@@jaminugent5539 I am also currently experiencing a relationship like this and feel stuck because I've never loved anyone like I do him. I don't want to lose him, but I can't take the mental & emotional abuse any longer.... ☹️😒🥺
@@brandysears512 Girl you deserve SO much better than that!! RUN. ESCAPE. Get away as fast as you can! I loved my ex harder and deeper than I have EVER loved ANYONE in my WHOLE life! Or at least I THOUGHT I did.. But it was NEVER enough for him. Girl it was SO SO SO TOXIC.. He was ALWAYS the taker...NEVER the giver. And no matter how hard I tried to show him I was true and loyal to him...I was never anything more than a cheating whore to him...even tho I LITERALLY NEVER cheated on him...not ONCE. It doesn't matter the type of abuse...whether physical, mental, spiritual or psychological...it's all the same. It's a waste of your time, energy, spirit and LIFE. You neither need nor deserve that! You deserve to spend time ALONE to HEAL and to learn to LOVE YOURSELF first!! Please trust me on this! I spent 8 1/2 months figuring this out for myself before I met a man who loves me truly and sincerely. And BELIEVE me when I say I am STILL WORKING on healing myself even in this new relationship I'm in. But my guy is SO loving and SO patient. Get away from this toxic relationship NOW before all your life is UTTERLY spent. He/She doesn't love you. And your love will NEVER be enough for him/her. Learn to heal and to love/value YOURSELF. You are an incredible human being!
For all of you listening that are in a narcissistic relationship, I'm praying you are able to break free. May you have the strength to walk away and NEVER turn back! You are worthy of being love genuinely and completely ❤
Yes i have been going through alot since my wife died in an accident,but whenever I listened to the songs it reminds me of the memories we shared together before she died.i am really missing her
When you start to question who was the narcissist in the relationship...you know you've stayed forgave and tried for too long. 😖😥 the gaslighting was a very effective tool used to question my sanity and reaches for help outside of the isolation. What is so crazy to me is that its so hard to let go but im doing my best. Its so hard to go dark block and delete. Its so fresh but i needed this song to remind me...im strong and deserve better and it wasnt me, i changed according to how i was treated. Its time i straighten my crown and take back who i really am. Love reading all the comments of those who successfully made it through the other side. Thank you. Wish me luck. ❤
I started asking myself if I'm the narcissist just recently cause I do feel crazy... I hope.you are still staying strong... I am so scared... Idk what to do.
I yes read you comment I’m in this situation now I have hard time to let go bc I still love him it’s only been a month we are not together but there was a lot things involved. Money aggressive behaviour that I fell down 😢 and yes find this song now
I will. You can do this. Takes time and counseling with an expert on coersive control and abuse. Once that trauma bond is broken you'll feel like a little bird with wings.
Hey I don’t know you but you are strong , just for sharing and being so alert in finally knowing the truth. Girl, of course you got this. Your so brave and love you for that 🥹 💖 ✨ 🥰
I understand completely. I felt like i was the problem like i was the narcissist. 5 years mentally brought down and going dark is not easy feeling like I'm losing something letting go of him but i have lost me and need to get me back. Thank you for your words and making it clear im not alone and definitely not crazy
I love your song the I love you more song my wife sent me it and it's the best song I ever heard she is gonna be the only women I ever need in my life again God bless you girl I hope your career takes off very far keep making these good songs
wow...my life for 24 years..but there is hope.. you are valuable priceless and lovely..God showed me love..unconditional..peace... and forgiveness...My new husband is Jesus... and I am now empowered...strong and free
Same! 24 years i was 16 when we met..now I'm single at 41! But I'm not tested anymore..im driving my own life ..I knew it wouldn't be easy but I'm free xx 😘 good luck x
FINALLY. Narcissists are getting exposure. There are too many people in toxic relationships that have no idea why their partner is acting the way they do. It's a horrible cycle that has the abused second guessing themselves. Anyone out there, please leave them. The narcissistic person just doesn't change, but they will change you for the worse if you let them. Gather your strength, accept the relationship is over and move on!
Relationship with narcissist you will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is good enough. You will give everything and they will take it all and give you less and less in return .At the end you will end up depleted emotionally,mentally,physically ,spiritually ,financially ,and then get blamed for.
@@stevenfoster5291 happens in physically abusive relationships too... its honestly how it starts... often blaming u for little things until they have u believing u cant do good enough, theyll start physically abusing u and when its said and done apologize while still painting it out to be ur fault.... ppl often dont realize this is exactly why ppl stay in abusive relationships...esp when the abuser promises to get better or simply continues to blame u....once u hear it so often, their voice becomes ur own mental one...and youll feel youre not good enough...even if they dont actually say it their actions can speak loudly
29 years of life with a narcissist, trying to break free and stay away was the hardest thing I ever did. It took a lot of times of leaving before I left and stayed gone. The way they manipulate and twist reality leaves a person confused and blaming themselves for things that were never their fault to begin with. They make your life hell whether you stay or go, so might as well escape, take time to heal and start a new life living in peace. ❤
I was never in a relationship with a narcissist and here I am almost crying. If you are with one, this is your sign to reach out. Healing from an abusive relationship will result in an undeniable glow.
Being in a relationship with narcissist is emotionally and mentally draining, I've been in a ldr with narcissist and it's the worst relationship I ever had
This song hit deep. I was called all those crazy and overdramatic. And I'm literally sitting here with tears in my eyes because it hits so hard. I love this song.
@@dynamiteman1001 excuse me but no it's not true. Is me caring and wanting the person I'm with to do good in life over dramatic and crazy? No! Is me wanting what's best for my s/o over dramatic and crazy? I think not! What is crazy is i loved a man so deeply and believed everything he said. Until i was put in the hospital and had 11 stitches put in my face and a bruise going up half my face and a cut under my eye from him pinning me in a corner and punching me and refusing to let me go to my drs appointment for my asthma. And then him not allowing me to leave our apartment and him cheating on me and doing drugs and kicking me out. Thats what is crazy. After he swore up and down he would never be like my ex and beat me. You have absolutely no place to speak since you don't know me or what I went through. So please go take your negativity else where.
@@jaidhelyon6911 I'm sorry and I was just playing with you 😔 I really do apologize please believe me I don't want nothing bad to happen to you or anyone I hope you can please forgive me I was stupid for saying that and I deleted the comment
I think I’m with one. I want to die every single day. He says it’s all me… he never comes home, he’s gone all the time but then it’s my fault, he doesn’t like being here cause I’m sad all the time. He calls me crazy, tries to diagnose me with shit like ROCD and he makes me feel like im crazy! He’s left me so many times, each time I NEVER bothered him. He ALWAYS came back for me!! I just don’t understand why is he with me if he doesn’t love me??? I love him so damn much and just want that love back from him and it feels like I’ll never get it. Just like Selena in her song Loose you To Love me, she says “I put you first and you adored it”… I think that’s why he’s with me. Because he likes how much I love him, it makes him feel good. Plus I don’t work don’t have a car or my own money so he just LOVES having all the control. Idk if he’s narcissistic or just an asshole… 🤷🏼♀️
The sentences "Out of touch with my feelings" and "I don't even like me anymore" sum up my struggle everyday. They reflect the struggle after dealing with myself after his behaviour and what I was left with. They reflect the multiple times he hit me, he messed up my emotions, he used my insecurities to hurt me, he left me in tears and I felt ashamed when he said "You're overreacting". I feel free, however it still has an effect on my day to day life. Hopefully there will be a day when I'm proud of who I am today. Thankyou for writing this song and putting my feelings into words.
Please know that the greatest battle you will ever fight is within your own mind. IF YOU ARE READING THIS YOU ARE ENOUGH, YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL PERSON & ARE WORTHY TO TO BE HAPPY.
I hope you have learned a lot about Narcissists! They do everything they can to destroy us... I have learned a lot and understanding it has helped me to heal tremendously and has helped me to become stronger than I ever was! I still hurt but it's a lot better than it was... Good Luck and Best Wishes! You can heal completely from this and become a lot stronger and happier! Bless you!
I get it im not in a relationship, but my dad is a narcissist, and its been a struggle with dealing with him and my anxiety and depression. so I hope you realize how strong and amazing you are!!
I just left my narcissist husband of 13 years. As I was leaving this song came on the radio. It made me feel better. No one knows what it is like unless they have had to deal with one. Prayers to all the survivors!!
13 years for me too. He has changed. He's been in therapy but can't talk to his mother. The question is. Will this last or should I just move on? Most don't recognize ehat they've done wrong. It wasn't supposed to happen this way.
That was your sign that you made the right decision. I hope all works out for you and it will..im trying do the same myself. Narcissist abuse is horrible ans does some real damage. I hope I can break free soon..god bless n keep your head up your only going to be going up from here. Don't look back😉 you got this
People like that say you’re the problem, they can cause self-loathing… they snuff out dreams… dig deep to find your self worth again and kick their ass to the frickin’ curb.
I needed this 2 years ago.. 💔 All I can say is it gets so much better once you finally LEAVE, you’re not alone you’re not crazy and you’re not stupid for loving someone who’s incapable of love - yet so capable of destroying your worth. They won’t change, I promise. You can however change your reality and walk away, for your own peace and happiness 🕊 What a beautiful song. It def says it all..
You said it perfectly.. now I’m going to search for that strength he continues to knock down. I want to leave but damn I’m scared. Love to all that knows this too well🖤
@@hannahrodgers4622 You’ve got this girlie! 🤗 Don’t let him steal your joy or your confidence, he is not the source of your strength.. For a long time I really didn’t think I was strong enough to walk away, he had destroyed all my confidence and self worth that I felt so incredibly weak. I promise eventually you will just get so tired of being tired..& sad..& constantly disappointed etc that you honestly just have no choice but to decide not to suffer another day. I wasn’t ready until I was ready. Have faith in yourself, remember who you are. I knew I deserved better, and I know you do too, it’s just important to understand that you’re not stuck and you can leave. You can, and you should. I hope you find your happiness again and the authentic love that you deserve 💕 x
Very Short YT Do you accept Jesus Christ as lord and saviour Please Surrender your lives to Jesus Christ John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believe in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Romans 10:9-10 also says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. and You must Repent To repent, about salvation, is to change your mind from unbelief to belief in Jesus Christ and to flee from sin. 1 John 1:9 (KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Pray that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit. I will not reply so I will not see it. For more, copy and paste Christ Commission Fellowship and Mass Deliverance John Eckhardt..m.m
Omg! Exactly true! I got chill bumps through the whole song! I broke FREE after 5 years of narcissism! The good Lord was looking after me and helped me grow after being treated in an unhealthy way!
This song touched me opens my eyes more for my behavior in a 7.5 year relationship that i ruined. We both were narcissistic towards each other but I was really bad. How do you get help for being narcissistic? Or is it just a poisonous relationship itself that makes you crazy that way ? Cause I wasn't always like that.
A lawyer I was speaking to about my ex called him a Narcissist. It was very validating. Remember, as you're leaving a Narcissist, to include as many healthy people in your journey as possible. After spending years or decades being called crazy, being seen, understood, and validated is such a gift.
This comment though 🙌 I always thought I was the problem until someone else told me that they thought my ex was a narcissist...the more I looked into it, and the more people who I spoke to that confirmed it, the more validated I felt! I feel like most people don't realise, and just blame themselves, until an outsider points out the blindingly obvious signs! I ended that relationship a year ago now, and I'm still not over it...which just goes to show how deeply under your skin they get
Narcissists love “labelling” the victims. It is nice to hear someone putting a label on them… it set me free for all the labels that became so heavy. It took me years, but I am free and can help others in the same situation. Amazing song!
I am a narcissist survivor. People will never understand what a person goes through when they love a narcissist. One of the hardest things that I have ever done. I was at the end of my rope, and I knew it was time to get out before it was too late. Now the stalking, lies and the teaming up with other people starts as I leave the relationship. They will see the truth down the road as they have never gotten my side of the story but a narcissist is very very good at doing what they do.
I know what u mean. My advice for you,let them all thinking what they want,you know the truth,focus on yourself and people who are good for your mental health. Block everyone who is not good for you,that's the only one way to set yourself free,and go to specialist who will help u to love yourself again. I wish you the best.
"I don't even like me anymore." Felt that. It's incredible how someone else treating you a particular way can rearrange your own evaluation of yourself and your worth as a person. And crazier still that years later you can still be giving it your all to undo that damage but still often feel worse off than you were before.
Yes, that is so true. Learning to love yourself again is a process. Someone told me that it's necessary to release the blame on yourself dor starters. Maybe that person made you feel stupid because you believed them. That was a game for them, this is your life. Take the control back in your mind and find your inner strength. Hoping for the best with you.
So true. I never understood how damaging narcissists are until I dated one for years. I wish now I had never met him. I understand now why his words could damage me so much, it is what narcissists do. It is a healing process and while he turned me into a shell of who I was before I met him, the Lord is gently healing me.
I was in an 8 year relationship with a narcissist and every lyric she sings is so true. I walked away 3 years ago and I struggled with the aftermath of what he turned me into. He made me feel like I was not enough and that I was just an inconvenience. It took me 2 years to love myself again and find who I’m supposed to be. Still working on letting myself trust and love others, but it’s not easy when you let a narcissist destroy you for so long. I thank you for writing this song and being a voice for us who have gone through these situations. And for those who have gone through this, know you are loved and you are enough, always remember that. ❤️
Megan O’nell am sorry for all the difficult terms you have went through all this while.. Relationship with narcissist you will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is good enough. You will give everything and they will take it all and give you less ,and less in return .At the end you will end up depleted emotionally,mentally,physically ,spiritually ,financially ,and then get blamed for it..
I feel every word you said. I’m happy for you because you managed to get out and wish you a smooth healing journey. I am still stuck after 14 years with no end in sight. It’s impossible to really heal while you’re in it but I do my best. I recommend Dr. Ramani and her channel because she has been a lifeline in this field.
