EP 4: Releasing Offense Through Forgiveness
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- Listen in as we explore the challenging yet transformative power of forgiveness, a subject often easier said than done. Join Megan Ashley as she shares personal stories and experiences, shedding light on the significance of releasing offenses and finding freedom through forgiving ourselves. In the episode, we refer to a powerful devotional by Jackie Hill Perry, which emphasizes forgiveness as a path to redemption and becoming a 'new creature'. We further illuminate the discussion by examining the story of Joseph from the Bible, who forgave his brothers despite their betrayal.
In our quest to understand the complexities of forgiveness, we underscore the importance of letting go of the past and seeing ourselves through God's eyes to avoid falling into the trap of self-condemnation. The spiritual hindrance unforgiveness can bring and the barriers it can erect in our relationship with God and his promises. With references to David's angry words towards God, I encourage listeners to acknowledge their anger, release it, and choose forgiveness. This episode is a heartfelt call to healing and freedom through the power and necessity of forgiveness.
Other topics you will hear:
-Healing
-Spiritual Growth
-Resentment
-Power of Forgiveness
-Releasing Offenses
-Freedom
-Self-Doubt
-Divine Wisdom
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Forgiveness also means, that you will not post Instagram stories of quotes that points to what the other person did to you.
True Talk
My biggest struggle in life is forgiving myself. I could have avoided so many scenarios if only I was properly taking care of my mental health first.
Now you know better. Continue to take care of your mental health and simply apply the wisdom that you now have. The past is the past. To reconcile the should have, could have, would have, simply do better going forward. Give yourself some grace 💛
Same you are not alone sis
It shows how classy of a person you are. To have your platform and you chose not to bash, but talk about your truth and forgiveness all while keeping your integrity. I applaud you Megan Ashley for raising the standard. You’re amazing.
I was running away from this episode because I didn't want to "deal with God" anymore...in actuality, I didn't want to deal with "ME" and my unforgiveness. Now i'm sitting here journaling and crying!!
Praise God for redemption
Prayers for healing on your journey! 🙏🏾
I can forgive ppl quicker than I can forgive myself 🤦🏽♀️ why is that?
"Love people when they don't love you, love people when they hate you, turn the other cheek when they slap the other. Its not for the flesh, it's to strengthen your soul. " -Megan Ashley
That's deep and also so true.
Listen forgiveness of self is real!
I’m still learning to forgive myself, but what resonates most is that I know Jesus died for the forgiveness of my sins, and I whole heartedly believe this and stand on this, so it helps me to be reminded that his death was intentional and not in vain, and I acknowledge that every time the enemy tries to condemn me with the mistakes of my old nature, I remind myself that my identity is in Christ, and that through him I am forgiven and I have redemption! Amazing Grace, How sweet the sound, that saved a wretch like me, Hallelujah 🙌🏾
I love this ❤
Matthew 6:14-15:…But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
This is so good. As I’m listening the Holy Spirit is also saying these unforgiveness is also a form of PRIDE. Because we tend to want to have control over what we can “keep” and/ or “release” but what many don’t realize is that when you do not forgive, you are also hindering your prayers being answered by God. So sometimes people are a by product of their own outcomes because they refuse to forgive others. Holding onto unforgiveness allows the enemy to keep you in bondage of that situation versus being set free.
Whew! A message!
If God ain’t trying to do nothing else He sho nuff trying to kill this pride and ego I’m dealing with. Forgiveness will do that. The fact that I have to forgive you knowing you did me wrong is one of the hardest things to do but when you choose to die to self daily this is part of it 🤷🏽♀️
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And you know it 😭
For you to even be able to come up with the brand In Totality, and for it be so fitting, and for you to already have such a wonderful community in this small time of this new beginning , speaks so much volume 🎁. It’s simply a beautiful attest to Gods Plans for you 💜
Jeremiah 29:11
God is Proud of You 🕊️
"If imma tell ANYBODY my business its gonna be God!" Mannnn listen
Forgive people ! The people who hurt you will move on with their lives and god will continue to bless them so you either can watch them and be mad in the corner or move forward and live fully in what god has for you.
It’s hard but it’s what’s best.
Hey meagan would you be open to doing a make up routine video pared with the message of self care or godly women image in the world. I would love to see this.
