I am so happy and proud for Nick sharing his experience of being bullied. I can understand it's not an easy thing to do. In fact I can understand that it's harder dealing with bulling then coming out of the closet. So my hats off to you Nick, and for everyone else take Nick's advise and remember always... It Gets Better!
We don't realise how important it is that people like you do this kind of videos. Spread out the message. It does get better. Be courageous & be yourself!!
I was bullied in middle school and a little in high school not only for being gay, but also being overweight. I had to find out about those tips on my own and I'm so glad that you made it accessible for people who really need help right now! Love you Davey!
I know him!!! He goes to my school. I didn't know his story until now. Even though I don't know him that well, I've talked to him sometimes and I even just shared a class with him, and he is such an amazing person- kind friendly funny outgoing and an amazing singer and actor. Nick you don't deserve to be bullied and I really hope that you aren't anymore. Stay strong. Love ya
It will get better! Seriously, it was hard to believe when high school finally ended, I was just standing there stunned, and a bit later a whole new (much better) world opened for me when I went to college.
I personally never went through the whole bully situation. But i still like to watch these types of videos just to see how strong some people really are. I have so much respect for this guy for even being able to speak about his past. Love your videos too Dave ^_^.
THAT is the attitude to have! Remember that there will ALWAYS be people out there who love you and care about you no matter what. Don't let this discourage you at all. Everything will work out, and your true friends will stay by your side, no matter who you love or what you do.
the only way to beat hate is by love and understanding and it as you said davey shows that they are jealous and envy that you are confident and proud to be who you are!
Thanks for doing a video about bullying...the more people who talk about it the quicker we can end it. We do tons of stuff about bullying too and tell our stories alot because it's important we're not silent. You're the master!
Davey, thank you for making this important video with Nick. Bullying is epidemic in our country on many levels & affecting many age groups. To your viewers: rent or download "Bully" a nationally distributed documentary that was in theaters this past winter -- NetFlix should have it by now. I volunteer with two organizations that focus on sexual assault and violence in a major US city. We all need to speak out against this scourge in our society. Thank you, Davey, for this valuable video.
bullying and physical abuse took me to extreme lengths... I was suicidal and I left my family and 'friends' behind and I've become really insensitive and apathetic to other people's feelings, I know I shouldn't be this way but noone gave a fuck back then. OMFG HOW BLOODY BEAUTIFUL IS THIS NICK, you're so strong and gorgeous !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that was awesome guys. i was bullied back in high school in the eighties and it was a horrible time. but as they say it gets better. Glad that you are happy and confident Nick as well as a beautiful voice.
I came out in the 7th grade and I lost a lot of my so-called friends. It hurt, but I stood my ground and let them know that nothing they could say would change me. I'm a better person for it today, and I have true friends who love me for who I am and don't judge me based on what society thinks is "correct".
Sometimes talking with someone who is or has gone through the same experience you have or are going through will help too. You can give each other pointers on what can be done in the situation. You have someone's support and someone who understands what you are or went through. It helps you in the long run and you do not have to hide from them since they are going through something similar.
I just want to say thank you Davey and Nick for this video. I'm an out gay guy in college in North Carolina and I still have to deal with being bullied by my peers for my sexual orientation. I'm studying to become a high school teacher some day and I'm glad there are videos like this because I can use this not only for myself, but also to help my future students if they should have this problem. So speaking as an educator and fellow human being, thank you for this and all that you do.
Thanks Davey and Nick. Some people can just be so cruel sometimes. I couldn't have done this any better, thanks guys for doing this. Scott Surfside Beach
OMG Nick is so CUTE!! My tips: Ignore, find something to expres yourself, be close to people wo care about you. Seek help if you are unable to handel the pressure.
Good to see another positive minded young gay person getting past the vilification of others towards him. I was lucky to have amazing parents that taught me first and above all, believe in myself and be confident. Those two core values allowed me to succeed and excel in my personal and professional life. When you are successful, no one has the power to bring you down. And I agree that sometimes the best fight won, is knowing when to walk away.
Thank you Davey for making this video. I live in a rural area in Missouri. I am gay and I struggle to help improve the social view on gays in this area. It is a herculean task but I have changed a mind or two and I'm proud of that. However, I deal with verbal bullying and snickering all the time. I stand strong, even though it isn't easy, but there are many people like me that don't have the strength that I am blessed to have. Thank you for lending to your voice to help them.
Fighting back, at least on a physical level (and often on a verbal and emotional level, too), is often not productive. However, surrounding yourself with loving, positive people who support you no matter what and help you through, IS productive :)
I was me without any proclamation. I feel sorry to see a world that has become so stressful to live in that we take it out on each other instead of helping each other learn to cope with it. Try to remember that everyone has a hell going on inside them and be nice to everyone, even if they are not nice to you. At least you can feel good about yourself. I love this very perceptive video.