@@ladypeace8912 omg me too! I’ve been dealing with the mental abuse now for 31 years. At times it was physical until I started calling 911. I don’t know why I thought he’d change. I didn’t understand it until I googled narcissist. I kept reading and reading with my eyes popping wide open… “omg this is him”. Until one day it hit me… I stopped giving in to his narcissistic ways. Our marriage got worse because I was no longer his pawn. He knew he wasn’t winning any longer. So what he do…. He would seek others that gave in…. He’s a smooth talker. One time he manipulated the shit out of a judge and played victim… he won! He’s a great salesman who can sell you a pen that no longer has ink. He can make you think it is the only pen left in this world and you needed it. He is basically an adult bully. Who also believes he knows everything. He doesn’t abide by the law because it don’t pertain to him. He has more selfies than anyone I could imagine. Very self righteous. It gets worse and I can go on all night. I praise those of you that ran away from a narcissist. It’s awful to say this, but my own mother told me once…. “If you left he’d still find you. There’s never getting away from him, he’ll still find a way to hurt you.”
Very Short YT Do you accept Jesus Christ as lord and saviour Please Surrender your lives to Jesus Christ John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believe in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Romans 10:9-10 also says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. and You must Repent To repent, about salvation, is to change your mind from unbelief to belief in Jesus Christ and to flee from sin. 1 John 1:9 (KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Pray that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit. I will not reply so I will not see it. For more, copy and paste Christ Commission Fellowship and Mass Deliverance John Eckhardt..m.m
@@Timayy I’m am not anymore. I left, but it was after a very painful 5 years. But people who aren’t educated on Narcissism do not know what they are getting themselves into in the beginning and don’t know that Narcs can’t change.
Loving a narcissist for over 10 years and suffering the pain and emotional abuse was torture! 😢 This song is such truth. Thank you for this much needed song.❤
I heard this in car the other day and had to do everything to hide my tears from my kids. Nobody understands the hell you go through living with a narcissist. 11 years of that. This song hit home. Thank you for making this amazing beautiful song
Man oh man, I'm 62 and gave my all n best and left with CPTSD and live a life having very limited contact with others - reclusive! The damage done 2 a person's "self" is enormous, lonely n wary of every good thing
@Akurrs talk to a mental health professional. They’ll give you tools and material to help navigate daily life. The most important thing is that you’re looking for information and wanting to change.
7 years I dated a narcissist. But, you know what? I'm grateful. He taught me exactly how I shouldn't be treated, and now I'm 6 days away from marrying the most incredible man I've ever met ❤
I am so happy you not only survived, but you loved yourself so much that you allowed a healthy relationship into your life. I am 3 weeks out of a narcissistic relationship and I struggle with believing there are honest, kind, loving people in the world- people with whom I can put my trust in, open my heart to. Your post here brought me to tears because it gives me hope. You have told me not to give up on myself and the universe, for it will bring me kindness and love. Thank you.
That's exactly true for me as well. Three years of narcissistic abuse outside of my family, plus a narcissistic dad who raised one narcissistic son and another son with zero empathy, taught me how relationships SHOULDN'T be. I met a very sweet guy online who endured narcissistic abuse for around the same time I did. Both of us are entirely educated on narcissistic abuse, so there were no unnecessary questions like "Why did it happen?" "Why didn't you leave?" We simply swapped stories and talked about how we'd healed and what we'd learned from our experiences.
@donnamariegiglio6964 I don't know what your situation is like now. My reply is very late, but kind people do exist. It actually helped me to see toxic people as a minority. Although I've met a lot of toxic people since my situation, the majority are actually nice people. I hope you're doing well
Been waiting for a song like this for over 20 years. I suffer from Complex PTSD from childhood trauma followed by a 14 year marriage to a severe narcissist. I found the courage to leave when my daughter was 4. This year she turns 18...he's made my life a living hell for 27 years but she makes it all worth it. Thank you for writing this song and sharing. ❤
Good on you for taking your daughter away from the toxic situation 👏 your story gave me goosebumps, I have been there, have CPTSD too and every relationship I've been in, from my father to every single person. Insightful lyrics and a beautiful voice, thank you 💜💔💜
This is EXACTLY what I'm going through!! Please make more songs like this. I need reality songs not sappy love songs. We need a female voice for what so many of us are going through
I’m listening to this one after Dax song narssist it’s way better than this one in my opinion but it’s bc his style of music is more my type but his is about female narssist
I'm 59 years old and remarried after my husband passed. That loss has been tough enough on its own. I remarried to a man who makes me feel like I'm going crazy then makes mr feel guilty for feeling that way. When he's called out, he resorts to being the victim. If all else fails the gifts start coming in, never "I love you", or "I'm sorry". I feel like I've lost it, and can't find even a shadow of the person i was. Thank you, for letting me see that I'm not the only one, and maybe I'm not the crazy one.
To live with a Narcissistic person, you literally have to accept their delusions. My ❤️ goes out to you. No wrong in leaving dysfunctional every time it’s necessary! Sadly, they seem to be everywhere these days! Hold on to Truth, don’t buy the lies, your Not Crazy, only being driven there…. Life with a Narcissistic personality is Crazy Making, been there, don’t that.
Thank you for this powerful message this song has! I am 58 and can say finally I love myself! Years decades of abuse put me going down the rabbit hole! Drugs , alcohol, cutting, self harm where how I dealt with everything! Unfortunately I destroyed every relationship I ever had! Finally after my late husband passed away I put myself into therapy! Oh I been before but it was for everyone else! This time it was for me! And I am feeling a peace I never felt before! I can say in the mirror I love me!💕
I had never heard of Narcissistic Abuse until after I left my ex a couple months ago and once I started doing some research on it I was completely shocked to find that I have been living it for the last two years - They have a name for that! This song hits so hard, and this is a subject that needs to be talked about so much more in our society. Abuse is not always physical. Thank you for sharing 💕
Very Short YT Do you accept Jesus Christ as lord and saviour Please Surrender your lives to Jesus Christ John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believe in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Romans 10:9-10 also says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. and You must Repent To repent, about salvation, is to change your mind from unbelief to belief in Jesus Christ and to flee from sin. 1 John 1:9 (KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Pray that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit. I will not reply so I will not see it. For more, copy and paste Christ Commission Fellowship and Mass Deliverance John Eckhardt..m.m
Everything you just mentioned is what I just learned after 10 years of ongoing physical emotional and high intentions of physical ways how he damaged me on narcissistic ways I never knew. I’m damaged and wish I knew what I know now.
YES ! I didn’t know what a Narcissistic abuse was until after I left my sons after after 2 years. This song hits home. It definitely described everything he’s said to me. I never knew abuse wasn’t only physical until afterwards.
Going through exactly the same thing. Can't believe I spent two precious years of my life thinking that this person could change and maybe things will get better with time. It NEVER does with a narcissist! Glad to have educated myself on narcissistic abuse and started my healing journey. I trust God will get me through this 😢🙏
I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a narcissist. He cut me off like I was nothing to him. It was so real for me and it’s hard to believe it was never real for him after all this time. I cried myself to sleep every night wondering why I wasn’t enough, but I understand now. You will never be enough for a narcissistic person. You truly never know the pain of being in an abusive relationship until you’re in one yourself, and I pray for everyone else who has been through it ❤️
Very Short YT Do you accept Jesus Christ as lord and saviour Please Surrender your lives to Jesus Christ John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believe in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Romans 10:9-10 also says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. and You must Repent To repent, about salvation, is to change your mind from unbelief to belief in Jesus Christ and to flee from sin. 1 John 1:9 (KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Pray that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit. I will not reply so I will not see it. For more, copy and paste Christ Commission Fellowship and Mass Deliverance John Eckhardt..m.m.m.m
In my situation I am 26yrs old and we have been together 10yrs with a 1yr old and 4yr old. Im ready to leave and I want out. I sleep on my couch until he cant get enough money to move out. He doesnt like it too much so i get screamed at every morning when he wakes up and realizes i didnt come to bed. Ive told him over and over again i cant take it anymore because he is emotionially draining. He swears if i would just do what he says then he wouldnt be the way he is. We all know, thats a lie. It took me so long to realize he wont ever change but now is better then never. Im ready to feel that peace and freedom. Im ready to become happy again like I once was. I will be happy again.
Me too girl! Together 13 years, married for 9. He cheated with our mutual friend and I was thrown away like yesterday’s trash. It’s been four years and he still treats me like garbage and she is on his pedestal, just wish I didn’t have to co-parent our 10 year old and witness their happiness or deal with her arrogance, they are both Narcissistic.
@@Mrsjshorter21 I am so sorry. This break up happened a few months ago and I still feel so broken... My pain is actually physical pain... This trauma bond is intense...
Wow, I could say so much about this song...but Im speechless...Thank you for singing this song!!! Bless you and all that have and still do, deal with a narcissist in their lives
It's not just partners this song touches me and when I listen I remember boundaries and why I stay away from anyone who makes me feel " less than" or is abusive over and over again... Break the cycle! Thankyou
@@tinaparkinson8833 You just need to give yourself time. Start doing things for yourself and to make sure you give yourself all the necessary attention to your mental health. Just because one relationship wasn’t great doesn’t mean the next won’t. Trust and know that all things will come together and give you clarity. Know your worth and don’t settle for less than what you deserve.
At some point you have to ask yourself are they really loving me? Thr truth hurts, but dragging yourself along in a relationship with a narcissist will really hurt more. Hoping for the best for you.
This song describes my situation a couple of months ago. Constant gaslighting, the cheating, building me up just to bring me down. Beautiful song, to everyone struggling in a relationship like this, please just know, it's not worth it. At all, you are more than what the make you feel and it's not worth your tears and time, you might not see it now, but you will. Sending lots of love to everyone!
This song hits every aspect of my life. In a relationship with a narcissist. Everything is about them, it's sad how they drain all you self worth and the reason to live. Then once there's nothing left of you, they leave and replace you for someone else. Problem is, they make you believe that you the problem. Beautiful song, just wish it wasn't true. Wish people were good
If ur in a relationship with one leave. They don’t love you. They love the attention you give. They crave validation. They will never change for you it’s unfortunate but it’s true. 4 years of being with someone and I finally realize he was the biggest narcissist I ever met and I had no idea. Do not wait until they leave you for another supply. LEAVE
& here I thought there was NO beauty associated with narcissism. Wow soul sista! You summed up the bottomless pit of pain & regret leftover from falling head over heels for the demons identifying as humans afflicted with narcissism beautifully. Outstanding! Got yourself a new fan lyrical genius!
I wish I could give it a hundred billion likes. Besides these, I have no words. Only silence, that's all I have got left with me. Thank you so much for this song.
the nature of narcissistic abuse is such that you can't believe it unless you've been through it and then you still can't believe it. before i knew about narc, my mind occupied with WHY's. there is part of me tells that i should understand him and let it go and move on. and the other one feels pity for him, for what he's been through because of the up bringing (family). I'm currently on my journey of healing now. 🙏🌻
I used the pity for his upbringing to excuse his behavior. For years I blamed myself for his behavior because I inadvertently turned to opiate painkillers following a broken leg injury to numb a much deeper pain that I guess I didn't even realize was hurting me so badly until I realized how well pain killers had been dulling the ache and enabling me to live this way. I'm 4 years opiate free but still haven't figured out total sobriety or how to get out of this marriage with any dignity, though there is no dignity in staying in it, either. And the fear of failing at life without him is my greatest fear. I knowingly step into a crippling trap every single day of my life.
I wish you all the best and the love and happiness you deserve ❤️ I am still in the midst of a 15 yr battle with myself whether to stay or go, I know what the logical, safe choice is but I keep hoping and praying that things will go back to the way they were in the beginning 😕 I know that he will not change and I know that I am not ready to leave... Yet... To all the brave, loving, beautiful women, we know we aren't what they say we are, but it's so hard to keep telling yourself that when you hear differently over and over 😢 sending love and strength and, best of all... Hugs 🤗
I forgot to mention that I cannot wait to stop apologizing for every little thing that irritates him, I find myself on eggshells and I have done nothing wrong, but I say "I'm sorry" everyday multiple times 😕
I forgot to mention that I cannot wait to stop apologizing for every little thing that irritates him, I find myself on eggshells and I have done nothing wrong, but I say "I'm sorry" everyday multiple times 😕
@@katherinesprague4010 that feeling like you're walking on an eggshells is the sign that you need to go out from that situation. esp. when he's given you a lot reason to feel sorry for yourself. it is not out faults. why we need to take the accountability of their wrong doings? i know and i can see it that you are strong...being aware and knows about what a narcissist is a blessing. all you have to do now is to break the pattern, the cycle. you can do it. its really worth it after you disconnected from them. i assure you that. and for now take alteast one step away from them. 😊🙏💪🏻🤙
I cried when I listened to this. I am married to a Narcissist that gas lights me all the time. I am so broken down and insecure. I have thought I was crazy for so long, thinking that I was incapable of being enough. The damage that people like this do is undescribable. Thank you for this beautiful song.
I definitely understand and empathize with you.... experienced it as well. Just a little different since it was my dad. Can't tell you how much I hope you hang in there and know that you are not alone. Please take the time to care for yourself...seek counseling, take yourself out for coffee and write down how you feel, find a support group...and Ill be praying for you. God be with you!🙏🤗🥲
Thank you for this beautiful and healing song. I married a man exactly like my mother because I thought love was lonely, humiliating, and filled with abuse. They only loved themselves and the pain they inflicted. Now I am free and the scars are fading. Still working on loving myself, but I have found a man who waited many years in the shadows to offer me unconditional love and acceptance. Have the courage to walk away, life is waiting to embrace you.
My whole life I have been involved with narcissist after narcissist (and would have loved to hear this song then!). After six years of therapy, I can finally spot the red flags and I also have made significant progress on fixing the problems in me that inexorably drew me to such women. The mantra that very probably saved my life: "The only way to win with a narcissist is to refuse to play." Thank you, Avery Anna, for such a personal and powerful and evocative song. For every comment here, I am certain you have touched many other people who did not comment, in a way that literally saves lives and increases happiness. May you experience even a small portion of the peace and relief you have brought to all of us.
I cry every time I listen to this! I'm soooo thankful you wrote exactly what I was feeling!! To lose all 4 of my children to my abuser has been like living in hell. I am extremely sad every single day without my children. It's been years since I've seen some of them. Narcissistic abuse ruins children and lives of entire families. If my oldest daughter ever sees this, I am thinking of you today, on your birthday. I miss you tons! Thank you, Avery, for this song!! It will mean a lot to victims of Narcissistic abuse and family court fraud!
Same here. I have suffered parental estrangement from my daughter by her father. I have three wonderful daughters....but still missing my bonus baby. I flip flop between cutting her off and leaving nothing to her. (I have terminal cancer) And stomping my feet in frustration. I have waited patiently.7years now Time is running out..... And I worry about her. She has no relationship with her sisters. They think she is spoiled by her Dad. They didn't have a Dad....he died in a car wreak. So I remarried 10 years later....and he took her from me while I was in a Coma. Unbelievable. We(her dad) and I have never spoken again.
