MY ANOREXIA RECOVERY // my 10 aha moments in recovery

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  • @StephanieM923
    @StephanieM923 4 місяці тому +1

    I think it's so important to honor extreme hunger like you mention here. It's very scary to experience but the other side is normal hunger cues returning. "The only way out is through" as the expression goes. Revisiting your videos for ongoing encouragement as part of my recovery maintenance 🌼

  • @SoulRiderWish
    @SoulRiderWish 6 років тому +64

    I love how you share your therapist's advice and things you talk about during your sessions. It helps alot! Your therapist seems so wonderful and really educated - I wish I could say the same about mine....

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому +1

      Ingrid.O oh no! She’s amazing, & she’s specialist trained in ED. Can you find some one more specialist?

    • @SoulRiderWish
      @SoulRiderWish 6 років тому +1

      I really want to, but it is quite expensive... But I feel like I have learned alot by watching your videos and other ED-recovery channels, which help me through the process of recovery and to get another positive mindset overall :)

    • @JennaHasm
      @JennaHasm 6 місяців тому

      ​@@megsyrecovery191 Do you offer coaching?

  • @jessicastroupe722
    @jessicastroupe722 6 років тому +13

    YESSSS the set point "aha moment" was one that really got me through major road blocks in my recovery process. No, I don't love that I am not naturally at a low BMI, but when i'm at my set point I am naturally happy, bubbly, and have my sparkle back in my personality. I had a psychologist once say to me, "your weight is just your relationship with gravity." And we are so much more than our relationship with gravity.

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      Jessica Stroupe yeh what means more to you, being too skinny & miserable or healthy & actually in life & free 🤷‍♀️

  • @ChiiLiving
    @ChiiLiving 6 років тому +23

    Highlight of my Saturday morning - always!
    Thank you for being such a shining light in this community

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      Recovery.Chii 💛💛

    • @jenna8334
      @jenna8334 6 років тому

      Love this too! Also love your muffin instagram stories. You are both warriors! 💕💕

  • @jessicaking2425
    @jessicaking2425 4 роки тому +1

    I cannot thank you enough for this, from the bottom of my heart. "Life positive, body neutral" has become a new meditation mantra for me. It's perfect.

  • @hatdidbeatthis7379
    @hatdidbeatthis7379 6 років тому +19

    This is such a brilliant video.

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому +1

      Hat Will Beat This good for you, I think I watched a video the other day, do people send stuff in to you or do you make it yourself?

    • @hatdidbeatthis7379
      @hatdidbeatthis7379 6 років тому +2

      Megsy Recovery Hey 🙂 Thanks so much for replying, I truly understand how busy you must be.
      I’m so sorry but I don’t understand your question...🙈❤️ Either I am being a big dope or perhaps you have me mixed up with someone else? Either way I’m just glad you saw my comment as I really wanted you to know how you’ve helped me. ❤️x

    • @helenamoll1677
      @helenamoll1677 6 років тому +2

      Its Hat! Hi Hat *waves* how is trevor doing? 😊

    • @hatdidbeatthis7379
      @hatdidbeatthis7379 6 років тому +1

      Helena Moll 😂😂😂❤️

  • @littleladylavender
    @littleladylavender 6 років тому +8

    The feelings I have after watching and listening to your 10 aha moments are ones of comfort, ease, and encouragement. I'm coming to terms with what recovery exposes and imposes on me mentally and physically, it's a very intense and foggy journey, at times I'm completely overwhelmed by the changes recovery requires me to take to break free from my ED, so hearing you speak about them so honestly and seeing the amazing benefits that perseverance brings into your life is motivation to keep focused and trusting my body and the people who are helping me. Thank you so much, Meg, I am so proud for you and for everyone on their journey. Love to you x

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому +1

      Caroline O Keeffe yeh there’s so much trust & faith isn’t there.... it will pay off though, even if you can’t always see it now 😚😚😚

