My sister and I had to double date till we were practically seniors in high school, and though I griped about it then, I am SO thankful! Haha I always liked having an “out” if I needed one, and it kept things from getting too serious and we were all more focused on whether we liked each other’s personalities instead of physical stuff
agree that Solo is very wise but have to say that I see quite a few others on social media that are wise as well. Wont name their names but if you follow a lot of the homestead channels you will learn that there are many wise young people in social media.
@@lovelygal212 I am with you on that...diversity is life and seeing color means you appreciate what each culture,race and community brings to the table.
I didn’t have a dad growing up so to hear a man stand up for his children and protect their hearts just does something to me. I have grown to know that I have a Father in heaven who has always had my best interest at heart but seeing it manifested in an earthly father makes me so happy ❤️ God bless your family ❤️
@Christina, same here. I haven't seen my father since I was 17 (I turn 65 next month) and before that time, I hadn't seen him since I was 14. A girl especially, needs a dad to show her what a real man is. I wish my father had cared enough to be a father. He is still alive but has no interest in seeing us.
Boundaries, respect and consequences. I raised a lot of teenagers.For me, no make-up outside the home before 14 and then with my approval. No alone dating until 17-18 alone without parental permission and discussions with the couple concerned. Plus, I believe in open communication, on the teenager level but with respect! It is what they know when communicating with their friends, open communication. I only had problems with one child and that was expected behavior from that particular child! The rest were very respectful and never questioned the “house rules!”
Wow!! Solo, I love the advice about dating too early!! “If you won’t let someone punch your child in the face, why would you let them punch them in the heart”. That is sooo true!!! I’m sharing that statement!! Our children are grown and gone with their own family but that statement is a lot like our parenting!!!
Girl, I say this to my 14 yo son on the daily when he asks why he can't do one thing or another. All he can do is agree with us. He may ask a time or two more, but the big push is over. Love it!
I love your answer to the internet question. It’s not going away so teaching safety is of the utmost importance! It’s such a pleasure watching you all.
I loved the "you protect them from getting punched in the face , why wouldn't you protect them getting punched it the heart" wow. Perfect way to put it.
I love that you don’t let your kids have social media. I was in high school right of the start of social media when MySpace started to get big. I am thankful that I did not have to deal with the bullying that happen and the fake realities that people put out there. I deactivated my Facebook at 30 years old because of the mental effects it had on me. I can only imagine how it could make someone a lot less younger insecure and depressed. It makes me sad.
Em Bem yes! It really made my life better as well. I was always checking it too. Constantly feeling like I need to be in the know and others need to be in the know of my life. Whenever someone close to me tells me how social media is hurting their life I try to tell them to delete it! It can be very addicting though and hard to delete.
Yes!! I kicked social media 3 years ago right after my 24th birthday! My mental health has improved drastically and I now have my own little family and goals instead of comparing and crying over dumb shit 😂 Wow! Thinking back so much has changed! For ANYONE thinking about leaving social media don't worry about your close friends or family. I have kept in close contact with the people that matter. My family and I talk nearly every day still, old friends and I check up on each other every so often over text and it's way better that way 😊
You can tell them no that doesn’t mean their not going to have that come on now they have teenagers my friends my told them not to have a lot of things they still did
There’s people out there and I question why they have kids. You guys are awesome I’m happy y’all are putting 10 kids out there into the world! Not sure how you do it so well and adjusted. But hey!
Absolutely!! We are on the same page. We also homeschool, and raise our kids in a christian household with christian values. You show it can be done and not be weird. You guys rock!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I loved the answer to the last question. It was such a great perspective. My grandma owned a daycare when I was young and she had children from rich to poor. Foster care and families of all different types. I think that really helped me see that we are all humans who deserve respect and love. Have a great day!
Speaking to your children and letting them know that you are there for them and will listen to them no matter what is the best defense against bad influences. All anyone has to do is look at Belle and Judah to see that your parenting is working and working well!
@@delindawilliams3935 it was the same way for me as well. My kids are pretty much grown now and we are way closer than I was/am with my Mom. Because of our relationships they have never hidden anything from me or done anything behind my back and that's such a great feeling for a Mom.
They’ll thank you regarding social media one day. I’m only 19 and I’ve been online since I was 9, and I’m currently addicted to social media (my screen time is over 15 hours a day) and I fall behind on work and college assignments, I’m extremely unproductive. It’s also an extremely negative experience in general and I lose faith in humanity after what I’ve came across online. They’ll thank you for guiding them away from this. I wish a decade ago I had the same guidance.
We loved Solo's answer to the black friends question. That was a really good example that we never thought of before. "Do your kids have white friends?" Good example Thank you
Great video. As a black woman, after watching you guys for over a year, NEVER questioned if they kids have black friends. Makes me side eye those that ask. My husband and I are both black and our kids use to get picked on for how they talked. OH WELL, NEXT!!! PEOPLE 😒😒😒😒😒😒
What a perfect example , why should a child go through heartbreak over a boy or girlfriend ?! Keep there innocence as long as possible . Years from now they will be so glad you did.
