We must remember also that we lowered our standards to stay with that person. The new supply may have default low standards, or temporarily fallen from grace to where they are on a low vibration...but will wake up eventually. If the new supply has default low standards...they will make each other miserable indefinitely. No matter what, there is misery.
Speak for yourself, I never lowered my standards in fact I made sure to pack the house up and relocate. They still try to control my environment and they can kiss my behind.
They are cons... people who haven't lowered their standards going into it with more confidence...presumably are able to leave faster? I lowered my standards. I was married for 20 years to a great man. After he passed away, I was lonely. I thought I would try dating...the narc was a perfect con. I fell from grace. I've studied too much to admit on narcissism now...well over 150 hours in audio books and UA-cam... they are dark angels... a gift even.
I lowered the bar so low my nark still could not meet it. I WILL never forget day I told my ex nark that we were down to nothing $$$$ I watched the nark pupils dilated right in front of me. Freaked me out never saw that ever in my life. Till that moment. Shortly after that my ex nark was planning an escape plan. Actions speaks louder than words can ever!
@Phill Rry I agree💯the truth hurts.... it's hard to accept that we played ourself... but it's the first step to forgiving yourself, we DID have low standards if we could allow manipulation, control, mistreatment and ignore our spirit just to try and fix something that was never designed for fixing, when we should've been looking in we were seeking validation
Yes, it's awful!!! BUT, stay with the truth. Things take time, but you WILL get better. You'll look back & see that they're just not worth it. Binge on videos because the more you educate yourself the faster you'll heal. HANG IN THERE!!! Love to you
It took me 12yrs male dealings with a narcissist women.. i never knew what a narcissist?.. wuz until i use to just ignore this behavior i had enough luv 4 both of us?... nope its a energy VAMPIRE convert
As soon as the Narc sees you smiling or senses you radiating any joy that has Nothing to do with them, they make it their mission to destroy your joy. They want you to be mad/crying/stressing NOT smiling
When I had covid-19. All I thought about was him and then I got angry at myself because this man tried to beat my face in in July. I haven't contacted him. Then all of a sudden he contacts me. But Lord help me. I read it period sometimes three or four times a day. But I refuse I absolutely refuse to answer or be made to feel like I have nothing all over again 💜
Early on, as a "new supply" I felt on top of the world. I honestly wondered "where has this person been all my life?"...I was being love-bombed. One day this person took a cheesecake out of the refrigerator and offered me a piece. I accepted and commented that it was delicious. The person told me it was from Wal Mart. I replied, innocently, "I never shop at Wal Mart, it's always so busy, but after having this, maybe I will.". This person BLEW UP! Smashed his fists onto the table and SCREAMED in my face "I did not ask you where you shop! Listen to me when I explain something to you! Do not be rude to me!" I was absolutely shocked. I have never seen such a tantrum over a comment about where a person prefers to buy groceries. I was afraid and wanted to leave the his apartment and was bullied into staying. How? Easy: he assumed, loudly, cruelly, that I wanted to leave to flirt with the guys who were always hanging out in the front of the building. It was that simple on his behalf. He literally said "you just want to go shake your s**! for those dudes downstairs!" and to prove him wrong, because I rarely even noticed these men hanging out, I stayed for hours. It really is like a form of Stockholm Syndrome. I would love to join your facebook group but due to this persons constant persistence from various accounts, I have deleted social media. I enjoy these videos and the comments so much. I am curious if anyone else has felt the comparison to Stockholm Syndrome? Thanks for reading.
When I was the new supply, it was 5 months into the relationship when the mask came off completely; however, there were definitely red flags I’d seen prior to, that I brushed under the rug. I wanted so badly to have the relationship because he was really attractive, tall; had his stuff together etc., so I was determined he was going to be mine!!!! I truly fell for who I thought he was or had the potential to be. I overlooked the RED FLAGS!! Through my healing, I’m working through forgiving myself. I now know the importance of really taking notice of the red flags. And I absolutely love platforms like this and what Hario is doing because I’ve learned so much about narcissism since Oct 2020. Prior to this time, I’d heard of it but didn’t really know what it was exactly. I’m healing-it was a 2.5 year relationship. 8 months broken up, 4 months complete NC…..So, I’m saying all of this to say, his new supply at this point has definitely seen red flags, and she knows something is off; she is not happy-I’m certain of that!!! She is simply doing the exact same thing I did.
10 years of hell. Only small increments of good, not worth the hell otherwise. Feel like a different person, how did I put up with that?! I’m so happy he’s gone, we’re divorced and I sleep well on this healing journey.
Huge point to make...just because the narcissist is still with the new supply for a number of years MEANS NOTHING! Don’t think for a second it’s something HEALTHY and HAPPY! TIME DOESN’T MEAN SH*T! We’re you any different????
Pride comes before the fall..... that pride of not wanting to admit "they aint the one", pride from pretending your not embarrassed, pride from the humiliation.... once you can accept that you will not make it out alive with this thing.. you will have NO choice but to drop that pride
I totally agree to what you said. This was me. The longer I stayed in the relationship, the more I tried to convince myself that I was happy when deep down inside I was miserable as hell. Everyone around me seen it. I had too much pride and more so felt embarrassed. 2 weeks in, I should of ran because the red flags was thrown all over the place.
@@brittanyashtin it's good to see where we went wrong.... that's beautiful progress .... we know better and now we will DO better, and forgive ourselves as well, wishing you peace and joy moving forward💫💞
@@brittanyashtin The shame makes you hold on to try to change the Jerry Springer storyline. Until you realize that his bullcrap life has nothing to do with YOUR character..Then you exit left...😏
@@mq3177 hard enough to do as a person without a PD, there’s less than a percentile of a chance of a narcissist becoming self-aware and then doing the years of work necessary to even affect MINOR BEHAVIORAL changes, let alone “fixing” any sort of core personality construct.
Update: You are spot on Hario. Two months after the discard, my ex got engaged to the new supply. One month later, the engagement was off and he was hoovering me. I of course did not respond. You are right. Narcissists don’t change and the new supply is miserable as I was when I was the new supply. The cycle continues…
Being human, I do not feel "sorry" for that new/old supply. I found out on my own that he had got engaged behind my back. His family knew of us, his friends, ect all knew and yet he did what he did. I do not stalk social media but I did use it to discover what he lied to me about. The saddest part is that this new/old was using MY pics of "our" events and photoshopping them as if they were hers. What a joke. So insecure. So I finalized it myself. I posted on HER wall the length of "our" relationship (2.5 years) and his LEGAL name. I wished her well. Said, love is blind, and to go with God. The emotional neglect was apparent before hand and so, she actually helped me to slowly detach. Funny thing is that she actually asked him on her wall if he loved her. I guess she already knows he doesn't. He answered "I love you my fatso". OMG! Before he knew that I knew about his "engagement' (no pics on social media of their "togetherness", only my pics that she doctored). I laughed. When I did confront him, his only answer was that all women were all over him. All women were "crazy", I laughed again. He said he did not want to speak with her at all and kept coming after me! Thank God it's over for me. 3.5 months complete no contact for me now. I feel so much better already.
OH mine used to be always getting "sick" to get pity from me. I even sat in a hard chair in the waiting room for him to have x-rays when all he did was fall and bruise his knee.
@@AA-dn7qe super boring, everything is about them, pity Mr everyday party, I don't love him no more, same thing everyday, hooked on some kind of chemical, they deny everything, when they make you mad they turn the tables on you, when other people are around they try to demean you, jelous of you, they don't want a decent life, they want to move every five minutes, they only call you for there bull crap, they will let bad things happen to everyone around them as long as there the center of attention, although they are the crazed nuts that will be called out, they will end up with no friends, I just recently got rid of a frenimy, it frees your mind, I know I said some stuff but it's all true, there is counseling for them only if they or family members help them admit it, which is very so so chance of a real change, anyway y'all, much love, God bless our people that has had to deal with these types, and move on baby, give to God 💛💙💛💙💛😊🌺😊🌺😊💕🌺💕🌺🦋🌺🦋🌺😊🙃🥰
Fifteen years of misery. The harder I tried to please him, the worse he treated me. He discarded me 3 years ago. I moved on. My credit is good. My life is calm and relaxed. I have friends and family around again. Everything is the opposite of everything I experienced with the narcissist!!! His life is a mess! He's miserable. He lost his management position. He's been to detox three times in the past 14 months. His new supply is a huge downgrade from what he had. The moral of the story is that the narcissist cannot change, but you can!!! Stay strong Stay safe and live your happiest, healthiest life!
