Some of these things we as man already know, but because we can be in denial, we like to lie to ourselves, thinking she is gonna come around. but hearing this, just makes it easier to identify and move on as quick as possible. no time wasted. Thank you once again Jessy.
Men should never fear rejection. You reject me, i move on to the next. I agree with those subtle signs that someone is not interested. But the best way to find out if a woman is interested is to shoot your shot.
@@Anthony90026 let her choose meaning let her show signs of interest like eye contact, smile, etc don't just walk up on them shows needy and she has the power .👍🏾
In my teens and twenties, I thought women were attracted to me if they were chatty, friendly, sweet-hearted and attentive. I made some big, embarrassing mistakes with this assumption, and lost track of how many times I was told, "No, Stephen, I just want us to be friends." Finally, the penny dropped, and now I assume that any woman who is friendly, chatty, sweet-hearted and attentive is the same with everyone else. Result: no embarrassing situations, no time wasted in searching for her signals that are not there.
All I can say is thank you a million times over. That last point "if she takes days to reply to messages..." really hit hard. That's exactly what I've been trying to know for weeks now.
@kapa LL listen to everyone one who passes through ur ears choose to adhere or not adhere but don't force ppl not to be kind and to stop doing the right thing
Some women like to flirt around so that they could be the center of attention all the times... that also is sign that these types cannot be taken too seriously as well. Thanks Jessica
The phone tip is probably the best way to know if someone is interested or not. I have a coworker who always has her phone within reach. Most the time when I text her she takes a while to respond or doesn't respond at all. Dead give away right there.
These are good tips. If she's not willing to set aside time to see u in person, then she's not into u. It's painfully obvious, but guys still get strung along by girls in "hopes" that one day they will have a chance with her. Remember - girls like the validation and attention u give her. That's good enough for her. She doesn't need to do anything intimate with u for her to win.
She speaks fact. I have gone through this before until the lady showed her true color by screaming at me when I took her out and made a mistake passing the wrong place while I was taking her home. She screamed at me like crazy and ended up saying she’s done with me. When I got her back the second time it was as if she has an agenda of asking me for money which I did gave her. I was a fool getting the signal thst she doesn’t like me and still pushing myself towards her. August 1, I stopped talking to her. Thank God I have a new girlfriend now and she’s so cool.
@@kevinmalone3210 i removed her number. In church she’s quiet and always frowning her face. The last time I text her was when she ask me to buying something online and was trying to give her my credit card foolishly, that day I decided to change my mind telling her that I can’t give you my credit card that it’s too risky. She now said I don’t trust her. Since then I stoped talking to her till now.
@@osarumenerhunmwunsee I suppose it doesn't hurt to talk to that person even if for the most part you cut then out of your life. It's always wise to never give anyone your credit/debit card numbers out. For a woman to say, you don't trust me in response sounds manipulative. Moving on is the best way. Life is too short.
@@kevinmalone3210 Honestly man. What people don’t understand is that it’s not about the look, it’s about heart. If you are the most prettiest girl in the world and you have a bad behavior no one will date the person or maybe they’ll have sex with the person and run away. This girl is so pretty but she had a very bad behavior
@@kevinmalone3210 most ladies u see walking around are highly emotionally unstable,,,when u as a dude ask them ,why do u love me ,,they say the same thing repeatedly "Bec you make me happy and smile"*
I saw all the signs you mentioned but still ignored them until it blew on my face one day and flattened me....wish I was matured enough like now....you’re %100 on point.
I personally don't allow myself to waste time. If I feel like there is very little interest shown I will quickly remove myself from that situation. There won't be any bad talk or any type of negativity. I just move on without warning and wish them good luck, because there is absolutely no way to get time back once it is spent...
1) When you trying to invite her out, she will never give you an exact date and time 2) When she does make a date with you, she doesn't show up 3) She doesn't allow you, to invade her personal space 4) She never want to be alone with you, or will only meet you in public 5) She keeps you away from her friends 6) She takes hours or days to respond to your messages
@@oliverakisa98 i think "being nice" in this context means that she even communicating with you instead of flat out telling you to go away. I still think that these videos are way too much about the situation when you already asked a girl out.
#1 is happening to me right now. I recently asked her if she would like to go to the library together. She said she's okay with the idea but has to check her schedule because she's very busy.
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I tell younger guys don't deal with her all together. Only deal with women that interested in him. Don't give them any unwarranted attention put them in the friendzone if she try to come back especially when you in your purpose and successful. Only deal with women in your field of vision or shes not worth your time.
The thing that women value most from men is their time and attention. Just like men will take free sex, women will take free time and attention...it's on you to know when you're being used and to cut things off. When you value your time, the same way she values her vagina...you'll reach enlightenment.
@@jeviosoorishas181 Your view of men and women is perverse and definitely doesn't apply to people who are interested in building good relationships on respect and friendship.
I experienced four (1. Asked for a hangout and she kept on saying, "I will let you know." 2. Shifting away when I walked closer. 3. Not responding to messages on time. 4. She hardly said words 2 times that we met and never talked about her friends) of what you said and I just learned in the most impressive way. Thank you Jessica.
Next time try showing her your bank account..if its 6 figures or more I guarantee you will get a different response..Or buy a Bentley and make sure she sees 👀 it...If those 2 things don't work she's not interested..
Nothing beats experience. Knowing and doing things are two different things. I know the mistakes I make but I usually remember them after they’ve been made. For example, I remember a girl chatting me up at a mall last year, she was really pretty and I was so impressed with her confidence and vibe that I got carried away and became too chatty (my most frequent mistake with anybody I’m trying to impress). It was after she left that I realized how I’ve screwed it up. I barely chat up anyone that looks like that so tips or no tips, without the experience, it’s easy to get carried away in the moment and fumble. We know some of these tips, it’s just harder to see/remember when you’re in the middle of it.
so help me understand, you feel your mistake was you held too long of a conversation? so was she trying to cut it off and you kept going or did she also bring up new subjects as well? What is "too chatty"? I mean if she was feeling you and you feeling her what was wrong with that my man? Talking is a good thing; something was wrong with her apparently!
