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How to stand up for yourself
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- Опубліковано 12 лип 2017
- People, you have to learn how to stand up for yourself. Don't let folks take advantage of your kindness.
Stand up for yourself. Quit being a pushover! Standing up for yourself. Stop being so nice. People taking advantage of your kindness.
Yes, most people take kindness, for weakness ! SHOCK THEM AND SPEAK OUT !
So fucking true. people take your kindness for weakness
Tracey Hughes. Thank you so much for your comment. peace and blessings to you.
I've had to cut contact with 2 family members who constantly ask for money or favors. When I finally set boundaries with them they got verbally abusive with me and called me all kind of names. They can go fly a kite. I'm not backing down.
We'll done👏👏👏
@@jessicavalley9211 same here but they can jump off a cliff
I threw my son out of my home he became combative and angry and said nasty things to me. My children are in their 40s and 50s. He didn't help pay rent or anything no tissue paper towels anything. And had the audacity to get in my face and tell me that he didn't have to leave because he gets mail here. O really? I would be so happy to talk to a judge and the judge would laugh at his ass. I gave him 15 minutes to leave my home before I call the police. He was gone in 20 minutes. GET THE HELL OUTTA HERE DUDE!!!!!
@@msdecemberloveangel8236wow congratulations!!! I celebrate you standing up for yourself. You matter and you deserve to have peace. Honestly kudos to you!!!
The day came when I realized it was time for me to start telling people "No" more often. I had the reputation of being a people pleaser. Always spreadng myself too thin to help others to the point where I would short-change myself at times. So, I starting saying "No." Once I got the hang of it, it became very freeing. Friends and family didn't know what to make of me after that. I became a new creature as they watched. So now, I can't wait for the opportunity to say "No I can't...No I won't... No I dont -- or just plain NO."
The word NO sets you free.
@@ZephKing I would say at least three months into my depression, I made the revelation that I need to say more often, and that's when things started to change for the better.
I used to be a people pleaser when I was in high school and in my young adult life. Now that I got older, I learned to say no for the right reasons. I got to the point that I don’t worry about what they think. If I did not do anything to them purposely why worry.
I had a jealousy guy once tell me to be nice to people. I replied with.. “I’d rather be authentic than nice”. He didn’t say a word after. He is so envious it’s crazy. I’ll greet him but I won’t respect him while he is without self-respect.
People take advantage of my kindness all the time it is truly unbelievable.
My family was the worst.
Ask me to do something for
Them never said thank you
Either. They only called when
They wanted something.
When I needed them they
Were never there for me.
It’s called Manipulation and
Exploitation.
Honey put an end to it
@@marshamcdonald1475 Yeah! It's bullshit
@@lastella1994 I need to for sure. Thanks!
@@raycism5285 yeah I've also been doing the same I put an end to this nonsense.
You are so damn right! Being nice and knowing they hate you!
If you don't set boundaries with some people,they'll think that they can walk all over you anytime they want ..but it ain't that way! Trust very few
Keisha K. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you.
Keshia K
Very true Keshia. I used to be like that. Too nice, helping everyone , they will just use you.
Very true with me to no more.
@Mia M How do you stop people walking over you?
I love how you said "trust very few" thats great advice. Especially in a work environment. So many toxic workplaces these days
It’s absolutely life changing when I learned to stand up for myself. I will die to get the respect I deserve. I’m always respectful to others but once they take my kindness for weakness, I draw the line. It’s not about fighting for me, it’s about fighting for my soul. I can have a bloody nose or busted eye but they’re not going to take away my self dignity.
I'm serious person by nature, they missed up on me by telling me I'm a pscyco. Thank you for re enforced this attitude I'll stay same
Jane170. I really feel you and I am serious myself,and I don't have time for foolishness. You're so right. Peace and blessings to you.
I definitely needed this I have a issue with being to passive
I grew more empathy once I left New York. I use to be mean and hardcore until I got out on my own. Now I’m learning how to balance both sides.
Thank you for sharing this. I cannot tell you how many people have had the nerve and audacity to come for me in this manner and I haven't done them anything. I have a next door neighbor that has this issue bad. When he tests me, he knows that I will shut him down immediately. Life is too short for the foolishness.
Nunya Bizz. You are so right in what you have spoken here. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you.