When I was a little girl there was a time that most of my friends were a different race. My only requirement for friends were that they were kids. All were fun to play with. I didn’t care. Good times!
Totally agree! I am in my 50’s. When I was a child I had friends of various ethnic, (as well as religious and socio-economic) backgrounds. I still have friends of various backgrounds. I am also big into genealogy and I find having different ethnic backgrounds so very interesting.
I am so sad to see that you have evil comments about you personally Sarah! You two have such a wonderful family and such a Godly spirit! I just love watching every video.
I totally agree with your dating views and the fact that kids need to be kids and keep their innocence as a kid while they can. The world forces so much so fast so protecting their childhood is such a key today! Well done!!
I love the talk about not having your children date too early, saving them from early heartbreak, preserving their innocence and all of that. As parents it is a hard thing to do when your children are seeing other children dating early, but it is our duty to protect them from all those negatives that are in the world and that "might" ruin their lives,( or negatively impact their lives)at a very age. Speaking from experience, it is no fun having adult responsibilities as a child and having a lot of unnecessary regrets, and negative childhood memories . I wish that starting out in my country,that their were more than 2 of us biracial children in my community,and more than just me in my neighborhood. As I was growing up in Canada and America,I got that diversity around me and not just at school. I used to feel a little different because it was brought up at home(only),but my friends didn't care to ask (my white friends and black friends never mixed, I played with them in different neighborhoods). Colorism and race was a taboo,we saw it,but was told to hush. I talk about these things with my children,(about myself), why I believe we should embrace everyone with the love of God,therefore seeing them as beautiful people in God's image. My oldest children and I still talk about these things as their children asks about why I look different. Sarah and Pastor Solo,I admire seeing your family come together as a unit and create lasting joyous memories. For as long as I can remember, my white and black family members have not come together,and those biracial only meet at special occasions(weddings and funerals,mostly the latter). It's sad. The older generation hide truths and information from the rest of us,literally taking it to their graves. Smh Very intriguing vlog. I'm going to question my mom before the memories all fade away.😆
I have 3 grown married children, 2 boys and 1 girl...and I absolutely love Pastors perspectives on raising kids! I just wish I’d had some of his wisdom when I was raising mine up! It would have saved ALL of us, so much grief! Y’all keep doing you and don’t worry about those who only want to be “wooden spoons”! (Someone who is always wanting “to stir the pot”) Love watching y’all and can’t wait till the next video! 🥰😘🥰
(Mom of a 2 and 7 year old) My biggest take away from this video was Having general principles instead of hard rules, dealing with issues on a situational basis and knowing that each child is different and what works for one may not work for the other. THANK YOU BOTH! I would love to hear (one day) if your children ever talk to you or recognize rascism in their lives? If not, Thank God! If so, How have you all addressed it in a multiracial family?
About three months ago they did a long video about racism. It was right after George Floyd. I don't remember if they specifically spoke about their children but check it out.
My teens are not getting social media accounts either. My husband was a youth pastor for many years and we saw some of the awful fruit that comes from kids having social media accounts. This is really good, guys! Thanks for answering questions! ❤️
Love the perspective you guys have! My children are older (22, 20 and 18). They all still live at home and we raised them with conservative Christian values as well. The one thing I can say is God's word does not return void! Even though they may drift, the foundation they were raised on will always be there and God has them! Prayer is a mother's best friend!
You two should write a book on Family Matters because you're both so wise and I love Solos take on tweens/teens dating, I totally agree about them not having to experience heartbreak at too young an age.
When I used to work with middle school students in youth ministry I once taught a lesson on being a Christian on the internet focusing on cyber bullying and being a positive influence online. The number one thing kids took away that no one had told them? That saying something mean to someone online hurts just as much as if you said it to their face. Mean is mean no matter where it happens and I think society in general could learn from this.
Solo you are so wise and yet compassionate! Sarah you are beautiful and loving and wise as well! You are an amazing team and your children are so blessed to have you for parents. Solos sermon this week touched me deeply and reminded me of a verse I have always loved and needed to hear again “ Fear not little children, for greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world”! God bless you both and your darling children!
I LOVED the way Solo answered that question Black Friends.....Just tell them what we say EACH OTHER 😊 No seeiously I get living in a certain area is who you befriend we are a all black family with ALOT of white friends because this is where we live and they go to school.
So much wisdom here. We as adults have more than enough challenges with social media. It's HARD to hear the awful words of others, especially when they truly mean ill. Our kids are no match. I love your outlooks.💜
I'm one of six children in my family, and when I become a teenager and started showing in an interest in dating, the request was that I bring along a sibling. Well my four brothers made that a difficult request, and one that looking back on I appreciate and we all laugh about it now.
You two need to go on the road (so to speak). If the world could attempt to live by your principles and thoughts, everyone could be better off. Love you all.
Good morning tribe of many thank you for answering questions that are none of our business LOL and letting us be a part of your family it is so clear to see that God is first in your family do you have a very blessed day tribe of m many
I completely agree with the children waiting until theyre older to date. I also agree that the children should just enjoy being kids. Great vlog. Thank you for sharing!