Bullies feed off of your negative energy. They WANT to eicit a reaction. That's why it's good to walk away. It also gives you the chance to calm down, regain your composure, etc. It can keep you from doing something rash and making the situation worse. Just walk away, sit down somewhere where you feel safe, and do something positive that makes you feel happy.
I totally agree. I've never been bullied myself, but I've been doing Martial Arts since I was 4. Along with the life lessons I've learned, I've also had the confidence that I'd be able to defend myself if I needed to.
A great excercise that I have done with some of my students (4th graders). Take a piece of paper, crumple it up. Now take the paper and try to flatten in out. That crumpled paper represents a person that has been bullied. No matter how hard you try, you can never get that paper flat. All of those wrinkles represent an emotional or physical scar that is left behind by a bully. It's not a joke and it needs to be stopped! We can't uncrinkle these kids! Thanks for sharing Nick! Thanks DW!
I was bullied until I realized I the power to manipulate those around me. I ended up winning the trust and respect (I would even say admiration) of some jocks, who ended up becoming my protectors. The secret is winning them one by one, and individually...and NEVER coming on to any, or your plan will be thwarted. The strong have power, as long as the weak want them to.
Love him, Love his courage, I grew up in a small town, into which I moved back to last year after 23 years in a large city, I had forgotten how things can be living in a small town, but I have had several reminders this past year, so I appreciate what it can be like for kids, if at 43 I can be bullied, I am sure it can very difficult for a kid, of course now I am older, much much richer, and a lot smarter, so bring em on baby, I don't run away anymore....
One of the tips to survive bullying in my life was to be more successful then my bullies. I always got good GPA's in school and I realized most bullies would never have the grades I did and most likely not succeed in life the way I could. This gave me confidence to keep going to school and trying my best. For others, this could mean join clubs. Make the basketball team. Success is yours to define. But make ur success and ur bully will seem small compared to you. :)
Its not always easy to find friends or people who will defend you especially in junior high and highschool, but it becomes a lot easier after highschool because A: you are exposed to a broader peer group and B: reporting the issue can have the bully written up at work, charged for harrassment etc... so if your a teen and school sucks do all that you can to finish and then your options for escape multiply
Although I do not support violence, I had to fight my way through middle school, since I was in a catholic prep school. Sometimes 'walking away' and 'ignoring them' just won't cut it. I am 30 now, and actually get along with some of the people that used to bully me. What I can recommend is to NEVER hold any grudge against anyone. You don't know what they're going through.
sometimes when you walk away, they'll follow you. if you run, they chase you. if they get you, they really get you. talking to your teachers or officials at school does help, but some schools really don't do anything. and when it comes to bullying, they can't really do much because it is never seen. its hardly ever seen, but its there!
Naww nick is so cute. His tips are so true, I spoke-up after being bashed-up multiple times and got knocked out on the field and ended up being left there for around an hour. I told my mum and the principal and changed schools to a Catholic School and it was the best decision i ever made.. I was accepted by a lot of students and teachers, they all cared for me and supported me. They are the reason for my happiness.
Bullies have problems(usually family related), they do the things they do to feel less powerless about their own lives or they're trying to compensate something, don't let them have that power over you. Getting upset(or showing it) is the biggest mistake you can make(I've made it too many times myself) cause you're just giving the bully what he wants. Do you have any friends? Spend as much time as you can around them, if you're around people and having fun you're less likely to get picked on.
Thank you so much for this video! I've never been bullied for being bi but I've been bullied for my disability and thank you for making these tips. And your singing is awesome!
i had the same sort of experience as nick, i was bullied as well, i've had a black eye, been happy slapped and even a broken arm, all i had at the time was my music and art, i feel that listening to some types of music makes you more confident, and any emotions you get you can just sing or draw them out, i'm a terrible artist but i love art, and i love singing, i'm terrible at that as well haha, but you get the picture, just stay strong and be who you want to be. :) p.s love you davey.
Everytime I see something like this, I feel stronger when someone bother me, 'cause I remember it's not just me, I'm not alone, TAHNK YOU GUYS!, and yes there are people that love us
I used to get bullied when I was really young. What I did is totally different from you. I just ignored it as if nothing can really effect me but if they still keep bullying then I fought back and make sure I did it hard enough so they don't mess with me again. It's really works. After that she didn't mess with me again and some time later, I kind of forgive her for what she did and become friend.
And coming out is definitely you're choice. If you feel like the here and now isn't right, it's fine to wait. You may know this; you don't have to come out all at once if you don't feel it. Maybe one at a time. And I'm so sorry that you're being bullied! It has way more of an impact than what a lot of people think. This video is helpful. I think that the most important piece of advice is to surround yourself with support, even if they don't know your sexual orientation.
