can we also talk about the huge pressure on trans women to be extra feminine? like if any slight and natural masculinity is shown (that all cis women show) were instantly told it’s because we’re trans and we’re not “real women” and bla bla bla
This is what makes me scared about becoming a woman. I'm super scared about how people treat me. Right now, I'm just a basic guy, that most don't care to notice. But as a girl, I wouldn't be able to go anywhere alone without putting myself in some kind of danger, and I'm an extreme loner/introvert :( so having no friends to back me up is the norm.
Sometimes it's not about safety, it's about being who you REALLY are! Are you happy the way you are? Like Honestly Happy? be honest with yourself on this one it's the MOST important question to ask yourself.
Thank you for this video. I have heard trans men say that after they start to pass as men people laugh louder at their jokes, listen more to them, speak over them way less, they get treated as though they are smarter than they did before....trans people have a unique perspective on gender inequality.
But you are leaving out the bad parts, suddenly their feelings aren't validated anymore, and they are told to suck it up and are thought of as weak when showing emotion or asking for help. Also suddenly the warm universal support blanket is gone and people treat you as a threat and bar you from women and childrens' spaces.
@@dr.martinlroberts1908 Man up. You should be the lord of the family (at least where I live it's like that for amab people). You're responsible for everything that goes wrong cuz you're the man. The list goes on and on.
@@ethantucker92838 I wish I could yell in Dr. Roberts' face: "Oh yeah? And what would you know about having feelings that refuse to be suppressed? About not being macho?" *SIGH*
@@benlarson307 surgeries require 2 letters from 2 different therapists recommending them, at least for srs/grs at any rate. Even most HRT still requires at least 1 letter. this is not like some minor surgery you can just pay for and have it done the following week. Surgeons wont even see you without at least 1 year of hair removal treatments on your genitals and 1 year minimum of hormone treatments. Boob augmentations require some kind of base breast material to work with requiring either HRT to promote breast development or another medical condition that results in breast development. As i said it isn't a quick process. and just so you know a designer vagina like those of transgender women are anything but mutilated, also just so you know if your circumsized then your genitals are already mutilated.
I don't care if my family won't accept me, when the fact is I didn't ask them too to accept my imperfection's I'll just show my pride🌈 more and more So proud of you girl
Maybe u were a female in your pass life , have I ever heard of reincarnation , there are a lot of things not taught to us , but the truth is out there, it’s just we have to ask the right questions ⚡️🌸🥀🌺
I can relate to this. Also, when I am innocently walking along, I am mindful that my presence may make a lone female nervous. I also reflect and feel that if I walk into a shop and a toddler is stood away from its Mother, she will be sure to be keeping a close eye on the child. These scenarios, whilst I agree completely with people's reactions, make me sad and guilty by gender association.
@@daisyb5646 That's so interesting - so do you think you ftm's still have some maternal instinct, because I know most cis guys wouldn't even notice the toddler, far less be concerned about the mother's reaction to him and if he did he would actually be hoping that the mother pulls the toddler away from him before he's forced to interact with it! The paternal instinct is very weak until you have your own kids.
@@jongood9106 I should have been more specific, I am a male who is very very strongly gender questioning, and know I am really MtF, but do identified with the original post. Even living as a woman, maybe my male body will make people nervous!
I'm a gay cis male, like video games and animes and enjoy talking to children and teens due to the common interest and also understanding views that are totally different from my own, age- and generation-wise. However: I would NEVER just talk to anybody on the street or even invite people over as I'd be mistaken for a potential harrasser, murderer or sth. On the opposite however, it's totally accepted if the female neighbor asked "What are you doing here? Where are your parents?" or shared some lemonade. XD I've also read terrible stories of uncles having a walk with nephews/nieces or gay parents having a good day with their adopted children and getting attacked by people who wanted to punish those "kidnappers". It's sad that lots of people cannot imagine men to be just kind persons.
I have been transitioning for nearly a year now. Before I transitioned, I would do the same thing where I would throw on jeans and a shirt that I liked. But that hasn't really changed after transition. I've got a long skirt that I really like that I wear almost all the time, and I've only got a few different shirts that I wear with that skirt (actually 3 identical ones). I sometimes feel like I should be more into fashion as a woman, but I don't want to let anyone dictate what I should be wearing. Though, if someone wanted to pick out an outfit for me that they think looks good, and I like it, then that would be awesome!
Sexi suzie- i.don know why some female don accept trans as real women like them. I don care about them. I am what i am female with body same as them. Its a world of discrimination but as long as i have the confidence and strong feelings of woman mind.thats ok
How did you act like a boy before the surgery and how did you act like a girl or if you were transgendered? I think a boy who feels like a girl is like a girl, he acts like a girl, he talks and spends more time with girls, etc. A girl who feels like a boy acts like a boy and spends more time with boys. Am i right?
Im 19 and live in the south (sort of) and the political climate is in my opinion more agaisnt the LGBTQ+ community. I still do boy things but more and more I find myself wanting to be a girl. If I came out to my family and friends I would be disgraced. Its sad because I want to be happy. Until I get enough money to move out and live on my own (hopefully far awy from here) I have to be myself in secret. Thanks for the videos, it keeps me inspired to find happiness!😁🌈
about the non consencual touching as a guy working in supermarket with long hair in these days of facemasks i noticed that especialy older man sometimes missgender me. They get suprised when they ask me something in work and realise i am not just a slightly broadsouldered lenky girl but a guy . So yeah palm on my lower back is almost every week. One time this 40 something y.o. guy even got so confused after calling me "miss" while i was bent over and than when up pops my square face he forgot what he even wanted and just left. Guys lets stop and think about how we aproach woman
Videos like this are the most important testimonies to watch to really address gender equality. Who else could possibly really understand the issue better than someone who's lived a long time on both sides of the issue?
I once depended on what people and society wanted me to be like. After a while, I started to notice what was the real challenge for me; I knew something was bothering me, but not that it was living like the wrong gender. When I started facing most social pressure on me, leader me to come out as myself and after a while, I decided to no longer be what people expect me to be. There are still things that give me dysphoria and I want to transition for myself, not for anyone else’s satisfaction 💛
Great points and great video people don’t understand how blessed it is to have live in two worlds being trans is a gift if you’ll perceive it that way...
Thank you for this video! I´m a cis female and I´ve obviously not experienced what you did and this topic is soo interesting yet scary! Especially the harrassing and speaking part. I´ve never thought about the speaking part but people around me tend also to cut me in the middle of talking and it annoyed me back then. Maybe that´s why I talk less now..
When I was male, a lot of people wanted to physically assault me, drunk or otherwise. I was walking at a street, minding my own business, unaware of my surroundings, and suddenly a woman hits me because she thought that I was following her. Males are seen as predators, but do get an insane amount of physical abuse. At the very best company between men can be full of making smart jokes. When I am female, I can smile and be playful with kids (it is almost expected). Men can try to grope or otherwise assault sexually or verbally, but not get into real fistfights. Women can be really jealous, but women also trust, and can be trusted.
i think we should take a page out your book, i' 'm a man and I think we should be more open minded and and allow more things to be acceptable for both.
You're so young and beautiful! I find being an older trans is so much easier to 'pass' as many older people let themselves go,(no offenses)...less pressures for me from 15 years ago..much love always to you and whomever reads this thread!♡(hugs)
O my God, and I thought I was alone cause I feel the same way, I noticed those things as well , I’m in the process of transitioning myself , everything you said was true . Thank you kindly for your words of understanding 💝 they really help me in unexplainable ways
Hip Sister no , everything she said was true I’ve seen and live it , I don’t know where you grew up at but where I’m from you could not show your emotions or cry , I guess that is one of the reasons why men go on a shooting rampage , why because not much help is given to males we are taught to suppress our emotions,if you were raised from a loving family then you are blessed but I feel like I was cursed to by born a male but I will fix the problem or die trying
Hip Sister I have to apologize for coming off rude to you , my life has not been the same since my accident last year, I had a Mid heart attack and had a lobotomy , ever since then it’s been really hard for me , my level of understanding is below average but I’ll find someway to increase my thinking ability, it’s good to have someone to talk to every now and then 👍🏾
Hip Sister that’s not tru I would do just about anything to help women if I can , I have been treated badly because I’m a black male , I can’t call my self a man , that title has to be earned but I am a male who is transition to a half female , could u tell me why is guys have to pay more for everything and why are men more likely to commit suicide than women , are you black or White
Thanks for this Mathilda,As a Transwoman I agree with your observations.At about 9.05 in the video you say that 98 per cent of Violent physical crime is by Men.I remember back in the day on some Radio show,someone stating that 98 percent of Jobs that have high risk of mortality are done by Men to imply that there is a superiority.Most Societies have this unfortunate feature so deeply ingrained,that there is a built in prejudice in the work environment and general things.I have seen some people describe this as “male privilege”.It turns my guts when I hear such things.