One of the most balanced and eloquently put across pieces of advice out there. I think the biggest problem that we guys face out there is the messaging speed and we are left unsure if we should continue to persue or not
When i was much younger, i would suffer mentally as to why a lady has rejected me, asking myself many questions, if am not looking nice, dressing well, or the approach wasn't smart enough. And still could wake up with much hope of the girl playing hard to get, but still get turned away. Just realised i don't need to force things around, having many female friends is ideal to curb stress, You turn me off, i move on until life's journey connects us again. Jessie you are a blessing here, we men should just know our values
Great tips.. If you've been in the game long enough, you tend to see this signals so early on your interaction. It doesn't even bother me as much as it did when I was younger. Even if she says NO, I acknowledge it, Take the L...and move on to the next without emotions, with time it just becomes normal and you become less n less attached to women.
That's why I stopped asking women out on dates. They were never honest with me first off and getting dupped and she never show up for a date. I've been stood up on dates and lied to about wanting to go on a date with me so I left all of the dating alone. I finally learned to just focus on me and not waste time about dating any more. I'm into honesty. If I'm not a woman's type Shee could just say I don't have romantic feeling for that person. But going the extra mile to turn a man down is totally wrong all the way around. That is a small bit of why I stopped trying to date. For me personally it isn't worth it anymore.
Everything bad that you just mentioned has happened with every man who is successful in the dating game. I think what's happening with you is that you would meet one gal, get her number and then have this sky high expectation of how it should go down with her. You should have an abundance mentality and ask out many women. So much so that one flake is not going to bother you.
You might just be like me. A good heart man who happen to be smart too and we are not enough entertainer for women especially nowadays... It’s the last days brother
Thank you for this insightful video. For once I felt like I had a breakthrough and a clearer understanding where I stand. With a relationship that's more like a friendship. Even though I want something more than being friends. But at least now I can move forward, even though it is disappointing and somewhat hurtful.
I'm a lady and all these tips are so correct. I love your videos Jessica. I hope the men watch and learn. it's necessary. Stop wasting your time and stop being in denial.
Thank you for showing me that what I was thinking is right.. honestly, being honest and truthful about not liking us for a relationship is more valued than "someday we will go for a drink". it's hard to understand a woman inside her head sometimes and the actions and sayings. Sometimes ,for us man, it's like giving "hope" where there is none and we stay confused because it makes us think that she is just playing hard/testing and that we need to work harder to have her heart. Most of us don't admit it but it's very hurtful inside (at least the ones that have a heart)
I’d like to speak on the last rule about not responding quickly. It honestly depends on the girl. For instance, I had a girl that would take hours to respond to my texts, but she would almost never be on her phone, and when I glanced at her phone I was always at the top of her list. She ended up liking me and we had a good time. But when measuring response times, you need to gauge the person’s phone habits first.
The best things that have worked for me is to try having some mystery about myself and to be straight to the point with my expectations. Women know from the very start if they're into you, so it all depends on how they SHOW it, not by response. Regardless, I never view them in a pedestalistic manner nor give them any undeserved attention. Keep it moving!!!
@@vince11harris man wish more guys had this mindset, seems like most dudes in this comment section fear rejection, the whole wait for the signals first before u approach, man tbh i prefer to shoot my shot with a girl who catches my eye rather than wait, and personally i prefer to know that she wasn't fucking with me up front when i approach her rather than sit back and wonder how many women i've missed out by not approaching, women are all different and one woman's choosing signals can be different to another, some girls are hella subtle and u woulld have never guessed they liked u because honestly which guy is going around constantly looking if girls are sending signals? thats tedious, imma keep cold approaching coz at the end of the day most likely these women are strangers and u might never see them again so so what if i take the L as long as i'm polite abt the interaction and wish her good day afterwards who cares what she thinks of me after the interaction ends, not like i'll ever see her again. Plus taking rejections can also make for good stories later on lmao i have a few embarrassing L's that i laugh at when i think abt it
@@stevetheiii477 I think dudes are just scary. They have unrealistic expectations and assume that if every girl doesn’t like them or says then she’s a “bitch “ or whatever. Nah man she just doesn’t like you like that and it’s cool. And I agree. I would definitely rather have the confidence to cold approach and tell her how I think about her then play the “what if” game in my mind
This is a good teaching for men with low self esteem and also for the obnoxious ones who think no woman can reject them. A man should be able to spot these and jog on! Having said that, I think women should be courageous and make their feelings known from the beginning. Be straight forward, let your pursuer of a guy know you're not interested. If you want just friendship, be clear. Don't worry about the guy's feelings, it's about yours.
You are making the assumption that a woman would be able to tell whether or not you are just being friendly or whether you are interested in social contact to ascertain whether a romantic relationship is possible. Is a woman obliged to warn every man who is friendly towards her that she is only interested in platonic friendship? A woman may wish to know more about you within the limitations of being a friend/acquaintance first, she may wish to see what you are like as a person. In addition, why should she have to make that decision within a short space of time? We all know of people who have developed a romance after having known one another as friends for some time - romance just blossoms; it's called falling in love.
I pride myself in knowing in a couple minuites if a woman is interested in me or not. It's a crime to waste time on women who are not interested in you.
or not flirt with a whole bunch so they can get a fucking break lol. one thing ive learned with my 40 years is that a woman will let you know if she likes you. ive also had a great life so i know its hard for guys who havent had the experiences that I have to actually chill. I wasn't always chill either hahaha
@@lowlowseesee "Not flirt with a whole bunch so they can get a break." Explain yourself please. That didn't make any sense to me. It's called playing the numbers my dude. No 1 woman should ever get that much attention. Especially if she's not reciprocating interest.
@@lowlowseesee Also! I don't know about you but I've found that waiting for them to approach is also bull shyt. I've gotten better results being a pursuer of women. So you can miss me with that.
