I hear you, my narc husband ripped my only daughter away from me 17 years ago, co workers, friends, etc. They love to isolate you so no one can help you especially if you're a woman. Thinking back, everyone true colors comes out eventually. Good riddance.
The mom emotinally neglects them all their childhood. Just changes diapers gives a bottle makes them cry themselves to sleep. They' stop asking for anytjing etc. Left alone all day at home while mom is gone. They raise themselves. And become their own parent. The mom makes them abuse themselves by talking down on them so they belive they're ugly loser no Good. They hate feeling like that so they make a fake self who's all good and all perfect etc. This why it hurts bad when u tear down the false self.
And watch the new supply and his family get treated worse..we are in a season where you reap what you sow...and every last one of them that lied to you are about to get the greatest judgment they have ever had in their sorry lives....just sit back and watch, sista...sit back and watch
I don’t think my ex narc parents cared they knew it was a cycle over and over but they won’t tell u that smh. They don’t wanna deal with the narc either
His family and friends were all skinning and grinning in my face all the while they new what the loser was up too! Karma will get everybody that’s connected and knew about it. GOD said only with my eyes shall I behold and see the reward of the wicked...it won’t touch me but I will get to see it!
Lol after the incident I went back to his family and said when I asked y’all about things like this why did y’all tell me. They said oh we thought he was changed since being with you. lol
I was a laughingstock and didn’t even know. I was with the sadistic, twisted no-good narc for 31 years. I am only recently beginning to find out just how far down the rabbit hole his shenanigans went. I cut off and was cut off by quite a few people. Some surprised me, some didn’t. It really hurt in the beginning though. I felt like I was getting sucker punched left & right. Since separating and divorcing last year, I discovered that he had sexual contact with two (possibly three) family members, hit on my little cousins who were underage several years ago, he’s bisexual, had been sabotaging me behind my back, turned my kids against me, and the list goes on. The truly sad part is that I don’t even know how long his bad behavior was affecting me because my eyes were wide shut. I’ve since awakened and never plan on talking to this demon again.
Don't feel foolish it's happening to all of us. Stay strong and just be glad you are free! ❤️ They just stupid, don't take it personally - devil is real
Don't feel stupid, because you didn't know. Thank God you wasn't married to him. I really dislike my narc wife and still waiting for my divorce to be finalized! She's doing everything to prolong it...
@@rod6151 Thanks, and yikes. I haven't heard a lot of people talk about what it's like being married to one. The one I got with is now engaged to the person he's with now .... I feel bad because she has three little girls. It's strange knowing how terrible these people are, and yet lingering emotions have you feeling a little low, but I know it will all be gone someday. I just can't wait to get to that point.
I'm the friend that tells. I have always told my girlfriends that. If I see something that I feel is out of place I'm telling you make your own decision about it. If you stay, fine, if you do fine but I will never turn a blind eye
@@82566 you do! We are here for you. We are all connected by this and need support to get thru it. Everything is a process and some take longer than others. But as we learn information it helps us make better decisions. I finally decided to change my # after not speaking to the narc for 9mths but would have a txt come in every couple of months from them that would trigger me. I used to try and justify why I wasn't going to change my # , or block than unblock him. Nope let's just change it all together. Watch the videos, look for other information even post on the wall. Nobody has to go thru this alone ❤
@@82566 aahh. Trust me we know how you feel. Time does heal but it moves slower than we would like lol. I will put it like this, think of all the relationships you have had in the past and than think about how you made it through those also. We alm said the same thing, "I can't live w/out them", "it hurts so bad", "I'll never find anyone else". I think about that and how I made it past all of that but now is the time to learn and make better decisions on who we deal with romantically or on a friendship basis. Pay attention to what your soul tells you and how you feel around people. That will never let you down🙏🏽
And it’s sad because we see the destruction headed their way and they get mad at you for trying to spare them...so when the bomb 💣 goes boom 💥 don’t call ☎️ is!
That’s what happened to me! I told my best friend and she stopped being my friend but 5 years later she came back crying because she was divorcing him for cheating and staying out all night!
My ex bff did that to me, 6 yrs late she bumped into me, I asked her how her hubby was, she told me she walked in and cought him red-handed. She never apologized for not believing me, and I knew her way before he met her, I had no reason to lie.
I went through this recently. People started laughing, people I didn’t know either I’m like wow. Then she slept with people who hated me. And fake friends too. Shit crazy out here
The Nark, I was dealing with was a person that would do good and then be equally as bad. For example buy things that I needed ect. Then he would disappear for two, three day no calls no text nothing. I now know that they were entertaining other people maybe. This NPD is real people and when I started watching the videos and learning about this things started to make sense. This is real people on your job in your family, these people are everywhere be careful! And aware of your surrounding this is spiritual warfare
That Nark you were dealing with, I sinking I have a picture of him here media.npr.org/assets/blogs/thetwo-way/images/2010/05/candidate-coleman-43504a229356845a6d176dec8391c552cc981f49.jpg
A true eye opener. I didn't know these types of people existed until I got married last year and got ghosted a 1 month later and they walk back in yhe door like nothing never happened and then want to pamper you.
@@AR-rm6wl how does one ghost someone they are married to or live with? And for a whole month too? I def got ghosted several times but at least there was no established commitment. Smdh, they are horrible.
I built him up from nothing. His family hated me from the door because I had morals and boundaries. All they wanted was his money after I built him up. Needless to say he cheated throughout our entire marriage. I finally got fed up and discarded the marriage. He didn’t want to leave but he let things go to far with his family. It’s been 3 days no contact but still have to go through the divorce. He’s on FB now looking for his new supply. Best wishes to him though!
@@mollyjohnson3234 Feel like a nut? You're only as good as you're valued by others. That discarded trash in the skip prides itself in its past value to people, before it was plum all used up. Just delight in being a piece of trash. You know wear smelly clothes and you'll be just like garbage.
His family ( especially his female siblings) and his mother knew he was playing me for a fool , his mom lied and said I couldn't come inside there home because they have covid ..! But my ex narc went inside with no problem! And that lady claims to be a christian
I thought meeting his family was going to be great but they made me feel so weird . Never remembered my name but asked me for favors like driving them somewhere out of town or buying them food . When all hell broke lose , I heard his grandma and little brother talking so bad about me and that hurt 😭. That’s when I knew I was the laughing stock . F all them !!
