Thank you for your conversation and vulnerability today I went to the shelf and got my book the language of letting go out so that I can remind myself of how far I’ve come and stay the course with love and compassion in my marriage. We are celebrating 38 years together today.
That’s the case for you and surely many people, but sometimes one person is abusive and not willing to admit any fault. People need to be aware that could be the dynamic too
This still applies in this situation. If there is abuse and I am tolerating it. The problem starts with me. I need to look at what is happening for me that is bringing me to tolerate. That will give me the ability to get help and set boundaries to stop the pattern.
@@heyjuliawoods yes, but if the person is wired in such a way that they always disregard their partner's boundaries, because they feel the (subconscious) need to control them, then it still won't make the relationship work.
@@Lois_Unwordy My experience is that all humans want and need to control. The invitation is that when we see our spouse as the problem we move into a victim mindset which blocks us from taking responsibility to set healthy boundaries and stand for the marriage we long for.
I understand. I was there. For me, it started with learning to understand my emotions so I could stop exploding in conversations. Then I needed to heal my bitterness and unforgiveness so I could dcommunicate with respect. As I changed how I was communicating, he began to open up and have conversations with me.
I am so sorry about that. I just added the link for the ebook to the description section under the video. It is right about the quiz link. Please let me know if you can't find it.
Thank you for your conversation and vulnerability today I went to the shelf and got my book the language of letting go out so that I can remind myself of how far I’ve come and stay the course with love and compassion in my marriage. We are celebrating 38 years together today.
WOW Jody, congratulations on 38 years and doing the work to keep growing the marriage you long for!
Awesome info for solutions.
Thank you Jojo for letting me know this connected for you.
That’s the case for you and surely many people, but sometimes one person is abusive and not willing to admit any fault. People need to be aware that could be the dynamic too
This still applies in this situation. If there is abuse and I am tolerating it. The problem starts with me. I need to look at what is happening for me that is bringing me to tolerate. That will give me the ability to get help and set boundaries to stop the pattern.
@@heyjuliawoods yes, but if the person is wired in such a way that they always disregard their partner's boundaries, because they feel the (subconscious) need to control them, then it still won't make the relationship work.
@@Lois_Unwordy My experience is that all humans want and need to control. The invitation is that when we see our spouse as the problem we move into a victim mindset which blocks us from taking responsibility to set healthy boundaries and stand for the marriage we long for.
What if your partner is not ready to face anything,not even listening
I understand. I was there. For me, it started with learning to understand my emotions so I could stop exploding in conversations. Then I needed to heal my bitterness and unforgiveness so I could dcommunicate with respect. As I changed how I was communicating, he began to open up and have conversations with me.
I am unable to see the link for the free e-book. Or is it sent to our mail after we register with the other link in the description?
I am so sorry about that. I just added the link for the ebook to the description section under the video. It is right about the quiz link. Please let me know if you can't find it.