I've been decluttering having too much junk takes over your mind you have to worry about securing those items and paying for storage to protect those items. We are now moving in a direction of having less and finding ways to share what we have with others.
Long story short I was I ocd cleaning not a hoarder ever my mom tragically young healthy passed in my home 9.11.17 n sje was a hoarder I am still trying to let it all go then become a minimal myself n its so hard physically n mentally
Hello Connie. I've been downsizing for about 10 months. I'm 65 yrs old. I live in a 1 bdrm house. It's been emotionally difficult, especially in the beginning. I'm happy to say it's a lot easier. I told myself "I've enjoyed these things, now someone else can" I decided to give away my stuff. My goal is for my sons to be able to clean out my house in one load, in case I move to nursing home or leave this world 🙌🏼 I enjoyed your video. Thank you bunches 🤗
Thank you for your honesty and saying it gets easier. I'm 60 and downsizing from a 2 bedroom apt to a 1 bedroom. I don't want my son to have to deal with "my junk" if anything happens to me. 💕
Yay us 🤗 Today I got a burst of energy but not moving around fast just started cleaning out my pantry that spilled into parts of my kitchen. When I get off work I'll work on it some more.
I am in the same position. I live in a one bedroom apartment, am almost 64, and want it to be easier for the person who may clean out my place. Also, it will be easier for me if I have to move again.
I’m thinking the same way cleaning and clearing out because no one is promised tomorrow and I don’t want to leave a sea of clutter for my family to be tortured raiding it up and dealing with it plus I’ve feel I’ve been trapped in a bad place all my life with clutter im begging to feel free and im looking forward to the day I can’t count myself a true minimalist thank you connie
I'm having to downsize from a 2 bedroom apartment to a 1 bedroom. I'm 60 and the cost of living has just gotten too high for me to stay in my beautiful 2 bedroom apt. I'm really having a hard time "letting go." Thank you for doing this video. Tomorrow I'm going to start with the bathroom because I'm not emotionally attached with the items in there. One box at a time. 💕
Lying in a bed at MD Anderson Cancer Center (❤ bless them!! ❤), I had a chance to think about things. My piano and my books, especially. I realized none of them are that important. I'm going to leave this body and not even my beautiful, beloved piano goes with me. It was very liberating. We need very few things. Truly. All that really matters is our relationships.
Good for you to focusing on your ketogenic diet…you are right..generally cancer cells love glucose and cannot process ketones…best of luck going forward.
I discovered while decluttering that I did not even know how much of each thing I actually owned. I gave away two irons as I no longer iron my clothes only to open a different cupboard the next day and yes you guessed it there was another iron. I made myself give that iron away as well although I struggled with that, even though I don't iron. I cannot understand my own need to keep things 'just in case.''
I really like your question ‘Does this add value?’ I’ve always been puzzled by the Marie Kondo ‘spark joy’ approach. I have many things I need and use on a daily basis that don’t exactly spark joy, such as my spatula or hair dryer. 😄 Questioning if it’s adding value is a much better question.
I have a Dyson hairdryer. (I know they are pricey, it was a reward to myself for sticking out a work contract I hated) It absolutely sparks joy and I love every time I use it. It also reminds me of the time I did a hard thing and saw it through to the end.
If people don't feel joy about "boring" stuff like a iron or hairdryer, I think it's bc. they lack a bit of appreciation and gratefulness for those useful things.. If you once had no hairdryer or iron or washing mashine or whatever Marie comes from another culture, where being thankful is a quite natural & given habit/attitude. That's why she "greets" and thanks the house and thanks and passes the decluttered stuff.. It's more "eastern" in general, I think. In many western cultures (US, Europe etc.) we lost the modesty & humility in simple things. Everything has to be bigger, better, the best, joy instead of just reasonable and fun instead of joy.. The dopaminergic system is leached out. We lack the joy for the little things..
I have kept my great grandmothers coffee grinder (one of the few items left from when they emigrated to Australia from the Netherlands) and we still use it everyday :)
Enjoy Ms. Riet's approach to decluttering. Here's a tip I use: when I am struggling to justify getting rid of something, I tell myself that if I donate it, it might go to someone who would really enjoy and/or need it more than I do.
Best video ever...soft calm voice....not yelling at me....no crazy background music/noise...content makes sense and is very helpful. I could listen to this type of voice all day talking about anything.
Great advice love how calming your voice is too 😊 Theoretically if clutter attracts clutter and stuff atracts more stuff than why regret donating when ultimately it leads to less and less stuff and less money spent. Its a win, win to declutter. My experience is the less i own, the less i want to buy and the more mindful i become.
Thank you so much Connie. Just what I needed to hear. What REALLY helps me to pass some of my things along, that I actually still like, but honestly no longer use is to find the right place to donate them so they will be honored there. A local organization for woman and men (boys and girls) being trafficked in my area get my clothes, shoes and other items. I want them to have nice things not worn out hand me downs. I am so much more able to give things away when I know they will have a new purpose AND hopefully bring some joy to someone instead is just sitting around my house.
I really enjoyed your video. I never even considered being a minimalist until recently. My family, my mother, and my adult children are all moving out of state together. It has been extremely difficult and expensive taking trips across country and back. Last month I had to drive five hours away just to rent a 24ft cargo trailer. They’re hard to find in California with so many people leaving. By the time I had returned the trailer it had cost $6,000 including fuel. I seriously question whether the contents were even worth half that much? I easily had another trailer full to go. I started sticking things out in front of my house and watched them disappear. I felt a relief when they were gone. These were things I no longer have to move. There are things that are irreplaceable and sentimental that I will keep but this has certainly changed the way I think and feel about all the stuff I thought I needed to hold onto.
My experience is, initially it feels hard and emotional and the consciousness of your attachment to material things becomes revealed. In the long run, you adjust and let go and don't miss anything, particularly when you realize how much lighter your material load has become.
When deciding to eliminate an item, I tell myself it is going to a person who will use and appreciate it. It helps! Also, I view St. Vincent's Thrift shop as my closet: I send clothes there that I am not wearing. If I need that item again, I go to my "closet" and find it again. Of course, that rarely happens.
