I could never understand how can you bring someone into the world and treat them like absolute garbage. I had a similar situation myself growing up but the abuser was my mom instead of my dad. I left home at 16 and took a train 3000 miles by myself to the other side of the country just to get away from her. Fortunately I had family living there that took me in and helped me out and my life completely changed for the better.
I totally understand because I was born with glass bones and paper skin. Every morning I break my legs, and every afternoon I break my arms, at night I lie awake in agony until my heart attacks put me to sleep.
I was physically abused by my dad. He was an alcoholic and former military. I was also the bullied kid in school, been beat up more times than I can count, so, needless to say, my mind has been in some dark places. I’m now in my 40s, 2 years sober, and still trying to learn how to enjoy life without drugs and alcohol. Protect your kids, because childhood trauma is no joke.
I am in my 40's and healing myself. I felt compelled to reply to your story. I am sure you are a beautiful person who is worthy of love, support, and encouragement. Please take it easy friend.
This young man has more wisdom than most people twice his age. He's been through so much hardship, so he had to grow up fast. I'll bet he'll be a cycle breaker and be a great dad.
Often I hear the other way around. With Mon getting the sons to testify against the dads then The moms start the abuse. I guess we should use store to judge situations
It's taken me YEARS to try and deal with being s. abused between ages 8-9, I'm 41 now. Ketamine treatment along with therapy has helped me finally talk about it and deal with it
Damn, I needed to hear this. I haven't talked to my "dad" in almost 15 years, mom's a drug addict and a narcissist. I can't let my pain define me, I need to find my outlet that gives me peace and purpose. One of the most powerful clips I've ever seen from this podcast. Thank you.
Nobody can love you as much as you can love yourself. Had a bad home myself and in the process developed a lot of hate which only hurt me and not the ones I hated. Work on yourself and try to get rid of all those fucked up mental patterns a bad family can give you. I know you can blossom into the best version of yourself :) best of luck
@@michaels_madnessChrist Almighty, thinking (or worrying/assuming) you'd get criticism is a sign that you have CPTSD. EVERY HUMAN WITH A FUNCTIONING BRAIN that lives in an abusive situation (or grows up in one) has CPTSD. You can't not have it. Again, unless your brain doesn't function the way God designed it to function. Unless this is the first time you've ever been in a comment section, I can't see any other reason you would fear a critical reply. Most people in comment sections of typical yt videos are kind and supportive towards people that have the courage to disclose such information. CPTSD will rob you of a healthy, fulfilling adult life. It'll make it impossible to have a healthy relationship with a healthy person. And you deserve a healthy fulfilling life and a relationship with a healthy person.
@@michaels_madness Dont look at yourself as a victim. You are a Strong man that has had bad experiances. Break the cycle and be tha man you want to be. AND NO SHAME IN ASKING FOR HELP. LOVE YOU MAN ! YOU GOT THIS. YOU REALLY DO!
Yea, there are times you need to tell them off and teach them to prevent bad behaviour. Then there are those parents that outright neglect their children and bully and abuse them and treat them like a burden, that I cannot even comprehend or imagine doing to my own children.
So sad, children are innocent and don’t deserve to be treated like that. We need to break those cycles, practice restraint because that’s what a real man does.
@@NotKimiRaikkonenIt was a big part of his life in fact over half of his life, also he is on a podcast where you talk about things. Why does that bother you? Do you need to talk to somebody?😂
@@Z3sty367 the day you turn 18, you have no right to complain about your childhood. Once your parents are legally out of your life, the only thing holding you back is you. And no, I don't need to talk to somebody. Therapy is a scam to drain rich white ladies bank accounts.
@@NotKimiRaikkonen that's the most pussy ass shit i've heard all decade. being able to talk about an abusive childhood takes balls you've only, at best, tasted
That is so heartbreaking 💔, u never know how ppl have and are treated out of sight . His dad has no excuse, I am a medical retired nurse, so when my kids finish I am there for them. I take painkillers due to catching a falling patient, then hit head on my a drunk drive on my side of the road. I can’t walk without pain, I can’t sit or lay down for any length of time. But I sure as heck look after my wee ones . I can’t imagine the pain joe was feeling, actually suffering. From the person he loved the most. I could say something bad but UA-cam would band . Guts and strength you have it in abundance. Chin up
Which is crazy, because his dad is one of the nicest people I've ever met in my life. Couldn't even picture him getting mad. Literally like an older version of Wonderboy Thompson. And not saying you can't be strung out on pain killers and alcohol and also be a BJJ black belt and boxer, but I'd bet Sr. is still in phenomenal shape. None of this adds up whatsoever. Not close to them, but until Jr. started speaking out, I thought they had a decent relationship
I'm from south jersey and i had the pleasure to meet pyfer and actually hangout with him at a bar. He is the most down to earth and mentally strong guy I've met. With his mentality and skill he will be champ one day mark my words.