Hey everyone, here's a little something I thought about. I watched to the halfway point at which I thought: "Am I going to experience these things too?!? what will be different for me?" I stopped watching because there was a certain curiosity residing in me that wanted to experience this "culture shock" myself for the first time, instead of hearing about them before beginning transition. I'm looking forward to transitioning, getting to know how I will fit into society, yet also feel a ton of stress because of stories such as these. I might revisit this video in a few years, see how things happened and maybe changed?? We'll see...
I just started watching this. The emotional differences are astounding. I have started transitioning in subtle non medical ways. I already find I am very emotional. I do take finasteride. My estrogen is already above normal for a guy.
Another difference between men and women is that women experience more intense pressure to look young. I've heard so many times that a woman's value starts diminishing after 25, that we should basically step aside after 40, and that men age like wine while we age like milk. The media always describes attractive men celebrities over 50 as sexy and good-looking, but women celebrities of that age don't get the same description. Instead, they write, ''She looks so good for her age/she looks youthful/she looks like she's still 25''. These perceptions and attitudes are so unfair and make it challenging for us to accept aging because we feel like we won't matter to anyone after a certain age and that no one will find us desirable. I'm sure men don't experience this problem at the same level as us.
I’ll say as a woman dating is A LOT easier. I get a lot more attention as a woman. Yes, the attention isn’t always wanted, but I find it’s better to get a ton of attention and get to choose, than going half a year or so not getting any attention at all.
Hello Mathilda. I think that you are a very brave and understanding young woman. And I thank you for helping others who have also had this change in his or her life. It's important to have someone who understands. Who can help with just going on with every day living without feeling that, that person isn't alone and feels lost. So I thank you for all your help. Because I feel not enough people are willing to step up with a helping hand. Please keep up the good work that you are doing. God bless.
I loved this, and have been thinking about these things as well! It all comes down to lived experiences and perception. As a tall trans woman, I don't often get helped, but I do get people holding the door more for me, or letting me go first. As for the being allowed to take up a certain amount of space, vocally speaking, it's 100% true. I can only get maybe 1 statement in (on average), and then someone is automatically taking what I said and running the conversation in a completely different direction. Before, people would just listen to me speak, and reply. The same goes for physical space/seating, but I feel it's more internal that I try to be more feminine and compact; like on a plane. As for beauty standards... GIRL don't even get me started!... Thanks for sharing Mathilda! I may make a video talking about these things as well. Hugs! 💖
Mathilda, every video of yours that I watch leaves me as “either I want to be a girl or I want to be a girl”. Just... thank you. From the bottom of my testosterone-filled heart.
7:17 As a completely straight male I can say that if guys (males) *around* your age are helping you a lot, it's *both* because they care about people in general and cuz they're attracted to you.
@@papagal2553 I'm a lesbian and I can honestly say the same. She's just REALLY pretty, you know? :D People tend to pay extra attention and be nicer to people they are attracted to.
i wanna know this to, im slowly transitoning right now im growing out my hair at the very least i think imma own being a girl while being a boy i dont really know what im doing im just kinda there lol.
Finding yourself is one of the most important journeys a person can take. My only advice is to be careful. Consider your sexuality while you consider your gender. Homosexuals are by far the largest group of people that regret transitioning. I'm not suggesting this is you, only that you be aware of this possibility.
I think with guys, they tend to get more annoyed if you offer help And that's not just guys, a friend of mine (who's a girl) gets annoyed when people offer to help her Idk, I'm presenting as a guy now (I've not started my transistion) and people offer me help if they see me struggling
I was sexually harassed by both boys and girls as an adolescent and women and men as an adult,I think pheromones played a part and still do because my sex chromosomes are XXY, all my life I spent defending my turf it was always being taken and made smaller and every one would talk over me or tell me to shut up,I'm 66 years old and a year and a half in transition and I can cry again and laugh uncontrollably,I think my destination is some where between fully male and fully female ,I was born that way,and the doctors thought they "repaired" me and thought I was "all boy",how you explained your journey the part about your space and talking really opened my eyes to my whole life,I knew I was different at 4 years old trans when I was 15 and XXY when I was 60, I've been in between my whole life thank you for this revelation,but I have chosen womanhood it's a better fit even though I am 6 feet 5 inches tall and I love pumps but few make them in size 18,OMG LOL. I'm going to ring the bell ,the God of my understanding led to this channel and I'm glad he did CIAO.
You are brave to allow comments, all the others I've seen don't. You are a very beautiful woman! Glad you don't use profanity in your speech! I'm a hedero male, but I have empathy! I have helped some women escape abusive husbands and then became a target myself, they can be miserable!
This is one of the points to which Intersex and transgender individuals both have in common, living as both women and men. In transgender individuals, unless they have sex reassignment surgery, can live as both, depending upon which and when. As for intersex individuals, myself included, we live as both women and men simultaneously, unless we choose the transgender route, which I personally have not. Gender fluidity is natural for most intersex individuals, so I strongly applaud anyone who realizes that they were born transgender, and then chose to live as the gender they identify with. Intersex and transgender individuals have so much in common that to distinguish between them is to make a non-distinction. I really enjoyed your video very much, thank you for filming this video.
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I found this video very educating as a trans woman. The things discussed weren't biased but is the truth and I also didnt know about some of these things and I appreciate how much you are you for others as it does take alot of energy to do this and Thank you so much ❤
This video is so amazing and informative. I am just beginning my gender fluidity and I am now excited to see all these changes! Also I love your sense of humor Mathilda and you are so pretty and have a beautiful smile. I relate to you a lot and thank you for this channel💕
Also trans. Men feel a societal pressure to help women. If you're a man and there is a women who looks like she needs help, if you don't respond, it's looked down upon. Sometimes I'm sure it's because they are attracted to you, but I would say most of the time it's the societal pressure. Also, living as a man I never felt like it was bad for me to ask help. Living as a woman it feels about the same, although when people do help they seem "happier" to do so. I guess our experiences are different for that! But definitely men will try to help or explain things to me that I already know, and it's kind of unfortunate because it makes me feel like they think less of my abilities. I know it's usually because they want to impress me, but sometimes it's because they see themselves as better, and that's unfortunate.
I’m trans too and I’ve had very similar experiences! Men especially seem to want to help me more easily but it definitely comes over that they think I’m less able and inferior. I find I’m often not listened to and have to wait for a man to reiterate my point, which is infuriating! But also people in general and especially other women are much more open with me which I’ve found rather lovely.
The next 50-60/70 years on earth as a woman will be as a woman, so you better remain pretty as a young woman and be the girl everyone can see in you sweetie, you're postop and in a relationship, keep him girl and love your new life with your new look and NEVER be unhappy and be lost
To put it another way, ou kind of look very damselly and to most guys, you kind of present as a helpless broad in some pics of yours...so yeah sweetie, thats what you get coming from androgynous boy and going to gorgeous girl, every man WANTS to save the princess and a lot of guys want to be your prince...take you by your hand and carry you to safety or pick you up and do that, cause you are VERY pretty and guys WANT to pamper pretty girls
She seriously looks and sounds like a CIS female. I would not believe her that she's trans 🥰 also I love you said "It's not your choice." Bc sure we could not shave or do our hair or do our makeup but we already get shamed doing those things (even as cis women) and if we aren't up to society's beauty standards we would and have been made fun of, and have been harassed or assulted and yes we go thru a lot. Respect women and men!
Thank you for giving us insights that very few of us have! It is a sad sorry that you were treated differently (having space, being listened to) when you became a woman. That at a time when in many countries 'women are half of the students (or even more) so the competency is there but is underutilized by society! Only an insight like yours (and I have heard it also from other trans women) tell us how unfair society still is and how much each of us needs to change!
I’m a trans girl as well But I feel like ALOT of this is much more reliant on a person’s personality than their gender As a guy I was extremely emotional also, and would break down and cry about something like my computer crashing or silly things And also get extremely happy about something small
I'm amab and I think probably transfemme, and while it is socially acceptable where I am to be like that, my brain won't let me, like I only get to experience the free version of emotions and can't.. I'll be lying in bed and trying to cry just to feel but even with the saddest music I can just barely feel. and I want to be all giddy about little things but my brain won't let me
Weew, I didn't know about all this. And yes, it makes me sad. I'm definitely one of the nice guys. I want to make women laugh. I'd do anything to see the beautiful smile of a woman. That's what I love about being a clown. I mean, I'm a clown by profession, I might not be that professional, but I'm funny..... I think..... maybe. I wanted to thank you for helping me to understand women more. That's important to me. And it makes it easier to make a woman happy.
What you said in the first part ...I was raise differently I am aloud to feel and cry when something heart me....and I feel thing deeper inside....I would help you out of respect...I would never call you names,,,,I think you are a Beautiful person.... I think some of it is depends on where you live I don’t care about make up on a woman I want her all natural a little make up not a lot that’s me.... and you are right about some things about society... and I’m glad you’re telling every about your experiences keep doing a good job.....
