I was playing DnD today and during the break my brother excitedly told our Trans friend about the new training gear my brother bought for him. And he beamed up so much and said: "I'm entering my jock phase." And my brother very equally excitedly said: "I'm so glad to finally have gym bro." They both just sat there and grinned like mad.
So, back when I was questioning my gender a lot, my boyfriend mentioned that it was really easy for him to socially transition, because his friends mostly assumed, based on how he typed, that he was a man anyway. I asked him what impression my typing style gave off, and he was quiet for a long time, before he said, "Oddly professional." So now, when someone asks me what gender I am, while sounding offended, I tell them, "Please calm down. I'm a professional." And if they ask me what's in my pants, my reply is, "That's not safe for work."
@Marianne ah yes because your child killing themselves is very safe. No one is advocating for surgery or irreversible things to happen to teens. However its very legal for teens to get boob jobs and cosmetic plastic surgery, so maybe work on trying to make that illegal instead of taking kids away from their parents for using a *name* their child asked them to use?
@Mariane Oh yes, so kind and caring to not want to medicate their kid for life. I "definitely" expect you to apply that same reasoning if you ever have a kid who happens to be diabetic, schizophrenic, have depression, is bipolar, or have any other of the numerous conditions that necessitate lifelong medication to function/survive.
@Marianne Admitting that trans people exist and acknowledging the medical standard for effective treatment of gender dysphoria is not "ascribing to an ideology" you're just blinded by your transphobia
I completely believe the penis thing has happened, as when I came out, my mother's first response was to worry that I was insecure about my body and insist that I needed to "love my curves."
“You just need to love your body” cool I just assumed ALL teenage girls pretended to be a beautiful man every second they could, and that’s how female insecurity works. “Yeah you know the hot guy you pretend to be when you feel utterly disconnected from your body, so it’s fine that your body is a lump of nightmares because everyone thinks the man is beautiful. Kind of a bummer that nobody can see him and I was born inside out with my grody soul exposed” Y’know. Like every woman /s In fact, no. Women are still women when they’re unhappy in their woman bodies. The damage and confusion and grief that could’ve been prevented if I’d just casually known what trans people are. Smh
It's been 10 months since my family found out I was trans. My family is generally supportive. My dad insists that I just don't like my body because of depression or asexuality. He therefore thinks I should stop taking hormones just in case I regret it. I will not. You know you best, OP. Keep being awesome. :)
I'm pretty sure that has happened. I'm a cis man but in high school I refused to change in the locker room for P.E. and instead of just respecting my privacy I had adults asking me if I was insecure about the size of my penis cause they just could not understand why I'd be uncomfortable undressing in front of other boys. Actually the reason I was uncomfortable is because I had already been sexually assaulted by other boys in public bathrooms on multiple occasions and was terrified to even use the bathroom at school unless I absolutely had to. I wasn't about to go through 2 years of high school being forced into a situation where I'd have to relive my childhood trauma on a daily basis. It makes zero sense how they simultaneously recognize that not everyone is built the same even if they have the same genitals yet expect everyone to be OK with undressing in front of each other as if we were all built the same. Even if that were the reason I think it's completely inappropriate for an adult to ask an under age student about their genitals. On the plus side, I was also in theater and that was the one place where I didn't have to constantly fight anyone for my right to privacy. There were male and female dressing rooms but that was really more of a suggestion than a rule. I started setting up my own dressing room in a mostly unused storage space backstage and not a single person ever questioned it. I was just allowed to be myself and no one cared.
I was told I'm following a trend when I came out as nonbinary. Several months later, I get told I just need to like my breasts and I'll grow to like them. I'm 20 and I started developing breasts at age nine-I never once liked them. Actually, my hatred for them helped me come to the realization I'm a demiboy. Edit: I'm transgender (FtM).
I’ve dealt with the whole “what genitals do you have?” thing and I’ve dealt with it in a very simple way, I simply ask them why they wanna see my privates so bad, this works especially well in public…. If you say something weird, you have to face the music for your weird statement!
I actually find it funny when people ask the question "what's in your pants" cause I always have some random stuff in my pocket like "uh today it's a fidget spinner, some lint and 17 cents"
@@dustygania2425 Look, just because you never desired surgery to correct your inverted digestive tract, that doesn't mean you get to tell other people what to do with their own bodies.
I asked my mom to tell my grandma (her mother) about me being trans, cuz I was scared about her reaction. Then she send me a message saying 'whatever you choose to be, you'll always be my grandchild'. And it made me happy and tear up.
My 83 year-old great aunt said basically the same thing when i came out as nonbinary to her, and I reacted in basically the same way as you did. That was a few months ago...
Not trans, but when my husband came out as gay, his aunts and uncles had a problem with it until his grandma put her foot down and said that's just the way it is and they weren't allowed to say anything negative.
That’s literally grandma’s way of saying “I’m too fucking old for this bullshit, I don’t know what you’re fucking on about, let’s just end the conversation here and never discuss it again, cool?”
@@enbyarchmage Lol granny doesn’t give a fuck, nor does she know what non-binary is. She knows that whatever it is is a fad and simply hopes that she won’t have to deal with you whining and bitching at her if she just says “that’s nice, sweetie.”
the "just be you" part hits so hard, that's literally my mum telling me i "just need to forget about all these labels and just be myself (be who she thinks I am) " mother that is what i'm doing
My mom tried to bust out the "you've always told me everything", and I was like, "oh yeah, like what? What did I share with you?" and there was a pause and she went, "well... there just wasn't that much going on in your life, was there?" and I was like, "that's hilarious". You know when parents say they're really perceptive and that they know what their kids get up to? Yeah. That's BS.
3:27 This pretty much sums up my mom when I came out her as transmasc. She said I never showed any signs and that I tell her everything so I would have told her this, but I didn't tell her I was trans for a while because I thought she would react like she did. It's can suck when your parents act like they support you but really think you're too young/dumb to make your own decisions
4:00 I’d like to point out that it is absolutely possible to present feminine and identify as male. The 2 are not mutually exclusive, and if that’s who you feel you are, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
i once spoke against a transphobe on the internet who assumed me being trans meant i was a trans woman, and thus went all out on calling me a man. i thanked them for the gender affirmation, to which they got even more mad BUT STILL DID NOT UNDERSTAND I WAS NOT A TRANS WOMAN AND KEPT CALLING ME A MAN IN EVERY WAY and i just love when they get so confused. like they're trying so hard but failing miserably every step of the way
@@sh4rky466UA-cam. Don't you know Caelan's channel? It's relatively small, but AWESOME! Caelan is enby btw. P.S I can give you a list of channels (big and small) made by trans creators, if you'd like. As you are a trans dude, I suggest Ty Turner and Finntastic Mr Fox.
@@enbyarchmage I’ve never heard of them, but I’m happy I know now. As for the other channels, I watch a few trans creators like Summer Luk, but I’m going to watch those other channels rn, thanks for the help!
Lmao, these memes are so relatable because recently my mom who's transphobic and very openly against pronouns (especially gender neutral ones) was telling my sister and me about how she finds LGBTQ+ and pronouns useless and overshadowing "real problems". When I point out to her what she's saying she denies it. My sister then asked her something like "what if someone you know identified differently". She then started interrogating us then talking about a member of our family and how their parents are accepting etc (they're not). I don't think I could ever feel comfortable expressing my true self and how I feel to her :/ Sorry for ranting :( P.s. My father is of the same views as my mom.
You don't need to apologize for ranting, sib. You were just expressing your emotions in a relatively safe space. That's not only ok, but healthy! Also, what you've been through is very similar (if not basically identical) to what a lot of other LGBT+ people, including myself, have been through. Your Queer elders will give you love and support in ways that your parents simply cannot, at least for now. Do you need to vent some more? I'm here for you. I'm no therapist, but I can listen to your stories and offer some advice from time to time. I could even add you on Twitter or on IG and occasionally exchange DMs with you... P.S I took the liberty of seeing to what channels you are subscribed to. We have a lot of interests in common, apparently! LGBT stuff, Science, Mathematics, Philosophy and History in particular. Lucky you, i can recommend LOADS of great stuff about those very topics. Do you want me to?
I'm really sorry you have to deal with that shit, it does suck and untill your able to set yourself up as an adult you'll have to deal with it. But as that other person above my comment says venting is healthy and theirnis support to help you and your sister though this. stay safe and keep well
I know it's a little sad to consider that you may never feel comfortable expressing yourself authentically to your folks. You deserve fulfillment, safety, and the space to feel your feelings. I hope you have people in your life who make you aware of how much they love you & I hope (eventually) they can help you unlearn the internalized transphobia that your parents are passing down. A reminder: you do not have to be out to everyone, your first priority needs to be your own safety so that you can make it to your future-- If you can't picture it now, just know it's because it'll be better than you could expect.
@@enbyarchmage Hey, thanks a million for this :) It's sad to see that many others are going through similar circumstances and I'm sure that a lot are in worse situations than I am. That's why it means the world for me to know that there are people out there that are as supportive and compassionate as you are. I'll be fine, you've definitely made my day and I don't wanna burden you... Plus I'm a terrible conversationalist. Also wow, subscriptions really do reveal a lot! I'm open for any recommendations XD
Just had a really bad argument with my parents in which I confirmed something I'd suspected for a long time- they're transphobic. So this video was well-timed! Thank you for improving my low mood Jamie!