I hope our families heal I’m coming from a fucked up home too. It’s nice to hear that. You still are appreciative of your mom even though you feel like she doesn’t love you. I’m kind of going through the same thing right now and I’m trying real hard to realize that she was a 20 year old trying to hold down two kids by yourself. You know that’s not fair bur life isn’t. So today I wish upon everyone that they have a very good day and they try to make their own lives better regardless of things that may bring you down. Wish for a better future!
Some real shit there... I always liked this guy but I will always be rooting for him now... amazing how people can come through tough times and achieve something special, like getting signed to UFC.... respect bro 👊🏻
Brother. I am so sorry hearing this. I was abused - not to the same level- but I was abused by both parents and family too. Its tough coping, knowing neither parent liked, loved or cared for you/ourselves. Im still working on it. For people like us, its a miracle we are even still here, alive. 360 degree abuse as a kid makes adult life HARD.
Oh friend that is devastating to hear. I am a school nurse and think of little people like you and give extra care to them. I need to hear from people like you so it reminds me often why we give the extra time.
The part that really gets me is when he says he still has attitude problems. The rage and shame never leaves, and it's almost like evil people can sense that vulnerability, like a need to be loved and love, so the abuse continues on and on... and in the end, people on the outside blame the victim for the bad choices and emotional issuse. Its so fked
How humble and honest this man is. I dont know him from mma. i am not the biggest fan. But he tells his story..honestly with no ego. I hope he finds joy in the rest of his life. I hope others find inspiration from his story.
His mother hated him because he lied and was abusive towards his sisters. His mother called the cops on him and had him barred from the house for starting fights with his sisters boyfriends.
I have a Toxic Relationship with my Own Father. He Literally Destroyed my Childhood. The Beatings. The Cussing. Fighting with my Mother. He still has his Violent bursts. It's like. He Does Not Care what I or my Mother or sister say. His mentality is If he says Something, it is always Right.... No matter how disastrous it turns out for us. Listening to This, i understand . It is what it is. Imma live my Life , make something good out of it. Sometimes you just cannot fix someone .... Even if they gave birth to you ..
It's crazy the older I get and the more people I am introduced to the more I realize that my story isn't special. Dude layed out pretty much my entire life almost to the T. I was lucky and used it as fuel but for most of my early 20's it really fucked me up. I finally reconciled with my dad and the part that really gets me is he was so blasted on oxy and Klonopin he didn't remember doing 90% of the stuff he did. Life is hard man and everyone has a story
It’s true with so many things, not just abuse like this. I’m now almost 37, and I’m finally…finally starting to realize my shit isn’t so unique after all. So many similar stuff.
I grew up in a dysfunctional abusive home myself but in my case one of my brothers was the abuser and I'm pretty sure my folks were scared of him too. My brother hated me and threatened to kill me basically because i was the youngest instead of him so he took it out on me. I have no ties to him at all, my parents are both deceased so it's only my other brother and me and we're not super close but we communicate here and there. Abuse is something you can escape from but it's harder than hell to get to the good side of life. Hang in there, Joe. You're a survivor just like those of us out here who are survivors too.
I feel more grateful for my father. Rest his soul. A Marine. Veitnam Vet. He helped me so much living and fighting with my depression and anxiety throughout the years. I wonder now if he was so good with helping me to deal because of his dealings with PTSD. I mean it could have gone either way, but he was strong enough to not take it out on us, but to help us navigate.
Shout out to this man for admitting his mother was abusive too and likely drove the family apart. Everyone is afraid to speak on the things that women do.
Whatever unresolved mommy issues you have, you should seek some professional help for it. Of a 12 minute interview of this man mostly speaking on how he overcame the abuse inflicted on him by his father what you got out of it was; "his mother... likely drove the family apart." Try listening again without putting your spin on it. "I just mimicked everything that he said.... But when I got up to PA he already had a girl he was laid up in. That's all that mattered to him. She worked ...and he didn't need (a) kid any more... "I didn't understand the consequences of testifying against my mom."