Male never need help if they are meant to be emotionally protective and physically strong and tall MASCULINE And for females who need help because, as a feminine personality, it makes sense to be a female who meant to be physically, small, weak and emotionally nurturing! FEMININE You may look female, but do you feel feminine? You are a female, and you are feminine! Positive, happy, proud, caring, and like being her! 🥹🥰💝
It would be neat to hear the same comparison from MtF trans folks in different age brackets and geographies. Mathilda - do you think you could find other MtF girls and do interviews to get their perceptions?
You should listen to this one trans woman named Paula on Ted Talks. She transitioned later in life, and she talks about her experiences as a man turned woman. It's really moving and hilarious at times, I highly recommend watching it! (I don't remember her full name, but she's got curly brown hair and she's wearing a red blouse(?) in the video)
I hate myself. You are the best transition i ever saw. And i am 30 starting. And so i don't have to be afraid that something socially will change. I imagine noone will accept me AS women. So i am out of changes.
I know its easier said then done depending on how old you are and what financial position your in since getting out of a situation can mean needing to physically move to another town, but if you have male parts and want to cry... cry. Men don't HAVE to not cry, there's just people (people whose opinions aren't worth valuing) who will judge them for doing so, but as noted in that sentence, by virtue of imposing such a restriction on you, they demonstrate that they aren't worth pleasing by acting in the way they want you to act based on your genitalia. Same with how you want to dress, talk, etc. These aren't differences between boys and girls, boys can be cute, beautiful, quick to cry, quick to laugh, etc, these are just arbitrary restrictions some pitiable people in our communities try to enforce on other through shame, likely as a result of personal shame they themselves feel. The same is true for the reverse, women can just put on a shirt and pants and go out, the people who would pressure or shame you for doing so are the ones we should feel sorry for, not empower. You CAN be accepted as a girl with out doing the things the human sludge of our society wants you to do, but there is effort required on your part to surround yourself with people who respect other humans right to dress and act as they wish as long as they are not harmining some one else in the process. So in that regard, to 5:05, it IS your own choice, there are consequences to every choice we make, but you don't have to let others make that choice for you. You will definitely hear mean things in some communities, but if you do I recommend either rallying the quiet majority to shame THEM for trying to shame you, or if people like them prove to be the majority, then I recommend leaving that community and searching for ones that aren't like that. I know it can be easy to feel like every community is like our current one, but having lived all over the US over the course of my life I can say that is definitely not the case. So I guess my point isn't that what this video is saying isn't true, it DEFINITELY is in some communities, I'm just trying to note that its not true of all communities, and if you want to be a boy who wears skirts and openly cries or a girl who is allowed to talk as much as the boys, I highly encourage to seek out the communities who have begun the long hard work or confronting those who in many other communities allow this kind of sexism to be perpetuated.
When I was 18 a person explained that men think in paragraphs, in order one at a time. Womens brains are more like a bowl of spaghetti, you could feel something soft and oh it's soft like puppies but wait my dog died last year now I'm crying but crying reminds me of ice cream now I'm happy And I thought.. But I think like that, took me 5 more years to figure myself out
It is really like that, tho ? Certains mans thinks in the "bowl of spaghetti" style (like me) and that's not really uncommon, I believe. Same for girls, I guess.
I've been watching lots of FTM videos lately and now YT has recommended this one to me. So I'm just curious: have you received hormone suppressants as a teenager? I mean, it's just amazing you probably can go stealth all day long and your voice doesn't out you right away. 😃 Anyways: nice video! Those are impressions that literally most people on earth cannot judge firsthand.
hay I'm a transgender men to women and I love my self because I've been going this sine I was 5 years old and came out this year because I new as it was not a thing yet but now I'm happier to come out on Facebook and I listen to u on UA-cam and u give me advice that I didn't know I would know because of what you have been saying lately and all what you've been saying is lovely and it's been helping me get through what I need to go Dawn track and I was so bullied and now its less so thank u :)
Good video. Your point are very well put. I am male and get so pissed off when men objectify women and say rude things. Harassment just makes all men look bad. Also, it makes women paranoid or suspicious of all men. Now there is a war on men and I think it started with male misbehavior.
I Toally agree Mathilda im a Trans woman also and have seen huge differences un myself and how im treated, looked at and spoken to s8nce i became Mia i have had more eyes xheck me out as a woman then i ever did in the 36 yrs as a man
MTF here. I had an appointment that was scheduled for 3-23-2020 and now it's been pushed back to July because of the pandemic. I didn't wait for FOUR MONTHS just to wait more! I'm American and my insurance covers HRT, blood work, psychotherapy, and bottom surgery; I made the call to the endocrinologist in November. There is no reason why there should be long wait times for anybody. That isn't "life". It's torture. The Hippocratic Oath says to do no harm, and waiting lists are harmful to us trans people.
@kloic 1 Yeah, honestly you are right; but, in practice, I care for the safety of others only if I am safe as well. This isn't how it should be, but... it's hard to change. So, as an example, if I had to choose between killing a million people and dying instantly, I would kill a million people. Sorry, but I am a bit selfish and I am afraid of death... :(
@kloic 1 I also think that we should wait for after the pandemy until we can go outside of our homes to do anything that isn't essential for surviving. People's lives aren't a joke or a toy for anyone to play with... But I don't get what you mean with luxury... I mean, sorry if I got what you said wrong, but although transitioning isn't essential for surving at all (which means that we all need to wait until we go out to do any of stweps for it), it is _an important step to trangender people_ for achieving happiness. It isn't like buying jewlery or a new top-level computer (I don't know if that's what you meant by "luxury" or not, sorry if it wasn't); it's an end-goal for life, (more-or-less) like finishing college...
@kloic 1(The reply I made to you is apparently gone for god knows which reasons so I'll have to write everything again, RIP) Transgender people in Africa probably suffer a lot and I bet most of them end up killing themselves sooner or later if they can't get out of their continent to transition (and obviously, most of them can't). The problem is, the suicide attempt ratio ratio among transgender people is much, much higher than among general people - most of us end up feeling _so bad_ due to dysphoria we just don't know what do anymore; and although depression and suicide also happens among other people due to a variety of other life issues, _it doesn't happen quite as often._ According to this website: www.befrienders.org/suicide-statistics, about 16 people commit suicide per 100 thousand people among general population, and the suicide attempt ratio is about 20 times higher than actual suicide ratio. This means that about 320 people attempt suicide per 100 thousand people, which results in a suicide attempt ratio of about 0.32% _However,_ according to _this_ website: www.suicideinfo.ca/resource/transgender-people-suicide/, the suicide attempt ratio among transgender people is estimated to be within the range of 22% - 43%. Comparing this to the 0.32% suicide attempt ratio for the general population, _this means that transgender people are at least about *68 times* and up to about *134 times* more likely to attempt suicide than the general population... So this is why, at least in my eyes, transitioning isn't nearly as urgent as buying food or treating serious health issues, but it also isn't nearly as dispensable as buying your own house.
A big reason I am transgender is because society doesn't give men as much freedom as women. Also, I wouldn't really say that all boys can be out the door in a second and can talk over people and get more space. I know for me I take a little bit more preparation to be ready than most boys, also if someone starts talking while I am talking I can't talk over them, I just quiet down. And for me, my sister is actually the one who is the space hogger. I normally take up a small amount of space.
I can honestly say that I gained a lot of wisdom from taking birth control a few times , it made me feel alive which made me understand I was emotional dead almost like being reborn, now I understand now it was wrong way to do this , taking birth control is very dangerous which I will not do again , I understand now that I need estrogen and progesterone to transition properly.
Jenna Herman I can honestly say that I welcome the change because being a male is kind of depressing, I notice how men don’t receive much help on anything except when there are being released from prison or jail I chose to be a transgender female because of the unfair Standards between men & women and plus I would never have a female say that I tried to rape her , the testosterone blocker pretty much killed my abilities to get a erection , I never got excited about buying underwear Until I bought some lady’s underwear and bra’s especially thongs 🥰👙👸🏾
@@jcm973 well due to the fact i started in my late 30's body shape hasnt shifted much, mostly due to a loss of muscle mass is the major thing i noticed i am slimmer though less masculine and bulky but i was never really blessed/cursed with a large muscle mass anyway. Other than that i noticed a softening of facial features making me look much younger than i actually am but i had a baby face to begin with as well. a thickening of my hair was also noticable to others but its still thin compared to what i had in my 20's. genital shrinking is another thing i noticed relatively quickly, i am now almost completely atrophied and their was some erectile pain at first (maybe 6 months). Shaved body hair returned thinner and lighter over time, but i also waxed from time to time to remove hair follicles too so that could have helped speed the process. small breasts developed over time with a good build up of estrogen, as of now i am literally just shy of a B cup, and i noticed the largest gain (and pain) after adding the progesterone to the mix. Behavior wise i havent noticed much, other than i have more difficulty controlling my emotions now, and cry about things i never use to. the depression seems to follow a strange pattern rather than just being constant. And i have started to see guys as potential lovers rather than just friends but that is a recent development and its not every guy either just some here and there (i also have 2 pregnant friends and my hormones could be feeling envious and making me want guys more for reproduction but i dont know for sure!). I also see women not just as friends and potential girlfriends/lovers but i can look at her and really honestly compliment her on a something without it feeling sexual in some way, i got a friend who has on point eyebrows and eye makeup and tell her i wish mine looked as good!!