Girl. Reading your comment made me think we was in a relationship with the same person. I have experienced the exact treatment from my Ex Narcs family, they are users they don’t have anything to offer but they see you as great supply & can’t believe that the narc was able to get you & will use you & talk about you like a dog in the process.
Literally how can you starve a pregnant woman , I lost so much weight ... Exactly and Im so hurt that his enablers are so afraid of him , thats because they know how dangerous he truly is
Nac was working at our local hospital, my friend was visiting her unwell partner and she told me she saw the narc being very friendly to student nurses asking them if they were married and had kids. He is a disgrace. I discarded him after 6 years, and im so happy being single and having my freedom. Im in LOVE with ME now.
How could they love their children? Children are the same genetic material as the parents, they're just little baby cockroaches. sfmkm.blogspot.com/p/blog-page_59.html
Nah they dont my ex narc told me she wanted a baby by me cuz she thought would make a cute baby I was like wow guess ur other 2 babies aren't cute to u lol
Yep. My ex's sister in law started hanging out with his affair partner and even doing errands on his behalf for her. All the while messaging me asking how I'm doing, she hopes I'm well, can I do this or that for her kids and I had known her for years. I still can't believe these kind of people exist. I honestly think some of these diehard flying monkeys might be psychopaths or something.
I even had friends who he was seeking out and making plans with. They’d have the audacity to ask me “so how are things going with you and --?” Later I find out they’re texting every morning, day and night. One said “he told me you broke up”. Really? Cause you see us showing up and leaving parties together, posting vacations on FB. I trust no one now. My circle is small, but im out of the abuse and triangulation
I lived thru this exact example with my now ex. Couldn’t believe how many people (friends, neighbors, co-workers and family) knew he was cheating on me and our marriage and they helped him smoke screen and hide his affair. Broken trust. At least after all the fallout I know who helped him and who to never trust again and what posers they really are. I will no longer be part of their entertainment! I took out the trash and let them lie in the heap pile together where they belong!
His whole family warned me and I ignored them. His mom told me that she loved her son but he was never going to change. And for me to use him for his money. He didnt even lie about it he told me it had an addiction that it was like an alcoholic. I still stayed now he blames me for everything.
Wow! 8 years of marriage and I knew something was wrong but couldn’t put my finger on it. His whole family knew how he was and is supporting him instead of consoling me for the mental and emotional abuse he put me through. He is the devil not me.
Hi Hario....I can tell this so comes from the heart...you're really feeling it because you too went through it... its like waking up from a nightmare....but wake up we do. X
What kills me is that they are not helping that person...my ex's daughter was the only one blowing up her spot and telling me sh*t that she didn't want me to know...
Yep. His daughter and our friends knew… when I finally caught on one said to me “well, a dog is a dog“ and “a leopard never changes its spots. You weren’t the first and you won’t be the last.” 4yrs… and not one of them ever spoke up to me but on several occasions asked him how specific “friends” were doing in front of me. Of course, those “friends” were exes but I thought they were really were just friends. I was friends with some of them as well. Later found out, they were sexting , dining out, and who knows what else. Unfortunately , now i know what triangulation is. His adult daughter even said once “I don’t think my dad would ever do anything to screw up your relationship.” It was so out of the blue. When I asked what she meant, she said “I just havent seen him with anyone before like he is with you.” Two weeks later, I found naked pictures and an invite to dinner to one of our “friends”. She knew. Funny thing, as soon as I walked, his sister and daughter ghosted me as well. Im sure he told them I cheated or was crazy. Whatever he was doing, he probably is smearing me with it. Oh well, I’m out.
He's been hoovering because he stole my wallet out of my purse he knows im done , did I mention upon being kidnapped for 6 days , I was almost kidnapped again outside in broad daylight smh I believe he has people following me it is not a game but GOD is my refuge ... he is such a coward and yes his mom and sisters are the enablers smh it is sad , how could his own mother which is our son grandmother refuse to love on her grandchild.... yes there is something hidden and its coming out to light these people are seriously demonic
I’m trying to get there! I think my true healing will come after the divorce this way I don’t have to ever worry about seeing him ever again! I don’t hate him, I just don’t have any need for him.
Maybe for male narcs but by my ex getting into a new relationship and still being in it, Everyone thinks i was the problem. She would show people my text messages arguing with her and her playing innocent. Like “see how he talks to me?”
Bro that’s facts !! Starting and argument and deleting threads. I kept everything in my phone though!! I look at it like people will believe whatever they want to believe I Know the Truth.. and if they ain’t rocking with me Now then they never was💯...,
@@newlife2657 all of her friends met her new boyfriend and even her oldest son has came back around. He didn’t even want to meet me. It’s weird as hell.
That's definitely what they do. I'm going through the same thing right now. They are pathological liars always remember that. You can never trust anything they say!!
Oh I’m the one who will alarm my friend if I happen to catch their spouse cheating!! I’ve done it before and unfortunately my friend was manipulated by her spouse and she turned on me but I was okay with that because it was obvious that she didn’t respect me as a true friend!!! I’ll even discreetly approach the one cheating and let them know how disrespectful they are and I’m gonna let them know because I truly care about my friend!!
His mother knew and she helped him cheat and meet women, my entire community knew but me, he’s a head coach at a park so ALL attention was on me and I never knew it. And not a SOUL said a thing to me. Yes they laughed behind my back and made me out to be the villain
@Janina Palance Yes God, good thing I’m a SuperEmpath because I shut it down when I realized what was happening to me it is sinister evil at its highest level.
But honestly they should laugh, why not. First it's not your business. Second be proud of it to be a human. You have empathy. You are a personality. It's more than they will ever be!
Yess sir.... this is a major problem!!! This will definitely reveal who's who in your life!!! U will soon find out u have no friends🤷🏽♀️!!! They rather watch u get tricked and talk about it with others!!! I'm so over it!!!
