I'm a Christian and I never thought I would listen to anything dat would have to do with Islam..... But I love THIS, its really an eye opener. "U give ur heart to God then whosoever God has ordained for u".
i'm 31 female also 😅😂 same of you... no one like😂😂 i wish same day, allah gave me a good hubby and children... ameeennn... allah can you gave this year 2019😅✌
Sister, asalaam u alaikum, focus and dua to Allah. Allah will find you the spouse that best fits you. I did the same, and Allah found me a wonderful spouse who supports me and i support her.
I don’t get it, people in the back? Is that a backhanded sleight at women, as if they’ve been making terrible decisions picking spouses? That’s the only deduction or inference I can make. Kindly Correct me if I’m mistaken?
Im female and 33 of age, Im so thankful that I have a blessed family whom they provide the love and support I needed. Being single is not a problem just keep your Imaan, and be thankful for everything happening in your life
I'm a single woman myself and sometimes I feel sad because I have no one around. But, seeing Mufti's message in this video, I feel warmth because the message is so relevant. Thank you for uploading this.
YOHANNES TESFATSION, thank you for my brotherhood. On behalf of multi and all Muslim, I wanna say you, thank you once again. May Almighty God always guide us on the strength path. Amin
I am single. May Allah (swt) make it easy for us all who are looking for a decent spouse. And guide us to the right spouse who will love for the sake of Allah. Insha'Allah.
I am not married and am not in a hurry because I am sure what Allah has planned for me is the best, am rest assured that He is going to give me a better person.
I feel like i've lost myself somewhere on my path..... At a certain point in my life, i was just obsessed with a lot of questions I couldn't answer to.... And I did the only thing I shouldn't have done ''doubting''.. Today I'm trying to be a better person, a better Muslim.... I'm trying to do things for me and for GOD! I'm 22, i have an amazing family and i'm not ready for mariage yet, I've got so much to deal with my person for now.
Alhamdulilah that you were given the mercy to see that you lost your way, that you lost yourself! There are many of us out there who haven’t even realized how far we’ve strayed. May Allah bless you and your family
@@jasonstallone9072 idk if you misinterpreted it but i meant that in islam the prophet muhammad (peace be upon him) was sent as a mercy to the world (through his various examples of humility and lifestyle etc) and Al-Quran was sent as a book of guidance for all mankind. And what mufti menk is following is both of them so that's why i back up your comment by adding that 🙏 in quran there's a lot of human rights related ayahs as well so you can check it out if you want, have a good day/night😄
Umair, best spouse is subjective. You should pray that Allah SWT helps us first and foremost in being the ideal spouse in turn you will find one, In Sha Allah.
God or what ever you want chosen to call if he doesn't speak words like we have learned. Only knowing Actions. What have you done to help with the ones wh can't help themselves
I read many comments 22 to 27ths ppl are still singal may Allah bless us with a good n understanding partner n also give us sbr n shukr specially for girl's... N for boys. : May Allah give his Mercy on boys that he maintain his wife like the manner of nabi e kareem do with aisha radiallahu anha.... M also 23rd yr old n i was engaged at the age of 20 but my fiance is not loyal with me nor caring ... Let it be but pray for me guys Allah makes me happy n i will be happy with the person who Allah fixed me....
Mufti Menk is totally right! I got married last year and now I am about to sign my divorce paper. But thanks to Allah I learnt the lesson " I will never love myself until I truly love Allah" May Allah bless you all ❣
Best quote, mufti menk, " don't give your heart and mind to people ,they hurt you, " yes sir this is exactly true, when we give our heart and mind to Allah,he never ever hurt you. May Allah subhanahu tala bless me and everyone. May Allah subhanahu tala guide us till we reach jannatul firdaus. Aameen.
Alhamdullahi not even a single person dislike the video on the comments... Islam is the Journey to Paradies. May Allah bless us all . Thank you so much for educating us
Alhamdulillah..praise be to Allah swt...am planning to marry Aug 2020 and I put my trust on Allah swt and he provided me with a good girl who is religious and knows the whole Quran...so my dear brothers and sisters pray for us that may Allah swt make our marriage an ever happy marriage.......and I pray that those who want to marry may Allah swt make easy and simple for them.