@@jcm973 I didnt choose to be transgender, i have always wished i was a girl all the way back to age 7 or so. it has caused me so many problems trying to fit in as a male against my nature that i basically programmed my brain to always be depressed and seek solitude, even though i desire interactions with others. I have tried to end my suffering since age 10, so 30 years i have lived despite multiple failed attempts at suicide.
most things I hear here is pretty much describing me even though im still a boy like yes im want to change body but sometimes it feels like my brain has never been male
you are right in some points ...it is all very interpretative ... it all depends on your feelings and point of view ... men do cry , can get help ... can suffer harassment , can not be allowed to show their opinion , fell pressure about their appearance .... i believe it’s more a matter of individuality then gender ... i love your videos mathilda
Well, also as Girls, lots are called Tomboys, because they like masculine things, but often guys are also ridiculed for even acting feminine. So the discrimination goes both ways.
Even your mannerisms are really dainty and girly and wifey and motherly like "we don't want to be sad...no...no...no" and every guy sees you and only sees mathilda and thinks "what a endearing girly girl, with a cute accent and a sweet smile and luscious hair". Screams or oozes "girl! Girl! Girl!" And you melt any guys heart and finding a man will be way easier since going postop
Living as a boy I noticed that men talk about women like if they are objects for their satisfaction. In my country this is very common and I feel very sad and scared of go to the street wearing a shorts or a dress or a simple pair of jeans. I can see faces but not intentions. That's so sad... 😥
Well, girls certainly aren't supposed to express anger like men - and that's a good thing. Most men are a terror when truly angry. But the statement hold true: hell has no fury like a woman scorned. Men learn this truth then learn to fear it.
Rachael Platt I didn’t say “not supposed to express anger like men” I said they’re not supposed to express any anger. Which is a bad thing. And no not all men learn that. Men still try to suppress women and their anger all the fucking time. Stop trying to paint a rosy picture
Both of y'all are liars. I've lived in different states and its the same. Females show their anger ALL THE TIME. This mythical place of oppression y'all living in is total bullcrap. Women get applauded for domestic violence against men and get more lenient consequences everywhere I look some female calls herself a crazy b**ch especially white girls. Stop with the false narratives slowly but surely more and more people are taking the RED PILL and realizing feminist lies hell I just asked my two home girls were they feminists and THEY BOTH SAID HELL NAW!!!
I can understand this because I am a men who cross dresses hair. I have to really care about my hair a lot. My favorite hair style lasts only a few hours
You make strong arguments in your observations that we need to chill out a lot more - difficult to live up to that, but this why we should for the following reason . As women mature they reach a time and place where they precise they are no longer noticed. It is a perception based on some reality , but it does not have to define them, which it does for some . I believe this is because of our celebrity of youth and prettiness we see in models and advertising . If we were committed to a more equal society then we would be more dismissive of expecting girls and young women having to look a certain way and identically the same for boys and young men too. I think a move to a non gender school uniform might play a part in correcting this, which could result in summer both boys and girls wearing kilts or skirts and in winter trousers say. We if could move away from makeup and reserved it for special occasions and encouraged guys to use products to look after their skin , all that would help . Girls can be strong and boys weak , but it does not have to define their gender. In short, we should be looking more at the person and the contribution they bring to any relationship over that of appearance in general . None of this will happen over night, but it will gradually if we keep chipping away at some of these out of date prescriptions we have created in society . A lovely video and very informative. You did a fantastic job here. Bravo !
I do understand the harassment stuff because I am a guy and I have a trans friend that some people would just say bad things about them and it was not fun
jcm973 plenty of reasons for that the biggest one over arching the rest is that men are expected to succeed and provide and are held to a very high standard regarding everything apart from looks, which is more prevelant among women. There is definitely an evolutionary reason for this too. Both attempt suicide about the same but men also are far more likely to commit suicide to kill themselves and thus go for the most lethal approach, while for women they have other reasons and like to romanticize it which for example is an overdose on sleeping pills, which has like a 6 percent chance of death
1:50 when you said it affects your emotions as well, does that include sense of humor? My sister is trans and she runs a meme review channel of her own, and she doesn't want her sense of humor to change too much
can we also talk about the huge pressure on trans women to be extra feminine? like if any slight and natural masculinity is shown (that all cis women show) were instantly told it’s because we’re trans and we’re not “real women” and bla bla bla
not to mention feminine boys who are pushed to be trans. What's awful is that the people who do this always want gender roles collapsed.
if you dont like to be feminine, just stay as a boy ;) , be consistent
@@papagal2553 masculine women exist? I doubt you've ever met one but women aren't always glad to be the soft uwu type
Surprising the amount of cis women that are on that train
Papa Gal your name is literally papa gal ... tf you on
This is what makes me scared about becoming a woman. I'm super scared about how people treat me. Right now, I'm just a basic guy, that most don't care to notice. But as a girl, I wouldn't be able to go anywhere alone without putting myself in some kind of danger, and I'm an extreme loner/introvert :( so having no friends to back me up is the norm.
:(
Sometimes it's not about safety, it's about being who you REALLY are!
Are you happy the way you are? Like Honestly Happy? be honest with yourself on this one it's the MOST important question to ask yourself.
AJ don’t do it because I know you just want to use it as an escape but trust me when I say this if you do this you will go further into the darkness
@@eesakhan7837 dude what do you even mean?
im here,i too am a mtf
Thank you for this video. I have heard trans men say that after they start to pass as men people laugh louder at their jokes, listen more to them, speak over them way less, they get treated as though they are smarter than they did before....trans people have a unique perspective on gender inequality.
But you are leaving out the bad parts, suddenly their feelings aren't validated anymore, and they are told to suck it up and are thought of as weak when showing emotion or asking for help. Also suddenly the warm universal support blanket is gone and people treat you as a threat and bar you from women and childrens' spaces.
Yup! That's what's going on up in here. 🎉 Life as Mike rocks and Misty's life was (swearword here)
Too many unrealistic expectations for both genders.
Example?
@@dr.martinlroberts1908 "boys dont cry"
@@dr.martinlroberts1908
Man up.
You should be the lord of the family (at least where I live it's like that for amab people).
You're responsible for everything that goes wrong cuz you're the man.
The list goes on and on.
@@ethantucker92838 I wish I could yell in Dr. Roberts' face: "Oh yeah? And what would you know about having feelings that refuse to be suppressed? About not being macho?" *SIGH*
Definitely. It’s hard to be a woman, it’s hard to be a man....it’s just hard.
I've been questioning my gender and it's honestly videos like this that are helping me figure things out
Ned Flanders I couldn’t agree more
Yes same.
Ned Flanders how often do you think about being on the bottom? Do you know what that is?
@@benlarson307 don't worry. I'm not rash enough to make a decision like that without a professional opinion
@@benlarson307 surgeries require 2 letters from 2 different therapists recommending them, at least for srs/grs at any rate. Even most HRT still requires at least 1 letter. this is not like some minor surgery you can just pay for and have it done the following week. Surgeons wont even see you without at least 1 year of hair removal treatments on your genitals and 1 year minimum of hormone treatments. Boob augmentations require some kind of base breast material to work with requiring either HRT to promote breast development or another medical condition that results in breast development.
As i said it isn't a quick process. and just so you know a designer vagina like those of transgender women are anything but mutilated, also just so you know if your circumsized then your genitals are already mutilated.
I don't care if my family won't accept me, when the fact is I didn't ask them too to accept my imperfection's
I'll just show my pride🌈 more and more
So proud of you girl
Mmhmm, you got that right~ 😌
Be prideful, Benben~; so proud of you~ ☺️☺️
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You're so beautiful, and the experience you're sharing with us is amazing. Thank you for inspiring us, and keep strong girl!
He's not a girl.
I stumbled into your video from the algorithms. This is a good video. I hope you keep talking about the hard subjects.
Be well.
sometimes I wish I was born as a female
you might be trans then. and that's ok
Rabbid Rabb I wish I was born a female also , because being a male is heartbreaking
Maybe u were a female in your pass life , have I ever heard of reincarnation , there are a lot of things not taught to us , but the truth is out there, it’s just we have to ask the right questions ⚡️🌸🥀🌺
@@jcm973 perhaps
For me its the opposite..