I was living in an emotional narcissistic physical abuser for over 15 years 😢 what it does to you is horrible and devastating. The worst part is when the narcissist wins it all, while the child is the one really hurting, confused, and on pain , but mine can't talk . Non verbal autism rainbow miracle! 🌈 how does the system fail them!
My first love was a text book narcissist. That was 20 years ago. I’ve been let go and moved on years ago… this song is spot on to all the darkest I lived back then. The hardest part is letting go and I pray for all that feel stuck..most know they should let go but words can’t describe the weight of those chains when dealing with a narcissist. They mentally break you. Hope people learn to let go and Trust God and begin to heal ❤️
Abuse comes in many forms. One of the ugliest emotions one can feel is being accused of being crazy and at the end to show proof to your sanity. By then , you have absorbed all kinds of words and questioned your self worth. Some people break you without even thinking about it. How can people do such things knowing they are wrong? All those young people who feel alone and then eventually sad things happen. Even the law wont listen at times , until its too late. A person who fights back to your unjustified wrongs is NOT crazy. Like Gabby Petito who was upset and she was viewed wrong. Now she's gone.....Many, many still out there.😔
I believe this is my husband and some days it's scary as hell. I try staying strong but he has taken away my sunshine and made a dark whole made me empty. Don't know what to do where to go. Thank you for this song there's so many who go through things that people don't know or understand and even some that lose there lives becuz of people like this.
It's called covert narcissist. Get out. Power and control, they are unable to love anyone but themselves. I just got fee after 14 years. They keep you depressed on purpose so you will not become strong enough to figure them out.
I felt that so deeply! Some days I don't even feel like a person anymore, I feel so helpless and hopeless it scares me. May you find strength, healing and the love that you deserve,
I'm obsessed with this song!!! I am almost 60 yo and am surprised how many people are Narcissists. So many friends & me have these people in their lives. I forward this song to someone often and bring it up. It is fitting in so many type of relationships. Childhood BFFs, roommates, BF/GF, husband/wife, coworkers. You get it. Thank you for writing & singing this song. I love it❤️
"cause I don't even like me anymore" I always said to him "it's like you blew out my flame and you don't even notice" glad I'm out of that situation. Girl, whoever and where ever you are, you can get out. It may seem impossible, but you got this and I'm so proud of you ❤️
That trapped feeling ... the desperation feelings ... no matter the lies ... just do it .... don't look back... I lost $200,000 to that x boi friend and my house ( which was paid from when my husband was alive) ... and have been living in my car for three and a half years. I am widowed and I have no family in the entire State of Florida where I live ... but I am grateful that I made it out alive ... I've known others that did not make it, they lost their lives to a narcissist . I'm 60 years old a lot of health problems, but I will live in my car the rest of my life if that's the way it has to be. I would never go back to that narcissists (although a two-time millionaire) or any other narcissist for that matter. Please save yourself.
There’s another song that talks about getting your smile back, I forget who sings it, but it’s also a good one. We tend to lose so much of ourselves like damn even our smiles. Like not even being happy anymore about anything.
OMYGOSH!!!!! I SO NEEDED THIS SONG THERAPY! Anyone who's ever encountered a narcissist, I commend you for your survival skills & your obvious will to live! Because that shit is debilitating to say in the least! Congrats to the ones who made it through! ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE AMAZING, VALUABLE & LOVED, DESPITE HOW THE NARCISSIST DEGRADED YOU OR MADE YOU FEEL & ULTIMATELY BELIEVE THE WORDS THAT CAME OUT THEIR MOUTH! THEY ARE ALL PATHOLOGICAL LIARS & ARE INSENSITIVE, SPINELESS, COWARDS! I WISH I COULD BE THERE WHEN THEY ALL CATCH THAT KARMA TRAIN! Great song by the way!
Not to mention, most narcissist are insecure themselves. So they have to put that insecurity onto someone else so they can feel better about themselves.
Never thought I’d be able to relate to this song … Recently had an epiphany that I suffered abuse from a friend that I thought was going to be there for a lifetime. Overlooked all of the signs of narcissism, even though deep down I knew for some time. I fought as hard as I could for the friendship to last but the effort simply wasn’t reciprocated. It hurts but I know the Lord will get me through this immense pain and confusion 💛
the way this song literally explains the toxic relationship i am in right now, i know that i should leave but it’s so much easier said than done, he literally calls my psycho and dramatic because i know a lot of things he doesn’t know that i know !! i needed this song so bad
Its hard because when you are in a relationship with a narcissist you have a strong trauma bond, a form of Stockholm's syndrome. Research these two things on you tube. There is a lot of help available for victims and survivors. Breaking free and recovery take time. Be good to yourself and have self compassion. You are worth it and you can do it. God bless you beautiful soul.🌹
I have been out of relationship/marriage for a yr now from a narcissist and it was one of the scariest things to do but I'm free and my boys are happier. Thank you for writing a song for us DV survivors ❤️❤️
This is the first time I’ve heard this song & boy did it hit me! I was gaslit, stonewalled and made feel less than. Finally found the strength to leave
Thank you for putting the song out. I can relate so much to this. I was with a narcissist for over 5 years when I was 18 I got with him. Finally broke free of him last July.. he cheated on me. Although this made me sick and lose myself but I’m glad it happened I would have never left him. He made me feel worthless, walking on egg shells all the time. I had to constantly lie to everyone about him. He would make me cry all the time, all night and day. He criticized the way I dressed, called me names and made me feel so low. I was constantly scared to go anywhere because I know he would call me and I would have to go to my car or something to say I was home. The verbal abuse and controlling acts was exhausting. Then the physical acts got worse and I’m so happy this song is out. Thank you 💋 your voice is also so beautiful!!!
To add to all the other comments on here...yes this song hit home for me too. I was in a 4 year relationship with a narc. Let me give a piece of advice to anyone reading this: you can't fix him/her. No matter who they are. The damage done to them is irreparable. The only thing you CAN do: RUN. Run as hard and as fast as you can in the OPPOSITE direction. And NEVER EVER look back. Because as soon as you do he/she will ensnare you again. And then they know they've got you. So listen to your gut. Watch for the red flags. Trust your instincts. And RUN.
Anyone who identifies with this song, RUN don't walk out of the relationship you're in period. don't waste 20 something years of your life like I did. You won't fix them, your love won't be enough... not because you're not enough, not because you don't deserve it, because they are incapable of incapable of real love and will never give you what you deserve.
I have never felt this close to a song. Thank you, simply just thank you for making such a relatable Song. I literally need this song to remind everyday to not give in and go back... Thank you!
Wow I was married for 22 years to one of these, I had to record conversations and fights to play for counselors and doctors cause I seriously thought I was nuts because he had me believing all his words and my adult children listened to him, so did my parents as they are like him as well. I’ve since divorced and remarried to my true love whom shows me pure love. Wonderful song
@@hudsonlewis7217 be strong you have this. Me and my 2 daughters were left at my mothers home with very little (pretty much nothing). It’s only to late if you never left and you did so congratulations on your new life! Celebrate your new found freedom.
Omg! I totally relate to this. I was called crazy, mentally unstable, etc. I only realized how much gaslighting was going on after I was out of the relationship. Thank you for this song and hugs to all out there who are healing from this type of abuse.
This is the perfect song for me at this moment. Trying to get over a narcissist and it’s difficult, but always believe in yourself and love yourself first!! ❤️❤️❤️
15 years with an abusive narcissistic person, left the relationship 5+ years ago.. when their is a child/children involved.. it can be very difficult and hard. The abuse has actually gotten worse since I’ve left. My daughter is in the middle, I have become a prisoner in my own life. Thank you for this beautiful song. Sending love to all, healing ❤️🩹 and strength. ✨💖🙏🏻💖✨
I know exactly what u mean. They use their own children to continue the abuse on the person that left the abuse and it's so scary to see the kids behave the same way as the narcissist, they only imitate the behavior they have been shown. But stay strong and continue on.
I swear I know I haven't been alive 100 years but things seem to get worse with social media as time goes on. They never want to own up to their mistakes. They put you down everytime you do call them out and it eats you inside. Keep standing up for yourself and never settle for bullshit. Thank you for such an amazing song!
They act like angels in e eyes of e public and unfortunately e world seems to see em like gud pipo and u r e 1 whose z always to blame.......i thot i was being ungrateful bt looks like thy r alot of pipo who ve travelled this road bfre me.....used to blame myself fr things i ddnt do....
Wow… 😔 All true… all true 😔😔😔😔 Wow it’s amazing how there is a whole community of people traumatized by narcissistic relationships and we all just come and cry together and support each other. I wish there was a support group we can get together and talk about stuff that happened and support each other so we dont go back to them 😞
I wish there was a support group for helping those who are stuck and insecure about leaving to find the resources and the courage to get out and never look back.
This song is so beautiful and so needed right now!! It’s incredible how many ppl are suffering from these narcissists on the planet! But it’s coming into the light of day and there is so much more awareness and support, now more than ever. Chump lady is a very active site for daily support with a wonderful community( her book “ Leave a cheater, gain a life” is brilliant) She is funny and wise, highly recom the site!! I also love Dr. Ramani’s UA-cam videos, so spot on accurate and helpful, she’s so comforting to listen to. Dr Les Carter also does a great job helping you to get free and deal with these narcissists in your life. You are not alone and it is real! I was 38 years with one, recently divorced, still healing, prob will always be healing. Songs like Avery’s give such hope to the sufferers, what an amazing voice tackling a most painful subject, so moving, so validating and so important! God bless! 🙏🌷💜
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart and soul, for this song. For the first time in 6 years, I don’t feel alone. He called me crazy soooo many times, I started to believe him. He treated me like garbage for so long, I started to believe that’s what I was and I started treating MYSELF like I’m garbage. I’ve been trying to break up with him for over a YEAR now, and he just won’t let me leave! I told him I’m not happy, I told him I’m sick of him abusing me, but he always knows just what to say to pull my heart strings and manipulate me in order to keep me around. I can relate to every single word of this song, and I finally don’t feel alone. THANK YOU
Made me cry. After 4 years of dealing with my now ex. I now know....this is him, how he made me feel, always walking on egg shells when I was with him, when I talk to him, when I text him, when I went somewhere before his approval. Literally, listening to this, my heart dropped to my stomach and made me feel sick all over again, I got scared but at the same time I now know what and who he is. Idk if I make sense but I'm just happy I left.
Congrats. I'm happy you got out of that unfortunate situation. Not many people get so lucky to get out of a situation like that or they don't have the courage to leave something like that
My mother is a malignant narcissist. Im so glad I didn't marry a man ANYTHING like her. I can't believe a mother would destroy her own daughter to protect her secrets and trying to hide. The circumstances are different but the feelings and words are a lot the same. A lot of people want to love and be loved truly without alternative motives. If you're hurt by a narcissist, it is hell, but there is help, understanding and love givers out there and you can heal. Not necessarily in that order. Peace to everyone!
You are incredible! Im so glad for you too. Stay strong and keep the narcissist radar on! It means a lot there are people out there who care. And I certainly do.
There is a book Stop Walking on Eggshells that is amazing. You'll probably think you wrote it. I did. It was as if someone had been watching my relationship & taking notes.
I can't stop playing this on repeat. Crying because it hits different after you love a narcissist. Giving all to them and getting scraps of "love" in return. I'm so sad/mad for betraying myself for someone who can't love me in return
This song literally made me cry because my bd is a narcissist who makes me feel exactly like this and sometimes I just can't find the words to explain how he makes me feel and what I go through with him...thank you for this song because it's perfect for us who have been or still are in love with a narcissist
"But can you get over yourself.. ..." The blaming, yelling, never saying sorry ..... I'm always in the wrong. It's hard and somehow this song is a relief... Like hearing it, makes me feel like I'm heard.
Having been called a narcissist by my child's mother, this song puts it out there like wtf was I thinking. My daughter is 4 now and I feel horrible for what I put her mother through. This is real life and it happens on a daily. I'm doing my best to make things right but it will never be enough to fix what I put her through during her pregnancy. I'm in the middle of fixing myself. There is hope for us, but deep inside it's our own demons we are dealing with and unfortunately blame it on others. Whatever it is going on there is hope. One step at a time
Thank you for your honesty and being willing to look inward. There's definitely hope for anyone who is capable of introspection. Most narcissist aren't capable of it so I suspect that you are just a product of your environment and what men are taught about women. Women are seen as overly emotional and less than in our society.
Victor you are a very strong person to have written that. Best part of it is that you have acknowledged and are aware of the issues that hurt your relationship. That’s a great step in fixing yourself. Most narcissist will always say “That’s not me!” My prayers to your daughter that there is hope that mommy and daddy can fix things.
The fact that you are owning up to your mistakes is beautiful. Being on the other side of things, I can say that narcissistic behavior is sooo very damaging. Hopefully as you heal yourself, you can heal the relationship with her.
“I don’t even like me anymore” it’s amazing when we think we’re the problem. How we change and become miserable because the person we love is miserable. You lose yourself and think you’re the crazy one. I can sadly relate. I think we’ve all loved a narcissist in our lifetime.
currently dealing with one n i just dnt understand how they can make us feel the way they do.. After all the love n effort ive put into it istill feel as if im what she says i am .
Been over 3 years since removing myself from a similar situation....to this day I have a hard time allowing myself to be happy, let alone allow myself to be....myself.