Mashaallah. After I found my self in early January, last months. This is sooo relatable. I take time so long everyday to think about my self, to find the true me. I like psychology so much so I tried to find my self in psychology way first. But there is always a time, I lost my balance. And then I come to think so deeply why this why that. Until I found what I search in some speech of Dr. Zakir Naik. I'm muslim born, five time prayer and full having fast of Ramadhan, but I still, haven't found my self before that. What my question is? Why am I being born? I hate my life used to be. Now I found it. I could accept the ayah that I know it since very young, but the logic, I just got it last January. Btw, I'm girls, 26. So I stressed bot money and marriage. This is relatable. Now, I do understand why I haven't married, bcos I need to fix my self. And Alhamdulillah, I found Mufti Menk. I need to get control of my anger now, I could learn so much from his speech. That's the biggest problem now in my self, bfore I really commit to married
@@themotivatedbrinjal5259 I think its probably our generation. The stories I've heard about Muslim girls and boys from the mosque is very shocking 😂. How does one even meet bae in a halal way? There seem to be a lot a racism and tribalism too. I wouldn't like my marriage to be the reason my wife slips with her family. With marriage, you're not only marrying the person but also... in a way, their family, friends and everything that comes with them.
@Mirzə because I ve seen examples of marrying early and most are not good. In this day and age ppl who are less than 22 act like kids. If u had a son /daughter who you knew can't take responsibility, you won't be OK with them getting married. Few of this generation who are really up for the responsibility. I'm not saying that the youngsters should go and fornicate until they are ready. I meant that until they are really mature, they can get themselves busy with useful stuff ( studies, travel, etc).
@Mirzə people have opinions my dear. And marrying early or late is upto them. Marriage ain't a bed of flowers . And who says marrying late leads everyone to fornication. People need to control themselves at least fast if they can't even control themselves so much
It's so accurate we need to be so much committed than we think we are. May Allah grant us pious spouses to help us be better Muslims. I am praying for you brothers and sisters. May Allah unite us in halal. Ameen
i started finding myself after i got married.... my husband nevr pressurized me for any of his interests... though he showed me many ways of becoming a better person... his opinions became my options... and now... looking back... i am thankful to him bcoz i have become a better muslim and a better human being...
It's like Mufti Menk is speaking directly to me. Unbelievable. I needed this... Alhamdullilah... May Allah guide us all to the right path and may we all be filled with happiness.
I'm 26 years old but I didn't get job still now however I believe in Allah always he will make me a good job and also I'm trying to find it. Include me in your supplication.
The problem with our society is that marriage is forced upon their kids even when they are not ready for it Please allow your children to be mentally prepared for marriage Financial stability is also important but mental preparation is more important
I just love him so much. He always speaks my mind and puts it in the most beautiful way possible. Before you become someone's mother/father,become someone's wife/husband. Before you become someone's Husband/wife,become(find) yourself. Know your character,try to perfect,try to be the best you can. Don't take more responsibilities than you are supposed to. How can someone who doesn't even know themselves,who never had to deal with any responsibility ,never had to provide for anyone handle the responsibility of starting a family (talking about those who get married at an early age). Marrying at an early age,having kids one year after marriage. Not only did you not fail to find yourself you also failed to become someone's wife/husband. That's the most saddest fate.
Really mufti you changed my life because of your motivational words,, masha Allah this year I will find my soul mate with the blessings of Muhammad upon me 🤲🤲
This vedio will definitely change the people from their bad thoughts................beyond religion ....this teaches about life......it's fact nd i will keep my heart and soul towards allah even im not a muslim
Am 23 years old am in process off doing my degree i somehow 4got myslf in this dunya ..i reached a stage where i become addicted to movies but the good thing i never miss my daily prayers . Alhmdllh i started realising my mistakes and am slowly disconnecting myslf frm the dunya .am evn at a point of dropping from my studies and start a fresh in islamic institutions ..in real sense i pity myslf and belittle myslf .. I see myslf far from Allah Pray for me
I'm going through the same thing brother. Im really addicted to seasons and all and now I only pray jummah prayer, sedly. And this whole proposal thing messed my head really badly. Pray for me that I'll survive this test and hopefully this will bring me closer to Allah .
I think finding a career you are content with is a big part of finding yourself. I am currently at this stage. Marriage insha’allah will come when Allah wills. May Allah make it easy for us to achieve our life goals insha’allah.
"... because they are not Ghafoor ur Raheem. Allah is." this hit so hard and so deep into the soul. Beacuse it's not only your friends that will be unforgiving when they find out about your mistakes, there are times when parents are not ready to forgive their children. And that's really burdensome and painful.
When I was 19 ..I found someone that I want him to be part of my future. We like each other.. He's a good man and stable. He be honest with me that he want to be serious.. He don't want to waste more time. But then, I realise.. That maybe I'm not ready.. I'm still searching for something.. I do want him .but deep in my heart .. I know I don't deserve him. I leave him for awhile to think about how I feel.. After a year. He's got married to someone that deserve him.. I'm sad..but happy for him. I believe what was meant for me will always be mine wherever I go, or no matter how long it takes. I'm not regret my decision.. Allah knows best.. Now I'm happy alone ..I learned and still learning about myself and my life journey.. Alhamdulillah..