I’m definitely needed this.. I’m working on learning to forgive my mom.. it’s hard how do you forgive somebody who isn’t sorry.. or somebody who hasn’t learned the lesson.. I know it’s for me.. but if we are still kinda in the thick of it how do you forgive.
Girl I was like when the hell did I write this???
This is literally my life. And I pray God gives you the strength to release you from anything that doesn’t serve you ! I’m trying my hardest to accept that I have to grieve that relationship and live without it
At times what helps is to look at the person as another image bearer, recognizing that if Christ was able to forgive you for so much, surely you can do the same. "I will be glad and rejoice in your unfailing love, for you have seen my troubles, and you care about the anguish of my soul. Psalm 31:7", "You don’t look at us only to find our faults, just so that you can hold a grudge against us. Psalm 103:9 TPT". Knowing that God cares about our pain and how we feel really goes a long way and knowing how he looks at us empowers us to look others the same way and extend the same grace through his help.💝
Joseph reveals the human journey to the path of forgiveness. Thank you for highlighting forgiveness is a path of choosing to release the offense.
Working through Jackie’s Devo as well! I love to remember that God will not forgive me if I’m holding a grudge. I forgive for me even if I’m still hurt. I speak forgiveness, I speak truth of my hurt and I go to the God of All Comfort❤
Holding on to anything in your heart didn’t make Jesus’s cross lighter, He still died for it so release it to him
My dad recently passed away and around that time I found this channel. My father was a pastor so I grew up in church but haven't gone in years. It's funny to me because I have multiple people in my life who I thought I had forgiven but I couldn't forget, this episode has started the process towards that. I honestly can hear my Dad's voice throughout this. Thank you.
So sorry for your loss ❤
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Sending God's healing your way. My dad recently passed too.💞💞💞💞💞
I forgive freely - but it’s definitely hard to forget!
Forgiveness like change starts at home.. I forgave myself for all the pain I caused myself in 20/22, it released me to become the man God created me to be..
Something I’m also learning about the topic of forgiveness is ASKING for forgiveness from the people who wronged you ! Forgive them for the resentment and negative thoughts you’ve harbored against them because of the past. Extremely difficult but freedom is on the other side of that
How do I know I have truly forgiven someone?? I believe I have forgiven, but what surety do I have that I really have? I fully and wholeheartedly want to forgive.
Much Needed. I've been struggling with forgiveness for the longest. I hold grudges and it makes me bitter. I want to forgive but it's difficult especially when the other person doesnt see their wrong. But I digress
Remember forgiveness is for you and not for the person who has offended or hurt you. The forgiveness releases you from the pain and rumination of their act. They don’t have to be apologetic or show penitence, but you also don’t have to be in close relationship with them; you can set boundaries.
You are attempting to be controlling (playing God) by demanding that the other person do or say something in order for you to implement forgiveness.
What also helps is gaining an understanding, and looking at things from a different perspective. What can you learn about yourself from the situation, how can the situation make you better?
You got this! Set yourself free! ❤
Thank you for your advice. Much appreciated @@GoogleAccount00
This was so good. I literally broke down and just cried bc honestly and truly forgiving can be one of the hardest things to do
Megan Ashely ❤ you’re like a Godly Therapist for us. Sharing your personal experiences, and giving us Godly wisdom. That’s amazing ❤
Everyone of the In totality videos I’ve watched is like Abba Father is reaffirming that he hears me,he cares, and he is speaking. He uses his children to speak and I am so grateful for his love, and also grateful for the vessel that he has used in Megan Ashley.
The Bait of Satan was given to me by my Aunt when I was 22, it took 10 years to forgive somethings back then and today at 44 still going through the process of forgiveness! That book is POWERFUL💞 Everyone should read it
"You gotta see yourself the way God sees you" this is so so soooo true. When you step away from societies view of how you should be and know who you are in God EVEEEEERYTHING changes sis ❤❤❤
I'm new. Hey boo. Umm next time I think you should read the scripture. Just a suggestion, since we not rushin.💅🏾
This is soooo good!! I'm doing a lot of internal work & prayer about the unforgiveness I've been harboring. This episode is so healing & just what I needed. My ex shattered my heart, but I've been really working on forgiving him. This podcast really helps me
Soooo many people could benefit from this message. Including myself. I needed to hear this, so helpful. Thanks for this 💕💕
Forgiveness promotes healing❤
Guys she really dropped the bomb, the code to a billion dollars , the word of God is worth more than silver and the gold
Am glad to see this version of you Meg, you encourage me that healing is indeed powerful
Forgiveness is a must ❤️🙏🏾
Ephesians 4:32
Be kind and helpful to one another, tender-hearted [compassionate, understanding], forgiving one another [readily and freely], just as God in Christ also forgave you.
