Flagging Anxiety & Panic | Dr. Harry Barry | Talks at Google
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- Опубліковано 13 лют 2017
- In Flagging Anxiety & Panic, Dr. Harry Barry provides a comprehensive view on the differences between anxiety and panic, their main causes, the role of our brains and body when dealing with them, the details around panic attacks and general anxiety disorder to finally demonstrate through case examples how to use lifestyle changes, mindfulness, exercise and CBT techniques to cope with these symptoms and improve an individual's wellbeing.
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Omg, when he says "never try to stop a panic attack, it's like trying to stop the tide, once it's here it will happen whether you want it or not, stop resisting, allow it and it will pass".
THANK YOU!
enough said 💯
There are a few factors in remedies for panic attacks. One place I found which succeeds in merging these is the Trevs panic fixer (check it out on google) definately the no.1 guide i've heard of. look at all the extraordinary information .
Isn't that really the case with all our emotions?!
That was f ukin outstanding. Wish I heard this 40 years ago....
Dr Claire weeks Barry with dare and this angel Dr Harry Barry is enough to deal with panic and anxiety.
True!!!
DR. WEEKES IS THE PIONEER IN THIS FIELD. WORLD CHANGING WOMAN. THE 2 BARRYS ARE DOING OUTSTANDING WORK
I agree with you
I've seen this more times then Harrry Potter and the Chamber of secrets.. Thankssss
I've rewatched this a bunch especially certain parts, I want it to really click so when the next one happens I can cope.
This man is a blessing. He has resonated with me profoundly.
Uncomfortable but not dangerous. Most people with anxiety are very healthy because they are afraid to Get sick. Let anxiety flow to your head down to your big toe, let it go away. Focus on present what are you doing now and stay calm. You have overcome it before
Do you have muscle PAin with anxiety
Ive suffered from chronic anxiety since age 7 and panic disorder since age 16... depressive symptoms on and off.... Listening to this guy gave me so much.... Im a creative person with a beahioural problem.... ive done CBT. But I think Im not done yet...
If you think you're not done, you're not. Definitely no drink or drugs.
good job buddy
Thanks so much for posting this. I have suffered more than 10 years with GAD and panic. So much here I’d never heard before. I’ve ordered the book.
Thank you SO MUCH, for this! Just started having panic attacks. You give me hope!
i think this will work for me good luck stare light
How are you one year later,? Just getting panic attacks recently and I hope theres a way out
You are 100% unbelievable I have to give you the benefit of the doubt that everything you’re saying is true. I quit smoking marijuana and I quit smoking cigarettes April 3 of this year . I had a panic attack April 4. I had a minor ones on April 2 but I didn’t really know what it was. My doctor tried to give me an antidepressant , but I refuse to take it. This is before any videos I watch on UA-cam because I didn’t know what was going on. I rushed myself to the hospital thinking I was having a heart attack. I’m doing yoga and watching your videos and I’ve been helped so much God bless thank you.
How's your breathing since quitting? Ive been feeling like j need to randomly take deep breaths like mini panic attacks since I quit cigs.
I don't get winded exercising. It's just this random need to breath deep. No other symptoms except feeling anxious.
You sound exactly like me even the time frames are the same
Would love a season with dr harry ! I have anxiety since my mum passed and now panic disorder I have downloaded flag and panic away but still can't shift it ! His voice and talks really calm me down and give me some hope
Nicole, you can use a technique called "forgiveness" to clear out negative emotions related to people, events, objects, animals... and so on.
The basic premise is this:
Get yourself in a place where it is peaceful, quiet and comfortable, preferably, switch of the lights or make it darker as you can, and sit comfortably.
Then close your eyes and imagine the person you want to forgive(to deal with something negative that you relate to him, imagining him, seeing him, thinking about him...) And try to visualize him right in front of you the best as you can, or however you can, even saying his name and thinking he is in front of you is also enough(if you are not good at visualizations).