I've been enjoying all your videos. I have already adopted a minimalist life style but it helps to see and hear other people doing it as well. You've become part of my "tribe".
Connie, I just found your channel. I love your sweet kind voice and your method of thinking about decluttering. I am 72 and I really need to declutter.I have been on this journey since I retired but am at a stall and had hit the wall with taking care of my house and because I was helping my brother and sister. With the break in the weather I am hoping for renewed energy with going through my clothes again. I have lost 60 lbs with in the last two and a half years and have donated the clothes I can fit to our animal shelter store. I must go look for some smaller tops for summer. I can’t afford to buy new tops. I have jeans I bought at a thrift store and love them. Thank you for this inspiration. I am now subscribed to your channel.
This weekend I went through my wall of totes that held baby and kids clothes. I got rid of at least 10 bags of clothes. while decluttering I found myself feeling so sad. I would pick up a piece of clothing and start crying. I wasn't sure why but I let myself feel it. I processed my emotions as they came. I saved one piece of clothing for each kid that I'm going to keep in my keepsake then that gives me the warm fuzzies when I hold them. I kept one bin of gender-neutral baby/toddler clothes for future babies and one bin for each child for hand me downs. It took me three pass throughs to accomplish this but I'm so proud of myself it's been a problem area for years
We've been working on gradually downsizing for the last few years. We try to stay with it, but not get consumed. We go through an area (ie., a closet, the shed, or some bins) about every few weeks. We keep a list of people & places items can be donated to, & box things with a note as to where they will be going. When there is a relative, friend, or neighbor I know personally who wants an item, it's easier for me to let the item(s) go. We still give items to charities like New Horizons, ARC & Goodwill as well.
thanks for this Connie. I'm having so much trouble decluttering, and this is helpful. This is partly because I still have a lot of my parent's things, after they passed some years ago, and I find it difficult to discard them or give them away. And also, with my own stuff, its the 'I might need it sometime' mentality that gets me. So, if I dont need it in my current life, I'm going to move it on. And I know my parents would hate me to clutter my life with their things that I don't use or need.
I'm not a minimalist nor do I want to be. But I do believe in letting things go that cause clutter and very much enjoy being as organized as possible. I don't want to be a shopaholic. So your videos are extremely helpful. Thank you!
Thank you for uploading this informative video. Personally over the last 12 months I’ve done my decluttering in several waves, interestingly I have donated a massive amount of stuff none of it was needed. That said since my wife died of cancer last year I just can’t part with any of her stuff, not even her tooth brush 😢
Bless you! It can be so hard. I was only able to part with my sweet Mama's things a little at a time over two or three years. I had to wait until I felt "ready" and could let go of them. Then after a couple of months, I would clear out a bit more. Do it when YOU feel ready. Grief is a hard journey, give yourself some permission to move on at your own pace. Sending good thoughts your way.
You might make a memory locker of your wife's things. My husband died several years ago. I have his military duffel bag that I keep some of his things.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Honor your feelings and your wives memories. Take things at your own pace, allowing yourself space to grieve. Sending you love & light
I think letting go is usually the hardest thing to do.. even just in life in general.. but you have to let go of that mentality. I usually freak out n feel like am going to need something later.. but if I haven't used it in over a year then it serves no purpose, just takes up space, that's the hardest thing to accept but I don't think about the things I've gotten rid on in the past, I hardly remember what I even got rid of i just know it's stuff. Feels freeing
just now finding your channel, and absolutely love it ! I shop at a local thrift store and find the greatest things at very affordable prices. I have a feeling of accomplishment and contentment that I found an item that I had been wanting, but did not want to pay full price, and now I have it for a minimal investment ( books are usually $1, shoes are $2, so you get the picture, stuff is really cheap). So when I want to clean out my closet, kitchen cubbards, or toy boxes, I remind myself that someone else will get this joyful feeling when they pick up the item that I am donating (all money stays within our county to help low income folks with health care) and someone else will really need and love and use this item in their home, for minimal investment. Win Win. Now, this process doesn't always work for me to declutter and donate, but I just reminded today that the things I am not using are something that another person can use, and will be so excited to find it and take it home, give it a good washing or cleaning, and get use of it. I appreciate the folks that have the courage to donate really nice things, so that I can buy them for minimal investment. Things I would otherwise not have. Hope this helps someone that is on the fence. If you ever wonder what happens to your donated items, just go into a local thrift store that benefits a non-profit in your town, and find an item that is dirt cheap and you wanted anyway. You'll get the good feeling that I'm talking about.
Wow, this is great video. I’ve watched a lot of organizing videos and one thing I heard you say here really is powerful, and something I don’t remember ever hearing before. “Would I buy it again?” I have the hardest time, no matter what I paid for something, getting rid of things I have shame about buying. I feel bad that I spent money on certain things. Asking myself this question, will really help me go back through the stuff I have and getting rid of these objects that make feel feel shame about spending money on. Thank you. Excess things have energy in them and I’m ready to be free from that. And I’m ready to really think before. Purchase anything new. 💗
I'm so happy to hear that this video resonated with you! It's not fun being stuck in the place of guilt and buyers remorse. Remember that none of us are perfect and we are allowed to make mistakes on purchases or anything else. All we can do is our best at that moment.
This resonates with me too. "Would I buy it again?" is a great question that can help us move beyond the inertia and yes, guilt, of letting go of things we may regret buying in the first place.
I am stocking my kitchen with more food. I got rid of kitchen things that I haven't used or never used. I freed up so much room. Some hurt my heart others not. I kept a few. I know there is someone who really can use it.