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His family knew and my family knew because he was sleeping with my cousin and sister lmao they all betrayed me so yea I’m by myself and I love it that way I can’t and I won’t spend my years of life trying to determine whose who I don’t have the time
Oh my goodness! Im soo sorry! I kept my ex narc away from my family cause I figured out he was just capable of anything...Thats probably the only reason I didnt experience the same as you, dear lady.I will pray for you!
I've been a flying monkey before and sometimes you try to warn the new supply that their partner isn't exactly the best or most loyal catch but if you do it during the love bombing stage they won't believe you, in fact if the narc is the same gender you are attracted to, their supply will accuse you of being attracted to or in love with their narc. The narc will run with it too cause they love to triangulate.
Thanks so much Hario keep up the work .if this information had been out I think some people would be much happier. But it's never to late happiness is still in the land . another day above ground is a new day . Be blessed ♥️keep at them Narc I'm going to Nick name you the Narc Slayer lol... Keep at it this helps a lot of people that has became victims of this foolishness. Peace 🤗
Realest video yet. I been on the other end of this having close friends and family laughing and smiling in my face, knowing my ex husband was dragging me behind my back as I went to them in comfort. Evil. The lack of integrity and loyalty in people disgusts me. This is why I know we as super empathetic are the chosen few, because I’d never betray my morals , friends, or relationship to these levels. The flying Monkeys are no better than a narc in my opinion. Cut them all out like cancer!
Swine's Pigs they all got drown in the sea All the pigs went down in hells bottom less pit no blessings in hell 'the worlds worse mistaken misery what a place to crash in hell worse worser hell hole s Unforgotten outer darkness weeping and nashing of teeth these evil spirits are burning in the lake of fire with no peace no resting place they must be Born Again I had one for 5 mths he kept saying to me you always putting me down he never saw the right thing only the negative at all times he really did not know what right righteousness is Blind as a bat yet he knew everything cris cross upside down head first every day was just like the day before day one every day they are completely stuck in the mud surprisingly these doubters some of them have adult children tolorating their parents Unfruitful malfunctioning behaviors Jesus said Father have mercy on them Narc s are disgusting lower spirits Laughing storks and they know what a shame and disgrace in the animal kingdom takers pitiful caterpillars Jack in the boxes its like watching a Horrible nightmare movie in living color Same way same thing programed with. Darkness and stubborn no light no sunshine in them left sided however I've been their done that to the pit of hell and back I've overcame the bottomless pit and conquered death hell and the grave with the narc s 3 keyes 3 masks death hell and the grave thanking the Almighty for deliverance Father Mother Son and Holy Ghost Glory to all of us who got redeemed in a higher Mansion this tree knowledge Wisdom and Understanding Love&Light
I just think God every day that I made it out of the situation ship what I thought was a relationship with someone that truly was trying to suck all of my good energy and me being a positive person that’s what he used me for to make him look like he was normal but really the whole time he is that monster I’m glad I have the knowledge now to know what that kind of person is capable of doing right in your face they are master manipulators and liars and now those sees that he has song are coming back to haunt him and I want no parts of it I’ve been no contact for the last five months and this has been a long-term situation it’s over now...
I don't think I'm the narcissist because my divorce still isn't finalized and I have the kids this weekend and their iPad is connected to All My Ex's stuff. And I'm not even going to go through it. I don't want to know and I don't need to know. What I know is she did me wrong and didn't really love me so I'm moving on.
3 years of misery ended nothing like freedom thank you all for sharing your knowledge and experiences it helps a lot i had 3 in a row and my " lucky" # is 7 hate the thought
My friend not only co sign on his bullshit he was doing to me. When I changed my number her trifling ass gave him my new number. I changed it again and blocked them both because that’s not a friend. I got rid of him, her and all the flying monkeys🐒 . I’ve been winning in all areas of my life ever since.
My ex narc's flying monkeys were not only her friends and family, but also people I thought were friends and my ex band members, who like a bunch of high school children were bitter when I decided to stop recording music to focus on personal betterment and focussing on my business (which I formerly co owned with the Narc). Especially during covid. Invests in a PI, had help from neighbors, and trusted my own intuition, as well as the physical indisputable evidence. Of course this was all met with lies, and no admissions were ever made even in the face of all this proof. This disgusting human being was sleeping with the tenant at our home and others. All while faking wanting marriage and to start a family. It literally makes my stomach turn typing this garbage. She then after bailing on the home, dog, and business would gaslight me into thinking I was crazy, all while sneaking in when I was not home, and pretending to still help with the business to track my movements. Literally the most sick shit I have ever been involved with or experienced in my life. Some people are absolute trash!!
Yes she turned her family agains me even her mum.whem I call my son who lives with his grandmother she tells my son on video call your dad's is bad an no good pure lies his only 5 years old so sad it hurts me to the core how evil them narks an monkeys are
@Hario Ovadtop A true friend would never support the narcissist in his deeds, they would not talk about you and they would never spread your business, however they would always be there to support you. However, when it comes to "telling" we really need to proceed with caution. There was a case in Chicago where the friend informed her friend about her boyfriend, the young woman confronted him and she ended up dead, dismembered, and thrown in the woods like trash. While I certainly feel the person being cheated on has EVERY right to know, after this story, we need to think before we speak.
Alot of people don't come fourth because alot of people will actual reveal to the Narc who actually told them. And people dont want to be in the middle if the person let's them know.