@@christopherduffy1703 ... flirting with a bunch of women is one way, but it may not be the best way. A true player, or a man that has a good dating system, will make women purse him. Some women want a man that is elite, or unique. If you are always up on her grinning and barking, then you are just another thirsty dude that is trying to get under her dress. And in her mind, this will not make you unique, or special. A quality woman wants to be with a quality man, and not just another thirsty dude.
Another thing is that if a woman is not interested in you, she will treat you the same way she treats other guys in front of you. She will be nice to you alright but u won't feel "special". Boys br3 o.
Smart and clever lady. I see the logic in your words. I've had a similar encounter before, and your video has only confirmed what my intuition had been saying.
This video is highly recommended for men who don't have time to waste .... it just saved their asses!!! Sometimes the guys know, but I wonder what they are still waiting for? Great job Jessica 👏❤️
This is exactly why I downgraded women on my priority list and life has only improved. 1. God, 2. My goals/vision/purpose, 3. My Health, 4. My family, 5. My life long friends, 6. My Community, 7. Women. Life is short and my time is valuable to myself and others. Plus the first 5 on this list always bring value to my life. Love my sisters but I can no longer be distracted by time wasters.
big hutch i love the list but i would put 1.Consent as number one. not your fake ass skydaddy hahahaah. carry on dont @ me with fairy tale arguments either. i care much more about womens safety than your allegiance to whatever god you worship. one of them is actually a real thing lol
@@lowlowseesee well you better hope he’s not real because if he is your screwed my friend. Wouldn’t you rather believe in something even if just for comfort, on your off chance that he is real you’d be doing yourself a disservice not believing in at least something you can’t be right if you don’t try.
She's not just being nice, she's actually trying to get your attention without having to reciprocate. They adore that, getting men's attention knowing they won't do anything with them.
I’m very uncomfortable being friends with women because of this. Simply being friends makes me feel like less of a man because of how many time I’ve been the attention giver with nothing in return.
@@jaylenwilliams8271literally get that. It’s like wanna be friends at least or just want get to know u as a person but u ain’t even giving me the time and always busy when I ask to hang out. This girl, haven’t heard my name from her mouth b4, so I blocked her. Move on brothers I know it’s hard but in reality it ain’t
Any girl who likes you will create time for you coz girls have this super power of running many things at the same time. She can cook,do her chores and even wash at the same time. If she keeps telling you she's busy or making excuses,focus on yourself Bro💀 Thank you for the video😊🙏
This is sensational . Love it all . A lady was like that in my life I kick her out from my life . She doesn't Express herself whenever I am around with her. Me why she expresses herself with her friends and other people. I realized that she like someone else not me. She just uses me as a stand by., so she was just been nice to me .
You are my Coach, Jessie.I really love,appreciate and respect you for exposing women's subtle negative attitudes and reactions in a relationship. On this subject matter, you just provided an answer to a current issue in a new relationship I am.I have even get everything set: bought her goodies for her birthday which is today, etc but she's just all what you have been saying. Thanks Jessie...you are MY COACH.
The truth from a woman's perspective,this is one of the reasons I subscribe to Jessica's channel...I have no time to waste and a little knowledge goes a long way. Thanks for your time and help.
I broke up with my 'supposedly' girl friend not very long after watching this videos. Its like it was recorded for my cause you describe my ex's behavior the last 4 weeks. Thanks
I knew about all this a long ago, I don’t delay to move on when ever a woman start behaving like that to me, but really happy with more highlighting us u re a great lady
You're so right. I have one of these when I was younger, but that had a lot to do with my game around a woman I like. Over the years, and meeting up with women it all changed. But what you've said is the hard truth. Now I can smell these red flags a mile away, and put an end to it early.
You can listen to advice and notice "signs " all day. It takes experience, lots of it. The guys who normally get most of their targets (lack of a better word) just move on to the next, without ever noticing friend zone or just being nice chicks. It's not until they slow down and pursue a hard target , they then realize some women are just not into you like that.....until they get old🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Not really! Love is blind, your girl keep doing that and you keep pursuing her. As the unexplained rule applies: We always run after those who don't want us and we never turn attention to those who wanna give us the World!
This is actually a very good video and it could go both ways! I've had women who I felt were JUST friends and they read to much into it. There are people who are just naturally friendly and what I call social butterfilies. It's easy to misunderstand that being NICE is a come on!
None of them broke me down. I have really passed through a lot with different kinds of ladies. I must say relationship is very difficult and painful like hell fire if you're with the fake person.😁😁😁
But even before Jessica said thia, I always tell guys that once you're important the person that cares will make time for you. Nobody is too busy. Trust me if a girl tells u crab just move out. Trust me no one is too busy. The Same busy person is replying someone I'm coming over. So shine your eyes
So true my most recent ex used to tell me she's busy but I got fake account n sent her a message,she replied me and even gave me a day for the date n yet I was a stranger to her ,fact is it's easy to read red flags from women and save yo self slot of time
Thanks, this was helpful for me. I'm such a horn dog I always go for it but it always hurts my feelings when rejected. Lots of people become bitter, but not me, always improve.
if you see that a woman is not interested you should gracefully walk away. That will show her that you're a man with self respect. However, you should always learn something from the interaction because women usually don't reject you as a person...they reject what you presented to her at that moment. Which means if you change a few things about yourself as well as how you approach her, you're likely to get a different result. So keep learning and keep on getting better.
Men don't get asked out nearly as many times as women. I myself try to be cool about rejecting what few women that have asked me out that i was not interested in. I wish I could just say I wasn't interested out the gate but not as easy when you are on the spot. Trust me. People can be sensitive to how you may react to the rejection.
I started watching your videos today but I feel like I've known you for so long. You're of so much help and your videos are an eye-opener to who women really are cause men don't really understand women at times. Thank you for your efforts.
You're not the only one. There was one that always wanted to meet me when I was about to give her something (flower or small gift something like that) and she was always with her friends. She never wanted to go somewhere alone with me offered her numerous times. Always public places. She obviously played with me. Also she never introduced me to her friends.
Some women are just opportunistic... I feel after about 4 rejection hints and the message is not gotten, it's better to just hit the nail on the head. But some won't, they still want to keep you at arm's length.. Probably with the fear that, when he backs away, then the rejection might propel them to start to desire him...
