When are you getting married? - Full Episode The Courage to Identify Podcast

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  • @abdullahal-shimri3091
    @abdullahal-shimri3091 Рік тому +6

    Great presentation, Sharon. As a guy, the only people who asked me this question were nosy aunties from my family. Actually the questions don’t end there. Even if I do get married, the next question is - when are you having kids? When are you buying a house? I’m glad I live in the US and everyone here minds their own business.

    • @JJV77873
      @JJV77873 7 місяців тому

      😂😂😂

  • @boymeetsmini
    @boymeetsmini Рік тому +12

    I'm a Protestant Christian originally from UP (living in US), and my family constantly pressures me to accept proposals from women they find through family friends and the church back home. I always say 'no' because I don't support dowry, the caste system and how the church is tied into capitalism and fascist/conservative politics. I've been leaning Christian socialist/anarchist and Ambedkarite these days, and consider myself a follower of Christ who is not tied into the man-made hierarchy of the church.
    You are very courageous for speaking out about this. Being a guy, hearing a woman's perspective on how dowry, arranged courtship, caste and religion are weaponized into family and society pressure is a huge mind opener. Subscribed.

  • @percyjohn8909
    @percyjohn8909 Рік тому +8

    Sharon, i appreciate your maturity. It must have taken a long time for you to come to this stand....( with your struggles, desires, needs........).
    Now with your greater accumulation of knowledge, wisdom, opinion, questions and understandings..... you've narrowed down your wants in life.
    Your journey is in itself is a healing to many.
    Many prayerful parents like mine, have given their children in marriage..... trusting God, to lead them step by step, themselves trusting in God. God has great purposes for their each couple on earth.
    Holding our own reins tightly will not bring His assistance in riding well in life and finishing the race set before us.
    My point is : Give it to God, and He will bring out the best in us.
    All the best for all your endeavours.
    I've carried you when you were about 4 years old. 😊

  • @marieldsouza887
    @marieldsouza887 Рік тому +12

    Dear Sharon, I thank God for you and for raising our thoughts on this delicate matter of life. You have spoken well. It's a mind opener. Let the change begin.

  • @hepzirose
    @hepzirose Рік тому +12

    Fantastic Sharon. Absolutely agree to your view points about how religion, society, parents pressurize young people to get married. 💯 true

  • @arunemmanuel4399
    @arunemmanuel4399 Рік тому +27

    Sharon, you are so brillliant! As a father in the same society that you refer, your thoughts on human phscology made me to think on the pressure that we parent apply on our only daughter a surgeon at King's Hospital@London. Thanks for this eye opener!

  • @ASK1870
    @ASK1870 Рік тому +9

    Thankyou for this powerful, excellent presentation for Indian families and their young daughters and sons! Worth sharing with families and friends

  • @davidsiebelanalytics
    @davidsiebelanalytics Рік тому +34

    Proud of you sharon .Be happy wherever you are and whatever phase of life you are in .God bless you and prosper you in all your endeavours.

  • @Avatar0315
    @Avatar0315 Рік тому +2

    Sharon dear , you are going in the right way. God will do in His time. Be happy always. You are a wonderful soul.

  • @jessyjohn948
    @jessyjohn948 Рік тому +1

    Wounderful message. Stay blessed.

  • @mamathasade5874
    @mamathasade5874 Рік тому +22

    One of your best podcasts Sharon. An empowered woman empowers another woman 💯 I really admire your maturity and open minded conversation on these sensitive issues. We expect more such outstanding podcasts from you. Stay blessed dear❤😇

  • @radhas414
    @radhas414 Рік тому +4

    Dear Sharon. Kindly make a video for parents who are forcing their children to study. How to make children to think, understand about circumstances. How to make children to live their school life happy. How to make them study subjects with interest and to identify courage to learn about themselves. You are the right person to talk about this da. Make video in English and Tamil so that it will reach exactly.Make an elaborate video dear so that school going children's will such videos to identify themselves da. Hope you will do it Sharon ma.

