I was so lucky to have a next door neighbor elderly woman when I was a child. Being in a very punitive and invalidating family, I was attracted to visiting this neighbor who treated me kindly. To this day, at age 72, I remember her asking me such questions as, "What do you think about this?" or, "Why can't you?" or, "What's holding you back?" or, "How OLD are you now? Old enough maybe to decide for yourself?" Without her in my life ( I believe GOD put her next door!) I wouldn't be the person I am today, which is pretty strong, I think, with autonomy, but also, compassion and kindness. I love your video!
Thank you! I love the story of your kind and caring neighbour and that you shared it here. You never know who will be encouraged by your comments. What a blessing she was to you and what an inspiration to us all.❣🙏🥰
Our mind/ego always wants to be "right." Yet, as you say., being in resistance upsets us and robs our energy. I find myself choosing to keep my sense of peace and harmony instead. There's no point in arguing with our circumstances. Anger and frustration are lower frequency.
Thankyou Aliki😊 Thankyou for your video. Again, we share commonalities in knowledge and experience, I feel. I wanted to share my experiences here. Yes, all of the mental preoccupation with things like fear, worry, lack takes out our energy. And those things can and do often become our identity if they are not released. Yes, the ego is what we painfully believe about ourselves. The ego is often discussed as originally forming in childhood. I do guess that the ego can be created later in life too. And without releasing our childhood trauma (which is maybe sililar to ego?) from our nervous system or understanding what influenced it to form, (and that influence being what continues to drive our thoughts/painful beliefs into adulthood), we can be controlled by it our whole life. Yes, being conscious as you've said of feelings or how you feel is one important daily practice. Can I ad, if I'm misunderstanding you, to be conscious and to sit with sensations in the body until they dissolve is important for releasing resistance and pain , or trauma. I know that all three are not the same thing, but it seems to me that these hold similarities. I know it's true to say that childhood trauma can control people their whole life unless it is released. And it has to be released from the nervous system to heal it. (And it can lead to chronic illness if not released). In my own healing, Somatic Experiencing for my nervous system was my first practice, and that allowed me then to open my mind and to become more conscious of myself. It was almost impossible before. And it has only been very recently that I have been able to connect my childhood relationship with my father to the pain and self beliefs that have constantly controlled one important part of my life throughout my whole life. In gratitude😊
Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences, Leslie. 🙏The third book I mention in this video: ua-cam.com/video/2JwPcXvyT7M/v-deo.htmlsi=n20vUXhe6wKgL6BJ - Practising the Power of Now, describes the connection between what we call the ego, pain and trauma. I think you'll find the section called "Pain Body" helpful. Quite often the mind trips us up by wanting to figure things out and understand things intellectually. This is why I personally don't go into too much detail about the things that you mention. I know there are many valuable authorities who do (Dr. Gabor Mate is one that springs to mind) and they are giving their gift to the world and fulfilling their calling by speaking message of empowerment in their unique way. However, from my personal experience of working with people with complex emotional needs, I have found that those who are strongly identified with their story of the past and who keep validating it by a desire to understand or overcome what happened, are the ones who suffer the most. I also know (from people like Dr. Bill Pettit and Dr. Dickent Bettinger) that there are those who were able to have an insight and see the connection between their thoughts and present reality, and they were able to experience a full recovery. ❤
@AlikiReddy Are we saying the same things? I think almost.😉 Realizing what happened to us in the past can be a catalyst of letting go and healing and expanding. Sometimes we need to know to move on. Choosing vuctimhood will keep us from that. "When trauma is released from the body our mind opens up." ..."Trauma can stop our thoughts from forming and stop our ability to think" This is what I experienced. You've made think and you've challenged me. Thankyou.
Thank you, so beautiful 😻
I appreciate you watching and commenting. 💕🙏🏻💕
Thank you for reminding me!!
It’s my absolute pleasure, Klaus! ♥️🙏🏻🥰
Much needed and beautiful.