His lie fell apart about a pink bike....of course in a couse of a couple of days I found out he had an 18 yr relationship with someone else, he paid whores lots of money from the business, they were dosing me thru my food & made me bedridden for almost 3 yrs. I asked God to help me. I met my best friend a day later. Took me more than 5 yrs to gain weight back after being 89 lbs. NOt once did he do anything for me. Now he thinks he is getting money from me after a real estate sale from my mom....LOL I ignore him now as much as I can until I can move out. And baby I am moving
I didn't catch this live unfortunately, but appreciate your sharing and time sacrificed that's an interesting challenge there, it may be difficult 😳 as its my kid. Although she doesn't live w me, 26 yes old, I was cari g for her after plastic surgery and she discarded me on the 15th when I asked her nicely not to call me bitch and broke me down in her way out as usual(long story, very long it could be made into a horror novel). She said she never wanted to see me again, so when she called yesterday outta the blue like nothing even ever happened I was taken back but it was too late bc I been watching ur videos a 🔥 minute now and so I was polite and let her pretendo away and as she asked for her items I just complied but when she arrived to pick up her things, I made sure to put them downstairs outside near my vehicle so she could grab them without seeing me. I cried as I watched her leave from window. I could tell it hit her kinda hard bc she just sorta stood there like confused yet I couldn't really see her face but I could tell she was taken back and so I just texted her at that moment watching her, get everything ok? And she said yes. Thank u. Then sent a 2nd text saying Have a good evening. I just replied ok. So I felt like if I saw her it would be lie saying, "Daughter, if u wanna call me Bitch, its ok, and u will always get away with it." So, that's why I choose the high road, complied w her wants and needs politely and I also allowed her what she has asked originally, which was she never wanted to see me again 🤔
Saw my neighbour in the school playground one day crying, surrounded by the other mothers who were comforting her. Later on I went over and asked if she was okay..She kind of smirked and then said her boyfŕiend had gone back to his wife...I felt so sorry for her and even invited her and her kids around my house for dinner that night. It turned out her boyfriend was my husband and they had been having an affair for months and the whole village knew about it including my so called friends...I am a very private person and it made me more angrier knowing that my husband has aired my dirty laundry to the whole village..he slinked off and left the village whilst I was left taking my son to school each day having to face all the gossiping and whispers alone..I never said a damned word..
I am so sorry you had to go through this. Truly awful. But you have morals and integrity. Stand firm in that. You can teach your son what true character is about. And anyone gossiping will get their karma eventually. We have nothing to defend if we didn’t do anything wrong. So hold your head up. You can do it
I raised them all by myself my 2 daughters w out their dad and they all wanna shit on me when im down even though I got married when they were adults and married clearly an abusive narc. But I was tricked and I used to ve a strong woman that most would fear to be honest and that changed a she stole my identity and all my self worth where within 8 months I was shaking and by the time we hit 4 years he was head butting me🥺 my kids never care about that it has barely been 2 years since he was abusing me and im still very scared and sick.
Please get away. Make a plan and get away. Go to women's shelter they will help. Maybe the church can help. Some of these channels have coaches. Also maybe the police can help with domestic violence. Please don't give up on yourself there are good people too 💔
I know ppl i work with know something but I also understand the work place is not somewhere they want to " get involved " instead they stay silent and I stand looking like a f fool ....or so they think lol patience is a virture
I have no friend's or family anymore because of a NARC. However everyone's true colors came out. Have a blessed day😏
I hear you, my narc husband ripped my only daughter away from me 17 years ago, co workers, friends, etc. They love to isolate you so no one can help you especially if you're a woman. Thinking back, everyone true colors comes out eventually. Good riddance.
Same for me smh
Same here
Same
@Janina Palance 😂😂
I almost hate the whole family! Who in the world births and raises someone who is capable of mistreating someone like this??!!
It’s beyond me lol I’m like where did these people crawl from? The pits of hell
Childhood trauma (and slavery genetics) n jealousy.
The mom emotinally neglects them all their childhood. Just changes diapers gives a bottle makes them cry themselves to sleep. They' stop asking for anytjing etc. Left alone all day at home while mom is gone. They raise themselves. And become their own parent. The mom makes them abuse themselves by talking down on them so they belive they're ugly loser no Good. They hate feeling like that so they make a fake self who's all good and all perfect etc. This why it hurts bad when u tear down the false self.
@@daviedood2503 oh wow!
@@LIVdaBrand I believe this! I'm not making excuses for people like this, but there is something almost demonic to this.
His whole family knew AND tried to get me to stay...HA!
And watch the new supply and his family get treated worse..we are in a season where you reap what you sow...and every last one of them that lied to you are about to get the greatest judgment they have ever had in their sorry lives....just sit back and watch, sista...sit back and watch
I don’t think my ex narc parents cared they knew it was a cycle over and over but they won’t tell u that smh. They don’t wanna deal with the narc either
His family and friends were all skinning and grinning in my face all the while they new what the loser was up too! Karma will get everybody that’s connected and knew about it. GOD said only with my eyes shall I behold and see the reward of the wicked...it won’t touch me but I will get to see it!
Lol after the incident I went back to his family and said when I asked y’all about things like this why did y’all tell me. They said oh we thought he was changed since being with you. lol
I was a laughingstock and didn’t even know. I was with the sadistic, twisted no-good narc for 31 years. I am only recently beginning to find out just how far down the rabbit hole his shenanigans went. I cut off and was cut off by quite a few people. Some surprised me, some didn’t. It really hurt in the beginning though. I felt like I was getting sucker punched left & right. Since separating and divorcing last year, I discovered that he had sexual contact with two (possibly three) family members, hit on my little cousins who were underage several years ago, he’s bisexual, had been sabotaging me behind my back, turned my kids against me, and the list goes on. The truly sad part is that I don’t even know how long his bad behavior was affecting me because my eyes were wide shut. I’ve since awakened and never plan on talking to this demon again.
If u walk into a room and someone looks guilty their guilty.
I like to think of them as 'flying spider monkeys' helping spread the WEB of betrayal and deceit.
True !
It's just FAKE NEWS!😂
Yea they all knew the whole time. Unfortunately their loyalty stuck with the narcissist. No one was shocked when we broke up i wonder why.
The know his M.O....thats what he's been doing all his dating life
Exactly
It hurts i can’t lie. We had family functions on the weekend with his family. They all knew he was playing me behind my back and not tell me.
@@ericac2420 oh they won't tell!! It's so wrong!
@@ericac2420 it hurts now! I can't lie! It won't happen again. I can promise you that!
His mom and his cousin knew the whole time he was cheating but covered all his lies.
Her mother and Cousin knew too... funny that!
They trifling to but what goes around comes around..
3 mo. No narc!!! Hallelujah ❤️🙏🙌
Awesome 👏
I just constantly feel foolish for even looking his way. It's been eight months no contact and I still feel so stupid.