  • @erinsytsema418
    @erinsytsema418 6 років тому +3

    "Life Positive, Body Neutral" -badass meg

  • @maayannaveh3123
    @maayannaveh3123 6 років тому +6

    this video inspired me to not measure my breakfast tomorrow. that's a really big step for me so thank you! also now that I've put it in writing it's happening, i'm doing it, no backing out now

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      Maayan Naveh good for you, keep repeating that now. Challenge repeat, & it will get easier 😘😘

  • @hannahcollardgray4448
    @hannahcollardgray4448 2 роки тому

    Am I the only person who thinks that a maintenance diet is what intuitive eating is? I have been watching since the beginning, and all your videos are amazing. So thought provoking, so motivational, such a great reminder that I should meet myself where I am in recovery, not where I think I should be. I know that bulimia isn’t the same thing, but I found being underweight triggered all the emotions you have mentioned. Besides, it’s not a weight disorder, and its not about food. I’m living by the quote ‘if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got’.

  • @clare1971
    @clare1971 6 років тому +9

    Your therapist sounds wonderful

  • @32starsandsugar
    @32starsandsugar 6 років тому +3

    Trying to make peace with new changes in recovery is so hard. Thank you for these points! I truly feel less alone and scared in this whole thing ❤️

  • @klee4471
    @klee4471 6 років тому +1

    I’m in PHP treatment right now and I found this SO HELPFUL - I can’t wait to tell the girls these tips tomorrow!! Thanks for being an inspiration in my recovery :)

  • @jadedyer1940
    @jadedyer1940 6 років тому +1

    Thanks Megsy! Your insight and your vulnerability is always amazing. Sorry I haven't commented in a while, but I'm always following and I get so much from your blogs. I had my 2 month stay in ED IP from May to July then early Oct unfortunately got kicked out of the ED day program for not maintaining my weight, so I'm heading back to ED IP for hopefully a shorter stay this time. I'll take you with me though in spirit for encouragement. Thanks for all you do xxx

  • @jolenekuepfer3705
    @jolenekuepfer3705 4 роки тому

    I can't express in words how much your videos are helping me as I try to recover from a 16 year battle with anorexia. Thank you times a million!!!! Your insight, honesty, kindness, and humour are incredibly inspiring. You are my role model even though I've never met you

  • @helena003
    @helena003 2 роки тому

    THIS IS THE MOST HELPFUL VIDEO EVER

  • @savannahall5380
    @savannahall5380 5 років тому

    this video is the greatest thing that’s ever happened to my in terms of wanting to recover. thank you so so so much, you’ve changed my life

  • @katharineruff673
    @katharineruff673 6 років тому +1

    Thank you so much for this- I've been struggling with recurring guilt and bad body image after eating, and when I'm at my most anxious, your videos help to get my brain back on track. Thank you💙

  • @agnesgrondahl1117
    @agnesgrondahl1117 6 років тому +1

    This was JUST what I needed today! Thank you! ❤️🙌🏻

  • @joycooper4023
    @joycooper4023 6 років тому +1

    Yep, Yep, Yep to everything. Just a couple of pounds and my whole mental state changes. I have been feeling SO much better mentally and physically. Like life changing different. Actually living and menstruating! I got home from vacation and weighed myself. BIG MISTAKE. I’m having major struggles keeping my mind off of restriction. I love your videos. They help me keep my mind straight and right. I know this is one of the struggles of your life. You seem to be doing this whole recovery thing so well. Not to minimize it because I know this is really hard and you have really bad days too. It’s just so encouraging to see you get back on track with it-keeping on with therapy-doing the next right thing.