I’m ftm, and one thing I’ve noticed is that some stores act like I’m a potential shoplifter now. Never happened before my transition
I can relate to this. Also, when I am innocently walking along, I am mindful that my presence may make a lone female nervous. I also reflect and feel that if I walk into a shop and a toddler is stood away from its Mother, she will be sure to be keeping a close eye on the child. These scenarios, whilst I agree completely with people's reactions, make me sad and guilty by gender association.
@@daisyb5646 That's so interesting - so do you think you ftm's still have some maternal instinct, because I know most cis guys wouldn't even notice the toddler, far less be concerned about the mother's reaction to him and if he did he would actually be hoping that the mother pulls the toddler away from him before he's forced to interact with it! The paternal instinct is very weak until you have your own kids.
Also nobody offers you help and are annoyed if you ask for help
@@jongood9106 I should have been more specific, I am a male who is very very strongly gender questioning, and know I am really MtF, but do identified with the original post. Even living as a woman, maybe my male body will make people nervous!
I'm a gay cis male, like video games and animes and enjoy talking to children and teens due to the common interest and also understanding views that are totally different from my own, age- and generation-wise. However: I would NEVER just talk to anybody on the street or even invite people over as I'd be mistaken for a potential harrasser, murderer or sth. On the opposite however, it's totally accepted if the female neighbor asked "What are you doing here? Where are your parents?" or shared some lemonade. XD
I've also read terrible stories of uncles having a walk with nephews/nieces or gay parents having a good day with their adopted children and getting attacked by people who wanted to punish those "kidnappers". It's sad that lots of people cannot imagine men to be just kind persons.
Because your inner self becomes more transparent as your soul is haapy to show itself
I have been transitioning for nearly a year now. Before I transitioned, I would do the same thing where I would throw on jeans and a shirt that I liked. But that hasn't really changed after transition. I've got a long skirt that I really like that I wear almost all the time, and I've only got a few different shirts that I wear with that skirt (actually 3 identical ones). I sometimes feel like I should be more into fashion as a woman, but I don't want to let anyone dictate what I should be wearing. Though, if someone wanted to pick out an outfit for me that they think looks good, and I like it, then that would be awesome!
Sexi suzie- i.don know why some female don accept trans as real women like them. I don care about them. I am what i am female with body same as them. Its a world of discrimination but as long as
i have the confidence and strong feelings of woman mind.thats ok
How did you act like a boy before the surgery and how did you act like a girl or if you were transgendered? I think a boy who feels like a girl is like a girl, he acts like a girl, he talks and spends more time with girls, etc. A girl who feels like a boy acts like a boy and spends more time with boys. Am i right?
Im 19 and live in the south (sort of) and the political climate is in my opinion more agaisnt the LGBTQ+ community. I still do boy things but more and more I find myself wanting to be a girl. If I came out to my family and friends I would be disgraced. Its sad because I want to be happy. Until I get enough money to move out and live on my own (hopefully far awy from here) I have to be myself in secret.
Thanks for the videos, it keeps me inspired to find happiness!😁🌈
about the non consencual touching as a guy working in supermarket with long hair in these days of facemasks i noticed that especialy older man sometimes missgender me. They get suprised when they ask me something in work and realise i am not just a slightly broadsouldered lenky girl but a guy . So yeah palm on my lower back is almost every week. One time this 40 something y.o. guy even got so confused after calling me "miss" while i was bent over and than when up pops my square face he forgot what he even wanted and just left. Guys lets stop and think about how we aproach woman
Videos like this are the most important testimonies to watch to really address gender equality. Who else could possibly really understand the issue better than someone who's lived a long time on both sides of the issue?
I once depended on what people and society wanted me to be like. After a while, I started to notice what was the real challenge for me; I knew something was bothering me, but not that it was living like the wrong gender. When I started facing most social pressure on me, leader me to come out as myself and after a while, I decided to no longer be what people expect me to be. There are still things that give me dysphoria and I want to transition for myself, not for anyone else’s satisfaction 💛
Great points and great video people don’t understand how blessed it is to have live in two worlds being trans is a gift if you’ll perceive it that way...
Wow Kimberly. Seeing your profile Pic your eyebrows look amazing!!! Will you have a Mtf video too?😊🙂🌺
Nosredna been debating that and thanks for the compliment 🙋♀️💗💫
@@BETHMORNINGSTAR 🙂👍
@@BETHMORNINGSTAR Hey again Kimberly. Might you have instagram or Twitter? Sorry, it's just you photo looking at it again looks so familiar!
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Thank you for this video!
I´m a cis female and I´ve obviously not experienced what you did and this topic is soo interesting yet scary!
Especially the harrassing and speaking part.
I´ve never thought about the speaking part but people around me tend also to cut me in the middle of talking and it annoyed me back then. Maybe that´s why I talk less now..
说得特别好，男生得情绪也值得尊重，也要被鼓励表达自己的情感。人们女孩子的外表也要尊重，素颜不应该被视为不正常。 总之，男女平等不止是一种权利的观念，更应该是对男女刻板认知的打破。
Thank you for this and for sharing openly about your experience. As a trans woman myself, I can totally relate 1000% 🤗 SO TRUE!! 🔥🔥
When I was male, a lot of people wanted to physically assault me, drunk or otherwise. I was walking at a street, minding my own business, unaware of my surroundings, and suddenly a woman hits me because she thought that I was following her. Males are seen as predators, but do get an insane amount of physical abuse. At the very best company between men can be full of making smart jokes.
When I am female, I can smile and be playful with kids (it is almost expected). Men can try to grope or otherwise assault sexually or verbally, but not get into real fistfights. Women can be really jealous, but women also trust, and can be trusted.
i think we should take a page out your book, i' 'm a man and I think we should be more open minded and and allow more things to be acceptable for both.
You're so young and beautiful! I find being an older trans is so much easier to 'pass' as many older people let themselves go,(no offenses)...less pressures for me from 15 years ago..much love always to you and whomever reads this thread!♡(hugs)
Im a guy and im very emontional and im crying very often
tomek wariat so what is the problem?
get some real guys as friends, find your masculinity, stop crying, its not solving anything
@Monitory Report no. theres nothing wrong with crying. its a very good release actually, much better than bottling up your emotions :)
@Monitory Report nope, theres nothing wrong with crying
@Monitory Report awwwwww does that hurt your fragile masculinity
With a girl name and voice I’m mistaken for a female on the phone. It’s hard to explain the difference but men are sensitive about their privilege.
O my God, and I thought I was alone cause I feel the same way, I noticed those things as well , I’m in the process of transitioning myself , everything you said was true . Thank you kindly for your words of understanding 💝 they really help me in unexplainable ways
Hip Sister no , everything she said was true I’ve seen and live it , I don’t know where you grew up at but where I’m from you could not show your emotions or cry , I guess that is one of the reasons why men go on a shooting rampage , why because not much help is given to males we are taught to suppress our emotions,if you were raised from a loving family then you are blessed but I feel like I was cursed to by born a male but I will fix the problem or die trying
Hip Sister I have to apologize for coming off rude to you , my life has not been the same since my accident last year, I had a Mid heart attack and had a lobotomy , ever since then it’s been really hard for me , my level of understanding is below average but I’ll find someway to increase my thinking ability, it’s good to have someone to talk to every now and then 👍🏾
Hip Sister that’s not tru I would do just about anything to help women if I can , I have been treated badly because I’m a black male , I can’t call my self a man , that title has to be earned but I am a male who is transition to a half female , could u tell me why is guys have to pay more for everything and why are men more likely to commit suicide than women , are you black or White
Thanks for this Mathilda,As a Transwoman I agree with your observations.At about 9.05 in the video you say that 98 per cent of Violent physical crime is by Men.I remember back in the day on some Radio show,someone stating that 98 percent of Jobs that have high risk of mortality are done by Men to imply that there is a superiority.Most Societies have this unfortunate feature so deeply ingrained,that there is a built in prejudice in the work environment and general things.I have seen some people describe this as “male privilege”.It turns my guts when I hear such things.
Hey everyone, here's a little something I thought about. I watched to the halfway point at which I thought: "Am I going to experience these things too?!? what will be different for me?" I stopped watching because there was a certain curiosity residing in me that wanted to experience this "culture shock" myself for the first time, instead of hearing about them before beginning transition. I'm looking forward to transitioning, getting to know how I will fit into society, yet also feel a ton of stress because of stories such as these. I might revisit this video in a few years, see how things happened and maybe changed?? We'll see...
I just started watching this. The emotional differences are astounding. I have started transitioning in subtle non medical ways. I already find I am very emotional. I do take finasteride. My estrogen is already above normal for a guy.