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Thank you so much...i needed this❤
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I was so lucky to have a next door neighbor elderly woman when I was a child. Being in a very punitive and invalidating family, I was attracted to visiting this neighbor who treated me kindly. To this day, at age 72, I remember her asking me such questions as, "What do you think about this?" or, "Why can't you?" or, "What's holding you back?" or, "How OLD are you now? Old enough maybe to decide for yourself?" Without her in my life ( I believe GOD put her next door!) I wouldn't be the person I am today, which is pretty strong, I think, with autonomy, but also, compassion and kindness. I love your video!
Thank you! I love the story of your kind and caring neighbour and that you shared it here. You never know who will be encouraged by your comments. What a blessing she was to you and what an inspiration to us all.❣🙏🥰
Our mind/ego always wants to be "right." Yet, as you say., being in resistance upsets us and robs our energy. I find myself choosing to keep my sense of peace and harmony instead. There's no point in arguing with our circumstances. Anger and frustration are lower frequency.
Sounds like you’re making some wise and wonderful choices! ♥️🙏🏻😘
i have journey to explore my self video like this will help me on my journey
@@katagilakatagils4127 I certainly hope it does! Thank you for letting me know you found it helpful. ♥️🙏🏻🥰
Thankyou Aliki😊
Thankyou for your video. Again, we share commonalities in knowledge and experience, I feel.
I wanted to share my experiences here.
Yes, all of the mental preoccupation with things like fear, worry, lack takes out our energy. And those things can and do often become our identity if they are not released.
Yes, the ego is what we painfully believe about ourselves. The ego is often discussed as originally forming in childhood. I do guess that the ego can be created later in life too. And without releasing our childhood trauma (which is maybe sililar to ego?) from our nervous system or understanding what influenced it to form, (and that influence being what continues to drive our thoughts/painful beliefs into adulthood), we can be controlled by it our whole life.
Yes, being conscious as you've said of feelings or how you feel is one important daily practice. Can I ad, if I'm misunderstanding you, to be conscious and to sit with sensations in the body until they dissolve is important for releasing resistance and pain , or trauma. I know that all three are not the same thing, but it seems to me that these hold similarities. I know it's true to say that childhood trauma can control people their whole life unless it is released. And it has to be released from the nervous system to heal it. (And it can lead to chronic illness if not released).
In my own healing, Somatic Experiencing for my nervous system was my first practice, and that allowed me then to open my mind and to become more conscious of myself. It was almost impossible before. And it has only been very recently that I have been able to connect my childhood relationship with my father to the pain and self beliefs that have constantly controlled one important part of my life throughout my whole life.
In gratitude😊
Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences, Leslie. 🙏The third book I mention in this video: ua-cam.com/video/2JwPcXvyT7M/v-deo.htmlsi=n20vUXhe6wKgL6BJ - Practising the Power of Now, describes the connection between what we call the ego, pain and trauma. I think you'll find the section called "Pain Body" helpful.
Quite often the mind trips us up by wanting to figure things out and understand things intellectually. This is why I personally don't go into too much detail about the things that you mention. I know there are many valuable authorities who do (Dr. Gabor Mate is one that springs to mind) and they are giving their gift to the world and fulfilling their calling by speaking message of empowerment in their unique way.
However, from my personal experience of working with people with complex emotional needs, I have found that those who are strongly identified with their story of the past and who keep validating it by a desire to understand or overcome what happened, are the ones who suffer the most. I also know (from people like Dr. Bill Pettit and Dr. Dickent Bettinger) that there are those who were able to have an insight and see the connection between their thoughts and present reality, and they were able to experience a full recovery. ❤
@AlikiReddy Are we saying the same things? I think almost.😉 Realizing what happened to us in the past can be a catalyst of letting go and healing and expanding. Sometimes we need to know to move on. Choosing vuctimhood will keep us from that. "When trauma is released from the body our mind opens up." ..."Trauma can stop our thoughts from forming and stop our ability to think" This is what I experienced.
You've made think and you've challenged me. Thankyou.