Me too their loss tho. All the best.
Good for you you on shutting them up especially if you didn't do anything! Don't take crap.
You have learn to say NO and just walk away.
Thank you so much Tyler for this video!!! You know I used to be nice to everyone people took my kindness for granted and for a weakness! I'm a kind person in general like a "sunshine" my uncles and some member of my family have been so rude, direspectuf to me for years since I stopped smiling with them I'm very serious NOW they saw that I've changed I will not let them direspect me again they know I'm kind but not with them I'm very selective, I won't let anybody play with me enough is enough! I really shocked I just stopped "smiling" with m uncles they are all respectuf now! crazy how you have to set boundaries with people! sorry for my english I'm french.
I love your enthusiasm. It’s the same way and tone l would like to tell my husband miserable, hateful relatives. They been treating me like Doo Doo for years. I Decided 2 years ago l’m done with them ALL. These 3 particular relatives are trying to get my husband to get me to go to some of the family gathering. NEVER and DONE with these evil creature!!!!!!
Standing up for yourself gains real respect. Take nothing personally and do not be sensitive. Stay strong.
Yes, never ignore. Stand up for yourself!
You told it like it is. You are so right when you say you have to be mean to some people. You are so right that these people dont get it and don't understand it until you are mean to them. Unfortunately that's the only language some people understand. Thank you Tyler for the great insights and videos. I resonate with you. 👍👍
J. S sad but true
You are so right, my wife said i was the sweetest person but that was when I went along to get along, all along she was the dominant and mean spirit person but now that she sees that I can be mean and ugly she doesn't like it.
@@ignoranceisnotatrend4669I know what you mean. Yup.
This video is 💯 percent true. What's amazing to me is that when you didn't do anything to someone & they start being mean then when you mouth off at them and start treating them the way they treated you, they get defensive and have a narcissist attitude. I've changed a lot learned to say no or they will know just by my vibe. Screw them!
Love 1980 Music Right! Go right inn on people!
They can dish out the ugliness but can't take it, and your right about how they become narcissistic
I am at that point now where I knew I had to cut folk off and stand for what I believe. I don't like foolishness so I pray for you and keep moving.Tired of people saying they want friends and love but they foul!
That is right....there is nothing wrong with being serious and having peace in your life..i am the same..way..i have messy neighbors and they can not stand it ..that i stay to my self and do not hang around..all their foolish and wild behavior....they come knocking on my door yesterday with some lame..and lying excuse to bother me.....i had to let them know....i do not have time for their'bullying ways'....so your video is right on time..have a blessed day!!
Cherie Tillman. You are so right , it's nothing wrong with being serious in order to have peace because it just cleans out all of the people who don't mean to be there. Peace and blessings to you.
A neighbor started trying to get me to watch her child.I told her I have my own family!
Hi Nicole I undrstand what your saying I have neighbor's that are mad at me I also stay to myself I talked to a few but you know how neighbors like to gossip and lie so keep on standing up for yourself.
People will take your
Kindness for weakness !
That's what my
Old boy Earl use
To say So true !
Thanks Earl .
I don't know why but I love the way you speak. kinda like preaching. I really get what you are saying.
Thank you so much. I’m so worried about offending people and this has made people walk over me
Well said Tyler! Anyone that thinks you are shouting doesn't recognize passion. Keep doing you and bringing us enlightenment.
self care is apart of setting boundaries
Lmao Tyler be on they ass🤣🤣I love this💯He sholl ain't lying though ‼️
Oh yeah... been there! Was nice and kind to people whose only motives were to try to see what they could get out of me. And when I'd call them out on it, all of a sudden I have an "attitude." It's funny when they get all butt hurt because they thought I was "so nice," but realized that I'm not stupid! They've just been figured out, and got exposed. I hate having to show that side, but it's necessary so that people won't take advantage. Great message, Tyler!
Shay4YourMind81 Jesus! Showed it!
😂😂 I swear I LOVE this!!! ❤❤💕💯💯💯💯
You hit the nail on the head!!!... and I always get people telling me that I need to forgive because I won't get anywhere, I'm hurting myself... that's why people who you call 'ratchets' and rude are the way that they are and I understand it.
I had to look at this twice... thank you
Zaneta mecleod. I have realized that this generation has different, and you can't be nice to everyone, not in this day and time because of their mindset. Peace and blessings to you.