He totally seems like such a nice guy, I couldn't imagine who would do such a thing to him. Prob insecure guys or such. Good for you being friends with him still.
OMG! that is so sad its alot worse then whats happening to me right now, cause i only came out this year and im 13 and i dont know how some people found out cause i only told my friends, and thats when the bullying started. We're all here for people who r getting bullied so tht means u to nick, love u :)
Oh, Nick, my hurts for you. You should never have gone through this. You are a person that deserves respect and love despite your sexuality. Just know, after watching you and Davey, I am behind you 100%.
I was bullied pritty bad in high school and was called all kinds of things and even tryed not to be gay for 9 year (from 11 to 20). I Found my salvation in helping others I joined the local Rescue squad and 7 years later I have a wide group of people that trust me and support me and I am still a member of that rescue squad and the fire captain of a local fire department. the best part is i am out and open with everyone and have a wonderful family and boyfriend. IT ALWAYS GETS BETTER!!!!
I "spoke up" once in 11th grade and told the teacher about the guys bullying me and throwing stuff at me during class and how she never saw it. She said she understood because she has young boys. She made assigned seating and it made everything stop. But after a few classes she said there was no more seating chart and everyone went back to the same exact seats and it continued. But all is well because now I'm out and proud and I never look back. (just as a reference, I'm now a junior in college)
I really love listening to you DAVEY. Very nice and helpful on Bullying. I have been bullied since 7 grade when I was not sure what or who I was yet. I was experiencing this most of my life causing me to want to isolate voluntarily. Support is out there when we are ready to take a chance on love. Great Video on the platform with diver. Thanks for your honesty.
I was bullied for years, through both middle and highschool. Physically fighting back against them only leads you coming home with more bruises at the end of the day. I'd never say a word to them. By the end of my senior year I was known as the "Ice Queen". I developed a tunnel stare in which my eyes didn't follow anything around me, never wavered from my destination. I made sure to walk with my head held high and alert. They learned to fear me eventually. That may not sound- [part 1/3]
Just agree with them, like when they say your stupid just say yeah im stupid because if you show anger or sadness they have control over you and they wont stop bullying.
The vast majority of bullies are cowards. Confront your bully, & quite often they will back down. But realize that it doesn't work all of the time, and especially if you are outnumbered.
I have dealt with bullying when I was younger. I was tormented everyday from 3rd grade until 6th grade. The teachers did nothing to stop it and finally I had enough. I decided to stand up for my self, not physically but emotionally. They would ask me "Are you gay?" and I would ask "Why? Do you want me to be your boyfriend?" When you put the embarrassment on them, the whole situation changes. As a last resort learn self-defense, it will teach you how to defend yourself in physical situations.
I agree bullying is horrible and it takes a toll on you as a person the longer it progresses, now on the other hand i believe in defending yourself in some circumstances it's risky but others worth it, I was picked on for being gay in school and was jumped several times and I fought back I remember times just sitting there wishing I could just be invisible and people might leave me alone but it never worked, do continued to fight back and eventually they left me alone and then people thought I
Being Tall, Slender, 6' 3", & very aggressive certainly helped me when I came outta the closet. You can't show weakness in this day and age especially if you are coming out to the world. I stuck to this policy & it worked wonders for me. But be cautioned it can cause you lots of problems, you have to be emotionally & physically tough to endure without getting hurt...... Thank The Gods For The Way They made Me
if you're getting bullied in the middle of class, let it be heard. Let all of the other kids and the teacher know what's happening, and if the teacher doesn't support you, take yourself and all of the other kids that have heard and go directly to administration with your parents and make it known. you should not have to feel bad or cast out at school. keep your head up and be yourself. give anyone who has an opinion a giant hair-flip and ignore the haters.
Unfortunately, there are time where violence is the only solution. When no one has your back, and the bullying just won't stop no mater what you do, you might need to take drastic measures. You don't need to be physically strong either. Sometimes all it takes is for them to see that someone is willing to fight back.
Totally agree. Passivity breeds violence. The ability to defend yourself breeds confidence. Looking at Nick's "punch", I think he could use a few boxing lessons. The bullying doesn't stop just because he's left high school.
This is all very easy to say but the huge loss in self-esteem that comes from being bullied, for whatever reason and in whatever form shouldn't be understated. I was bullied as a very tiny child, aged 5-6. The fact that someone thought I was bad enough to hit turned me very insular, frightened to approach people in case they did the same. It really needs enough guts from people who see someone bullied or lonely to persevere and befriend them. It's very hard for victims to know which way to turn.