"Honor where you are at." Thank you for that permission to be kind to myself! We are moving to Florida in June and I spent all day sorting kitchenwares. But I was so tough on myself, "I should donate more of these! Will I really have a nice dinner party in our new house? These fancy gadgets are expensive, how can you get rid of them?" I need to focus on what steps I did take and I always have the ability to purge and declutter again! It is not an all or nothing process! Thank you ❤️🙏
Connie, this is the first video of yours I have seen. I have SUBSCRIBED.! 😊. You have got the most calming voice of any video on any topic I have watched.! Keep up the good work and great, sound advice. It is going to help me, I know. GOD BLESS
I must confess I have too many mugs and plates and no longer need the books and CDs.... but too busy to declutter. I started about 4 years ago. At least I am buying very few items
@@ALinn-vr3nl Day 1: remove one item no matter how big or small Day 2: remove two items.... not just to another room....completely out of the house. Day 3: three things out Day 4: four things out Add em up..400+ things gone. Over 30 days is a LOT of things totally out of your life. Then do it again. I'm on Round Two Day 26 and hardly miss even the big things. I write them down so I remember what left. Round 2 has taken 4 months so far but who cares.
Aloha, I just found your Channel. I am a minimalist and still over a period of time start noticing Mr. Clutter trying to sneak in. It is a constant battle - “Me vs. Stuff.” The only way I can win is to over and over and over keeping an eye out for things not being put back in their designated home and when I bring in a new item at least 1 or 2 items need to go. Life is so much more enjoyable when it’s easy to keep everything neat,clean and orderly. It also gives me more time to just relax and enjoy a lovely home. I also agree with many of the comments about your calm, clear voice and unrushed speaking. It’s so easy to understandwhat you are saying❣️
Love your videos Connie! The comment about spending money and not using something hit home, I recently spent 💰on some makeup that I finally decided I wasn’t going to try any longer to make it work it’s gone into my donation pile - luckily there are places that take this stuff, I’m cutting my losses and moving on and no longer kicking myself for not returning it. Thanks for the inspiration 🙏🏼
I'm so happy I came across your channel. Your so positive and uplifting. You remind me of the beautiful princess Diana. 💜 I love your mindful decluttering tips. Thankyou. :)
I am learning that minimalism is a process not a destination. And that i re downsize each space every few months. Gets easier each time to let things go.
I've been at it for several years and am almost finished. When it got too hard and/or emotional I would take a break, sometimes for months, and begin again. I bet I've gone through some boxes 3 or 4 times until I was able to release the items that only mean something to me and nobody else will want. Plug along at your own pace. It gets easier as you go.
I just found you Friday night and so thankful that I did..number one your voice is so calming and I look for that daily especially these past 31/2 months..my husband almost left this world four times since February..he is finally home and slowly doing better each and every day..he retired last July and I have been wanting to size down the past two years..I now know after my husband has been home from months spent in the hospital that his handicaps has certainly opened my eyes that not only do I want to downsize, I must…it’s been a challenge just getting through our home..I have always had the mindset that more was cozier NOT anymore..I’m at that stage of my life that it’s really getting on my nerves so thank you for opening my eyes to the idea I’ve had rolling around in my head for two years.. I know I am ready..this is a little off key to this comment BUT I absolutely LOVE LOVE your hair..do you have any videos how you style it? I’m tired of coloring my hair too..thanks again and I am binge watching your channel inbetween my husband naps and at night I am especially watching as many as I can.. Happy Wknd💐
@Happy Homemaker I am so sorry to read that your husband was in the hospital and had severe medical issues...thank goodness he is doing better. I have been decluttering since mid-January and it continues to be challenging because I, unfortunately, was raised in the home of a hoarder, my mother, who taught me the "save everything" mindset quite frankly. Therefore, I have been doing my best to reverse years of that detrimental thinking. Wishing you the best from NY😊
I de-cluttering every spring time ,giving up things .I no longer need or want. If someone gives me something .I don't really need i just drop ,it off at the thrift store.
I have seen a lot of people with nothing who are happy, I have learned that things are just things. I had to downsize from a 6 bedroom to a 2 bedroom, I was able to bless so much people and felt great about doing it
When I was decluttering, I made photos of all my stuff. Then I could make an album of why those things were special or important. Looking at some now, I don’t even remember the or remember the event. Lol.
I appreciate her providing some psychological analysis to this process...I have found that moving potential donations to another room for a period of time helps me to see if I really need to keep it or pass it on
I am on this journey now for some 20 years. It creates a lot of space indeed. I hear from others that they find it very satisfying to declutter, empty their attic, garage etc. It gives peace of mind and and a satisfying feeling.
I started overwhelmed but I am better as I'm breaking it into smaller tasks to clean. I'm a working momma and we have a small space. I could still use some help just deciding what else I don't need. It's nice having you guys for support.
Great to see your video. I too love to keep it simple while increasing the value. Lifes beautifully simple and we just sometimes have to much going on to see it 🙏💚
Decided to tidy my shoeracks. Shoerack upstairs for the formal, occasional footwear. Shoerack downstairs for daily footwear. Realized I have more than enough!
I also love keeping a few useful items from past generations. In my case, it's mechanical clocks. They are a responsibility because they require weekly winding and a professional cleaning of the works every few years, but the sound of the chimes takes me back to my childhood.
Thank you for a very informative video!!! I have been practicing a minimalistic lifestyle since before the pandemic. I live with less and I am completely content with have less things I have not really needed for a long time prior to starting the process. Thank you.
Great video. I think what helps me is to have a pick up scheduled from charity. Especially quarterly. I had a hard time letting go of a few things. But knowing that charity was coming, I just added it to the pile. It just made it easier to let go.
Thank you I am trying to de clutter ,I move boxes around only … I am emotionally attached to stuff… this channel I just found of you will help me ! Thanks I Subscribed
When it comes down to it, “most of what’s on offer in shops is just stuff” How much stuff or How many material items does a person really need? A key question for me while decluttering was, “If I let this go, will I need to purchase another one?” Another key question “Does this item bring value or joy to my life?” Great tips! I’m grateful for finding your channel.
I'm getting better at declutter things I have bought, but I still struggle with selling or giving away things that were gifts, especially very expensive things. I end up using the gifts moreso because they are expensive rather than me liking them. I suppose I have to have conversations with the people giving me gifts and be more specific on what they can give me that would bring value into my home. Still, the items I currently have are bringing me stress when it comes time to declutter or straighten up.