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому +2

      Joy Cooper keep stepping back & focusing on the big picture of life, & not a number on a scale on one day that you won’t remember 10 years from now x

  • @amz88c
    @amz88c 6 років тому +2

    You have so much insight into the illness, I really appreciate your videos and can relate to so much of what you say 💜
    It’s definitely true that a couple of kilos of weight loss triggers all the eating disorder thoughts.
    I feel I fully recovered from anorexia 10 years ago and truly believed it was a thing of my past, but last year I accidentally lost weight from suffering with anxiety... and suddenly all the e.d. thoughts were back again and I was dragged back in. I guess it’s just something that I will always need to be aware of.
    So now here is round 2 of recovery!
    I’m so glad I’ve heard of extreme hunger this time round - I honestly thought I was a medical anomaly as it was never mentioned in treatment or by therapists.
    Keep on keeping on, you’re doing amazing! Xx

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      amz88c that’s what happened to me too, I accidentally lost weight & then the ED switch flipped & I was back into the thoughts. At least you know it can be better 😚

  • @sibylleprice722
    @sibylleprice722 6 років тому +6

    This is an amazing Video Thanks I needed something like this ❤

  • @EllybethVideos
    @EllybethVideos 6 років тому +1

    Thank you so much for your videos. I watch them and take notes, and they provide so many ideas for my recovery journal 🙂
    I can’t thank you enough for introducing me to the concept of extreme hunger. Being finally able to understand what I am feeling made me cry with relief. And I truly believe it is going to change my life.

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      EllybethVideos yeh it makes so much sense doesn’t it!! Good for you 😘

  • @rahelwasabi3988
    @rahelwasabi3988 5 років тому

    It is so shocking but consoling at the same time how many people we are with the same/similar problem. I'm so glad that i found your channel, i told my boyfriend a couple days ago "this girl is healing me". Really, you help me so so much. I'm stuck in a quasi-recovery for a couple of years now and you empower me to finish this shit for good :D

  • @MadisonTiahn
    @MadisonTiahn 6 років тому +6

    You are incredible. Never forget it. Xx

  • @earthandi7827
    @earthandi7827 5 років тому

    From my whole heart THANK YOU MEGAN,I found your channel at such dark times of my life...You inspired me to start my recovery on my own and also reach out for help.Please keep sharing your journey,lots of love ❤

  • @i_h2081
    @i_h2081 6 років тому +3

    Amazing video. So many I can relate to this specially the hunger one and continuing to eat fear foods

  • @alisonjohn
    @alisonjohn 6 років тому +3

    Definitely a high-light for my Saturday. Thank you for your clear explanation on the body's set point in weight/BMI. I've gained weight on holiday this last week but I'm not recovered as intruding thoughts are fighting to get through in my mind, sadly. Ax

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому +1

      Alison John also holiday is holiday. What kind of life is it when you can’t just enjoy a holiday 🤷‍♀️

    • @alisonjohn
      @alisonjohn 6 років тому

      Megsy Recovery You're so right. Having had an ED on and off for 34 years plus, "it" has always, always followed me on my holidays although it has receded over the years thankfully - although not completely.

  • @tiffanyluxford
    @tiffanyluxford 3 роки тому

    This video has helped me so much, thank you so much!!!!

  • @ClandestineGirl16X
    @ClandestineGirl16X 6 років тому +3

    i learn so much from your videos. thank you

  • @shelleyc4443
    @shelleyc4443 6 років тому

    This whole video, everything you share... Pure gold. Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly. Means the world to me.

  • @kmoy
    @kmoy 6 років тому

    Another great video Meg! I agree with most of the comments on here that your therapist seems wonderful and you are doing a great job as recovery. As we know, recovery is not a straight line. I like your humor and how you explain things. It's very simple to understand. We are not robots or whippets (dogs) who can change our hair or eye color when we want to. We were given the body we were given. Also, yes "the clap" is used here in America too and it usually means an illness. :)

  • @amysafko8817
    @amysafko8817 5 років тому

    Saving this one. It encapsulates everything I need to hear right now. Thanks so much for providing your insights.

  • @molly4464
    @molly4464 6 років тому

    I feel like this video was such a blessing this morning!! I was so so so hungry last night and ate the whole fridge and felt awful this morning, best timing ever for this! Keep being amazing 💕💕💕💕

  • @ileneeo
    @ileneeo 6 років тому +1

    Yes!!!! Loved the dog analogy😂 💛

  • @Nate1975
    @Nate1975 2 місяці тому

    It’s about the life you want to live, not the body you want to live it in ❤ one of my favourite sayings, don’t remember where I heard it

  • @kimberley45
    @kimberley45 6 років тому

    So good!! Thank you for sharing your 'aha moments in recovery - love them. I've been working on not needing to act on every ED thought, quite a bit lately. Challenge, repeat, challenge, repeat.. LITERALLY! It is looking at the bigger perspective, what do I want out of life etc. I keep having to come back to reality, but hey we ALL do! This helps me too.
    Much love.