Because of bullying, here I am 20 years old and still in highschool... I dropped out twice because of it D: and i'm back... trying to get by it all, but things are better now :) so I can say for sure, things get better to anyone who gets better
I feel don't fight back could be a tricky advice. More generally true but when it comes to self defense , I think it's perfectly required to fight back if necessary.
Same here, apart from the blowing up bit. If walking away is an option, go for it. Sadly, it very often isn’t. There aren’t many places you can walk away to when you’ve been left in an empty classroom bound and gagged, or when you’re a scrawny 10-year-old being pushed down the stairs by six 15-year-olds who are all three times your size. Sadly, talking to teachers and parents often just makes it worse. What more victims of bullying need to do is to talk to the POLICE about it.
The best thing is tell somebody what's going on and confront the bullies, never show them your weakness, that only make it worse. And nick I'm sure that the people who bullied you are now jelous of you, because you love yourself as you are. By the way you're handsome :)
In high school, my friends attacked me and put in a coma for 3 months because they found out I was gay, this was a turning point in my life. You can't let people get you down. Remember for every hater there are at least 2 people who love you. Never forget that. Never give up.
Freakin' luv ya guys. Davey, what you've done with your videos through the years is really a beacon of hope for a lot of people. It is also funny and very hot.
Never EVER let them see you being sad or angry. Just act like it doesn't affect you, and even if your confidence dissappear, it shouldn't affect you. I was bullied. I'm a straight ally, not gay so that wasn't the case for me, I was different, even my 'friends' was mean to me. I acted like it was a joke, everything they said and at night i wouldn't be able to sleep or eat anything. I was really depressed and then I realised. I would never let them ruin my life for me.
This is why I didn't come out to anyone until after highschool, even to my closest friends (who didn't care that's why they're close friends! lol). Some people might say that is cowardice or that you would be living a lie by waiting but clearly it can save you a lot of heartache. I didn't have to deal with any bullying what so ever and I can honestly say I have never been made to feel inferior to someone because they didn't agree with who I was. Wait to tell people and you won't regret it.
Excellent recommendations to prevent/survive bullying. If it continues, time to alert the other parents, school officials, school board, counselor, clergy, police, and your family's attorney. Don't stop until the bullying ends and the consciousness is raised to respect all people with diverse lifestyles. Tolerance is taught at home, or should be. Just remember, you are not the labels other people assign to you. Ignorance is not bliss. Don't settle for bullying/being disrespected. No way!
OMG he just looks so sad talking about it. I'm 12 and just recently came out to my sister luckily she's fine with it but my mom's kinda homophobic and so is everyone at my school. I just wanna give you a big hug! You're so sweet!
I totally understand what Nick had to go though. I think that we all as in all gay guys go through bullying sometime in their lives. It just seems to he harder because the bully is always persistent with the bullying and feels that they can and always will have something to say or do! We just need to remember that we are who we are and we need to stand up for what we believe in and who we love!
When I was little and there was a boy teasing me about where I came from. I just sat down with him and said that I don't like what he's doing, we don't choose where we come from and that every country and ethnic group has good and bad people, and asked why he felt the need to bully me for it. He had no good answer and stopped teasing me :)
Nick had more strength as a child than most people will have in a lifetime. He will definitely go far in life. Thanks for sharing his story!
Two things:
1. This is really motivational
2. Damn. I'd totally do him...
I am so happy and proud for Nick sharing his experience of being bullied. I can understand it's not an easy thing to do. In fact I can understand that it's harder dealing with bulling then coming out of the closet. So my hats off to you Nick, and for everyone else take Nick's advise and remember always... It Gets Better!
Thank you for making this one Davey. This is an issue all around the world. If ONE person is being bullied, its too much. There is no need for it.
Made me teary to think of guys or girls crying out of frustration and sadness.
Kids can be such assholes! Often more than adults!
We don't realise how important it is that people like you do this kind of videos. Spread out the message. It does get better. Be courageous & be yourself!!
Ikr... bullying should STOP if any bully's sees this S.T.O.P!!
I was bullied in middle school and a little in high school not only for being gay, but also being overweight. I had to find out about those tips on my own and I'm so glad that you made it accessible for people who really need help right now! Love you Davey!
You're a wonderful boy I think, Nick! I was mistreated in my childhood too, Nick.
I know him!!! He goes to my school. I didn't know his story until now. Even though I don't know him that well, I've talked to him sometimes and I even just shared a class with him, and he is such an amazing person- kind friendly funny outgoing and an amazing singer and actor. Nick you don't deserve to be bullied and I really hope that you aren't anymore. Stay strong. Love ya
definitely agree with the supportive friends bit. while i'm not gay i was bullied and having friends who will stand up for you is always a plus.