Being with a narc was the most depressing time of my life. I gained a lot weight and isolated myself from friends and family. He was a complete waste of time and evil as hell! I knew I had to leave or else die.
When I was the new supply about 4 months I was living in hell I was tortured. Constant arguments and manipulation . He always wanted to argue he wanted to break my spirit and to the public eye everything was A okay .
It will take you a while to heal but better days are coming , I am still healing myself he’s has done a lot of damage and self love is key realizing the you are worthy of better is key.
Mirna Liz no problem just remember the narcissist cycle is real , they don’t change EVER and if he was meant for you you guys will still be together, sending love 💕
I saw the word salad from day 1...gave it a year and I bounced...he still calling because he did not get a chance to devalue and disengage...I don't answer any of the calls...Life is so good
Started officially dating in January, by March I was seeing the red flags and by the summer I was miserable having panic attacks and anxiety almost every night
Guess what and you’re right! My ex husband’s new supply contacted me 3 day’s ago saying how he’s beating and cheating on her. As I was listening to her, I thought to myself damn he’s treating her worst. He never put his hands on me. So to hear that I couldn’t believe it. But I don’t put nothing past him. I thought they were so happy according to social media. But that’s a lie. Then she’s 43 and got pregnant by him because she says he ask her to have his baby. I’m like girl he already has 6 kids. I thank god for delivering me from that mess even when I try to hold on to my marriage.
I was married for 10 years and with him for 14. We had twins together but I already had a daughter when I met him, she was seven at the time. Everything between him and I happened very quickly. It was weird because he wasn't even my type, I didn't even want to talk to him, but I listened to my best friend and step out of my comfort zone. I think him and I went on our third date and we went to Chili's I'll never forget it and we were walking in and he told me out of the blue he said you're lucky I'm even with you because normally I date light skin women and he laughed it off and said I was just kidding but me I was like wow! After that incident he started dating his sister's best friend she and I both were pregnant at the same time. It was weird because his whole family hated me except his mom and why I never figured that out but it didn't matter to me. After being with him for a couple of years I found out the truth about a lot of things, he lied and told me that he had two children but at the time he had five. I stayed and when I stayed and accepted that baby I went through pure hell, the twins ended up coming early five and a half months, and I almost lost them but by the grace of God I didn't. We just divorce November 6th 2020 and I was done after he got a 20 year old girl pregnant at his job. He moved her into this nice big house he gave her his car and he told me that he promised her that he would make her comfortable yet he left me very uncomfortable along with past due bills. She thought she really had something because he promised and he even told me that he was going to marry her but he posted on Facebook that he was engaged and the young girl was really pissed, she pulled a knife on him. It's crazy because so young girl was the same one who asked me was I mad, I guess she was insinuating because she had the big house and car that he was renting and financing. He ended up putting the young girl back into the same apartment complex that she lived in when they met, he got his self his own apartment and soon after our divorce was Final and they granted me quite a bit of Child Support and he was very very upset with me he made a statement that he wouldn't be able to afford his rent and that once child support kicked-in he wouldn't be able to afford his rent and would have to move. He has asked me back a million times but GOD wouldn't allow me to and I'm so grateful. To make my long story short this guy now has 9 children in 7 baby mamas. Y'all I thought about writing a book and I'm really considering it because I have a testimonyl. My family and friends said that they would buy it, LOL. I'm still healing because someone that I was so in love with turned his back on me and his children after all those years. I held on as long as I could, I fought for that marriage, literally. One thing that I know for sure God is great and God will get you through anything but you have to ask, you have to give it to him and you have to meditate on his word and don't give up, it does get better. 💞
Its funny that you said he wasn’t your type, because the ex narc I was married to wasn’t my type either. My dad told me that I should give him a chance. It took months to find him attractive. Not to mention when I did meet him the first time he wanted to have sex with me. But that wasn’t me. On that same night I met up with him for the first Time. I found out that he had a girlfriend. I ask him about it and he started to go on about she’s this and she’s that. He said he didn’t want to be with her anymore. So I told him that I was looking for my own man not nobody’s else’s. After that days later he called back sounding sad, saying they broke up. I sad sorry to hear that but I’m not a rebound type of woman. He sad I know I just wanna be friends. He was so consistent with everything. Taking me out to the best of the best restaurants. Bringing me lunch to my job. Cooking for me. The whole nine yards. Like you said everything happened so quick I messed around and slept with him and got pregnant right away. Then there was a proposal. Then married all in 2015. I wanted to wait until 2016 to marry him but he was like he loved me so much and he desired to do it quicker. That was the biggest mistake of my life. I think we all can right a book. The only thing is I have to co parent with him. We have visitation set up but he hasn’t abide by them which is fine by me. I don’t want to deal with him at all. Especially, I don’t want my kids involved in his drama. He’s a child abuser as well. I also found out that he may be bisexual. I’ve heard that while we were married but tried to ignore. Then that’s when his new supply mentioned it to me so I became convinced that it may be true. Keep your head up and keep healing 😘😘😘
Our stories are so similar. I cut him off last month dealing with the kids because he was talking to our 13 year old daughter about his love life as if she is a grown woman, but it was just to get at me.
I know this is an older I just found it tonight, but it came at a perfect time ! I discarded my narc 90 days ago and my mind keeps playing games with me 😢. I keep thinking exactly what you said!!! Like all of a sudden he woke up loving and caring and honest with his new supply 😩. Your 💯 RIGHT! I’m sure he’s lying and cheating and being the big ahole he was with me! Thanks for making this very clear!!!!
2 months I was once the new supply I did not believe the ex when she told me about him I thought he was a great guy he had me fooled I thought she was just jealous I couldn't have been more wrong you are a thousand percent right they are devils in the flesh
Well when I started feeling my narc was cheating and lying is 3 months into the relationship. My spirit was always uneasy around him and it was because he was a devil!👹
Same it’s weird because at first you can’t put your finger on it but your body tells you because you start to feel that ache in your shoulders shivers from your scalp down your spine and stomach in knots
Me too and he always tells it’s my fault because he told me to have an abortion. Like how can you say that? Yet always says how much he loves her abs it doesn’t even sound genuine . Many times he used to some home from work and won’t even say hi to her. I can’t wait for the new supply to see him for who he is. They all think they won this great guy.
@@30lacieful in due time they shall all see.... if I didn't believe anything else.... one thing I know for sure.... they cant hold that mall mask up forever
@@nikkyluv2244 yep. I was stupid to think he was a wonderful person . During my hurting phase I stupidly allow him to cheat on her with me twice, but I saw how stupid I was because for thanksgiving he didn’t even wish me the day. Nothing and that woke me up to how little my self esteem is. He comes to my house asking for sexy all the time . Days before I’ll get text telling me what’s he’s doing but once he gets it I won’t hear from him. I need to love myself and claim my self worth.
He actually said to me I don't change! I was unknowingly the new supply and yes after the lovebombing I was miserable, confused and always on edge. He just had this undelying nasty way. He is out of my life for good now. He had convictions for rape of a young girl! I had no idea. I always knew he was hiding something. Thank God I found out when I did. He was urging me to get married...and had cut himself off from all his family and friends. I was sleeping with a demon...but The Most High saved me👐🏾
Never apologies and I burned some sage that was a Christmas gift. Omg he became a few characters People say oh... Maybe he need help, poor thing. I worst is no conversation but will go through my things, open my mail and say I thought it was mine. So shame on any level. Then to call them out! They go zero to a hundred like a roar. I'm a strong christian and he kept saying I was strong and couldn't break me. Family treat the relationship like a house fire, just go!!! I had no problem leaving the abuse. Another home can be bought. Forget that sale at Macy's and hide the money you were going to spend. Make a quite escape. Love God and yourself and children before your ship sinks. Call a therapist to help you manage
I can attest to this. Yesterday I received unsolicited reports on this. The ex-husband and his current supply are narcissistic. I am not a person who revels in other people’s misery but I am glad to be out of it. The reconfirmation is great. The law of sowing and reaping is biblical. The truth shall set you free.