I love this episode so much already 5:20 offense is definitely the bait of satan smh!!!!! Thank you God for the power to forgive and the privilege of being forgiven 😭🙌🏾
I really pray that you read the positive comments and seeing that that you are loved out here in these virtual streets. You are a smart woman who is GONE GET what’s yours sis. Those who have lost you, leave them where they are. Respectfully and lovingly. If that connection was meant to be, it will be. I have forgiven myself, all else… no matter what it is WILL FOLLOW 💯❤️
You have to learn to forgive even when it hurts you but I always pray over it and ask God to heal me and let go of the hurt.
Meg was the one who was supposed to preaching to us in the first place she just needed that little push and her bff to hold her hand for a while. But YOU GOT IT NOW MEGAN. THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE
When I go on Spotify to listen to the podcast- it’s grayed out- and i can’t Listen. Anyone else having this problem?
This episode was so good. God opened my mind and heart to forgiveness last month and I started to remember all the times I knew God forgave me. Forgiveness isn’t easy but it’s necessary.
Reason, season, and lifetime. Yes it is normal. God will get your attention however, He needs too, and if that means ended relationships, then that's what it will be. It's not necessarily a bad thing, that time has expired.
Trust me I meditated on forgiveness and 4 weeks ago, I remember thinking the book of psalms says forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us,it fought in my mind,I was so busy with life I forgot about it. Here we are, he can only forgive me only if I forgive those who trespass against me
Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.
This is a timely episode. Thank you for allowing God to use you in this way ❤
Does anyone know that music that okays in the beginning of her video?! Its such good meditation praying music
I'm learning so much from your book recommendation. I went out and bought Bait of Satan, and I want to thank you for offering that up. It has helped me so much, and I'm not even halfway done yet. Sometimes, a fresh/different perspective is all you need. God is always on your side. Keep going, Megan 🙏👏
I needed this so bad 😢
30 secs in n you get a like just for beauty ❤🥵
Thank you Megan 🥺🫶🏽
This is the first time I've followed a podcast from the very beginning. After already experiencing Megan's growth through the years on the KFS pod, I'm excited to continue to witness the evolution of her growth in this space as well. I'm on my own personal journey...similar to Megan's in various ways and it's content like this that keeps me going in my day to day. I honestly don't know how I've made it this far and continue to make it... Through God and this type of content He has really been KEEPING me.
AND THAT CALL!!!! EXACTLY ME IN THIS SEASON RIGHT NOW!!!!!
I am so grateful for you Megan Ashley. To be this vulnerable and strong to still share, lead and learn with us , is remarkable. Truly God’s servant. One of his strongest soliders. So, thank you again, thank you for your advice, perspectives and wisdom. Bless ✨
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Beautifully spoken. Forgiveness releases you from so many things and prevents any struggle to move forward. Amazing podcast❤
It would be cool to have china anne mcclain on the pod!!!
So what if you forgive them and they do it again and again but u don’t want leave because u love them
That's why you should forgive and distant yourself (based on the situation that happened). Example: if someone cheats on you, you forgive AND distance yourself immediately because unfortunately, you forgiving someone doesn't mean that person will change or treat you any better. They're probably wondering why their forgiven. Forgive and move along. ❤
Meg you are really doing TRUE GOD WORK!!! You have answered the call & you will forever be blessed & protected 🙏🏽 I’m rooting for you no matter what. You have played a major roll in my spiritual JOURNEY & I’m forever appreciative for what you’ve given & taken. ❤💫
I need to be forgiven …. Literally watching this podcast God stopped me and made me look at myself as a grown woman . Although this happened as a child it’s crucial to heal the inner child in me and that other person ! Drawing nearer to God allows you to SEE … wether it be little or small . GOD SAYS forgive , I needed every bit of this .