You have done women a big favour through this video. These points apply to men as well..but as a woman I can seriously tell about that physical space part. If a woman is giving signs through her body language that she is moving away or kinda not interested in even little bit of touch, she is not interested.
I’ve been in a situation where one of my female friends started becoming extra flirtatious towards me (which she never had). But when I check her by returning her energy, she backs right back down. Careful, fellas 👌🏾💯
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In fact it is very easy to know when somebody doesn't like us, we male or female know easily. The problem is that we like lying to ourselves and we like challenge, therefore we keep trying and trying with that person who doesn't give a damn to us.
That last part, always holding her phone, but takes hours or days before she'll respond.
Thank you
guess its time to move on…
Huge red flag 🚩
Some of these things we as man already know, but because we can be in denial, we like to lie to ourselves, thinking she is gonna come around. but hearing this, just makes it easier to identify and move on as quick as possible. no time wasted. Thank you once again Jessy.
Swear man. Denial is real
Facts
wow thank you so much for the tips,i am guilty of chasing and thinking that i am suppose to chase to try and win her.
Jesus Christ loves u acts 238 and upci church locator for a church type that on the Internet
Fact
Men should never fear rejection. You reject me, i move on to the next. I agree with those subtle signs that someone is not interested. But the best way to find out if a woman is interested is to shoot your shot.
You too much
Nah let her choose up 1st. Don't cold Approach.
@@davante1286 What do you mean?
@@Anthony90026 let her choose meaning let her show signs of interest like eye contact, smile, etc don't just walk up on them shows needy and she has the power .👍🏾
@@davante1286 Oh ok, I was confused at first lol thanks for clarifying
In my teens and twenties, I thought women were attracted to me if they were chatty, friendly, sweet-hearted and attentive. I made some big, embarrassing mistakes with this assumption, and lost track of how many times I was told, "No, Stephen, I just want us to be friends." Finally, the penny dropped, and now I assume that any woman who is friendly, chatty, sweet-hearted and attentive is the same with everyone else. Result: no embarrassing situations, no time wasted in searching for her signals that are not there.
They tend to be
what about the pretty ones at work that gives us dirty looks
All I can say is thank you a million times over.
That last point "if she takes days to reply to messages..." really hit hard.
That's exactly what I've been trying to know for weeks now.
Normally i say don't take advice from woman. But this one speak tru facts no bs. All her advice is 100% facts.
thats a red flag from hell if you normally dont take advice from women. we are people you know
@@lowlowseesee wtf? dont trust what she saying
@kapa LL listen to everyone one who passes through ur ears choose to adhere or not adhere but don't force ppl not to be kind and to stop doing the right thing
Trust me women know shit abt women... the best advice abt women u can get is from a woman...
@@veemuyambo Nope.
Chase what won't reject you. your dreams and vision can't reject you. If you can chase your dreams and realize it, even women would chase after you.
Yeah but at that point why even accept them? They don't seem to want you they want more of what you bring
When you dreams are having a happy healthy family. You are screwed
Some women like to flirt around so that they could be the center of attention all the times... that also is sign that these types cannot be taken too seriously as well. Thanks Jessica
Thank you sister , had this one flirting and all but not interested happy was able to notice quick before wasting my time
The phone tip is probably the best way to know if someone is interested or not. I have a coworker who always has her phone within reach. Most the time when I text her she takes a while to respond or doesn't respond at all. Dead give away right there.
The thing is, alot of girls play this game of responding late and so on to make sure they don't get too attached
These are good tips. If she's not willing to set aside time to see u in person, then she's not into u. It's painfully obvious, but guys still get strung along by girls in "hopes" that one day they will have a chance with her. Remember - girls like the validation and attention u give her. That's good enough for her. She doesn't need to do anything intimate with u for her to win.
She speaks fact. I have gone through this before until the lady showed her true color by screaming at me when I took her out and made a mistake passing the wrong place while I was taking her home. She screamed at me like crazy and ended up saying she’s done with me. When I got her back the second time it was as if she has an agenda of asking me for money which I did gave her. I was a fool getting the signal thst she doesn’t like me and still pushing myself towards her. August 1, I stopped talking to her. Thank God I have a new girlfriend now and she’s so cool.
Sounds as if she's emotionally unstable. You did the right thing in forgetting her.
@@kevinmalone3210 i removed her number. In church she’s quiet and always frowning her face. The last time I text her was when she ask me to buying something online and was trying to give her my credit card foolishly, that day I decided to change my mind telling her that I can’t give you my credit card that it’s too risky. She now said I don’t trust her. Since then I stoped talking to her till now.
@@osarumenerhunmwunsee I suppose it doesn't hurt to talk to that person even if for the most part you cut then out of your life. It's always wise to never give anyone your credit/debit card numbers out. For a woman to say, you don't trust me in response sounds manipulative. Moving on is the best way. Life is too short.
@@kevinmalone3210 Honestly man. What people don’t understand is that it’s not about the look, it’s about heart. If you are the most prettiest girl in the world and you have a bad behavior no one will date the person or maybe they’ll have sex with the person and run away. This girl is so pretty but she had a very bad behavior
@@kevinmalone3210 most ladies u see walking around are highly emotionally unstable,,,when u as a dude ask them ,why do u love me ,,they say the same thing repeatedly "Bec you make me happy and smile"*
I saw all the signs you mentioned but still ignored them until it blew on my face one day and flattened me....wish I was matured enough like now....you’re %100 on point.
Sorry to hear that, do you mind sharing your story bro?
@@BDA302 😂😂😂😂😂
I personally don't allow myself to waste time. If I feel like there is very little interest shown I will quickly remove myself from that situation. There won't be any bad talk or any type of negativity. I just move on without warning and wish them good luck, because there is absolutely no way to get time back once it is spent...
preach
True indeed
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I will do this as well and cry the entire time im walking away.