It will get better! Seriously, it was hard to believe when high school finally ended, I was just standing there stunned, and a bit later a whole new (much better) world opened for me when I went to college.
I personally never went through the whole bully situation. But i still like to watch these types of videos just to see how strong some people really are. I have so much respect for this guy for even being able to speak about his past. Love your videos too Dave ^_^.
THAT is the attitude to have! Remember that there will ALWAYS be people out there who love you and care about you no matter what. Don't let this discourage you at all. Everything will work out, and your true friends will stay by your side, no matter who you love or what you do.
Great advice for young men coming out.One more, NEVER be afraid, and ALWAYS walk away.Just save him until a better opportunity arrives.
the only way to beat hate is by love and understanding and it as you said davey shows that they are jealous and envy that you are confident and proud to be who you are!
Thanks for doing a video about bullying...the more people who talk about it the quicker we can end it. We do tons of stuff about bullying too and tell our stories alot because it's important we're not silent. You're the master!
Davey, thank you for making this important video with Nick. Bullying is epidemic in our country on many levels & affecting many age groups. To your viewers: rent or download "Bully" a nationally distributed documentary that was in theaters this past winter -- NetFlix should have it by now. I volunteer with two organizations that focus on sexual assault and violence in a major US city. We all need to speak out against this scourge in our society. Thank you, Davey, for this valuable video.
-drools- without a doubt, one of THE cutest guys of all time. he's also so sweet and sensitive and its just too friggin adorable
bullying and physical abuse took me to extreme lengths... I was suicidal and I left my family and 'friends' behind and I've become really insensitive and apathetic to other people's feelings, I know I shouldn't be this way but noone gave a fuck back then. OMFG HOW BLOODY BEAUTIFUL IS THIS NICK, you're so strong and gorgeous !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that was awesome guys. i was bullied back in high school in the eighties and it was a horrible time. but as they say it gets better. Glad that you are happy and confident Nick as well as a beautiful voice.
Nick is so sweet! I just want to give a hug. He's such a strong individual.
I came out in the 7th grade and I lost a lot of my so-called friends. It hurt, but I stood my ground and let them know that nothing they could say would change me. I'm a better person for it today, and I have true friends who love me for who I am and don't judge me based on what society thinks is "correct".
Sometimes talking with someone who is or has gone through the same experience you have or are going through will help too. You can give each other pointers on what can be done in the situation. You have someone's support and someone who understands what you are or went through. It helps you in the long run and you do not have to hide from them since they are going through something similar.
Nick ... I ADMIRE YOUUU I hadn't could share such bad experiences in a video without crying, you're big
What also helps against bullying, is being nice to your bullies. That really throws them off their game.
I just want to say thank you Davey and Nick for this video. I'm an out gay guy in college in North Carolina and I still have to deal with being bullied by my peers for my sexual orientation. I'm studying to become a high school teacher some day and I'm glad there are videos like this because I can use this not only for myself, but also to help my future students if they should have this problem. So speaking as an educator and fellow human being, thank you for this and all that you do.
Thanks Davey and Nick. Some people can just be so cruel sometimes. I couldn't have done this any better, thanks guys for doing this.
Scott
Surfside Beach
OMG Nick is so CUTE!!
My tips: Ignore, find something to expres yourself, be close to people wo care about you. Seek help if you are unable to handel the pressure.
Good to see another positive minded young gay person getting past the vilification of others towards him. I was lucky to have amazing parents that taught me first and above all, believe in myself and be confident. Those two core values allowed me to succeed and excel in my personal and professional life. When you are successful, no one has the power to bring you down. And I agree that sometimes the best fight won, is knowing when to walk away.
Thank you Davey for making this video. I live in a rural area in Missouri. I am gay and I struggle to help improve the social view on gays in this area. It is a herculean task but I have changed a mind or two and I'm proud of that. However, I deal with verbal bullying and snickering all the time. I stand strong, even though it isn't easy, but there are many people like me that don't have the strength that I am blessed to have. Thank you for lending to your voice to help them.
Fighting back, at least on a physical level (and often on a verbal and emotional level, too), is often not productive. However, surrounding yourself with loving, positive people who support you no matter what and help you through, IS productive :)
I was me without any proclamation. I feel sorry to see a world that has become so stressful to live in that we take it out on each other instead of helping each other learn to cope with it. Try to remember that everyone has a hell going on inside them and be nice to everyone, even if they are not nice to you. At least you can feel good about yourself. I love this very perceptive video.
Bullies feed off of your negative energy. They WANT to eicit a reaction. That's why it's good to walk away. It also gives you the chance to calm down, regain your composure, etc. It can keep you from doing something rash and making the situation worse. Just walk away, sit down somewhere where you feel safe, and do something positive that makes you feel happy.