Megan, Thank you for this . I woke up 2024 grateful to God , then I said I want to watch something positive ti start my year. I turned to this and Wow. LOVE IT. PLEASE DO MORE IN 2024. I FEEL I know this will help others in this season as well as positive mindset.
Love u sister in Christ u inspire me.
Vee
Forgiveness is hard but when you do release makes you feel better! Took me a while to learn this. Great episode ❤🙏🏾🙌🙌
Forgiveness is the starting place for freedom. I was in a season where I thought i had forgiven but instead of walking into the new, i chose to pick that offense back up because it felt more comfortable to be at odds with that person than to truly do the work to reconcile that relationship. God revealed that in order for me to step into my next I couldn't carry the baggage from the past. Letting it go really means leaving it behind and operating from Agape love; Love without expectation.
EXACTLY! I loved this! Forgiveness is indeed for both! The scripture says
Matt 5:23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first, be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.
It says if YOU REMEMBER SOMEONE ELSE has an issue with you, basically be the bigger person and go try to make amends! NOT if YOU HAVE AN ISSUE because it's easier to acknowledge your ought and seek resolve... it's not always easy, but it's easier than going to someone who has hatred in their heart towards you and having to love and forgive!
Forgiveness is so crucial to salvation and without it, we won't be forgiven.
It is PRIDE that keeps us from forgiveness and pride is the beginning of all sin and comes before the fall!
Proverbs 16:18-20 Pride goeth before destruction, And an haughty spirit before a fall. Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, Than to divide the spoil with the proud. He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: And whoso trusteth in the LORD, happy is he.
Mark 11:25 - And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses
Proverbs 8:13 “To fear the LORD is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behaviour and perverse speech.
Love your pod in the mornings w a cup of coffee. You’re also so pretty!
- p.s I didn’t know I was gonna tear up on this one. Hit home for sure.
Thank you Megan for allowing Christ to use you 👏🏾. My Lord has been dealing with me about forgiveness so this message is on point. Thank you!
I seriously don’t understand how you can share all of this love so effortlessly and in such a way that we can follow and it be so simple. THANK YOU MEGAN seriously thank you from the bottom of my heart for your service. If the rumors of you and B are true - I hope you guys find your way back together 🤍
I agree, forgiveness is for BOTH ppl involved.
you need to do a makeup tutorial
David said, "Make their children fatherless."
Give it to God and NOT your friends (talking to myself). That kind of release prepares the way for forgiveness. Good word, lady. GOOD WORD!!
Hey Megan, today is my 25th birthday. I have dedicated the word “Obideience” to 2024 & I have been doing away with things day by day as 2024 progresses. I just want you to know that I have heard these same sentiments a million and one times, BUT TODAY I REALLY heard it. I am going to forgive my sisters, my husband & myself TODAY. Thank you so much for creating and uploading this message. Please keep pressing into God, the fruit of your worship & reverence for Christ is evident.
Good teaching!!!! This was on point and very much needed! Lord I thank you for making me new! I release trauma from past relationships/ friendships, the trust issues it gave me and any hurt I held on to. In return I gain the strength to go forward with peace & happiness!! Amen that was so goodT
I’m offended by one of my aunt’s husband- I forgive him but my trouble was moving forward with wisdom in how to carry on with this person- this my prayer now. ❤ I’m not sec righteous but I don’t want to partake with that person anymore. Tell me if I’m wrong in this way of thinking children of God?
I didn't mean to click on this but accidentally did..
Unfortunately I am going through so much that I need to let go. Deliverance today is hard. Am going down memories that are so uncomfortable because I have to face so many people that I offended. Mmm this today though..
How do you know when you actually forgive someone ? There is times where I said it but deep down in my heart it didn’t feel like I forgave them , even though I said I did . is the feelings of someone hurting you or you hurting someone still supposed to be there when you forgive someone? Especially yourself?
I really hope someone in the comments can help me coz Im struggling
I started reading "The Bait of Satan," because of Megan but I must admit that I'm finding it challenging to continue. It seems like the book suggests refraining from self-defense when facing harm from others. For instance, growing up in a narcissistic household, standing up for myself was crucial for my mental health. I can't help but wonder about individuals trapped in abusive marriages with narcissists - do you advise them to endure? What about those subjected to sexual abuse or worse? Is the book implying they shouldn't seek legal action? I'm striving to grasp how to practically apply this philosophy. I wish full bible verses werent posted in the book to give more context
Forgiveness is heavily needed in my life right now and the guidance shared is serving me just what I need to make sure I make it to the other side. Thank you for your vulnerability, Meg. ❤
Please pray for me.