I'm going through this heartache right now.. the hardest part about this kind of abuse is that it felt like the realest deepest love & bond I ever felt. I would of given my life for this love.. I thought he would too. Now.. our marriage over and not even a friendship can come out of this. The hardest for me to take is that after giving 8 years of every ounce of me & literally keeping this man alive, I don't mean enough to him to even care about my life.. him treating me like he doesn't care if I even live is the hardest deepest pain I've ever felt. I feel totally fucking insane when I think of the years invested & the love I did everything for to get to the end and none of its real blows my fucking mind & my heart to pieces. At 40 I don't know if I'll ever truly get over this fucking shot in the heart. This one's gonna last-
I could've written this myself! I'm 48 (so is he) and we've been together for almost 6 years. In 2019 I caught him messaging/flirting with another woman. Trying to get her to "go out for coffee or something". But before that happened she found out about me, messaged me apologizing up and down and said that he told her we broke up. She ended up telling him to fuck off. I should've left then but, I forgave him and stayed. Big mistake! Last February while I was driving my mother to Florida (I drive her down and bring her back every winter), he somehow ended up talking to some girl he's known all his life, invited her over to OUR house and had sex with her. I knew something was off when I got home so I went through his phone and found out everything! They had already made plans to get together again when I went back to Florida. But they were both saying they couldn't wait that long and the worst part of it all, they were saying "I love you" back and forth. When I busted him on that one, he started crying and begging me to stay, that he made a huge mistake and would never speak to her again, that he'd do anything to keep me. So, stupid me forgave him again and again it was a huge mistake! We broke up at the beginning of this past October, completely out of the blue. He sent me the same message every day before he walked into work, "I love you beautiful, have a good day/night (depending on what shift he was working). The day we broke up, he sent me that exact text. Three hours later I said something about us spending the upcoming weekend together and his response was "idk maybe". So I told him that didn't sound like an answer you'd give to your girlfriend and asked what was going on. An hour later he called to tell me he didn't know what he wanted and that he wasn't happy. I asked if there was someone else and he said no. BIG FAT LIE!! He had been flirting heavily with someone at one of our friend's houses (she's a cousin of one of his friends' wives whose house we always went to). I had stopped going over because my anxiety had hit an all time high and I needed a break. This bitch knew he was with me but 2 or 3 weeks after I stopped going, she initiated the flirting and of course he loved the attention. The flirting got heavier and heavier to the point that some friends stopped going over there because they didn't want to get caught in the middle. Well the flirting turned into them sneaking outside to make out. I got into his phone again and read all their texts, I was physically sick! He had been sneaking around with her for months but didn't say anything until I pushed about spending time together. If I hadn't done that, that could still be going on. I flipped out on her, told her that he was a compulsive liar, that he has cheated on every woman he's ever been with (2 wives and 1 fiance but, I didn't know any of this until recently), didn't have his license and has lost it indefinitely, that he's been driving MY Land Rover with zero permission, was behind on his bills and rent because I stopped helping him pay for anything after he said we were done, that I paid a a big chunk of the rent and that he couldn't afford to live there on his own. But if she wanted a man child to take care of along with her 10 year old and 16 year old that he was all hers. She backed off for a little while but it didn't last. I asked him the other day if they were dating now. He of course said no, that they were just hanging out when they could. I asked if he kissed her when they went to go their separate ways after "hanging out" and he said yes but he wouldn't call it dating. I told him I didn't make out with anyone I hung out with, including my male friends. So yes, they were dating, wtf else would you call that? I literally gave her so many reasons to not want to be with him, even told her I had proof. So now I'm just waiting for it to blow up in both their faces. I warned her and her cousin (the one married to his friend) that within 6 months he'll get bored and start looking for attention with anyone he can get it from. Not to mention he isn't going to have a car or a pot piss in pretty soon. But the worst part of all of this is after everything he's done to do me and the countless times he's hurt me.... I still love him and I hate myself for it!
@@kristenlaine8435 girl. I felt this. It absolutely sucks loving a narcissist. The trauma bond is very real and it’s so hard to heal from it. I was with a narc for 8 years on and off. He constantly cheated on me and I was stupid and forgave him over and over again thinking things would be different but of course they weren’t. I still love him. We have a child together so that makes it so much harder, because I know when I see him, I’ll fall all over again. I keep my distance, because I know he’ll say all the right things and as much as it sucks I know I would fall for it again. 🥴 ugh!
It will take time the healing process is difficult and will still always have an effect on u and ppl close to u but remember u r strong and u can get through it I was with mine almost 10yrs and been divorced officially 1yr and separated 1yr and 6months I've had treatment for my mental health after how he fucked me up so badly but I'm doing much healthier mentally now and so I know if I was able to heal I know you can too prayers u got this
I felt every word of this…I had no idea I was dealing a narcissist the whole time until it ended….now thinking back on everything, there were signs but I couldn’t see them….she turned into someone I don’t even know then gets some fucking weird ass daddy shrine tattoo on her arm (he’s still alive) they are entirely too close and it’s fucking creepy
I feel this to my core! My sibling has this and it's really difficult to have an easy relationship. She doesn't even know she has it and you can't tell her because she will ruin the relationship over it. You can't help someone that doesn't want to change. You just have to be quiet and say nothing and be careful not to tip her over the edge. The biggest trigger for the narc rage is calling her out on something morally wrong.
Its definitely constantly walking on eggshells around them. They will also keep tabs on EVERYTHING you do or say BUT dont try to do the same to them.. they will go haywire!! Accountability is not in their vocabulary.
I used to call them out anyways. Even though it started fights and arguments. I couldn't let them think it was okay to do that and behave in such a way.
This song made me realise I got out of a bad toxic violent relationship and helped me so much thank you and what a beautiful song you have helped so many people with it such a good song writer xx
This is my life now. I’m so overwhelmed, broken and lost feeling. I will never understand how someone can destroy someone into pieces. Pure trash. No remorse. No respect for anyone. This is a great song.
You have to leave. They will never change. I left 2 months ago. I wrote a three page paper listing all the horrible things he did and said to me. They have no empathy and use you for getting the narcissistic supply, which is belittling, devaluing, a degrading you. Then the discard. It helped me greatly to listen to Dr. Ramani on UA-cam. I still listen and watch her several times over. God bless you honey. You deserve better than that.
My Narcissistic boyfriend of 10 years threw me out with nowhere to go all because I challenged him 1 too many times... he couldn't handle me questioning him about a woman he's been talking to behind my back... and blamed it on me not giving him enough attention. I had to move 1500 miles away to stay with a family member. He called me 2 weeks ago telling me he loved me ... then I missed one of his calls last week and now he all of a sudden doesn't want me back and is ghosting me. He has broken my soul. I hate that I still love him and cry over this. I have 2 daughters & I hate them seeing this. It's no way to live. Narcissists are selfish toxic users. But none will admit problems so never get help. It's sad & scary. Good luck to you sweetheart. Just know you're not alone.
Narcissists don’t go to therapy; they don’t seek to get better. If anything, they get therapy to get better at hiding the abuse and neglect. Codependents date narcissists and they are both neglected or abused children.
So relatable. Thank you for this masterpiece. It’s sad that so many of us of all different ages and backgrounds are going through or know someone who is. Sending love and light to all of you trying to heal from a narcissist. Remember it really is them not you.
My sister has been in a relationship with a narcissist for more than 9 years. I've watched her wittle away into a shell of what she used to be. I feel like I've lost her. I've tried so so hard to help her see the toxicity of her situation, but now I'm so exhausted and just...completely helpless.
I just myself got out of a narcissistic abuse relationship. It took me three years to realize what he was doing, I thought it was normal because that's how my dad always treated us. I promise you when your in that relationship, you will not see it
As the saying goes, the devil couldn’t walk around on earth holding a pitchfork so he sent narcissists instead, I’d say it’s a pretty spot on comparison if i do say so myself, I’ve been married to one for 17 years and it definitely has NOT been easy, love the song, I saw the title and had to listen, I absolutely love it, thank you.
I just listened to this song and I just sat there saying to myself. This song sounds like it's about me. Because I go through the exact same thing that she is singing about. I get told that I'm overreacting and that I'm crazy and dramatic all the time. And get told that it will never happen again. But it does. 😪. Thank you for writing and singing such a strong song Beautiful
Today was the 1st time I ever heard this song, it was on a local station and the name caught my attention….but the lyrics….now those struck a nerve!!!! 😢😭 This is one of the most heartbreaking moments I have experienced in my nearly 15 months free from the narcissistic ex!!!! This song has so beautifully expressed the exact thoughts & emotions and circumstances & instances that I went through during that entire 7 years of hell!!!! All I can say is “Thank you”!!! Thank you for giving every single person that has survived a relationship with a narcissist a sense of validation; that we are not alone and that someone has been in our shoes and knows our pain!!!! I can not stop listening to this song!!!!!! Thank you for voicing what soooo many feel and experience daily!!!!!!! Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you!!! I love this song and hope you make many more that pull at heart strings so deeply!!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤
Omg this song is so spot on and it hit home for me so much! Thank you for writing and singing this song! Narcissists are horrible human beings! They do so much damage to others and themselves. It is so sad! They literally are heartless! They don't know how to love others or themselves. Narcissistic abuse is absolutely horrible to experience! We all are so worthy of love and respect! They are mental and emotional vampires who seek to destroy others. They are a wolf in sheeps clothing! They will never be able to truly love anyone and they will never be happy in any relationship. People are just another transaction for them to use, abuse, and throw away like trash! They will do exactly what they did to us to the next person! Guaranteed we are not the first and we definitely won't be the last! Best revenge = go out and find ourselves again, heal, live our best life and be with someone who does love, respect and adore us!
Beautifully done. Been there, done that for over 20 years in an abusive on all levels marriage. Ended that 8 years ago but he still won't let go. So glad I finally did.
WOW just WOW!! Just when I thought I was alone, crazy, & overreacting!! 25 years of HELL with a narcissist, I'm trapped, alone, have no joy even if I'm smiling, see no way out other than leaving this earth then I came across your song on accident or maybe it wasn't. Thank you 💐
I am so overwhelmed with how many of you can relate to this song. Thank you all for sharing your stories with me, your support means the world 🤍
Going through this as we speak, trapped
@@jaminugent5539 there's a way out, there is, don't lose hope 💜 praying for you.
@@jaminugent5539 I am also currently experiencing a relationship like this and feel stuck because I've never loved anyone like I do him. I don't want to lose him, but I can't take the mental & emotional abuse any longer.... ☹️😒🥺
A very dear person that I love lived a horrible life with this exact person!!
@@brandysears512 Girl you deserve SO much better than that!! RUN. ESCAPE. Get away as fast as you can! I loved my ex harder and deeper than I have EVER loved ANYONE in my WHOLE life! Or at least I THOUGHT I did.. But it was NEVER enough for him. Girl it was SO SO SO TOXIC.. He was ALWAYS the taker...NEVER the giver. And no matter how hard I tried to show him I was true and loyal to him...I was never anything more than a cheating whore to him...even tho I LITERALLY NEVER cheated on him...not ONCE. It doesn't matter the type of abuse...whether physical, mental, spiritual or psychological...it's all the same. It's a waste of your time, energy, spirit and LIFE. You neither need nor deserve that! You deserve to spend time ALONE to HEAL and to learn to LOVE YOURSELF first!! Please trust me on this! I spent 8 1/2 months figuring this out for myself before I met a man who loves me truly and sincerely. And BELIEVE me when I say I am STILL WORKING on healing myself even in this new relationship I'm in. But my guy is SO loving and SO patient. Get away from this toxic relationship NOW before all your life is UTTERLY spent. He/She doesn't love you. And your love will NEVER be enough for him/her. Learn to heal and to love/value YOURSELF. You are an incredible human being!
For all of you listening that are in a narcissistic relationship, I'm praying you are able to break free. May you have the strength to walk away and NEVER turn back! You are worthy of being love genuinely and completely ❤
Yes i have been going through alot since my wife died in an accident,but whenever I listened to the songs it reminds me of the memories we shared together before she died.i am really missing her
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Thanks very much 🙏
@@prettyboss275 ❤️
Try growing up with a narcissist, it fucks the kid up so badly
When you start to question who was the narcissist in the relationship...you know you've stayed forgave and tried for too long. 😖😥 the gaslighting was a very effective tool used to question my sanity and reaches for help outside of the isolation. What is so crazy to me is that its so hard to let go but im doing my best. Its so hard to go dark block and delete. Its so fresh but i needed this song to remind me...im strong and deserve better and it wasnt me, i changed according to how i was treated. Its time i straighten my crown and take back who i really am. Love reading all the comments of those who successfully made it through the other side. Thank you. Wish me luck. ❤
I started asking myself if I'm the narcissist just recently cause I do feel crazy... I hope.you are still staying strong... I am so scared... Idk what to do.
I yes read you comment I’m in this situation now I have hard time to let go bc I still love him it’s only been a month we are not together but there was a lot things involved. Money aggressive behaviour that I fell down 😢 and yes find this song now
I will. You can do this. Takes time and counseling with an expert on coersive control and abuse. Once that trauma bond is broken you'll feel like a little bird with wings.
Hey I don’t know you but you are strong , just for sharing and being so alert in finally knowing the truth. Girl, of course you got this. Your so brave and love you for that 🥹 💖 ✨ 🥰
I understand completely. I felt like i was the problem like i was the narcissist. 5 years mentally brought down and going dark is not easy feeling like I'm losing something letting go of him but i have lost me and need to get me back. Thank you for your words and making it clear im not alone and definitely not crazy
Thanks so much for all of your comments and love for this song. I appreciate y’all’s support. 🤍🤍
I just discovered you, and you are amazing!!!
I love your song the I love you more song my wife sent me it and it's the best song I ever heard she is gonna be the only women I ever need in my life again God bless you girl I hope your career takes off very far keep making these good songs
Your just amazing 👏 😍 ❤
Unique song title
I cried my eyeballs out, and I’m a guy btw but I was subjected to this kind of abuse in my family of origin.
wow...my life for 24 years..but there is hope.. you are valuable priceless and lovely..God showed me love..unconditional..peace... and forgiveness...My new husband is Jesus... and I am now empowered...strong and free
Same! 24 years i was 16 when we met..now I'm single at 41! But I'm not tested anymore..im driving my own life ..I knew it wouldn't be easy but I'm free xx 😘 good luck x
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@@RozanneVeeMuthrof4 😘 but now your free hun xx
Love it
Amen 💯
20 yrs trapped. 3 free.
Never give up
Anyone who's ever been in a relationship with a narcissist knows how true this song is.
27 years and tonight will be the last time
Absolutley mind breaking…it takes a piece of your soul, from you to be involved with a narcissist…I’ll NEVER marry again…..
yep- been there - done that - glad I gave him up
@@theresak288 21 for me. Its so hard.
I agree
FINALLY. Narcissists are getting exposure. There are too many people in toxic relationships that have no idea why their partner is acting the way they do. It's a horrible cycle that has the abused second guessing themselves. Anyone out there, please leave them. The narcissistic person just doesn't change, but they will change you for the worse if you let them. Gather your strength, accept the relationship is over and move on!
Duhh narcissists love exposure.
Relationship with narcissist you will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is good enough. You will give everything and they will take it all and give you less and less in return .At the end you will end up depleted emotionally,mentally,physically ,spiritually ,financially ,and then get blamed for.