I totally agree. I've never been bullied myself, but I've been doing Martial Arts since I was 4. Along with the life lessons I've learned, I've also had the confidence that I'd be able to defend myself if I needed to.
A great excercise that I have done with some of my students (4th graders). Take a piece of paper, crumple it up. Now take the paper and try to flatten in out. That crumpled paper represents a person that has been bullied. No matter how hard you try, you can never get that paper flat. All of those wrinkles represent an emotional or physical scar that is left behind by a bully. It's not a joke and it needs to be stopped! We can't uncrinkle these kids! Thanks for sharing Nick! Thanks DW!
You and Nick touch on key points and I wanted to thank you both for making this video.
I was bullied until I realized I the power to manipulate those around me. I ended up winning the trust and respect (I would even say admiration) of some jocks, who ended up becoming my protectors. The secret is winning them one by one, and individually...and NEVER coming on to any, or your plan will be thwarted. The strong have power, as long as the weak want them to.
I'm not gay but have been bullied for simply being different. You guys did a great job with this video I hope others heed your advice. Thanks.
Love him, Love his courage, I grew up in a small town, into which I moved back to last year after 23 years in a large city, I had forgotten how things can be living in a small town, but I have had several reminders this past year, so I appreciate what it can be like for kids, if at 43 I can be bullied, I am sure it can very difficult for a kid, of course now I am older, much much richer, and a lot smarter, so bring em on baby, I don't run away anymore....
One of the tips to survive bullying in my life was to be more successful then my bullies. I always got good GPA's in school and I realized most bullies would never have the grades I did and most likely not succeed in life the way I could. This gave me confidence to keep going to school and trying my best. For others, this could mean join clubs. Make the basketball team. Success is yours to define. But make ur success and ur bully will seem small compared to you. :)
There are times when we don't have the chance to walk away. At that point, self defense and fighting back is in order.
I'm here thinking, "Nick is so cute!" And then he starts singing... He went from cute to downright heavenly. That boy can serenade me any day. :)
Its not always easy to find friends or people who will defend you especially in junior high and highschool, but it becomes a lot easier after highschool because A: you are exposed to a broader peer group and B: reporting the issue can have the bully written up at work, charged for harrassment etc... so if your a teen and school sucks do all that you can to finish and then your options for escape multiply
Share with someone. Letting out your frustration is better than letting it just build up and poison you from the inside.
I totally agree on self defense, but when he said don't fight back, i think he meant about being really aggravated and going full force on the bully
Although I do not support violence, I had to fight my way through middle school, since I was in a catholic prep school. Sometimes 'walking away' and 'ignoring them' just won't cut it. I am 30 now, and actually get along with some of the people that used to bully me. What I can recommend is to NEVER hold any grudge against anyone. You don't know what they're going through.
sometimes when you walk away, they'll follow you. if you run, they chase you. if they get you, they really get you. talking to your teachers or officials at school does help, but some schools really don't do anything. and when it comes to bullying, they can't really do much because it is never seen. its hardly ever seen, but its there!
Naww nick is so cute. His tips are so true, I spoke-up after being bashed-up multiple times and got knocked out on the field and ended up being left there for around an hour. I told my mum and the principal and changed schools to a Catholic School and it was the best decision i ever made.. I was accepted by a lot of students and teachers, they all cared for me and supported me. They are the reason for my happiness.
Nick looks like one of the sweetest people ever
Bullies have problems(usually family related), they do the things they do to feel less powerless about their own lives or they're trying to compensate something, don't let them have that power over you. Getting upset(or showing it) is the biggest mistake you can make(I've made it too many times myself) cause you're just giving the bully what he wants. Do you have any friends? Spend as much time as you can around them, if you're around people and having fun you're less likely to get picked on.
Thank you so much for this video! I've never been bullied for being bi but I've been bullied for my disability and thank you for making these tips. And your singing is awesome!
i had the same sort of experience as nick, i was bullied as well, i've had a black eye, been happy slapped and even a broken arm, all i had at the time was my music and art, i feel that listening to some types of music makes you more confident, and any emotions you get you can just sing or draw them out, i'm a terrible artist but i love art, and i love singing, i'm terrible at that as well haha, but you get the picture, just stay strong and be who you want to be. :) p.s love you davey.
Nick's very cute. I'm glad to know he's doing okay and he definitely has a powerful story.
Everytime I see something like this, I feel stronger when someone bother me, 'cause I remember it's not just me, I'm not alone, TAHNK YOU GUYS!, and yes there are people that love us
I used to get bullied when I was really young. What I did is totally different from you. I just ignored it as if nothing can really effect me but if they still keep bullying then I fought back and make sure I did it hard enough so they don't mess with me again. It's really works. After that she didn't mess with me again and some time later, I kind of forgive her for what she did and become friend.