@@finn_yt oof we're buddie :,) but yeah, i've come out once as transmale, again as non-binary, and I was gonna come out a THIRD time as genderfluid but I don't think that'll be happening anytime soon
@@finn_yt can you do this tho? Like genuinely asking. I've got a plan to come out to my parents when I'm leaving the country and living independently (if i didn't chicken out lol). But my point is, you don't need parent's permission right? (In the law perspective)
@@foxinabox5103 usually, legally, no one cares if you tell your parents everything or not, personally I know I won’t tell anything I’d done with a guy to my uncle and aunt, I will even less talk about my sexual orientation (ace, but god I heard so nasty things coming from my uncle about his hate for gay people), and I’m actively dodging them as much as I can (my closer family usually spends a week or two together, when I just either don’t come, or stay a weekend)
I’m going to college this month for the first time and I noticed they have gender neutral bathrooms!!!! I’m cis but I found that so cool, my uni is extremely inclusive. They even had an ASL translator during our freshman welcome which was mind blowing for me cause you never see that where I live. And a whole library just for people with disabilities!
@@probably_not_garfield It’s University of Puerto Rico in Río Piedras, it’s mostly spanish speaking and it isn’t in the contiguous US so I don’t know if it’d be a good option for you but they do get a lot of exchange students!
I work at a university and I’m confident that most strive to create an inclusive community. Please, please do not be afraid to be yourself. We all want to help you
I was talking to a friend the other day while we were grocery shopping, and passing by the cookies I mentioned that the sugar cookies with the pink frosting seemed the most indulgent. Cupcakes, cookies, doughnuts, any sweets with frosting is extra good when the frosting is pink. She couldn't understand this, that as a guy, I should shun everything to do with the color pink. I just don't have a fragile masculinity that I worry about that sort of thing?
The way my mind processes this, "I prefer my poop to have a pink hue." As my enjoyment of purple candy likely started with the childhood realization of it's color contribution at both ends.
Grandmas can be surprisingly wholesome. I remember when my brother came out as gay (it was just me and Grandma in the room, he had already talked with Mum and Dad and came out to our other brother at a different time), she reacted by giving him a hug and then feeding us dinner. We talked about his "friend" (who's now his husband, beautiful wedding btw!) and she was basically super accepting without a moment's pause. This despite being in her 80s (at the time) and being raised in quite a religious environment. She still practices her faith, but she feels the parts of the Bible where Jesus says "be nice to each other" are kind of the most important bits.
It hits me that the Venn Diagram between "parents who believe in ROGD because their children 'tell them everything' so they never saw any signs before they came out" and "helicopter parents who give their children zero privacy in their own home" is probably a circle. Like, of course you _think_ you know everything about your kids, you've trained them to the strictest degree on how to _hide_ their deepest interests and insecurities _from you._ Source: Am a gay man who spent a decade in the closet while living with a conservative helicopter parent.
Yes! One time at a church dinner my mum said of her & me "Oh, we have no secrets!" And I was thinking (bi & trans but deeply closeted at the time) "Bitch, ALL we have are secrets..."
Jamie has disclosed that he's had _the surgery._ He didn't have to. He could've said that that was a question he would never answer, like he did when asked about his deadname. But unlike the question of his deadname, he decided that he felt comfortable disclosing that he'd had _the surgery._ But that's the thing. Many (if not most) trans people aren't comfortable answering that question. Whether or not they disclose whether or not they've had _the surgery_ is for them to decide, not for you. It's not a question that should be asked.
@@Kath2378 what’s your definition of closed? Most public restrooms have stalls without floor to ceiling walls. A person can literally fit under the dividers and easily see above them by standing on the toilet. It’s easy to see stall occupants through the gap between the door and the divider. If you’re not careful you can accidentally see your coworker on the crapper. As for determining the sex of someone in the stall next to you? It’s obvious to females if there is a male next to us. You’re aware that males make a lot more noise when peeing than females do, right? Even a simple throat-clearing will give them away. As I’m sure you’re aware (if you’re an actual woman), many females are pee-shy. We don’t like performing bodily functions in a setting where we can be heard, and we have trouble relaxing our muscles in order to pee. Males, for the most part, are less self conscious about bodily functions and are far more likely to not only pee in public restrooms but to shit as well. If a woman who is already pee shy figures out that there’s a male in the stall next to her, she’ll freeze up even worse.
9:15 - I had this happen to me once, long before I let anybody in that chapter of my life know that I intended to transition. It was so absurd. There was this kid that nobody talked to, so I decided to be friends with him bc we had some similar interests anyway and he seemed pretty chill. Like a month or two into our friendship we were walking to lunch and he just randomly started going off on a super angry and transphobic tangent, envisioning fake trans people to get angry at then arguing against them, talking passionately about how surgery wouldn't make a trans person their gender, the whole shebang. I presented as cis, never discussed anything trans, and I think we were talking about minecraft immediately before he just randomly blew up about trans people for no discernible reason.
@Marianne of course it doesn't. A person's gender is not about their body but their Identity. People who think surgery is about changing gender are mistaken and need to actually listen to the many trans people trying to educate them. Most people are lucky enough to have their biological sex and body match their gender. For those who aren't, surgery remedies the issue by altering the body to fit the person's gender better.
im so happy realizing trans content creators have to clarify they’re trans just bc they pass THAT well, gives me hope as a trans teen that this is kinda the constant once i can put money into my social transition / vocal training
@@tauon_ my brother, also a 🇬🇧, stayed at a hotel in the USA and the people in the room next to him were being noisy. When he knocked on the door and they realised he’s 🇬🇧, they demanded a “bo’le o’ wa’er” from him. Still the best thing I’ve heard from him.
I find it so funny because my high school self really identified with the whole "fragile masculinity" thing because I thought I identified as a guy and was incredibly avoidant of all things "feminine." I refused to admit that I liked the color pink and tried to hard to prove myself to be masculine. I realized later that I'm actually genderfluid.
Everyone keeps things from their parents, that's a universal thing, so claiming rapid onset dysphoria only shows how little these parents understand how people work. And they think they're some kind of omniscient parent. Either they didn't pay enough attention to their child, or the kid was afraid to tell them.😔
Just want to say that if it's a big thing for you then it is a big thing worth celebrating; and I hope your haircut went well and looks the way you want it to.
You could be the most secure parent ever but even then the child needs extra-familial safe spaces so they can take their time making decisions independent of parents.
Hard agree. I love my mom, but it’s really hard to confess anything to her, even when I know she’s fine with, at least most of stuff (I still remember when she asked me when I was 14 or so, if I had views on a girl or a boy), but a lot of stuff is really hard to say, mostly because it’s family and there’s kind of a barrier Tho I usually don’t say a lot I do elsewhere, but some friends I feel like I can really open up, I’m still sometimes trying to at least
God I love these, and I keep collecting them so my power grows daily-I hope my final form is basically Jamie. (FYI The comments here have a lot of arguments; regardless I hope all of you achieve your transition goals! We got this!)
@@marioluigi9599 have talked to men? Cuz yanno men want to look good in their clothes too, it's not 'ladylike' or whatever bullshit you think. Also Jamie is man like any other mam, stop being a snowflake about petty things and go find your self a job
I already know this video will be amazing as always, you always make me feel okay and safe ! I watch your vids when i’m dysphoric and it already feel better, thanks for being my self place
7:13 It's a bit sad but there was a semi-recent case of this happening. At a bar, trans man asked the bartender/owner which bathroom to use to not stir up shit, was directed to the women's bathroom. In there, women were unsettled and IIRC one said that he 'belonged in the other restroom' And then worst, upon leaving, the man was assaulted for 'sneaking into the women's room' because the other guys thought he was a man doing the not-real 'faking' to get in there. Later, when police arrived, the trans man was arrested (later released) for some disorder charge, because he was too out of it to explain the story at the time. The other guys, at time of that report I read, were not arrested or anything. Simplified: Trans man double-checked which restroom he should use, was told to use the women's, apparently passed well enough that both the women in the restroom and the men outside thought he was a man/trans woman, and was assaulted for it.
I almost came out as trans to my dad, and I'm glad I didn't. He agrees with Matt Walsh and he doesn't understand trans people that take hormones and get surgery. He views it the same way he views colored hair, piecing's, and tattoos, he doesn't like any kind of, "body modification"
@@gaybowser2422 Just ignore Marianne, they and others like them that you’ll see in these comment sections are just here to cause drama and not actually to learn anything. Trust me, I’ve “debated” with them before, and they can’t debate in good faith because they can’t take information from any reputable source so long as that source doesn’t align with their very narrow worldview. Honestly, they aren’t worth the time.