@@stevenfoster5291 happens in physically abusive relationships too... its honestly how it starts... often blaming u for little things until they have u believing u cant do good enough, theyll start physically abusing u and when its said and done apologize while still painting it out to be ur fault.... ppl often dont realize this is exactly why ppl stay in abusive relationships...esp when the abuser promises to get better or simply continues to blame u....once u hear it so often, their voice becomes ur own mental one...and youll feel youre not good enough...even if they dont actually say it their actions can speak loudly
Wow powerful words you spoke 👏
29 years of life with a narcissist, trying to break free and stay away was the hardest thing I ever did. It took a lot of times of leaving before I left and stayed gone. The way they manipulate and twist reality leaves a person confused and blaming themselves for things that were never their fault to begin with. They make your life hell whether you stay or go, so might as well escape, take time to heal and start a new life living in peace. ❤
I lived this. Thank you for giving a voice to those of us who have suffered this trauma and abuse.
Amen!❤
I lived this for three years it was officially over last month, am I the bad guy for pointing out they need help and maybe they could be cured.
I was never in a relationship with a narcissist and here I am almost crying. If you are with one, this is your sign to reach out. Healing from an abusive relationship will result in an undeniable glow.
It’s like being in love with Satan
Being in a relationship with narcissist is emotionally and mentally draining, I've been in a ldr with narcissist and it's the worst relationship I ever had
@@mmxw2294 I agree with you🥺
It's a terrible thing to over come. I'm away from him for almost 6 years and our children keep us linked I'm dying inside.
💔 thank u
This song hit deep. I was called all those crazy and overdramatic. And I'm literally sitting here with tears in my eyes because it hits so hard. I love this song.
@@dynamiteman1001 excuse me but no it's not true. Is me caring and wanting the person I'm with to do good in life over dramatic and crazy? No! Is me wanting what's best for my s/o over dramatic and crazy? I think not! What is crazy is i loved a man so deeply and believed everything he said. Until i was put in the hospital and had 11 stitches put in my face and a bruise going up half my face and a cut under my eye from him pinning me in a corner and punching me and refusing to let me go to my drs appointment for my asthma. And then him not allowing me to leave our apartment and him cheating on me and doing drugs and kicking me out. Thats what is crazy. After he swore up and down he would never be like my ex and beat me. You have absolutely no place to speak since you don't know me or what I went through. So please go take your negativity else where.
@@jaidhelyon6911 I'm sorry and I was just playing with you 😔 I really do apologize please believe me I don't want nothing bad to happen to you or anyone I hope you can please forgive me I was stupid for saying that and I deleted the comment
@@jaidhelyon6911 or just tell me to go f### myself If you want but I'm seriously so sorry that happened to you I can't stand when a man hits a woman
@@dynamiteman1001 Im not going to tell you to f off I'm not like that. And I appreciate the apology.
right there with ya hugs 🤗
Married for 30 yrs to one...now I'm FREE!!! I love my life, it's a new beginning ❤️. This song made my night ❤️
30 years here too. And very depleted right now. Stuck...
26 years been with h since I was 12 ,hardest thing ever to do
I think I’m with one. I want to die every single day. He says it’s all me… he never comes home, he’s gone all the time but then it’s my fault, he doesn’t like being here cause I’m sad all the time. He calls me crazy, tries to diagnose me with shit like ROCD and he makes me feel like im crazy! He’s left me so many times, each time I NEVER bothered him. He ALWAYS came back for me!! I just don’t understand why is he with me if he doesn’t love me??? I love him so damn much and just want that love back from him and it feels like I’ll never get it. Just like Selena in her song Loose you To Love me, she says “I put you first and you adored it”… I think that’s why he’s with me. Because he likes how much I love him, it makes him feel good. Plus I don’t work don’t have a car or my own money so he just LOVES having all the control. Idk if he’s narcissistic or just an asshole… 🤷🏼♀️
I left 8 days ago. It's hard but everyday gets better. You can do it too.
27 years..
Finally someone put it in a direct song, we need more of these type of songs to expose them and to spread awareness 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼
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After the night I went through last night, this song came on my feed here. I can't leave. I have no where to go.
The sentences "Out of touch with my feelings" and "I don't even like me anymore" sum up my struggle everyday. They reflect the struggle after dealing with myself after his behaviour and what I was left with. They reflect the multiple times he hit me, he messed up my emotions, he used my insecurities to hurt me, he left me in tears and I felt ashamed when he said "You're overreacting". I feel free, however it still has an effect on my day to day life. Hopefully there will be a day when I'm proud of who I am today. Thankyou for writing this song and putting my feelings into words.
I feel with you I have that every day that I am feeling like I lost myself because of that relationship
Please know that the greatest battle you will ever fight is within your own mind. IF YOU ARE READING THIS YOU ARE ENOUGH, YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL PERSON & ARE WORTHY TO TO BE HAPPY.
I hope you have learned a lot about Narcissists! They do everything they can to destroy us...
I have learned a lot and understanding it has helped me to heal tremendously and has helped me to become
stronger than I ever was! I still hurt but it's a lot better than it was... Good Luck and Best Wishes!
You can heal completely from this and become a lot stronger and happier! Bless you!
I get it im not in a relationship, but my dad is a narcissist, and its been a struggle with dealing with him and my anxiety and depression. so I hope you realize how strong and amazing you are!!
That's exactly how i feel.
I just left my narcissist husband of 13 years. As I was leaving this song came on the radio. It made me feel better. No one knows what it is like unless they have had to deal with one. Prayers to all the survivors!!
13 years for me too. He has changed. He's been in therapy but can't talk to his mother. The question is. Will this last or should I just move on? Most don't recognize ehat they've done wrong. It wasn't supposed to happen this way.
That was your sign that you made the right decision. I hope all works out for you and it will..im trying do the same myself. Narcissist abuse is horrible ans does some real damage. I hope I can break free soon..god bless n keep your head up your only going to be going up from here. Don't look back😉 you got this
People like that say you’re the problem, they can cause self-loathing… they snuff out dreams… dig deep to find your self worth again and kick their ass to the frickin’ curb.
Just left two days ago.. I know it’s better but it’s so hard
Good job for finding your strength honey. Stay strong 💪🏼
I needed this 2 years ago.. 💔
All I can say is it gets so much better once you finally LEAVE, you’re not alone you’re not crazy and you’re not stupid for loving someone who’s incapable of love - yet so capable of destroying your worth. They won’t change, I promise. You can however change your reality and walk away, for your own peace and happiness 🕊
What a beautiful song. It def says it all..
You said it perfectly.. now I’m going to search for that strength he continues to knock down. I want to leave but damn I’m scared. Love to all that knows this too well🖤
@@hannahrodgers4622
You’ve got this girlie! 🤗
Don’t let him steal your joy or your confidence, he is not the source of your strength..
For a long time I really didn’t think I was strong enough to walk away, he had destroyed all my confidence and self worth that I felt so incredibly weak.
I promise eventually you will just get so tired of being tired..& sad..& constantly disappointed etc that you honestly just have no choice but to decide not to suffer another day.
I wasn’t ready until I was ready. Have faith in yourself, remember who you are.
I knew I deserved better, and I know you do too, it’s just important to understand that you’re not stuck and you can leave. You can, and you should.
I hope you find your happiness again and the authentic love that you deserve 💕
x
Wow I actually needed this, this morning. Thank you 😿
@@ASHAcrochet
Keep your head up 💗
Sending u love & light & strength
x
Very Short YT
Do you accept Jesus Christ as lord and saviour
Please Surrender your lives to Jesus Christ
John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believe in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Romans 10:9-10 also says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
and You must Repent To repent, about salvation, is to change your mind from unbelief to belief in Jesus Christ and to flee from sin.
1 John 1:9 (KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Pray that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit.
I will not reply so I will not see it.
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"I don't even like me anymore." Ripped me to shreds.
I know that feeling :( he puts me down every day
@NatashaWarden I'm sorry you deal with that too 💔
@@brittneykersten3041thankyou ❤️
Omg! Exactly true! I got chill bumps through the whole song! I broke FREE after 5 years of narcissism! The good Lord was looking after me and helped me grow after being treated in an unhealthy way!
As a therapist, I hope it’s ok that I’m going to be sharing your video with the survivors I work with. This was well done. ❤️
❤️🙏
Nailed it
I'm a survivor 💪😎
This song touched me opens my eyes more for my behavior in a 7.5 year relationship that i ruined. We both were narcissistic towards each other but I was really bad. How do you get help for being narcissistic? Or is it just a poisonous relationship itself that makes you crazy that way ? Cause I wasn't always like that.
I salute you.
A lawyer I was speaking to about my ex called him a Narcissist. It was very validating. Remember, as you're leaving a Narcissist, to include as many healthy people in your journey as possible. After spending years or decades being called crazy, being seen, understood, and validated is such a gift.
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My ex's lawyer was a Narissist
My therapist told me
This comment though 🙌 I always thought I was the problem until someone else told me that they thought my ex was a narcissist...the more I looked into it, and the more people who I spoke to that confirmed it, the more validated I felt! I feel like most people don't realise, and just blame themselves, until an outsider points out the blindingly obvious signs! I ended that relationship a year ago now, and I'm still not over it...which just goes to show how deeply under your skin they get
Narcissists love “labelling” the victims. It is nice to hear someone putting a label on them… it set me free for all the labels that became so heavy. It took me years, but I am free and can help others in the same situation.
Amazing song!
I am a narcissist survivor. People will never understand what a person goes through when they love a narcissist. One of the hardest things that I have ever done. I was at the end of my rope, and I knew it was time to get out before it was too late. Now the stalking, lies and the teaming up with other people starts as I leave the relationship. They will see the truth down the road as they have never gotten my side of the story but a narcissist is very very good at doing what they do.
I one hundred percent feel your comment. I left my narc 5 days ago and I didn’t realize until after I left how much he actually damaged me.
hi i know exactly what u are going through i was with a narcissist for almost 4 yrs and it is very hard to leave but i also new i had to
They have a warped sense of self, telling a story where they're either the hero or the victim, but never the problem...
I feel you..
I would love to recommend the channel 'the narcissist guide' he helped me tremendously ♡ look at his playlists
I know what u mean. My advice for you,let them all thinking what they want,you know the truth,focus on yourself and people who are good for your mental health. Block everyone who is not good for you,that's the only one way to set yourself free,and go to specialist who will help u to love yourself again. I wish you the best.
"I don't even like me anymore." Felt that. It's incredible how someone else treating you a particular way can rearrange your own evaluation of yourself and your worth as a person. And crazier still that years later you can still be giving it your all to undo that damage but still often feel worse off than you were before.
😭😭😢😢
Yes, that is so true. Learning to love yourself again is a process. Someone told me that it's necessary to release the blame on yourself dor starters. Maybe that person made you feel stupid because you believed them. That was a game for them, this is your life. Take the control back in your mind and find your inner strength. Hoping for the best with you.
So true. I never understood how damaging narcissists are until I dated one for years. I wish now I had never met him. I understand now why his words could damage me so much, it is what narcissists do. It is a healing process and while he turned me into a shell of who I was before I met him, the Lord is gently healing me.
Yes!! I'm working on liking myself again.
Well said hunnie. Couldn't of described it better myself. Xx
I was in an 8 year relationship with a narcissist and every lyric she sings is so true. I walked away 3 years ago and I struggled with the aftermath of what he turned me into. He made me feel like I was not enough and that I was just an inconvenience. It took me 2 years to love myself again and find who I’m supposed to be. Still working on letting myself trust and love others, but it’s not easy when you let a narcissist destroy you for so long. I thank you for writing this song and being a voice for us who have gone through these situations. And for those who have gone through this, know you are loved and you are enough, always remember that. ❤️
Megan O’nell am sorry for all the difficult terms you have went through all this while.. Relationship with narcissist you will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is good enough. You will give everything and they will take it all and give you less ,and less in return .At the end you will end up depleted emotionally,mentally,physically ,spiritually ,financially ,and then get blamed for it..
I feel every word you said. I’m happy for you because you managed to get out and wish you a smooth healing journey. I am still stuck after 14 years with no end in sight. It’s impossible to really heal while you’re in it but I do my best. I recommend Dr. Ramani and her channel because she has been a lifeline in this field.
@@stevenfoster5291 exactly right. I couldn’t have said it better …
@@ladypeace8912 omg me too! I’ve been dealing with the mental abuse now for 31 years. At times it was physical until I started calling 911. I don’t know why I thought he’d change. I didn’t understand it until I googled narcissist. I kept reading and reading with my eyes popping wide open… “omg this is him”. Until one day it hit me… I stopped giving in to his narcissistic ways. Our marriage got worse because I was no longer his pawn. He knew he wasn’t winning any longer. So what he do…. He would seek others that gave in…. He’s a smooth talker. One time he manipulated the shit out of a judge and played victim… he won! He’s a great salesman who can sell you a pen that no longer has ink. He can make you think it is the only pen left in this world and you needed it. He is basically an adult bully. Who also believes he knows everything. He doesn’t abide by the law because it don’t pertain to him. He has more selfies than anyone I could imagine. Very self righteous. It gets worse and I can go on all night. I praise those of you that ran away from a narcissist. It’s awful to say this, but my own mother told me once…. “If you left he’d still find you. There’s never getting away from him, he’ll still find a way to hurt you.”
25 years I spent with a narcissist. He completely destroyed me and our family. I finally had enough. 16 years later and I still don’t trust a man.
Finally… FINALLY a song about the things so many of us unfortunately deal with in relationships with Narcs. 💕
Finally 🤍
Very Short YT
Do you accept Jesus Christ as lord and saviour
Please Surrender your lives to Jesus Christ
John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believe in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Romans 10:9-10 also says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
and You must Repent To repent, about salvation, is to change your mind from unbelief to belief in Jesus Christ and to flee from sin.
1 John 1:9 (KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Pray that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit.
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Why you in a relationship with a narc lol
@@Timayy I’m am not anymore. I left, but it was after a very painful 5 years. But people who aren’t educated on Narcissism do not know what they are getting themselves into in the beginning and don’t know that Narcs can’t change.