“Create the unique lifestyle that is only meant for you” (7:27) It’s true, our homes are the launchpad of our lives. They are also unique expressions of ourselves & our loved ones. When we are gone, someone else will come in, disassemble our things, and replace it with theirs. Why not take delight our one-of-a-kind havens, now?! 🙂
What a gift I have been given in coming across your channel, Connie.❤ Your quiet energy and soothing videos are a welcome respite from the rush of my workday. In my future, I’m planning a more intentional, clutter-free environment and this space you’ve kindly created is becoming my go-to source for inspiration and information. With so much gratitude…🙏🕊
Nice. It is a beginning. Trying to do a bit each day. It is a good feeling to say goodbye to things which you might use but never do. This is because Life tugs at you. The mailbox is full of duties/forms, bills and unexpected changes. Then, there is no time to be creative or to even ponder creative expression through using the things you have gathered. Even if you won a Lotto, you would still have duties to keep your boat afloat. Still, create a new atmosphere with space. That is something. My 1st video on this subject. Thanks.
I just found your channel, I'm a new sub. Great tips, I'm going through this journey myself. Thank you, your beautiful smile and sweet spirit shines through the screen!! I love how sincere you are when considering where each person is on this journey!! God bless you and yours! 🙏😊🌹
Thank you - such a calm, reassuring manner. Perfect with this music. "Is it something you would buy today ?" was the phrase I needed. I love to interface with wildlife. I knew a Bill McFarland on Long Island, NY. ~Bob
Hi! I really like your videos. I am not a minimalist but decluter a few times a year. 2 weeks ago I said "grandson is 6, it's time to get rid of the baby things" so I did. The very next week my Son announced their having a baby next May 2023. Well I'll be buying baby things again...🤯🤣😊
Just want to add that there are those of us who find exaggeratedly minimalist surroundings very unnerving. We may be in the minority, but having a severely pared down space doesn't automatically mean it's calming.
Thanks, that sparked a desire to take on .. wait for it, the paperwork around here. I actually need a room for it. The weight I have because of too much paperwork. I'm sure I don't need every receipt , or directions for every appliance . Yes this will be fun. Sending love your way.
Connie, I so enjoy your videos & I’m learning. I’m embarking on the simplicity & calmness in my home. I struggle with wall art, too little vs too much. Do you have wall art in the place you live?
I would add, give yourself time to declutter. This is a positive message, bec I have a tendency of being a pack rat. Save things for a rainy day that might be useful in the future.
I've noticed the same thing on minimalist creators. They have a couch but they sit on the floor 🤣🤣🤣 anyways, what a great content, I learned a lot. Looking forward to decluttering! ❤️
Nice video, I’m trying to downsize my things. I inspired my husband to declutter his things, he has a reason to everything! ….I don’t mind his huge huge cat collection of antique figurines plus glassware and antique watches and new watches which is his hobby to restore. I just hope I pass before him because I would be so overwhelmed with his “ stuff” lol
I often feel quilty about the things I bought that I thought I loved at the time and maybe I did but it did not last- clothes - household items - decor items. I love that question would I buy this again. I am getting better at it but I find I get stuck still. Right now I have a number of things that I want to let go but the guilt is keeping me holding on to them. day by day
Great ideas. Thank you. I found that it was easy by thinking that I didn't need to spend my money. I would sleep on it for a couple of days, 99% of the time I would not even remember let alone need it. So I saved money.
Feeling stuck with decluttering or downsizing? I hope these few tips can help you let go of your things.
I've been decluttering having too much junk takes over your mind you have to worry about securing those items and paying for storage to protect those items. We are now moving in a direction of having less and finding ways to share what we have with others.
Thank you so much for your lovely gentle way of giving great advise, you are a joy to listen to as well as beautiful.
Long story short I was I ocd cleaning not a hoarder ever my mom tragically young healthy passed in my home 9.11.17 n sje was a hoarder I am still trying to let it all go then become a minimal myself n its so hard physically n mentally
Hello Connie. I've been downsizing for about 10 months. I'm 65 yrs old. I live in a 1 bdrm house. It's been emotionally difficult, especially in the beginning. I'm happy to say it's a lot easier. I told myself "I've enjoyed these things, now someone else can" I decided to give away my stuff. My goal is for my sons to be able to clean out my house in one load, in case I move to nursing home or leave this world 🙌🏼 I enjoyed your video. Thank you bunches 🤗
I’m going to be doing the same thing. I hope I can do a good job for my son’s sake.
🙏🏻💖🌼
Thank you for your honesty and saying it gets easier. I'm 60 and downsizing from a 2 bedroom apt to a 1 bedroom. I don't want my son to have to deal with "my junk" if anything happens to me. 💕
Yay us 🤗 Today I got a burst of energy but not moving around fast just started cleaning out my pantry that spilled into parts of my kitchen. When I get off work I'll work on it some more.
I am in the same position. I live in a one bedroom apartment, am almost 64, and want it to be easier for the person who may clean out my place. Also, it will be easier for me if I have to move again.
I’m thinking the same way cleaning and clearing out because no one is promised tomorrow and I don’t want to leave a sea of clutter for my family to be tortured raiding it up and dealing with it plus I’ve feel I’ve been trapped in a bad place all my life with clutter im begging to feel free and im looking forward to the day I can’t count myself a true minimalist thank you connie
I love her calm, slower, softer voice. Easy to listen to her. And I LOVE her saying honor where you're at!! This is my new go to channel!
😊 thank you
You said everything that I would say!!thank you
So true
Yes, I wish I spoke like this
I'm having to downsize from a 2 bedroom apartment to a 1 bedroom. I'm 60 and the cost of living has just gotten too high for me to stay in my beautiful 2 bedroom apt. I'm really having a hard time "letting go." Thank you for doing this video. Tomorrow I'm going to start with the bathroom because I'm not emotionally attached with the items in there. One box at a time. 💕
Lying in a bed at MD Anderson Cancer Center (❤ bless them!! ❤), I had a chance to think about things. My piano and my books, especially. I realized none of them are that important. I'm going to leave this body and not even my beautiful, beloved piano goes with me.
It was very liberating. We need very few things. Truly. All that really matters is our relationships.
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Beautifully said. Hoping the best for you 😘.
@Alice Clearman, PhD Best wishes from NY. You are as wise as you are brave in my humble opinion🙏
Good for you to focusing on your ketogenic diet…you are right..generally cancer cells love glucose and cannot process ketones…best of luck going forward.
