5 common dating mistakes in your 20s | *sprinkle sprinkle* + talk is cheap + too emotional and more
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- Опубліковано 17 вер 2024
- Hi my loves and welcome backkk to the 20s series! In this video I share 5 dating mistakes you're making in your 20s. Dating in your 20s can be the absolute ghetto especially if you lack boundaries and emotional intelligence!
So I decided to share a few common mistakes we make and hopefully this stops some of us from wasting our timeee. Hope you enjoy
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Lagos, Nigeria.
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I’m 26 years old, my birthday is on September 26.
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My cute points to add...
1. Don't use your past trauma as bonding topics. You don't know the person you're talking to that well. You could be giving a mean spirited person ammo to use against you later on
2. Have a list of negotiables and non-negotiables i.e things that are an absolute deal breaker and things you honestly can work with even if they aren't your most ideal behavior or scenarios. MAKE SURE TO STAND ON BUSINESS ABOUT YOUR NON-NEGOTIABLES. If you don't, regret is imminent.
3. Don't take the "little" things for granted. "White" lies, subtle jabs, inconsistency, sneakiness, manipulative tendencies etc They are early signs of massive red billboards.
4. Educate yourself about relationships and the dynamics that play out in relationships. Learn about toxic behaviors and how to spot them. Learn about attachment styles and how that plays into how you have shown up in relationships in the past. Change your attachment style if you realize that it is a factor in bad choices of men you have made in the past. Learn about conflict resolution. Learn about communication.
These things are important in knowing yourself better and also improving your ability to spot people who are lacking and misaligned. Relationships aren't simply surface level romance. So many things are at play, whether you're attentive or not. Don't be a naive flower girl in the garden please. We're women now. Knowledge is power. Arm yourself with as much knowledge as possible.
That's all from me for now. Stay mindful, stay cutesy and definitely stay demureeee💅🏼💋
Wheww couldn’t agree more! Thanks for dropping these gems 🫶🏽
Thanks for sharing
“For you, not for me” is crazy🤣. The moment you mentioned that prayer, I already knew what it was because it works in 8K (speaking from experience). All you need to do is blink and the prayer will be answered. Lovely video as usual.
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Girl talk is cheap, a lot of the cheap ones will tell you heaven and earth. Facts
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Before i get into this video, make-up and skin is giving 🔥 gosh
Aww thank youu 💓
Always remember, as Lori Harvey says "You are the prize." ❤
Love is fickle, build great friendship with your significant other,this is what will see you through moments of conflict.
Watch how this person talks to you during conflict, the subtle jabs, insensitive comments and hurtful banters.
Have a life and financial stability as a woman before having a relationship, trust me it helps you sieve out junks....and separates love from hunger. It breeds respect too and that purpose will stop you from being clingy and needy.
Develop yourself constantly, couples grow apart, so learn alongside your partner.
Choose kindness
That's all for now.
Another point is
Have standard and have boundaries...
Boundaries are essential, l had to learn this the hard way ... because if you don't have boundaries to everything, they will walk over you ( in friendship and relationships )
True!
Funny how I prayed this prayer yesterday and God took him away this morning🤣
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I love the advice of not trying to build bonds when you are not even certain they will stay in your life for real. These tips are great
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The last bonus point is the most important. The God factor is big. God always gives us signs and reveals things to his children.
That prayer, i prayed it and the person left that same day 😂😂😂
🤣🤣 no prayer like it
Please do more kamsi ❤thank you!
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Kamsi you went in on this!! I love all your points. I think its important to date with an abundance mindset vs scarcity. I think the environment matters as well. When im in Nigeria dating works very differently than in America. The mindset of men is different. I also stopped saving numbers after seeing a reel last year about how men start misbehaving once you save their number 🤣. Its so true!!
The way some people fall in love easily surprise me, cause it can never be me 😂
Same. I protect my heart at all costs!!
@@ngozinwafor 😂
Know your worth and never settle for less.
Never rush things 📌 very important
Yup!
Here with my book to take note😌💃🏽
1. Talk is cheap!!
You can’t be falling in love every 3-5 business days.
Kamsi ooo😂😂
lol did I liee
Every lady needs to watch this😂❤️
That last prayer be saving lives every single time!
Words without Actions is such a turn off 😅
This was such a great watch !. Spitting facts while being every demure about it ❤
So true, Talk is cheap.
Yo, stop saying "girlies" 😂😂😂 Dumor dumor, onya ohue👸 These tips are things I can borrow entirely!
Kamsi you nailed everything I look out while in date with different Men cause Omo I’m too picky and it’s hard to please me.
Exactly when you got boundaries Principles and stand on your words, no pressure from anyone then you can’t be played by a Adam’s offspring’s 😊😂
Thank you so much Sis❤️😄 for this Dating advice. I really need this. I really enjoy the whole conversation you were giving. May God richly bless you Kamsi.
Aww amen! Thank you🫶🏽
unrelated, but this make up looks so gorgggg!! 🤩
Thank you!!🤭
Kamsi we want more. Thanks for sharing. I wish i knew them when i was in my 20s
Hi kamsi 😍 thanks for this pls we need a part 2
Looks like in your 20s series is back☺️
Kamsi your skinnnnnn❤
Thanks love 🫶🏽
thank you for clearifying the difference between dating and in a relationship cuz honestly these people have to know
Lol when you said who knows if God has a short man for you 😂 definitely not me
🤣 it’s for someone sha
Talk is cheap ,kept me like an hour to digest ....
I just remember all the nonsense l was hearing from past date ...
This was hard truth to hear
i love this sit down contents! will go binge watch the old ones.