I just want to say that you are not obligated to share everything in your lives. I have stopped watching channels because it seems like they are trusting the camera on people. I am grateful for the parts of your life that you do share. I know you all aren't perfect, but you do have a great perspective on things. I love your meal prep videos. I love your grocery halls, especially when the little ones are grabbing berries or crackers or whatever. That is real life. I think this channel is great for you for the extra income (with 10 kids any extra is good.) Personally I learn a lot from you. Solo is amazing as well. Handsome and a great personality. You guys are living the dream. Thanks so much for sharing. Hugs
I love that you guys don’t shelter your children. You two are amazing and transparent with your kids. I know my parents didn’t really have any kind of control of our internet in the 90’s, but the world has changed so much and people are so cruel online
I love that you have definite principles on things AND work on a case-by-case basis. Having children in my 20’s, I can tell you, you’re doing it right.
Very wise words Solo! Also I love your willingness to share your values, in today’s world there is such a need for positive parental role-models! Thank you for answering God’s call to service.
"Run like David!" That's what my husband and I tell our son all the time as far as internet and any form of temptations go. Also, "do what you think is right" has been a fun one to use. It puts the accountability fully on them. Its worked so far and has created some really comical and deep teaching moments. ❤️
Solo is such a comedian in this one. 🥰🤣😂🤣 I agree about wanting kids to be kids, I didnt get the luxury in many things, but I did get to choose no relationships till after I was done w/ school. I couldn't stand all the fakeness in a "Christian school" over "who likes who," "they touched me do they like me"
You guys are so right about limiting the internet with your children. Within my extended family one of the girls who had just barely turned 12, after following some creep on the internet, committed suicide. I don't have all the details, but oh the grief of a young girl that snuffed her life out without any of those things that girls look forward to. The thing is you can't control what your kids see online if you let kids have their own internet in their bedroom or wherever. My pastor talked about this once from the pulpit that no way can his family be online except in the living room where others are to monitor them. The thing is you can trust your own kids, but you can't trust who they find online. Your response about dating is so good. I did have a wonderful boyfriend when I was 15, and in a way it was a gift of God, as this guy was terrific. So when I married my first husband who treated me like trash, I could remember back to when a guy really did care for me and treated me like a queen. If I had a 15 year-old daughter would I have let her date at 15? Most likely not. When I hear of girls that think they need to lose their virginity before they even get to HS, it totally stuns me. The devil will use any lie to get our children away from us and from following God.
Love the fact that you guys have sit down talks, then have meal prep videos. I love watching your family, I always wanted a big family but couldn't due to endometriosis. So I will continue to enjoys your huge family, stay true like you guys are. Great family with great faith in our lord.
Loved the answer about dating and heartache. I haven’t explained it in that way to my kiddos. Definitely going to bring that reason up to them. I also loved how you said children are intelligent. I was raised to think the opposite, that we were bound to mess everything up. That teens are the most irresponsible people on earth due to hormones etc. I loved that you said and teach your kids otherwise.
Your way of parenting is Awesome it reminds me the way my husband and I raised our kids. I was raised in a Christian home and some of your ways of parenting I can relate to.🥰
I loved your advice to start at the goal, and try to figure out how to get there! I have been married for 23 years and never thought about it that way. I guess, in the end we battled through somehow to make our marriage work,and now we truly are inseparable. However we are inseparable in different ways. We can be apart for weeks on end of we have to be in different parts of the country, but in the end, our "home" is each other. I just wish I had heard your advice years ago for some of those earlier disagreements. 😉
Love the two of you talking together about how you handle issues/concerns with your kids. It helps me be a better parent and see a different perspective 😊
You are so right...social media is of the devil for kids and teenagers! I love your channel so much because we share the same morals and values! You’re all wonderful!
I can’t believe someone asked that question about the kids having black friends. What does it matter what color their friends are? That’s the beauty of living here in the US is that we have people from all over. I’m black and I have friends and relatives of all shades....love it
While they are young and live in the protected environment of their parents home Black friends may be less integral. Being Black is more than just "color" it is also a unique and proud culture. As those children grow older and leave home they will find that the world will deal with them differently. They will find that having Black friends who share some of the same experiences will be invaluable. The girls will want to discuss with other Black girls how to care for their hair and skin. There are aspects of African American culture that is probably rare in Nebraska that Black friends can introduce them to. I think it was a legitimate question.
Hi Sarah and Solo.. Your avid South African fan here... I learn so much from you as a wonderful, wholesome couple.. Your parenting is amazing, and I applaud your wisdom, and love for your beautiful family... Your dad is soooooo entertaining and funny, and love his input as well.. Well done on a job well done...!!!!
I think you two share similar beliefs with my mom. She was a devote Christian who made sure I had morals and values. I too was allowed to be a child for a long time. I wouldn't trade those memories for anything. As far as social media, I was in my late 30's before I joined Facebook. Thank you for sharing parts of your lives on UA-cam! May God continue to bless your family!
Amen on everything especially your dating advice. We followed those same guidelines with 3 daughters and are so very thankful we did. The results have been amazing.