After you visualize him, address him by name as he is there and start a conversation with him, where you start to talk to him. (in your thoughts) You can say whatever you feel, as you feel it, no matter if it is emberrasing, hard, scary, "fuck you" type language... whatever it is, express it.
The first thing is to address him as - I forgive you for this, this and this... and for everything you have done that made me feel bad and I don't remember.
Then do the reverse. Ask him for forgiveness - Forgive me for this, this and this... and for everything I might have done to hurt you and can't remember.
If you have something more to say, say it and slowly open your eyes.
Generally, it is normal to cry and it is a good sign that you actually heal and release the pressure and the negativity stored in you.
Tears are cleaning mechanisms and are a good thing. So if you are a man, do not fucking take it as a weakness, it is powerful cleansing mechanism that nature gave us to release pressure and high level of emotions bad or good.
I mean, when your child is born you cry... from overwhelming joy. :)
Do that technique maximum 1 time a 2-3 weeks, if you need to do it more then once. :) This is to give yourself time not to go into emotional clean ups so frequently. :) Just a pre-caution, safety measure. :)
Atommind Project most panic and anxiety doesn’t come from past events or negative feelings. It’s the fear of fear itself. It’s the fear of “what ifs.” The fear of the anxious bodily sensations. It intrinsically has nothing to do with another person or an object. Panic disorder is the fear of having another panic attack (am I going to die, what will people think of me in public, etc).
@Joseph Smith What I suggested to her is for emotions repressed, or never expressed, since the person is no longer alive and you cannot physically communicate with him to express those feelings/emotions. But you can within your Mind where you have the power to control already repressed/suppressed and/or not expressed feelings and emotions, or thoughts.
Talking about panic attack and anxiety, which by the way are not the same and are different things, you should know that panic attack and anxiety are not just based on fear(they can be based on other things or mix of things as well), and both with anxiety can and might be solely based on repressed or unexpressed emotion/feeling(even though if you have panic attack based on such, anxiety related with the panic attack will be only based on the panic attack itself).
Panic attack has fear as part of the expression part of its process, but in the core of a panic attack you can find different basic/core causes, which are one of the ways you can control/manage panic attacks.
Fear related: Both panic attack and anxiety can be based on more than just 1 fear(2 up to mix of all basic types) and also on all the basic types of fears.
What you are referring with fear of fear itself in the context of a panic attack, is the reality of a person, who has already experienced panic attack and have them, and knowing this fact + knowing he hasn't yet overcome them, creates the anxiety, which stems from the anticipation of a possible future or up-coming panic attack.
Note, that talking about just one side of one panic attack or anxiety, does not cover the subject, nor is universal in its core. Both panic attack and anxiety has their core/basic rules and processes, types and functions. Their expressions on the other hand can be from almost not noticeable to extremes, where they can literally shut down the Mind of a person. They can be based on 1 or more core reasons, that will be the base of the panic attack or of the anxiety.
The subjective experience of one person, or even many people, can be different from the subject's experiences, which are based and depend not only on the basics of panic attack or anxiety(or any other mind process), but are related also to the subject's mind, body, soul, spirit and accumulated experiences, knowledge and information, characteristics and parameters.
To be able to actually help everyone, you need the basics, applied to his own subjective case/reality.
p.s. After, the technique "Forgiveness" does many complex changes and activates different process, which can and in most cases are clearing the causes of many mental or emotional, caused problems, conflicts or even diseases, based on those. All of which, has influence and affect the body, which is why in many cases, people using and applying the right way that technique, report physical relief too, "Like stones felled from my shoulders." and similar(effect can again vary from slightly noticeable to extremes, where people feel almost complete change and relief of body, mind and spirit.).
Smile, feel and be real! 8)
Good luck to you and Nicole.
What a champion of a guy
AMAZING truly amazing
I needed this so much. Thank you so much!!!!!!!!
I needed this. Thank you.
I can't believe how good this talk was. It addressed exactly how I feel with the social embarrassment part. Explained it better than I could have and it feels bizarre because he made it so straight forward... How was I not able to verbalise it so well? Most other talks didn't address anxiety in such a scientific way.