Stayed for 2years.. the amount of lies that came out after about 60 days and it never ended.. the entire 2yrs he was with his current supply and they are engaged.. I dont want him. But the hurt is horrendous
Although my ex narcissist (female) was ill, I cared for her over three weeks. After my job was done, I was fired :)) I have to laugh sorry, this is just ridicilous. I gave her my time, my money, everything I had, it was never enough and after 17 years of relationship she discarded me. The decision came over night like a light switch, she just went to the beast mode. The mask slipped. I still suffer from this experience. It is just like a nightmare and you want to escape, but it is real! The devil in person, definitely! She acts like I never existed, this is crazy! We empaths especially never get this. We need boundaries and need to protect us! Thank you for your Video bro.
My ex narc was with his new supply for 2 yes. It hurt that he was with her that long. We were together 8 months. But it felt like years. Took me 3 years to get over it. I'm just about through the other side. What made it hard he moved close to me and I had to watch how happy he was while I was getting over him. It hurt like hell but I kept pushing forward with self love and care. I am now happier and it's sweet karma when I found out his world was crumbling.
Think about it this way dear. If it took 3yrs to heal from 8mths of being with him.2yrs might have caused you your life.Consider that short 8mths sentence a blessing.Be well love.
I'm happy you got pass the hurt. I'm still pushing but may God be the Glory he got me through. Pray for him. Karma automatically going to hit. Keep on pushing. God bless you 🙏
Glad l got out , and healing , lm happy, to the narcissistic , good ridens ,these demonic souls r not happy and they will make you miserable, who can live like that
My grandma always said when you put love out there its bound to come back. I guess its the same thing with abuse. Alot of times the new supply tortures the narcissist as well.
@Sammo, Yes absolutely true. I’m torturing mine now. He’s physically abused me for three years, injured my right leg, nearly broke my knee. Damaged my left eye, almost lost my sight, and the most that I believe he enjoyed was beating me while I was pregnant.
I remember being the new supply 12 yrs ago and I think about how he love bombed me and then the ghosting came 1 month later and once I took him back after a week of him ghosting me the devaluing started and then the discards every other month...when I think about it all now after learning about the demon I was dealing with I just smh
We were together less than a year and we were actually breaking up when I got pregnant. Lasted 12 years and everything after the kids was miserable. The girlfriend before me sprinkled out of control after I got pregnant and she passed away. RIP to her. I think about what she probably went through a lot now.
Absolutely TRUE!! 💯 I started to become depressed and very aware of who I was dealing with within about 2 months of the relationship! The shadiness , lies , and just plain change in him almost overnight! And yes , I started googling this and googling that about what the behavior meant! That is when I got quickly familiar with the term " narcissist "! I barely knew the word ( let alone what it meant ) until reading up on it and watching videos! But yes , I became miserable quick after about the 2 month mark!
So did I! After 2 months I started seeing who he truly was.. they say someone can only fake their personality for 90 days but for him his mask came off sooner. It was so crazy how fast he changed in-front of my eyes. The first month was magical and amazing then all hell broke loose
Same thing here!!! At 2 months the games began and he knew what would make me upset by then and took joy in doing that very thing (cancelling plans including my birthday and xmas). I stayed 3 months longer and things just got worse. He's blocked now
She's miserable alright and lacks ettiquettes. She suits the nex perfectly. I felt out of place when I was with his family. They were so greedy and wanted to take everything from me.
My narcissist literally threw a knife at me for no reason and lied and said he had schizophrenia as an excuse. At the beginning of the relationship he mirrored things he knew I was looking for and over time tried to change me. Then he grew to just want to traumatize me. I’ll never understand why. I’m better off now though happier than before I met him to keep it honest. I latch onto every speck of happiness I get now.
Yeah mine used depression and ADHD as his excuse for his shitty behaviour...sorry I don't do excuses regardless of circumstances....first time he dropped the mask and the evil shone through I kicked him out of my life indefinitely xo
After my narc set me up to be SAd , he said he listened to all the voices in his head that lead him there. He tried to convince me he was schizophrenic too. His flying monkey is a demon as well
You are so correct. I took the lovely pictures, went on vacations, feigned that we were growing as a new couple, meanwhile I was always confused by his actions, hot/cold behavior, we are a relationship one minute, then not. His lies and deceptive ways... by three and half months I had gained 15 pounds and was miserable 😩.
I pretended for a long time trying to keep up an image. I kept telling myself it would get better. It got worse the more i pretended. Hario is right 3 months max can a narcissist fake it and another side shows up.
Same.. I tried so hard to not let all the supplies win, but proving I was the chosen one....I had to finally be real wth myself and say just what the hell are you winning when all you've been doing is losing.. why pretend when everyone knows, especially the side chicks, they no how embarrassing he made me look with all that was behind my back....I will never again deny myself the right to bow out with dignity
@@nikkyluv2244 it feels good to stop Pretending and covering up for a loser. I realized we quickly need to walk away from these narcs because karma is coming for them badly. We are not supposed to be around when their “ish” hits the fan. We are winning always 🙌🏽💕
@@ericac2420 wow this is good...I know you probably felt just like I did that doom was always around with that narc and God rescued us to save us from all harm connected.... I'm so glad we're free from the shame of these losers
I had to laugh because it’s obvious that you truly have been in the presence of a narcissist. You have to have been to understand and explain this the way you do. Before I knew what a narcissist was I was so frustrated trying to explain what this person had done to me. So many people were like “Oh well you just got played take the L and move on” but I knew this particular experience was a whole other level! Thanks Hario!
New Supply Moved in with her daughter. Not even a year after I finally said that’s enough ... This fool taking care of a whole family but couldn’t do one thing for our son when I lived in that house until I moved out... I took our 5 year old son jacket off and his shirt said... Single and I’m loving it! ........ Drenched in his father’s cologne.. I said baby take your clothes off and get in the shower .. Shit crazy.. Trying to use triangulation by using our son! But I’m Aware now and had to laugh ! Queens and Kings keep ur head up!
About 2 weeks in I seen red flags , only like 1 month in was when the first time the physical abuse started. It did not take long at all before the mask fell. I know the new supply is miserable even with the happy photos because I was there. I would post “happy” photos when in reality I was so miserable.
My Narc ex actually made me miserable before we even started dating “as friends” very controlling, angry, jealous etc. Somehow I ended up falling for him and he began cheating(or I realized it) at the 3 month mark of us dating while he was living under my roof!! I am Narc free today and although it has been a challenge (taken him back multiple times and each time it was harder and harder for me) I finally was able to love myself back to health and am now living my very best life!! It’s absolutely possible to be you again! Don’t give up on yourselves because that is exactly what they want!!! God bless 🙏🏽❤️
Omg yes you’re speaking to my life! I WAS the new supply and I was so confused and I saw so many red flags. I discarded him after 15 months and it’s been seven months and he has a pic up of his new supply. You are telling no lies!!!!
My ex called my son begging for me to call to fix the new supply emotions. I refused to give any input worthy of saving someone emotions who participated in calling me disturbing my peace. Let her cry😶
It started on the first date.....we went to a bar, I went to toilet and came back to find him texting other women. It hadn't seen me. He was texting other women on our first date? My heart skipped... but I gave him a chance. 3 weeks in and he'll started breaking. Craziest person I ever met
I think the new supply gave him an ultimatum and that’s why they’re married. It’s not gonna last long. I gave him seven or eight ultimatums over five years and then left. He doesn’t wanna be abandoned again but it’s his fate.
They only marry when they HAVE to. It still won't last. How many narcs are out there cheating while they're still legally married? Marriage means nothing to narcs.
My ex of 15 years and two daughters also married his new supply. My daughter explained that he said he didn’t love her and that she gave him an altimatum. They married two years ago after a 4 year relationship. I was devastated. I felt like he was so good to her that she actually wanted to marry him. I thought I was the problem and didn’t realize it when I was in the hell w him. Well the other day my daughter tells Me his new supply cries a lot.. I was shocked!
I was always stressed out wondering who he was sleeping with on his lunch break. Then he complained that I didn't kiss him when I got home from work. I said, "I don't know where your mouth has been".