Loving a narcissist for over 10 years and suffering the pain and emotional abuse was torture! 😢 This song is such truth. Thank you for this much needed song.❤
I heard this in car the other day and had to do everything to hide my tears from my kids. Nobody understands the hell you go through living with a narcissist. 11 years of that. This song hit home. Thank you for making this amazing beautiful song
Man oh man, I'm 62 and gave my all n best and left with CPTSD and live a life having very limited contact with others - reclusive! The damage done 2 a person's "self" is enormous, lonely n wary of every good thing
It’s been 6 years…
34 years
@Akurrs talk to a mental health professional. They’ll give you tools and material to help navigate daily life. The most important thing is that you’re looking for information and wanting to change.
I understand. Sadly I do. Hugs my friend.... From one single mom (who left a scary covert narcissistic abusive marriage) to another. You aren't alone.
7 years I dated a narcissist. But, you know what? I'm grateful. He taught me exactly how I shouldn't be treated, and now I'm 6 days away from marrying the most incredible man I've ever met ❤
I am so happy you not only survived, but you loved yourself so much that you allowed a healthy relationship into your life. I am 3 weeks out of a narcissistic relationship and I struggle with believing there are honest, kind, loving people in the world- people with whom I can put my trust in, open my heart to. Your post here brought me to tears because it gives me hope. You have told me not to give up on myself and the universe, for it will bring me kindness and love. Thank you.
That's exactly true for me as well. Three years of narcissistic abuse outside of my family, plus a narcissistic dad who raised one narcissistic son and another son with zero empathy, taught me how relationships SHOULDN'T be.
I met a very sweet guy online who endured narcissistic abuse for around the same time I did.
Both of us are entirely educated on narcissistic abuse, so there were no unnecessary questions like "Why did it happen?" "Why didn't you leave?" We simply swapped stories and talked about how we'd healed and what we'd learned from our experiences.
@donnamariegiglio6964 I don't know what your situation is like now. My reply is very late, but kind people do exist. It actually helped me to see toxic people as a minority. Although I've met a lot of toxic people since my situation, the majority are actually nice people.
I hope you're doing well
You give me hope.Thank you so much😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Been waiting for a song like this for over 20 years. I suffer from Complex PTSD from childhood trauma followed by a 14 year marriage to a severe narcissist. I found the courage to leave when my daughter was 4. This year she turns 18...he's made my life a living hell for 27 years but she makes it all worth it. Thank you for writing this song and sharing. ❤
I'm right there with you, and I lost everything.... Everything to him.
Good on you for taking your daughter away from the toxic situation 👏 your story gave me goosebumps, I have been there, have CPTSD too and every relationship I've been in, from my father to every single person. Insightful lyrics and a beautiful voice, thank you 💜💔💜
@SummerGirl I'm sorry and I feel you too. We're better than that ✨️
Going through the same now I wish I will have the courage to do what you did😭
My ex won't stay out of my life, he seriously was dangerous to my health
This is EXACTLY what I'm going through!! Please make more songs like this. I need reality songs not sappy love songs. We need a female voice for what so many of us are going through
You'll get through it. U will soon get tired an say enough is enough..❤❤ just pray for strength as well beautiful
😅 yeah women can be narcissist too.... 😁
Agreed ma'am. 😢
Same here it’s a horrible citation to be in
I’m listening to this one after Dax song narssist it’s way better than this one in my opinion but it’s bc his style of music is more my type but his is about female narssist
I'm 59 years old and remarried after my husband passed. That loss has been tough enough on its own. I remarried to a man who makes me feel like I'm going crazy then makes mr feel guilty for feeling that way. When he's called out, he resorts to being the victim. If all else fails the gifts start coming in, never "I love you", or "I'm sorry". I feel like I've lost it, and can't find even a shadow of the person i was. Thank you, for letting me see that I'm not the only one, and maybe I'm not the crazy one.
Belive me lady....you are not the crazy. You are amazing and strong to survived all. God bless you
RUN!
Yes …. Get OUT …. Find Yourself … Live, Love & Laugh @ YOURSELF 💝 Gift Yourself LIFE Darlin 🙌🏼
You're not crazy. Never let that settle in you. It's not you I promise. You gotta run. You're precious
To live with a Narcissistic person, you literally have to accept their delusions. My ❤️ goes out to you. No wrong in leaving dysfunctional every time it’s necessary! Sadly, they seem to be everywhere these days! Hold on to Truth, don’t buy the lies, your Not Crazy, only being driven there…. Life with a Narcissistic personality is Crazy Making, been there, don’t that.
Thank you for this powerful message this song has! I am 58 and can say finally I love myself! Years decades of abuse put me going down the rabbit hole! Drugs , alcohol, cutting, self harm where how I dealt with everything! Unfortunately I destroyed every relationship I ever had! Finally after my late husband passed away I put myself into therapy! Oh I been before but it was for everyone else! This time it was for me! And I am feeling a peace I never felt before! I can say in the mirror I love me!💕
I had never heard of Narcissistic Abuse until after I left my ex a couple months ago and once I started doing some research on it I was completely shocked to find that I have been living it for the last two years - They have a name for that! This song hits so hard, and this is a subject that needs to be talked about so much more in our society. Abuse is not always physical. Thank you for sharing 💕
Very Short YT
Do you accept Jesus Christ as lord and saviour
Please Surrender your lives to Jesus Christ
John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believe in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Romans 10:9-10 also says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
and You must Repent To repent, about salvation, is to change your mind from unbelief to belief in Jesus Christ and to flee from sin.
1 John 1:9 (KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Pray that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit.
I will not reply so I will not see it.
For more, copy and paste Christ Commission Fellowship and Mass Deliverance John Eckhardt..m.m
Everything you just mentioned is what I just learned after 10 years of ongoing physical emotional and high intentions of physical ways how he damaged me on narcissistic ways I never knew. I’m damaged and wish I knew what I know now.
same. I never had a name for it. Once I named it, I couldn't unsee it.
YES ! I didn’t know what a Narcissistic abuse was until after I left my sons after after 2 years. This song hits home. It definitely described everything he’s said to me. I never knew abuse wasn’t only physical until afterwards.
Going through exactly the same thing. Can't believe I spent two precious years of my life thinking that this person could change and maybe things will get better with time. It NEVER does with a narcissist! Glad to have educated myself on narcissistic abuse and started my healing journey. I trust God will get me through this 😢🙏
“I don’t even like me anymore.” Felt that deep! exact words I’m feeling and what I’m going through!! 😢
I hope you find peace and the happiness you deserve ❤
I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a narcissist. He cut me off like I was nothing to him. It was so real for me and it’s hard to believe it was never real for him after all this time. I cried myself to sleep every night wondering why I wasn’t enough, but I understand now. You will never be enough for a narcissistic person. You truly never know the pain of being in an abusive relationship until you’re in one yourself, and I pray for everyone else who has been through it ❤️
Same here….acted like we met on Tinder a week ago. No emotion, from one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met. Still makes no sense to me.
And some of us can never forget
I was in the same situation as you. It was so hard when it ended but I learned I'm better off without him..
Very Short YT
Do you accept Jesus Christ as lord and saviour
Please Surrender your lives to Jesus Christ
John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believe in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Romans 10:9-10 also says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
and You must Repent To repent, about salvation, is to change your mind from unbelief to belief in Jesus Christ and to flee from sin.
1 John 1:9 (KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Pray that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit.
I will not reply so I will not see it.
For more, copy and paste Christ Commission Fellowship and Mass Deliverance John Eckhardt..m.m.m.m
In my situation I am 26yrs old and we have been together 10yrs with a 1yr old and 4yr old. Im ready to leave and I want out. I sleep on my couch until he cant get enough money to move out. He doesnt like it too much so i get screamed at every morning when he wakes up and realizes i didnt come to bed. Ive told him over and over again i cant take it anymore because he is emotionially draining. He swears if i would just do what he says then he wouldnt be the way he is. We all know, thats a lie. It took me so long to realize he wont ever change but now is better then never. Im ready to feel that peace and freedom. Im ready to become happy again like I once was. I will be happy again.
I got discarded with no empathy by a narcissist. It hurts so much. Thank you for this song.
Consider that a blessing
@@amwil4980 Amen to that!
Me too girl! Together 13 years, married for 9. He cheated with our mutual friend and I was thrown away like yesterday’s trash. It’s been four years and he still treats me like garbage and she is on his pedestal, just wish I didn’t have to co-parent our 10 year old and witness their happiness or deal with her arrogance, they are both Narcissistic.
@@Mrsjshorter21 I am so sorry. This break up happened a few months ago and I still feel so broken... My pain is actually physical pain... This trauma bond is intense...
Sometimes rejection is God's protection. Sending love and strength.
Wow, I could say so much about this song...but Im speechless...Thank you for singing this song!!! Bless you and all that have and still do, deal with a narcissist in their lives
It's not just partners this song touches me and when I listen I remember boundaries and why I stay away from anyone who makes me feel " less than" or is abusive over and over again...
Break the cycle!
Thankyou
13 years too long and the healing process has had its up and downs but I am stronger! Thank you for creating a song that speaks the truth!
How do you heal....??? Just left a 29yr relationship.
@@tinaparkinson8833 You just need to give yourself time. Start doing things for yourself and to make sure you give yourself all the necessary attention to your mental health. Just because one relationship wasn’t great doesn’t mean the next won’t. Trust and know that all things will come together and give you clarity. Know your worth and don’t settle for less than what you deserve.
This song hits my soul right now. It literally is exactly what I'm going thru right now. Loving a narcissist is the hardest.
I feel stuck. This song hit home.
Me too honey. You are strong and beautiful. Don’t give in and go back. I’m trying my best not to go back either
I absolutely agree 💯..
At some point you have to ask yourself are they really loving me? Thr truth hurts, but dragging yourself along in a relationship with a narcissist will really hurt more. Hoping for the best for you.
Dealing with this is my life after 9 years!. Hurts so bad😥
This song describes my situation a couple of months ago. Constant gaslighting, the cheating, building me up just to bring me down.
Beautiful song, to everyone struggling in a relationship like this, please just know, it's not worth it. At all, you are more than what the make you feel and it's not worth your tears and time, you might not see it now, but you will. Sending lots of love to everyone!
I don't even know what building up feels like ..He doesn't even tell me I'm beautiful
@@vanessapersent2307 leave you deserve real love
@@lunamaya2267 thanks dear trying to
You are not crazy. You got this.
You will feel free. You are not the problem ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This song hits every aspect of my life. In a relationship with a narcissist. Everything is about them, it's sad how they drain all you self worth and the reason to live. Then once there's nothing left of you, they leave and replace you for someone else. Problem is, they make you believe that you the problem. Beautiful song, just wish it wasn't true. Wish people were good
Insanity
Wow
If ur in a relationship with one leave. They don’t love you. They love the attention you give. They crave validation. They will never change for you it’s unfortunate but it’s true. 4 years of being with someone and I finally realize he was the biggest narcissist I ever met and I had no idea. Do not wait until they leave you for another supply. LEAVE
I managed to get out of that relationship. It went from bad to worse. However im so thankful im 1 hours out of that. Thank God ❤
They also tell ppl ur the problem
After a two year relationship with a narcissist, 3 years of healing and ptsd, this hits deep 💔
& here I thought there was NO beauty associated with narcissism.
Wow soul sista!
You summed up the bottomless pit of pain & regret leftover from falling head over heels for the demons identifying as humans afflicted with narcissism beautifully.
Outstanding!
Got yourself a new fan lyrical genius!
I wish I could give it a hundred billion likes.
Besides these, I have no words.
Only silence, that's all I have got left with me.
Thank you so much for this song.
the nature of narcissistic abuse is such that you can't believe it unless you've been through it and then you still can't believe it.
before i knew about narc, my mind occupied with WHY's.
there is part of me tells that i should understand him and let it go and move on. and the other one feels pity for him, for what he's been through because of the up bringing (family).
I'm currently on my journey of healing now. 🙏🌻
I used the pity for his upbringing to excuse his behavior. For years I blamed myself for his behavior because I inadvertently turned to opiate painkillers following a broken leg injury to numb a much deeper pain that I guess I didn't even realize was hurting me so badly until I realized how well pain killers had been dulling the ache and enabling me to live this way. I'm 4 years opiate free but still haven't figured out total sobriety or how to get out of this marriage with any dignity, though there is no dignity in staying in it, either. And the fear of failing at life without him is my greatest fear. I knowingly step into a crippling trap every single day of my life.
I wish you all the best and the love and happiness you deserve ❤️ I am still in the midst of a 15 yr battle with myself whether to stay or go, I know what the logical, safe choice is but I keep hoping and praying that things will go back to the way they were in the beginning 😕 I know that he will not change and I know that I am not ready to leave... Yet... To all the brave, loving, beautiful women, we know we aren't what they say we are, but it's so hard to keep telling yourself that when you hear differently over and over 😢 sending love and strength and, best of all... Hugs 🤗
I forgot to mention that I cannot wait to stop apologizing for every little thing that irritates him, I find myself on eggshells and I have done nothing wrong, but I say "I'm sorry" everyday multiple times 😕
I forgot to mention that I cannot wait to stop apologizing for every little thing that irritates him, I find myself on eggshells and I have done nothing wrong, but I say "I'm sorry" everyday multiple times 😕
@@katherinesprague4010 that feeling like you're walking on an eggshells is the sign that you need to go out from that situation. esp. when he's given you a lot reason to feel sorry for yourself. it is not out faults. why we need to take the accountability of their wrong doings? i know and i can see it that you are strong...being aware and knows about what a narcissist is a blessing. all you have to do now is to break the pattern, the cycle. you can do it. its really worth it after you disconnected from them. i assure you that. and for now take alteast one step away from them. 😊🙏💪🏻🤙
I cried when I listened to this. I am married to a Narcissist that gas lights me all the time. I am so broken down and insecure. I have thought I was crazy for so long, thinking that I was incapable of being enough. The damage that people like this do is undescribable. Thank you for this beautiful song.
Just know that you deserve better you deserve to be treated like a queen and just know that you ARE enough!! 😌 💋❤️
@@alizasawyer2900 thank you. ❤️
Please hang in there........🙏❤️
#metoo...it just hurts, alot...
I definitely understand and empathize with you.... experienced it as well. Just a little different since it was my dad. Can't tell you how much I hope you hang in there and know that you are not alone. Please take the time to care for yourself...seek counseling, take yourself out for coffee and write down how you feel, find a support group...and Ill be praying for you. God be with you!🙏🤗🥲
Thank you for this beautiful and healing song. I married a man exactly like my mother because I thought love was lonely, humiliating, and filled with abuse. They only loved themselves and the pain they inflicted. Now I am free and the scars are fading. Still working on loving myself, but I have found a man who waited many years in the shadows to offer me unconditional love and acceptance. Have the
courage to walk away, life is waiting to embrace you.