And coming out is definitely you're choice. If you feel like the here and now isn't right, it's fine to wait. You may know this; you don't have to come out all at once if you don't feel it. Maybe one at a time.
And I'm so sorry that you're being bullied! It has way more of an impact than what a lot of people think. This video is helpful. I think that the most important piece of advice is to surround yourself with support, even if they don't know your sexual orientation.
Darn you, Davey... I NEVER get anything done. I just... can't..stop...watching...
He totally seems like such a nice guy, I couldn't imagine who would do such a thing to him. Prob insecure guys or such. Good for you being friends with him still.
OMG! that is so sad its alot worse then whats happening to me right now, cause i only came out this year and im 13 and i dont know how some people found out cause i only told my friends, and thats when the bullying started. We're all here for people who r getting bullied so tht means u to nick, love u :)
Oh, Nick, my hurts for you. You should never have gone through this. You are a person that deserves respect and love despite your sexuality. Just know, after watching you and Davey, I am behind you 100%.
when im feeling down i just look at daveys abs and it makes everything all better
I was bullied pritty bad in high school and was called all kinds of things and even tryed not to be gay for 9 year (from 11 to 20). I Found my salvation in helping others I joined the local Rescue squad and 7 years later I have a wide group of people that trust me and support me and I am still a member of that rescue squad and the fire captain of a local fire department. the best part is i am out and open with everyone and have a wonderful family and boyfriend. IT ALWAYS GETS BETTER!!!!
I "spoke up" once in 11th grade and told the teacher about the guys bullying me and throwing stuff at me during class and how she never saw it. She said she understood because she has young boys. She made assigned seating and it made everything stop. But after a few classes she said there was no more seating chart and everyone went back to the same exact seats and it continued. But all is well because now I'm out and proud and I never look back. (just as a reference, I'm now a junior in college)
I really love listening to you DAVEY. Very nice and helpful on Bullying. I have been bullied since 7 grade when I was not sure what or who I was yet. I was experiencing this most of my life causing me to want to isolate voluntarily. Support is out there when we are ready to take a chance on love. Great Video on the platform with diver. Thanks for your honesty.
I was bullied for years, through both middle and highschool. Physically fighting back against them only leads you coming home with more bruises at the end of the day. I'd never say a word to them. By the end of my senior year I was known as the "Ice Queen". I developed a tunnel stare in which my eyes didn't follow anything around me, never wavered from my destination. I made sure to walk with my head held high and alert. They learned to fear me eventually. That may not sound- [part 1/3]
Love who you are because your opinion of you is the only one that matters
Just agree with them, like when they say your stupid just say yeah im stupid because if you show anger or sadness they have control over you and they wont stop bullying.
Im Sorry nick for those closed minded people.So glad u are still with us.U are one of the strong ones.Im Proud of you
The vast majority of bullies are cowards. Confront your bully, & quite often they will back down. But realize that it doesn't work all of the time, and especially if you are outnumbered.
I have dealt with bullying when I was younger. I was tormented everyday from 3rd grade until 6th grade. The teachers did nothing to stop it and finally I had enough. I decided to stand up for my self, not physically but emotionally. They would ask me "Are you gay?" and I would ask "Why? Do you want me to be your boyfriend?" When you put the embarrassment on them, the whole situation changes. As a last resort learn self-defense, it will teach you how to defend yourself in physical situations.
I agree bullying is horrible and it takes a toll on you as a person the longer it progresses, now on the other hand i believe in defending yourself in some circumstances it's risky but others worth it, I was picked on for being gay in school and was jumped several times and I fought back I remember times just sitting there wishing I could just be invisible and people might leave me alone but it never worked, do continued to fight back and eventually they left me alone and then people thought I
Being Tall, Slender, 6' 3", & very aggressive certainly helped me when I came outta the closet. You can't show weakness in this day and age especially if you are coming out to the world. I stuck to this policy & it worked wonders for me. But be cautioned it can cause you lots of problems, you have to be emotionally & physically tough to endure without getting hurt...... Thank The Gods For The Way They made Me
if you're getting bullied in the middle of class, let it be heard. Let all of the other kids and the teacher know what's happening, and if the teacher doesn't support you, take yourself and all of the other kids that have heard and go directly to administration with your parents and make it known. you should not have to feel bad or cast out at school. keep your head up and be yourself. give anyone who has an opinion a giant hair-flip and ignore the haters.
be strong-this was one powerful video-with many important messages.one needs to take this good advice.