I agree with you on the internet and the dating. My son has already had a heartache when his dad passed away. He was only 8 yrs old and his brother was 17 yr old. I have to be strong for them. My oldest doesn't talk about his dad. My youngest and I went to Newsong ( which is a service through Hospice of the Valley) for 3 1/2 yrs. But now we are seeing a counselor together and separately. God bless you and your family ❤.
I love you guys! Y'all are really easy going but not push overs. (And I have to say, I'm glad that you're not like the Duggars. I don't think that I would enjoy your channel as much, or even watch it, if you were. 💜)
Hi.. How are you? Greating from Sweden. My kids are mix to. I have two kids and there father is from Gambia. Both of my kids have friends from hole over the world.
What a lovely couple and family. My children are grown and it is so nice to get to be a fly on the wall in your home with your family. I love how purposeful you are in raising your children to protect their hearts and I have total agreement on everything you went over here. Making decisions for your family with their long term happiness in mind is not always easy and certainly, you will not find agreement in mainstream culture on this but it is so worth it. My son called me the other day to thank me for not letting them play video games and for putting a timer on their computer use. I wanted them to have a "real" life with "real" activities. People ask me how I did that. I just did it. Now that they are well rounded adults and happy because they make good decisions, I have such a sense of satisfaction knowing we did it right and they will thrive into the future.
You are a wonderful family and I am thankful for your natural everyday life! You are all a true blessing! May God continue to use you to build His kingdom!!!
I like your way of parenting & handling of internet. I love listening to Solo, he is so intelligent. I am so glad i found your channel. Why anyone would be mean towards either of you is beyond me. I had an a wonderful childhood, we played outside, made up games, no electronics or much TV. We were kids!
My sister and I had to double date till we were practically seniors in high school, and though I griped about it then, I am SO thankful! Haha I always liked having an “out” if I needed one, and it kept things from getting too serious and we were all more focused on whether we liked each other’s personalities instead of physical stuff
I love that! You have smart parents. 😜❤️. Every kid needs an “out”!
Claire Campbell - Hey Blondie! I’m 26 and I still don’t date 😂😂😂😂
Lol
Enjoyed your video. Thanks
@Claire what's an "out"? Sorry. I'm not familiar with this term. 😊
Solo, is a wise man. “You won’t let your child get punched in the face, why let them get a punch to the heart”!!! Love that.
Solo is a very wise man. You don't see too many people with wisdom on social media!
Solo comes from a Place were old world And wisdom r part of who u r..... Kenya
His name is Solomon, after all! 😊
agree that Solo is very wise but have to say that I see quite a few others on social media that are wise as well. Wont name their names but if you follow a lot of the homestead channels you will learn that there are many wise young people in social media.
Kenneth Cole So true
You’re looking in the wrong places, then.
My daughter has black, white,
and mixed race friends.
We don't look at color, we look at the heart, respect and manners
Angie Laforest good for you and your family. I don't see color either I see people.
I see color, and its beautiful.
@@lovelygal212 all colors are beautiful....
@@lovelygal212 I am with you on that...diversity is life and seeing color means you appreciate what each culture,race and community brings to the table.
AMEN love each person heart god is love
I didn’t have a dad growing up so to hear a man stand up for his children and protect their hearts just does something to me. I have grown to know that I have a Father in heaven who has always had my best interest at heart but seeing it manifested in an earthly father makes me so happy ❤️ God bless your family ❤️
So glad you have found the Lord! He is the ultimate father😍
Wowwww!! Powerful!! In my book, that is the right answer!!!
@Christina, same here. I haven't seen my father since I was 17 (I turn 65 next month) and before that time, I hadn't seen him since I was 14. A girl especially, needs a dad to show her what a real man is. I wish my father had cared enough to be a father. He is still alive but has no interest in seeing us.
I am in total agreement with your philosophy on parenting. Let kids be kids, show them respect, yet in force boundaries.
Boundaries....great word!
Boundaries, respect and consequences. I raised a lot of teenagers.For me, no make-up outside the home before 14 and then with my approval. No alone dating until 17-18 alone without parental permission and discussions with the couple concerned. Plus, I believe in open communication, on the teenager level but with respect! It is what they know when communicating with their friends, open communication. I only had problems with one child and that was expected behavior from that particular child! The rest were very respectful and never questioned the “house rules!”
Wow!! Solo, I love the advice about dating too early!! “If you won’t let someone punch your child in the face, why would you let them punch them in the heart”. That is sooo true!!! I’m sharing that statement!! Our children are grown and gone with their own family but that statement is a lot like our parenting!!!
Girl, I say this to my 14 yo son on the daily when he asks why he can't do one thing or another. All he can do is agree with us. He may ask a time or two more, but the big push is over. Love it!
I can’t get over how shiny, healthy, and gorgeous your hair looks!!
Thanks!
Our Tribe of Many ....yes agree....please what products are you using????
Kids keep you young and beautiful 😊
I love your answer to the internet question. It’s not going away so teaching safety is of the utmost importance! It’s such a pleasure watching you all.