I feel ya
Don't feel foolish it's happening to all of us. Stay strong and just be glad you are free! ❤️ They just stupid, don't take it personally - devil is real
Don't feel stupid, because you didn't know. Thank God you wasn't married to him. I really dislike my narc wife and still waiting for my divorce to be finalized! She's doing everything to prolong it...
@@kerstinpalmberger8085 Thank you, and yes, the devil is definitely real, smh. Doing my best to heal and keep moving ahead.
@@rod6151 Thanks, and yikes. I haven't heard a lot of people talk about what it's like being married to one. The one I got with is now engaged to the person he's with now .... I feel bad because she has three little girls. It's strange knowing how terrible these people are, and yet lingering emotions have you feeling a little low, but I know it will all be gone someday. I just can't wait to get to that point.
This is so true. You see true colors when you break it off with them. The victim/empath is then treated like the bad guy.
I'm the friend that tells. I have always told my girlfriends that. If I see something that I feel is out of place I'm telling you make your own decision about it. If you stay, fine, if you do fine but I will never turn a blind eye
Thank u for being that friend I wish I had voices of strength like that right now
@@82566 you do! We are here for you. We are all connected by this and need support to get thru it. Everything is a process and some take longer than others. But as we learn information it helps us make better decisions. I finally decided to change my # after not speaking to the narc for 9mths but would have a txt come in every couple of months from them that would trigger me. I used to try and justify why I wasn't going to change my # , or block than unblock him. Nope let's just change it all together. Watch the videos, look for other information even post on the wall. Nobody has to go thru this alone ❤
Thank u Bonita u r a blessing for me today 😊
@@82566 aahh. Trust me we know how you feel. Time does heal but it moves slower than we would like lol. I will put it like this, think of all the relationships you have had in the past and than think about how you made it through those also. We alm said the same thing, "I can't live w/out them", "it hurts so bad", "I'll never find anyone else". I think about that and how I made it past all of that but now is the time to learn and make better decisions on who we deal with romantically or on a friendship basis. Pay attention to what your soul tells you and how you feel around people. That will never let you down🙏🏽
Thank you for being that friend!
The truth will always come out in the end
Yes; u are the last to know, it's unfortunate, work thru it and stand tall
Sometimes when you tell some women they men cheating she get mad at you. Even when I told my sister about her bf trying Me. Smh
And it’s sad because we see the destruction headed their way and they get mad at you for trying to spare them...so when the bomb 💣 goes boom 💥 don’t call ☎️ is!
That’s what happened to me! I told my best friend and she stopped being my friend but 5 years later she came back crying because she was divorcing him for cheating and staying out all night!
Been there sis.
My ex bff did that to me, 6 yrs late she bumped into me, I asked her how her hubby was, she told me she walked in and cought him red-handed. She never apologized for not believing me, and I knew her way before he met her, I had no reason to lie.
@@rebeccalucas6063 DAMN. Sounds like she caught them in bed..
I went through this recently. People started laughing, people I didn’t know either I’m like wow. Then she slept with people who hated me. And fake friends too. Shit crazy out here
So true! The victim is always the last to know!
The Nark, I was dealing with was a person that would do good and then be equally as bad. For example buy things that I needed ect. Then he would disappear for two, three day no calls no text nothing. I now know that they were entertaining other people maybe. This NPD is real people and when I started watching the videos and learning about this things started to make sense. This is real people on your job in your family, these people are everywhere be careful! And aware of your surrounding this is spiritual warfare
That Nark you were dealing with, I sinking I have a picture of him here media.npr.org/assets/blogs/thetwo-way/images/2010/05/candidate-coleman-43504a229356845a6d176dec8391c552cc981f49.jpg
A true eye opener. I didn't know these types of people existed until I got married last year and got ghosted a 1 month later and they walk back in yhe door like nothing never happened and then want to pamper you.
Right
@@AR-rm6wl how does one ghost someone they are married to or live with? And for a whole month too? I def got ghosted several times but at least there was no established commitment. Smdh, they are horrible.
Absolutely it is 💯 that's why it's so important to stay prayed up
I built him up from nothing. His family hated me from the door because I had morals and boundaries. All they wanted was his money after I built him up. Needless to say he cheated throughout our entire marriage. I finally got fed up and discarded the marriage. He didn’t want to leave but he let things go to far with his family. It’s been 3 days no contact but still have to go through the divorce. He’s on FB now looking for his new supply. Best wishes to him though!
Focus on you
Now I feel like a nut
No, no, listen. You expected too much. Nothing was ever enough that you'd remember it. All those kindnesses that you forgot.
@@mollyjohnson3234 Feel like a nut? You're only as good as you're valued by others. That discarded trash in the skip prides itself in its past value to people, before it was plum all used up. Just delight in being a piece of trash. You know wear smelly clothes and you'll be just like garbage.
I’m in the middle of a divorce too from the narcissist. This is a good thing for us we finally woke up
His family ( especially his female siblings) and his mother knew he was playing me for a fool , his mom lied and said I couldn't come inside there home because they have covid ..! But my ex narc went inside with no problem! And that lady claims to be a christian
Smdh
SICK, SICK, SICK.... SERIOUSLY, SICK!!!
All these are ungodly people...so there not a factor...period.Keep your enemies close....and proceed with caution🙋
I thought meeting his family was going to be great but they made me feel so weird . Never remembered my name but asked me for favors like driving them somewhere out of town or buying them food . When all hell broke lose , I heard his grandma and little brother talking so bad about me and that hurt 😭. That’s when I knew I was the laughing stock . F all them !!
Girl. Reading your comment made me think we was in a relationship with the same person. I have experienced the exact treatment from my Ex Narcs family, they are users they don’t have anything to offer but they see you as great supply & can’t believe that the narc was able to get you & will use you & talk about you like a dog in the process.
@@koffisingleton1880 it’s crazy how people are.
FACTS!
I was so confused. But now everything is crystal clear. Thank you for your insights. I'm still healthy. But at least I am healing & not suffering.
Thank you for all your work and dedication in helping all victims of narcissist abuse. GOD bless you my brother!