As someone who’s experienced this I read many of these comments, hear self pity, despair. Find help if you need, find forgiveness or this can literally poison the rest of your Life…
God bless you man. Most people walk around with no fucking clue how bad life has been to some. That some are the best people in the world. People treat me shifty daily if they only knew how bad life's been to me they probly break down and cry... wouldn't make the first step in my shoes... I hold my head high and don't cross my values. Pray it gets better.
This is very relatable. I'm glad he got out, and learned from a terrible example. Our abuse was from someone recreating their own trauma from a position of control. We broke the cycle, and in glad he could too.
Lord God, bless this man Joe Pyfer. all the trauma and suffering that he has endured would make most into a bitter and evil person, yet he has a light and peace about him that is inspiring. Blessing and prosperity Joe, all Glory to the Father, in Jesus Christ’s might name. Amen 🙏
@@NotKimiRaikkonen God knew what I said, as soon as I thought to text it, and even before I knew I was going to say it. I see you’re being a hater by posting lame comments and omitting jealousy over him getting to vent trauma so openly. Unfortunately no one is interested in hearing your story. Im sure it’s interesting, since it’s lead you to be a hater. Hopefully one day someone will care enough about you and give you the love you so desperately wish to have. God bless you sir
Respect to this man for not giving up and growing into a man. I let my abuse and trauma control me for a long time, that abuse from the people that are supposed to love and protect you hurts bad.
Joe Pyfer, you broke my heart in two. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I just want to hug you, dude! Also, though, I'm proud of you that it didn't break you and you turned out so well. You are probably a big inspiration to many young people. God bless you!
I always protected the kids that got bullied. I beat up the bullies. Most of the time I didn’t even have to beat them up they were scared of me. Truth is I know exactly what the bullied kids felt like because I felt the same growing up in an abusive environment. I wasn’t abused but i witnessed my mom get abused and that’s what formed my personality into a protector. I don’t train to fight but I’ve always been a fighter since I was a child my training was wrestling team, helmet boxing everyone and working out daily 😂 Im 38 now and probably have slowed down a bit but that old man strength is legit. I don’t think I’m Superman or anything but I’m a single dad to a little girl and I’d kill for her. I’d go to any lengths to protect her. I don’t know how people treat their kids like trash when you’re literally the reason they exist. A child’s love is so unconditional and precious I don’t understand people.
That life story, if I was in UFC and heard that pre fight with Joe, I would just hug him in the first and last round. Respect Bru. The Lord guided your way out of that no doubt.
I knew this comment section would be full of testimonials. I have also gone through similar mental and physical torture for many years of my youth.. stay strong guys. My personal beliefs are that I’m glad it happened because it made me stronger. Keep pushing
All the blessings to you Joe! You are a real inspiration for many. I can see it feels good to get theses things of your chest and into the world. Must be a real relieve. I wish you all the best man!
That's was a great expression. We have a lot of more people around that experienced very low low parental love levels. Extremely impactful. I'm one of them. I have a wonderful daughter now and every day the concept blows my mind. It actually hurts. I couldn't imagine doing the same.
I went thru this with my "mom" She Manipulated me for years, physically and verbally abused, I never understood why. I became her personal punching bag, I got married and moved away at 18, but her abuse haunted me for years! Until my early 30s when i was able to get my life and thoughts together, to have motivation and be a positive person. Recently she messaged me after 18 years of not speaking and wants to be in my life. Guess what lady, its too late! I needed her then, Not now. And it feels so good to send her to hell😌
I can relate to this on so many levels. My childhood home was like Vietnam. Similar to what he describes. My dad drank hard liquor. It was either my dad and mom fighting. My dad and my brother, me vs. my brother or me vs. my dad. I was the youngest and wrestling gave me a way to defend myself. They didn't know how to wrestle and thought it sucked. I proved that it works. Police visited my house more times than I can count. This continued into my early twenties. I became addicted to hard drugs and sold them to get by. I lost a good job in a machine shop because of my addiction and became depressed. I watched UFC in my apartment while I contemplated what I should do with my life. I eventually trained in Muay Thai and BJJ and began fighting in MMA. I have lived in a house with shit and piss everywhere. No heat in the winter. At one point, I lived in my car while fighting. My dad almost died from a fall while drunk a few years ago. We finally convinced him to stop drinking. He's a lot better than he used to be. He's getting old now and lives alone with a cat that I got him. I stopped fighting after too many injuries and getting sick of living in survival mode. After so many years of fighting, I just wanted peace. I have a good job and I still train and workout for health and leisure purposes.
My childhood was very similar. My dad drank every night, took pills, and sat outside talking on the phone while his wife took care of the house. Eventually she started drinking and taking his pills, while blaming me. I was just getting into high school at the time.