@@TylerJTI You just got a subscriber.
Just what I needed to hear
People don't like real masculine guys!! Men are not nice but we have compassion
themadhatter34 fax people push ur over the edge but then you rude or mean when u stick up for yaself
Tyler, you're so right, always and I appreciate your guidance and strength. Thank God for people like you. It's getting worse, and its lack of respect and morality. It disgusts, shocks and disappoints me at the same time. You tell it like it is, always...this comment relates to standing up for yourself. These people need to be put back in their boxes...they are a disgrace to humanity. Amen
Linda Chandler. You are so right, the lack of respect and morality is getting worse in this time and especially if you don't set boundaries and be serious, folks think that they can run all over you. Peace and blessings to you.
Yes, I have this same problem. Neighbors and people on the job. I Had To Shut Them Down ! And now they are scratching up my vehicle. But I'm getting a Spy-Wireless Cam installed ! And I Will Press Charges ! Lol
I love you you tell it just like it is I've been watching your video for a couple of days and it has changed my life I am one of them people that try to be nice to others and they take advantage of you love you dearly Tyler
I agree with you Tyler 1000 per cent.....it's a disgrace these people are extremely .... Ungodly to affect the peace and kindness in any human being s life. Tbh it's debilitating. Time for Standing Up for ourselves and stop the mind games
I agree!! I can't stand two sided people, what they speak against is pretty much what they're about
1000% facts I been there
Hey man I just wanna say I really appreciate everything you say.
Man, you be speaking the truth 😄
love the real fire coming from u an u did that wow thank u so dam accurate my friend u amazing hallelujah
Right on time. Yass! And they wanna try & keep rehashing things. Like no Im not doin that Aint nobody got time 4 that. Im a nice person sumtimes too nice and I know that i get taking advantage of. So then when I stand up for myself Im mean. No im juss standing up for myself. And like u said Im bout my business & bout my money.
Sarah Glover. You are so right you have to be about your business and your money. You are so right though. Thank you so much for your comment.
Tyler JTI U welcome
sarah glover Because the feel so damn Entitled!
Love your strong voice and passion.
Its exactly how I feel when dealing with people's bs.
It's necessary to set boundaries because if not people will milk you dry. I've had people ask for for ridiculous favors that will be at my expense. And I told them hell no!!!! Because I dont owe them shit. I'm not going to mess up my situation so the next person can be good. Folks like.that are usually crabs in a barrel and you gotta show em that you got backbone. I'm kindhearted but will never put myself on the line for anybody. Or do repeated unnecessary favors.🎤🎤
Tyler you better get us together!!!!! 🥺🙏🏽🤦🏽♀️ I be so scared to be labeled as anything less than loving and nice I’ve allowed people to take advantage of my kindness. I was on my path of setting boundaries and your videos started to appear. I live ALL of your messages and thank you so much for giving back to the community because knowledge is power and we must protect our hearts at all cost. Anxiety can form from holding stuff in that WE let in.
Damn I was screwed over so many times and damn I'm bitter as hell thank you king
same here! When my own family did it to max was the straw. I have no smile nor space for any stranger or low key fake people and two faced.
you are an honest loving man and I empress Zola khadijah say so. may the great force of our universe continue to bless you and keep u safe . may u live long and healthy. you do not have to apologize to any one when u speak the truth. love love love.
Zola Khadijah. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you.
Tyler this is a very good video Thank You for your Truth and straightforwardness and your explanation of this issue. Gratitude and blessings to you
Yes, they are disrespectful..I know some young boys about 5 of them 21 and 22 live with a lady with a disability.They ran over her and messed up her apartment. She has now moved out. Her parents moved her. They pass up my apartment, they know I don't play. I'm a serious person.Great video and I enjoy your videos.
Shayla Johnson yes, a friend had told me inside her apartment was mess... beer stains in the carpet cigarette ashes. roaches and dishes everywhere..she had MS..was she like to smoke and drink..they never gave her money..she's 52 and look 70.
Inspirational word People are so mean in this world..so sad :(
Inspirational word.. That's a damn shame of how those boys treated that lady has a disability. They need to be disciplined and I mean quick fast and a hurry. That's good that they know you don't play and that's the serious mindset. I am a very serious person and I don't play neither heeeee. Much love! Peace and blessings to you.