I love the advice of focusing on the goal rather than the way to get there! Thank you for that
I loved the "you protect them from getting punched in the face , why wouldn't you protect them getting punched it the heart" wow. Perfect way to put it.
I love that you don’t let your kids have social media. I was in high school right of the start of social media when MySpace started to get big. I am thankful that I did not have to deal with the bullying that happen and the fake realities that people put out there. I deactivated my Facebook at 30 years old because of the mental effects it had on me. I can only imagine how it could make someone a lot less younger insecure and depressed. It makes me sad.
Em Bem yes! It really made my life better as well. I was always checking it too. Constantly feeling like I need to be in the know and others need to be in the know of my life. Whenever someone close to me tells me how social media is hurting their life I try to tell them to delete it! It can be very addicting though and hard to delete.
Yes!! I kicked social media 3 years ago right after my 24th birthday! My mental health has improved drastically and I now have my own little family and goals instead of comparing and crying over dumb shit 😂 Wow! Thinking back so much has changed!
For ANYONE thinking about leaving social media don't worry about your close friends or family. I have kept in close contact with the people that matter. My family and I talk nearly every day still, old friends and I check up on each other every so often over text and it's way better that way 😊
I’m 24 and only have a private Instagram, my mental health is 100% better!
You can tell them no that doesn’t mean their not going to have that come on now they have teenagers my friends my told them not to have a lot of things they still did
The dynamic between solo and sara is just so sweet! I love it!
There’s people out there and I question why they have kids. You guys are awesome I’m happy y’all are putting 10 kids out there into the world! Not sure how you do it so well and adjusted. But hey!
I think they pray a lot and depend on God to help them parent well. I admire them as well.☆
The foundation of their home is Jesus Christ and the Word of God. It's His grace & wisdom...that's how they do it. ✝️
Pamela Painter Amen!
Thanks!
Absolutely!! We are on the same page. We also homeschool, and raise our kids in a christian household with christian values. You show it can be done and not be weird. You guys rock!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
May God grant me such wisdom as i raise my kids in this difficult world.
I loved the answer to the last question. It was such a great perspective. My grandma owned a daycare when I was young and she had children from rich to poor. Foster care and families of all different types. I think that really helped me see that we are all humans who deserve respect and love.
Have a great day!
We are pretty much all the same b/c we are people!
Thankful my college aged son has zero interest in social media! He hates the bullying he sees. I hate what adults do on social media too!
I can’t even imagine saying anything negative about your family!!! You two seem like proactive parents
I'm so thankful for this channel❤. Solo "I forgive often because I offend often"😂. So respect your humbleness❣
Speaking to your children and letting them know that you are there for them and will listen to them no matter what is the best defense against bad influences. All anyone has to do is look at Belle and Judah to see that your parenting is working and working well!
Yes! Open communication is key! Kids need to know that regardless of the issue they will be heard and not condemned.
I agree. I didn't have that growing up,but I put it in practice with my children and we are closer for it.
@@delindawilliams3935 it was the same way for me as well. My kids are pretty much grown now and we are way closer than I was/am with my Mom. Because of our relationships they have never hidden anything from me or done anything behind my back and that's such a great feeling for a Mom.
@@queennefratiti69 Yes,an awesome feeling.
They’ll thank you regarding social media one day. I’m only 19 and I’ve been online since I was 9, and I’m currently addicted to social media (my screen time is over 15 hours a day) and I fall behind on work and college assignments, I’m extremely unproductive. It’s also an extremely negative experience in general and I lose faith in humanity after what I’ve came across online. They’ll thank you for guiding them away from this. I wish a decade ago I had the same guidance.
We loved Solo's answer to the black friends question. That was a really good example that we never thought of before.
"Do your kids have white friends?"
Good example
Thank you
Here I am single and no kids but making note of this great advice for the future! Thanks Solo and Sarah! Love you guys💜
It's on point, right?! 😊
Good to be prepared😂
Having taught Internet safety to families as well as parenting ... love these answers!
💕💕👏🏼👏🏼💕💕
Thanks!
Great video. As a black woman, after watching you guys for over a year, NEVER questioned if they kids have black friends. Makes me side eye those that ask. My husband and I are both black and our kids use to get picked on for how they talked. OH WELL, NEXT!!! PEOPLE 😒😒😒😒😒😒
Good morning to my FAVORITE family vloggers! May God bless you all today and always in every wonderful way possible. Love you all ❤🙏
Thank you...God bless you too!
What a perfect example , why should a child go through heartbreak over a boy or girlfriend ?!
Keep there innocence as long as possible . Years from now they will be so glad you did.
Solo: "She puts up with me"
Oh Solo, You know you are a dream husband 😆
When I was a little girl there was a time that most of my friends were a different race. My only requirement for friends were that they were kids. All were fun to play with. I didn’t care. Good times!
Great criteria!
Totally agree! I am in my 50’s. When I was a child I had friends of various ethnic, (as well as religious and socio-economic) backgrounds. I still have friends of various backgrounds. I am also big into genealogy and I find having different ethnic backgrounds so very interesting.