My friend just came out as trans a few days ago. He’s always been more masculine and has always worn masculine clothes (swim trunks, boxers, mens clothing etc.) and my whole friend group has been so supportive of his pronouns, new name, and just so wholesome in general. I’ve always been around trans people by my sister has been an out trans woman almost my whole life (she’s a lot older than me) and I’ve seen everything that she went thru coming out in the early 2010s, seeing my friend have such a wholesome environment to come out in restored my faith in people. Just wanted to share 💕
My mom found out that I'm Bi and Trans and said that I'm not mature enough to know who I am yet and has said other stuff like the t slur and other transphobic things and seeing this makes me feel a lot better, Thank you Jamie
About that thing with fragile men afraid of feminine things. I know this is a bit different because I was 9 when I was like that, but back then I was avoiding everything that could be thought of feminine. Like for example back then I considered red to be feminine color, and I found a 2 by 2 mm piece of red fabric in one of my trousers - never worn them again etc. And it took me 15 years from then to understand that I am a trans woman. And I know, I was a kid back then, and probably had already my first thoughts on being a girl, and felt like it was something wrong and hence my reaction. Don't really know why I'm telling that btw, just felt a little bit relevant...
I'm so sad to read so many stories of people with unsupportive parents. If my son is willing to trust me with such important feelings, I can't imagine abusing that trust by acting like those feelings don't matter. Maybe it makes a difference me being queer myself though. Still, I feel I should trust him to know what he is experiencing much better than I do. I hope you are all safe and well, and that you have some sort of support system outside of your parents. You deserve it. In fact, you deserve the very best of everything in life, including treatment from others. 'Cause you're awesome.
@Marianne Now, now, dear, you're being a bit naughty here, aren't you? I don't appreciate you twisting my words about trust to further your weird obsessional fantasies. I didn't mention taking any actions at all, I spoke of mutual trust and exploring feelings, so you can't pretend this "gender clinic" is anything but a product of your own fevered mind. You should try to do better. And if you genuinely don't know what you did wrong, then I'm very sorry that your bias so completely outweighs your intelligence.
@@irishalchemy Hey, if I were you, I wouldn’t engage with Marianne. You can, I won’t say you shouldn’t, but they and a few other people you’ll see trolling these comment sections are just here to cause drama. They’re not here to “debate”, they’re not here to learn, and they’re not here to have any sort of honest discussion. You can look for yourself if you like, but what you’ll find is that they make the same “points” over and over again, despite those same “points” being refuted by everyone they talk to. They won’t take information from credible sources outside of UA-cam either, which really just proves that they don’t care about the truth. Trust me, you’ll be better off if you ignore them.
@@irishalchemy You sound like a wonderful parent. I’m glad that there are parents like you out there. Thank you for your words of encouragement. You deserve the best too! I hope for continued happiness for your family
Jamie you look stunning ❤️❤️ I Stan Jamie and everyone in the LGBTQ community :] Also I have a little story (unrelated)I just made my LGBTQ+ phobic mom buy me shoes that have the colours of the ace flag💀 i was laughing so hard and she was confused-
Okay, but our Ace flag is by far the most aesthetically pleasing. Not only does it have a nice gradient from black to white but it has by far the most premier of all colors, purple!
@Jakie T I totally agree it has all my favourite colours ! And what is good about it is that since this flag isn't really as popular as the others I can buy anything that has this colour palette and justify it by "I like those colours together" which is true it's so pretty 🖤🤍💜
9:10 Jamie giving me an anime idea. It's a town, that's split in two half's, *males and females* And there's a trans man and a trans woman. Who pass each other one night, trying to see what it's like on the opposite side. Recognizing they are in the same situation. Waving but continue onwards. Some drama happens where they get caught and forced back. They get punished somehow. But they escape thanks to a group of Nonbinary people who saw what went down. And they both meet up in the secret gender neutral hiding location in the middle of town. And they start to form a bond. And they all start to formulate a plan of action to abolish the systems that hold them down. You can figure out the finer details later. But visually I think the town should have a lack of colour, or at least vibrancy. And things get a bit brighter when they reach the other side. But nothing is as bright as the hideout. *That is all inclusive, I just like to think it was founded by someone who felt they were in-between, hence the middle of town* And the final, where everything is colour, and bright. When everything finally toppled. Those who are still stuck in the old ways will still be more of a grey. But will hopefully gain more colour over time. Due to their gradual acceptance. Feel free to build more apon this idea!
When I came out as ace, my grandma was surprisingly chill and didn't question it all. My parents and family on the other hand were like "You're too young to know, this is gonna change, you'll find the right person".
I don't know if you will see this or if you seen my last comment but I have you to thank for being able to feel more like myself. I have top surgery in just under 2 weeks to finally look like the picture in my head looks and if it wasn't for watching your UA-cam videos I don't know if I would of even looked into transitioning let alone it finally happening.Thank you so much for your videos.
10:22 Based on personal experience (previously being one of them), I'm inclined to believe most of those "cis men" are in-denial trans women. Especially if they're also going to turn around and go "trans women aren't women just because they FEEL like women", because by their own logic, them feeling like girls because of eating pink ice cream isn't ACTUALLY a big deal, because they're still men. The only other logical explanation is that they feel like girls because they ARE girls, and don't want to admit it to themselves. That was at least the case with me; the avid Care Bears fan who constantly hid it because it made me feel like the "girly one" or the "odd man out" among my peers.
I had a friend at uni who, before she came out as trans, would get so upset and angry if people thought she was a woman (she had long hair) or said something she did was girly. Once she was out it was so great to see her reaction completely change. We went to the coffee shop and the barista said "what can I get you girls" and she was beaming!
@@tatertot8954 There's a difference between not wanting to be feminine and acting like anything even remotely feminine is infected with the bubonic plague. One is completely normal and natural, the other is really extreme and never happens for no reason.
@Marianne I'm sure it's different for other people, but here's how it is for me. Whenever I think about my gender, there isn't anything there that tells me about it. Sometimes I will distinctly feel like a man, so I know what it's supposed to feel like. Sometimes there is nothing there. I don't know how else to describe it.
@Marianne for me, I don't feel an attachment to any gender or gender as a concept. I feel like nothing (in a good way!) but feel like I'm just... me. Hope that makes sense
@Marianne Lots of transphobes say it feels like a lie to use affirming pronouns. To me it feels like a lie to use binary pronouns, to call myself "man" _or_ "woman". An important difference is that I'm not claiming to know what's going on in anyone else's head, which is what declaring what someone else's gender is or isn't amounts to.
Marianne I disagree you experiences are not everyone’s I don’t feel I connection to being a man which is not the same as feeling masculine or feminine.
When I visited my friend a week ago, we went shopping because she knew my parents had bought all my clothes for me (excess of pink). She was very supportive, gender affirming, and helped me pick out some lovely outfits that I feel much better about being in.
8:21 as someone who was born in 82, i grew up with people voicing stereotypes about the lgbtq community all the time. it was common, but we still knew it was wrong because it doesn't matter how the world changes or how old fashion the world is, at the end of the day, you hurt someone's feelings in a very raw and personal way, and you know that's a shit move even if it's 1955 or 2032. i';m sick of the "it was a different time" or "that's a different generation." i'm old, i was there, and it wasn't okay, and idk about others, but when i look back on anything dumb i said (like the time i asked a classmate if he was gay like it was my business), i feel shame at those behaviors. I would never say, "it was a different time," because even then, i knew that was a totally selfish move.
When you talked about the trans female and trans male experience in comparison, quite recently I thought “how do people want actively be my AGAB? Like how people born as the other sex want to be mine? I find it do discusting to be my gender but since they want it so much CAN WE SWAP?”
I got the "You never told me anything about this!" response from my nan when I eventually came out. Not only did it take me a long time to figure it out for myself, my nan has also been vocally anti-LGBTQ+ in the past so like...Not something I really wanted to discuss.
I am cis, but I related so hard to the meme with the guy and the dust devil. My parents think that trans people is just "a trend", has misgendered trans people (even the ones they agree with, though they are getting better at that), and agrees with Rowling 🙄
Oof, let's hope your parents get with the times and realize that identities are not trends, especially in this case Also, I'm still a bit shocked that Rowling has those views I wonder how my sister feels about it, since she loves Harry Potter dearly
Things that are cool: -- Jammi - You, the trans person reading this - The trans community - This video - Trans memes - cake and garlic bread - dinosaurs Things that are NOT cool: -Transphobes -Bigotry added two suggestions from people in the coments
@@name02 i can see you've missed my point. this is a trans related video, allies don't have to be mentioned all the time. maybe let the minorities have their representation first?
I’m a barista, and I can’t tell you how many times men will order a “girly” sounding drink, and then insist that it’s for their girlfriend. Dude I don’t care who it’s for, it’s literally just coffee.
Oh, mercy, I worked with ice cream dude. Favorite ice creams came up, he admitted he loved strawberry but couldn't have it that often. "Oh, are you allergic?" "No, it's pink." "...I do not follow." "I CAN'T BE SEEN LICKING PINK STUFF, WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK?" "That... they could go for an ice cream...?"
Hey King if the Spuds! My son (10) came out as trans a couple of months ago (FtM) We have tried socially transitioning at home and last week he told his school counselor who is thankfully very supportive. We are going to our Dr tomorrow to look into getting him in puberty blockers. Do you have any advice for a baby trans and me during this period of adjustment?
practice his pronouns while writing, and saying it out loud a few times and when talking to him. Say sorry when you get it wrong, correct yourself and start your sentence from the beggining. keep saying that you will support him (reassurance is important), stand up against other people that will get it wrong or be plain usupportive. Example: Then she said -. Interrupt, say sorry, start again. Then he said that his day was okay. You dont need to make a big deal everytime you get it wrong, a simple sorry will suffice and wont make it feel like you are centering your self. Good luck on your journey, you both are gonna need it. This trans person here send a hug to you both
@@arielruby13 Thank you so much. I support him 100%. The way I see it is that all I want is for him to be happy, regardless of how he identifies or who he loves. Him being happy within himself is more important than what other people say/think about him. Luckily we found a supportive counselor. Hopefully our Dr us supportive as well.