Unfortunately, there are time where violence is the only solution. When no one has your back, and the bullying just won't stop no mater what you do, you might need to take drastic measures. You don't need to be physically strong either. Sometimes all it takes is for them to see that someone is willing to fight back.
I'm coming out in support of Nick. You are amazing.
Totally agree. Passivity breeds violence. The ability to defend yourself breeds confidence.
Looking at Nick's "punch", I think he could use a few boxing lessons. The bullying doesn't stop just because he's left high school.
This is all very easy to say but the huge loss in self-esteem that comes from being bullied, for whatever reason and in whatever form shouldn't be understated. I was bullied as a very tiny child, aged 5-6. The fact that someone thought I was bad enough to hit turned me very insular, frightened to approach people in case they did the same. It really needs enough guts from people who see someone bullied or lonely to persevere and befriend them. It's very hard for victims to know which way to turn.
Because of bullying, here I am 20 years old and still in highschool... I dropped out twice because of it D: and i'm back... trying to get by it all, but things are better now :) so I can say for sure, things get better to anyone who gets better
I feel don't fight back could be a tricky advice. More generally true but when it comes to self defense , I think it's perfectly required to fight back if necessary.
Same here, apart from the blowing up bit. If walking away is an option, go for it. Sadly, it very often isn’t. There aren’t many places you can walk away to when you’ve been left in an empty classroom bound and gagged, or when you’re a scrawny 10-year-old being pushed down the stairs by six 15-year-olds who are all three times your size.
Sadly, talking to teachers and parents often just makes it worse. What more victims of bullying need to do is to talk to the POLICE about it.
The best thing is tell somebody what's going on and confront the bullies, never show them your weakness, that only make it worse.
And nick I'm sure that the people who bullied you are now jelous of you, because you love yourself as you are. By the way you're handsome :)
You physically hurt me when you make more videos. Please, I'm a cancer patient and this is weighing on my health.
In high school, my friends attacked me and put in a coma for 3 months because they found out I was gay, this was a turning point in my life. You can't let people get you down. Remember for every hater there are at least 2 people who love you. Never forget that. Never give up.
I live in Nick's town and honestly I'm so ashamed and I had no idea people could be so horrible in our town this is awful
Freakin' luv ya guys. Davey, what you've done with your videos through the years is really a beacon of hope for a lot of people. It is also funny and very hot.
davey why are you so perfect you're the most inspirational person ive ever seen... anyone else agree?
Never EVER let them see you being sad or angry. Just act like it doesn't affect you, and even if your confidence dissappear, it shouldn't affect you.
I was bullied. I'm a straight ally, not gay so that wasn't the case for me, I was different, even my 'friends' was mean to me. I acted like it was a joke, everything they said and at night i wouldn't be able to sleep or eat anything. I was really depressed and then I realised. I would never let them ruin my life for me.
This is why I didn't come out to anyone until after highschool, even to my closest friends (who didn't care that's why they're close friends! lol). Some people might say that is cowardice or that you would be living a lie by waiting but clearly it can save you a lot of heartache. I didn't have to deal with any bullying what so ever and I can honestly say I have never been made to feel inferior to someone because they didn't agree with who I was. Wait to tell people and you won't regret it.
Excellent recommendations to prevent/survive bullying. If it continues, time to alert the other parents, school officials, school board, counselor, clergy, police, and your family's attorney. Don't stop until the bullying ends and the consciousness is raised to respect all people with diverse lifestyles. Tolerance is taught at home, or should be.
Just remember, you are not the labels other people assign to you. Ignorance is not bliss. Don't settle for bullying/being disrespected. No way!
OMG he just looks so sad talking about it. I'm 12 and just recently came out to my sister luckily she's fine with it but my mom's kinda homophobic and so is everyone at my school. I just wanna give you a big hug! You're so sweet!
I totally understand what Nick had to go though. I think that we all as in all gay guys go through bullying sometime in their lives. It just seems to he harder because the bully is always persistent with the bullying and feels that they can and always will have something to say or do! We just need to remember that we are who we are and we need to stand up for what we believe in and who we love!
For me, this movie was overshadowed in part by the fact that he's actually wearing a shirt.
On another note, SO MANY CUTES!
When I was little and there was a boy teasing me about where I came from. I just sat down with him and said that I don't like what he's doing, we don't choose where we come from and that every country and ethnic group has good and bad people, and asked why he felt the need to bully me for it. He had no good answer and stopped teasing me :)
can get out of bullying by ignoring them which makes them angry but u can be happy by looking at their anger true works
thats honestly the way to go.. talking from personal experience myself!!
Makes sense, I don't think anyone would risk getting beaten up by you Davey.
I emphasize with Nick, I was bullied in High School, too. So I know where He is coming from.
Roll your eyes. One of the most effective ways of showing your feigned indifference.