Sunu k. Its never easy .. Its been more than 4 years, yet theres a point where i still found him in the back of my head, especially when i meeting someone else and he is not like him. but we need to be brave. You will get stronger.. We will meet what we deserves when the time comes.
@@ImAwkwArDpErsoN It doesn't matter that he was perfect. You see, we don't need PERFECT people to complete us. We need flawed, passionate people, passionate relationships. You left him because he didn't complete you. He was awesome...but just not your soulmate. It's not that you didnt deserve him, just that he wasn't who God had created for you. You will find that special someone. Don't settle for just anyone. Wait. Walk. Pray. God will help you, InshaAllah. Have faith.
ive been hurt nd ive been used by someone i thought will spend his life with me..ive been falldown manytimes...nd still getting up and hoping to find the right one.evrything was not perfect i always wanted to be loved and my only wish is to hve the one who will protect me from sinn..bcoz i believe that man created to protect women nd thier emaan..we are in this world to protect each other purposely..Allah knows what we really need at the end my life will be end but i dont like Allah ended my life that i dont even fix mylife that i dont fix my life into a better one..im scared i hope even in this sinfull world i hope that Allah still giv me a chance to make thing better bfore he will tke my life...And Insha Allah he will provide me someone who can help me out someone who will brighten my life and walk with me into Allah's ryt path ameen
I find the cautionary advice of "finding yourself" can only go so far. When do you know you've found yourself? Reality is living life, experiences are so important too. You can only find yourself so much. Many people find themselves through their interactions with others. By experiencing life. We are meant to experience life. Reality is not everyone's marriage will work out. It is good to let the youth know ofcourse and others who are looking to get married for the first time what they should be looking for in a potential spouse and their priorities etc and more importantly where they can be themselves. I think there are certain qualities we should be looking for such as light heartedness etc. Reality is opposites do attract! This is why Prophet (S) said marriage is half of the deen. In so many ways it completes half of our deen. I think it's very important to be humble, understanding. When we're in love that's important as it keeps the love alive and flourishing. And yes as Mufti Menk said, dont give your heart and mind away. Of course when we humans love someone, our spouse that will happen. Once again life is meant to be experienced we can only perfect ourselves so much! You will grow a lot if have a strong intention to get married, insha'Allah. I get that marriage is sometimes made this end goal and thats why there's a lot of cautionary advice. Just dont make you getting married an end goal! Keep going. Keep growing. Keep giving. Be balanced and when we turn to Allah everyday Allah that will naturally happen. We learn to live in a place of letting go.
I'm 26 and I can tell that in this stage of my life where I often think about what would be my life when I ger married? What would be my career? Will I be able to sustain what my family needs. Marriage is not something you can do without thinking properly, because it is not only you who will suffer but also your future spouse, children if you do it just because you are being pressured by the people around you.
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I’m 23 and want get married after Ramadan Inshaallah 🙏pray all Muslims around the world 🌎 May Allah guide us 😓
Alhamdulillah
M.a
MaashaAllah,same here,after ramadan ..alhamdulillah..may Allah bless us
May Almighty Allah bless you...
Allah bless u
Am not Muslim, am Christian but I always enjoy and follow Mufti, always on point and gives best advice. Thank you
Margaret Phiri He is the Hollywood mufti. Very famous for his way of thinking. His great.
Same here!!!
@@Nana.786 would you love to join Islam my Kenyan sister?
Tammy Dee thanks for your respected...may Allah give u best things
great bro❤️
Am not a Muslim but this is a great message
Wow nice to see your positive comment here. Thanks Joy
Always watching and listening
Yes its the same principles that the bible teach ... search heather lindsy
I LOVE Jesus explain please ?
Became a Muslim it’s the true religion your soul well find peace my brother
"The heart and the mind are the most powerful organs. Never give anyone control of these two." I love this beyond words.
Where are you from?
Greatest quote
*Being a Muslim is the biggest reward from Allah*
Yesss
Where are you from?
@@aloneforeverytime6713 Pakistan
I'm not muslim but I agree with you and everything said here. One thing I want to understand is what was said towards the ending
@@innerhappiness1 me2
If ALLAH is making u wait it means u will have the best one...nd walk alone until ALLAH sends some1 to walk wid u..
I like this comment the most because i had heard it around 2 years ago.
Inchallah may ALLAH give everyone the right spouse
Be right on the right path.. ALLAH will definitly give u better spouse..😊
U right sis
I have waited so long that what I am waiting for is someone who is the best in God's eyes
incha2a lah ☺.