I discovered while decluttering that I did not even know how much of each thing I actually owned. I gave away two irons as I no longer iron my clothes only to open a different cupboard the next day and yes you guessed it there was another iron. I made myself give that iron away as well although I struggled with that, even though I don't iron. I cannot understand my own need to keep things 'just in case.''
My husband buys multiples. Drives me nuts! With Amazon, we live in the country, we can get another item quickly.....
I really like your question ‘Does this add value?’ I’ve always been puzzled by the Marie Kondo ‘spark joy’ approach. I have many things I need and use on a daily basis that don’t exactly spark joy, such as my spatula or hair dryer. 😄 Questioning if it’s adding value is a much better question.
The same with meeting people - does this add value or bring you down?.
I'm glad this question helps with your decluttering approach.
Does having homemade food make u happy? Or having ur hair look nice? Then those items contribute to sparking joy
I have a Dyson hairdryer. (I know they are pricey, it was a reward to myself for sticking out a work contract I hated) It absolutely sparks joy and I love every time I use it. It also reminds me of the time I did a hard thing and saw it through to the end.
If people don't feel joy about "boring" stuff like a iron or hairdryer, I think it's bc. they lack a bit of appreciation and gratefulness for those useful things..
If you once had no hairdryer or iron or washing mashine or whatever
Marie comes from another culture, where being thankful is a quite natural & given habit/attitude.
That's why she "greets" and thanks the house and thanks and passes the decluttered stuff..
It's more "eastern" in general, I think.
In many western cultures (US, Europe etc.) we lost the modesty & humility in simple things.
Everything has to be bigger, better, the best, joy instead of just reasonable and fun instead of joy..
The dopaminergic system is leached out. We lack the joy for the little things..
I have kept my great grandmothers coffee grinder (one of the few items left from when they emigrated to Australia from the Netherlands) and we still use it everyday :)
that is so sweet
Enjoy Ms. Riet's approach to decluttering. Here's a tip I use: when I am struggling to justify getting rid of something, I tell myself that if I donate it, it might go to someone who would really enjoy and/or need it more than I do.
Beautiful idea! Thanks, Stephen
“Honor where you’re at”…a great way for us to handle life, period. God bless
"Honor where you are at." So calming and freeing.
I ask myself, if I am moving will I take it with me? This is very helpful for me to declutter. Giving to my favorite charity helps too
Best video ever...soft calm voice....not yelling at me....no crazy background music/noise...content makes sense and is very helpful. I could listen to this type of voice all day talking about anything.
Great advice love how calming your voice is too 😊 Theoretically if clutter attracts clutter and stuff atracts more stuff than why regret donating when ultimately it leads to less and less stuff and less money spent. Its a win, win to declutter. My experience is the less i own, the less i want to buy and the more mindful i become.
Thank you so much Connie. Just what I needed to hear. What REALLY helps me to pass some of my things along, that I actually still like, but honestly no longer use is to find the right place to donate them so they will be honored there. A local organization for woman and men (boys and girls) being trafficked in my area get my clothes, shoes and other items. I want them to have nice things not worn out hand me downs. I am so much more able to give things away when I know they will have a new purpose AND hopefully bring some joy to someone instead is just sitting around my house.
Thank you for sharing, Marianna. You have such a beautiful way to donate for the the greater good. I'm thrilled you are part of our mindful community.
Your reply made me So HAPPY. Thank you.
I really enjoyed your video.
I never even considered being a minimalist until recently. My family, my mother, and my adult children are all moving out of state together. It has been extremely difficult and expensive taking trips across country and back. Last month I had to drive five hours away just to rent a 24ft cargo trailer. They’re hard to find in California with so many people leaving. By the time I had returned the trailer it had cost $6,000 including fuel. I seriously question whether the contents were even worth half that much? I easily had another trailer full to go.
I started sticking things out in front of my house and watched them disappear. I felt a relief when they were gone. These were things I no longer have to move. There are things that are irreplaceable and sentimental that I will keep but this has certainly changed the way I think and feel about all the stuff I thought I needed to hold onto.
My experience is, initially it feels hard and emotional and the consciousness of your attachment to material things becomes revealed. In the long run, you adjust and let go and don't miss anything, particularly when you realize how much lighter your material load has become.
I’ve never regretted one thing that I’ve donated……I love that someone else may enjoy those items … less is more …thanks enjoyed the video …
Thanks Kat!
When deciding to eliminate an item, I tell myself it is going to a person who will use and appreciate it. It helps!
Also, I view St. Vincent's Thrift shop as my closet: I send clothes there that I am not wearing. If I need that item again, I go to my "closet" and find it again. Of course, that rarely happens.
Fantastic tips!!! I love the idea of donating items to church or donation center for the those who need it.
I've been enjoying all your videos. I have already adopted a minimalist life style but it helps to see and hear other people doing it as well. You've become part of my "tribe".
I'm thrilled you are part of my tribe too!
Happiness & Peace
Connie, I just found your channel. I love your sweet kind voice and your method of thinking about decluttering. I am 72 and I really need to declutter.I have been on this journey since I retired but am at a stall and had hit the wall with taking care of my house and because I was helping my brother and sister. With the break in the weather I am hoping for renewed energy with going through my clothes again. I have lost 60 lbs with in the last two and a half years and have donated the clothes I can fit to our animal shelter store. I must go look for some smaller tops for summer. I can’t afford to buy new tops. I have jeans I bought at a thrift store and love them. Thank you for this inspiration. I am now subscribed to your channel.
Hi Holly, Thanks for subscribing! After losing 60 lbs I bet you do need a new wardrobe. Thrift stores is a wonderful option.
This weekend I went through my wall of totes that held baby and kids clothes. I got rid of at least 10 bags of clothes.
while decluttering I found myself feeling so sad. I would pick up a piece of clothing and start crying. I wasn't sure why but I let myself feel it. I processed my emotions as they came.
I saved one piece of clothing for each kid that I'm going to keep in my keepsake then that gives me the warm fuzzies when I hold them.