I wait for that day when narcissism becomes a criminal offence 😌😂😂, seriously, it should be! 😌 The pain and ruined lives they cause! ☹️😓😓😭 ... scums of this world indeed!☹️
You are soooooooo right, I was miserable, would act like we were good. It feels great to be out of that situation. I dealt with mine for 2 years. Things started to change in a year, could not put my finger on what the problem was, but knew something was wrong. Would try to talk about it, but that never worked, thank God I am out of it he left me in NC, best and worst thing that could have happened to me. 😊
Sounds like my situation. I just can't really talk about it. Everybody thinks I am ok but... I'm actually a mess. But I am trying to stay busy. Praying for everyone on here. Be Safe 💜💜
Yes been there a long time but it got easier once I knew how they think and I was always a step ahead from that point on forgive yourself first because you didn’t know then forgive them because the devil is using them to try to destroy God’s Children then move at your own pace but never go back for more THEY NEVER CHANGE 😩
Angela!! Lord Jesus is holding onto you and Loves You!! "And now these three remain: Faith, Hope and Love. But the Greatest of these is Love." 1 Corinthians 13:13 💝
Remember. The CONFUSION of it all is what's so hard. Wherever there are LIES there is confusion. They make no sense. That's what twists up our minds Read the Bible book called PSALMS PSALMS 34 and 37. WICKED PEOPLE HATE GOOD PEOPLE AND PLOT AND SCHEME ON US Sending you much love and much support.
Exactly after 3 months I was like wth is going on!?! 1.5 year with a covert narc off and on after tons of silent treatments, putting me down jokingly, disappearing for days, not answering texts and later on discovered that creep had been stealing some bills from my wallet!! I'm 5 months NC he tried very hard trying to get me back! Even resorted to calling friends and trying to befriend them and get me back or make them his flying monkeys! He failed miserably! That fool overestimated himself and underestimated me! Damn devils!... Love your videos! Keep up the good work 🙏🏼
Oh god the silent treatments were brutal...I was so confused as to what I said or did ...I would loose days of sleep trying to figure out what I did ...so many tears of that
My narc pulled me back in. I went and spent an entire evening with him. Hours and hours. Slept in his arms. Wouldn’t let me go. The next day he disappeared. A week later he changed his profile picture of him with another woman.
Very typical. That's the stuff of demons. They will come back and repeat it again with more excuses and lies until we know the truth. Thank God we're aware now.
I think they just do that to get our hopes up so we will fight the new woman (who they've told we're crazy). They already had the woman before the set up. They just want to see people fight over them. If we just walk away, the narc gets really disappointed and has to fight with the new supply instead.
My ex narcissist used me while he was in prison he did a home plan to my house and never wanted to spend time with me or go anywhere together he was hiding me and acting like he didn’t know me at all to the public he tried to keep me a secret from everyone it caused a serious depression its like he was wearing a mask the whole time then turned evil soon as he was released from prison pure evil and threatening to harm me everyday when I did nothing to even make him feel that way towards me 💔💔💔
The lies were repeating and the triangulation was outrageous once I caught on it was a fight to untangle myself but Gloryyyy to God this knowledge from your channel has gotten me through it effortlessly 🙏🏾💪🏾👏🏾🤗❤️
I dont think they can go 90 days without showing who they really are. In my case by the 90 days i saw the beast but i was so determined to make it work and show him i was worthy of love---- biggest mistake of my life.
I remember when I finally got a car, after walking everywhere for four years. I called my narc friend who lives in another city. We had been talking on the phone for about eight years, every day. I was happy and excited about my "new" used car and called to tell him about it. Instead of congratulating me and rejoicing with and for me, he HUNG UP without a word. 🙄
They idealize you and hold you to standards you can’t meet. So when you disappoint him he throws it at you and lets you know how let down by you he feels
Lol.. my ex narc told me he loved me unconditionally. 😂😂😂😂😂. He would also always respond to my -I love you with- I love you more. 🤮🤮🤮🤮 When I think of that now it makes me want to vomit. What a sack of lies!
We must remember also that we lowered our standards to stay with that person. The new supply may have default low standards, or temporarily fallen from grace to where they are on a low vibration...but will wake up eventually. If the new supply has default low standards...they will make each other miserable indefinitely. No matter what, there is misery.
Speak for yourself, I never lowered my standards in fact I made sure to pack the house up and relocate. They still try to control my environment and they can kiss my behind.
They are cons... people who haven't lowered their standards going into it with more confidence...presumably are able to leave faster? I lowered my standards. I was married for 20 years to a great man. After he passed away, I was lonely. I thought I would try dating...the narc was a perfect con. I fell from grace. I've studied too much to admit on narcissism now...well over 150 hours in audio books and UA-cam... they are dark angels... a gift even.
I lowered my standards and took in a single mom with 2 teenagers.. Never again! Single mom narc. Horrible combo!
I lowered the bar so low my nark still could not meet it. I WILL never forget day I told my ex nark that we were down to nothing $$$$ I watched the nark pupils dilated right in front of me. Freaked me out never saw that ever in my life. Till that moment. Shortly after that my ex nark was planning an escape plan. Actions speaks louder than words can ever!
@Phill Rry I agree💯the truth hurts.... it's hard to accept that we played ourself... but it's the first step to forgiving yourself, we DID have low standards if we could allow manipulation, control, mistreatment and ignore our spirit just to try and fix something that was never designed for fixing, when we should've been looking in we were seeking validation
I feel so sick to my stomach now that my eyes are wide open.
Yes, it's awful!!! BUT, stay with the truth. Things take time, but you WILL get better. You'll look back & see that they're just not worth it. Binge on videos because the more you educate yourself the faster you'll heal. HANG IN THERE!!! Love to you
Me too. Knowing the truth made me throw up. Absolutely disgusting!
It took me 12yrs male dealings with a narcissist women.. i never knew what a narcissist?.. wuz until i use to just ignore this behavior i had enough luv 4 both of us?... nope its a energy VAMPIRE convert
Your not the only one 😳🌹🌹
You are not alone. I saw the signs and chose to ignore them because he gaslighted me.
As soon as the Narc sees you smiling or senses you radiating any joy that has Nothing to do with them, they make it their mission to destroy your joy. They want you to be mad/crying/stressing NOT smiling
I really don't understand. I keep breaking down asking why did he pick me ? But you are so right period when I head cold 19
When I had covid-19. All I thought about was him and then I got angry at myself because this man tried to beat my face in in July. I haven't contacted him. Then all of a sudden he contacts me. But Lord help me. I read it period sometimes three or four times a day. But I refuse I absolutely refuse to answer or be made to feel like I have nothing all over again 💜
My mother used to do that to me, but thank God now I know what is going on!!
So so true.
Interesting how they hide us and get away with it. It's a choice well...on both people.
Haha she dumped him...an hes hovering me....there's no way I'm going back!!! Toodles I'm done
Stay strong. Dont ever give your power or your life to someone who doesn't deserve it.
I'm so jealous, I so want this to be me so I could tell him to kiss my @@s
@@givegodthanks dont be jealous! Thank god the devil isn't tempting you. THEY ARE EVIL PEOPLE AND DON'T EVEN DESERVE YOUR ASS TO KISS. 🏋🏻♀️💪
@@jesawalker true 💯💯👌
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My father ALWAYS said, leopard's don't change their spots! PERIOD!
But they change their route. Sad
A ducks a duck.
Exactly...💯💯💯
A zebra dont change its stripes
Very true well said.
My husband of 21 years told me to my face that he is using the new supply and he said " I can't stop" In that moment I knew I had been used too!!!
They get mad when you rejected them.
Early on, as a "new supply" I felt on top of the world. I honestly wondered "where has this person been all my life?"...I was being love-bombed. One day this person took a cheesecake out of the refrigerator and offered me a piece. I accepted and commented that it was delicious. The person told me it was from Wal Mart. I replied, innocently, "I never shop at Wal Mart, it's always so busy, but after having this, maybe I will.". This person BLEW UP! Smashed his fists onto the table and SCREAMED in my face "I did not ask you where you shop! Listen to me when I explain something to you! Do not be rude to me!" I was absolutely shocked. I have never seen such a tantrum over a comment about where a person prefers to buy groceries. I was afraid and wanted to leave the his apartment and was bullied into staying. How? Easy: he assumed, loudly, cruelly, that I wanted to leave to flirt with the guys who were always hanging out in the front of the building. It was that simple on his behalf. He literally said "you just want to go shake your s**! for those dudes downstairs!" and to prove him wrong, because I rarely even noticed these men hanging out, I stayed for hours. It really is like a form of Stockholm Syndrome. I would love to join your facebook group but due to this persons constant persistence from various accounts, I have deleted social media.
I enjoy these videos and the comments so much.
I am curious if anyone else has felt the comparison to Stockholm Syndrome? Thanks for reading.
The narcissist stabbed me in the back so hard they even robbed me of my time , money ,life . They are pure evil !