Thank you so much!
Great information...the part I could understand. I would love to see it in transcript form or better sound.
Great lecture! I really hope harry Barry shows up in issaquah ehh Wa!
I love Dr harry Barry so much 🥰
Thanks it started happening to me out of nowhere....about 4 months ago..had 2 really bad episodes...doctor put me on antidepressants but I have really never been stressed ...i'm a pretty relaxed guy...it was happening again today...but like he said ...im just gonna let them run over me and act like they are really not doing anything to me...try at least better than meds...so thankful for this video it explained alot
Hey! Did this help for you eventually? I am in a similar situation at the moment
Try eating lots probiotics (try kefir), taking CBD oil, taking ashwagandha (helps fix cortisol levels), soaking in magnesium and use the psychological tools talked about in this video. Was having panic non-stop for a week straight...finally going away now that I'm doing all that I mentioned above! I think I had a chemical imbalance as opposed to a psychological trauma.
Brilliant! Approach rather than avoid.
FACE, ACCEPT, FLOAT, LET TIME PASS
very interesting comprehensive view also thought the flooding technique was interesting
Thank u so much Doctor
Most drs are horrible but this guy actually cares
Slightly uncomfortable. But not dangerous. I tried this today and it takes repeated concentration but does seem to work.
Polwarthful what did you try i been suffering for 10 years on and off with panic & anxity attacks and now my doctor said i have high blood pressure
Look into A.C.T. This is what will help you. This will take weeks to months to implement depending on your ability to separate yourself from the feelings. It is ok to think something that doesn't mean that is who you are or even the values you hold. It is simply the amygdala warning you or analyzing potential threats. Try ACT it works!! Good luck
Act???? the only thing that pops up is a college test.
Polwarthful what’s ACT?
@@dennishaughton4554 Acceptance and commitment therapy
Still h👂3 months later.😍😍😍😍. Thanks Bazzah!
Thanks
Trying to recover from fear of fear.. panic attack sucks
Its either real life threatening danger like a bear or your belief in any danger that trigger your alarm/fear.
You basically telling your body to hit the alarm when believing in life threatening danger. Try to remember
your first time you was introduced to this panic feeling was most likely from a threatening situation in your life,
either real life or negative beliefs. Then afterward you thought that the feeling was the worst part while actually
the situation scared you the most, so a fake evidence therefor a fake memory/belief was made and made you
belief in it from then on. If you was seeing a bear that was going to eat you, is the first thing you think about
how bad you feel right there or how scary that situation is? You see there is 2 things involved in there, the situation
and your alarm/fear going. You have probably misunderstood the fear to be your enemy from then on, while it is
only your alarm system to get you in flight or if necessary fight mode. The fake memory/belief in that the fear
was the worst part in what happened the first time in past you experienced it, make you fear your alarm system,
so you are the one who trigger your alarm whit that fake belief/memory and nothing else. Your fear alarms you
and your intelligent center (you) decide if danger is real or not. Like if you see a bear the fear alarms you, but then
you decide that you have a safety measures, so no worries. Remember fear is not what you have experienced it like
your first time you got panic, but milder. But since for the most part you was feeding your self the negative guesses
in your first extreme fear situation, you made a loop of increasing fear from that fear, then you remembered it as
panic. You need to reprogram your selv to the right belief/memory from your first experience of extreme fear.
Fear is your wake up call and a friend. This is the part you need to know: understand the first time panic was not
about your extreme fear, but something you saw as a big threat situation in your life that got fed by negativ guesses
in your confused state, as you tried to understand the situation better. Panic attack is nothing random that comes
and goes, but an echo of fake belief/memory of a feeling from past. You are in control and you decide what to believe.
Pulchritudinous talk! just one question; what does he mean by when he says 'is it a real problem or a visualized one?' how do you differ between the two? an example would help. gracias.
Dr if you are seeing this, y would like to ask a question please, after every panick attack i get sad, and i have obsessionnel thoughts, like hurting others, and i get depressed because of that. And when i am depressed i start to ask some questions about existence and life.... Is that becaus eof m'y anxiety or i have an other problème to deal with ? Thank you vert much.