Another difference between men and women is that women experience more intense pressure to look young. I've heard so many times that a woman's value starts diminishing after 25, that we should basically step aside after 40, and that men age like wine while we age like milk. The media always describes attractive men celebrities over 50 as sexy and good-looking, but women celebrities of that age don't get the same description. Instead, they write, ''She looks so good for her age/she looks youthful/she looks like she's still 25''.
These perceptions and attitudes are so unfair and make it challenging for us to accept aging because we feel like we won't matter to anyone after a certain age and that no one will find us desirable. I'm sure men don't experience this problem at the same level as us.
I’ll say as a woman dating is A LOT easier. I get a lot more attention as a woman. Yes, the attention isn’t always wanted, but I find it’s better to get a ton of attention and get to choose, than going half a year or so not getting any attention at all.
Hello Mathilda. I think that you are a very brave and understanding young woman. And I thank you for helping others who have also had this change in his or her life. It's important to have someone who understands. Who can help with just going on with every day living without feeling that, that person isn't alone and feels lost. So I thank you for all your help. Because I feel not enough people are willing to step up with a helping hand. Please keep up the good work that you are doing. God bless.
I loved this, and have been thinking about these things as well!
It all comes down to lived experiences and perception. As a tall trans woman, I don't often get helped, but I do get people holding the door more for me, or letting me go first. As for the being allowed to take up a certain amount of space, vocally speaking, it's 100% true. I can only get maybe 1 statement in (on average), and then someone is automatically taking what I said and running the conversation in a completely different direction. Before, people would just listen to me speak, and reply. The same goes for physical space/seating, but I feel it's more internal that I try to be more feminine and compact; like on a plane. As for beauty standards... GIRL don't even get me started!...
Thanks for sharing Mathilda! I may make a video talking about these things as well. Hugs! 💖
Hey how tall are you?
@@nosredna9647 6'
@@AvaLynn808 Wow! I'm 5' 7". I would have to tip toe to get to your lips. 😊 Sorry if I'm too forward!
@@nosredna9647 what the fuck
@@AvaLynn808 Are you From Ohio
Mathilda, every video of yours that I watch leaves me as “either I want to be a girl or I want to be a girl”. Just... thank you. From the bottom of my testosterone-filled heart.
So the videos are making you confused. Nice.
@@edwardherrera846 Confusion is often the first step to clarity.. 😉
You're a generous and incandescent soul for sharing your experience so bravely and openly ♥️
Thank you for this channel!
7:17 As a completely straight male I can say that if guys (males) *around* your age are helping you a lot, it's *both* because they care about people in general and cuz they're attracted to you.
the guys are just blended by the looks of him/her and want to bang :D
@@papagal2553 I'm a lesbian and I can honestly say the same. She's just REALLY pretty, you know? :D People tend to pay extra attention and be nicer to people they are attracted to.
it's pretty privilege rather than a women thing, i think
i wanna know this to, im slowly transitoning right now im growing out my hair at the very least i think imma own being a girl while being a boy i dont really know what im doing im just kinda there lol.
Finding yourself is one of the most important journeys a person can take. My only advice is to be careful. Consider your sexuality while you consider your gender.
Homosexuals are by far the largest group of people that regret transitioning. I'm not suggesting this is you, only that you be aware of this possibility.
I think with guys, they tend to get more annoyed if you offer help
And that's not just guys, a friend of mine (who's a girl) gets annoyed when people offer to help her
Idk, I'm presenting as a guy now (I've not started my transistion) and people offer me help if they see me struggling
I was sexually harassed by both boys and girls as an adolescent and women and men as an adult,I think pheromones played a part and still do because my sex chromosomes are XXY, all my life I spent defending my turf it was always being taken and made smaller and every one would talk over me or tell me to shut up,I'm 66 years old and a year and a half in transition and I can cry again and laugh uncontrollably,I think my destination is some where between fully male and fully female ,I was born that way,and the doctors thought they "repaired" me and thought I was "all boy",how you explained your journey the part about your space and talking really opened my eyes to my whole life,I knew I was different at 4 years old trans when I was 15 and XXY when I was 60, I've been in between my whole life thank you for this revelation,but I have chosen womanhood it's a better fit even though I am 6 feet 5 inches tall and I love pumps but few make them in size 18,OMG LOL. I'm going to ring the bell ,the God of my understanding led to this channel and I'm glad he did CIAO.
amazing content
You are brave to allow comments, all the others I've seen don't. You are a very beautiful woman! Glad you don't use profanity in your speech! I'm a hedero male, but I have empathy! I have helped some women escape abusive husbands and then became a target myself, they can be miserable!
This is one of the points to which Intersex and transgender individuals both have in common, living as both women and men. In transgender individuals, unless they have sex reassignment surgery, can live as both, depending upon which and when. As for intersex individuals, myself included, we live as both women and men simultaneously, unless we choose the transgender route, which I personally have not. Gender fluidity is natural for most intersex individuals, so I strongly applaud anyone who realizes that they were born transgender, and then chose to live as the gender they identify with. Intersex and transgender individuals have so much in common that to distinguish between them is to make a non-distinction. I really enjoyed your video very much, thank you for filming this video.
Du är så fin Mathilda🥰 Detta är viktigt att prata om❤️ Jag har en släkting som har gjort om sig från tjej till kille så det du pratar om ligger mig varmt om hjärtat❤️Du inspirerar mig massor till min nystartade youtubekanal❤️ Tack fina du🥰
Tack fina du! Klickade på på gilla knappen på din senaste video. Hoppas att det går bra för dig, kram och lycka till
Mathilda Högberg Tack vad glad jag blir🥰
I found this video very educating as a trans woman. The things discussed weren't biased but is the truth and I also didnt know about some of these things and I appreciate how much you are you for others as it does take alot of energy to do this and Thank you so much ❤
This video is so amazing and informative. I am just beginning my gender fluidity and I am now excited to see all these changes! Also I love your sense of humor Mathilda and you are so pretty and have a beautiful smile. I relate to you a lot and thank you for this channel💕
As an FTM I see many of the same things the same way. I’d go into it, but I think you said most of it.
Also trans. Men feel a societal pressure to help women. If you're a man and there is a women who looks like she needs help, if you don't respond, it's looked down upon. Sometimes I'm sure it's because they are attracted to you, but I would say most of the time it's the societal pressure.
Also, living as a man I never felt like it was bad for me to ask help. Living as a woman it feels about the same, although when people do help they seem "happier" to do so. I guess our experiences are different for that!
But definitely men will try to help or explain things to me that I already know, and it's kind of unfortunate because it makes me feel like they think less of my abilities. I know it's usually because they want to impress me, but sometimes it's because they see themselves as better, and that's unfortunate.
I’m trans too and I’ve had very similar experiences! Men especially seem to want to help me more easily but it definitely comes over that they think I’m less able and inferior. I find I’m often not listened to and have to wait for a man to reiterate my point, which is infuriating!
But also people in general and especially other women are much more open with me which I’ve found rather lovely.
The next 50-60/70 years on earth as a woman will be as a woman, so you better remain pretty as a young woman and be the girl everyone can see in you sweetie, you're postop and in a relationship, keep him girl and love your new life with your new look and NEVER be unhappy and be lost
To put it another way, ou kind of look very damselly and to most guys, you kind of present as a helpless broad in some pics of yours...so yeah sweetie, thats what you get coming from androgynous boy and going to gorgeous girl, every man WANTS to save the princess and a lot of guys want to be your prince...take you by your hand and carry you to safety or pick you up and do that, cause you are VERY pretty and guys WANT to pamper pretty girls
She seriously looks and sounds like a CIS female. I would not believe her that she's trans 🥰 also I love you said "It's not your choice." Bc sure we could not shave or do our hair or do our makeup but we already get shamed doing those things (even as cis women) and if we aren't up to society's beauty standards we would and have been made fun of, and have been harassed or assulted and yes we go thru a lot. Respect women and men!
Thank you for giving us insights that very few of us have!
It is a sad sorry that you were treated differently (having space, being listened to) when you became a woman. That at a time when in many countries 'women are half of the students (or even more) so the competency is there but is underutilized by society!
Only an insight like yours (and I have heard it also from other trans women) tell us how unfair society still is and how much each of us needs to change!
I don't want to transition to female but I feel I born into wrong body.
Same
I’m a trans girl as well
But I feel like ALOT of this is much more reliant on a person’s personality than their gender
As a guy I was extremely emotional also, and would break down and cry about something like my computer crashing or silly things
And also get extremely happy about something small
I'm amab and I think probably transfemme, and while it is socially acceptable where I am to be like that, my brain won't let me, like I only get to experience the free version of emotions and can't.. I'll be lying in bed and trying to cry just to feel but even with the saddest music I can just barely feel. and I want to be all giddy about little things but my brain won't let me
Nikkoas it’s not socially acceptable where I live
But I cant stop it
Theflashturtle the grass is always greener on the other side I guess
> But I feel like ALOT of this is much more reliant on a person’s personality than their gender
mhm
Weew, I didn't know about all this. And yes, it makes me sad. I'm definitely one of the nice guys.
