me 😂 it's hard i been single 7 yrs lol
At this point, it could be your energy. Change your mindset to being welcoming and inviting and also journal to god what your soul desires in a partner. ❤ hope that this helps you
Omg same here. You like me? Lol ew
@leeslyrose since I left that comment I've realised I'm a very masculine woman whose toxic and addicted to chaos. Very few men wanna be with a woman who thinks like a man 😆
@SpookiDoki I ain't looking for comfort, I got friends if I need a hug. I'm looking for the dangerous 😆
okey I am confused. After two months of hooking up.. he never text me daily… last weekend I went to a club where a friend of him was , this guy has a crush on me. And my hook up immdiatly he came to the club and kissed me. The next day he asked to see me. I think he kinda realised that I mean something to him. Then after two days he texted first again. And now nothing since then. I am confused bc when he is with me, he hug me as he love me & is the sweetest guy but never take me on dates. p.s: three weeks ago ge told me he can‘t see me or text ne bc he has so much going on & I should find me someone else. So why is he seeing me still.? He is very good looking and he travels with car one hour to my apartment. Maybe he is unavailable bc he broke up 8 months ago and was two years with this woman.
I guess it’s because he gets all these things for free from you without commitment. Why should a man work for a woman who has no boundaries? Sorry to be harsch but please don’t be to easy. 🙄
@@Franziska1008he has too many options & he lives in a bigger city then me. If I stress him over a RP - he is gone. I don‘t wanna loose him. I don‘t have any other options anyway. But ni he plans for christmas to go to his hometown for a whole month !!! I don‘t know what will be, I hope he doesn‘t cheat. Also it makes me sad that he barely text me or nothing at all . Only he reach out when he wanna come over.
Hes seeing you at his convenience. You should ignore him from now on. Find someone else
He’s seeing you because you’re seeing him. Don’t text back, don’t go see him. It takes two
If he's making you feel confused then take that as a red flag.
I hate all this...why does it have to be so complicated ugh
Why is it bad "the longer the guy is single" ? For example he is single for 5 years, why is this bad?
Bc there is a reason and you're not going to be the girl to come and magically change it.
Unless he has came out of a longterm relationship/marriage. Then 3-4 years... If its longer than that, it shows you that he is relationship oriented. And especially after 35/40..
Not relationship material *
Elliott! I'm going to need you to swallow a teaspoon of manuka honey. Your soar throat sounds horrible.
Damn she said what's up haha. I agree haha
you sound sick. wish you health :)
Im strong as an ox!
@@ElliotScottDating good for you! I just heard hoarseness in your voice
@@aubergine-y2c me too, I find it a bit annoying tbh 😔 my ears are very sensitive