Love this man . Is his real name Harold Barrold?
interesting, but low sound.
Good evening, do you also treat with patients online ? How can I contact you? Thanx
I agree with everything he says except that antidepressants are a waste of time. Celexa helped my anxiety a great deal...either that or my anxiety cleared up on its own and I am crediting the Celexa. I guess everyone is different, but I'm pretty sure antidepressants work for a significant percentage of people with anxiety/depression.
Yeah I just like the feelings of being stoned..mmmmmm!!
Sometimes theyr just necessary for give your brain a "reset". I have always been a detractor of medicines and I tried to overcome my panic disorder without them but that was not possible for me. Im a very obsesive person and I spent my whole day thinking about panic attacks, even when I haven't had one in months. So I had to take antidepressants for that.
How can I go through CBT with you? You do online treatment? I m in Italy. Thank you 🙏
Does cbt work for panic disorder if your on antidepressant for depression also?
Your my heroe
Can we get better audio? For Google, this is upsetting.
Anyone happen to know the four videos he mentioned that accompanied his Fighting Anxiety book as a companion piece here on UA-cam? Thanks
Just do a search of Dr. Harry Barry.
Very interesting topic, but the camera focuses too little on the slides.
Volume?
i wonder if the embarrassment techniques are in the book?!
Aki Henrik ro
How does one get his books?
Eleanor Scott there on amazon reasonably priced
Can anyone tell me the second point on the amygdala which happens at about 12:03? Right after gunslinger. He repeated it twice but I wasn't able to understand.
SOUNDED LIKE LEUCO CORTISOL WAS THIS IT?
Thick as the wall. Stupid basically
He says the amygdala is as thick as the wall 😅 in other words our amygdala is stupid
Rip headphone users at the applause at the very end.
Be forewarned
Dr Claire Weekes in her several books on anxiety writes about ' the sensitised sympathetic nervous system' as being responsible for the generation of adrenaline and cortisol into the body, provoking all the physical feelings and racing emotional thoughts. We then add more fear to the process, becoming frightened of the state we are in as we attempt to stop the process. So, is the amygdala the 'sensitised sympathetic nervous system,' to which she refers?
The amygdala can only understand emotions and visual. Worry and fear is an emotion. Anxiety and sensitization causes our brains to become very active. The mind chatter becomes worrisome. I'm in the process of learning not to argue with thoughts, but allow them to come. Accepting your thoughts, feelings and symptoms is the way out of anxiety state. It's not easy because the amygdala is so active that it will fire at any small thought. We must allow it all and not fight. Resistance and worry is what keeps the wheel turning.
I suffer from panic dissorters
A panic attack going away in 10 minutes - that's real comedy!
On a good day I can get over it in 30 min
You can do it bro 🤞🏼
It's gone in 10 minuts IF you don't resist it, if you accept it, allow it, it peaks and then it's gone, with maybe some little adrenaline rushes afterwards but not as big as the peak one. If you resist panic it can last for hours.
@@Magnoliasdiary how ??? im so scared :(
@@YasamanAnisi does your mind tells you you're going to die? Ok, that's a THOUGHT, there is no way you can control a thought, and once there is an adrenaline rush you can't stop it either, you start sweating, getting dizzy, fast heartbeat, hyperventilate... OK, you can't stop neither your thoughts or your body, you let it do its thing, does it tell you you're going to die? Ok, bring it on, it's not your to control, release yourself from controlling, I know itsy horrible, but the more you resist the more it will last, how can s thought hurt you? It's not possible, you FEEL it will but a feeling can't hurt you either, let your body and mind do its thing, let yourself tremble, there is nothing wrong, practice little by little.
Would love to have a skype appt with Dr Barry from Oz to get a hold of my anxiety.