Breaking the cycle is hard when it's how you were raised when you needed to be loved, we have to be a better generation of men. Talk, to me, to anyone.
Got me crying over bro, sheesh. I feel some that u say, but not the depths u expected. No one especially a child should ever go through that. So inspirational brother. I just watched all u UFC fights, ur a dog. And NEW, when u get the chance, I’ll bet on it.
This is a perfect example of why I can’t listen to a lot of conservatives with well off backgrounds anymore like megyn Kelly telling Ben Shapiro “there’s no connection between crime and poverty”. Absolutely ridiculous. Love seeing this clip and this man is an absolute inspiration especially as someone who also has a history of abuse and neglect coming up
Getting you ass beat by people that are supposed to love you is the hardest to get over. I am 56 and still flinch when someone's hands get to close to my face. Sucks!!!
How can you do this to your children? How could you not love your children? My baby is my world and I will protect her until the day I die. I'm so sorry your family did this.
To be able to speak about the abuse helps you. Some of us are so embarrasssed by the abuse we experienced that it end up eating at us and self harming. To anyone out there please don't blame yourselves for abuse that happened to you as a child.
I could never understand how can you bring someone into the world and treat them like absolute garbage. I had a similar situation myself growing up but the abuser was my mom instead of my dad. I left home at 16 and took a train 3000 miles by myself to the other side of the country just to get away from her. Fortunately I had family living there that took me in and helped me out and my life completely changed for the better.
Kudos 👏 🙌
I totally understand because I was born with glass bones and paper skin. Every morning I break my legs, and every afternoon I break my arms, at night I lie awake in agony until my heart attacks put me to sleep.
Best wishes, I’ve totally been there. Took 30 years to find out & get betrayed by people you love and trust.
Excellent ! Glad you had success !
@@jeremy-b spot on
I was physically abused by my dad. He was an alcoholic and former military. I was also the bullied kid in school, been beat up more times than I can count, so, needless to say, my mind has been in some dark places. I’m now in my 40s, 2 years sober, and still trying to learn how to enjoy life without drugs and alcohol. Protect your kids, because childhood trauma is no joke.
Wishing you all the best 🙌.
alcholic dad my abuse was mostly mental
i still think back to all the fucked up times
at 40 year olds
some people dont know how good they have it
I am in my 40's and healing myself. I felt compelled to reply to your story. I am sure you are a beautiful person who is worthy of love, support, and encouragement. Please take it easy friend.
Amen bro
Same, brother. Keep fighting the good fight!
"Teach your kids to be a good friend, because many dont go home to a loving home"
- *It actually kills me I cant remember who said this*
Charles Manson said that quote.
Why do you keep spamming this comment @@user-kg6gl4vr1h
Absolutely.
@@Turk_2023WOW
@Turk_2023 He was a musician right? I’ll have to check out some of his work
This young man has more wisdom than most people twice his age. He's been through so much hardship, so he had to grow up fast. I'll bet he'll be a cycle breaker and be a great dad.
I am sorry for what you went through man. At the same time I am proud of where you are. Keep your head up.
He saw this 🙏🏽
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Yeah he dealt with it like a man. Makes Sean Strickland look like a lil whiny crybaby out here 😂😂
@@tamie341 Hope you never expect sympathy one day when you're "caught" crying
That stuff with your dad is some really heavy stuff. I'm a grown man with sons of my own. That made my eyes water. Glad your doing well now brother.
Abuse and Trauma is so scary. Its remarkable how seemingly well adjusted Joe is, considering.
Often I hear the other way around. With Mon getting the sons to testify against the dads then The moms start the abuse. I guess we should use store to judge situations
@@user-kg6gl4vr1h Are you special?
It's taken me YEARS to try and deal with being s. abused between ages 8-9, I'm 41 now. Ketamine treatment along with therapy has helped me finally talk about it and deal with it
Joe didn’t have abuse or trauma he talked about at all. His mom just left his dad. And his dad didn’t raise him since then.
@@stringbender3he’s talking about the guest
This hits close to home. Thanks for opening up the way you did. Mad respect! I wish you nothing love and success, Joe.
Its so good for people with similar problems to hear these conversations. There's hope for everybody.
Abuse is a silent killer
It’s actually not silent but yea
Damn, I needed to hear this. I haven't talked to my "dad" in almost 15 years, mom's a drug addict and a narcissist.
I can't let my pain define me, I need to find my outlet that gives me peace and purpose.
One of the most powerful clips I've ever seen from this podcast. Thank you.