I'm a Christian and I never thought I would listen to anything dat would have to do with Islam.....
But I love THIS, its really an eye opener.
"U give ur heart to God then whosoever God has ordained for u".
May Allah bless you with eman
Ameen
I am also a Christian ! But this message is good overall
@@DarlingEphraim my allah guide you to the only truth the right path
I'm 31 and still single and female. sometimes I feel depress because of this....coz I want to have my own children but I believe in God's plan....😄
U will get a husband insha Allah, the right husband. Allah gives the best things to the patient ones.
May Allah provide you righteous pious husband.
Hikaru Chan same here..may Allah give us the right spouse this year Aameen 🤲🏻
i'm 31 female also 😅😂 same of you... no one like😂😂 i wish same day, allah gave me a good hubby and children... ameeennn... allah can you gave this year 2019😅✌
am also 24 and single male, i wish am married to older person but i have no money
I'm still single, Inshallah I'll find myself and right person for my future life
Where is frome??
Sure
@ABDUL BASIT thanks very much
Sister, asalaam u alaikum, focus and dua to Allah. Allah will find you the spouse that best fits you. I did the same, and Allah found me a wonderful spouse who supports me and i support her.
@A Hasnath you are Wright i had it too
I loved the way he talked and explained how important it is to find yourself before getting married. Thank you.
Sazia Samad how can we find ourselves , although we found allah swt
Next week m gonna marry on Friday pray for me plzz n for my health...
May Allah bless your home and your family and fill your home with happiness and the love and praise of Allah.
May Allah grant you both Rahma
Good luck 🍀 insha allah I wish you the best.
@@Fatima-px7qc thnkx a lot..
Stenka Razin are u joking? Or do u mean actual jahannam?
I am Christian but I was still touched by these words, so beautiful.
May God bless you 🙂
"Your choice of a spouse shape your future" SAY That laud for the people in the back mufti menk.
I don’t get it, people in the back? Is that a backhanded sleight at women, as if they’ve been making terrible decisions picking spouses? That’s the only deduction or inference I can make. Kindly Correct me if I’m mistaken?
@@AbeTheFakeSage it's a phrase used to mean everyone should listen to this, not a backlash to other people
@@AbeTheFakeSage it means to address the people who are sitting in the back row of the audience .. it's nothing violent haha
😄😄
Im female and 33 of age, Im so thankful that I have a blessed family whom they provide the love and support I needed. Being single is not a problem just keep your Imaan, and be thankful for everything happening in your life
ان شاء الله
Hope this happens but in such a situation what is the rule for women in Islam, please look Quran and hadees
I'm a single woman myself and sometimes I feel sad because I have no one around. But, seeing Mufti's message in this video, I feel warmth because the message is so relevant. Thank you for uploading this.
الحمد لله
Hello Mufti Brother, I am Orthodox Christian and I listen to your teaching. You are amazing. I love you all guys. Keep it right.
YOHANNES TESFATSION thanks for respected....u are Gud person...
YOHANNES TESFATSION, thank you for my brotherhood. On behalf of multi and all Muslim, I wanna say you, thank you once again. May Almighty God always guide us on the strength path. Amin
I'm a Muslim and I'm not perfect but Islam is....... Alhamdulilah
no islam is not perfect,neither is any religion around the world
@@harshum5474 You cant say that without an evidence!!
S MOMOH 💯💯👌🏼
Harshu you are rong
@@jabeenfatima3111 you mean"right"😏❤️
I am single. May Allah (swt) make it easy for us all who are looking for a decent spouse. And guide us to the right spouse who will love for the sake of Allah. Insha'Allah.
Ameen
Aameen
Ameen
Ali Cool Aameen
@@kristy6763 InshaAllah.
Im 33 running 34 and still single but im not losing hope, i want to have a children in sha Allah, Allah knows what is good to us ☺
InshaAllah
Allah bless u one day with Best husband and Child too
InSha Allah
I am not married and am not in a hurry because I am sure what Allah has planned for me is the best, am rest assured that He is going to give me a better person.
I’m 35 and not yet married may ALLAH bless us with a good spouse it’s not easy at a
All I feel alone depressed may ALLAH make a way for us YARABI 😍😍
Ａａｍｅｅn
I am a Hindu but I am great fan of Mufti menk. He thinking and delivering speech is life changing. Love you Mufti menk Sir
I feel like i've lost myself somewhere on my path.....
At a certain point in my life, i was just obsessed with a lot of questions I couldn't answer to....
And I did the only thing I shouldn't have done ''doubting''..
Today I'm trying to be a better person, a better Muslim.... I'm trying to do things for me and for GOD!