Interesting turn around for J. Klinsmann's career...
here's a few tips worth trying
Avoid stimulants such as alcohol and coffee
Try to relax
Do daily exercises
Seek help from others
(I learned these and more ideas on Trevs Panic Fixer website )
Does anyone understand what he's saying at 12:02
It's an incredibly important part of the speech but all I'm hearing is "Secondly, he's tikiththewuld. And actually once you understand that the amygdala's tikiththewuld you can get rid of panic attacks very quickly."
It's the most important word or phrase in the speech and I just can't figure out. Anyone have an idea?
"Thick as the wall", implying the gunslinger is really really stupid and you can't reason logically with him. At least, I think?
Is there a transcript of this? I’m finding it hard to understand him.
is the doctor saying the wine is good to drink during these times at minute 20?
Alcohol is a terrible idea. Don't try to fix anything with alcohol. That's a recipe for disaster
No! He's saying people uses alcohol to cope with anxiety and depression.
Are the people in the audience employees at Google??
That's his name?
Even though flooding is a credible and useful technique for panic disorder, I would recommend incorporating the Claire Weekes method into your treatment because it's ultimately much more consistent and will shield you from relapses. The neurology of flooding is genuine though, but it's behaviourism that will decide whether your anxiety and panic will keep coming back, and that's where the Claire Weekes method shines.
HER BOOK HOPE AND HEALTH FOR YOUR NERVES IS COMPREHENSIVE
@Documenting Anxiety Acceptance is basically a fancy word for attitude. It's simply the way you percieve your anxiety. This is why one of the first steps of Claire Weekes's technique is to teach people the biological concepts behind the symptoms, because it makes people understand that they are harmless and natural so their attitude towards anxiety changes. If people are having a hard time getting used to or understanding acceptance then they're probably not being treated properly.
@Documenting Anxiety Well I can tell you straight away that you don't need CBT. Research has shown that CBT is actually quite useless for anxiety disorders. However, it is important to challenge your thoughts. That is the only aspect of CBT that is relevant. From what I can tell from your response is that you're looking at anxiety the wrong way. You can't "get rid" of anxiety, it's part of human biology and everyone experiences it. Anxiety is designed to keep us alive, which is why we can't simply tell ourselves not to be nervous. The same way we can't tell our heart to stop beating. What is important is when you experience anxiety when you shouldn't (which is caused by neuroplasticity effects from poor lifestyles or repeated panic attacks) and the severity of anxiety (which depends on your understanding of anxiety and your response to it). If you managed to overcome your anxiety disorder originally and it came back then you're missing fundamental lessons. If you're being treated properly (or treating yourself properly) you should become pretty much immune to anxiety disorders. That doesn't mean you won't ever experience anxiety, but it should never become problematic again. What kind of anxiety do you have? Panic Disorder? Agoraphobia? GAD? OCD?
Hi mic 🎙 is not loud enough hers is clean clear his is too low. I can’t hear him up full ! 😢
@@mirr1984 The research you refer to, would you provide an example or two?
Is wine good for anxious ?
No its not , its not good to drink alcohol or do drugs if u have panic attacks
Hi mic 🎙 is not loud enough hers is clean clear his is too low. I can’t hear him up full ! 😢
Dr Claire Weekes said it all 60 years ago See her also on UA-cam
These are techniques developed by Dr. Claire Weekes...
During a panic attack I feel like I can't actually get any air into my body and I feel like I am going to pass out so I usually run away which I have now developed agoraphobia please help me what can I do it's ruining my life. What do I do during an attack do I just stand still? Or do I move around?
Acknowledge the FEELING/ sensations & accept them! ........ Talk to it like it’s in an in animate object. Say hello I’m going about my day you want to tagalong that’s fine. Do not let it stop you from living your life. When you go about your life it loses its power and I understand that you the higher source and your human body are in control and understand that you are not in any danger. You can even say thank you for being here but it’s a false alarm no danger here.......
@elisha you are not alone . I have a same problem as many others so accept is and try Dr harray techniquie of not resisting it is really helpfull
How about when your main symptom is diarrhoea, you can’t stay put, it’s not imaginary diarrhoea it’s literal and it mks u dizzy see stars n forces u to go to the toilet.