I want to make women laugh. I'd do anything to see the beautiful smile of a woman. That's what I love about being a clown. I mean, I'm a clown by profession, I might not be that professional, but I'm funny..... I think..... maybe.
I wanted to thank you for helping me to understand women more. That's important to me. And it makes it easier to make a woman happy.
What you said in the first part ...I was raise differently I am aloud to feel and cry when something heart me....and I feel thing deeper inside....I would help you out of respect...I would never call you names,,,,I think you are a Beautiful person.... I think some of it is depends on where you live I don’t care about make up on a woman I want her all natural a little make up not a lot that’s me.... and you are right about some things about society... and I’m glad you’re telling every about your experiences keep doing a good job.....
That’s incredible that you can switch
Matilda you are so correct and right on the mark as a transgender woman I also have noticed the difference
Excellent points you make. It’s sad these double standards exist. I hope things will change soon
Male never need help if they are meant to be emotionally protective and physically strong and tall MASCULINE And for females who need help because, as a feminine personality, it makes sense to be a female who meant to be physically, small, weak and emotionally nurturing! FEMININE
You may look female, but do you feel feminine? You are a female, and you are feminine! Positive, happy, proud, caring, and like being her! 🥹🥰💝
It would be neat to hear the same comparison from MtF trans folks in different age brackets and geographies. Mathilda - do you think you could find other MtF girls and do interviews to get their perceptions?
You should listen to this one trans woman named Paula on Ted Talks. She transitioned later in life, and she talks about her experiences as a man turned woman. It's really moving and hilarious at times, I highly recommend watching it!
(I don't remember her full name, but she's got curly brown hair and she's wearing a red blouse(?) in the video)
omg i never would have ever guessed that you were once male! you look so 100% naturally female born!
Skipper: 6 to 7 years.
Alex: 67 years?!
Skipper: 6 TO 7 years!
I hate myself. You are the best transition i ever saw. And i am 30 starting. And so i don't have to be afraid that something socially will change. I imagine noone will accept me AS women. So i am out of changes.
I mean noone helps the less beautiful.
You are an amazing woman, and any man (or woman) would be extremely fortunate to have you as a gf😍
@Yass Tomi ok, Boomer.
@Yass Tomi boomer
Honestly I just do whatever I want.
If no one likes me for crying and having very feminine attitudes as a male, there's the front door, sis. 👋👀
My friend literally saw someone die in front of her face and she literally just walked away
I have definitely always been made fun of because I'm a very emotional person. But then again I've been closeted most of my life still am.
I know its easier said then done depending on how old you are and what financial position your in since getting out of a situation can mean needing to physically move to another town, but if you have male parts and want to cry... cry. Men don't HAVE to not cry, there's just people (people whose opinions aren't worth valuing) who will judge them for doing so, but as noted in that sentence, by virtue of imposing such a restriction on you, they demonstrate that they aren't worth pleasing by acting in the way they want you to act based on your genitalia. Same with how you want to dress, talk, etc. These aren't differences between boys and girls, boys can be cute, beautiful, quick to cry, quick to laugh, etc, these are just arbitrary restrictions some pitiable people in our communities try to enforce on other through shame, likely as a result of personal shame they themselves feel. The same is true for the reverse, women can just put on a shirt and pants and go out, the people who would pressure or shame you for doing so are the ones we should feel sorry for, not empower. You CAN be accepted as a girl with out doing the things the human sludge of our society wants you to do, but there is effort required on your part to surround yourself with people who respect other humans right to dress and act as they wish as long as they are not harmining some one else in the process.
So in that regard, to 5:05, it IS your own choice, there are consequences to every choice we make, but you don't have to let others make that choice for you. You will definitely hear mean things in some communities, but if you do I recommend either rallying the quiet majority to shame THEM for trying to shame you, or if people like them prove to be the majority, then I recommend leaving that community and searching for ones that aren't like that. I know it can be easy to feel like every community is like our current one, but having lived all over the US over the course of my life I can say that is definitely not the case.
So I guess my point isn't that what this video is saying isn't true, it DEFINITELY is in some communities, I'm just trying to note that its not true of all communities, and if you want to be a boy who wears skirts and openly cries or a girl who is allowed to talk as much as the boys, I highly encourage to seek out the communities who have begun the long hard work or confronting those who in many other communities allow this kind of sexism to be perpetuated.
I actually did the same idea and a few cis friends attacked me for doing so. My now ex gf who's also trans dumped me over it
When I was 18 a person explained that men think in paragraphs, in order one at a time. Womens brains are more like a bowl of spaghetti, you could feel something soft and oh it's soft like puppies but wait my dog died last year now I'm crying but crying reminds me of ice cream now I'm happy
And I thought.. But I think like that, took me 5 more years to figure myself out
It is really like that, tho ? Certains mans thinks in the "bowl of spaghetti" style (like me) and that's not really uncommon, I believe. Same for girls, I guess.
r/suspiciouslyspecific
@@quarzz8049 Is it ?
@@daechestuneorganisationpeu8984 well I think it is
@@quarzz8049 He explained what someone told him and I added something (from my view point). I think this is a rather normal speech.
I've been watching lots of FTM videos lately and now YT has recommended this one to me.
So I'm just curious: have you received hormone suppressants as a teenager? I mean, it's just amazing you probably can go stealth all day long and your voice doesn't out you right away. 😃
Anyways: nice video! Those are impressions that literally most people on earth cannot judge firsthand.
she started at 18
hay I'm a transgender men to women and I love my self because I've been going this sine I was 5 years old and came out this year because I new as it was not a thing yet but now I'm happier to come out on Facebook and I listen to u on UA-cam and u give me advice that I didn't know I would know because of what you have been saying lately and all what you've been saying is lovely and it's been helping me get through what I need to go Dawn track and I was so bullied and now its less so thank u :)
I’m interested in seeing the opposite of myself (I’m FTM) and what you have observed
Good video. Your point are very well put. I am male and get so pissed off when men objectify women and say rude things. Harassment just makes all men look bad. Also, it makes women paranoid or suspicious of all men. Now there is a war on men and I think it started with male misbehavior.
+Shag Wellington - Great name!
@@thomashenderson3901 Thanks. It''s my porno name.
I Toally agree Mathilda im a Trans woman also and have seen huge differences un myself and how im treated, looked at and spoken to s8nce i became Mia i have had more eyes xheck me out as a woman then i ever did in the 36 yrs as a man
This was super insightful💕
did hrt make your shoulder shrink? They look so girly i'm envious
I'm transgender too and i am miserable and cry all the time. I am waiting patiently for hrt but it's so hard when the wait times are so long.
MTF here. I had an appointment that was scheduled for 3-23-2020 and now it's been pushed back to July because of the pandemic. I didn't wait for FOUR MONTHS just to wait more! I'm American and my insurance covers HRT, blood work, psychotherapy, and bottom surgery; I made the call to the endocrinologist in November. There is no reason why there should be long wait times for anybody. That isn't "life". It's torture. The Hippocratic Oath says to do no harm, and waiting lists are harmful to us trans people.
@kloic 1 I disagree - your life is more important than a pandemy; *_but this one can remove your live from you (a.k.a. KILL), so stay at home_*
@kloic 1 Yeah, honestly you are right; but, in practice, I care for the safety of others only if I am safe as well. This isn't how it should be, but... it's hard to change.
So, as an example, if I had to choose between killing a million people and dying instantly, I would kill a million people. Sorry, but I am a bit selfish and I am afraid of death... :(
@kloic 1 I also think that we should wait for after the pandemy until we can go outside of our homes to do anything that isn't essential for surviving. People's lives aren't a joke or a toy for anyone to play with...
But I don't get what you mean with luxury... I mean, sorry if I got what you said wrong, but although transitioning isn't essential for surving at all (which means that we all need to wait until we go out to do any of stweps for it), it is _an important step to trangender people_ for achieving happiness. It isn't like buying jewlery or a new top-level computer (I don't know if that's what you meant by "luxury" or not, sorry if it wasn't); it's an end-goal for life, (more-or-less) like finishing college...
@kloic 1(The reply I made to you is apparently gone for god knows which reasons so I'll have to write everything again, RIP)
Transgender people in Africa probably suffer a lot and I bet most of them end up killing themselves sooner or later if they can't get out of their continent to transition (and obviously, most of them can't).