I'm 22, i have an amazing family and i'm not ready for mariage yet, I've got so much to deal with my person for now.
Alhamdulilah that you were given the mercy to see that you lost your way, that you lost yourself! There are many of us out there who haven’t even realized how far we’ve strayed. May Allah bless you and your family
We all go through this.😭
Iam so happy you now know before it was too late alhamdulilah because most of us realised it when it"s too late.
Man must Investigate reality - Abdul Baha
Wow i am also into same situation dear, i had same stuff to comment which i didn't after reading yours, may ALLAH help us all, AMEEN
Thank you guys....it always feels great to know that you are not alone in a situation.
May Llah help us all and guide us.
Ramadan Moubarak
"Develop into the person exactly how you want your spouse to be"
Every word he’s saying is gold irrespective of any religion or race
thats because islam is for the whole mankind
@@ginbami Let’s be human first before practicing any religion
@@jasonstallone9072 idk if you misinterpreted it but i meant that in islam the prophet muhammad (peace be upon him) was sent as a mercy to the world (through his various examples of humility and lifestyle etc) and Al-Quran was sent as a book of guidance for all mankind. And what mufti menk is following is both of them so that's why i back up your comment by adding that 🙏 in quran there's a lot of human rights related ayahs as well so you can check it out if you want, have a good day/night😄
May Allah help us selecting the best spouse for us.
umair shabbir Ameen
Aameen
Ameen
Umair, best spouse is subjective. You should pray that Allah SWT helps us first and foremost in being the ideal spouse in turn you will find one, In Sha Allah.
@@commentscrusader3842 Thanks for correcting me.
I am still single...I think Allah has another plan for me...what idk 😊✌️❤️from🇨🇦
3 simply rules help wherever you can, share what you are able, don't harm anyone
God or what ever you want chosen to call if he doesn't speak words like we have learned. Only knowing Actions. What have you done to help with the ones wh can't help themselves
These are the basic rules of ever religions
Yup
Salaam alaikum sister Michelle, did you chose to stay single, or the right hasn't come yet.
I wish I had heard something like this when I was 19.
This z right time... what I think... Its never late...😃
Same man
How old are you now
Hello
I want to get married this year 2020 pls pray 🙏 for me
I'll be 27 this year but I still not found the right man for my future. But I still thankful to ALLAH...
I'm also single
ALLAH SWT has a perfect plan for me IN SHA ALLAH 😍
In Shaa Allah.
Same here I think allah has a good plan for me also may allah help us all
☺️☺️☺️
U r rght ...same 2 u..May ur dreams come true....Ameen...summa Ameen...
@@allahuakbar1681 summa aameen 😍
I’m a Christian but Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah🤲🏼ALWAYS
I'm not muslim but I feel it the way he talk. I hope I'll find the right person Insha Allah ❤💕
I read many comments 22 to 27ths ppl are still singal may Allah bless us with a good n understanding partner n also give us sbr n shukr specially for girl's...
N for boys. : May Allah give his Mercy on boys that he maintain his wife like the manner of nabi e kareem do with aisha radiallahu anha....
M also 23rd yr old n i was engaged at the age of 20 but my fiance is not loyal with me nor caring ... Let it be but pray for me guys Allah makes me happy n i will be happy with the person who Allah fixed me....
Peace be upon him .عليه افضل الصلاة والسلام
God help you
Jazaka-ALLHU kheiran indhal jaza Shaikh
May Allah Subhan WA Ta'alaa Fullfil all your wishes and Bestow you a happy healthy Marital Life insha'Allah Aameen Tsuma Aameen
Mufti Menk is totally right! I got married last year and now I am about to sign my divorce paper. But thanks to Allah I learnt the lesson " I will never love myself until I truly love Allah"
May Allah bless you all ❣
Ami Ami
May Allah give you sabr and make your future better than your present
Stay strong
Best quote, mufti menk, " don't give your heart and mind to people ,they hurt you, " yes sir this is exactly true, when we give our heart and mind to Allah,he never ever hurt you.
May Allah subhanahu tala bless me and everyone.
May Allah subhanahu tala guide us till we reach jannatul firdaus.
Aameen.
Alhamdullahi not even a single person dislike the video on the comments... Islam is the Journey to Paradies. May Allah bless us all . Thank you so much for educating us
Alhamdulillah..praise be to Allah swt...am planning to marry Aug 2020 and I put my trust on Allah swt and he provided me with a good girl who is religious and knows the whole Quran...so my dear brothers and sisters pray for us that may Allah swt make our marriage an ever happy marriage.......and I pray that those who want to marry may Allah swt make easy and simple for them.