❤️🙏
Literally how can you starve a pregnant woman , I lost so much weight ... Exactly and Im so hurt that his enablers are so afraid of him , thats because they know how dangerous he truly is
God is stronger believe me
The Narc family members and friends keep checking up on me and they know the narc been cheating all this time which is why I went no contact.
Nac was working at our local hospital, my friend was visiting her unwell partner and she told me she saw the narc being very friendly to student nurses asking them if they were married and had kids. He is a disgrace. I discarded him after 6 years, and im so happy being single and having my freedom. Im in LOVE with ME now.
Yes children! They are sick, I boldly state they do NOT love their children.
Absofreakinlutely 😢
How could they love their children? Children are the same genetic material as the parents, they're just little baby cockroaches. sfmkm.blogspot.com/p/blog-page_59.html
The ex narcissist i had walked out on his children so many times trying to come back it’s sickening
Nah they dont my ex narc told me she wanted a baby by me cuz she thought would make a cute baby I was like wow guess ur other 2 babies aren't cute to u lol
@Janina Palance smh
Yep. My ex's sister in law started hanging out with his affair partner and even doing errands on his behalf for her. All the while messaging me asking how I'm doing, she hopes I'm well, can I do this or that for her kids and I had known her for years. I still can't believe these kind of people exist. I honestly think some of these diehard flying monkeys might be psychopaths or something.
Damn.
Absolutely the flying monkeys are inverted narcissists. They are enablers and co-conspirators.
I even had friends who he was seeking out and making plans with. They’d have the audacity to ask me “so how are things going with you and --?” Later I find out they’re texting every morning, day and night. One said “he told me you broke up”. Really? Cause you see us showing up and leaving parties together, posting vacations on FB. I trust no one now. My circle is small, but im out of the abuse and triangulation
I lived thru this exact example with my now ex. Couldn’t believe how many people (friends, neighbors, co-workers and family) knew he was cheating on me and our marriage and they helped him smoke screen and hide his affair. Broken trust. At least after all the fallout I know who helped him and who to never trust again and what posers they really are. I will no longer be part of their entertainment! I took out the trash and let them lie in the heap pile together where they belong!
Glad im out of social media nowadays
His whole family warned me and I ignored them. His mom told me that she loved her son but he was never going to change. And for me to use him for his money. He didnt even lie about it he told me it had an addiction that it was like an alcoholic. I still stayed now he blames me for everything.
That’s what they do blame and accept no responsibility for nothing! Project everything on us!
Yep! It is awful to realize so many people knew
Wow! 8 years of marriage and I knew something was wrong but couldn’t put my finger on it. His whole family knew how he was and is supporting him instead of consoling me for the mental and emotional abuse he put me through. He is the devil not me.
Hi Hario....I can tell this so comes from the heart...you're really feeling it because you too went through it... its like waking up from a nightmare....but wake up we do. X
What kills me is that they are not helping that person...my ex's daughter was the only one blowing up her spot and telling me sh*t that she didn't want me to know...
Yep. His daughter and our friends knew… when I finally caught on one said to me “well, a dog is a dog“ and “a leopard never changes its spots. You weren’t the first and you won’t be the last.” 4yrs… and not one of them ever spoke up to me but on several occasions asked him how specific “friends” were doing in front of me. Of course, those “friends” were exes but I thought they were really were just friends. I was friends with some of them as well. Later found out, they were sexting , dining out, and who knows what else. Unfortunately , now i know what triangulation is. His adult daughter even said once “I don’t think my dad would ever do anything to screw up your relationship.” It was so out of the blue. When I asked what she meant, she said “I just havent seen him with anyone before like he is with you.” Two weeks later, I found naked pictures and an invite to dinner to one of our “friends”. She knew. Funny thing, as soon as I walked, his sister and daughter ghosted me as well. Im sure he told them I cheated or was crazy. Whatever he was doing, he probably is smearing me with it. Oh well, I’m out.
Wow..the daughter..smdh
AMEN, Thank You GOD, PLEASE KEEP DELIVERING ME, FROM THAT NARC!!!
He's been hoovering because he stole my wallet out of my purse he knows im done , did I mention upon being kidnapped for 6 days , I was almost kidnapped again outside in broad daylight smh I believe he has people following me it is not a game but GOD is my refuge ... he is such a coward and yes his mom and sisters are the enablers smh it is sad , how could his own mother which is our son grandmother refuse to love on her grandchild.... yes there is something hidden and its coming out to light these people are seriously demonic
I have seen married men posting pictures on social media (Instagram, Facebook) with their wives but they cheat on them.
Thank God his aunt told me to RUN .... Im done its sad I never been so humiliated in my life
Bless you Today
Your Video has helped Me. Bless God I'm Divorce as of Aug 28/2020
I’m trying to get there! I think my true healing will come after the divorce this way I don’t have to ever worry about seeing him ever again! I don’t hate him, I just don’t have any need for him.
Congratulations, enjoy life. I can't wait to be there myself.
Can’t wait until mine is finalized!
Proud of you that will be me in a month or two!
If i witnessed my best friends wife cheating i would confront her on the spot.
Most guys would. However when women confront their friends lovers they get told to stay in their place and mind their business.
I found out from a cab driver even though his whole family knew
Lisa Barrow smh
What? A cab driver
I hope you tipped the cabbie very well 😀
Damn.
This video is 100% facts
It is a moral dilemma to tell someone they are being cheated on. But I'm glad you told me it would be the right thing to do.
Maybe for male narcs but by my ex getting into a new relationship and still being in it, Everyone thinks i was the problem. She would show people my text messages arguing with her and her playing innocent. Like “see how he talks to me?”
Bro that’s facts !! Starting and argument and deleting threads. I kept everything in my phone though!! I look at it like people will believe whatever they want to believe I Know the Truth.. and if they ain’t rocking with me Now then they never was💯...,
@@newlife2657 all of her friends met her new boyfriend and even her oldest son has came back around. He didn’t even want to meet me. It’s weird as hell.
Aye bro....this shit happening right now to me
That's definitely what they do. I'm going through the same thing right now. They are pathological liars always remember that. You can never trust anything they say!!