Never worry about the one that got away😔😅😅
1) When you trying to invite her out, she will never give you an exact date and time
2) When she does make a date with you, she doesn't show up
3) She doesn't allow you, to invade her personal space
4) She never want to be alone with you, or will only meet you in public
5) She keeps you away from her friends
6) She takes hours or days to respond to your messages
How is this being nice....I don't understand
@@oliverakisa98 well according to the video any girl being nice means the girls is not interested
@@oliverakisa98 i think "being nice" in this context means that she even communicating with you instead of flat out telling you to go away.
I still think that these videos are way too much about the situation when you already asked a girl out.
#1 is happening to me right now. I recently asked her if she would like to go to the library together. She said she's okay with the idea but has to check her schedule because she's very busy.
@@Marcus-gw4bb #2 isn't really nice if she does this on purpose lol sadly happened to me
Every rejection is God's protection 🙏 🙌
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Ok 👍
I’m SUPER PROTECTED!!!!!
Cap 🤣
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Every genuine male have had to deal with this someway somehow, God help us
I like the word "genuine"
lol! I feel for you
@@kwesipositiveappiah5997 I also like the word “genuine” May God help genuine men out there 🙌❤️
that is why I'm bay myself because if you don't be careful they will take advantage of you and will not show you no respect or appreciation
@@derrickofori4859 Amen 🙏
Out of all the languages that could have been spoken, Jessica chose facts.
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So trueee!!!
Facts👏🔥
I tell younger guys don't deal with her all together. Only deal with women that interested in him. Don't give them any unwarranted attention put them in the friendzone if she try to come back especially when you in your purpose and successful. Only deal with women in your field of vision or shes not worth your time.
Facts
This is the secret to success
Thank you
The thing that women value most from men is their time and attention. Just like men will take free sex, women will take free time and attention...it's on you to know when you're being used and to cut things off.
When you value your time, the same way she values her vagina...you'll reach enlightenment.
@@jeviosoorishas181 Your view of men and women is perverse and definitely doesn't apply to people who are interested in building good relationships on respect and friendship.
The truth hurts
But it will set you free
Thank you for clearing things up for me 😌
I appreciate your content lots
well said
YEP!!! In cloud nine hearing this Jessica, you hit the nail on the head.
Guys, take this to the bank
I experienced four (1. Asked for a hangout and she kept on saying, "I will let you know." 2. Shifting away when I walked closer. 3. Not responding to messages on time. 4. She hardly said words 2 times that we met and never talked about her friends) of what you said and I just learned in the most impressive way. Thank you Jessica.
Sorry about that my brother
Next time try showing her your bank account..if its 6 figures or more I guarantee you will get a different response..Or buy a Bentley and make sure she sees 👀 it...If those 2 things don't work she's not interested..
@@nealmike5490 🤣🤣🤣
@@nealmike5490 bruh🤣🤣🤣
Looks and height are all that matter if u don’t have either one. U are gonna have a rough road ahead
I've taken your advice and saved myself from a possible heartache. Well done Jess.
Nothing beats experience. Knowing and doing things are two different things. I know the mistakes I make but I usually remember them after they’ve been made. For example, I remember a girl chatting me up at a mall last year, she was really pretty and I was so impressed with her confidence and vibe that I got carried away and became too chatty (my most frequent mistake with anybody I’m trying to impress). It was after she left that I realized how I’ve screwed it up. I barely chat up anyone that looks like that so tips or no tips, without the experience, it’s easy to get carried away in the moment and fumble.
We know some of these tips, it’s just harder to see/remember when you’re in the middle of it.
so help me understand, you feel your mistake was you held too long of a conversation? so was she trying to cut it off and you kept going or did she also bring up new subjects as well? What is "too chatty"? I mean if she was feeling you and you feeling her what was wrong with that my man? Talking is a good thing; something was wrong with her apparently!
Relatable.
One of the most balanced and eloquently put across pieces of advice out there. I think the biggest problem that we guys face out there is the messaging speed and we are left unsure if we should continue to persue or not
When i was much younger, i would suffer mentally as to why a lady has rejected me, asking myself many questions, if am not looking nice, dressing well, or the approach wasn't smart enough. And still could wake up with much hope of the girl playing hard to get, but still get turned away. Just realised i don't need to force things around, having many female friends is ideal to curb stress, You turn me off, i move on until life's journey connects us again. Jessie you are a blessing here, we men should just know our values
Simple
Mehn, she speaks impeccable English 👌
That's also one of the things that stood out for me.
Ghana to the world 😍🔥✌🏽
Rather than a compliment, I think this comment’s insulting. She’s from Ghana, and English as much as I know is an official language there.
You speak impaccable English aswell. 👌🏿
Swears😌😍💯
Great tips.. If you've been in the game long enough, you tend to see this signals so early on your interaction. It doesn't even bother me as much as it did when I was younger. Even if she says NO, I acknowledge it, Take the L...and move on to the next without emotions, with time it just becomes normal and you become less n less attached to women.
"with time it just becomes normal and you become less n less attached to women." That's deep.
Hapo umenena bro
Yh ... that attachment part is the last thing I need to achieve. I know the game
That's why I stopped asking women out on dates. They were never honest with me first off and getting dupped and she never show up for a date. I've been stood up on dates and lied to about wanting to go on a date with me so I left all of the dating alone. I finally learned to just focus on me and not waste time about dating any more. I'm into honesty. If I'm not a woman's type Shee could just say I don't have romantic feeling for that person. But going the extra mile to turn a man down is totally wrong all the way around. That is a small bit of why I stopped trying to date. For me personally it isn't worth it anymore.
if you like honesty, you're better off being gay dawg 😂
@@thebotfather9508 it's way more than just that. Honesty is important if I can't trust someone I don't hang around
Everything bad that you just mentioned has happened with every man who is successful in the dating game. I think what's happening with you is that you would meet one gal, get her number and then have this sky high expectation of how it should go down with her.
You should have an abundance mentality and ask out many women. So much so that one flake is not going to bother you.
@@thebotfather9508 the other option is stay single...