The Dr appointment went well. BabyBubble needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist and our Dr is going to help us find the right one. Basically what I was expecting him to say, but at least the ball is rolling.
8:08 i relate to this so much like my dad is super transphobic and homophobic but his mom is a lesbian who tries her best to correctly gender me and then my parents use the excuse of "well im old and i grew up in a different time blah blah blah" and its like okay well then why does grandma understand she's way older than you guys
I’m a transman and my girlfriend is a transwoman so yeah it’s definitely fascinating how we both relate to our trans struggles but also not cause we both are going into different directions with transitioning.
Jammie, I have been a long time viewer of yours and really enjoy your video's and the information and entertainment you provide. I would love for you to talk to de transitioning people. There's a wide range of wonderful people who need the support of the LGBT community and feel that because they de transitioned they have been excluded from that space. A safe platform needs to be provided for these people. Their gender dysphoria paths should be validated and listened to. I'm a parent of an LGBT child and thankfully they are very confident and content. They do have friends that are victims of the rush by medical staff at a certain center to confirm that they are trans. I understand that it's an uncomfortable conversation, but it's one that needs to be had for everyone's sake. Lots of love ❤️🌈
So true about age and acceptance, my grandparents are my biggest allies, they have not gotten my name of pronouns wrong once since I came out, while my parents and siblings are not accepting at all.
OH! I ACTUALLY HAVE A MTF FRIEND WHO HAS A VERY CONSERVATIVE FATHER(her mom went gonzo a couple months prior to this) AND ONCE SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT HOW SHE HAD NO DRESSES OR SKIRTS AND I JUST BOUGHT HER ONE??? We don't really talk anymore. But my ftm ass just HAD to help a fellow transgender
I can believe the bit about seeing your flag colors everywhere after coming out; I bought a butterfly wristband because the body was a purply-pinkish gemstone that turns blue when the light hits it. Just to make sure people know for certain, I also added pink, purple, and blue paper clips on the band between a couple spikes. Also, depending on your family, the hardest part of coming out could just be figuring out how to tell them. I spent a good month trying to figure out the best way to tell my mother, and when I finally did, it was a huge relief when she told me she loves me no matter what; part of my nervousness was due to how she said she's not a fan of the idea of same sex couples.
Just came home from some Convention. Some girl there said "if you were a real boy i would have a crush on you" Made me sad. So i watched this video. Now i'm happy again.
I was playing DnD today and during the break my brother excitedly told our Trans friend about the new training gear my brother bought for him. And he beamed up so much and said: "I'm entering my jock phase." And my brother very equally excitedly said: "I'm so glad to finally have gym bro." They both just sat there and grinned like mad.
Thats really sweet!!!
Aww, That’s so wholesome and sweet
Aww! ❤️
Bromance at its finest 💪
That is so great to hear!~ two bros bein bros!~
jammie: “i don’t usually like the trans flag that much…”
also jammie: “i got this shirt because it looks like the trans flag”
Yes yes yes but it got *DA GOLDDDD*
@@JSGRanks because Jamie is gold
420th like youre welcome 💃
@@I_smash_moms much appreciated 😔✌️
Especially after talking about loving and being drawn to things with the trans colors
So, back when I was questioning my gender a lot, my boyfriend mentioned that it was really easy for him to socially transition, because his friends mostly assumed, based on how he typed, that he was a man anyway. I asked him what impression my typing style gave off, and he was quiet for a long time, before he said, "Oddly professional."
So now, when someone asks me what gender I am, while sounding offended, I tell them, "Please calm down. I'm a professional."
And if they ask me what's in my pants, my reply is, "That's not safe for work."
Legend
That's absolutely hilarious /pos
this gave me the giggles, i love it
Comment of the day for sure. You have a great boyfriend.
Gender: Business
If gender is what's in my pants then my gender is 80% cotton, 18% polyester and 2% Elastane.
That's a good answer!
THIS-
Mine would be mostly hair, unfortunately (I know pubes are normal, but I meant in general. I am a really hairy person... Unfortunately)
If I could like this more than once I would
I'm a sock
So happy that Jamie addressed the ‘Parents will allow things but have Terms and Conditions’ bit 🔥
@Marianne as someone who is required to take meds for life, piss off.
@Marianne ah yes because your child killing themselves is very safe. No one is advocating for surgery or irreversible things to happen to teens. However its very legal for teens to get boob jobs and cosmetic plastic surgery, so maybe work on trying to make that illegal instead of taking kids away from their parents for using a *name* their child asked them to use?
Jamie never once encourages the resentment of a person’s parents what-
@Mariane Oh yes, so kind and caring to not want to medicate their kid for life. I "definitely" expect you to apply that same reasoning if you ever have a kid who happens to be diabetic, schizophrenic, have depression, is bipolar, or have any other of the numerous conditions that necessitate lifelong medication to function/survive.
@Marianne Admitting that trans people exist and acknowledging the medical standard for effective treatment of gender dysphoria is not "ascribing to an ideology" you're just blinded by your transphobia
I completely believe the penis thing has happened, as when I came out, my mother's first response was to worry that I was insecure about my body and insist that I needed to "love my curves."
My mother responded the exact same way
“You just need to love your body” cool I just assumed ALL teenage girls pretended to be a beautiful man every second they could, and that’s how female insecurity works. “Yeah you know the hot guy you pretend to be when you feel utterly disconnected from your body, so it’s fine that your body is a lump of nightmares because everyone thinks the man is beautiful. Kind of a bummer that nobody can see him and I was born inside out with my grody soul exposed”
Y’know. Like every woman /s
In fact, no. Women are still women when they’re unhappy in their woman bodies. The damage and confusion and grief that could’ve been prevented if I’d just casually known what trans people are. Smh
It's been 10 months since my family found out I was trans. My family is generally supportive. My dad insists that I just don't like my body because of depression or asexuality. He therefore thinks I should stop taking hormones just in case I regret it. I will not. You know you best, OP. Keep being awesome. :)
I'm pretty sure that has happened. I'm a cis man but in high school I refused to change in the locker room for P.E. and instead of just respecting my privacy I had adults asking me if I was insecure about the size of my penis cause they just could not understand why I'd be uncomfortable undressing in front of other boys.
Actually the reason I was uncomfortable is because I had already been sexually assaulted by other boys in public bathrooms on multiple occasions and was terrified to even use the bathroom at school unless I absolutely had to. I wasn't about to go through 2 years of high school being forced into a situation where I'd have to relive my childhood trauma on a daily basis.
It makes zero sense how they simultaneously recognize that not everyone is built the same even if they have the same genitals yet expect everyone to be OK with undressing in front of each other as if we were all built the same. Even if that were the reason I think it's completely inappropriate for an adult to ask an under age student about their genitals.
On the plus side, I was also in theater and that was the one place where I didn't have to constantly fight anyone for my right to privacy. There were male and female dressing rooms but that was really more of a suggestion than a rule. I started setting up my own dressing room in a mostly unused storage space backstage and not a single person ever questioned it. I was just allowed to be myself and no one cared.
I was told I'm following a trend when I came out as nonbinary. Several months later, I get told I just need to like my breasts and I'll grow to like them. I'm 20 and I started developing breasts at age nine-I never once liked them. Actually, my hatred for them helped me come to the realization I'm a demiboy.
Edit: I'm transgender (FtM).
I’ve dealt with the whole “what genitals do you have?” thing and I’ve dealt with it in a very simple way, I simply ask them why they wanna see my privates so bad, this works especially well in public…. If you say something weird, you have to face the music for your weird statement!
Amen. Who tf goes around asking people that!? That's both transphobic and just general sexual harassment.
@@QueenMegaera People that can’t handle the fact that gender is a spectrum…
Genital preferences are valid. Asking a stranger invasive sexual questions is not.
I do something similar by saying something like "that's information for my doctor and my lovers. You wanna be my lover?"
Asking back something stupid like "Are you circumcised?" also tend to get the message across pretty well!
I actually find it funny when people ask the question "what's in your pants" cause I always have some random stuff in my pocket like "uh today it's a fidget spinner, some lint and 17 cents"
Maybe this is why I only wear cargoes 🤔. Unlimited power in the 'What's in your pants?' category!
This is yet another reason why all women's clothing needs real pockets!
@@dustygania2425 Look, just because you never desired surgery to correct your inverted digestive tract, that doesn't mean you get to tell other people what to do with their own bodies.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Chose violence today, I see
That's actually a power move. I'm gonna steal that.
I asked my mom to tell my grandma (her mother) about me being trans, cuz I was scared about her reaction. Then she send me a message saying 'whatever you choose to be, you'll always be my grandchild'. And it made me happy and tear up.
My 83 year-old great aunt said basically the same thing when i came out as nonbinary to her, and I reacted in basically the same way as you did. That was a few months ago...
Inclusive grandmas are truly the best 🥰
Not trans, but when my husband came out as gay, his aunts and uncles had a problem with it until his grandma put her foot down and said that's just the way it is and they weren't allowed to say anything negative.