Sorry. You got the heart to get through the pain. Your not alone. Stay strong !
@@jeffrywhite6008 Your words mean more than you know, thank you so much for being kind. I honestly was expecting criticism or hatred.
Nobody can love you as much as you can love yourself. Had a bad home myself and in the process developed a lot of hate which only hurt me and not the ones I hated. Work on yourself and try to get rid of all those fucked up mental patterns a bad family can give you. I know you can blossom into the best version of yourself :) best of luck
@@michaels_madnessChrist Almighty, thinking (or worrying/assuming) you'd get criticism is a sign that you have CPTSD. EVERY HUMAN WITH A FUNCTIONING BRAIN that lives in an abusive situation (or grows up in one) has CPTSD. You can't not have it. Again, unless your brain doesn't function the way God designed it to function.
Unless this is the first time you've ever been in a comment section, I can't see any other reason you would fear a critical reply. Most people in comment sections of typical yt videos are kind and supportive towards people that have the courage to disclose such information.
CPTSD will rob you of a healthy, fulfilling adult life. It'll make it impossible to have a healthy relationship with a healthy person. And you deserve a healthy fulfilling life and a relationship with a healthy person.
@@michaels_madness Dont look at yourself as a victim. You are a Strong man that has had bad experiances. Break the cycle and be tha man you want to be. AND NO SHAME IN ASKING FOR HELP. LOVE YOU MAN ! YOU GOT THIS. YOU REALLY DO!
Shew, thats fucking rough. I cant even begin to imagine being mean to my children, such a bummer. God Bless you bro
Yea, there are times you need to tell them off and teach them to prevent bad behaviour. Then there are those parents that outright neglect their children and bully and abuse them and treat them like a burden, that I cannot even comprehend or imagine doing to my own children.
So sad, children are innocent and don’t deserve to be treated like that. We need to break those cycles, practice restraint because that’s what a real man does.
This guy is tough as shit. That's the hardest training
Yeah must be tough being 27 years old and still bringing up your childhood every time you talk to someone...
@@NotKimiRaikkonenIt was a big part of his life in fact over half of his life, also he is on a podcast where you talk about things. Why does that bother you? Do you need to talk to somebody?😂
@@Z3sty367 the day you turn 18, you have no right to complain about your childhood. Once your parents are legally out of your life, the only thing holding you back is you.
And no, I don't need to talk to somebody. Therapy is a scam to drain rich white ladies bank accounts.
@@NotKimiRaikkonen that's the most pussy ass shit i've heard all decade. being able to talk about an abusive childhood takes balls you've only, at best, tasted
@@NotKimiRaikkonen fucking internet tough guy. Youd probably cry like a baby if someone touched you.
Jesus this poor kid has been through some shit. Heartbreaking to hear.
Dude needs a hug
That is so heartbreaking 💔, u never know how ppl have and are treated out of sight . His dad has no excuse, I am a medical retired nurse, so when my kids finish I am there for them. I take painkillers due to catching a falling patient, then hit head on my a drunk drive on my side of the road. I can’t walk without pain, I can’t sit or lay down for any length of time. But I sure as heck look after my wee ones . I can’t imagine the pain joe was feeling, actually suffering. From the person he loved the most. I could say something bad but UA-cam would band . Guts and strength you have it in abundance. Chin up
Which is crazy, because his dad is one of the nicest people I've ever met in my life. Couldn't even picture him getting mad. Literally like an older version of Wonderboy Thompson.
And not saying you can't be strung out on pain killers and alcohol and also be a BJJ black belt and boxer, but I'd bet Sr. is still in phenomenal shape.
None of this adds up whatsoever. Not close to them, but until Jr. started speaking out, I thought they had a decent relationship
I'm from south jersey and i had the pleasure to meet pyfer and actually hangout with him at a bar. He is the most down to earth and mentally strong guy I've met. With his mentality and skill he will be champ one day mark my words.
Dude is a statistic down to the letter, only difference is he got out using will and pure endurance.
@@user-kg6gl4vr1h 😂
I hope our families heal I’m coming from a fucked up home too. It’s nice to hear that. You still are appreciative of your mom even though you feel like she doesn’t love you. I’m kind of going through the same thing right now and I’m trying real hard to realize that she was a 20 year old trying to hold down two kids by yourself. You know that’s not fair bur life isn’t. So today I wish upon everyone that they have a very good day and they try to make their own lives better regardless of things that may bring you down. Wish for a better future!