Thats what they do... they delete and screenshot it to them.
Oh I’m the one who will alarm my friend if I happen to catch their spouse cheating!! I’ve done it before and unfortunately my friend was manipulated by her spouse and she turned on me but I was okay with that because it was obvious that she didn’t respect me as a true friend!!! I’ll even discreetly approach the one cheating and let them know how disrespectful they are and I’m gonna let them know because I truly care about my friend!!
His mother knew and she helped him cheat and meet women, my entire community knew but me, he’s a head coach at a park so ALL attention was on me and I never knew it. And not a SOUL said a thing to me. Yes they laughed behind my back and made me out to be the villain
@Janina Palance Yes God, good thing I’m a SuperEmpath because I shut it down when I realized what was happening to me it is sinister evil at its highest level.
But honestly they should laugh, why not. First it's not your business. Second be proud of it to be a human. You have empathy. You are a personality. It's more than they will ever be!
Exactly what I went through
Everything you said is true brother! You are our voice when we can not tell our story!
That is so true ! I didn't like any of my ex narc friends
Thank You so much for answering my questions. You are the bomb my brother. Peace!
I would tell! No way would I not tell my friend!
Yess sir.... this is a major problem!!! This will definitely reveal who's who in your life!!! U will soon find out u have no friends🤷🏽♀️!!! They rather watch u get tricked and talk about it with others!!! I'm so over it!!!
GOOD EVENING FELLOW EMPATHS HOPE YOU'RE ALL LIVING YOUR BEST LIVES AND LOVING OURSELVES 💖 WE GOT THIS 💪🦅 WHAT HAPPENS IN THE DARK COMES TO THE LIGHT 🤣
Wow so true. Her family, kids neighbors and co-workers. Stuff was crazy.
😊 why do narcissists make you not trust no one anymore no one
YES!!! they know then tell you about it after you leave them everything comes out because they feel like you needed to know!!! confession time 😢
It totally hurts when you own blood sister is the flying monkey and claim it’s to protect her own trifling ass daughter sleeping with my narcissistic.
Right but they telling everybody else, messy AF
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His family knew and my family knew because he was sleeping with my cousin and sister lmao they all betrayed me so yea I’m by myself and I love it that way I can’t and I won’t spend my years of life trying to determine whose who I don’t have the time
Oh my goodness! Im soo sorry! I kept my ex narc away from my family cause I figured out he was just capable of anything...Thats probably the only reason I didnt experience the same as you, dear lady.I will pray for you!
Damn, sis.
I've been a flying monkey before and sometimes you try to warn the new supply that their partner isn't exactly the best or most loyal catch but if you do it during the love bombing stage they won't believe you, in fact if the narc is the same gender you are attracted to, their supply will accuse you of being attracted to or in love with their narc. The narc will run with it too cause they love to triangulate.
I wanted so many times for somebody to just tell me something. If my friends girl was cheating and I knew I would tell. I've always been that way.
I love the way you break this thing down...
Thanks so much Hario keep up the work .if this information had been out I think some people would be much happier. But it's never to late happiness is still in the land . another day above ground is a new day . Be blessed ♥️keep at them Narc I'm going to Nick name you the Narc Slayer lol... Keep at it this helps a lot of people that has became victims of this foolishness. Peace 🤗
Thank you for you gift. You have help so many
These videos help me daily. Thank you 🙏🏽
Realest video yet. I been on the other end of this having close friends and family laughing and smiling in my face, knowing my ex husband was dragging me behind my back as I went to them in comfort. Evil. The lack of integrity and loyalty in people disgusts me. This is why I know we as super empathetic are the chosen few, because I’d never betray my morals , friends, or relationship to these levels. The flying Monkeys are no better than a narc in my opinion. Cut them all out like cancer!
Swine's
Pigs they all got drown in the sea
All the pigs went down in hells bottom less pit no blessings in hell 'the worlds worse mistaken misery what a place to crash in hell worse worser hell hole s
Unforgotten outer darkness weeping and nashing of teeth these evil spirits
are burning in the lake of fire with no peace no resting place they must be Born Again
I had one for 5 mths he kept saying to me you always putting me down he never saw the right thing only the negative at all times he really did not know what right righteousness is Blind as a bat yet he knew everything cris cross upside down head first every day was just like the day before day one every day they are completely stuck in the mud surprisingly these doubters some of them have adult children tolorating their parents
Unfruitful malfunctioning behaviors
Jesus said Father have mercy on them
Narc s are disgusting lower spirits
Laughing storks and they know what a shame and disgrace in the animal kingdom takers pitiful caterpillars
Jack in the boxes its like watching a
Horrible nightmare movie in living color
Same way same thing programed with. Darkness and stubborn no light no sunshine in them left sided however I've been their done that to the pit of hell and back I've overcame the bottomless pit and conquered death hell and the grave with the narc s 3
keyes 3 masks death hell and the grave thanking the Almighty for deliverance Father Mother Son and Holy Ghost Glory to all of us who got redeemed in a higher Mansion this tree knowledge Wisdom and
Understanding
Love&Light
I just think God every day that I made it out of the situation ship what I thought was a relationship with someone that truly was trying to suck all of my good energy and me being a positive person that’s what he used me for to make him look like he was normal but really the whole time he is that monster I’m glad I have the knowledge now to know what that kind of person is capable of doing right in your face they are master manipulators and liars and now those sees that he has song are coming back to haunt him and I want no parts of it I’ve been no contact for the last five months and this has been a long-term situation it’s over now...
People love drama so they can 👄
I don't think I'm the narcissist because my divorce still isn't finalized and I have the kids this weekend and their iPad is connected to All My Ex's stuff. And I'm not even going to go through it. I don't want to know and I don't need to know. What I know is she did me wrong and didn't really love me so I'm moving on.
3 years of misery ended nothing like freedom thank you all for sharing your knowledge and experiences it helps a lot i had 3 in a row and my " lucky" # is 7 hate the thought
My friend not only co sign on his bullshit he was doing to me. When I changed my number her trifling ass gave him my new number. I changed it again and blocked them both because that’s not a friend. I got rid of him, her and all the flying monkeys🐒 . I’ve been winning in all areas of my life ever since.