An when they stab you the say you aren't bleeding
Facts
Stay on gurad for such people
Yes they are. Demons 😈
This! 💨
When I was the new supply, it was 5 months into the relationship when the mask came off completely; however, there were definitely red flags I’d seen prior to, that I brushed under the rug. I wanted so badly to have the relationship because he was really attractive, tall; had his stuff together etc., so I was determined he was going to be mine!!!! I truly fell for who I thought he was or had the potential to be. I overlooked the RED FLAGS!! Through my healing, I’m working through forgiving myself. I now know the importance of really taking notice of the red flags. And I absolutely love platforms like this and what Hario is doing because I’ve learned so much about narcissism since Oct 2020. Prior to this time, I’d heard of it but didn’t really know what it was exactly. I’m healing-it was a 2.5 year relationship. 8 months broken up, 4 months complete NC…..So, I’m saying all of this to say, his new supply at this point has definitely seen red flags, and she knows something is off; she is not happy-I’m certain of that!!! She is simply doing the exact same thing I did.
He seemed so nice at first. I feel like I’m grieving the loss of a person that never existed
Yes 🙌 lost my husband 15 years ago and after this fool it felt sort of the same yet differently 🙏🏽💯🙌🙏🏽💯🙌🙏🏽💯
When your with a narc you look at other couples and wonder what that is like must be nice.
@@awarehafeez7783 same I did too
All the timeeeez
When your with a narc, you look at single ppl n be like...”Damn I miss the single life!”
Yes yes yes ohh how I use to want to feel that love that other couples had
Ain’t that the truth!
It took about 3 months and I was like this aint it.
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Same girl same!! Glad we seen it that soon!! Longest 3 months of my life!!
Yep same here
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Girl you faster than most !!
Telling the truth! I was MISERABLE THE WHOLE 10 years and I made it look like I was not smh
Girl, same 🙋🏾♀️ 10 yrs of misery and pure hell!!
25yrs here I thank God that he gave me the strength and power to get out!!!!
I got married in October 2022 and separated by jan.07 2022
Me too 😢
10 years of hell. Only small increments of good, not worth the hell otherwise. Feel like a different person, how did I put up with that?! I’m so happy he’s gone, we’re divorced and I sleep well on this healing journey.
Huge point to make...just because the narcissist is still with the new supply for a number of years MEANS NOTHING! Don’t think for a second it’s something HEALTHY and HAPPY! TIME DOESN’T MEAN SH*T! We’re you any different????
Narcs never change never
Gemini 123 they never will change. You right
I think they change. They get worse.
Pride comes before the fall..... that pride of not wanting to admit "they aint the one", pride from pretending your not embarrassed, pride from the humiliation.... once you can accept that you will not make it out alive with this thing.. you will have NO choice but to drop that pride
Who will listen but this Narc survivor community who refuses to send help!
I totally agree to what you said. This was me. The longer I stayed in the relationship, the more I tried to convince myself that I was happy when deep down inside I was miserable as hell. Everyone around me seen it. I had too much pride and more so felt embarrassed. 2 weeks in, I should of ran because the red flags was thrown all over the place.
@@brittanyashtin it's good to see where we went wrong.... that's beautiful progress .... we know better and now we will DO better, and forgive ourselves as well, wishing you peace and joy moving forward💫💞
@@brittanyashtin The shame makes you hold on to try to change the Jerry Springer storyline. Until you realize that his bullcrap life has nothing to do with YOUR character..Then you exit left...😏
Omg yess!!!
Unless that jezebel spirit completely submits to Christ as their Savior and truly repents, they won't change.
@@mq3177 hard enough to do as a person without a PD, there’s less than a percentile of a chance of a narcissist becoming self-aware and then doing the years of work necessary to even affect MINOR BEHAVIORAL changes, let alone “fixing” any sort of core personality construct.
Update: You are spot on Hario. Two months after the discard, my ex got engaged to the new supply. One month later, the engagement was off and he was hoovering me. I of course did not respond. You are right. Narcissists don’t change and the
new supply is miserable as I was when I was the new supply. The cycle continues…
Being human, I do not feel "sorry" for that new/old supply. I found out on my own that he had got engaged behind my back. His family knew of us, his friends, ect all knew and yet he did what he did. I do not stalk social media but I did use it to discover what he lied to me about. The saddest part is that this new/old was using MY pics of "our" events and photoshopping them as if they were hers. What a joke. So insecure. So I finalized it myself. I posted on HER wall the length of "our" relationship (2.5 years) and his LEGAL name. I wished her well. Said, love is blind, and to go with God. The emotional neglect was apparent before hand and so, she actually helped me to slowly detach. Funny thing is that she actually asked him on her wall if he loved her. I guess she already knows he doesn't. He answered "I love you my fatso". OMG! Before he knew that I knew about his "engagement' (no pics on social media of their "togetherness", only my pics that she doctored). I laughed. When I did confront him, his only answer was that all women were all over him. All women were "crazy", I laughed again. He said he did not want to speak with her at all and kept coming after me! Thank God it's over for me. 3.5 months complete no contact for me now. I feel so much better already.
You right abt the credit, soon as he purchased 56,00 00, car he left, wow
Narc called me 5 times in one night at 130am...tried telling me he had been in the hospital for 3 days...nah bruh you can't get me again
Damn he got the wrong number! 😂
OH mine used to be always getting "sick" to get pity from me. I even sat in a hard chair in the waiting room for him to have x-rays when all he did was fall and bruise his knee.
Yes I remember what it was like to be with the narcissist he was draining and toxic everyday something new that was bad putting all his burdens on me
They are so dramatic, draining, and boring... Beyond boring!!!
The yoke
@@AA-dn7qe super boring, everything is about them, pity Mr everyday party, I don't love him no more, same thing everyday, hooked on some kind of chemical, they deny everything, when they make you mad they turn the tables on you, when other people are around they try to demean you, jelous of you, they don't want a decent life, they want to move every five minutes, they only call you for there bull crap, they will let bad things happen to everyone around them as long as there the center of attention, although they are the crazed nuts that will be called out, they will end up with no friends, I just recently got rid of a frenimy, it frees your mind, I know I said some stuff but it's all true, there is counseling for them only if they or family members help them admit it, which is very so so chance of a real change, anyway y'all, much love, God bless our people that has had to deal with these types, and move on baby, give to God 💛💙💛💙💛😊🌺😊🌺😊💕🌺💕🌺🦋🌺🦋🌺😊🙃🥰
I was always so sleepy around this man now that he’s gone I’m getting so much done! That energy he exudes was draining tf out of me’
It was 2 months into the relationship is when my ex started his stupid mess. I stayed too long. I should have discarded him long before I did.
Me too, it hurts but it's the trauma bond that kills and baits us
That speaks volumes and should resonate loudly with all of us because we all stay too long. Waaay too long!
Yeah went back multiple times and it never got better it got wayyy worse and always had another baby on the way smh
Me too girl. I should’ve done it on our first date. I disrespected myself
Well one thing is for sure, these narcs are certainly not huggytime friends.
Fifteen years of misery. The harder I tried to please him, the worse he treated me. He discarded me 3 years ago. I moved on. My credit is good. My life is calm and relaxed.
I have friends and family around again. Everything is the opposite of everything I experienced with the narcissist!!!
His life is a mess! He's miserable. He lost his management position. He's been to detox three times in the past 14 months. His new supply is a huge downgrade from what he had.
The moral of the story is that the narcissist cannot change, but you can!!!
Stay strong
Stay safe and live your happiest, healthiest life!
Being with a narc was the most depressing time of my life. I gained a lot weight and isolated myself from friends and family. He was a complete waste of time and evil as hell! I knew I had to leave or else die.
Thank JESUS for your DELIVERANCE 🙌🙌🙌
I was with mine for 11 years…the trama bond was strong…I finally got out. Crazy how we look back n see what we did for “ love” stay strong ❤
When I was the new supply about 4 months I was living in hell I was tortured. Constant arguments and manipulation . He always wanted to argue he wanted to break my spirit and to the public eye everything was A okay .
I love your comment! The new supply doesn't share enough. Now we're learning, Thank You! 😘
Thanks... I'm still suffering...
It will take you a while to heal but better days are coming , I am still healing myself he’s has done a lot of damage and self love is key realizing the you are worthy of better is key.
@@i.am.you.beauty8428 Thank you very much! It is so hard for me to believe that she is being mistreated... Thanks for the support!