The main problem is the when u only suffered this only alone this environment and nobody understand u and everyone things like u r weird and mad and they ignored u because they think if I talk them then what happened with our mind 🙇♀️and otherside u r entirely feel emotionally blackmailed 🤯🤯
can yall give me sone steps to take i been suffering on and off for 10 years or more with panic nd anxity attacks i was on mediactons now my doctor took me off i been off for 2 weeks now its hard i feel like im losing it my blood pressure goes up i on blood pressure mediaction now what can i do.
Chaneak Mason I've had anxiety on and off since I was 5 but I didn't know what it was until 1998 when I was diagnosed as GAD I was 23 yrs old. I really want to try this but the symptoms I get are debilitating:( when I go thru a panic attack my blood pressure goes severely high but it doesn't mean I suffer from blood pressure it's just during the attack.. I've been on low dose meds for a yr now ... don't know if I will be able to hold back and not taking it during the attack 🤷🏻♀️but I will try ... I get attacks every single day 🤦🏻♀️ I guess it's all a matter of telling yourself it's unpleasant symptoms but not dangerous lets try it :) take care
Chaneak Mason wat
Wait. You were on anxiety meds and your doctor stopped you cold turkey?
Wow 2 sessions and many poor people live with medications that have crazy side effects !
Feel sorry for the leopard 😞
I cannot tell what he’s saying at 12:10. “Once you understand this guy is_________”
As thick as the wall 😅🧱
Meaning it's stupid 🤣
What do you do if the Dr's have loaded you up with Antidepressants and Tranquilizers Benzodiazepines years ago, and you want to break free from their clutches after 35 plus years. Totally agree they don't work!!! Tried going off, withdrawals were so bad, death would have been a relief, unsuccessful......
There is hope. You must ween yourself off though, not all at once. Read Dr Harry Barry's books or the DARE program.
When coming off psych meds taper 1 at a time....leaving the benzo for last.
Taper at 10% reduction a month
@@danabare7061 Does anyone who has Social Anxiety and was put on medication feel pretty sad. I was alway s pushed and wondered why it never helped. Plus, getting yelled at for avoiding things. I feel like my life was ruined. Now 8 suffer tapering off these drugs.
Wtf is he saying at 12:02??
Tyler Smith “thick as a wall”
How does "Flooding" work if you have Generalized Anxiety Disorder? I let the symptoms flood me all day? I'snt that kinda suffering when there are benzos? Even if its light benzos here and there? Curious what the doctor thinks. Its easier to flood one panic attack but all day hyperventilation is rough.
Aren’t you already being flooded with bad simptoms all day, everyday then?
If you at least try it, you have nothing to loose, and I bet you will eventually be able to heal yourself quite a bit.
You dont want benzos....they make the all day anxiety seem like a walk in the park when you come off them.
Ok
Interesting but so funny to say the omigdala (?) was around with the dinosaurs before humans. Shows how stupid the underlying world view of evolution is.
Arlem Fraznikito I’ll be eager to hear your Google Talk and read your book next, wise guy.
I've had anxiety attacks last all day. Lol. Blood pressure through the roof.
Me too! The emergency room never worries about the high blood pressure, tho. Mine goes higher and higher until I freak out!!
Plz tell me does panic attack increase your blood pressure??
@@rebeccastalker7803 Plz tell me does panic attack increase your blood pressure??
My Psychology Blogs I think he would say that’s because you are in a sense fighting it, not accepting it? He is teaching that we need to allow it to happen, flood us, all along with the acceptance of what it is- not with the intention of stopping it.
@@Alchemist523 yes your blood pressure goes up when stressed or panic it's called white coat effect, but this is only temporary while you are stressed or panicking, once you have overcome your panic and stress episode your blood pressure goes back to normal, try listening to relaxation music to on UA-cam ie wind rain thunder, zen music it works, hope this has helped you
“Uncomfortable but not dangerous” unfortunately doesn’t apply to everyone. Some have dangerous heart conditions that can be triggered by adrenaline or increased heart rate. I’d be curious his advice for those circumstances.