I kept one bin of gender-neutral baby/toddler clothes for future babies and one bin for each child for hand me downs.
It took me three pass throughs to accomplish this but I'm so proud of myself it's been a problem area for years
Thank you for sharing your experience. Decluttering can bring up all kinds of emotions.
We've been working on gradually downsizing for the last few years. We try to stay with it, but not get consumed. We go through an area (ie., a closet, the shed, or some bins) about every few weeks. We keep a list of people & places items can be donated to, & box things with a note as to where they will be going. When there is a relative, friend, or neighbor I know personally who wants an item, it's easier for me to let the item(s) go. We still give items to charities like New Horizons, ARC & Goodwill as well.
thanks for this Connie. I'm having so much trouble decluttering, and this is helpful. This is partly because I still have a lot of my parent's things, after they passed some years ago, and I find it difficult to discard them or give them away. And also, with my own stuff, its the 'I might need it sometime' mentality that gets me. So, if I dont need it in my current life, I'm going to move it on. And I know my parents would hate me to clutter my life with their things that I don't use or need.
I'm not a minimalist nor do I want to be. But I do believe in letting things go that cause clutter and very much enjoy being as organized as possible. I don't want to be a shopaholic. So your videos are extremely helpful. Thank you!
Thank you for uploading this informative video. Personally over the last 12 months I’ve done my decluttering in several waves, interestingly I have donated a massive amount of stuff none of it was needed. That said since my wife died of cancer last year I just can’t part with any of her stuff, not even her tooth brush 😢
Bless you! It can be so hard. I was only able to part with my sweet Mama's things a little at a time over two or three years. I had to wait until I felt "ready" and could let go of them. Then after a couple of months, I would clear out a bit more. Do it when YOU feel ready. Grief is a hard journey, give yourself some permission to move on at your own pace. Sending good thoughts your way.
@@gracedarlenemcpherson9079 thank you for the good advice
You might make a memory locker of your wife's things. My husband died several years ago. I have his military duffel bag that I keep some of his things.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Honor your feelings and your wives memories. Take things at your own pace, allowing yourself space to grieve.
Sending you love & light
Thank you for your kind words and support. I'm sure it is well received.
I think letting go is usually the hardest thing to do.. even just in life in general.. but you have to let go of that mentality. I usually freak out n feel like am going to need something later.. but if I haven't used it in over a year then it serves no purpose, just takes up space, that's the hardest thing to accept but I don't think about the things I've gotten rid on in the past, I hardly remember what I even got rid of i just know it's stuff. Feels freeing
I agree, the mental and emotional side of letting go can be the hardest.
just now finding your channel, and absolutely love it ! I shop at a local thrift store and find the greatest things at very affordable prices. I have a feeling of accomplishment and contentment that I found an item that I had been wanting, but did not want to pay full price, and now I have it for a minimal investment ( books are usually $1, shoes are $2, so you get the picture, stuff is really cheap). So when I want to clean out my closet, kitchen cubbards, or toy boxes, I remind myself that someone else will get this joyful feeling when they pick up the item that I am donating (all money stays within our county to help low income folks with health care) and someone else will really need and love and use this item in their home, for minimal investment. Win Win. Now, this process doesn't always work for me to declutter and donate, but I just reminded today that the things I am not using are something that another person can use, and will be so excited to find it and take it home, give it a good washing or cleaning, and get use of it. I appreciate the folks that have the courage to donate really nice things, so that I can buy them for minimal investment. Things I would otherwise not have. Hope this helps someone that is on the fence. If you ever wonder what happens to your donated items, just go into a local thrift store that benefits a non-profit in your town, and find an item that is dirt cheap and you wanted anyway. You'll get the good feeling that I'm talking about.
I love your point of view on donating and giving our items a new home, plus helping others.
Wow, this is great video. I’ve watched a lot of organizing videos and one thing I heard you say here really is powerful, and something I don’t remember ever hearing before. “Would I buy it again?” I have the hardest time, no matter what I paid for something, getting rid of things I have shame about buying. I feel bad that I spent money on certain things. Asking myself this question, will really help me go back through the stuff I have and getting rid of these objects that make feel feel shame about spending money on. Thank you. Excess things have energy in them and I’m ready to be free from that. And I’m ready to really think before. Purchase anything new. 💗
I'm so happy to hear that this video resonated with you! It's not fun being stuck in the place of guilt and buyers remorse. Remember that none of us are perfect and we are allowed to make mistakes on purchases or anything else. All we can do is our best at that moment.
This resonates with me too. "Would I buy it again?" is a great question that can help us move beyond the inertia and yes, guilt, of letting go of things we may regret buying in the first place.
You have such...a soothing soul!!!🥰🥰🥰🥰
I am stocking my kitchen with more food. I got rid of kitchen things that I haven't used or never used. I freed up so much room. Some hurt my heart others not.
I kept a few. I know there is someone who really can use it.
Agreed with others. Your calm slower but clear communication! Also, appreciate the statement, “honor where you are at”. Kind!
I'm so glad you are part of our mindful community.
I really liked this. Some good points and the great thing about keeping the glass jars is that you use them!
Thank you! Cheers!
I love those awesome glass jars, very practical & useful in the uncertain times we're going through recently.
I love the idea of taking pictures of treasured items😊 my mantra has become “do I need it, do I love it!”
"Honor where you are at." Thank you for that permission to be kind to myself! We are moving to Florida in June and I spent all day sorting kitchenwares. But I was so tough on myself, "I should donate more of these! Will I really have a nice dinner party in our new house? These fancy gadgets are expensive, how can you get rid of them?" I need to focus on what steps I did take and I always have the ability to purge and declutter again! It is not an all or nothing process! Thank you ❤️🙏
Getting prepared to move soon. Going to have to really get "with" this concept. Everything must fit in the car, like usual.
Connie, this is the first video of yours I have seen. I have SUBSCRIBED.! 😊. You have got the most calming voice of any video on any topic I have watched.! Keep up the good work and great, sound advice. It is going to help me, I know. GOD BLESS
Thanks Anne Dee! Welcome to our mindful community. I'm glad you are here.
I must confess I have too many mugs and plates and no longer need the books and CDs.... but too busy to declutter.