  • @jskomeshwaran
    @jskomeshwaran Рік тому +14

    Well said 👏 👌.... As a men it's also pressurized from every side and where ever I go ..... it's a life time commitment which can't be broken in middle . It's better to be alone rather then divorcing ......

    • @sixthsense9623
      @sixthsense9623 Рік тому +1

      Dear JS komeshwaran do not be in fear of life , never start life that it will end . There is a path that leads to green pastures it's only seeking God for you

    • @jskomeshwaran
      @jskomeshwaran Рік тому

      @@sixthsense9623 yes it's true 👍🏼, but here in India its different in marriage.....

  • @EstherSymss
    @EstherSymss Рік тому +4

    I will be 30 this year. I am an unmarried Christian. There's no pressure from my family. But its the outsiders who are putting stupid thoughts into them.
    I am not ready for marriage. I have seen and experienced first hand, women going through emotional abuse. I have seen first hand how dirty male ego can be. I haven't found any guy who is aware of how dirty their ego can be.
    I don't like when people talk about my marriage. I am not ready yet. I am glad you are addressing these issues.

    • @EstherSymss
      @EstherSymss Рік тому +1

      I have also seen parents pressurising their daughters into marriage. It breaks my heart. The society also guilt trips them by saying, "think about your parents, they are so tensed coz of you. Get married and give them peace".😒
      I am sorry for being so bitter.🙈

    • @JERUSHA1416
      @JERUSHA1416 Рік тому +2

      Agreed .. I am going through the same as well 😢

  • @michelledsouza1892
    @michelledsouza1892 Рік тому +1

    I love you my sister for boldly speaking the reality of today's world Holy Spirit has guided you to speak this matter. May GOD bless you always

  • @manoharij3408
    @manoharij3408 Рік тому +5

    நீ ஏஞ்சல் ஏஞ்செல் தான் , God bless you chellam

  • @sanjoscentre5281
    @sanjoscentre5281 Рік тому +1

    This talk is too important.Thankyou for sharing this.This shows that you are brave and have great knowledge about life.God bless you.

  • @manoharij3408
    @manoharij3408 Рік тому +7

    உயர்வான சிந்தனை, மகளே God always with you.

  • @Catherine.Grace.19
    @Catherine.Grace.19 Рік тому

    Great young Lady, you seem to have a special calling, unlike the rest of your family, which is a routine....hope your teachings and talks help millions of contemporary young men and women....God bless you....Specially Anointed....

  • @bijisabu5688
    @bijisabu5688 Рік тому +11

    Speaking about this is quite brave of you. You speak with great clarity. I hope that this will change people' s prescriptive and benefit individual's ❤

  • @jebasaha4917
    @jebasaha4917 Рік тому +3

    This question should not be taken as pressure or manipulation. Attitude / perception matters. Every person , boy or girl should attain different milestones at 'proper timeline' which will be good for them & also for the society. (For example, a baby should be able to sit within eight months).(2)It is wise to consult parents/ well wishers while making any decision especially marriage. Their experiences in life are valuable

    • @ASK1870
      @ASK1870 Рік тому +1

      According to real data, children's development milestones vary for each child. If any child has delayed milestone, the desired milestone happening late is not impossible nor detrimental

    • @jebasaha4917
      @jebasaha4917 Рік тому

      @@ASK1870 I agree delayed milestone is not harmful. My point is the effort or love of parents in helping a person to reach their milestones in life should not be considered as pressure or manipulation.

  • @nilimahembrom5915
    @nilimahembrom5915 Рік тому

    Thank you sis Sharoon... im going through it at this present time , im forced by my relatives , society. My father doesn't say anything to me and i have no mother she left us 8 months ago so im all alone i cry i have no one to share, cant tell my father he is sick , he is a heart patient on pacemaker , also in anti deepression drug. Thank you sister.I always tell god to handle me specially this marriage topic.