My whole life I have been involved with narcissist after narcissist (and would have loved to hear this song then!). After six years of therapy, I can finally spot the red flags and I also have made significant progress on fixing the problems in me that inexorably drew me to such women. The mantra that very probably saved my life: "The only way to win with a narcissist is to refuse to play."
Thank you, Avery Anna, for such a personal and powerful and evocative song. For every comment here, I am certain you have touched many other people who did not comment, in a way that literally saves lives and increases happiness. May you experience even a small portion of the peace and relief you have brought to all of us.
I cry every time I listen to this! I'm soooo thankful you wrote exactly what I was feeling!! To lose all 4 of my children to my abuser has been like living in hell. I am extremely sad every single day without my children. It's been years since I've seen some of them. Narcissistic abuse ruins children and lives of entire families. If my oldest daughter ever sees this, I am thinking of you today, on your birthday. I miss you tons! Thank you, Avery, for this song!! It will mean a lot to victims of Narcissistic abuse and family court fraud!
All I can say right now is: same.
Same here. I have suffered parental estrangement from my daughter by her father. I have three wonderful daughters....but still missing my bonus baby. I flip flop between cutting her off and leaving nothing to her. (I have terminal cancer)
And stomping my feet in frustration.
I have waited patiently.7years now
Time is running out.....
And I worry about her. She has no relationship with her sisters.
They think she is spoiled by her Dad.
They didn't have a Dad....he died in a car wreak. So I remarried 10 years later....and he took her from me while I was in a Coma. Unbelievable.
We(her dad) and I have never spoken again.
I was living in an emotional narcissistic physical abuser for over 15 years 😢 what it does to you is horrible and devastating. The worst part is when the narcissist wins it all, while the child is the one really hurting, confused, and on pain , but mine can't talk . Non verbal autism rainbow miracle! 🌈 how does the system fail them!
My first love was a text book narcissist. That was 20 years ago. I’ve been let go and moved on years ago… this song is spot on to all the darkest I lived back then. The hardest part is letting go and I pray for all that feel stuck..most know they should let go but words can’t describe the weight of those chains when dealing with a narcissist. They mentally break you. Hope people learn to let go and Trust God and begin to heal ❤️
Abuse comes in many forms. One of the ugliest emotions one can feel is being accused of being crazy and at the end to show proof to your sanity. By then , you have absorbed all kinds of words and questioned your self worth. Some people break you without even thinking about it. How can people do such things knowing they are wrong? All those young people who feel alone and then eventually sad things happen. Even the law wont listen at times , until its too late. A person who fights back to your unjustified wrongs is NOT crazy. Like Gabby Petito who was upset and she was viewed wrong. Now she's gone.....Many, many still out there.😔
I believe this is my husband and some days it's scary as hell. I try staying strong but he has taken away my sunshine and made a dark whole made me empty. Don't know what to do where to go. Thank you for this song there's so many who go through things that people don't know or understand and even some that lose there lives becuz of people like this.
Same situation I feel helpless
😢
I left, never looked back. ❤
It's called covert narcissist. Get out. Power and control, they are unable to love anyone but themselves. I just got fee after 14 years. They keep you depressed on purpose so you will not become strong enough to figure them out.
I felt that so deeply! Some days I don't even feel like a person anymore, I feel so helpless and hopeless it scares me. May you find strength, healing and the love that you deserve,
I'm obsessed with this song!!!
I am almost 60 yo and am surprised how many people are Narcissists.
So many friends & me have these people in their lives. I forward this song to someone often and bring it up. It is fitting in so many type of relationships. Childhood BFFs, roommates, BF/GF, husband/wife, coworkers. You get it.
Thank you for writing & singing this song. I love it❤️
"cause I don't even like me anymore" I always said to him "it's like you blew out my flame and you don't even notice" glad I'm out of that situation. Girl, whoever and where ever you are, you can get out. It may seem impossible, but you got this and I'm so proud of you ❤️
That trapped feeling ... the desperation feelings ... no matter the lies ...
just do it .... don't look back...
I lost $200,000 to that x boi friend and my house ( which was paid from when my husband was alive) ... and have been living in my car for three and a half years. I am widowed and I have no family in the entire State of Florida where I live ... but I am grateful that I made it out alive ... I've known others that did not make it, they lost their lives to a narcissist . I'm 60 years old a lot of health problems, but I will live in my car the rest of my life if that's the way it has to be. I would never go back to that narcissists (although a two-time millionaire) or any other narcissist for that matter. Please save yourself.
@@sheilacooley5783 Viel Glück 💫💥💚
There’s another song that talks about getting your smile back, I forget who sings it, but it’s also a good one. We tend to lose so much of ourselves like damn even our smiles. Like not even being happy anymore about anything.
@@GURLnGUCCIsunglasses Thank you I will try to find the song on UA-cam. Have a good day.
❤️
OMYGOSH!!!!! I SO NEEDED THIS SONG THERAPY! Anyone who's ever encountered a narcissist, I commend you for your survival skills & your obvious will to live! Because that shit is debilitating to say in the least! Congrats to the ones who made it through! ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE AMAZING, VALUABLE & LOVED, DESPITE HOW THE NARCISSIST DEGRADED YOU OR MADE YOU FEEL & ULTIMATELY BELIEVE THE WORDS THAT CAME OUT THEIR MOUTH! THEY ARE ALL PATHOLOGICAL LIARS & ARE INSENSITIVE, SPINELESS, COWARDS! I WISH I COULD BE THERE WHEN THEY ALL CATCH THAT KARMA TRAIN!
Great song by the way!
Not to mention, most narcissist are insecure themselves. So they have to put that insecurity onto someone else so they can feel better about themselves.
Never thought I’d be able to relate to this song … Recently had an epiphany that I suffered abuse from a friend that I thought was going to be there for a lifetime. Overlooked all of the signs of narcissism, even though deep down I knew for some time. I fought as hard as I could for the friendship to last but the effort simply wasn’t reciprocated. It hurts but I know the Lord will get me through this immense pain and confusion 💛
❤
This song changed my life, and it’s about to change yours… thank you for validating my emotions.
the way this song literally explains the toxic relationship i am in right now, i know that i should leave but it’s so much easier said than done, he literally calls my psycho and dramatic because i know a lot of things he doesn’t know that i know !! i needed this song so bad
same 😂😂😂😂 it’ll all come out tho they just gotta wait and see lol ima be chilling tho so we good 😭😂
Ahaaaa....i hope you are out of that toxic thing....I wish you luck and much love...❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Its hard because when you are in a relationship with a narcissist you have a strong trauma bond, a form of Stockholm's syndrome. Research these two things on you tube. There is a lot of help available for victims and survivors. Breaking free and recovery take time. Be good to yourself and have self compassion. You are worth it and you can do it. God bless you beautiful soul.🌹
I’m right there with you ❤️ it’s hard to leave.
Literally me but in a marriage.
I have been out of relationship/marriage for a yr now from a narcissist and it was one of the scariest things to do but I'm free and my boys are happier. Thank you for writing a song for us DV survivors ❤️❤️
This is the first time I’ve heard this song & boy did it hit me! I was gaslit, stonewalled and made feel less than. Finally found the strength to leave
I've been with one for 40 years that was the smartest thing you could ever do for yourself!
I finally fell out of LOVE with him it feels so freeing
Thank you for putting the song out. I can relate so much to this. I was with a narcissist for over 5 years when I was 18 I got with him. Finally broke free of him last July.. he cheated on me. Although this made me sick and lose myself but I’m glad it happened I would have never left him. He made me feel worthless, walking on egg shells all the time. I had to constantly lie to everyone about him. He would make me cry all the time, all night and day. He criticized the way I dressed, called me names and made me feel so low. I was constantly scared to go anywhere because I know he would call me and I would have to go to my car or something to say I was home. The verbal abuse and controlling acts was exhausting. Then the physical acts got worse and I’m so happy this song is out. Thank you 💋 your voice is also so beautiful!!!
To add to all the other comments on here...yes this song hit home for me too. I was in a 4 year relationship with a narc. Let me give a piece of advice to anyone reading this: you can't fix him/her. No matter who they are. The damage done to them is irreparable. The only thing you CAN do: RUN. Run as hard and as fast as you can in the OPPOSITE direction. And NEVER EVER look back. Because as soon as you do he/she will ensnare you again. And then they know they've got you. So listen to your gut. Watch for the red flags. Trust your instincts. And RUN.
I moved out of state for 3 yrs, then returned. Best thing i did for myself. I ran, and ran and ran 1200 miles.
Anyone who identifies with this song, RUN don't walk out of the relationship you're in period. don't waste 20 something years of your life like I did.
You won't fix them, your love won't be enough... not because you're not enough, not because you don't deserve it, because they are incapable of incapable of real love and will never give you what you deserve.
Right
@@gregorylowthorp4184 Indeed.
💯facts!!!LOVE YOURSELVES AND GET OUT!!!!
I left my abuser over 3 years ago and still love him. He's my son's father. This song just gave me chills. Thanks for sharing your experience.
I have never felt this close to a song. Thank you, simply just thank you for making such a relatable Song. I literally need this song to remind everyday to not give in and go back... Thank you!
The 44 people who disliked this song have never been in love with a narcissist because this song exactly describes how it goes.
Exactly!
That and then some
Probably narcissistic trolls.
Lacky you....I never know someone exist like that and call them narcissist .
Yeah it does ! Wow
Wow I was married for 22 years to one of these, I had to record conversations and fights to play for counselors and doctors cause I seriously thought I was nuts because he had me believing all his words and my adult children listened to him, so did my parents as they are like him as well. I’ve since divorced and remarried to my true love whom shows me pure love. Wonderful song
You are not alone ❤️
@Micky M yes it truly does exist.
24 years and I left today. It's too late though. He already took everything. I'm penniless and scared.
@@hudsonlewis7217 be strong you have this. Me and my 2 daughters were left at my mothers home with very little (pretty much nothing). It’s only to late if you never left and you did so congratulations on your new life! Celebrate your new found freedom.
I realized to after 16 years with a narc I was raised by them. I was groomed to take their abuse because I didn't know it was abuse.
Every song she comes out with, feels like she is writing a song about my life and what I have went through.
I'm a man and I have to say this hits home. Men can be abused too.
Amen. Currently going through narcissistic abuse.
Yes, they can 😢
I'm sorry 😢
Yes ❤
Yes they can. Sorry you are going through that.
Omg! I totally relate to this. I was called crazy, mentally unstable, etc. I only realized how much gaslighting was going on after I was out of the relationship. Thank you for this song and hugs to all out there who are healing from this type of abuse.
This is the perfect song for me at this moment. Trying to get over a narcissist and it’s difficult, but always believe in yourself and love yourself first!! ❤️❤️❤️
15 years with an abusive narcissistic person, left the relationship 5+ years ago.. when their is a child/children involved.. it can be very difficult and hard. The abuse has actually gotten worse since I’ve left. My daughter is in the middle, I have become a prisoner in my own life. Thank you for this beautiful song. Sending love to all, healing ❤️🩹 and strength. ✨💖🙏🏻💖✨
I know exactly what u mean. They use their own children to continue the abuse on the person that left the abuse and it's so scary to see the kids behave the same way as the narcissist, they only imitate the behavior they have been shown. But stay strong and continue on.
HELP!!!!
I'm scared he's going to find the read this and then they'll lock me
Just sad
@@ebonylo. yes it is very sad, not an easy way to “live”…
This song just...... I can't hear it without tears, but I love it. Thank you for this moving song.
I swear I know I haven't been alive 100 years but things seem to get worse with social media as time goes on. They never want to own up to their mistakes. They put you down everytime you do call them out and it eats you inside. Keep standing up for yourself and never settle for bullshit. Thank you for such an amazing song!
They act like angels in e eyes of e public and unfortunately e world seems to see em like gud pipo and u r e 1 whose z always to blame.......i thot i was being ungrateful bt looks like thy r alot of pipo who ve travelled this road bfre me.....used to blame myself fr things i ddnt do....
Wow… 😔
All true… all true 😔😔😔😔
Wow it’s amazing how there is a whole community of people traumatized by narcissistic relationships and we all just come and cry together and support each other. I wish there was a support group we can get together and talk about stuff that happened and support each other so we dont go back to them 😞
I wish there was a support group for helping those who are stuck and insecure about leaving to find the resources and the courage to get out and never look back.
This song is so beautiful and so needed right now!! It’s incredible how many ppl are suffering from these narcissists on the planet! But it’s coming into the light of day and there is so much more awareness and support, now more than ever.
Chump lady is a very active site for daily support with a wonderful community( her book “ Leave a cheater, gain a life” is brilliant) She is funny and wise, highly recom the site!! I also love Dr. Ramani’s UA-cam videos, so spot on accurate and helpful, she’s so comforting to listen to.
Dr Les Carter also does a great job helping you to get free and deal with these narcissists in your life.
You are not alone and it is real!
I was 38 years with one, recently divorced, still healing, prob will always be healing. Songs like Avery’s give such hope to the sufferers, what an amazing voice tackling a most painful subject, so moving, so validating and so important! God bless! 🙏🌷💜
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart and soul, for this song. For the first time in 6 years, I don’t feel alone. He called me crazy soooo many times, I started to believe him. He treated me like garbage for so long, I started to believe that’s what I was and I started treating MYSELF like I’m garbage. I’ve been trying to break up with him for over a YEAR now, and he just won’t let me leave! I told him I’m not happy, I told him I’m sick of him abusing me, but he always knows just what to say to pull my heart strings and manipulate me in order to keep me around. I can relate to every single word of this song, and I finally don’t feel alone. THANK YOU
I hope you were able to leave…❤️
Avery Anna is one of the best singers ever.
Made me cry. After 4 years of dealing with my now ex. I now know....this is him, how he made me feel, always walking on egg shells when I was with him, when I talk to him, when I text him, when I went somewhere before his approval. Literally, listening to this, my heart dropped to my stomach and made me feel sick all over again, I got scared but at the same time I now know what and who he is. Idk if I make sense but I'm just happy I left.