They already knew and Been knew....
That's a Fact.
Once again, Hario, on point! Exactly what happens! You’re good! 👏👍
Yep and the flying monkeys are still reaching out everyone on block.
Yes its a show..smoke screens and different acts...but me...I call end scene...
You single?
You’re speaking so much truth. OMG!!!! Keep preaching!!!!
My ex narc's flying monkeys were not only her friends and family, but also people I thought were friends and my ex band members, who like a bunch of high school children were bitter when I decided to stop recording music to focus on personal betterment and focussing on my business (which I formerly co owned with the Narc). Especially during covid.
Invests in a PI, had help from neighbors, and trusted my own intuition, as well as the physical indisputable evidence. Of course this was all met with lies, and no admissions were ever made even in the face of all this proof.
This disgusting human being was sleeping with the tenant at our home and others. All while faking wanting marriage and to start a family. It literally makes my stomach turn typing this garbage. She then after bailing on the home, dog, and business would gaslight me into thinking I was crazy, all while sneaking in when I was not home, and pretending to still help with the business to track my movements. Literally the most sick shit I have ever been involved with or experienced in my life. Some people are absolute trash!!
Yes she turned her family agains me even her mum.whem I call my son who lives with his grandmother she tells my son on video call your dad's is bad an no good pure lies his only 5 years old so sad it hurts me to the core how evil them narks an monkeys are
YEP!! And once u realize this boy it pisses u off don't it?!!
@Hario Ovadtop A true friend would never support the narcissist in his deeds, they would not talk about you and they would never spread your business, however they would always be there to support you. However, when it comes to "telling" we really need to proceed with caution. There was a case in Chicago where the friend informed her friend about her boyfriend, the young woman confronted him and she ended up dead, dismembered, and thrown in the woods like trash. While I certainly feel the person being cheated on has EVERY right to know, after this story, we need to think before we speak.
Alot of people don't come fourth because alot of people will actual reveal to the Narc who actually told them. And people dont want to be in the middle if the person let's them know.
Great session...you're a true actor and very humorous...you belong in Hollywood....💯💯💯💯💗💗💗Fran
His lie fell apart about a pink bike....of course in a couse of a couple of days I found out he had an 18 yr relationship with someone else, he paid whores lots of money from the business, they were dosing me thru my food & made me bedridden for almost 3 yrs. I asked God to help me. I met my best friend a day later. Took me more than 5 yrs to gain weight back after being 89 lbs. NOt once did he do anything for me. Now he thinks he is getting money from me after a real estate sale from my mom....LOL I ignore him now as much as I can until I can move out. And baby I am moving
Yup, I'm here. Thank you for clarifying this, Hario!!
I didn't catch this live unfortunately, but appreciate your sharing and time sacrificed that's an interesting challenge there, it may be difficult 😳 as its my kid. Although she doesn't live w me, 26 yes old, I was cari g for her after plastic surgery and she discarded me on the 15th when I asked her nicely not to call me bitch and broke me down in her way out as usual(long story, very long it could be made into a horror novel). She said she never wanted to see me again, so when she called yesterday outta the blue like nothing even ever happened I was taken back but it was too late bc I been watching ur videos a 🔥 minute now and so I was polite and let her pretendo away and as she asked for her items I just complied but when she arrived to pick up her things, I made sure to put them downstairs outside near my vehicle so she could grab them without seeing me. I cried as I watched her leave from window. I could tell it hit her kinda hard bc she just sorta stood there like confused yet I couldn't really see her face but I could tell she was taken back and so I just texted her at that moment watching her, get everything ok? And she said yes. Thank u. Then sent a 2nd text saying Have a good evening. I just replied ok. So I felt like if I saw her it would be lie saying, "Daughter, if u wanna call me Bitch, its ok, and u will always get away with it."
So, that's why I choose the high road, complied w her wants and needs politely and I also allowed her what she has asked originally, which was she never wanted to see me again 🤔
They're just as bad as the Narc
I won't say it but a picture has a thousand words. Inspector gadget in the scene.
Word?
This is all called triangulation by narcs !! Prayer works though!!! ❤️ Love sent.
Hario I miss these ❤ These Videos are amazing Help
damn....you really put it into perspective. I was making excuses for these people
My ex narc was cheating on me finally she told me I was hurt.
0 I understand now when they say I have enough knowledge and info that I need to know to move forward
Saw my neighbour in the school playground one day crying, surrounded by the other mothers who were comforting her. Later on I went over and asked if she was okay..She kind of smirked and then said her boyfŕiend had gone back to his wife...I felt so sorry for her and even invited her and her kids around my house for dinner that night. It turned out her boyfriend was my husband and they had been having an affair for months and the whole village knew about it including my so called friends...I am a very private person and it made me more angrier knowing that my husband has aired my dirty laundry to the whole village..he slinked off and left the village whilst I was left taking my son to school each day having to face all the gossiping and whispers alone..I never said a damned word..
I am so sorry you had to go through this. Truly awful. But you have morals and integrity. Stand firm in that. You can teach your son what true character is about. And anyone gossiping will get their karma eventually. We have nothing to defend if we didn’t do anything wrong. So hold your head up. You can do it
I raised them all by myself my 2 daughters w out their dad and they all wanna shit on me when im down even though I got married when they were adults and married clearly an abusive narc. But I was tricked and I used to ve a strong woman that most would fear to be honest and that changed a she stole my identity and all my self worth where within 8 months I was shaking and by the time we hit 4 years he was head butting me🥺 my kids never care about that it has barely been 2 years since he was abusing me and im still very scared and sick.
Please get away. Make a plan and get away. Go to women's shelter they will help. Maybe the church can help. Some of these channels have coaches. Also maybe the police can help with domestic violence. Please don't give up on yourself there are good people too 💔
This is too on 🎯🎯🎯. Quit playing around, you telling all their secrets!
I know ppl i work with know something but I also understand the work place is not somewhere they want to " get involved " instead they stay silent and I stand looking like a f fool ....or so they think lol patience is a virture
I’m in the middle of this shit right now...🤨