Tyler, You are so right ! To God Be The Glory !
🗣️Lead people to be serious and probably cold minded too! FACTS!!!
Amen!!! Thanks for this video. It can be sad when it's your own family members who play you like this.
Yes my family members have bad health and are dragging my daughter down too. Im praying to God every day to get her home.... I dont know what to do anymore.. Ive told them that they will give my daughter ADHD or diabetes. So I hope I will get her home... before she get rally sick🥲
Your own grown adults children
No she is only 5 years. And they made my son sick too but he has gutten only smarter but my family members have gotten more stupid😶😂
Its mainly family members who do this shit because co workers and friends understand that it can get nice nasty really quick with hands,feet,and knuckles being thrown 😂😂😂😂😂so the respect is needed
So true this need to be in book so dam true simply never trust anyone don't be nice to this twisted mind people.They us nicely for plot against you .Dont trust anyone like the song they smile in face along to stacks in back by Oj so true
Christina Love What they do?
how to standup for yourself don't take no shit off of no one just don't put up with that bull shit . great video Tyler. peace!
Lucille Samuel. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you.
This video is right on time for me because just recently I got fed up and decided to stop taking shit off people.
Preach brother Preach! 👊🏾
People take kind people for granted....been there, when i started to say no, these people dont seem to like it, well too bad... stand up for yourself. No one should be taken advantage of your kindness...
Tyler I no longer speak to coworkers who don't want to talk about doing the job better but want to gossip, and smile up in faces at work. I swore the next time a coworker talks up in my face I am saying please step back and respect my space. Me and husband is separated because he is one of those people you talk about, low life lifestyle and when I don't submit to it he say I am an angry woman, yet he kept f n me over and disrespecting me and calling it jokes. He got real mad when I got serious and said I had enough and I don't got time for his disrespect and fakery and jet I mind games. At their point in my life if someone try me and try to f me over especially on the job, all hell breaking lose, I am done.
Thank you Tyler CTI ! I really need to listen to this today, your topics always got spot on in the right time in life! You always speak 100% TRUTH ,much Blessings!
Keshia K. Thank you so much for your comment.peace and blessings to you.
I had to listen to this twice cause I understand...
This is just the straight up truth. Long story short this is truth
Wow!!! You have truly Moved me...My other half gets so mad and accusing me of yelling when I am so moved by spirit and conviction that I get loud...Its like my higher vibration scares him
..and he continues to be a narcissistic ass! He can be Serious and do a great job and have integrity in his job but as soon ad he gets home...his personal life...the passed 3years is one big fuked up game to him. He's bought 3engagement rings and still no proposal. He chooses his addictions and lower frequency over me. I have stopped speaking to him. All I have energy for is me...doing me. Living my truth...I almost shouted at the screen listening to this!!! Thank you! Love and Light to you!
Sounds like even if he did propose your answer should be no.
Jen West. I bet you almost shouted in joy listening to this video. As for that nassissitic person, you needed to stop speaking to him and do you not because you don't want to be around him, but to look out for your mental and emotional health. Peace and blessings to you.
Exactly... My heart Chakra is about to explode! I'm so ecstatic doing me right now...meditating...doing self Reiki. Reiki on others...nature walks...cleaning and clearing!!!
Facts the moment I'm more serious about thing's thenkore inget dine and the less I get played because I can see through there game's but everytime I'm nice people play me and then I have to get back serious about Life and getting thing's done so stay hard and Amen facts Bro keep speaking the truth it's time to be note more serious out here it is not a game and if you want people to take you seriously in business and even in relationships you have to be serious about what you do and who you are thanks Tyler for this video truly woke me the Up. AMEN👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿✊🏿💯❤
thats true asf thanks for the video man awesome I was nice to people and they took that shit for granted I had to start over with everything now they want me to stay around nah I'm cool
Preach Tyler! 👊💪👍
Yes! U r speaking the truth 2day
Right on call folks out like this. !!! They terrible!
I MOST DEFINETLY AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU SAY!! THANKS FOR YOUR VIDEOS!! IT HAS DEFINETLY GAVE ME A NEW PERSPECTIVE ON LIFE SINCE I STARTED TO WATCH YOUR VIDEOS!! PLEASE KEEP THE VIDEOS COMING!!