  • @debseyler9775
    @debseyler9775 6 років тому

    I NEEDED this - thank you so much! I'm going to watch this a lot - SUCH a HUGE help!!

  • @viktoriavargefjord
    @viktoriavargefjord 6 років тому

    Wow, this video is so helpful, great job! I am fairly new to your channel and I really like it. Btw, love the tabbys!

  • @ritaconte9055
    @ritaconte9055 6 років тому +1

    MEG❤️SY You mean the World to us, Thankyou 🤝🙏🏻xx

  • @kathleendowner6506
    @kathleendowner6506 4 роки тому

    I'm older and can relate to you you have helped my recovery so much

  • @Hannah-vs4uy
    @Hannah-vs4uy 6 років тому +1

    You're a star

  • @faithvanvleet7476
    @faithvanvleet7476 6 років тому +1

    I came here from DudeBabe's video and omg she was right about how great it is. I was constantly fighting my body earlier this year to keep it from getting bigger. Fighting with it to lose weight. But apparently, that's just not what my body is supposed to look like. I'm in recovery and I've been struggling with the fact that I've gained weight. What if I lose control (my disorder is definitely about control) and I get fat? What if I never stop gaining weight. But what you've said about how our bodies work and your own personal experience, my anxiety has been eased a bit. Thank you so much.

  • @elyseirwin2587
    @elyseirwin2587 6 років тому

    This is so great! I need to watch this dsily! Thank you.

  • @shotgunwedding277
    @shotgunwedding277 6 років тому

    Great video!! I totally needed the push to go on that this gave me

  • @TheBinski
    @TheBinski 5 років тому +1

    Gosh you're just fabulous. Your brain is utterly tops! :)

  • @itsmalkamusic
    @itsmalkamusic 6 років тому

    this video was so beyond helpful!! I loved it!

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      LifeWithV yeh I can make another one of these down the line for sure x

  • @chrissy_south75
    @chrissy_south75 6 років тому +1

    "I am not a whippet" lol - love this analogy 😍😍

  • @hikakorc143
    @hikakorc143 6 років тому

    Hi, Meg! Thank you for sharing this! I am taking a psychology class this quarter and that neuron analogy in this video really made me feel like oh, I learned this in class!!
    I am so happy that you used Japanese for an example of metabolism theory! Have a good weekend♡

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому +1

      SunshineHika awwww I thought of you when I mentioned the Japanese metabolism 😚😚

    • @hikakorc143
      @hikakorc143 6 років тому

      omg. you just made me so happy! love you Meg💘

  • @fionamccarroll5832
    @fionamccarroll5832 6 років тому +3

    Literally all my fears blown out of the water, thanks! And yes it’s definitely a Scottish thing....I ‘clap’ my cat!

  • @VivianaCalmasini
    @VivianaCalmasini 6 років тому

    I love your videos, you are helping me so much with finding motivation. Through my years of therapy, I have hardly ever found someone that would explain my thoughts to me so clearly, and suggested solutions too! Thank you.
    But can you recommend some recovery youtubers or other content that you watch? Loge your videos but I have watched them all already! 😊

  • @chunkylass8671
    @chunkylass8671 6 років тому +1

    Really interesting points.

  • @alexiasalazar6034
    @alexiasalazar6034 3 роки тому

    I love how most of them sound so obvious but at the same time Im like, wow, how did I not think about that before?

  • @stacib1992
    @stacib1992 4 роки тому

    This was a good video! I had some of the same ah-ha moments too. It's really not easy!