Mashaallah. After I found my self in early January, last months. This is sooo relatable. I take time so long everyday to think about my self, to find the true me. I like psychology so much so I tried to find my self in psychology way first. But there is always a time, I lost my balance. And then I come to think so deeply why this why that. Until I found what I search in some speech of Dr. Zakir Naik. I'm muslim born, five time prayer and full having fast of Ramadhan, but I still, haven't found my self before that. What my question is? Why am I being born? I hate my life used to be. Now I found it. I could accept the ayah that I know it since very young, but the logic, I just got it last January. Btw, I'm girls, 26. So I stressed bot money and marriage. This is relatable. Now, I do understand why I haven't married, bcos I need to fix my self. And Alhamdulillah, I found Mufti Menk. I need to get control of my anger now, I could learn so much from his speech. That's the biggest problem now in my self, bfore I really commit to married
Ma sha Allah =correct way (i came to know about this from a knowledgeable friend)
@@Muwahid999 okay thanks :)
U r rght..bless u alwayz..may ur dreams come true...
Alhamdulillah ☺️
How you have found urself?
24, single and from Bangladesh. In Shaa Allah this Ramadan most of my Duas would be concentrated on finding the one. 😊
2 years older than you. not gonna lie I'm afraid, feel like good women these days are hard to find
@@TheKingofdans well good women feel the same for men.
@@themotivatedbrinjal5259 I think its probably our generation. The stories I've heard about Muslim girls and boys from the mosque is very shocking 😂. How does one even meet bae in a halal way? There seem to be a lot a racism and tribalism too. I wouldn't like my marriage to be the reason my wife slips with her family. With marriage, you're not only marrying the person but also... in a way, their family, friends and everything that comes with them.
@@TheKingofdans lol Is there any halal way to meet your bae?
I am hearing it first time. 🤣
And yeah its our generation may be we expect too much.
Same, very hard to find a good person, and even if you see a good person, how do you approach them and tell them you want to marry them.
Truth indeed - “ Find yourself first , then think of finding someone” 🌹
Live ur life ( school / college, work, travel, etc.)first, then think about getting married, with marriage comes responsibilities and sacrifices
So true Ayesha
@Mirzə because I ve seen examples of marrying early and most are not good. In this day and age ppl who are less than 22 act like kids. If u had a son /daughter who you knew can't take responsibility, you won't be OK with them getting married. Few of this generation who are really up for the responsibility. I'm not saying that the youngsters should go and fornicate until they are ready. I meant that until they are really mature, they can get themselves busy with useful stuff ( studies, travel, etc).
@Mirzə exactly
@Mirzə that's what I see, if you see urself up for such responsibility, good for you, % of the youth are not
@Mirzə people have opinions my dear. And marrying early or late is upto them. Marriage ain't a bed of flowers . And who says marrying late leads everyone to fornication. People need to control themselves at least fast if they can't even control themselves so much
It's so accurate we need to be so much committed than we think we are. May Allah grant us pious spouses to help us be better Muslims. I am praying for you brothers and sisters. May Allah unite us in halal. Ameen
i started finding myself after i got married.... my husband nevr pressurized me for any of his interests... though he showed me many ways of becoming a better person... his opinions became my options... and now... looking back... i am thankful to him bcoz i have become a better muslim and a better human being...
I'm a Christian but I enjoy your teaching so much. Thanks for your good advice.
It's like Mufti Menk is speaking directly to me. Unbelievable. I needed this... Alhamdullilah... May Allah guide us all to the right path and may we all be filled with happiness.
Now I know where I went wrong. May Allah guide me
may allah help you istiqomah
God doesn't need us
We need God
Indeed
Subhanah wa Taala
@@Muwahid999 Indeed^2.
He does need us. That's why he created us. He need us to fulfill His plan on earth. Through us, people, God writes HIS story.
Nadine Astagfurillah. Allah SWT does not need our worship. He does not need us. We NEED Him.
Assalamualaikum
Dear brother and sister. Please pray for me cause I want to get married 😔 I'm 29 yrs. Allah subhanahua ta'yala bless you All...
aameeeen
I am a hindu and i love this guy ..... reallllllyyyyyy .....😁he is so accurate , clear and
I am learning a lot from every speech he shares.
I'm 26 years old but I didn't get job still now however I believe in Allah always he will make me a good job and also I'm trying to find it. Include me in your supplication.
May Allah bless u with the best job , best partner & Emaan. Ameen
Do not marry until you find a treasure
The problem with our society is that marriage is forced upon their kids even when they are not ready for it
Please allow your children to be mentally prepared for marriage
Financial stability is also important but mental preparation is more important
Sometimes we make big mistakes as we growing up Allah will forgive you but the people who know about it will not forgive you.