That’s literally grandma’s way of saying “I’m too fucking old for this bullshit, I don’t know what you’re fucking on about, let’s just end the conversation here and never discuss it again, cool?”
@@enbyarchmage Lol granny doesn’t give a fuck, nor does she know what non-binary is. She knows that whatever it is is a fad and simply hopes that she won’t have to deal with you whining and bitching at her if she just says “that’s nice, sweetie.”
I'm a cis man, and I'm very confident in my masculinity. I'd eat all the pink ice cream!
SAME
@Real Ray I know, colors are weird
Yes sir
Everyone knows the best ice cream is parmesan ice cream
@@Equinox_5 no it's mint chocolate chip and I will die on this hill
As a cis person, the argument “your genders whatever is in your pants” never made sense. Like
“hi what is ur gender?”
“C H O O C H I E”
ROFLMAO
😭😭😭😭
I had someone tell me they know their gender because they've looked in their pants.
The level of introspection is telling. "Yeah, I'm a dick!"
my gender is blood 😍😍
@Marianne *up until the 1970's in academia and up until the 2010's in the general populace*
the "just be you" part hits so hard, that's literally my mum telling me i "just need to forget about all these labels and just be myself (be who she thinks I am) " mother that is what i'm doing
My mom tried to bust out the "you've always told me everything", and I was like, "oh yeah, like what? What did I share with you?" and there was a pause and she went, "well... there just wasn't that much going on in your life, was there?" and I was like, "that's hilarious".
You know when parents say they're really perceptive and that they know what their kids get up to? Yeah. That's BS.
Perceptive people don't have to tell people they're perceptive. 😂
The “we know what our kids are up to” thing is about Jimmy stealing cookies, not his deepest secret identity
3:27
This pretty much sums up my mom when I came out her as transmasc. She said I never showed any signs and that I tell her everything so I would have told her this, but I didn't tell her I was trans for a while because I thought she would react like she did. It's can suck when your parents act like they support you but really think you're too young/dumb to make your own decisions
Nice flag
@@dustygania2425 ?
@@dustygania2425 you dont even know them wut
@The Werewolf of Somalia bro what you even saying bruh.
Ima go kms /j
@The Werewolf of Somalia bruh out here trying to start a war L 💀
Jamie always has the best outfits for videos I don't even know how he does it
Yes! His trans colored shirt even has a nautilis design in the print.
I choose to believe all LGBTQ+ youtubers just get assigned appointments with the Ghey Fashion Octopus, and just arent allowed to mention it.
ikr? its like a secret power
Talent
@@ultimateninjaboi you mean there IS a gay agenda… and they didn’t invite me?
4:00 I’d like to point out that it is absolutely possible to present feminine and identify as male. The 2 are not mutually exclusive, and if that’s who you feel you are, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Preach!
I think the joke was more on the taking feminising hormones bit :b
@@Charbified I think *some* femboys have actually briefly taken HRT to redistribute fat
@@tylerphuoc2653 Feels a bit like a kick in the teeth, but people are welcome to do whatever they want I guess haha
i once spoke against a transphobe on the internet who assumed me being trans meant i was a trans woman, and thus went all out on calling me a man. i thanked them for the gender affirmation, to which they got even more mad BUT STILL DID NOT UNDERSTAND I WAS NOT A TRANS WOMAN AND KEPT CALLING ME A MAN IN EVERY WAY
and i just love when they get so confused. like they're trying so hard but failing miserably every step of the way
R/AccidentalAlly lol
"It's like going down the same path in opposite directions." And we meet as hoodie-shrouded unidentifiable blobs in the middle!
You inspire me so much man, as a trans dude myself, you make me feel confident in myself.
Have you watched Caelan Conrad's video on Queer and Trans Joy? I'm sure that'll make you even more confident. Beware: it has some dark parts.
@@enbyarchmage I’ll try to check that out! Is it on UA-cam or on a streaming service?
@@sh4rky466UA-cam. Don't you know Caelan's channel? It's relatively small, but AWESOME! Caelan is enby btw.
P.S I can give you a list of channels (big and small) made by trans creators, if you'd like. As you are a trans dude, I suggest Ty Turner and Finntastic Mr Fox.
@@enbyarchmage I’ve never heard of them, but I’m happy I know now. As for the other channels, I watch a few trans creators like Summer Luk, but I’m going to watch those other channels rn, thanks for the help!
@@dustygania2425 Dude what 💀
Lmao, these memes are so relatable because recently my mom who's transphobic and very openly against pronouns (especially gender neutral ones) was telling my sister and me about how she finds LGBTQ+ and pronouns useless and overshadowing "real problems". When I point out to her what she's saying she denies it. My sister then asked her something like "what if someone you know identified differently".
She then started interrogating us then talking about a member of our family and how their parents are accepting etc (they're not).
I don't think I could ever feel comfortable expressing my true self and how I feel to her :/
Sorry for ranting :(
P.s. My father is of the same views as my mom.
You don't need to apologize for ranting, sib. You were just expressing your emotions in a relatively safe space. That's not only ok, but healthy! Also, what you've been through is very similar (if not basically identical) to what a lot of other LGBT+ people, including myself, have been through. Your Queer elders will give you love and support in ways that your parents simply cannot, at least for now.
Do you need to vent some more? I'm here for you. I'm no therapist, but I can listen to your stories and offer some advice from time to time. I could even add you on Twitter or on IG and occasionally exchange DMs with you...
P.S I took the liberty of seeing to what channels you are subscribed to. We have a lot of interests in common, apparently! LGBT stuff, Science, Mathematics, Philosophy and History in particular. Lucky you, i can recommend LOADS of great stuff about those very topics. Do you want me to?
I hope your parents get over themselves sooner than later. Please accept some mama hugs. 💙💗🤍💗💙❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I'm really sorry you have to deal with that shit, it does suck and untill your able to set yourself up as an adult you'll have to deal with it. But as that other person above my comment says venting is healthy and theirnis support to help you and your sister though this.
stay safe and keep well
I know it's a little sad to consider that you may never feel comfortable expressing yourself authentically to your folks. You deserve fulfillment, safety, and the space to feel your feelings. I hope you have people in your life who make you aware of how much they love you & I hope (eventually) they can help you unlearn the internalized transphobia that your parents are passing down. A reminder: you do not have to be out to everyone, your first priority needs to be your own safety so that you can make it to your future-- If you can't picture it now, just know it's because it'll be better than you could expect.
@@enbyarchmage Hey, thanks a million for this :)
It's sad to see that many others are going through similar circumstances and I'm sure that a lot are in worse situations than I am. That's why it means the world for me to know that there are people out there that are as supportive and compassionate as you are.
I'll be fine, you've definitely made my day and I don't wanna burden you... Plus I'm a terrible conversationalist.
Also wow, subscriptions really do reveal a lot! I'm open for any recommendations XD
Just had a really bad argument with my parents in which I confirmed something I'd suspected for a long time- they're transphobic. So this video was well-timed! Thank you for improving my low mood Jamie!
omg I had the exact same thing before the last video dhdjd,,, decided to never come out lol
@@finn_yt oof we're buddie :,) but yeah, i've come out once as transmale, again as non-binary, and I was gonna come out a THIRD time as genderfluid but I don't think that'll be happening anytime soon
@@conejitoburrito6526 legit gonna transition without telling them... we got this!!
@@finn_yt can you do this tho? Like genuinely asking.
I've got a plan to come out to my parents when I'm leaving the country and living independently (if i didn't chicken out lol). But my point is, you don't need parent's permission right? (In the law perspective)
@@foxinabox5103 usually, legally, no one cares if you tell your parents everything or not, personally I know I won’t tell anything I’d done with a guy to my uncle and aunt, I will even less talk about my sexual orientation (ace, but god I heard so nasty things coming from my uncle about his hate for gay people), and I’m actively dodging them as much as I can (my closer family usually spends a week or two together, when I just either don’t come, or stay a weekend)
I’m going to college this month for the first time and I noticed they have gender neutral bathrooms!!!! I’m cis but I found that so cool, my uni is extremely inclusive. They even had an ASL translator during our freshman welcome which was mind blowing for me cause you never see that where I live. And a whole library just for people with disabilities!
What college is this? (If you don't mind me asking, I'm looking for a good college to save up for and this one seems great)
@@probably_not_garfield It’s University of Puerto Rico in Río Piedras, it’s mostly spanish speaking and it isn’t in the contiguous US so I don’t know if it’d be a good option for you but they do get a lot of exchange students!
I work at a university and I’m confident that most strive to create an inclusive community. Please, please do not be afraid to be yourself. We all want to help you
@@transwomenaremale there’s women, men and gender neutral bathrooms, so there’s just women too like you’d see everywhere else
@@alahna and are only FEMALES allowed in, or are male asshats in dresses and makeup allowed to identify in whenever they please?
I was talking to a friend the other day while we were grocery shopping, and passing by the cookies I mentioned that the sugar cookies with the pink frosting seemed the most indulgent. Cupcakes, cookies, doughnuts, any sweets with frosting is extra good when the frosting is pink. She couldn't understand this, that as a guy, I should shun everything to do with the color pink. I just don't have a fragile masculinity that I worry about that sort of thing?