Mirna Liz no problem just remember the narcissist cycle is real , they don’t change EVER and if he was meant for you you guys will still be together, sending love 💕
You speak facts because looking back some of the best pictures I took with my ex narc I was miserable in.
Lol!!!! Ikr!!!! Same here!!!
🎯🎯🎯!!
Girl and was forcing myself to believe my own lie
Same
AMEN
I just want to say that your videos literally saved me. Because of you, I don’t feel helpless and depressed anymore.
I saw the word salad from day 1...gave it a year and I bounced...he still calling because he did not get a chance to devalue and disengage...I don't answer any of the calls...Life is so good
Nice, wish I did the same with mine but the box was too good honestly lol
Started officially dating in January, by March I was seeing the red flags and by the summer I was miserable having panic attacks and anxiety almost every night
Guess what and you’re right! My ex husband’s new supply contacted me 3 day’s ago saying how he’s beating and cheating on her. As I was listening to her, I thought to myself damn he’s treating her worst. He never put his hands on me. So to hear that I couldn’t believe it. But I don’t put nothing past him. I thought they were so happy according to social media. But that’s a lie. Then she’s 43 and got pregnant by him because she says he ask her to have his baby. I’m like girl he already has 6 kids. I thank god for delivering me from that mess even when I try to hold on to my marriage.
I was married for 10 years and with him for 14. We had twins together but I already had a daughter when I met him, she was seven at the time. Everything between him and I happened very quickly. It was weird because he wasn't even my type, I didn't even want to talk to him, but I listened to my best friend and step out of my comfort zone. I think him and I went on our third date and we went to Chili's I'll never forget it and we were walking in and he told me out of the blue he said you're lucky I'm even with you because normally I date light skin women and he laughed it off and said I was just kidding but me I was like wow! After that incident he started dating his sister's best friend she and I both were pregnant at the same time. It was weird because his whole family hated me except his mom and why I never figured that out but it didn't matter to me. After being with him for a couple of years I found out the truth about a lot of things, he lied and told me that he had two children but at the time he had five. I stayed and when I stayed and accepted that baby I went through pure hell, the twins ended up coming early five and a half months, and I almost lost them but by the grace of God I didn't. We just divorce November 6th 2020 and I was done after he got a 20 year old girl pregnant at his job. He moved her into this nice big house he gave her his car and he told me that he promised her that he would make her comfortable yet he left me very uncomfortable along with past due bills. She thought she really had something because he promised and he even told me that he was going to marry her but he posted on Facebook that he was engaged and the young girl was really pissed, she pulled a knife on him. It's crazy because so young girl was the same one who asked me was I mad, I guess she was insinuating because she had the big house and car that he was renting and financing. He ended up putting the young girl back into the same apartment complex that she lived in when they met, he got his self his own apartment and soon after our divorce was Final and they granted me quite a bit of Child Support and he was very very upset with me he made a statement that he wouldn't be able to afford his rent and that once child support kicked-in he wouldn't be able to afford his rent and would have to move. He has asked me back a million times but GOD wouldn't allow me to and I'm so grateful. To make my long story short this guy now has 9 children in 7 baby mamas. Y'all I thought about writing a book and I'm really considering it because I have a testimonyl. My family and friends said that they would buy it, LOL. I'm still healing because someone that I was so in love with turned his back on me and his children after all those years. I held on as long as I could, I fought for that marriage, literally. One thing that I know for sure God is great and God will get you through anything but you have to ask, you have to give it to him and you have to meditate on his word and don't give up, it does get better. 💞
Its funny that you said he wasn’t your type, because the ex narc I was married to wasn’t my type either. My dad told me that I should give him a chance. It took months to find him attractive. Not to mention when I did meet him the first time he wanted to have sex with me. But that wasn’t me. On that same night I met up with him for the first Time. I found out that he had a girlfriend. I ask him about it and he started to go on about she’s this and she’s that. He said he didn’t want to be with her anymore. So I told him that I was looking for my own man not nobody’s else’s. After that days later he called back sounding sad, saying they broke up. I sad sorry to hear that but I’m not a rebound type of woman. He sad I know I just wanna be friends. He was so consistent with everything. Taking me out to the best of the best restaurants. Bringing me lunch to my job. Cooking for me. The whole nine yards. Like you said everything happened so quick I messed around and slept with him and got pregnant right away. Then there was a proposal. Then married all in 2015. I wanted to wait until 2016 to marry him but he was like he loved me so much and he desired to do it quicker. That was the biggest mistake of my life. I think we all can right a book. The only thing is I have to co parent with him. We have visitation set up but he hasn’t abide by them which is fine by me. I don’t want to deal with him at all. Especially, I don’t want my kids involved in his drama. He’s a child abuser as well. I also found out that he may be bisexual. I’ve heard that while we were married but tried to ignore. Then that’s when his new supply mentioned it to me so I became convinced that it may be true. Keep your head up and keep healing 😘😘😘
Our stories are so similar. I cut him off last month dealing with the kids because he was talking to our 13 year old daughter about his love life as if she is a grown woman, but it was just to get at me.
@@sammybrown5709 wow! That’s sickening 🤦🏾♀️
Wow 😳
I know this is an older I just found it tonight, but it came at a perfect time ! I discarded my narc 90 days ago and my mind keeps playing games with me 😢. I keep thinking exactly what you said!!! Like all of a sudden he woke up loving and caring and honest with his new supply 😩. Your 💯 RIGHT! I’m sure he’s lying and cheating and being the big ahole he was with me! Thanks for making this very clear!!!!
Narc’s don’t change
2 months I was once the new supply I did not believe the ex when she told me about him I thought he was a great guy he had me fooled I thought she was just jealous I couldn't have been more wrong you are a thousand percent right they are devils in the flesh
They can’t make anyone happy
gemini from another gemini!
Another GeminI here too!! We stand in agreement and that is CONFIRMATION!!! Narcs are poison! I’m glad we all got away and got out!!!
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They don't want to
The narc i met was a Gemini i hate geminis hard to believe
Well when I started feeling my narc was cheating and lying is 3 months into the relationship. My spirit was always uneasy around him and it was because he was a devil!👹
Same it’s weird because at first you can’t put your finger on it but your body tells you because you start to feel that ache in your shoulders shivers from your scalp down your spine and stomach in knots
Mins was 4 and I stayed for 6 years. What leeches.
Facts Sis’ energy doesn’t lie. I felt the same thing. The Holy Spirit and an evil spirit will always be in conflict.
I was the most miserable person in the whole world. Not even 90 days into the marriage.
I felt same way!
Wow
We escaped while others fell in the trap.Just pray for those who fell in. Love you Hario you're the best
It’s even worse when u have a kid with the narcissist like myself idk why he gave me a kid maybe so he can always come back and do damage
That's exactly why.... attachment for life... don't worry my first narc use to actually poke holes in the condom....
Me too and he always tells it’s my fault because he told me to have an abortion. Like how can you say that? Yet always says how much he loves her abs it doesn’t even sound genuine . Many times he used to some home from work and won’t even say hi to her. I can’t wait for the new supply to see him for who he is. They all think they won this great guy.
@@30lacieful in due time they shall all see.... if I didn't believe anything else.... one thing I know for sure.... they cant hold that mall mask up forever
@@nikkyluv2244 yep. I was stupid to think he was a wonderful person . During my hurting phase I stupidly allow him to cheat on her with me twice, but I saw how stupid I was because for thanksgiving he didn’t even wish me the day. Nothing and that woke me up to how little my self esteem is. He comes to my house asking for sexy all the time . Days before I’ll get text telling me what’s he’s doing but once he gets it I won’t hear from him. I need to love myself and claim my self worth.
That’s exactly why! They will show you over time that they don’t love you or the kid
He actually said to me I don't change! I was unknowingly the new supply and yes after the lovebombing I was miserable, confused and always on edge. He just had this undelying nasty way. He is out of my life for good now. He had convictions for rape of a young girl! I had no idea. I always knew he was hiding something. Thank God I found out when I did. He was urging me to get married...and had cut himself off from all his family and friends.
I was sleeping with a demon...but The Most High saved me👐🏾
Me myself and I like it was a song. F God He never did anything for me!!! All he keeps saying. Ministers tried helping but they got love bombed to
Never apologies and I burned some sage that was a Christmas gift. Omg he became a few characters
People say oh... Maybe he need help, poor thing. I worst is no conversation but will go through my things, open my mail and say I thought it was mine. So shame on any level. Then to call them out! They go zero to a hundred like a roar.