  • @anuanusha8767
    @anuanusha8767 Рік тому +4

    I have lot of regrets about my marriage....many have involved and forced to take a decision .... Also have manipulted me in a spiritual.context.... By the tym i relaized ...evrythng is out of my hands.... I wish i have seen this video a month back...i wish u have uploaded ds one a.month ago... I can only pray about ds.now😥😪😭😭

  • @DanielMangar-bn4bd
    @DanielMangar-bn4bd 12 днів тому

    Wow that's a nice presentation Sharon Angel 👍❤

  • @beulahdevan4588
    @beulahdevan4588 Рік тому +3

    Appreciating the courage, and the clarity in speech

  • @hannahlizabeth9636
    @hannahlizabeth9636 Рік тому +3

    Well said ma, Sharon. I believe this would have open the eyes of parents, guys and girls. God bless you ma

  • @princealbert005
    @princealbert005 Рік тому +1

    Eye opener!!! Excellent clarity of thoughts !!!!

  • @jenshiroobha5637
    @jenshiroobha5637 Рік тому +2

    You are on the right track on your thoughts. God is always with you. Be yourself always God is with you always ❤

  • @Annie-lh4ml
    @Annie-lh4ml Рік тому +1

    Wise and well put words! Much needed topic.

  • @jeniberkosthanthony5876
    @jeniberkosthanthony5876 Рік тому

    Well metured ,realistic and informative talk .It is a eye opener to many people .
    You are a very good puolic speaker
    God bless you

  • @jothielizabethdaniel7171
    @jothielizabethdaniel7171 Рік тому +7

    Sharon, I feel happy and proud of you and your maturity is so great and definitely many young girls will be blessed and encouraged by your message and I expect a blessed young generation with real happy married lives in the coming days 💖 ❤❤,

  • @generalcommunication9766
    @generalcommunication9766 Рік тому +7

    Hi Sharon pls read thanthai Periyar a great social reformer and feminist book pen yen adimai aanal”. This book comes in English too. Why were women enslaved by e v r Periyar I. I would like you to read. I m sure you will be inspired more.

  • @djdj2256
    @djdj2256 Рік тому +4

    Well said! The parents perspective and the child perspective is the very important ones. If the child don't want to get married, she should make it clear to their parents that she is not going to marry instead of just giving them hope. So the parents will also know the child decision and ready to face the world. Definitely the times has changed. Woman and men are free to have multiple partners and end the relationship easily without going into the process of investment in marriage and divorce. Or get married and invest the emotions in one partner or celebrate the celibacy It's really everyone's choice to choose

  • @vijay25p25
    @vijay25p25 Рік тому

    Sharon u r a brilliant , god's grace is upon you, god's knowledge is on you , God bless you.

  • @hepsibabeula7846
    @hepsibabeula7846 Рік тому +1

    You are absolutely correct. All the pressure goes to the father of the bride. This is the core of corruption/ self centered life style that has rooted into every (most) individual(s). Eventually has become a political issue.

  • @chinnagallasarah4713
    @chinnagallasarah4713 Рік тому +2

    Agreed sis. Gr8 that you spoke out whats in my heart. You expressed well.

  • @anamalaypechy8462
    @anamalaypechy8462 Рік тому +5

    Thank you so much, Sharon, for this beautiful lecture.

  • @epseeroselin4885
    @epseeroselin4885 Рік тому +7

    Listening your podcast for the first time!! You are so matured in your thoughts.. keep going girl

  • @srilathadivya2012
    @srilathadivya2012 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Sharon ❤❤for making this wonderful video ,God bless

  • @sumithavenugopal7879
    @sumithavenugopal7879 Рік тому +12

    Excellent clarity of thought ❤️👌After marriage comes the great question When is the first child coming????😂😀😭😂😀

    • @SuperAbebaby
      @SuperAbebaby Рік тому

      so insane emojis on something so vital and almost God destined

  • @7cFamilyClintThomasPaul
    @7cFamilyClintThomasPaul Рік тому +3

    Proud of you Sharon 💜🙌

  • @sarumathymarudhu
    @sarumathymarudhu Рік тому +1

    Hi Sharon I proud you to take girls in a next generation thoughts. Your thinking handsoff

  • @PIANOLSJI
    @PIANOLSJI Рік тому +1

    The problem is Sharon as girls the prime of our fertility age is at its peak in our twenties. So I think sometimes the pressure is good if it is taken in a positive way.