The way my mind processes this, "I prefer my poop to have a pink hue." As my enjoyment of purple candy likely started with the childhood realization of it's color contribution at both ends.
Grandmas can be surprisingly wholesome.
I remember when my brother came out as gay (it was just me and Grandma in the room, he had already talked with Mum and Dad and came out to our other brother at a different time), she reacted by giving him a hug and then feeding us dinner. We talked about his "friend" (who's now his husband, beautiful wedding btw!) and she was basically super accepting without a moment's pause.
This despite being in her 80s (at the time) and being raised in quite a religious environment. She still practices her faith, but she feels the parts of the Bible where Jesus says "be nice to each other" are kind of the most important bits.
It hits me that the Venn Diagram between "parents who believe in ROGD because their children 'tell them everything' so they never saw any signs before they came out" and "helicopter parents who give their children zero privacy in their own home" is probably a circle.
Like, of course you _think_ you know everything about your kids, you've trained them to the strictest degree on how to _hide_ their deepest interests and insecurities _from you._
Source: Am a gay man who spent a decade in the closet while living with a conservative helicopter parent.
Yes! One time at a church dinner my mum said of her & me "Oh, we have no secrets!" And I was thinking (bi & trans but deeply closeted at the time) "Bitch, ALL we have are secrets..."
Jamie has disclosed that he's had _the surgery._ He didn't have to. He could've said that that was a question he would never answer, like he did when asked about his deadname. But unlike the question of his deadname, he decided that he felt comfortable disclosing that he'd had _the surgery._
But that's the thing. Many (if not most) trans people aren't comfortable answering that question. Whether or not they disclose whether or not they've had _the surgery_ is for them to decide, not for you. It's not a question that should be asked.
Claire S Why are you trying to look at other peoples genitals in the toilet? That’s kinda gross!
@@transwomenaremale But why tho? A women's bathroom for example has closed stalls, nobody would even know?
@@Kath2378 what’s your definition of closed? Most public restrooms have stalls without floor to ceiling walls. A person can literally fit under the dividers and easily see above them by standing on the toilet. It’s easy to see stall occupants through the gap between the door and the divider. If you’re not careful you can accidentally see your coworker on the crapper. As for determining the sex of someone in the stall next to you? It’s obvious to females if there is a male next to us. You’re aware that males make a lot more noise when peeing than females do, right? Even a simple throat-clearing will give them away. As I’m sure you’re aware (if you’re an actual woman), many females are pee-shy. We don’t like performing bodily functions in a setting where we can be heard, and we have trouble relaxing our muscles in order to pee. Males, for the most part, are less self conscious about bodily functions and are far more likely to not only pee in public restrooms but to shit as well. If a woman who is already pee shy figures out that there’s a male in the stall next to her, she’ll freeze up even worse.
I’m cis, and would never answer half the questions people seem to think it’s ok to ask LGBT+ people. Except to say None of your dam business!
I am maby stupid but I believed "Whats in your pants?" was about birth sex but offcorse it is about surgery aswell.
2:20
Not to be confused with trans fob, which is a key magnet that trans people use to enter their apartments.
It can also unlock the blahåj car
“There’s a sea creature in me pants” is one of the best out-of-context Jamie quotes
Broom broom
9:15 - I had this happen to me once, long before I let anybody in that chapter of my life know that I intended to transition. It was so absurd. There was this kid that nobody talked to, so I decided to be friends with him bc we had some similar interests anyway and he seemed pretty chill. Like a month or two into our friendship we were walking to lunch and he just randomly started going off on a super angry and transphobic tangent, envisioning fake trans people to get angry at then arguing against them, talking passionately about how surgery wouldn't make a trans person their gender, the whole shebang. I presented as cis, never discussed anything trans, and I think we were talking about minecraft immediately before he just randomly blew up about trans people for no discernible reason.
It's always deeply disappointing to suddenly be faced with an ugly side to someone you thought was OK.
@Marianne so true! You dont need surgery to be trans
@Marianne so true! Trans women are women and trans men are men regardless of what they do!
@Marianne Transgender people have a gender identity or gender expression that differs from the sex that they were assigned at birth.
@Marianne of course it doesn't. A person's gender is not about their body but their Identity. People who think surgery is about changing gender are mistaken and need to actually listen to the many trans people trying to educate them. Most people are lucky enough to have their biological sex and body match their gender. For those who aren't, surgery remedies the issue by altering the body to fit the person's gender better.
I love how wholesome trans memes are. Just, people being funny and trying their best to live their lives. Admirable, really.
@@marioluigi9599 w mans yes
That shirt has both the trans and most of the nonbinary flag colors in it. It's perfect.
im so happy realizing trans content creators have to clarify they’re trans just bc they pass THAT well, gives me hope as a trans teen that this is kinda the constant once i can put money into my social transition / vocal training
"Your gender is what is in your pants."
Doesn't that make us all assholes?
Absolutely
100%
We need to talk about the way Jamie said "chocolate" because it was the cutest fucking thing
me, a 🇬🇧, when that’s just the way you say chocolate
@@tauon_ my brother, also a 🇬🇧, stayed at a hotel in the USA and the people in the room next to him were being noisy. When he knocked on the door and they realised he’s 🇬🇧, they demanded a “bo’le o’ wa’er” from him. Still the best thing I’ve heard from him.
Jammi is the definition of transition goals.
I find it so funny because my high school self really identified with the whole "fragile masculinity" thing because I thought I identified as a guy and was incredibly avoidant of all things "feminine." I refused to admit that I liked the color pink and tried to hard to prove myself to be masculine. I realized later that I'm actually genderfluid.
Everyone keeps things from their parents, that's a universal thing, so claiming rapid onset dysphoria only shows how little these parents understand how people work. And they think they're some kind of omniscient parent. Either they didn't pay enough attention to their child, or the kid was afraid to tell them.😔
your videos always make my day, thank you for posting!
Same he really makes me happy
@@dustygania2425 how is it sexist?
@@dustygania2425 hey, so it seems like you don’t like jammi very much. maybe if you don’t like his content you shouldn’t interact with it?
@@dustygania2425 he is not. Show me the part he says that.
@@dustygania2425 You know, the salary of a clown is 51,000 dollars a year, and you're doing it for free!
I’m so excited- I’m getting my haircut this week! I know it’s not as big as starting testosterone but I’m still really happy
Congrats!
@@maycarmel8416 thank you!
Just want to say that if it's a big thing for you then it is a big thing worth celebrating; and I hope your haircut went well and looks the way you want it to.
You could be the most secure parent ever but even then the child needs extra-familial safe spaces so they can take their time making decisions independent of parents.
Hard agree.
I love my mom, but it’s really hard to confess anything to her, even when I know she’s fine with, at least most of stuff (I still remember when she asked me when I was 14 or so, if I had views on a girl or a boy), but a lot of stuff is really hard to say, mostly because it’s family and there’s kind of a barrier
Tho I usually don’t say a lot I do elsewhere, but some friends I feel like I can really open up, I’m still sometimes trying to at least
I love trans memes!!!! His videos always make me feel less disphoric
Hey just so you know, it's spelled "dysphoric" with a y
Hope that helps, bye
Oh, thank you for correcting me❤️
@@aidaneubanks84 yeah of course, have a great day
God I love these, and I keep collecting them so my power grows daily-I hope my final form is basically Jamie.
(FYI The comments here have a lot of arguments; regardless I hope all of you achieve your transition goals! We got this!)
You can do it!
@@marioluigi9599 have talked to men? Cuz yanno men want to look good in their clothes too, it's not 'ladylike' or whatever bullshit you think. Also Jamie is man like any other mam, stop being a snowflake about petty things and go find your self a job
@@marioluigi9599 Oh boy I think you're on the wrong side of UA-cam, go somewhere else if you want to dictate how people should act.
@@marioluigi9599 I’m sorry you think that way and are so fragile. I hope you get better soon!
That Mario guy gives off serious alpha male energy. Big F for them
"It has nothing to do with food, I think I am just hungry." You are so relatable, my man
Not gonna lie, Jamie gives hella Elmo energy for no reason at all. Powerful, choatic and adorable, the elmo trinity.
Jemlo
@@lukescastle YESSSS
YES JELMO
@@lukescastle no please
@@Schnort it's too late. Jelmo has already arrived at your house.
I already know this video will be amazing as always, you always make me feel okay and safe ! I watch your vids when i’m dysphoric and it already feel better, thanks for being my self place
7:13
It's a bit sad but there was a semi-recent case of this happening. At a bar, trans man asked the bartender/owner which bathroom to use to not stir up shit, was directed to the women's bathroom. In there, women were unsettled and IIRC one said that he 'belonged in the other restroom'
And then worst, upon leaving, the man was assaulted for 'sneaking into the women's room' because the other guys thought he was a man doing the not-real 'faking' to get in there. Later, when police arrived, the trans man was arrested (later released) for some disorder charge, because he was too out of it to explain the story at the time. The other guys, at time of that report I read, were not arrested or anything.
Simplified: Trans man double-checked which restroom he should use, was told to use the women's, apparently passed well enough that both the women in the restroom and the men outside thought he was a man/trans woman, and was assaulted for it.
I love watching trans memes thank you Jamie!
@@dustygania2425 most trans memes make fun of Jamie? How?