I am so sad to see that you have evil comments about you personally Sarah! You two have such a wonderful family and such a Godly spirit! I just love watching every video.
I totally agree with your dating views and the fact that kids need to be kids and keep their innocence as a kid while they can. The world forces so much so fast so protecting their childhood is such a key today! Well done!!
I absolutely love the way solo explains his outlooks. Especially when he was explaining the heartbreak. Way to go solo.
I love the talk about not having your children date too early, saving them from early heartbreak, preserving their innocence and all of that. As parents it is a hard thing to do when your children are seeing other children dating early, but it is our duty to protect them from all those negatives that are in the world and that "might" ruin their lives,( or negatively impact their lives)at a very age. Speaking from experience, it is no fun having adult responsibilities as a child and having a lot of unnecessary regrets, and negative childhood memories .
I wish that starting out in my country,that their were more than 2 of us biracial children in my community,and more than just me in my neighborhood. As I was growing up in Canada and America,I got that diversity around me and not just at school. I used to feel a little different because it was brought up at home(only),but my friends didn't care to ask (my white friends and black friends never mixed, I played with them in different neighborhoods). Colorism and race was a taboo,we saw it,but was told to hush. I talk about these things with my children,(about myself), why I believe we should embrace everyone with the love of God,therefore seeing them as beautiful people in God's image. My oldest children and I still talk about these things as their children asks about why I look different.
Sarah and Pastor Solo,I admire seeing your family come together as a unit and create lasting joyous memories. For as long as I can remember, my white and black family members have not come together,and those biracial only meet at special occasions(weddings and funerals,mostly the latter). It's sad. The older generation hide truths and information from the rest of us,literally taking it to their graves. Smh
Very intriguing vlog. I'm going to question my mom before the memories all fade away.😆
I always look forward to your videos, I feel like you are extended family. Thanks for sharing your life and keeping me company during COVID!
I have 3 grown married children, 2 boys and 1 girl...and I absolutely love Pastors perspectives on raising kids! I just wish I’d had some of his wisdom when I was raising mine up! It would have saved ALL of us, so much grief! Y’all keep doing you and don’t worry about those who only want to be “wooden spoons”! (Someone who is always wanting “to stir the pot”) Love watching y’all and can’t wait till the next video! 🥰😘🥰
(Mom of a 2 and 7 year old) My biggest take away from this video was Having general principles instead of hard rules, dealing with issues on a situational basis and knowing that each child is different and what works for one may not work for the other.
THANK YOU BOTH!
I would love to hear (one day) if your children ever talk to you or recognize rascism in their lives? If not, Thank God! If so, How have you all addressed it in a multiracial family?
About three months ago they did a long video about racism. It was right after George Floyd. I don't remember if they specifically spoke about their children but check it out.
Lala_ Land Thank you for that! Will do!
Thnanks @Lala_Land....I was just going to give that exact answer!😁
My teens are not getting social media accounts either. My husband was a youth pastor for many years and we saw some of the awful fruit that comes from kids having social media accounts. This is really good, guys! Thanks for answering questions! ❤️
Amen! Even the most innocent well meaning child can get caught up in the insidious activity on social media.
I just love this! The world needs more parents like you!! I love all your values. God Bless you all. 🙏❤️
Love the perspective you guys have! My children are older (22, 20 and 18). They all still live at home and we raised them with conservative Christian values as well. The one thing I can say is God's word does not return void! Even though they may drift, the foundation they were raised on will always be there and God has them! Prayer is a mother's best friend!
Amen!
You two should write a book on Family Matters because you're both so wise and I love Solos take on tweens/teens dating, I totally agree about them not having to experience heartbreak at too young an age.
I like Solo's analogy about the internet◼ IMO marrying someone of the same religion is the best thing for a marriage..your on the same page
It sure does help!
When I used to work with middle school students in youth ministry I once taught a lesson on being a Christian on the internet focusing on cyber bullying and being a positive influence online. The number one thing kids took away that no one had told them? That saying something mean to someone online hurts just as much as if you said it to their face. Mean is mean no matter where it happens and I think society in general could learn from this.
Solo you are so wise and yet compassionate! Sarah you are beautiful and loving and wise as well! You are an amazing team and your children are so blessed to have you for parents. Solos sermon this week touched me deeply and reminded me of a verse I have always loved and needed to hear again “ Fear not little children, for greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world”! God bless you both and your darling children!
I love your family. GOD BLESS YOU... YOU have a great marriage..
I LOVED the way Solo answered that question Black Friends.....Just tell them what we say EACH OTHER 😊 No seeiously I get living in a certain area is who you befriend we are a all black family with ALOT of white friends because this is where we live and they go to school.
So much wisdom here. We as adults have more than enough challenges with social media. It's HARD to hear the awful words of others, especially when they truly mean ill. Our kids are no match. I love your outlooks.💜
I'm one of six children in my family, and when I become a teenager and started showing in an interest in dating, the request was that I bring along a sibling. Well my four brothers made that a difficult request, and one that looking back on I appreciate and we all laugh about it now.
That is great advice!!