  • @USHADEVI-e1z5c
    @USHADEVI-e1z5c 5 місяців тому

    very good sharen...very nice.

  • @sabinalusbo4503
    @sabinalusbo4503 2 місяці тому

    Beautiful Presentation ❤

  • @classyramya3315
    @classyramya3315 Рік тому +1

    ❤❤❤ That was amazing and very thought provoking Sharon 👏

  • @TheLordWhoSeesMe
    @TheLordWhoSeesMe Рік тому +1

    Sharon you are God given gift to our Tamil society. Do you think its a chance that God gave you as a Grand-daughter of the most respected person Dr. D.G.S Dhinakaran? I dont know what others think. But our society needs to be cleaned very badly. If God has destined you to do that I would be very happy and I pray that God would use you mightily for what He has destined you for. We need a much better Tamil Christian society Inside and Out. And at the right time i pray that God would bring you the Right life partner. GOD BLESS YOU ABUNDANTLY DEAR in all the areas of your life.

  • @akshayaakhi1912
    @akshayaakhi1912 Рік тому +1

    Most amazing podcast I ever listened to

  • @abishegasalamon7814
    @abishegasalamon7814 Рік тому +1

    Wonderful explanation sis thank u god always with u❤

  • @achammathomas4136
    @achammathomas4136 Рік тому

    Good message, an eye opener for the kids of this generation..

  • @priscillashamin2315
    @priscillashamin2315 Рік тому +1

    Great Explanation 💯

  • @Dumeena
    @Dumeena 11 місяців тому +1

    Sharon, you are clearly an educated and well read individual. Your analysis on what it means to be a South Asian woman, and even a woman by modern societal standards is well founded and documented. My only question is, why it seems you have purposed to leave out of your analysis the essence and nature of womanhood as defined biblically? Our purpose and identity is not defined by society, other women or even by a man- but, by our Creator God. Since, He is the creator, designer and essence of women doesn’t His purpose for women belong in the conversation at the very least? Even an analysis of women of the Bible would clearly juxtapose that of ancient or even the modern placement of women in society. I would love to hear your views on this. Praying for you.

    • @SharonAngel
      @SharonAngel  6 місяців тому

      Thank you for your comment and appreciate your feedback. Sounds like you already know that angle and context. Why do you need another voice to spoon feed spiritually when you are mature enough to educate and empower yourself? When are we going to take on well rounded conversations that make us better humans in ALL facets of society?

  • @jimmythompson1979
    @jimmythompson1979 Рік тому

    Thank you so much sister! May you and all Malayalees be blessed, of all religions, genders, and castes!

  • @sherinraj.t.s550
    @sherinraj.t.s550 Рік тому

    ❤❤proud about you for the clarification to this society

  • @HanJo328
    @HanJo328 Рік тому

    Well articulated akka, thank you for sharing! May GOD bless you :)

  • @ailindahynniewta8338
    @ailindahynniewta8338 Рік тому

    Sharon is intelligent her subject matter to each one of us let's open up our eyes not to demand any dowry especially if they are from poor family

  • @buelamartin9128
    @buelamartin9128 5 місяців тому

    Amazing speech well said ❤

  • @கசடதபற-ற5ல
    @கசடதபற-ற5ல Рік тому +2

    When i was in my early twenties i was pressurized to get married. Sadly because of that i couldn't concentrate on building my career. Right now l'm married to a wonderful man who supports me and now when i think of building my career this society is forcing me to have a baby, even though I'm in my mid twenties.. society sucks...

  • @divyamamindla6327
    @divyamamindla6327 11 місяців тому

    Wow sharon, such an informative motivation 👏 🙌 👌

  • @hannadeepthi2427
    @hannadeepthi2427 Рік тому +1

    Timely Reminder and kind thoughts Sharon! Keep up the Good Work.