I almost came out as trans to my dad, and I'm glad I didn't. He agrees with Matt Walsh and he doesn't understand trans people that take hormones and get surgery. He views it the same way he views colored hair, piecing's, and tattoos, he doesn't like any kind of, "body modification"
@Marianne please tell me this is satire
@@gaybowser2422 Just ignore Marianne, they and others like them that you’ll see in these comment sections are just here to cause drama and not actually to learn anything. Trust me, I’ve “debated” with them before, and they can’t debate in good faith because they can’t take information from any reputable source so long as that source doesn’t align with their very narrow worldview. Honestly, they aren’t worth the time.
Bummer. I hope you are close to 18 so you can get away from him and live your real life.
Matt Walsh is an ignorant creep. I'm hoping people will start to realize that and stop taking their cues from people like him. It might take a while.
My friend just came out as trans a few days ago. He’s always been more masculine and has always worn masculine clothes (swim trunks, boxers, mens clothing etc.) and my whole friend group has been so supportive of his pronouns, new name, and just so wholesome in general. I’ve always been around trans people by my sister has been an out trans woman almost my whole life (she’s a lot older than me) and I’ve seen everything that she went thru coming out in the early 2010s, seeing my friend have such a wholesome environment to come out in restored my faith in people. Just wanted to share 💕
My mom found out that I'm Bi and Trans and said that I'm not mature enough to know who I am yet and has said other stuff like the t slur and other transphobic things and seeing this makes me feel a lot better, Thank you Jamie
But your mom is right
@@mojolmao1752 I'm 14
@@mojolmao1752 Yes because you would know cis kid, move along
@@mistressofdreams6031 theres no such thing as a “cis” kid
@@mojolmao1752 There is actually, just because your tiny mind can’t comprehend it doesn’t mean it ceases to exist. Sorry sweetie
About that thing with fragile men afraid of feminine things. I know this is a bit different because I was 9 when I was like that, but back then I was avoiding everything that could be thought of feminine. Like for example back then I considered red to be feminine color, and I found a 2 by 2 mm piece of red fabric in one of my trousers - never worn them again etc. And it took me 15 years from then to understand that I am a trans woman. And I know, I was a kid back then, and probably had already my first thoughts on being a girl, and felt like it was something wrong and hence my reaction.
Don't really know why I'm telling that btw, just felt a little bit relevant...
You’re a dude.
5:31 Normalise Neapolitan Ice-Cream as a version of the Trans Flag.
I'm so sad to read so many stories of people with unsupportive parents. If my son is willing to trust me with such important feelings, I can't imagine abusing that trust by acting like those feelings don't matter.
Maybe it makes a difference me being queer myself though. Still, I feel I should trust him to know what he is experiencing much better than I do.
I hope you are all safe and well, and that you have some sort of support system outside of your parents. You deserve it. In fact, you deserve the very best of everything in life, including treatment from others.
'Cause you're awesome.
@Marianne Now, now, dear, you're being a bit naughty here, aren't you?
I don't appreciate you twisting my words about trust to further your weird obsessional fantasies. I didn't mention taking any actions at all, I spoke of mutual trust and exploring feelings, so you can't pretend this "gender clinic" is anything but a product of your own fevered mind.
You should try to do better. And if you genuinely don't know what you did wrong, then I'm very sorry that your bias so completely outweighs your intelligence.
@@irishalchemy Hey, if I were you, I wouldn’t engage with Marianne. You can, I won’t say you shouldn’t, but they and a few other people you’ll see trolling these comment sections are just here to cause drama. They’re not here to “debate”, they’re not here to learn, and they’re not here to have any sort of honest discussion. You can look for yourself if you like, but what you’ll find is that they make the same “points” over and over again, despite those same “points” being refuted by everyone they talk to. They won’t take information from credible sources outside of UA-cam either, which really just proves that they don’t care about the truth. Trust me, you’ll be better off if you ignore them.
@@irishalchemy You sound like a wonderful parent. I’m glad that there are parents like you out there. Thank you for your words of encouragement. You deserve the best too! I hope for continued happiness for your family
Jamie you look stunning ❤️❤️ I Stan Jamie and everyone in the LGBTQ community :]
Also I have a little story (unrelated)I just made my LGBTQ+ phobic mom buy me shoes that have the colours of the ace flag💀 i was laughing so hard and she was confused-
Okay, but our Ace flag is by far the most aesthetically pleasing. Not only does it have a nice gradient from black to white but it has by far the most premier of all colors, purple!
@Jakie T I totally agree it has all my favourite colours ! And what is good about it is that since this flag isn't really as popular as the others I can buy anything that has this colour palette and justify it by "I like those colours together" which is true it's so pretty 🖤🤍💜
@@Jackie_XIII yes! I agree. My top 2 favorite flag is the ace and bi flag. The Bi flag looks like vaporwave and i love it.
I totally agree !! And since I am biromantic my keyboard is a gradient of the bi flag so it's awesome and it blends well !
@@SageLeaf_ thats amazing. I built my pc and lit it up in ace colors.
9:10
Jamie giving me an anime idea.
It's a town, that's split in two half's, *males and females*
And there's a trans man and a trans woman.
Who pass each other one night, trying to see what it's like on the opposite side.
Recognizing they are in the same situation.
Waving but continue onwards.
Some drama happens where they get caught and forced back.
They get punished somehow.
But they escape thanks to a group of Nonbinary people who saw what went down.
And they both meet up in the secret gender neutral hiding location in the middle of town.
And they start to form a bond.
And they all start to formulate a plan of action to abolish the systems that hold them down.
You can figure out the finer details later.
But visually I think the town should have a lack of colour, or at least vibrancy.
And things get a bit brighter when they reach the other side.
But nothing is as bright as the hideout.
*That is all inclusive, I just like to think it was founded by someone who felt they were in-between, hence the middle of town*
And the final, where everything is colour, and bright.
When everything finally toppled.
Those who are still stuck in the old ways will still be more of a grey.
But will hopefully gain more colour over time.
Due to their gradual acceptance.
Feel free to build more apon this idea!
When I came out as ace, my grandma was surprisingly chill and didn't question it all. My parents and family on the other hand were like "You're too young to know, this is gonna change, you'll find the right person".
Yea, the right person is you. You are all you need sometimes
I already know this video is going to be amazing as always!!!!!! They always make my day thanks for all the hard work !!!!
I don't know if you will see this or if you seen my last comment but I have you to thank for being able to feel more like myself. I have top surgery in just under 2 weeks to finally look like the picture in my head looks and if it wasn't for watching your UA-cam videos I don't know if I would of even looked into transitioning let alone it finally happening.Thank you so much for your videos.
Good luck with the top surgery!
@@GracMist Thank you!
Love you, Jamie!!💛💛💛 Love the shirt!! Congrats on 1Million Subscribers!! 🎊
10:22 Based on personal experience (previously being one of them), I'm inclined to believe most of those "cis men" are in-denial trans women. Especially if they're also going to turn around and go "trans women aren't women just because they FEEL like women", because by their own logic, them feeling like girls because of eating pink ice cream isn't ACTUALLY a big deal, because they're still men.
The only other logical explanation is that they feel like girls because they ARE girls, and don't want to admit it to themselves. That was at least the case with me; the avid Care Bears fan who constantly hid it because it made me feel like the "girly one" or the "odd man out" among my peers.
I had a friend at uni who, before she came out as trans, would get so upset and angry if people thought she was a woman (she had long hair) or said something she did was girly. Once she was out it was so great to see her reaction completely change. We went to the coffee shop and the barista said "what can I get you girls" and she was beaming!
How the hell are men who do not want to be feminine, which is a GOOD thing, an in-denial trans person?
@@tatertot8954 There's a difference between not wanting to be feminine and acting like anything even remotely feminine is infected with the bubonic plague. One is completely normal and natural, the other is really extreme and never happens for no reason.
"Gender's what's in your pants!"
I'm agender and I don't wear pants 😎
im agender and sometimes wear skirts, sometimes pants and sometimes shorts. So, i guess same?
@Marianne I'm sure it's different for other people, but here's how it is for me. Whenever I think about my gender, there isn't anything there that tells me about it. Sometimes I will distinctly feel like a man, so I know what it's supposed to feel like. Sometimes there is nothing there. I don't know how else to describe it.
@Marianne for me, I don't feel an attachment to any gender or gender as a concept. I feel like nothing (in a good way!) but feel like I'm just... me. Hope that makes sense
@Marianne Lots of transphobes say it feels like a lie to use affirming pronouns.
To me it feels like a lie to use binary pronouns, to call myself "man" _or_ "woman".
An important difference is that I'm not claiming to know what's going on in anyone else's head, which is what declaring what someone else's gender is or isn't amounts to.
Marianne I disagree you experiences are not everyone’s I don’t feel I connection to being a man which is not the same as feeling masculine or feminine.
Why do these trans (and/or nonbinary) videos appear when I'm depressed and yearning to transition? It's like he's a mind reader. Good video, Jammie!
When I visited my friend a week ago, we went shopping because she knew my parents had bought all my clothes for me (excess of pink). She was very supportive, gender affirming, and helped me pick out some lovely outfits that I feel much better about being in.