About a shout out for the all Dads sticking around and loving their kids unconditionally
Some real shit there... I always liked this guy but I will always be rooting for him now... amazing how people can come through tough times and achieve something special, like getting signed to UFC.... respect bro 👊🏻
Kudos to him for expressing that. It's a testament to what he's overcome. And to be resilient and competitive. That's remarkable
Brother. I am so sorry hearing this. I was abused - not to the same level- but I was abused by both parents and family too. Its tough coping, knowing neither parent liked, loved or cared for you/ourselves. Im still working on it. For people like us, its a miracle we are even still here, alive. 360 degree abuse as a kid makes adult life HARD.
Oh friend that is devastating to hear. I am a school nurse and think of little people like you and give extra care to them. I need to hear from people like you so it reminds me often why we give the extra time.
Im 26 now and its hard bro
The part that really gets me is when he says he still has attitude problems. The rage and shame never leaves, and it's almost like evil people can sense that vulnerability, like a need to be loved and love, so the abuse continues on and on... and in the end, people on the outside blame the victim for the bad choices and emotional issuse. Its so fked
Truth
Not everyone deals with challenges in the same way this dude is built different
How humble and honest this man is. I dont know him from mma. i am not the biggest fan. But he tells his story..honestly with no ego. I hope he finds joy in the rest of his life. I hope others find inspiration from his story.
His mother hated him because he lied and was abusive towards his sisters. His mother called the cops on him and had him barred from the house for starting fights with his sisters boyfriends.
he was a meth head
I have a Toxic Relationship with my Own Father. He Literally Destroyed my Childhood. The Beatings. The Cussing. Fighting with my Mother. He still has his Violent bursts. It's like. He Does Not Care what I or my Mother or sister say. His mentality is If he says Something, it is always Right.... No matter how disastrous it turns out for us. Listening to This, i understand . It is what it is. Imma live my Life , make something good out of it. Sometimes you just cannot fix someone .... Even if they gave birth to you ..
Unfortunately I can relate to much of this.
One thing that I've found from talking about my experiences is that there's more of us than you'd think.
yup
And we thought it was only our generation that was a mess 🤣🤣🤣
Iykyk, truly The fight that never stops. Thank you for sharing.
damn, glad you made it through, fighters are inspiring
It's crazy the older I get and the more people I am introduced to the more I realize that my story isn't special. Dude layed out pretty much my entire life almost to the T. I was lucky and used it as fuel but for most of my early 20's it really fucked me up. I finally reconciled with my dad and the part that really gets me is he was so blasted on oxy and Klonopin he didn't remember doing 90% of the stuff he did. Life is hard man and everyone has a story
The true blessing is your forgiveness of your Father reconciling
he turned violence into violence, just cuz he white doesn't mean he's right...
Bruh its hard out there for a penguin and especially a drunk one.
It’s true with so many things, not just abuse like this. I’m now almost 37, and I’m finally…finally starting to realize my shit isn’t so unique after all. So many similar stuff.
I think I might've needed this, keep pushing brother
I grew up in a dysfunctional abusive home myself but in my case one of my brothers was the abuser and I'm pretty sure my folks were scared of him too. My brother hated me and threatened to kill me basically because i was the youngest instead of him so he took it out on me. I have no ties to him at all, my parents are both deceased so it's only my other brother and me and we're not super close but we communicate here and there. Abuse is something you can escape from but it's harder than hell to get to the good side of life. Hang in there, Joe. You're a survivor just like those of us out here who are survivors too.
I feel more grateful for my father. Rest his soul.
A Marine. Veitnam Vet. He helped me so much living and fighting with my depression and anxiety throughout the years. I wonder now if he was so good with helping me to deal because of his dealings with PTSD.
I mean it could have gone either way, but he was strong enough to not take it out on us, but to help us navigate.
Him & Sean need a grown man they respect give the a monumental hug & say well done. You’re a beautiful soul.
Damn this brought a tear to my eye, glad he found a way to cope with this
Shout out to this man for admitting his mother was abusive too and likely drove the family apart. Everyone is afraid to speak on the things that women do.
Whatever unresolved mommy issues you have, you should seek some professional help for it. Of a 12 minute interview of this man mostly speaking on how he overcame the abuse inflicted on him by his father what you got out of it was; "his mother... likely drove the family apart."
Try listening again without putting your spin on it.
"I just mimicked everything that he said.... But when I got up to PA he already had a girl he was laid up in. That's all that mattered to him. She worked ...and he didn't need (a) kid any more... "I didn't understand the consequences of testifying against my mom."