  • @blessysheba4822
    @blessysheba4822 Рік тому +2

    So well put and spoken ❤

  • @sharonjoel5282
    @sharonjoel5282 Рік тому +1

    Thankyou Sharon! It was really an eye opener to all ......congratulations for ur efforts towards this particular question....May God Bless You Wishing U Greater Heights Sister ❤ Love You 🫂

  • @noravani
    @noravani Рік тому +7

    This is by far my favorite episode! You certainly motivated me to delve into this matter more carefully, and by doing so helped me to understand the pressure, cultural stigma, and even issues related to ego that makes the parentals force their daughter into marriage. It's intriguing how one's religion may sometimes be used either as a manipulation to give in to a proposal or harm relationships, depending on the situation. Knowing your background, it is truly inspiring how open you are about many sensitive issues! Keep going Sharon ❤👏

    • @SharonAngel
      @SharonAngel  Рік тому +7

      Yes, an important life decision that needs grace and wisdom. Thank you for your encouragement!

    • @phebakuriakose5077
      @phebakuriakose5077 Рік тому

      India has issues if you stay single then if you r married they pressure to have children soon
      Basically they r more worried about you than about themselves 😅

  • @anniesamuel400
    @anniesamuel400 Рік тому

    An amazing prodcast actually its an sensation topic about u in society
    U clearly explained about women empowerment
    Ur real courager being as a identity to lots of women ur go ahead yar ur very clear about your Life

  • @nirmalaxavier3126
    @nirmalaxavier3126 Рік тому

    God bless you sharon . Keep going . The lord is with you.

  • @jskomeshwaran
    @jskomeshwaran Рік тому +2

    Yes entire being has to be ready to get married ......

  • @dianaasha43
    @dianaasha43 Рік тому +1

    Everything spoken in this video is so relatable....well spoken!

  • @ShinyDoublybubbly
    @ShinyDoublybubbly Рік тому +1

    Love you Sharon Akka ❤ l pray for you God bless you abundantly.

  • @violetcharles3442
    @violetcharles3442 Рік тому +1

    Good speech and encouragement ❤

  • @graceevangeline1254
    @graceevangeline1254 Рік тому +3

    Good talk.. thank you ❤

  • @beaulaselwyn5377
    @beaulaselwyn5377 Рік тому +1

    Very well said! Love the clarity

  • @neelamkiran3885
    @neelamkiran3885 Рік тому

    Thankyou for using your voice in a positive way.. love you dear

  • @jeevaalex7076
    @jeevaalex7076 Рік тому +2

    So happy to see sharon

  • @sanvijaladi2051
    @sanvijaladi2051 Рік тому

    Thank you Sharon God bless you

  • @animals6792
    @animals6792 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful Message.

  • @annetlang1087
    @annetlang1087 Рік тому +1

    Excellent talk ❤Sharon God bless u ❤

  • @ancyprevij3645
    @ancyprevij3645 Рік тому +1

    Well spoken.

  • @robinjoseph494
    @robinjoseph494 Рік тому

    Yes, as you said why not men. I to am a victim of this pressure.

  • @benithasamuel2209
    @benithasamuel2209 Рік тому +2

    Very nicely explained

  • @jenivijay3073
    @jenivijay3073 Рік тому +1

    Hi sister .....I am jeni
    We are proud and agreed your points.your talking very matured and inspiring all girls
    Keep moving your rocking 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @Arun-zh8ze
    @Arun-zh8ze Рік тому

    உங்களுடைய பேச்சு உங்கள் தாத்தாவை டிஜிஎஸ் ஐய்யாவை மீண்டும் மீண்டும் நினைவு படுத்துகிறது!!!இதை நான் உங்களுக்கு பதிவு செய்யும் பொழுது உங்கள் தாத்தாவின் பாடல் ஓசை அருகில் உள்ள சிஎஸ்ஐ சபையில் இருந்து வருகின்றது!!!! வாழ்த்துக்கள் சகோதரி உங்கள் தாத்தாவைப் போல் நீங்களும் வர வேண்டும்!!!