8:21 as someone who was born in 82, i grew up with people voicing stereotypes about the lgbtq community all the time. it was common, but we still knew it was wrong because it doesn't matter how the world changes or how old fashion the world is, at the end of the day, you hurt someone's feelings in a very raw and personal way, and you know that's a shit move even if it's 1955 or 2032. i';m sick of the "it was a different time" or "that's a different generation." i'm old, i was there, and it wasn't okay, and idk about others, but when i look back on anything dumb i said (like the time i asked a classmate if he was gay like it was my business), i feel shame at those behaviors. I would never say, "it was a different time," because even then, i knew that was a totally selfish move.
Thank you so much for being a fabulous role model for so many people (Including myself) and helping many through rough times! We love you Jamie :)
Congrats on just hitting 1M! So cool to watch the fanbase expand :D
When you talked about the trans female and trans male experience in comparison, quite recently I thought “how do people want actively be my AGAB? Like how people born as the other sex want to be mine? I find it do discusting to be my gender but since they want it so much CAN WE SWAP?”
“Your gender is in your pants.”
Me: My gender is legs :)
My gender is a cheap boxer
@@superrataryllis8339 IN your pants not what your PANTS ARE
5:59 ITS JAMIE DODGER HOLDING A JAMIE DODGER THIS IS THE BEAT DAY EVER
I got the "You never told me anything about this!" response from my nan when I eventually came out. Not only did it take me a long time to figure it out for myself, my nan has also been vocally anti-LGBTQ+ in the past so like...Not something I really wanted to discuss.
I am cis, but I related so hard to the meme with the guy and the dust devil. My parents think that trans people is just "a trend", has misgendered trans people (even the ones they agree with, though they are getting better at that), and agrees with Rowling 🙄
Oof, let's hope your parents get with the times and realize that identities are not trends, especially in this case
Also, I'm still a bit shocked that Rowling has those views
I wonder how my sister feels about it, since she loves Harry Potter dearly
@Marianne Yes
@@cjlite0210 Right like, OMG, Rowling has a brain and doesn’t conform 100% to the ideology of the masses? Burn her!
@Marianne I mean there are already elders in the community so yeah
Wait Rowling is transphobic???
I’m trans :(
Things that are cool:
-- Jammi
- You, the trans person reading this
- The trans community
- This video
- Trans memes
- cake and garlic bread
- dinosaurs
Things that are NOT cool:
-Transphobes
-Bigotry
added two suggestions from people in the coments
Add to the list: Dinosaurs
Why are you assuming everyone reading this is trans?
Add to the list - garlic bread >:D
@@name02 no?? this is a trans video, they're stating trans-related stuff?
@@name02 i can see you've missed my point. this is a trans related video, allies don't have to be mentioned all the time. maybe let the minorities have their representation first?
I’m a barista, and I can’t tell you how many times men will order a “girly” sounding drink, and then insist that it’s for their girlfriend. Dude I don’t care who it’s for, it’s literally just coffee.
lol
“No I can’t eat pink ice cream it will make me girly”
Me, a trans woman, “ILL BUY YOUR ENTIRE STOCK”
Hey bestie if you find any blue ice cream please send it to me, I need it to make me manly
It’s always so upsetting to see people not getting an ‘Addams Family’ reference. I see it now: Shaaba is Morticia and Jamie is Gomez.
Her name is spelled "Shaaba".
@@calamityjean1525 Thank you for pointing it out. Autocorrect is to blame.
My grandma supports nb people with the logic ‘if guys are on one side and girls on the other of course there’s some in between’ and shes 85
Well done for reaching 1 million! I’ve been a huge fan for ages I love your content man
Age is irrelevant. My grandmother’s in her 90’s, and was immediately accepting and gave me a hug
I think my "What's in your pants?" answer when I finally leave the house again will be: "Oh nothing. This skirt doesn't have pockets! :("
MAKESKIRTSHAVEPOCKETSAHHHHHHH
Oh, mercy, I worked with ice cream dude. Favorite ice creams came up, he admitted he loved strawberry but couldn't have it that often.
"Oh, are you allergic?"
"No, it's pink."
"...I do not follow."
"I CAN'T BE SEEN LICKING PINK STUFF, WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK?"
"That... they could go for an ice cream...?"
The pink ice cream one reminded me SOO much of the cis men in my family 🥴
Oooh but that shirt is so good!! Always looking to extend my funky polo collection lmao. Also congrats on 1 mil!!!
5:16 can confirm,,, as a lesbian, every time i see something pink/white/orange i immediately go “LESBIANS???????👁👁”
SAME I’m immediately like “this is for me?!?”😆
Same
I bought a wool shawl, even tho wool makes me itch because it was in ace colors.
Same but with the bi colors
My incredibly trans/homophobic parents just bought a blue, white, and pink bike for my niece and all my trans butt can think of is TRANSSSSSSSSS.
FUCK YEAH JAMIE IS BACK!!
*AWW YEAH*
Let’s all agree that Jamie is a trans icon
Yes
Hey King if the Spuds! My son (10) came out as trans a couple of months ago (FtM) We have tried socially transitioning at home and last week he told his school counselor who is thankfully very supportive. We are going to our Dr tomorrow to look into getting him in puberty blockers.
Do you have any advice for a baby trans and me during this period of adjustment?
practice his pronouns while writing, and saying it out loud a few times and when talking to him. Say sorry when you get it wrong, correct yourself and start your sentence from the beggining. keep saying that you will support him (reassurance is important), stand up against other people that will get it wrong or be plain usupportive.
Example:
Then she said -. Interrupt, say sorry, start again. Then he said that his day was okay.
You dont need to make a big deal everytime you get it wrong, a simple sorry will suffice and wont make it feel like you are centering your self.
Good luck on your journey, you both are gonna need it. This trans person here send a hug to you both
@@arielruby13 Thank you so much.
I support him 100%. The way I see it is that all I want is for him to be happy, regardless of how he identifies or who he loves. Him being happy within himself is more important than what other people say/think about him.
Luckily we found a supportive counselor. Hopefully our Dr us supportive as well.
This is nice. Wait no, this is really cool :)
I have never heard a cuter phrase than “baby trans”.
The Dr appointment went well. BabyBubble needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist and our Dr is going to help us find the right one. Basically what I was expecting him to say, but at least the ball is rolling.
I love it when you do trans memes :)
Same
8:08 i relate to this so much like my dad is super transphobic and homophobic but his mom is a lesbian who tries her best to correctly gender me and then my parents use the excuse of "well im old and i grew up in a different time blah blah blah" and its like okay well then why does grandma understand she's way older than you guys
How is your mum a lesbian with your father
I’m a transman and my girlfriend is a transwoman so yeah it’s definitely fascinating how we both relate to our trans struggles but also not cause we both are going into different directions with transitioning.
Rude person: "What's in your pants?"
Me (cis woman): "wallet, chapstick, fidget cube, and utility knife. Don't make me pull out the knife."
Jammie, I have been a long time viewer of yours and really enjoy your video's and the information and entertainment you provide.
I would love for you to talk to de transitioning people. There's a wide range of wonderful people who need the support of the LGBT community and feel that because they de transitioned they have been excluded from that space. A safe platform needs to be provided for these people. Their gender dysphoria paths should be validated and listened to.
I'm a parent of an LGBT child and thankfully they are very confident and content. They do have friends that are victims of the rush by medical staff at a certain center to confirm that they are trans.
I understand that it's an uncomfortable conversation, but it's one that needs to be had for everyone's sake. Lots of love ❤️🌈
You are abusing your child
@@mojolmao1752 how?
@@mojolmao1752 . If abusing my child is to love, support and respect them. Then I'm guilty as charged!
So true about age and acceptance, my grandparents are my biggest allies, they have not gotten my name of pronouns wrong once since I came out, while my parents and siblings are not accepting at all.
A classmate of mine just came out as a trans man ^_^ Everyday I look forward to AGGRESSIVELY gendering him properly and using his preferred name. ❤
Aw, aggressive allies who can ask for more
I really want that shirt. -casually just walks in and steals it from Jammi’s closet, leaving behind an eggo waffle as payment-
The funny thing is Jammi would probably even accept it XD
OH! I ACTUALLY HAVE A MTF FRIEND WHO HAS A VERY CONSERVATIVE FATHER(her mom went gonzo a couple months prior to this) AND ONCE SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT HOW SHE HAD NO DRESSES OR SKIRTS AND I JUST BOUGHT HER ONE??? We don't really talk anymore. But my ftm ass just HAD to help a fellow transgender
I'm not trans but i get mistaken for being trans so much that a surprising amount of these memes are relatable
I can believe the bit about seeing your flag colors everywhere after coming out; I bought a butterfly wristband because the body was a purply-pinkish gemstone that turns blue when the light hits it. Just to make sure people know for certain, I also added pink, purple, and blue paper clips on the band between a couple spikes.
Also, depending on your family, the hardest part of coming out could just be figuring out how to tell them. I spent a good month trying to figure out the best way to tell my mother, and when I finally did, it was a huge relief when she told me she loves me no matter what; part of my nervousness was due to how she said she's not a fan of the idea of same sex couples.
"What's in your pants?"
Me: I have mints in my pockets. Do you want one?
Just came home from some Convention. Some girl there said "if you were a real boy i would have a crush on you"
Made me sad.
So i watched this video.
Now i'm happy again.