Nobody has died from panic attack
@@jpini761 Perhaps. But have panic attacks triggered lethal events? Most certainly. Look up things like Long QT syndrome - which can be triggered by adrenaline (which panic attacks cause the release of).
hi doc. good day..i'm suffering from panic disorder for past 5 month..i have chest pain, palpitations,nusea,headache,upset stomach, my first attack from last october 2017 was such horror in my life..my second attack is in january this year. i new it was panic attack ..but i can't stop panicking. my blood presure go up when panic is on that why i'm so afraid..my doctor gave me medicine for hypertention..can i get an advice from you to deal my anxiety? im from philippines thanks doc god bless.
Romilo Bacule hello,are you experiencing it till now?im a filipina and my panic attack strikes again this month,taking medicines but still not feeling well everytime i feel its coming.
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Have you done your ecg echo etc
Wish he could talk a little more loudly and clearly instead of speaking as if murmuring to himself sometimes. Makes it a little difficult for a non-English-speaking person like me to hear and understand what he is saying.
Good info but awful sound quality. At some points that are really important he sounds like he's mumbling. As a professional one must be aware of this and most importantly project his tone, articulation and volume. Trying to listen gave me more anxiety then calm.
Isn't he the same guy who hates Dr Google?🤦🏻♂️
Yes lol
I wish this guy wouldn't mumble
You don't need a Dr. Take it to the Great Physician Jesus Christ!
This is my best friend's story.
Precious Memories- By Sonya Lakey
We had no idea that the evening of September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our oldest son played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for him (which he usually did for himself) for the church hike he was going on the following day.
My mom, who was visiting from out of state, and I got up early with him on Saturday morning to hug him and see him off. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own.
As he pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mom and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw our 16 year old son. He did not make it home that night.
That afternoon, a friend had tried to contact us, leaving a message on the phone to call back due to an emergency, but we really had no clue what was going on. And though we tried several times to return the call, we were not able to make a connection. As I helped prepare supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan and dread filled my heart, and I quietly blinked back tears. I looked out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pulling in, but no.
However, within minutes, a police car DID pull in our driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst, but I went outside to speak with him. He confirmed who I and my husband (who followed me out) were, then hesitantly told us our son had fallen off a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed.... Still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, we have such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son again. You see, even as a young boy, Ethan realized some very important truths from God's Word.
He had sinned against a righteous, holy and just God. The Bible says:
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that his sin separated him from God, and he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” (Hebrews 10:31)
“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
He understood he could not pay the price for his sins.
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan realized that, 'though he could not pay the price for his sins, the price had already been paid in full by the blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God. Jesus lived a perfectly sinless life. He had no fault of His own. But Jesus was crucified for our sins, and He took on Himself the sins of every person in the whole world. He was beaten, spit on, whipped, mocked, scourged, and nailed to the Cross of Calvary. He shed every drop of His righteous blood - because that was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous God - so we could be made righteous in Him. He suffered all of that so Ethan - and you and I - would not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire, but so we could spend eternity in Heaven with HIM! THAT is a great LOVE.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
Jesus did not stay on the cross, nor did He stay in the tomb where His body was buried. Three days later, Jesus arose triumphant over sin and death and the grave. Ethan believed this with his whole heart, asked Jesus to forgive his sins, and he put his faith in Jesus Christ ALONE to save him from sin and eternal death and to take him to Heaven someday.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus and others. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. We know he is alive in Heaven with Jesus today, and we know we will see him again soon, not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day? Would your family, though grieving, be able to rejoice in the knowledge that they would see you again in Heaven, or would you be burning in Hell today?
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
Have YOU trusted Jesus as YOUR Saviour? Have you repented of your sins? Have you asked Jesus to forgive you so you can go to Heaven & not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire? Tomorrow may be too late. As Ethan pulled out of sight that morning, we had no idea we would never see him again in this life. None of us have the promise of tomorrow! Repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus alone - today!
“(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2)
"Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away." James 4:14