You might just be like me. A good heart man who happen to be smart too and we are not enough entertainer for women especially nowadays... It’s the last days brother
Thank you for this insightful video. For once I felt like I had a breakthrough and a clearer understanding where I stand. With a relationship that's more like a friendship. Even though I want something more than being friends. But at least now I can move forward, even though it is disappointing and somewhat hurtful.
I'm a lady and all these tips are so correct. I love your videos Jessica. I hope the men watch and learn. it's necessary. Stop wasting your time and stop being in denial.
When a woman isn't into you, you'll see the clear signs. Nice one Jessica. You hit the nail on the head
❤️
When the signs are clear like telesales move to next customer..or as the old saying goes "Plenty of fish in the sea".
the was this girl that comes to sleepover at my place and we sleep on the same but when I made my move it back fired hahaha
@@keli667 hahaha women di3 they can be strange ooo
Why do you people talk like school teachers 👩🏫 JUST BE YALL SELVES
I like everything about this lady, from her voice to her lighting in the background😊😊😊
how about asking her out
If Jess makes a masterclass on dating life, I dunno who wouldn't purchase that course. She doesn't miss!
Would you? Take dating advice from a man, women don't often know what a man's perspective is like
Ummmm she acts a little masculine
Ijs
And Im female
I think she has a 1 on 1 for her patreon supporters.
Thank you for showing me that what I was thinking is right.. honestly, being honest and truthful about not liking us for a relationship is more valued than "someday we will go for a drink". it's hard to understand a woman inside her head sometimes and the actions and sayings. Sometimes ,for us man, it's like giving "hope" where there is none and we stay confused because it makes us think that she is just playing hard/testing and that we need to work harder to have her heart. Most of us don't admit it but it's very hurtful inside (at least the ones that have a heart)
Point taken
I’d like to speak on the last rule about not responding quickly. It honestly depends on the girl. For instance, I had a girl that would take hours to respond to my texts, but she would almost never be on her phone, and when I glanced at her phone I was always at the top of her list. She ended up liking me and we had a good time. But when measuring response times, you need to gauge the person’s phone habits first.
Some will say,they are putting u to a test
So they have to drag u to see whether u are truly in for business 😊😎
That gender don tire me sef 😹😹😹
Eiiiii blaa🌚
@@oreoluwabukunmi8430 🤣
Forget them😂😂
@@oreoluwabukunmi8430 this matter still dey court oo
The best things that have worked for me is to try having some mystery about myself and to be straight to the point with my expectations. Women know from the very start if they're into you, so it all depends on how they SHOW it, not by response. Regardless, I never view them in a pedestalistic manner nor give them any undeserved attention. Keep it moving!!!
Have some mystery women will think your a weirdo and don't want to be alone with you for fear of being killed
Dude you can do all that and still get rejected. You not gonna bag every single woman you think is attractive
@@vince11harris man wish more guys had this mindset, seems like most dudes in this comment section fear rejection, the whole wait for the signals first before u approach, man tbh i prefer to shoot my shot with a girl who catches my eye rather than wait, and personally i prefer to know that she wasn't fucking with me up front when i approach her rather than sit back and wonder how many women i've missed out by not approaching, women are all different and one woman's choosing signals can be different to another, some girls are hella subtle and u woulld have never guessed they liked u because honestly which guy is going around constantly looking if girls are sending signals? thats tedious, imma keep cold approaching coz at the end of the day most likely these women are strangers and u might never see them again so so what if i take the L as long as i'm polite abt the interaction and wish her good day afterwards who cares what she thinks of me after the interaction ends, not like i'll ever see her again. Plus taking rejections can also make for good stories later on lmao i have a few embarrassing L's that i laugh at when i think abt it
@@stevetheiii477 I think dudes are just scary. They have unrealistic expectations and assume that if every girl doesn’t like them or says then she’s a “bitch “ or whatever. Nah man she just doesn’t like you like that and it’s cool. And I agree. I would definitely rather have the confidence to cold approach and tell her how I think about her then play the “what if” game in my mind
Being mysterious and not being overly thirsty gives a man more power. Feeling her vibe to see If she’s worth It
This is a good teaching for men with low self esteem and also for the obnoxious ones who think no woman can reject them. A man should be able to spot these and jog on! Having said that, I think women should be courageous and make their feelings known from the beginning. Be straight forward, let your pursuer of a guy know you're not interested. If you want just friendship, be clear. Don't worry about the guy's feelings, it's about yours.
But women aren't going to be straight forward, with how they feel, because their having to much fun putting men in the platonic zone.
You are making the assumption that a woman would be able to tell whether or not you are just being friendly or whether you are interested in social contact to ascertain whether a romantic relationship is possible. Is a woman obliged to warn every man who is friendly towards her that she is only interested in platonic friendship? A woman may wish to know more about you within the limitations of being a friend/acquaintance first, she may wish to see what you are like as a person. In addition, why should she have to make that decision within a short space of time? We all know of people who have developed a romance after having known one another as friends for some time - romance just blossoms; it's called falling in love.
Who needs women? too many seem to enjoy hurting others.
@@edelgyn2699 Who needs women? too many seem to enjoy hurting others.
There's just so much BS on men and women, it feels soothing to finally hear realistic advice! Thanks for the awesome content!
I pride myself in knowing in a couple minuites if a woman is interested in me or not. It's a crime to waste time on women who are not interested in you.
The key to this whole thing fellas, flirt with a whole bunch of women. Reserve your energy for ones who give the best responses.
or not flirt with a whole bunch so they can get a fucking break lol. one thing ive learned with my 40 years is that a woman will let you know if she likes you. ive also had a great life so i know its hard for guys who havent had the experiences that I have to actually chill. I wasn't always chill either hahaha
@@lowlowseesee "Not flirt with a whole bunch so they can get a break." Explain yourself please. That didn't make any sense to me.
It's called playing the numbers my dude. No 1 woman should ever get that much attention. Especially if she's not reciprocating interest.
@@lowlowseesee Also! I don't know about you but I've found that waiting for them to approach is also bull shyt. I've gotten better results being a pursuer of women. So you can miss me with that.
@@lowlowseesee By the way, are you even a dude or a chic troll?