I started about 4 years ago. At least I am buying very few items
Downsizing is key to have a clear brain
Thanks Connie. Loved this vlog. Very calm and mindful and totally sensible in approach. 💕
I’ve been doing the 30 day minimalism game and it really gets the ball rolling
what is that, please?
@@ALinn-vr3nl Day 1: remove one item no matter how big or small
Day 2: remove two items.... not just to another room....completely out of the house.
Day 3: three things out
Day 4: four things out
Add em up..400+ things gone. Over 30 days is a LOT of things totally out of your life.
Then do it again.
I'm on Round Two Day 26 and hardly miss even the big things. I write them down so I remember what left. Round 2 has taken 4 months so far but who cares.
Aloha, I just found your Channel. I am a minimalist and still over a period of time start noticing Mr. Clutter trying to sneak in. It is a constant battle - “Me vs. Stuff.”
The only way I can win is to over and over and over keeping an eye out for things not being put back in their designated home and when I bring in a new item at least 1 or 2 items need to go. Life is so much more enjoyable when it’s easy to keep everything neat,clean and orderly. It also gives me more time to just relax and enjoy a lovely home. I also agree with many of the comments about your calm, clear voice and unrushed speaking. It’s so easy to understandwhat you are saying❣️
Love your videos Connie! The comment about spending money and not using something hit home, I recently spent 💰on some makeup that I finally decided I wasn’t going to try any longer to make it work it’s gone into my donation pile - luckily there are places that take this stuff, I’m cutting my losses and moving on and no longer kicking myself for not returning it. Thanks for the inspiration 🙏🏼
Love that! Thank you so much for sharing your experiance with us.
I'm so happy I came across your channel. Your so positive and uplifting. You remind me of the beautiful princess Diana.
💜 I love your mindful decluttering tips. Thankyou. :)
Hi I loved 🥰 your video and subscribed to your channel I am trying to catch up on the ones I missed thank you for your time making it! Christina
I am learning that minimalism is a process not a destination. And that i re downsize each space every few months. Gets easier each time to let things go.
Good thinking🙂
I've been at it for several years and am almost finished. When it got too hard and/or emotional I would take a break, sometimes for months, and begin again. I bet I've gone through some boxes 3 or 4 times until I was able to release the items that only mean something to me and nobody else will want. Plug along at your own pace. It gets easier as you go.
You are so calm and composed. You have a loving family too. May God bless you all.Love your channel!
Awe! Thanks
Love the question, "Would I buy this item again?". This will help me so much in the decision of whether or not to keep an item. Thank you.
I just found you Friday night and so thankful that I did..number one your voice is so calming and I look for that daily especially these past 31/2 months..my husband almost left this world four times since February..he is finally home and slowly doing better each and every day..he retired last July and I have been wanting to size down the past two years..I now know after my husband has been home from months spent in the hospital that his handicaps has certainly opened my eyes that not only do I want to downsize, I must…it’s been a challenge just getting through our home..I have always had the mindset that more was cozier NOT anymore..I’m at that stage of my life that it’s really getting on my nerves so thank you for opening my eyes to the idea I’ve had rolling around in my head for two years.. I know I am ready..this is a little off key to this comment BUT I absolutely LOVE LOVE your hair..do you have any videos how you style it? I’m tired of coloring my hair too..thanks again and I am binge watching your channel inbetween my husband naps and at night I am especially watching as many as I can..
Happy Wknd💐
@Happy Homemaker I am so sorry to read that your husband was in the hospital and had severe medical issues...thank goodness he is doing better. I have been decluttering since mid-January and it continues to be challenging because I, unfortunately, was raised in the home of a hoarder, my mother, who taught me the "save everything" mindset quite frankly. Therefore, I have been doing my best to reverse years of that detrimental thinking. Wishing you the best from NY😊
I de-cluttering every spring time ,giving up things .I no longer need or want. If someone gives me something .I don't really need i just drop ,it off at the thrift store.
Great tips!
I have seen a lot of people with nothing who are happy, I have learned that things are just things. I had to downsize from a 6 bedroom to a 2 bedroom, I was able to bless so much people and felt great about doing it
Connie, such an encouraging vlog. Love your spirit, your energy and your approach!
When I was decluttering, I made photos of all my stuff. Then I could make an album of why those things were special or important. Looking at some now, I don’t even remember the or remember the event. Lol.
I really enjoy your channel, very peaceful and helpful. I'm on my journey of minimalism. Enjoying the freedom.
I appreciate her providing some psychological analysis to this process...I have found that moving potential donations to another room for a period of time helps me to see if I really need to keep it or pass it on
Judy, that's wonderful idea! Thanks!
So calming to watch this right before I go thru my closet to simplify it ❤
Youre abselutely right lead gives you more. And the individual beauty always serves you more in emotional ans spiritual
Very good tips, Connie. Keep on sharing, looking forward to your wise, calm and invaluable advise.
Yes I gave thei library 2 big lawn bags of books it felt great
Whew I need this!! Added to my playlist to listen to again. May God bless you 🙏🏼 Will now subscribe. Have a Blessed day 🙌🏼
I am on this journey now for some 20 years. It creates a lot of space indeed. I hear from others that they find it very satisfying to declutter, empty their attic, garage etc. It gives peace of mind and and a satisfying feeling.
Thank you. So blessed to hear this. Let go of things that not longer serve you. I will let go the things now.
Wonderful!
I started overwhelmed but I am better as I'm breaking it into smaller tasks to clean. I'm a working momma and we have a small space. I could still use some help just deciding what else I don't need. It's nice having you guys for support.
I also take pictures specially when I struggle to get rid of a thing. 😊👍
One smart woman without the stress of debt keeping it simple.
Great to see your video. I too love to keep it simple while increasing the value. Lifes beautifully simple and we just sometimes have to much going on to see it 🙏💚
Beautiful said!
Decided to tidy my shoeracks. Shoerack upstairs for the formal, occasional footwear. Shoerack downstairs for daily footwear. Realized I have more than enough!