The problem is, the suicide attempt ratio ratio among transgender people is much, much higher than among general people - most of us end up feeling _so bad_ due to dysphoria we just don't know what do anymore; and although depression and suicide also happens among other people due to a variety of other life issues, _it doesn't happen quite as often._
According to this website: www.befrienders.org/suicide-statistics, about 16 people commit suicide per 100 thousand people among general population, and the suicide attempt ratio is about 20 times higher than actual suicide ratio. This means that about 320 people attempt suicide per 100 thousand people, which results in a suicide attempt ratio of about 0.32%
_However,_ according to _this_ website: www.suicideinfo.ca/resource/transgender-people-suicide/, the suicide attempt ratio among transgender people is estimated to be within the range of 22% - 43%. Comparing this to the 0.32% suicide attempt ratio for the general population, _this means that transgender people are at least about *68 times* and up to about *134 times* more likely to attempt suicide than the general population...
So this is why, at least in my eyes, transitioning isn't nearly as urgent as buying food or treating serious health issues, but it also isn't nearly as dispensable as buying your own house.
Mathilda, how do you work on your voice?
A big reason I am transgender is because society doesn't give men as much freedom as women. Also, I wouldn't really say that all boys can be out the door in a second and can talk over people and get more space. I know for me I take a little bit more preparation to be ready than most boys, also if someone starts talking while I am talking I can't talk over them, I just quiet down. And for me, my sister is actually the one who is the space hogger. I normally take up a small amount of space.
I can honestly say that I gained a lot of wisdom from taking birth control a few times , it made me feel alive which made me understand I was emotional dead almost like being reborn, now I understand now it was wrong way to do this , taking birth control is very dangerous which I will not do again , I understand now that I need estrogen and progesterone to transition properly.
I use both an oral estrogen and an injection estrogen plus a progesterone
Jenna Herman I would like to know what was the first thing that you notice in terms of you body shape and you mindset
Jenna Herman I can honestly say that I welcome the change because being a male is kind of depressing, I notice how men don’t receive much help on anything except when there are being released from prison or jail I chose to be a transgender female because of the unfair Standards between men & women and plus I would never have a female say that I tried to rape her , the testosterone blocker pretty much killed my abilities to get a erection , I never got excited about buying underwear Until I bought some lady’s underwear and bra’s especially thongs 🥰👙👸🏾
@@jcm973 well due to the fact i started in my late 30's body shape hasnt shifted much, mostly due to a loss of muscle mass is the major thing i noticed i am slimmer though less masculine and bulky but i was never really blessed/cursed with a large muscle mass anyway. Other than that i noticed a softening of facial features making me look much younger than i actually am but i had a baby face to begin with as well. a thickening of my hair was also noticable to others but its still thin compared to what i had in my 20's. genital shrinking is another thing i noticed relatively quickly, i am now almost completely atrophied and their was some erectile pain at first (maybe 6 months). Shaved body hair returned thinner and lighter over time, but i also waxed from time to time to remove hair follicles too so that could have helped speed the process. small breasts developed over time with a good build up of estrogen, as of now i am literally just shy of a B cup, and i noticed the largest gain (and pain) after adding the progesterone to the mix.
Behavior wise i havent noticed much, other than i have more difficulty controlling my emotions now, and cry about things i never use to. the depression seems to follow a strange pattern rather than just being constant. And i have started to see guys as potential lovers rather than just friends but that is a recent development and its not every guy either just some here and there (i also have 2 pregnant friends and my hormones could be feeling envious and making me want guys more for reproduction but i dont know for sure!). I also see women not just as friends and potential girlfriends/lovers but i can look at her and really honestly compliment her on a something without it feeling sexual in some way, i got a friend who has on point eyebrows and eye makeup and tell her i wish mine looked as good!!
@@jcm973 I didnt choose to be transgender, i have always wished i was a girl all the way back to age 7 or so. it has caused me so many problems trying to fit in as a male against my nature that i basically programmed my brain to always be depressed and seek solitude, even though i desire interactions with others. I have tried to end my suffering since age 10, so 30 years i have lived despite multiple failed attempts at suicide.
most things I hear here is pretty much describing me even though im still a boy
like yes im want to change body but sometimes it feels like my brain has never been male
you are right in some points ...it is all very interpretative ... it all depends on your feelings and point of view ... men do cry , can get help ... can suffer harassment , can not be allowed to show their opinion , fell pressure about their appearance .... i believe it’s more a matter of individuality then gender ... i love your videos mathilda
U lived 18 years as a boy how could u get. A body like this. My shoulders r way to broad and I don’t like my body:/
Years worth of HRT + hormone blockers
@@mycelia_ow no she started at 18, she is just genetically lucky
This kind of videos is not what i use to watch. Absolutley not.
But this was acually really interesting.
You made is interesting. Thank you.
Well, also as Girls, lots are called Tomboys, because they like masculine things, but often guys are also ridiculed for even acting feminine. So the discrimination goes both ways.
I’m questioning my gender now
Me too
Well...you're very feminine and guys want to treat pretty girls, beside being slightly attracted to pretty girls, so you answered yourself
Even your mannerisms are really dainty and girly and wifey and motherly like "we don't want to be sad...no...no...no" and every guy sees you and only sees mathilda and thinks "what a endearing girly girl, with a cute accent and a sweet smile and luscious hair".
Screams or oozes "girl! Girl! Girl!" And you melt any guys heart and finding a man will be way easier since going postop
Living as a boy I noticed that men talk about women like if they are objects for their satisfaction.
In my country this is very common and I feel very sad and scared of go to the street wearing a shorts or a dress or a simple pair of jeans. I can see faces but not intentions. That's so sad... 😥
Yeah that's bad :(
True words. I am bi sexual, and I can only show my feminine side with gay people.
I want to point out that there actually is an emotion that women are not allowed to demonstrate and that is anger.
Well, girls certainly aren't supposed to express anger like men - and that's a good thing. Most men are a terror when truly angry. But the statement hold true: hell has no fury like a woman scorned. Men learn this truth then learn to fear it.
Rachael Platt I didn’t say “not supposed to express anger like men” I said they’re not supposed to express any anger. Which is a bad thing. And no not all men learn that. Men still try to suppress women and their anger all the fucking time. Stop trying to paint a rosy picture
Both of y'all are liars. I've lived in different states and its the same. Females show their anger ALL THE TIME. This mythical place of oppression y'all living in is total bullcrap. Women get applauded for domestic violence against men and get more lenient consequences everywhere I look some female calls herself a crazy b**ch especially white girls. Stop with the false narratives slowly but surely more and more people are taking the RED PILL and realizing feminist lies hell I just asked my two home girls were they feminists and THEY BOTH SAID HELL NAW!!!
yes because the live of others is Completely of our incumbency.
(Sarcasm).
The rest of the video it's Great
I can understand this because I am a men who cross dresses hair. I have to really care about my hair a lot. My favorite hair style lasts only a few hours
You make strong arguments in your observations that we need to chill out a lot more - difficult to live up to that, but this why we should for the following reason . As women mature they reach a time and place where they precise they are no longer noticed. It is a perception based on some reality , but it does not have to define them, which it does for some . I believe this is because of our celebrity of youth and prettiness we see in models and advertising . If we were committed to a more equal society then we would be more dismissive of expecting girls and young women having to look a certain way and identically the same for boys and young men too.
I think a move to a non gender school uniform might play a part in correcting this, which could result in summer both boys and girls wearing kilts or skirts and in winter trousers say.
We if could move away from makeup and reserved it for special occasions and encouraged guys to use products to look after their skin , all that would help .
Girls can be strong and boys weak , but it does not have to define their gender. In short, we should be looking more at the person and the contribution they bring to any relationship over that of appearance in general .
None of this will happen over night, but it will gradually if we keep chipping away at some of these out of date prescriptions we have created in society .
A lovely video and very informative. You did a fantastic job here.
Bravo !
You’re a pretty girl here
I dress full time now the hardest part for me was my mommy telling her I wanted to be a girl
honestly its crazy how natural she looks, i wish i could look and sound like her, ugh.
I do understand the harassment stuff because I am a guy and I have a trans friend that some people would just say bad things about them and it was not fun
as a man i have no emotions just pain from over working and depress from being broke and men love being alone women are more social
Ace men don’t like being alone , if that’s the case then why is the suicide rate higher for guys the women ?
@@jcm973 there is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely tho
jcm973 plenty of reasons for that the biggest one over arching the rest is that men are expected to succeed and provide and are held to a very high standard regarding everything apart from looks, which is more prevelant among women. There is definitely an evolutionary reason for this too. Both attempt suicide about the same but men also are far more likely to commit suicide to kill themselves and thus go for the most lethal approach, while for women they have other reasons and like to romanticize it which for example is an overdose on sleeping pills, which has like a 6 percent chance of death
I know more women than men who like to be alone. Your statement is not the truth. There are as many of either gender who like to be alone.
Grattis på Namnsdagen Mathilda!! ♥
Tack! ❤️❤️
1:50 when you said it affects your emotions as well, does that include sense of humor? My sister is trans and she runs a meme review channel of her own, and she doesn't want her sense of humor to change too much
No sense of humor doesn't change estrogen just makes humans have more empathy