I'm a strong christian and he kept saying I was strong and couldn't break me.
Family treat the relationship like a house fire, just go!!!
I had no problem leaving the abuse. Another home can be bought.
Forget that sale at Macy's and hide the money you were going to spend.
Make a quite escape. Love God and yourself and children before your ship sinks.
Call a therapist to help you manage
Was this person from Boston? Donna!
That’s was scary the narcissist send me that picture of us in Florida but all I remember is that those days was very miserable , angry and exhausted.
I can attest to this. Yesterday I received unsolicited reports on this. The ex-husband and his current supply are narcissistic. I am not a person who revels in other people’s misery but I am glad to be out of it. The reconfirmation is great. The law of sowing and reaping is biblical. The truth shall set you free.
90 days I was ready for the door, it was terrible .
Stayed for 2years.. the amount of lies that came out after about 60 days and it never ended.. the entire 2yrs he was with his current supply and they are engaged.. I dont want him. But the hurt is horrendous
Although my ex narcissist (female) was ill, I cared for her over three weeks. After my job was done, I was fired :)) I have to laugh sorry, this is just ridicilous. I gave her my time, my money, everything I had, it was never enough and after 17 years of relationship she discarded me. The decision came over night like a light switch, she just went to the beast mode. The mask slipped. I still suffer from this experience. It is just like a nightmare and you want to escape, but it is real! The devil in person, definitely! She acts like I never existed, this is crazy! We empaths especially never get this. We need boundaries and need to protect us! Thank you for your Video bro.
My ex narc was with his new supply for 2 yes. It hurt that he was with her that long. We were together 8 months. But it felt like years. Took me 3 years to get over it. I'm just about through the other side. What made it hard he moved close to me and I had to watch how happy he was while I was getting over him. It hurt like hell but I kept pushing forward with self love and care. I am now happier and it's sweet karma when I found out his world was crumbling.
They are never happy... you go on and live your life ❤️ you are worthy and beautiful 👑
Think about it this way dear. If it took 3yrs to heal from 8mths of being with him.2yrs might have caused you your life.Consider that short 8mths sentence a blessing.Be well love.
@@i-seeyourbs.1996 well said👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I'm happy you got pass the hurt. I'm still pushing but may God be the Glory he got me through. Pray for him. Karma automatically going to hit. Keep on pushing. God bless you 🙏
Glad l got out , and healing , lm happy, to the narcissistic , good ridens ,these demonic souls r not happy and they will make you miserable, who can live like that
My grandma always said when you put love out there its bound to come back. I guess its the same thing with abuse. Alot of times the new supply tortures the narcissist as well.
@Sammo, Yes absolutely true. I’m torturing mine now. He’s physically abused me for three years, injured my right leg, nearly broke my knee. Damaged my left eye, almost lost my sight, and the most that I believe he enjoyed was beating me while I was pregnant.
Sounds like a situation that’s beneath you. @@oldsoul5310
I hope so!!! 🤞🏻yes please!!
I bet like tf she is miserable. If the new supply was happy, I would've never left😂😂😂
He ain't lying y'all. Evil guides these individuals. Thank you Hario. Love and prayers! 💜💜💜
Still on my journey and 3 weeks no narc contact #yasssss
Up up from Ireland
Hang in there, and stay strong and continue no contact if you’re really looking to heal. They will hover; THATS GUARANTEED!
Its now been almost a year since Oct/Nov and I've had such a wonderful drama free life and thee best is yet to come #BLESSINGS
That is WONDERFUL!!!! I’m so glad for you. It’s truly a journey-peacelove&light💕
Three weeks no contact its hard
I remember being the new supply 12 yrs ago and I think about how he love bombed me and then the ghosting came 1 month later and once I took him back after a week of him ghosting me the devaluing started and then the discards every other month...when I think about it all now after learning about the demon I was dealing with I just smh
We were together less than a year and we were actually breaking up when I got pregnant. Lasted 12 years and everything after the kids was miserable. The girlfriend before me sprinkled out of control after I got pregnant and she passed away. RIP to her. I think about what she probably went through a lot now.
3 months the crazy came out. And this video tells the truth. All u described i went through. I wish this treatment on no one.
Chicago love
I was with him for 12 years! And I was miserable from day one!
I was broke down in a matter of weeks, even after I was told about him , but I kept playing the role
Absolutely TRUE!! 💯
I started to become depressed and very aware of who I was dealing with within about 2 months of the relationship! The shadiness , lies , and just plain change in him almost overnight! And yes , I started googling this and googling that about what the behavior meant! That is when I got quickly familiar with the term " narcissist "!
I barely knew the word ( let alone what it meant ) until reading up on it and watching videos! But yes , I became miserable quick after about the 2 month mark!
@Kelly Ellis, how long did you stay in the relationship?
So did I! After 2 months I started seeing who he truly was.. they say someone can only fake their personality for 90 days but for him his mask came off sooner. It was so crazy how fast he changed in-front of my eyes. The first month was magical and amazing then all hell broke loose
Facts!
Same thing here!!! At 2 months the games began and he knew what would make me upset by then and took joy in doing that very thing (cancelling plans including my birthday and xmas). I stayed 3 months longer and things just got worse. He's blocked now
@@lauryn7490 Ditto! At 2 months came the change!
Yup about 90 days before I started to get confused....
The infatuation phase is the perfect disguise for the narrasisst. They know how to lay it on thick in the beginning.
She's miserable alright and lacks ettiquettes. She suits the nex perfectly. I felt out of place when I was with his family. They were so greedy and wanted to take everything from me.
Same here! So glad I left his ass.
I did too.. I always felt like I was being asked to audition, and I don't kiss behinds soooo.... they are a family of narcs
Same here... Family needed a place to stay, money, food, rides...nothing was good enough
Hes dad even asked me for money, I think the rest of the family was ok, but is this common that they are all in it?
@@sandraherrera6207 I wouldn't say all and all the time, but a narc doesn't fall too far from a narc tree
My narc even got mad at me when I read my Bible.
My narcissist literally threw a knife at me for no reason and lied and said he had schizophrenia as an excuse. At the beginning of the relationship he mirrored things he knew I was looking for and over time tried to change me. Then he grew to just want to traumatize me. I’ll never understand why. I’m better off now though happier than before I met him to keep it honest. I latch onto every speck of happiness I get now.
Yeah mine used depression and ADHD as his excuse for his shitty behaviour...sorry I don't do excuses regardless of circumstances....first time he dropped the mask and the evil shone through I kicked him out of my life indefinitely xo
After my narc set me up to be SAd , he said he listened to all the voices in his head that lead him there. He tried to convince me he was schizophrenic too. His flying monkey is a demon as well
The new supply told me she knows my ex narc more than he knows himself - I think she a narc too
The new supply is miserable now after two years hence why I’m being hovered right now
I'm being hoovered a month after he made him and his new supply facebook official 🤦🏾♀️
Crazy but on our second date this man already made me feel like ish 🤦🏻♀️ I stayed 5 years
You are so correct. I took the lovely pictures, went on vacations, feigned that we were growing as a new couple, meanwhile I was always confused by his actions, hot/cold behavior, we are a relationship one minute, then not. His lies and deceptive ways... by three and half months I had gained 15 pounds and was miserable 😩.
I pretended for a long time trying to keep up an image. I kept telling myself it would get better. It got worse the more i pretended. Hario is right 3 months max can a narcissist fake it and another side shows up.
Same.. I tried so hard to not let all the supplies win, but proving I was the chosen one....I had to finally be real wth myself and say just what the hell are you winning when all you've been doing is losing.. why pretend when everyone knows, especially the side chicks, they no how embarrassing he made me look with all that was behind my back....I will never again deny myself the right to bow out with dignity
@Sigma Blade smh oh the lessons
@@nikkyluv2244 it feels good to stop
Pretending and covering up for a loser. I realized we quickly need to walk away from these narcs because karma is coming for them badly. We are not supposed to be around when their “ish” hits the fan. We are winning always 🙌🏽💕
@@ericac2420 wow this is good...I know you probably felt just like I did that doom was always around with that narc and God rescued us to save us from all harm connected.... I'm so glad we're free from the shame of these losers
Mine faked it for a year and a half then got exposed and became a monster.