Congrats. I'm happy you got out of that unfortunate situation. Not many people get so lucky to get out of a situation like that or they don't have the courage to leave something like that
My mother is a malignant narcissist. Im so glad I didn't marry a man ANYTHING like her. I can't believe a mother would destroy her own daughter to protect her secrets and trying to hide. The circumstances are different but the feelings and words are a lot the same. A lot of people want to love and be loved truly without alternative motives. If you're hurt by a narcissist, it is hell, but there is help, understanding and love givers out there and you can heal. Not necessarily in that order. Peace to everyone!
I understand every word of this so glad to be out and survived 6 yrs🙏🦋
You are incredible! Im so glad for you too. Stay strong and keep the narcissist radar on! It means a lot there are people out there who care. And I certainly do.
There is a book Stop Walking on Eggshells that is amazing. You'll probably think you wrote it. I did. It was as if someone had been watching my relationship & taking notes.
I can't stop playing this on repeat. Crying because it hits different after you love a narcissist. Giving all to them and getting scraps of "love" in return. I'm so sad/mad for betraying myself for someone who can't love me in return
Had me in tears as well. Same reason, allowing him to do it to me. Never again!
We don't know until we meet one, that such vampires exist.
Exactly.
The amount of truth in this song flows so well ❤️
This song literally made me cry because my bd is a narcissist who makes me feel exactly like this and sometimes I just can't find the words to explain how he makes me feel and what I go through with him...thank you for this song because it's perfect for us who have been or still are in love with a narcissist
"But can you get over yourself.. ..." The blaming, yelling, never saying sorry ..... I'm always in the wrong. It's hard and somehow this song is a relief... Like hearing it, makes me feel like I'm heard.
Having been called a narcissist by my child's mother, this song puts it out there like wtf was I thinking. My daughter is 4 now and I feel horrible for what I put her mother through. This is real life and it happens on a daily. I'm doing my best to make things right but it will never be enough to fix what I put her through during her pregnancy. I'm in the middle of fixing myself. There is hope for us, but deep inside it's our own demons we are dealing with and unfortunately blame it on others. Whatever it is going on there is hope. One step at a time
Thank you for your honesty and being willing to look inward. There's definitely hope for anyone who is capable of introspection. Most narcissist aren't capable of it so I suspect that you are just a product of your environment and what men are taught about women. Women are seen as overly emotional and less than in our society.
Victor you are a very strong person to have written that. Best part of it is that you have acknowledged and are aware of the issues that hurt your relationship. That’s a great step in fixing yourself. Most narcissist will always say “That’s not me!” My prayers to your daughter that there is hope that mommy and daddy can fix things.
You’re a hell of a good guy to realize the harm you’ve done. You are going to be okay!
The fact that you are owning up to your mistakes is beautiful. Being on the other side of things, I can say that narcissistic behavior is sooo very damaging. Hopefully as you heal yourself, you can heal the relationship with her.
Kudos to you!!
“I don’t even like me anymore” it’s amazing when we think we’re the problem. How we change and become miserable because the person we love is miserable. You lose yourself and think you’re the crazy one. I can sadly relate. I think we’ve all loved a narcissist in our lifetime.
This is spot on!!!!!!
currently dealing with one n i just dnt understand how they can make us feel the way they do.. After all the love n effort ive put into it istill feel as if im what she says i am .
Been over 3 years since removing myself from a similar situation....to this day I have a hard time allowing myself to be happy, let alone allow myself to be....myself.
I can relate to this
Me too
I wanna thank that SOB that made you produce all of those gems, Avery.
I'm going through this heartache right now.. the hardest part about this kind of abuse is that it felt like the realest deepest love & bond I ever felt. I would of given my life for this love.. I thought he would too. Now.. our marriage over and not even a friendship can come out of this. The hardest for me to take is that after giving 8 years of every ounce of me & literally keeping this man alive, I don't mean enough to him to even care about my life.. him treating me like he doesn't care if I even live is the hardest deepest pain I've ever felt. I feel totally fucking insane when I think of the years invested & the love I did everything for to get to the end and none of its real blows my fucking mind & my heart to pieces. At 40 I don't know if I'll ever truly get over this fucking shot in the heart. This one's gonna last-
I could've written this myself! I'm 48 (so is he) and we've been together for almost 6 years. In 2019 I caught him messaging/flirting with another woman. Trying to get her to "go out for coffee or something". But before that happened she found out about me, messaged me apologizing up and down and said that he told her we broke up. She ended up telling him to fuck off.
I should've left then but, I forgave him and stayed. Big mistake!
Last February while I was driving my mother to Florida (I drive her down and bring her back every winter), he somehow ended up talking to some girl he's known all his life, invited her over to OUR house and had sex with her. I knew something was off when I got home so I went through his phone and found out everything! They had already made plans to get together again when I went back to Florida. But they were both saying they couldn't wait that long and the worst part of it all, they were saying "I love you" back and forth. When I busted him on that one, he started crying and begging me to stay, that he made a huge mistake and would never speak to her again, that he'd do anything to keep me. So, stupid me forgave him again and again it was a huge mistake!
We broke up at the beginning of this past October, completely out of the blue. He sent me the same message every day before he walked into work, "I love you beautiful, have a good day/night (depending on what shift he was working). The day we broke up, he sent me that exact text. Three hours later I said something about us spending the upcoming weekend together and his response was "idk maybe". So I told him that didn't sound like an answer you'd give to your girlfriend and asked what was going on. An hour later he called to tell me he didn't know what he wanted and that he wasn't happy. I asked if there was someone else and he said no. BIG FAT LIE!! He had been flirting heavily with someone at one of our friend's houses (she's a cousin of one of his friends' wives whose house we always went to). I had stopped going over because my anxiety had hit an all time high and I needed a break. This bitch knew he was with me but 2 or 3 weeks after I stopped going, she initiated the flirting and of course he loved the attention. The flirting got heavier and heavier to the point that some friends stopped going over there because they didn't want to get caught in the middle. Well the flirting turned into them sneaking outside to make out. I got into his phone again and read all their texts, I was physically sick! He had been sneaking around with her for months but didn't say anything until I pushed about spending time together. If I hadn't done that, that could still be going on.
I flipped out on her, told her that he was a compulsive liar, that he has cheated on every woman he's ever been with (2 wives and 1 fiance but, I didn't know any of this until recently), didn't have his license and has lost it indefinitely, that he's been driving MY Land Rover with zero permission, was behind on his bills and rent because I stopped helping him pay for anything after he said we were done, that I paid a a big chunk of the rent and that he couldn't afford to live there on his own. But if she wanted a man child to take care of along with her 10 year old and 16 year old that he was all hers.
She backed off for a little while but it didn't last. I asked him the other day if they were dating now. He of course said no, that they were just hanging out when they could. I asked if he kissed her when they went to go their separate ways after "hanging out" and he said yes but he wouldn't call it dating. I told him I didn't make out with anyone I hung out with, including my male friends. So yes, they were dating, wtf else would you call that?
I literally gave her so many reasons to not want to be with him, even told her I had proof.
So now I'm just waiting for it to blow up in both their faces. I warned her and her cousin (the one married to his friend) that within 6 months he'll get bored and start looking for attention with anyone he can get it from.
Not to mention he isn't going to have a car or a pot piss in pretty soon.
But the worst part of all of this is after everything he's done to do me and the countless times he's hurt me.... I still love him and I hate myself for it!
@@kristenlaine8435 girl. I felt this. It absolutely sucks loving a narcissist. The trauma bond is very real and it’s so hard to heal from it. I was with a narc for 8 years on and off. He constantly cheated on me and I was stupid and forgave him over and over again thinking things would be different but of course they weren’t. I still love him. We have a child together so that makes it so much harder, because I know when I see him, I’ll fall all over again. I keep my distance, because I know he’ll say all the right things and as much as it sucks I know I would fall for it again. 🥴 ugh!
It will take time the healing process is difficult and will still always have an effect on u and ppl close to u but remember u r strong and u can get through it I was with mine almost 10yrs and been divorced officially 1yr and separated 1yr and 6months I've had treatment for my mental health after how he fucked me up so badly but I'm doing much healthier mentally now and so I know if I was able to heal I know you can too prayers u got this
I felt every word of this…I had no idea I was dealing a narcissist the whole time until it ended….now thinking back on everything, there were signs but I couldn’t see them….she turned into someone I don’t even know then gets some fucking weird ass daddy shrine tattoo on her arm (he’s still alive) they are entirely too close and it’s fucking creepy
I'm in the same exact boat. If u ever want to talk message me on Facebook or here.
This song is absolutely heartbreaking and gorgeous all at the same time!! It also hits home for so many folks! Great job on this song!
I feel this to my core! My sibling has this and it's really difficult to have an easy relationship. She doesn't even know she has it and you can't tell her because she will ruin the relationship over it. You can't help someone that doesn't want to change. You just have to be quiet and say nothing and be careful not to tip her over the edge. The biggest trigger for the narc rage is calling her out on something morally wrong.
Its definitely constantly walking on eggshells around them. They will also keep tabs on EVERYTHING you do or say BUT dont try to do the same to them.. they will go haywire!! Accountability is not in their vocabulary.
I used to call them out anyways. Even though it started fights and arguments. I couldn't let them think it was okay to do that and behave in such a way.
@@marylu2216 yes that's true...it's evil
@@elderxemo92 that's brave right there
This song made me realise I got out of a bad toxic violent relationship and helped me so much thank you and what a beautiful song you have helped so many people with it such a good song writer xx
This is my life now. I’m so overwhelmed, broken and lost feeling. I will never understand how someone can destroy someone into pieces. Pure trash. No remorse. No respect for anyone. This is a great song.
Me too 🥺
I’ve been there before and never been able to heal
You have to leave. They will never change. I left 2 months ago. I wrote a three page paper listing all the horrible things he did and said to me. They have no empathy and use you for getting the narcissistic supply, which is belittling, devaluing, a degrading you. Then the discard. It helped me greatly to listen to Dr. Ramani on UA-cam. I still listen and watch her several times over. God bless you honey. You deserve better than that.
My Narcissistic boyfriend of 10 years threw me out with nowhere to go all because I challenged him 1 too many times... he couldn't handle me questioning him about a woman he's been talking to behind my back... and blamed it on me not giving him enough attention. I had to move 1500 miles away to stay with a family member. He called me 2 weeks ago telling me he loved me ... then I missed one of his calls last week and now he all of a sudden doesn't want me back and is ghosting me. He has broken my soul. I hate that I still love him and cry over this. I have 2 daughters & I hate them seeing this. It's no way to live. Narcissists are selfish toxic users. But none will admit problems so never get help. It's sad & scary.
Good luck to you sweetheart. Just know you're not alone.
💐 ..great song! Narcissists do need help indeed ..otherwise they will never be able to love someone else .. ❤ your voice! 👌
Narcissists don’t go to therapy; they don’t seek to get better. If anything, they get therapy to get better at hiding the abuse and neglect. Codependents date narcissists and they are both neglected or abused children.
So relatable. Thank you for this masterpiece. It’s sad that so many of us of all different ages and backgrounds are going through or know someone who is. Sending love and light to all of you trying to heal from a narcissist. Remember it really is them not you.
My sister has been in a relationship with a narcissist for more than 9 years.
I've watched her wittle away into a shell of what she used to be. I feel like I've lost her. I've tried so so hard to help her see the toxicity of her situation, but now I'm so exhausted and just...completely helpless.
I wish she could talk to me
It took me 20 years
Please, understood she can’t see it when she’s in it
I am a narrsistic abuse survivor of 16yrs. Is almost impossible to let go after so many yrs. To my narrsistic abuse survivors stay strong 💪
I just myself got out of a narcissistic abuse relationship. It took me three years to realize what he was doing, I thought it was normal because that's how my dad always treated us. I promise you when your in that relationship, you will not see it
@@claireprettysea8591 yes
Just stay on her side. Not forcing her to anything. She will need you one day.
As the saying goes, the devil couldn’t walk around on earth holding a pitchfork so he sent narcissists instead, I’d say it’s a pretty spot on comparison if i do say so myself, I’ve been married to one for 17 years and it definitely has NOT been easy, love the song, I saw the title and had to listen, I absolutely love it, thank you.
I just listened to this song and I just sat there saying to myself. This song sounds like it's about me. Because I go through the exact same thing that she is singing about. I get told that I'm overreacting and that I'm crazy and dramatic all the time. And get told that it will never happen again. But it does. 😪. Thank you for writing and singing such a strong song
Beautiful
I can't stop listening to this song. And that in itself is a sign. 😢
I survived a narcissist sociopath and your song says it perfectly. Beautiful song. Ty for helping others feel less alone 🥰
Today was the 1st time I ever heard this song, it was on a local station and the name caught my attention….but the lyrics….now those struck a nerve!!!! 😢😭 This is one of the most heartbreaking moments I have experienced in my nearly 15 months free from the narcissistic ex!!!! This song has so beautifully expressed the exact thoughts & emotions and circumstances & instances that I went through during that entire 7 years of hell!!!! All I can say is “Thank you”!!! Thank you for giving every single person that has survived a relationship with a narcissist a sense of validation; that we are not alone and that someone has been in our shoes and knows our pain!!!! I can not stop listening to this song!!!!!! Thank you for voicing what soooo many feel and experience daily!!!!!!! Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you!!! I love this song and hope you make many more that pull at heart strings so deeply!!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤
Omg this song is so spot on and it hit home for me so much! Thank you for writing and singing this song! Narcissists are horrible human beings! They do so much damage to others and themselves. It is so sad! They literally are heartless! They don't know how to love others or themselves. Narcissistic abuse is absolutely horrible to experience! We all are so worthy of love and respect! They are mental and emotional vampires who seek to destroy others. They are a wolf in sheeps clothing! They will never be able to truly love anyone and they will never be happy in any relationship. People are just another transaction for them to use, abuse, and throw away like trash! They will do exactly what they did to us to the next person! Guaranteed we are not the first and we definitely won't be the last! Best revenge = go out and find ourselves again, heal, live our best life and be with someone who does love, respect and adore us!
This song,it's very fantastic
You couldn’t of explained it any better. Currently in this situation don’t no how to get out of it
Beautifully done. Been there, done that for over 20 years in an abusive on all levels marriage. Ended that 8 years ago but he still won't let go. So glad I finally did.
WOW just WOW!! Just when I thought I was alone, crazy, & overreacting!! 25 years of HELL with a narcissist, I'm trapped, alone, have no joy even if I'm smiling, see no way out other than leaving this earth then I came across your song on accident or maybe it wasn't. Thank you 💐