When you're raised by people like this it's rough man
I just want to hug Joe. I went through similar. It is so hard to talk about trauma and he was so well versed. I'm not a ufc fan but I am now.
As someone who’s experienced this I read many of these comments, hear self pity, despair. Find help if you need, find forgiveness or this can literally poison the rest of your Life…
Man, I'd like to sit down and have a chat with this guy over a beer or 2. I've been through some bad stuff and I can tell this guy is still hurting.
Joe P, I am so sorry for your experiences. Know you are not alone. Your courage is appreciated and an inspiration.
went to school with his sisters,the youngest probably called me the N-word about a thousand times
God bless you man. Most people walk around with no fucking clue how bad life has been to some. That some are the best people in the world. People treat me shifty daily if they only knew how bad life's been to me they probly break down and cry... wouldn't make the first step in my shoes... I hold my head high and don't cross my values. Pray it gets better.
It’s crazy the pain some people go through and still persevere.
What an incredible man. Inspirational. xxx Love to you, Joe.
I have 3 boys. I would die for them and constantly bring them up when they’re feeling bad. This guy is speaking Chinese to me… God bless you my man!
This is very relatable. I'm glad he got out, and learned from a terrible example. Our abuse was from someone recreating their own trauma from a position of control. We broke the cycle, and in glad he could too.
thank you Joe Pyfer for sharing..it is important
I trained with joe for years. Solid dude who overcame what would break most
I just got out of jail after 60 days!!! God bless you all 🤙🏾 🖤
What'd you do?
@@Sommyiefor a 60 day sentence, I'm guessing broke probation or stopped paying child support.
You’ll be back soon, don’t worry.
You’re going back next week.
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Lord God, bless this man Joe Pyfer. all the trauma and suffering that he has endured would make most into a bitter and evil person, yet he has a light and peace about him that is inspiring. Blessing and prosperity Joe, all Glory to the Father, in Jesus Christ’s might name. Amen 🙏
God doesn't read UA-cam comments...
Amen
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God knew what I said, as soon as I thought to text it, and even before I knew I was going to say it.
I see you’re being a hater by posting lame comments and omitting jealousy over him getting to vent trauma so openly. Unfortunately no one is interested in hearing your story. Im sure it’s interesting, since it’s lead you to be a hater. Hopefully one day someone will care enough about you and give you the love you so desperately wish to have. God bless you sir
Where was god for 20+ yrs of the worst misery of his life? What a joke.
maybe he didnt seek@@rickyleclerc2010
Good to see guys speaking up about this
Respect to this man for not giving up and growing into a man. I let my abuse and trauma control me for a long time, that abuse from the people that are supposed to love and protect you hurts bad.
RESPECT BROTHER!!!!💪🇺🇸💯🦅!!!
Joe Pyfer, you broke my heart in two. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I just want to hug you, dude! Also, though, I'm proud of you that it didn't break you and you turned out so well. You are probably a big inspiration to many young people. God bless you!
I always protected the kids that got bullied. I beat up the bullies. Most of the time I didn’t even have to beat them up they were scared of me. Truth is I know exactly what the bullied kids felt like because I felt the same growing up in an abusive environment. I wasn’t abused but i witnessed my mom get abused and that’s what formed my personality into a protector. I don’t train to fight but I’ve always been a fighter since I was a child my training was wrestling team, helmet boxing everyone and working out daily 😂 Im 38 now and probably have slowed down a bit but that old man strength is legit. I don’t think I’m Superman or anything but I’m a single dad to a little girl and I’d kill for her. I’d go to any lengths to protect her. I don’t know how people treat their kids like trash when you’re literally the reason they exist. A child’s love is so unconditional and precious I don’t understand people.
It never surprises me that dudes like this excell an become successful in not just a financial way
That life story, if I was in UFC and heard that pre fight with Joe, I would just hug him in the first and last round. Respect Bru. The Lord guided your way out of that no doubt.
Whoever that one like is, because everything I comment I get that certain one like, that one feeling...you can have a hug to.
I’m trying to be the parent I needed as a kid! Horrible childhood
I relate to this so hard. Good job dude. Keep moving never stop.
I feel this to my core. Some of us absolutely lost in the parental lottery...
I went through alot ,living in the height of the opioid crisis in East Tennessee, but i never had my father beat me jesus glad your doing good now.
If you are in an abusive situation, fight to get out. I've been there before, they will warp you until something breaks, make a plan, and get out.