You two need to go on the road (so to speak). If the world could attempt to live by your principles and thoughts, everyone could be better off. Love you all.
I love that solo said, good break ups are a lie!
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Superlike👍. You are smart parents and a great couple. You two should write books about how to raise kids with love.❤️
Good morning tribe of many thank you for answering questions that are none of our business LOL and letting us be a part of your family it is so clear to see that God is first in your family do you have a very blessed day tribe of m many
Thanks!
can we have a series of solo's advice in future Sarah?
I met my husband when I was 15. We were each others first relationship. Here we are 16 years later happily married with a child.
Same. 34yrs on, still happily together and in love. Six children and 4 grandchildren xxx
Met mine at 17, married 39 years...best friends. 2 kids 4 grandkids
I met my husband when I was 14. 32 years ago.
Laura Beaulieu Met at 16. Married at 18. 61 years later and still loving.
Hmm me to but divorced. It can be to early. I regred it. For him and for me
I completely agree with the children waiting until theyre older to date. I also agree that the children should just enjoy being kids. Great vlog. Thank you for sharing!
If there is ever a "best of..." videos...this one will be #1 on my list. Wisdom, humor and the chemistry between you two.
Y’all are great!! I wish you would’ve been on you tube when my kids were younger! You have the best advice!
I just want to say that you are not obligated to share everything in your lives. I have stopped watching channels because it seems like they are trusting the camera on people. I am grateful for the parts of your life that you do share. I know you all aren't perfect, but you do have a great perspective on things. I love your meal prep videos. I love your grocery halls, especially when the little ones are grabbing berries or crackers or whatever. That is real life. I think this channel is great for you for the extra income (with 10 kids any extra is good.) Personally I learn a lot from you. Solo is amazing as well. Handsome and a great personality. You guys are living the dream. Thanks so much for sharing. Hugs
Lol. Love your answer, Solo! Do your kids have any white friends? Who cares what colour friends are? Are they good friends? Bless you guys! 💕
Y’all are dropping some EXCELLENT parenting wisdom 🥰🥰🥰❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️
Completely agree with you every step of the way! Congratulations on raising your kids in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.. keep pressing on !
Love your passion about kids being kids and having innocence. Oh how it would be if, more parents felt the same.
So wise! Love all this, Solo and Sarah! "Keep communicating ", YESSSSS
I love that you guys don’t shelter your children. You two are amazing and transparent with your kids. I know my parents didn’t really have any kind of control of our internet in the 90’s, but the world has changed so much and people are so cruel online
I love the laughter and simple fun you gave together. You both show friendship and unity. I am prayerfully thankful for such a fun thing to watch
I love that you have definite principles on things AND work on a case-by-case basis. Having children in my 20’s, I can tell you, you’re doing it right.
I agree with all your answers! Side note...love the meal prep videos and when your kids show what they like to make too.
Love you guys! My question to you both is how do you "shield" your lovely children from haters (racism)? Thank you kindly, Cheryl
Well said on all the questions
I really enjoy watching chatty mondays
Very wise words Solo! Also I love your willingness to share your values, in today’s world there is such a need for positive parental role-models! Thank you for answering God’s call to service.
It’s 5 am in California and I woke up to see your videos. Blessings to all🥰💓
"Run like David!" That's what my husband and I tell our son all the time as far as internet and any form of temptations go. Also, "do what you think is right" has been a fun one to use. It puts the accountability fully on them. Its worked so far and has created some really comical and deep teaching moments. ❤️
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Solo is such a comedian in this one. 🥰🤣😂🤣
I agree about wanting kids to be kids, I didnt get the luxury in many things, but I did get to choose no relationships till after I was done w/ school. I couldn't stand all the fakeness in a "Christian school" over "who likes who," "they touched me do they like me"
You guys are so right about limiting the internet with your children. Within my extended family one of the girls who had just barely turned 12, after following some creep on the internet, committed suicide. I don't have all the details, but oh the grief of a young girl that snuffed her life out without any of those things that girls look forward to. The thing is you can't control what your kids see online if you let kids have their own internet in their bedroom or wherever. My pastor talked about this once from the pulpit that no way can his family be online except in the living room where others are to monitor them. The thing is you can trust your own kids, but you can't trust who they find online. Your response about dating is so good. I did have a wonderful boyfriend when I was 15, and in a way it was a gift of God, as this guy was terrific. So when I married my first husband who treated me like trash, I could remember back to when a guy really did care for me and treated me like a queen. If I had a 15 year-old daughter would I have let her date at 15? Most likely not. When I hear of girls that think they need to lose their virginity before they even get to HS, it totally stuns me. The devil will use any lie to get our children away from us and from following God.
Good Morning ☀️ I agree with internet use and monitoring of children.
Love the fact that you guys have sit down talks, then have meal prep videos. I love watching your family, I always wanted a big family but couldn't due to endometriosis. So I will continue to enjoys your huge family, stay true like you guys are. Great family with great faith in our lord.