Thank you sir! I needed to hear that....
I hope you have a blessed day and always love you!!!!
Carol Schmidt. Thank you so much for your comment .Peace and blessings to you.
Tyler so true if people dislike what you’re saying then something inside them is triggered. Because I didn’t get triggered instead it opened my eyes to reality.
New subscriber, thank you for your videos. I put my foot down and set healthy boundaries with toxic family and friends. I am at peace and my happiness is no longer compromised.
I appreciate you speaking your mind and Also like how when you say "I'm about to cut this video short" and don't mess around.
I love this video. If you don't stand up 4 yourself, you will fall 4 any bullshit down the line.
You are just "serious" b/c you have a point to make. And you are just accentuating the importance of the message. Thank You! You are a great teacher. You help raise awareness. 🌞
Wpw! This was wisdom. It's soo true that the people who complain abut you looking serious, mean or sad are definitely the ones who are up to no good. These are the same people who like to take advantage of others niceness, kindness etc. wow I know because I have experience it hands on
I don't know how I found your channel. But you are the real deal Sir! Helping me daily.
Hello Tyler back in your channel, I remember back in 2020 you helped me with clear as crystal messages on getting rid of one sided relationship friends, so I did and my intuition was right, everything went uphill from there, appreciate it Tyler.
Tyler are you from Texas? You sort of sound like you have a Houston accent when your pissed off. But this was a good video with good information. I should keep this in mind cause I been through it, so many people took acvange of kindness but they only hurting themselves cause rather it's good or bad karma always go back around
she's been stealing from me...and it made me very sick
Yes Sir Tyler you're
So rite thanks !
Truth and speaking it those who don't love it, hate it. I have been taken advantage of so many times, I can't count it anymore. Praise Jesus/Yeshua for the Truth, in him! I could have used this video 4 years ago man..! Peace
Amen 🙏 Brother!!!
I agree with every word you said here! I don’t care if you yell, scream 😱 or talk in tongues!!! You need to get the message across.
Omg I want to send this to so many assholes that have used and unused me.
Your videos are amazing!!
Thank You!!!!
Jordan Peterson: “Never agree to something you do not want to do. It breeds resentment “.
Yeah Tyler preach !
You said a mouthful !! I love this message !
Tell them Soo true 👌I learnt very late but very aware well spoken for me say it like it is Bless you
Speak tyler!! Hit their nerves with the truth.let all of our lights irritate their wicked demons.when you speak the truth,the devil wakes up.but when he sees he can't win,he will flee
I really enjoyed this video Tylor, keep being YOU!! Thank you for being here for us that need you. God bless you.
NO CAP PREACH IT BRUDDA 🙏
Right on!! Tylor.
Thank You Tyler, A lot of the ones I'm around will not come out and ask. They tell you their circumstances and leave it at that in hopes you volunteer to take on the situation they brought forth to you. Back in the day my Grandma called it "Putting it on the table and hoping someone take it off." They do it this way because if there is a problem or you ask for a favor they don't want to do they can later say, "I didn't ask you to do shit for me" and they are right they didn't directly ask you. So, we also need to stop being lead to take shit off that table. LMAO, I know a lot of us out there have dealt with these type of people. Yes, these are the same people who will stab you in the back, lie and everything else. It's funny to me that they will do things to hurt others and have the nerve to pretend they did nothing and your the one with the problem so one can continue to be there when they need you for whatever.
Tell the truth! Love it!
agreed 100%
Thank you Tyler
Love you your videos And love you
You are so right
God bless you and protect you
Thank u Mr Tyler God bless sooooooooo much this wisdom you got is from God keep using it to help others and God Will pay you back.
Hi Tyler, I just wanted to say thank you so much for all that you do. You speak with truth and conviction, and I admire that a great deal. You've truly helped to lift me up from a very dark place in my life. I was devistated after my wife left me, but your videos give me hope for a better tomorrow. Thank you my friend and God bless.
I love your videos Tyler, they are so honest and helpful. Lots of stuff I can relate to.
Thank you for this post,Tyler!!!!!!
Thank you for the message powerful 🔥!
Thank you brother!!💯👏
Yes, I don't argue, or get upset with these people. I just Cut them off, and Block them. They will get the message ! Lol.