I knew this comment section would be full of testimonials. I have also gone through similar mental and physical torture for many years of my youth.. stay strong guys. My personal beliefs are that I’m glad it happened because it made me stronger. Keep pushing
All the blessings to you Joe! You are a real inspiration for many. I can see it feels good to get theses things of your chest and into the world. Must be a real relieve. I wish you all the best man!
That's was a great expression. We have a lot of more people around that experienced very low low parental love levels. Extremely impactful. I'm one of them. I have a wonderful daughter now and every day the concept blows my mind. It actually hurts. I couldn't imagine doing the same.
I went thru this with my "mom" She Manipulated me for years, physically and verbally abused, I never understood why. I became her personal punching bag, I got married and moved away at 18, but her abuse haunted me for years! Until my early 30s when i was able to get my life and thoughts together, to have motivation and be a positive person. Recently she messaged me after 18 years of not speaking and wants to be in my life. Guess what lady, its too late! I needed her then, Not now. And it feels so good to send her to hell😌
I’m so glad you rose above it and I hope only good things. ❤❤☮️
I can relate to this on so many levels. My childhood home was like Vietnam. Similar to what he describes. My dad drank hard liquor. It was either my dad and mom fighting. My dad and my brother, me vs. my brother or me vs. my dad. I was the youngest and wrestling gave me a way to defend myself. They didn't know how to wrestle and thought it sucked. I proved that it works. Police visited my house more times than I can count. This continued into my early twenties. I became addicted to hard drugs and sold them to get by. I lost a good job in a machine shop because of my addiction and became depressed. I watched UFC in my apartment while I contemplated what I should do with my life. I eventually trained in Muay Thai and BJJ and began fighting in MMA. I have lived in a house with shit and piss everywhere. No heat in the winter. At one point, I lived in my car while fighting. My dad almost died from a fall while drunk a few years ago. We finally convinced him to stop drinking. He's a lot better than he used to be. He's getting old now and lives alone with a cat that I got him. I stopped fighting after too many injuries and getting sick of living in survival mode. After so many years of fighting, I just wanted peace. I have a good job and I still train and workout for health and leisure purposes.
wishing the best for this dude!
Respect brother ❤
My childhood was very similar. My dad drank every night, took pills, and sat outside talking on the phone while his wife took care of the house. Eventually she started drinking and taking his pills, while blaming me. I was just getting into high school at the time.
Social security watching this video like 👀
Wow - good for him to carry on
Your not alone Mr. Pyfer. I wish you all the best!
Sending him virtual love. It's hard when your parents abuse you. It changes you to the core. ❤
Love you for letting him speak, Joe. So good. 👊🏼💪🏻🙏🏻
Breaking the cycle is hard when it's how you were raised when you needed to be loved, we have to be a better generation of men. Talk, to me, to anyone.
This guy is a Man, with capital M. Massive respect for him. More people should have his resolve and values.
Got me crying over bro, sheesh. I feel some that u say, but not the depths u expected. No one especially a child should ever go through that. So inspirational brother. I just watched all u UFC fights, ur a dog. And NEW, when u get the chance, I’ll bet on it.
As someone who went through pretty much the same thing including getting pulled out of school to testify against your parents this hits home
This is fire. Thank you for sharing
Great to see Pyfer overcoming. Good for him. Clapping for him.
this was dope, love it. can't wait to see all the success his career has in store for him
This is a perfect example of why I can’t listen to a lot of conservatives with well off backgrounds anymore like megyn Kelly telling Ben Shapiro “there’s no connection between crime and poverty”. Absolutely ridiculous.
Love seeing this clip and this man is an absolute inspiration especially as someone who also has a history of abuse and neglect coming up
Man, this was tough to hear. I didn’t realize he went through all of that. But look at the man he has become. Good on Bodybagz!
Getting you ass beat by people that are supposed to love you is the hardest to get over. I am 56 and still flinch when someone's hands get to close to my face. Sucks!!!
How can you do this to your children? How could you not love your children? My baby is my world and I will protect her until the day I die. I'm so sorry your family did this.
Respect! God bless you, man!
To be able to speak about the abuse helps you. Some of us are so embarrasssed by the abuse we experienced that it end up eating at us and self harming. To anyone out there please don't blame yourselves for abuse that happened to you as a child.
Never saw Joe fight but I'll be a fan forever. Joe, if u never win another fight u will always be a champion
I'm so sorry for such a despicable up bringing but proud of who you are today. Best
Jon Pyfer putting south jersey on the map!!!
Media pa is definitely kinda boujee lol
Beautiful Spirit!❤ God Bless and Keep Going 💯
Inspirational
Bless Will Harmon... Real man right there