I just love him so much. He always speaks my mind and puts it in the most beautiful way possible. Before you become someone's mother/father,become someone's wife/husband. Before you become someone's Husband/wife,become(find) yourself. Know your character,try to perfect,try to be the best you can. Don't take more responsibilities than you are supposed to. How can someone who doesn't even know themselves,who never had to deal with any responsibility ,never had to provide for anyone handle the responsibility of starting a family (talking about those who get married at an early age). Marrying at an early age,having kids one year after marriage. Not only did you not fail to find yourself you also failed to become someone's wife/husband. That's the most saddest fate.
True
Today i put commenting here, i feel loneliness but i know Allah has great things for me
Yes
I am also but I am 100% sure God will give me someone special:)
Inshallah
May Allah gives all of us good spouse which help us in this world and hereafter Ameen
Really mufti you changed my life because of your motivational words,, masha Allah this year I will find my soul mate with the blessings of Muhammad upon me 🤲🤲
Allah will forgive u but the people around you will never forgive you...such a great line
don't control ur hearts and mind by someone wht an extraordinary speech
This vedio will definitely change the people from their bad thoughts................beyond religion ....this teaches about life......it's fact nd i will keep my heart and soul towards allah even im not a muslim
Wonderful message by Mufti Menk.
Am 23 years old am in process off doing my degree i somehow 4got myslf in this dunya ..i reached a stage where i become addicted to movies but the good thing i never miss my daily prayers .
Alhmdllh i started realising my mistakes and am slowly disconnecting myslf frm the dunya .am evn at a point of dropping from my studies and start a fresh in islamic institutions ..in real sense i pity myslf and belittle myslf ..
I see myslf far from Allah
Pray for me
I'm going through the same thing brother. Im really addicted to seasons and all and now I only pray jummah prayer, sedly. And this whole proposal thing messed my head really badly. Pray for me that I'll survive this test and hopefully this will bring me closer to Allah .
I think finding a career you are content with is a big part of finding yourself. I am currently at this stage. Marriage insha’allah will come when Allah wills.
May Allah make it easy for us to achieve our life goals insha’allah.
Personally career has driven me and many others away from marriage.
Same with me
Ameen
Ameen
🤝That is true everyone find for a good person no one trying to be a good person
Awesome message. Islam is such a beautiful religion full of great teachings.
"... because they are not Ghafoor ur Raheem. Allah is." this hit so hard and so deep into the soul. Beacuse it's not only your friends that will be unforgiving when they find out about your mistakes, there are times when parents are not ready to forgive their children. And that's really burdensome and painful.
When I was 19 ..I found someone that I want him to be part of my future. We like each other.. He's a good man and stable. He be honest with me that he want to be serious.. He don't want to waste more time. But then, I realise.. That maybe I'm not ready.. I'm still searching for something.. I do want him .but deep in my heart .. I know I don't deserve him. I leave him for awhile to think about how I feel.. After a year. He's got married to someone that deserve him.. I'm sad..but happy for him. I believe what was meant for me will always be mine wherever I go, or no matter how long it takes. I'm not regret my decision.. Allah knows best.. Now I'm happy alone ..I learned and still learning about myself and my life journey.. Alhamdulillah..
u will find someone again dont worry just be happy😊
Same situation i am going through..it is really hard to go through..he is marriage on july 3...
Sunu k. Its never easy .. Its been more than 4 years, yet theres a point where i still found him in the back of my head, especially when i meeting someone else and he is not like him. but we need to be brave. You will get stronger.. We will meet what we deserves when the time comes.
@@ImAwkwArDpErsoN It doesn't matter that he was perfect. You see, we don't need PERFECT people to complete us. We need flawed, passionate people, passionate relationships. You left him because he didn't complete you. He was awesome...but just not your soulmate. It's not that you didnt deserve him, just that he wasn't who God had created for you.
You will find that special someone. Don't settle for just anyone. Wait. Walk. Pray. God will help you, InshaAllah. Have faith.
ive been hurt nd ive been used by someone i thought will spend his life with me..ive been falldown manytimes...nd still getting up and hoping to find the right one.evrything was not perfect i always wanted to be loved and my only wish is to hve the one who will protect me from sinn..bcoz i believe that man created to protect women nd thier emaan..we are in this world to protect each other purposely..Allah knows what we really need at the end my life will be end but i dont like Allah ended my life that i dont even fix mylife that i dont fix my life into a better one..im scared i hope even in this sinfull world i hope that Allah still giv me a chance to make thing better bfore he will tke my life...And Insha Allah he will provide me someone who can help me out someone who will brighten my life and walk with me into Allah's ryt path ameen
Same here , hurting and using by someone
I find the cautionary advice of "finding yourself" can only go so far. When do you know you've found yourself? Reality is living life, experiences are so important too. You can only find yourself so much. Many people find themselves through their interactions with others. By experiencing life. We are meant to experience life. Reality is not everyone's marriage will work out. It is good to let the youth know ofcourse and others who are looking to get married for the first time what they should be looking for in a potential spouse and their priorities etc and more importantly where they can be themselves.