I’m 29 years old and I never had a good relationship with my father. My parents were married for 40 yrs but my dad was absent emotionally. He wasn’t a good father or husband, abusive. My mom recently divorced him and he started going downhill shortly after. He never thought my mom had the strength to leave him, he always took her for granted, treated her like trash and cheated. Now he “sick”. He always suffered from mental health but never wanted to get treated. I think he has major depressive disorder, anxiety, and maybe multiple personality disorder? I recently went back to Ecuador to help him and rebuilt our relationship because he kept saying “I changed”. Unfortunately the trip did not go well. He has not changed, he is still the same abusive man. He has said things a father should never say to a daughter. He did not allow me to help him seek help. He thought I was gonna fall into his lie and tell my mom to get back with him. I still took my dad to get help even thiugh he kept hurting me day after day. I finally gave up and I fought back verbally. I told him many hurtful things. I came back to the US and have not spoken to him since. I hate him and I know god is not happy about it.
Please pray for me.
Love your podcast. Thanks for being transparent and giving light to those in the dark🙏☮️
With forgiving it comes with forgetting what they have done to us , even though it’s hard we are called to ! So Megan is not wrong . 1 Corinthians 13 :5 niv “ it does not dishonor others , it is not self seeking , it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong doings .”
I saw a someone say, “You may not always be able to forgive and forget, but you need to forgive every time you remember” and that has stuck with me ever since.
How do you know when you really forgive someone? Somedays I feel like I forgave but other days it hurts me all over again. Anybody have any advice?
I have a question: If I forgive someone who hurted me physically, do I have to forget what they did and make it seem okay?
But what do i do with the pain Megan? The pain that stays with me is consuming me.
Damn, my path so narrow God took everyone. Or rather I feel so alone
But can you forgive someone and still walk away! I can forgive but I just feel like I will never go back to that person. Its like how do I protect myself at the same time
You are anointed Megan,can’t wait to see what more God has in store for you🥺❤️🙌🏾
Wheww “lean on God’s strength not your own strength”
Perfect way to start my day!
This is so on time! At the beginning of this week I decided to put real effort into forgiving others and learning about it as much as I could and then this episode comes. God has been telling me it’s time 🙌🏾
Same here😌🙏🏽
What if they don’t ask to be forgiven? I believe God doesn’t forgive us until we ask him for forgiveness.
This is a hard thing to do. Maybe me going to therapy will help me. I'm a rigid brick who won't budge in forgiving those who hurt me, because they don't deserve it.. yet. We'll see how things go. Thanks for this episode.
It’s very hard I still struggle to because we were vulnerable and someone took it for granted. However, we can’t turn into those who hurt us because they win. Hurt people, hurt people. Some people were raised on survival and no love whatsoever and those are the ones that are not able to give genuine love or receive it. So, them hurting us wasn’t about us, it’s about them. It’s like being caught in the crossfire of someone’s hurt. Wrong place, wrong time. It had nothing to do with us and everything to do with them.
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It is important to forgive. However: extending forgiveness to someone that has hurt us with the expectation or even hope that they will repent and offer reconciliation, isn’t wise. We are not owed reconciliation or the willingness of the offender to repent. Forgive for the sake of inner peace, that’s all.
Lobe it! Also check out GPS devotion by Michelle Wheeler. ❤🙏🏾🙌🏾
I love this episode. Currently working on forgiving myself ❤
Imagine God not forgiving you simply for not forgiving yourself sheshhhhh!
What if you are a forgiving person to all the ones you love and someone takes advantage of it just because they know you will forgive them?
I needed this. I really needed to forgive my son‘s father and move on so I can receive blessings.
Thank you so much this episode made me so emotional because it feels like I never forgive myself or even look at myself because of my choices with life
When I go on Spotify to listen to the podcast- it’s grayed out- and i can’t Listen. Anyone else having this problem?
When I go on Spotify to listen to the podcast- it’s grayed out- and i can’t Listen. Anyone else having this problem?
When I go on Spotify to listen to the podcast- it’s grayed out- and i can’t Listen. Anyone else having this problem?