Loved the answer about dating and heartache. I haven’t explained it in that way to my kiddos. Definitely going to bring that reason up to them. I also loved how you said children are intelligent. I was raised to think the opposite, that we were bound to mess everything up. That teens are the most irresponsible people on earth due to hormones etc. I loved that you said and teach your kids otherwise.
Your way of parenting is Awesome it reminds me the way my husband and I raised our kids. I was raised in a Christian home and some of your ways of parenting I can relate to.🥰
I loved your advice to start at the goal, and try to figure out how to get there! I have been married for 23 years and never thought about it that way. I guess, in the end we battled through somehow to make our marriage work,and now we truly are inseparable. However we are inseparable in different ways. We can be apart for weeks on end of we have to be in different parts of the country, but in the end, our "home" is each other. I just wish I had heard your advice years ago for some of those earlier disagreements. 😉
We learn as we grow. The key is too keep trying and not give up!
I love how you explained the 3+3=6 but so does 2+4. What a great concept!
I just love Solo. He is so sweet.
Love the two of you talking together about how you handle issues/concerns with your kids. It helps me be a better parent and see a different perspective 😊
Thanks for watching!
My daughter's husband is black. They had been friends since they were in school.
You are so right...social media is of the devil for kids and teenagers! I love your channel so much because we share the same morals and values! You’re all wonderful!
Sarah your hair is gorgeous!
I was saying. So shiny and long and healthy looking
So r your kids. They have great smiles and great parents have a blessed day!
Thanks!
What a great world it would be if people raised there children like you. Children who come from icing families are so lucky.
I can’t believe someone asked that question about the kids having black friends. What does it matter what color their friends are? That’s the beauty of living here in the US is that we have people from all over. I’m black and I have friends and relatives of all shades....love it
While they are young and live in the protected environment of their parents home Black friends may be less integral. Being Black is more than just "color" it is also a unique and proud culture. As those children grow older and leave home they will find that the world will deal with them differently. They will find that having Black friends who share some of the same experiences will be invaluable. The girls will want to discuss with other Black girls how to care for their hair and skin. There are aspects of African American culture that is probably rare in Nebraska that Black friends can introduce them to. I think it was a legitimate question.
@@kobla56 Great explanation....I agree!
Hi Sarah and Solo.. Your avid South African fan here... I learn so much from you as a wonderful, wholesome couple.. Your parenting is amazing, and I applaud your wisdom, and love for your beautiful family... Your dad is soooooo entertaining and funny, and love his input as well.. Well done on a job well done...!!!!
I really appreciated your answers and that they were Bible-based core principle answers 😍❤️😍
I think you two share similar beliefs with my mom. She was a devote Christian who made sure I had morals and values. I too was allowed to be a child for a long time. I wouldn't trade those memories for anything. As far as social media, I was in my late 30's before I joined Facebook. Thank you for sharing parts of your lives on UA-cam! May God continue to bless your family!
Sarah, your hair looks amazing! Can you do a hair routine video of what you do?
Amen on everything especially your dating advice. We followed those same guidelines with 3 daughters and are so very thankful we did. The results have been amazing.
A beautiful couple, with lovely children. Blessings to you all
I agree with you on the internet and the dating. My son has already had a heartache when his dad passed away. He was only 8 yrs old and his brother was 17 yr old. I have to be strong for them. My oldest doesn't talk about his dad. My youngest and I went to Newsong ( which is a service through Hospice of the Valley) for 3 1/2 yrs. But now we are seeing a counselor together and separately. God bless you and your family ❤.
I love you guys! Y'all are really easy going but not push overs. (And I have to say, I'm glad that you're not like the Duggars. I don't think that I would enjoy your channel as much, or even watch it, if you were. 💜)
I can't imagine anyone leaving nasty comments on your channel. Very thankful for your inspirational and fun videos.
Hi.. How are you? Greating from Sweden. My kids are mix to. I have two kids and there father is from Gambia. Both of my kids have friends from hole over the world.
Beautiful!
What a lovely couple and family. My children are grown and it is so nice to get to be a fly on the wall in your home with your family. I love how purposeful you are in raising your children to protect their hearts and I have total agreement on everything you went over here. Making decisions for your family with their long term happiness in mind is not always easy and certainly, you will not find agreement in mainstream culture on this but it is so worth it. My son called me the other day to thank me for not letting them play video games and for putting a timer on their computer use. I wanted them to have a "real" life with "real" activities. People ask me how I did that. I just did it. Now that they are well rounded adults and happy because they make good decisions, I have such a sense of satisfaction knowing we did it right and they will thrive into the future.
You are a wonderful family and I am thankful for your natural everyday life! You are all a true blessing! May God continue to use you to build His kingdom!!!
I like your way of parenting & handling of internet. I love listening to Solo, he is so intelligent. I am so glad i found your channel. Why anyone would be mean towards either of you is beyond me. I had an a wonderful childhood, we played outside, made up games, no electronics or much TV. We were kids!
Question for next week...How are the grandparents and great grandma doing during this COVID time. ?
I can answer that now. They are ALL doing great!! Grandma hasn't been out but she feels 'safe' and is content. We can go see her and do.
Yep. Doing great in Florida