@@christopherduffy1703 ... flirting with a bunch of women is one way, but it may not be the best way.
A true player, or a man that has a good dating system, will make women purse him. Some women want a man that is elite, or unique. If you are always up on her grinning and barking, then you are just another thirsty dude that is trying to get under her dress.
And in her mind, this will not make you unique, or special.
A quality woman wants to be with a quality man, and not just another thirsty dude.
Another thing is that if a woman is not interested in you, she will treat you the same way she treats other guys in front of you. She will be nice to you alright but u won't feel "special". Boys br3 o.
Yh I've been there many times which is why I don't bother anymore I just keep myself to myself now
You also speak the truth.
Some sef will flirt and all but not interested
as a man you have to face rejections and still walk up with pride
That be the vibe bro...... Life must move on...... The grind and hustle is real
It's cool long as it's not a constant rejection 😁
@@davante1286 That's been my experience. It's seriously screwing up my mental health 😓
@@howboutdat4053 stop approaching women. get money & flex & let them come to you.
@@thebotfather9508 Lmao I got the money and I'm very ambitious. Though flexing isn't really my thing. I don't want to deal with golddiggers.
Smart and clever lady.
I see the logic in your words. I've had a similar encounter before, and your video has only confirmed what my intuition had been saying.
Beautiful video. Appreciate you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
This video is highly recommended for men who don't have time to waste .... it just saved their asses!!!
Sometimes the guys know, but I wonder what they are still waiting for? Great job Jessica 👏❤️
Sometimes just waiting for God's intervention. It's works with some,fails with some.
😝😝😝😝😝😝
We wait because we feel we got to give it time .. 🤷🏿♂️
@@emmanuelgyamfi6320 nice
@@evadora3606 🙏
Damn the last point hit HARD!!😭😭
This is exactly why I downgraded women on my priority list and life has only improved. 1. God, 2. My goals/vision/purpose, 3. My Health, 4. My family, 5. My life long friends, 6. My Community, 7. Women. Life is short and my time is valuable to myself and others. Plus the first 5 on this list always bring value to my life. Love my sisters but I can no longer be distracted by time wasters.
😂😂😂😂true
Well said big man...I love that spirit
Truth! I am adopting this!
big hutch i love the list but i would put 1.Consent as number one. not your fake ass skydaddy hahahaah. carry on dont @ me with fairy tale arguments either. i care much more about womens safety than your allegiance to whatever god you worship. one of them is actually a real thing lol
@@lowlowseesee well you better hope he’s not real because if he is your screwed my friend. Wouldn’t you rather believe in something even if just for comfort, on your off chance that he is real you’d be doing yourself a disservice not believing in at least something you can’t be right if you don’t try.
She's not just being nice, she's actually trying to get your attention without having to reciprocate. They adore that, getting men's attention knowing they won't do anything with them.
💔 Been there man. Some wisdom that has been far too painful, almost a pyrrhic victory, though it makes us stronger.
I’m very uncomfortable being friends with women because of this. Simply being friends makes me feel like less of a man because of how many time I’ve been the attention giver with nothing in return.
@@jaylenwilliams8271literally get that. It’s like wanna be friends at least or just want get to know u as a person but u ain’t even giving me the time and always busy when I ask to hang out. This girl, haven’t heard my name from her mouth b4, so I blocked her. Move on brothers I know it’s hard but in reality it ain’t
Usqubot. Bingo. Enough said.
Any girl who likes you will create time for you coz girls have this super power of running many things at the same time. She can cook,do her chores and even wash at the same time. If she keeps telling you she's busy or making excuses,focus on yourself Bro💀
Thank you for the video😊🙏
This is so true and straight forward💯There's no time to waste men!!
Jess, thumbs up to you👍 there s never a dull moment with you, right here😍😍❤❤
Awesome advice Jess✊✊
This is sensational . Love it all . A lady was like that in my life I kick her out from my life . She doesn't Express herself whenever I am around with her. Me why she expresses herself with her friends and other people. I realized that she like someone else not me. She just uses me as a stand by., so she was just been nice to me .
You were a placeholder until something better came along.
She’s speaking so much sense and facts I’m glad Ive been able to learn a lot and wiling to learn more thank you Jessica
A tonne of waffle to garner views.
You are my Coach, Jessie.I really love,appreciate and respect you for exposing women's subtle negative attitudes and reactions in a relationship. On this subject matter, you just provided an answer to a current issue in a new relationship I am.I have even get everything set: bought her goodies for her birthday which is today, etc but she's just all what you have been saying. Thanks Jessie...you are MY COACH.
The truth from a woman's perspective,this is one of the reasons I subscribe to Jessica's channel...I have no time to waste and a little knowledge goes a long way. Thanks for your time and help.
I broke up with my 'supposedly' girl friend not very long after watching this videos. Its like it was recorded for my cause you describe my ex's behavior the last 4 weeks. Thanks
I love the background for your videos, the warm gradient lighting scheme is almost boarder line therapeutic.😁
Glad you like them! thanks for the feedback
What can I say, you so on point! Life lesson, they will definitely find time if they are into you...
48...single and loving it! Thanks for this, confirming what I thought....
This message is very apt.
You're very correct, me I have experienced all the points 👉 you have raised
Thanks Jessica we need more women like you that walk us through all the red flags that woman's put us through
I knew about all this a long ago, I don’t delay to move on when ever a woman start behaving like that to me, but really happy with more highlighting us u re a great lady
You have saved the gentlemen out there. This is gold!
All your points are correct, her actions are the true message.
I just don't understand why men invest so much of their time, energy and money with women who are not interested in them.
EGO i guess lol
maybe because they still have feelings even though they know it’s impossible
@@xxxj4s279 They need to be very much aware of feelings that end up digging holes in their pockets. One must always consider the costs.
Lust
Scarcity mindset. Knock it off, Kings.
You're so right. I have one of these when I was younger, but that had a lot to do with my game around a woman I like. Over the years, and meeting up with women it all changed. But what you've said is the hard truth. Now I can smell these red flags a mile away, and put an end to it early.