That 😂prayer is highlyyyyyy effective.
I recently prayed that prayer , haaa and i saw execution almost immediately kaiii
Thank you Kamsi🎉
Throughout watching this video I was just shouting “exactly Kamsi”no one could’ve said it better honestly
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love this 😍😍 please we need a part 2!!
Please we need more videos like this ❤
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@@kamsinnamani thanks 😊 😍
I really enjoyed this video😁…. I really missed these 20s series
Glad you enjoyed it!😊
thank youuu ❤️
Kamsi, is always spitting facts ✅
Love ❤️ this video
I feel good about what you have said
I enjoyed this alot 😍 , definitely need more of these videos from you, thanks so much.
Ah the prayer part. I closed my eyes and I prayed 😊
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Girlllllllll..... That number one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Shocking 😂😂😂 She didn't say be in relationships with many people o. She said "dating".
Love the first point but sometimes the other guy trying to more active might just be love bombing you. It’s scary out there
Thanks for the tips and advice Kamsi❤
Lol I clicked so fast. Hey Kamsi!☺️
Hi girl!🤍
Talk is cheap honestly!! Some mhen just wants to date some lady cause they're pretty not like they have anything Good to offer to them.
Yupp
TALK IS CHEAP.
Nice , please do more 😭😭
Please do a part 2❤❤❤
the way youre shaking your head seriously asking 'how? how?" is soooo funny😂😂
Was genuinely asking😂
Great tips ❤
I think God has that prayer on speed dial...he will be queuing other prayers and skip to that one😂...nice points Kamsi...
Nice one Kamsi ❤
Yh i also don't save numbers until after a while...God is a factor in all things
Sister kamsi the short man is not for me too 🙌🙌🙌😊😊
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It feels like I'm the one giving this advice. I can relate to everything you said 😂 and I learnt the hard way .
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You are beautiful kamsi 😊
Context:
Dating she means what they call talking stages
Okay.
Honestly this is so true
Please include “hey boys” to your greetings 😂😂😂. We don’t want to be left out abeg 😅
Part 2 please 😂❤
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You're so beautiful btw❤
Aww thank youu, so are you 🤍
Very interesting video 🔥
Glad you enjoyed🤍
That's saving number stuff is reall... you're kind of tied down when you save the number
Hey Kamsi 🎉🎉🎉
... because of spoken words, poem, songs 🤣🤣😂😂😂😂
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According to @JessicaOS giving ladies too much attention isn't a good idea, and I think she is right.
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Talking to multiple people at the same time is such bad advice and is keeping us on a hamster wheel of “talking stages”. It’s so unhealthy and does nothing for generating genuine and direct emotional connections. But tbf, this is sprinkle sprinkle advice…
So talking to one person that barely knows you and probably talking to other people is better? Ok goodluck
@@kamsinnamani if you’re operating on the assumption that the other party is slighting you (ie getting ahead of the curve) then 1. I don’t need to explain how mentally unhealthy that is and 2. you shouldn’t entertain that relationship/“talking stage” at all. Someone who is trying to get to know you should be trying to get to know YOU, not you and Kemi, Susan, and Sarah. Your time is valuable, treat it as such. The reality is, that person isn’t that interested and is feeling out their options to figure out who will be their top pick (or worse, who will give the best value for their effort). Women are NOT commodities and this sprinkle sprinkle advice is honestly so lame cl 😭 it’s women attempting to play a man’s game when they should not even be entertaining these silly men in the first place.
You are saying a whole lot and saying nothing at all. Dating multiple people has always been the way people did things since time immemorial. Back in the day it was called courtship and women had multiple suitors, so what is up with the lies?
@@canesugar911 “since time immemorial” and yet, courtship is a relatively recent concept, emerging in the last few centuries. I’ll let you do your own research on that. The whole idea of “this is how it was done for centuries so therefore it’s fine” is actually quite insane, considering the vast number of things that are now frowned upon in the 21st century given societal progress…
Lastly, the idea that suitors were dating multiple women at the same time is also false. Suitors met women at balls/debutantes and selected based off a dance and simple conversation. Most pairings were done before they even met via recommendations, referrals, or family arrangements. They then “courted” one woman at a time till the proposal was offered. Doing otherwise was seen as uncouth. But yeah, “lies”. 🥱
You were there because of ‘spoken words’😂😅
You caught that 😂
Had to come here because relationships are ghetto child, I am 25 and just wow😂😂😂😂
Im early today ❤❤
My sister I used to tie myself down and i block my ear from what other people say 😅
Hi Kamsi 😘
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Kamsi ( big sis ) talk to me
Let me sit and listen
I need to go out more to meet guys eh 😂
Yes girl
Short men😩
Kamsi are we twins? Cos I do all of theseee😅😅😅
😂😂 3-5 business days lovers
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I don’t save numbers cuz too😂 I don’t know who is texting till I read history of the chat… and for those that have that disappearing message, best believe you’d reintroduce yourself as many times as I ask😂
lol disappearing what? Already a red flag 🤣
Leave married men alone!!! They’re not your soulmate. In short why are you choosing to be a second choice.
First Viewer
You said to be open minded yet you are rejecting a short man
The most annoying one is talking stage without life 😩😩😭
Kamsiiii this video came a little too late 😢
Never too late my dear. Make your decision and stand on it
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Talk is cheapppppppppppp😂😂😂😂
Roast us, were your bole and plantain, Kamsi.
You look so good girl.🥰 I might have to rewatch to get the tips because your beauty is distracting me🫠. Amazing video.❤
Lool aww thank youu
thank youuu ❤️
You're welcome 😊
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