  • @thereallifebrand
    @thereallifebrand 6 років тому

    your videos are great. I have a great challenge for ED recovery that not many people think of (because we live in a culture when customizing is encouraged and the norm): don't customize your food/drinks orders! Just order them as they are made by default. Eat/drink them as they come. It's a good one, especially with the challenging foods/drinks. Challenge the need to eat food "perfectly"...perfect food. Frappuccinos are a good one, especially if you challenge yourself to go all out and order the works. For example, I made anorexia scream by ordering an espresso Frappuccino made with whole cream. That's right, made with whole, 35% cream!! I dare everyone in recovery. Don't forget the whipped cream! Good luck!

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      Alexandra Elle yeh keep pushing the boundaries it keeps you in!!

  • @vita3726
    @vita3726 6 років тому

    Extremely interesting and helpful. Thank you :)

  • @jurjenbavelaar1558
    @jurjenbavelaar1558 6 років тому +6

    #3 is amazing! Accepting your body is the key to having an amazing life. :)

  • @Stopwar1234
    @Stopwar1234 6 років тому

    Thanks so much for this video!

  • @nerilen1862
    @nerilen1862 6 років тому

    Great video 🧡❤️thank u so much xx

  • @baharshokoohi4891
    @baharshokoohi4891 6 років тому

    thank you Megsy. I watch your videos everyday for motivation to eat. I was wondering if you could share with me how you enforce and re-enforce accepting weight gain & that not all of us are naturally built skinny? I've dealt with the past food rules and obsessions but just can't seem to get my head around weight gain. I hate my body when I reach a certain weight and don't fit into anything. I'd appreciate your input.

  • @wixlie
    @wixlie 6 років тому

    Awesome insights 💛💓

  • @staceybutler4294
    @staceybutler4294 6 років тому

    I’ve been watching your videos for a while but have only recently been diagnosed 2 weeks ago. I can really relate to everything you are saying. I’m on a waiting list to see a therapist but unfortunately where I live we don’t have any that are specifically ED trained. I’m a fitness instructor and I’m finding things even more difficult because of my job

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      Stacey Butler hope you get some one soon, CBTE has been the best treatment for me 😘

  • @dawns8985
    @dawns8985 6 років тому +1

    My therapist also uses the "trail" analogy. My anorexia "trail" has been overrun. Time to forge new trails.

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      Dawn Seamons yeh & it takes consistency & repetition to forge the new paths xx

  • @ramonasinclair3598
    @ramonasinclair3598 6 років тому +2

    Extreme hunger is so hard!! Do you have more on this? How to deal? Do I actually just keep eating until I don’t want to anymore?!

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому

      Ramona Sinclair yes I did a vlog called extreme hunger with some advice from my psychologist

  • @cazlovescakes
    @cazlovescakes 5 років тому

    To ‘clap’ an animal is indeed a common phrase here in Scotland for stroking them, so it’s definitely not just a Brendan thing!

  • @johanna5501
    @johanna5501 6 років тому

    In Sweden we actually call stroking “klappa”, so I guess that’s kind of interesting, how the words are quite similar. Love the video btw!

  • @lilbsbluvr07
    @lilbsbluvr07 6 років тому

    Yes I love Tabitha Farrar!

  • @sugaaas
    @sugaaas 6 років тому

    So helpful 🙏🏻

  • @hilarybilary9145
    @hilarybilary9145 6 років тому +1

    Every awesome thought you have shared on your channel in one video! Let poodles be poodles. LOVE IT! Thank Beyonce for that little nugget :)

  • @snacktivist
    @snacktivist 2 місяці тому

    On the topic of dog body comparison lol ... think about how infrequently you see a quite fat dog or a very underweight dog (unless it's been abused). Animals innately and naturally follow their hunger and satiety cues, and they look perfectly the way they're meant to

  • @mamae5478
    @mamae5478 6 років тому +2

    I want to believe you about the set point but either me or my anorexia says that is not true. I remember being overweight in the past, anorexia kicked in, tempered enough to have 3 children(focused on them not me) and ALWAYS for 40 yrs have watched and restricted some. NOT to the extent I am doing now & w/ ramped up exercise. I want to believe you but HOW do you know? I am an objective and tangible person.....unfortunately seeing is believing in this realm but I do not want to chance it...Help Megsy!!!