I think there are certain qualities we should be looking for such as light heartedness etc. Reality is opposites do attract! This is why Prophet (S) said marriage is half of the deen. In so many ways it completes half of our deen.
I think it's very important to be humble, understanding. When we're in love that's important as it keeps the love alive and flourishing. And yes as Mufti Menk said, dont give your heart and mind away. Of course when we humans love someone, our spouse that will happen. Once again life is meant to be experienced we can only perfect ourselves so much!
You will grow a lot if have a strong intention to get married, insha'Allah.
I get that marriage is sometimes made this end goal and thats why there's a lot of cautionary advice.
Just dont make you getting married an end goal! Keep going. Keep growing. Keep giving. Be balanced and when we turn to Allah everyday Allah that will naturally happen. We learn to live in a place of letting go.
Patiently waiting for what Allah planned for. Let’s keep patience and make Dua Inshallah
I am 40 years old and am having difficulty finding a pious muslimah. Pls pray for me brother/sisters
ان شاء الله
Alhamdulillah I am single and my parents are searching groom for me .May Allah make us easy to find a descent life partner who has emaan
Aameen
You're so lucky. My parents doesn't searching a groom for me. They just keep dua.
I'm 20 years old. I'm looking for good person.pray for me to get that person.from🇸🇴
This islamic scholar is great to me. I can easily undrrstand his speaking. May Allah give him hayath
1000million thumbs up deserving video.thank u sooo much.
I am 29.i want to get married in the year of 2020 ..soon inshallah...pray all around the world.. May Allah guide us....
Allah gives you husband honest
ان شاء الله
That's a powerful message.
This message is not only Islamic one. This message is Universal 💖🤲😌
I'm 26 and I can tell that in this stage of my life where I often think about what would be my life when I ger married? What would be my career? Will I be able to sustain what my family needs. Marriage is not something you can do without thinking properly, because it is not only you who will suffer but also your future spouse, children if you do it just because you are being pressured by the people around you.
I am a 23 yr old Muslim and I want to get married in shaa Allah please Muslims all around the world pray for me .
Shukriya......hum iss baat ka hamesha khayal rakhenge.....
Masha Allah Ismail mufti menk may Allah guide you
Masha Allah sound so great may Allah choose what is best of us and give us great spouse and may he grant us goodness this duniya and the hearafter
When you do something wrong Allah may forgive you but people don't they'll always remember😢
This person is amazing😇
May Allah bless this brother. He speaks so lightly, with such clear point of what he is talking about. Ma Shaa Allah ❤
m also single 25 yrs old frm india kashmir ....insha allah hope get soon my life partner....
Mashaallah i got new knowladge in my 21 my age 😊
Great message ,we should accept and respect good thoughts from every religion
All people in the world have to listen to this....
Please pray for me to get married to a very nice man this year, 2021.
May you find a guy who treats you like a queen and is god fearing. Ameen
Ameen insyaalloh...
Never fall in love with someone who is depressed. They will never fully love you because they havent found true love and peace in themselves yet.
I disagree let them find themselves but let them know you love them unconditionally
He is right about giving mind n heart. People abuse it including me & justice is served.
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَافِيَةَ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالآخِرَةِ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي دِينِي وَدُنْيَاىَ وَأَهْلِي وَمَالِي اللَّهُمَّ اسْتُرْ عَوْرَتِي وَآمِنْ رَوْعَاتِي اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنِي مِنْ بَيْنِ يَدَىَّ وَمِنْ خَلْفِي وَعَنْ يَمِينِي وَعَنْ شِمَالِي وَمِنْ فَوْقِي وَأَعُوذُ بِعَظَمَتِكَ أَنْ أُغْتَالَ مِنْ تَحْتِي...
I am 23 rd now InshaAllah my marriage is on after Ramadan please pray for me . May Allah bless all of us Ameen
May Allah bless your marriage sista 🤲🤗🙏
May Allah bless you
In Sha Allah I'll find myself :)
Al hamdu lillah, watching your videos helps me to love Islamic rules again and again. Jazakumullah
Im 28 years old single woman. I love myself and very grateful for what Allah has given to me. Alhamdulillah.
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