I also love keeping a few useful items from past generations. In my case, it's mechanical clocks. They are a responsibility because they require weekly winding and a professional cleaning of the works every few years, but the sound of the chimes takes me back to my childhood.
Thank you for a very informative video!!! I have been practicing a minimalistic lifestyle since before the pandemic. I live with less and I am completely content with have less things I have not really needed for a long time prior to starting the process. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing!!
Great video. I think what helps me is to have a pick up scheduled from charity. Especially quarterly.
I had a hard time letting go of a few things. But knowing that charity was coming, I just added it to the pile. It just made it easier to let go.
Great tip!
@@ConnieRiet oops. I just noticed the autocorrect!
Thank you I am trying to de clutter ,I move boxes around only … I am emotionally attached to stuff… this channel I just found of you will help me ! Thanks I Subscribed
When it comes down to it, “most of what’s on offer in shops is just stuff” How much stuff or How many material items does a person really need? A key question for me while decluttering was, “If I let this go, will I need to purchase another one?” Another key question “Does this item bring value or joy to my life?” Great tips! I’m grateful for finding your channel.
I'm getting better at declutter things I have bought, but I still struggle with selling or giving away things that were gifts, especially very expensive things. I end up using the gifts moreso because they are expensive rather than me liking them. I suppose I have to have conversations with the people giving me gifts and be more specific on what they can give me that would bring value into my home. Still, the items I currently have are bringing me stress when it comes time to declutter or straighten up.
“Create the unique lifestyle that is only meant for you” (7:27) It’s true, our homes are the launchpad of our lives. They are also unique expressions of ourselves & our loved ones. When we are gone, someone else will come in, disassemble our things, and replace it with theirs. Why not take delight our one-of-a-kind havens, now?! 🙂
I love how you put your thoughts! Thank you so much for sharing with all of us.
Thanks for all your ideas! I have been trying to down size the things around my house! Is so difficult, sometimes I don't know how to start!
Start small. Maybe only one drawer at a time.
We did a Master bed redo with paint, laminate floors and new bed so it got the ball rolling. Feels good. Great video.
I hope you’re enjoying your beautiful room. Peace 😊
@@susanbernier9399 Thank you I am. Next year we will do the other two rooms. Have a great summer!
What a gift I have been given in coming across your channel, Connie.❤ Your quiet energy and soothing videos are a welcome respite from the rush of my workday. In my future, I’m planning a more intentional, clutter-free environment and this space you’ve kindly created is becoming my go-to source for inspiration and information. With so much gratitude…🙏🕊
Nice. It is a beginning. Trying to do a bit each day. It is a good feeling to say goodbye to things which you might use but never do. This is because Life tugs at you. The mailbox is full of duties/forms, bills and unexpected changes. Then, there is no time to be creative or to even ponder creative expression through using the things you have gathered. Even if you won a Lotto, you would still have duties to keep your boat afloat. Still, create a new atmosphere with space. That is something. My 1st video on this subject. Thanks.
I just found your channel, I'm a new sub. Great tips, I'm going through this journey myself. Thank you, your beautiful smile and sweet spirit shines through the screen!! I love how sincere you are when considering where each person is on this journey!! God bless you and yours! 🙏😊🌹
Thank you - such a calm, reassuring manner. Perfect with this music. "Is it something you would buy today ?" was the phrase I needed. I love to interface with wildlife. I knew a Bill McFarland on Long Island, NY. ~Bob
Hi! I really like your videos. I am not a minimalist but decluter a few times a year. 2 weeks ago I said "grandson is 6, it's time to get rid of the baby things" so I did. The very next week my Son announced their having a baby next May 2023. Well I'll be buying baby things again...🤯🤣😊
Just want to add that there are those of us who find exaggeratedly minimalist surroundings very unnerving. We may be in the minority, but having a severely pared down space doesn't automatically mean it's calming.
I am falling in love with your channel. You are so beautiful in and out. Glad I found you.
Thanks, that sparked a desire to take on .. wait for it, the paperwork around here. I actually need a room for it. The weight I have because of too much paperwork. I'm sure I don't need every receipt , or directions for every appliance . Yes this will be fun. Sending love your way.
Best of luck! You've got this.
My biggest dread, tons of it. TFS
Hello! I am a new friend here. Love this type of content! Thanks for sharing!💗
Thanks and welcome!
Connie, I so enjoy your videos & I’m learning. I’m embarking on the simplicity & calmness in my home. I struggle with wall art, too little vs too much. Do you have wall art in the place you live?
I have that ikea lamp, it’s my favorite thing.
i think your yoga helps your warm and calm demeanor, enjoy videos are great!
So do I. I love yoga and meditation!
I soooo want to get rid of everything! But my husband isn't on the same page yet....but it's messing with my visual space!
2 spatulas. 1 for cooking, 1 for baking.
I would add, give yourself time to declutter. This is a positive message, bec I have a tendency of being a pack rat. Save things for a rainy day that might be useful in the future.
I've noticed the same thing on minimalist creators. They have a couch but they sit on the floor 🤣🤣🤣 anyways, what a great content, I learned a lot. Looking forward to decluttering! ❤️
Right?!😂😂😂 lol
Nice video, I’m trying to downsize my things. I inspired my husband to declutter his things, he has a reason to everything! ….I don’t mind his huge huge cat collection of antique figurines plus glassware and antique watches and new watches which is his hobby to restore. I just hope I pass before him because I would be so overwhelmed with his “ stuff” lol
Ditto
Great video. You are so right ! I am decluttering almost every day ! Such a relief ! Have a great day !
I often feel quilty about the things I bought that I thought I loved at the time and maybe I did but it did not last- clothes - household items - decor items. I love that question would I buy this again. I am getting better at it but I find I get stuck still. Right now I have a number of things that I want to let go but the guilt is keeping me holding on to them. day by day
Those pink suede shoes looked crazy scary in your hands but boy did they look great when you put them on.😅🤣😂
Thank you 🙏
Honor where you are at Today, sooo helpful...simple & conscious
always enjoy your videos
Great ideas. Thank you. I found that it was easy by thinking that I didn't need to spend my money. I would sleep on it for a couple of days, 99% of the time I would not even remember let alone need it. So I saved money.
Great tip!