You can listen to advice and notice "signs " all day. It takes experience, lots of it. The guys who normally get most of their targets (lack of a better word) just move on to the next, without ever noticing friend zone or just being nice chicks. It's not until they slow down and pursue a hard target , they then realize some women are just not into you like that.....until they get old🤣🤣🤣🤣
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or only want you when they a single mom
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She just saved a lotta guys alotta time frfr
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Not really! Love is blind, your girl keep doing that and you keep pursuing her. As the unexplained rule applies: We always run after those who don't want us and we never turn attention to those who wanna give us the World!
Thanks for the video, spared me alot of heartache
Great to see you again Jessica. Truly a BLESSING .
This is actually a very good video and it could go both ways! I've had women who I felt were JUST friends and they read to much into it. There are people who are just naturally friendly and what I call social butterfilies. It's easy to misunderstand that being NICE is a come on!
I liked this...
None of them broke me down. I have really passed through a lot with different kinds of ladies. I must say relationship is very difficult and painful like hell fire if you're with the fake person.😁😁😁
I feel you bruh...It's really painful when you with the fake person
Don't be too needy the right person comes by herself.
@@davidndahura7437 true
Eyebrows on fleek..me likey 😍..do one for the ladies as well sissy..how does one know a guy isn't interested/wants to be just friends
That last one i never thought of but 100% facts
Nice tips jess. Things can be very confusing with some ladies though, but everything you've said is absolutely spot on❤❤❤
Jessica you're God's sent,am in this particular situation,I had questions and now I have answer's,thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
You are really a eye opener to my guys out there who are not into womanizing!
But even before Jessica said thia, I always tell guys that once you're important the person that cares will make time for you.
Nobody is too busy. Trust me if a girl tells u crab just move out.
Trust me no one is too busy. The Same busy person is replying someone I'm coming over. So shine your eyes
So true.
So true my most recent ex used to tell me she's busy but I got fake account n sent her a message,she replied me and even gave me a day for the date n yet I was a stranger to her ,fact is it's easy to read red flags from women and save yo self slot of time
Thanks, this was helpful for me. I'm such a horn dog I always go for it but it always hurts my feelings when rejected. Lots of people become bitter, but not me, always improve.
Great video I already knew most of these but u taught me a few things thanks
I don’t know how this rolled up on my feed .... but this was freaking awesome .. and soooo very true 😀
It's really refreshing and insightful listening to her. Good stuff!👌🏾
if you see that a woman is not interested you should gracefully walk away. That will show her that you're a man with self respect. However, you should always learn something from the interaction because women usually don't reject you as a person...they reject what you presented to her at that moment. Which means if you change a few things about yourself as well as how you approach her, you're likely to get a different result. So keep learning and keep on getting better.
This just goes to show you that some women can pretend to be interested in you, when really their just wasting your time being nice
They are very good actors.
@@davante1286 Alot of them are actors and dudes are giving them homes, cars, like fools.
Men don't get asked out nearly as many times as women.
I myself try to be cool about rejecting what few women that have asked me out that i was not interested in. I wish I could just say I wasn't interested out the gate but not as easy when you are on the spot. Trust me. People can be sensitive to how you may react to the rejection.
Facts.
Time wasters
I watch her videos everyday but wasn't even subscribed, silly me. Love the content, very helpful.
Thank you!
You talk gently and calmly. I love that. 🥰🥰🥰
I started watching your videos today but I feel like I've known you for so long. You're of so much help and your videos are an eye-opener to who women really are cause men don't really understand women at times. Thank you for your efforts.
Awww!! Thanks
I'm dying inside right now because I've made every mistake on this list with multiple girls 😫
It's all good. That's how you learn.
@@frankiegunnz8066 facts
@@frankiegunnz8066
Same here bro and in the dating game, you have to spend time as a caterpillar before you morph into a butterfly
Cheer up shoota. Its goody
You're not the only one. There was one that always wanted to meet me when I was about to give her something (flower or small gift something like that) and she was always with her friends. She never wanted to go somewhere alone with me offered her numerous times. Always public places. She obviously played with me. Also she never introduced me to her friends.
Some women are just opportunistic... I feel after about 4 rejection hints and the message is not gotten, it's better to just hit the nail on the head. But some won't, they still want to keep you at arm's length.. Probably with the fear that, when he backs away, then the rejection might propel them to start to desire him...
some? 🤔
This video brought value, thank you.
You have done women a big favour through this video. These points apply to men as well..but as a woman I can seriously tell about that physical space part. If a woman is giving signs through her body language that she is moving away or kinda not interested in even little bit of touch, she is not interested.
I’ve been in a situation where one of my female friends started becoming extra flirtatious towards me (which she never had). But when I check her by returning her energy, she backs right back down. Careful, fellas 👌🏾💯
Women play games...always have, always do.
That's why it's important to let them know that you're not interested in having your time wasted.
I really needed this , I just found out yesterday she is not interested in me .
LOL
it is what it is
My condolences
I've watched your videos a few times and thought about your messages. You have helped me understand what my mother and sisters never told me. I have been confused and have suffered when I did not have to.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
You have made a world of difference to me. I do not have all the word to express my gratitude, but you have it!!
🤜🤛✊💛
You have a Mother and Sister and they did not clue you in on a Western Woman’s TRUE nature.?? So sorry to hear that.
All the way from Trinidad and Tobago I really injoy you're videos keep up the gud work
Hello 😂 Jessica it's so true in want you are saying, As I use to do that when I was in my 20S.
Hi Miss Jess, your topics are just dope! I wish you longevity with your channel. Keep up the good work and be blessed!
In fact it is very easy to know when somebody doesn't like us, we male or female know easily. The problem is that we like lying to ourselves and we like challenge, therefore we keep trying and trying with that person who doesn't give a damn to us.
That number 6 broke my heart 😩
😭😭😭
Xame ere bruv😥😭😭
Facts jess...i live with PURPOSE the right girl will come at the right time
I liked the last 3 minutes. The inner circle thing I never thought much about, but it's very important.