I had to laugh because it’s obvious that you truly have been in the presence of a narcissist. You have to have been to understand and explain this the way you do. Before I knew what a narcissist was I was so frustrated trying to explain what this person had done to me. So many people were like “Oh well you just got played take the L and move on” but I knew this particular experience was a whole other level! Thanks Hario!
The grace of God is something they battle with
Everyday for ten years I was miserable and depressed , none knew except my family until I wrote a book..
New Supply Moved in with her daughter. Not even a year after I finally said that’s enough ... This fool taking care of a whole family but couldn’t do one thing for our son when I lived in that house until I moved out... I took our 5 year old son jacket off and his shirt said... Single and I’m loving it! ........ Drenched in his father’s cologne.. I said baby take your clothes off and get in the shower .. Shit crazy.. Trying to use triangulation by using our son! But I’m Aware now and had to laugh ! Queens and Kings keep ur head up!
I can attest. The narcs new supply has been around for a min most likely. When I found out about her I caught him cheating on her too lolol
Mines didn't have any money he just held me back from making my own
This is true! I don't know how the new supply is dealing with his snoring 🤣
About 2 weeks in I seen red flags , only like 1 month in was when the first time the physical abuse started. It did not take long at all before the mask fell. I know the new supply is miserable even with the happy photos because I was there. I would post “happy” photos when in reality I was so miserable.
She wanted that toxic devil. He's hers
She cheated with him being ugly to me. You got it
They love drama if it ain't no drama they make drama
My Narc ex actually made me miserable before we even started dating “as friends” very controlling, angry, jealous etc. Somehow I ended up falling for him and he began cheating(or I realized it) at the 3 month mark of us dating while he was living under my roof!! I am Narc free today and although it has been a challenge (taken him back multiple times and each time it was harder and harder for me) I finally was able to love myself back to health and am now living my very best life!! It’s absolutely possible to be you again! Don’t give up on yourselves because that is exactly what they want!!! God bless 🙏🏽❤️
Hell yeah stay strong 🎉❤
Took me 3 weeks to feel like a prisoner.
Omg yes you’re speaking to my life! I WAS the new supply and I was so confused and I saw so many red flags. I discarded him after 15 months and it’s been seven months and he has a pic up of his new supply. You are telling no lies!!!!
My ex called my son begging for me to call to fix the new supply emotions. I refused to give any input worthy of saving someone emotions who participated in calling me disturbing my peace. Let her cry😶
It started on the first date.....we went to a bar, I went to toilet and came back to find him texting other women. It hadn't seen me. He was texting other women on our first date? My heart skipped... but I gave him a chance. 3 weeks in and he'll started breaking. Craziest person I ever met
I think the new supply gave him an ultimatum and that’s why they’re married. It’s not gonna last long. I gave him seven or eight ultimatums over five years and then left. He doesn’t wanna be abandoned again but it’s his fate.
They only marry when they HAVE to. It still won't last. How many narcs are out there cheating while they're still legally married? Marriage means nothing to narcs.
My ex of 15 years and two daughters also married his new supply. My daughter explained that he said he didn’t love her and that she gave him an altimatum.
They married two years ago after a 4 year relationship. I was devastated.
I felt like he was so good to her that she actually wanted to marry him.
I thought I was the problem and didn’t realize it when I was in the hell w him.
Well the other day my daughter tells
Me his new supply cries a lot.. I was shocked!
Every time you called them the devil I chuckled.... so true! These people are sick!
No one act like that but the devil.
3.5 months..then the game began
I was always stressed out wondering who he was sleeping with on his lunch break. Then he complained that I didn't kiss him when I got home from work. I said, "I don't know where your mouth has been".
I wait for that day when narcissism becomes a criminal offence 😌😂😂, seriously, it should be! 😌
The pain and ruined lives they cause! ☹️😓😓😭 ... scums of this world indeed!☹️
You are soooooooo right, I was miserable, would act like we were good. It feels great to be out of that situation. I dealt with mine for 2 years. Things started to change in a year, could not put my finger on what the problem was, but knew something was wrong. Would try to talk about it, but that never worked, thank God I am out of it he left me in NC, best and worst thing that could have happened to me. 😊
Sounds like my situation. I just can't really talk about it. Everybody thinks I am ok but... I'm actually a mess. But I am trying to stay busy. Praying for everyone on here. Be Safe 💜💜
U keep praying n watch these videos you will be fine for Real ....
Yes been there a long time but it got easier once I knew how they think and I was always a step ahead from that point on forgive yourself first because you didn’t know then forgive them because the devil is using them to try to destroy God’s Children then move at your own pace but never go back for more THEY NEVER CHANGE 😩
Angela!! Lord Jesus is holding onto you and Loves You!! "And now these three remain: Faith, Hope and Love. But the Greatest of these is Love." 1 Corinthians 13:13 💝
Me too! I’m currently going through the same thing. I hear ya, Angela!
Remember. The CONFUSION of it all is what's so hard. Wherever there are LIES there is confusion. They make no sense. That's what twists up our minds
Read the Bible book called PSALMS
PSALMS 34 and 37. WICKED PEOPLE HATE GOOD PEOPLE AND PLOT AND SCHEME ON US
Sending you much love and much support.
Exactly after 3 months I was like wth is going on!?! 1.5 year with a covert narc off and on after tons of silent treatments, putting me down jokingly, disappearing for days, not answering texts and later on discovered that creep had been stealing some bills from my wallet!! I'm 5 months NC he tried very hard trying to get me back! Even resorted to calling friends and trying to befriend them and get me back or make them his flying monkeys! He failed miserably! That fool overestimated himself and underestimated me! Damn devils!... Love your videos! Keep up the good work 🙏🏼
Oh god the silent treatments were brutal...I was so confused as to what I said or did ...I would loose days of sleep trying to figure out what I did ...so many tears of that
Exactly they disappear they don’t answer text and they steal ur stuff and ruin ur credit smh
3 months in he forgot my birthday. Then when I got upset, he called me crazy
My X used MY Amazon account and purchased a movie on MY account to watch a movie with her on her birthday 😂 I’m sure that was all she got
My narc pulled me back in. I went and spent an entire evening with him. Hours and hours. Slept in his arms. Wouldn’t let me go.
The next day he disappeared.
A week later he changed his profile picture of him with another woman.
Sounds painfully familiar.
Very typical. That's the stuff of demons. They will come back and repeat it again with more excuses and lies until we know the truth. Thank God we're aware now.
I think they just do that to get our hopes up so we will fight the new woman (who they've told we're crazy). They already had the woman before the set up. They just want to see people fight over them. If we just walk away, the narc gets really disappointed and has to fight with the new supply instead.
You are gorgeous.. he didn’t deserve you
My ex narcissist used me while he was in prison he did a home plan to my house and never wanted to spend time with me or go anywhere together he was hiding me and acting like he didn’t know me at all to the public he tried to keep me a secret from everyone it caused a serious depression its like he was wearing a mask the whole time then turned evil soon as he was released from prison pure evil and threatening to harm me everyday when I did nothing to even make him feel that way towards me 💔💔💔
The lies were repeating and the triangulation was outrageous once I caught on it was a fight to untangle myself but Gloryyyy to God this knowledge from your channel has gotten me through it effortlessly 🙏🏾💪🏾👏🏾🤗❤️
I dont think they can go 90 days without showing who they really are. In my case by the 90 days i saw the beast but i was so determined to make it work and show him i was worthy of love---- biggest mistake of my life.
It was miserable everyday
Relatable, I stopped telling my ex narc my achievements to prevent seeing his disapproval face.
Glad I got away from that toxic negativity!
When I was the new supply, the love bombing only lasted a month and a half, broke down by 2 months
I remember when I finally got a car, after walking everywhere for four years. I called my narc friend who lives in another city. We had been talking on the phone for about eight years, every day. I was happy and excited about my "new" used car and called to tell him about it. Instead of congratulating me and rejoicing with and for me, he HUNG UP without a word. 🙄
Exactly he’s just using that new person he use to do the same to me until I cut him off financially
The narc use to always say “you just can’t do no wrong in my eyes” yeah because he knew he was literally the devil!!
My one, i never did anything right. She would twist anything around to make it negative.
They idealize you and hold you to standards you can’t meet. So when you disappoint him he throws it at you and lets you know how let down by you he feels
Lol.. my ex narc told me he loved me unconditionally. 😂😂😂😂😂. He would also always respond to my -I love you with- I love you more. 🤮🤮🤮🤮 When I think of that now it makes me want to vomit. What a sack of lies!