  • @deborahjames5389
    @deborahjames5389 Рік тому

    Your maturity and clearly all who those getting married first decided mind and heart right no one push own disire well planned then okay well done Sharon watch from 🇬🇧

  • @jhansi2752
    @jhansi2752 Рік тому +4

    Thank you so much sister. It really helped me to think wisely for my life time decision. .Really much needed video for the young girls .❤❤

  • @edwinprataban2744
    @edwinprataban2744 Рік тому +2

    So happy to see you sister...so nicely you explained...good and carry-on

  • @jeffreysHistoryTamil
    @jeffreysHistoryTamil Рік тому

    Good talk God Bless you

  • @tajchristy1920
    @tajchristy1920 Рік тому

    Thank You Sheran ,Semma Semma and God Bless You 🙌 🙏 💖 ❤️ 😊

  • @mumbaijainth7563
    @mumbaijainth7563 8 місяців тому +1

    Sharon I Love you

  • @bennyhoij818
    @bennyhoij818 Рік тому

    In some house they married with in the moment the husband family took their Jewelry
    and treat the girl badly, In girl side they spend money more for marriage even
    They lend money from outside, but in father in law house, not all
    They took Jewelry, is totally hurt everyone, girl and girl side suffer a lot
    So love each other

  • @merindaevasishth4305
    @merindaevasishth4305 Рік тому

    So proud of you 🎉❤

  • @Sinthikarani83
    @Sinthikarani83 Рік тому +1

    Excellent talk. God bless you.❤

  • @sivakumaryyogarajah5271
    @sivakumaryyogarajah5271 Рік тому +1

    God bless you Sharon

  • @ravikiran9496
    @ravikiran9496 Рік тому

    All is Well ...Sharon

  • @CatherineMoses-f4c
    @CatherineMoses-f4c Рік тому +2

    Are you taking eastern or western perspective?

  • @mymemorablelifejourney8335
    @mymemorablelifejourney8335 Рік тому +1

    Well said Sharon

  • @yabsarahcamdir1715
    @yabsarahcamdir1715 Рік тому +1

    Very informative 👏 👌

  • @udayachandrikaa9910
    @udayachandrikaa9910 10 місяців тому

    good notes.

  • @pandulashekar6549
    @pandulashekar6549 Рік тому +2

    Hi...sharon God bless you

  • @AJeba-pn3zb
    @AJeba-pn3zb Рік тому +1

    Good information sharon

  • @premajuliot3038
    @premajuliot3038 Рік тому +1

    மனிதன் தனியாக இருப்பது நல்லது அல்ல என்று தேவன் சொல்கிறாரே.

    • @Love_and_wisdom
      @Love_and_wisdom Рік тому +7

      Also Paul mentioned... To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). So what has been ordained by God. Singleness is not a curse. Both are a blessing. It's subjective. No one should be forced to get married. Just because one desires marriage doesn't mean that his or her peers should feel the same. Just my thoughts 😊

    • @johnson.samuvel1983
      @johnson.samuvel1983 Рік тому

      வேதத்தை ஏற்காதவர்கள் மற்றும் வேதத்தை சரிவர புரிந்து கொள்ளாதவர்கள் இந்த உலகத்தில் தங்களுக்கென்று கொள்கைகளையும், இந்த உலகம் எனக்கு இதைத்தான் கற்று தருகிறது என்று சொல்லி அறிவியல் சித்தாந்த கருத்துக்களையும் பின் பின்பன்றுகிறவர்கள் அநேகர்..அப்படிப்படவர்களுக்கும் வேதத்தையும் அந்த வேதம் கற்று தருகிற பாடங்கள், அனுபவங்கள் மற்றும் வேதத்தின் கருத்துக்கள் அனைத்தையும் அப்படியே நம்புகிறவர்களுக்கும் ரொம்ப வித்தியாசம் உண்டு sister premajuliot..

    • @premajuliot3038
      @premajuliot3038 Рік тому

      Did you asked God about this, what was his will on you.

  • @sargusylva5955
    @sargusylva5955 Рік тому

    Superb