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому +2

      Mama G what’s the alternative, live the rest of your life restricting & suppressing your weight because you don’t trust your body? What will you think when you look back on your life?

  • @Nate1975
    @Nate1975 2 місяці тому

    Your body doesn’t give a F… 😂😂😂 that made me laugh in relation to the whole BMI chart

  • @cyclemania6280
    @cyclemania6280 6 років тому

    I think it is also important to remember you may think your ‘set point’ is a fat weight but you may be looking through that through distorted vision. You may have body dismorphia telling you your so fat at bmi 19, but in the real world you are statistically still ‘skinny’ to non-ed people.
    None of my business but are you planning on kids? I found that when in the right place in recovery, they are the best treatment, but you need to be healthy enough to get pregnant. They have unexpectedly helped me stay recovered and out of the relapse cycle. For a number of reasons - until you are a parent you don’t realise how much you can love someone (your child) and relapsing is hurting them, I find my brain is filled with issues related to my kids and there has been no room for ED thoughts so I just haven’t had any and you need to be a role model, you feed your toddler 6 meals a day and sit down and eat with them, modelling how to eat at meals etc. my biggest fear was getting fat during pregnancy but when I was pregnant, it wasn’t an issue, I say we have mummy hormones that make us put babies needs first - my foetus needs food to grow.

  • @tomretchford7484
    @tomretchford7484 3 місяці тому

    Lovely cats 😂

  • @neyisek6928
    @neyisek6928 4 роки тому

    Hard to wrap head around set point and not going over. In the US so many people are obese. It is the norm. Not a healthy extra ten pounds over average . So how, how does this happen if our bodies have a built in mechanism to regulate weight? It is obviously something that can be triggered. I think if knowing that it would be easier for some to reverse diet, go all in or work on recovery.

    • @StephanieM923
      @StephanieM923 4 місяці тому

      I know this comment is dated, but I think it is perhaps best to consider that many obese in America may actually themselves have an eating disorder (like BED for example). By recovering from restrictive eating, you give yourself a chance to reach set point like Meg discusses. Living a life with mental wellness will protect against the obesity that is the "norm" here. Americans suffer with a lot of mental illness, sadly

  • @vinnytnecniv
    @vinnytnecniv 6 років тому

    What is aha???

  • @shotgunwedding277
    @shotgunwedding277 6 років тому

    I've soon eaten three pints of Ben & Jerrys

  • @asmrbykelsea
    @asmrbykelsea 6 років тому +2

    Clap the cat? Lol. Stroke isn't much better in America. We "pet" our cats here 😂 I love different culture words like that

  • @MF-gp2tl
    @MF-gp2tl 6 років тому +2

    Megsy, this video is great!!! Thank you so much!!! But... I don't understand one thing... you talk about not accepting your "no skinny body"... Actually... Have you been considering you are still having dysmorphobia??? Because I don't want to put an adjective to any body (is not healthy) but you are sooooooooooooooo far of be fat!!! You can with that!! You are an example for me!!

    • @megsyrecovery191
      @megsyrecovery191  6 років тому +1

      M F I actually totally know I’m not fat. I also know I’m not ill looking skinny any more

  • @megadgdg4630
    @megadgdg4630 6 років тому

    I'm anorexic too your not alone

  • @zens8655
    @zens8655 Рік тому

    Being skinny is real happiness especially how you’re treated

  • @ramonasinclair3598
    @ramonasinclair3598 6 років тому +3

    Extreme hunger is so hard!! Do you have more on this? How to deal? Do I actually just keep eating until I don’t want to anymore?!

    • @sophieshyn4837
      @sophieshyn4837 6 років тому

      Oh extreme hunger, just ended for me a few months ago. Yes keep eating till your full which is listening to your body telling you it needs food xx you probably crave all foods you restricted so keep eating them and it will calm down after weeks or months!!

    • @dawns8985
      @dawns8985 6 років тому +1

      Extreme hunger. It's real. But it goes away when your body realizes it's getting fed regularly.