Why this American stays in Singapore after 3 PR rejections
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- Опубліковано 16 чер 2024
- Meet Brenda. She's a world-famous leadership coach who's lived in Singapore for 12 years. During our talk, she told me what's wrong with pedestrian crossings in Singapore, her biggest shock after moving here from Bangkok, and the one most important principle every great leader must develop. Enjoy!
Brenda on LinkedIn: / brendabence
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 INTRO
00:26 First impressions of Singapore
01:08 Pedestrian crossings in Singapore
02:12 PR status
03:05 Singlish skills
04:00 What the US can learn from Singapore
04:48 How people of different cultures are similar
07:34 How to be a good leader
10:14 "Never look at anything as a mistake"
13:43 Life principle
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I like her attitude. No hard feelings bring not able to get PR at the moment and still act positively and willing to contribute to society in whatever she can. Such a motivating person and I can sense she walk her talk absolutely.
I have a bad perception of a country when I see Indian workers being carried around like cattles in pick-ups and lorries.
@@heidi-hu1tv sorry you felt that way. It’s not confined to Indians only. Generally, workmen are being transport in trucks to and fro jobsites. Due to our unique policies in vehicles ownership, businesses tends to utilise this mode of transport. A lot of regulations and safety practices are put in place to ensure that these workmen travel safely. Of course we do hope the day will come where workmen need not travel in this way.
I enjoyed the whole interview. Great job Max.
@@heidi-hu1tv yeah, dont come to singapore if you are going to bring your cultural bias. there will be a lot of things that will offend you. you will not like it and we also dont like you.
@@vincentxiao601 No first world countries does that. Bad policies of putting danger on human lives to minimise cost. Very unsophisticated and boorish.
She is an amazing coach! Her thoughts about life and work is just spot on.
If u read about mental health and therapy you will know this too.
Problem is whether you can change your mind and apply it or not.
Max, you’re a great listener yourself. I love how you conduct interviews and ask such thoughtful questions, always giving full attention to your guests and not interrupting them like other interviewers. & your selection of guests are excellent! I always learn something new. Thanks for another great video!
thanks so much!
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I’m watching this in gardens by the bay rn until the rain stopps
Ok please
Max, Brenda is your best subject, best teacher for everyone, and I really hope she gets SG PR very soon. And I hope she gets to teach, coach, show, motivate all SG teachers and all students in all levels of SG educational institutions how to be their best. Please tell her to send her Plan to SG MOE.
My favourite quote is “everything is working out for the greater good” great way to build resilience in face of adversity
Max, I want to say…thank you for another great content! Brenda impressed me! Let her know that it’s our blessings to have her with us on this little red dot!
Brilliant interview, Max! Thanks Brenda for your valuable inputs. Wish you well in Singapore!
Great interview!
Interesting interview. Thank you for the video.
Our pleasure!
Excellent interview!
Great episode!
wow, amazing guest! This is one of the best videos from you.
Glad you think so!
I learned a lot from this video. Thanks Max!
Glad it was helpful!
Good tips shared. Although not new to many, they are good reminders.
Oh yes, thank you for interviewing so many wise people..
I learned something very helpful tonight that when my hubby scolds me or someone makes a negative comment on me, instead of getting upset, i think if it is true to learn from it n change for my good. Thanks will result in less quarrels
It's the words from a successful lady. I think lots of inspiration and she's great and shared things may encourage us to move on. Wow Singapore is a really top talented people location. Thank you🎉
She is very open-minded, humble and receptive of foreign cultures for an American. Thanks for the video.
What a silly thing to say - you must never have actually met Americans. And super ironic
@@commentOshimasu I have lived among them, and u could be one of them or their supporters. My commiseration.
So just curious how to be a great CEO???
The girl under the tree seeing her handphone 📱 is not alert. Tree 🎄 stick may felling down and hit 🎯 her or snake 🐍 maybe near her why she need to under the 🌲 and see handphone 📱
Riding bicycle 🚲 👁️👁️👁️ must see Infront so we step the wheel 🎡 and enjoying the scenery. You won't felling down if you know the way to riding. I meet a girl she said she knows how to driving car car 🚗 but until now she don't know how to riding a 🚲 bike. I teach her the skills already wishes she can riding now. When I young my father teaching me many times I also can not riding the bicycle 🚲 he give up hope on me. But I never give up myself and learning my own (my father already at heaven seeing us) and the moment I can riding the bicycle 🚲 I feeling so proud 🦚 of myself. Never give up. Jie u❤❤❤😂
Thank you very much, Mr. Max 🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️
Wow! Brenda is a gem!
very wise lady..love you and Singapore
Everything is always working out. Wow. Excellent interview.
Ultimately, I believe that 'trendy' jobs such as leadership coach, 'life coach', and so on are very low on ICA's ladder of priority. ICA probably sees such jobs as fairly trivial compared to nurses, software engineers, etc. Every year there is a new industry that is 'in-demand' and leadership coaches are never one of them- it's not going to be easy getting PR these days as a leadership coach.
Best of luck to her though!
@hieveryone2003 yeah, generally the well to do ones can set up their own businesses and sponsor their own EP. Some even open family offices and sponsor their EP that way. As long as they follow the law and pay tax, government will allow
Leadership development and building soft skills is very important in this day and age. Though giving PR is a bit of different story- is the person ready to demonstrate their roots are in SG and to show it’s more than a place of convenience and low taxes.
Makes sense too
They travelled too often , to be a PR , you need to stay for a period of time n tat time dun travel .
How has she not have PR yet?? She gives out cool vibes ❤
Internal reflection and observation are part of the art of meditation to facilitate mindfulness and awareness of self and all things around it. Once one observed that repeatedly the sense of self starts to dissolve and the partition between one and others weakens. This is an amazing path and one your interviewee likely subscribes to…
Yes, it's true... we all make mistakes however it's whether we learn from our mistakes & move on to better ourselves, or do we keep on beating ourselves up. I used to teach, and I encouraged my students to try, nevermind if they succeeded or failed at the attempt. I always reminded them that no one was born and could immediately stand-up & walk.
High EQ and IQ conversation. So full of wisdom and insights. Impressive.
Brilliant! Basic but brilliant!!
Wise advice..look at not how we are different but how we are similar.
Brenda is amazing. Just to add a little on your question to her on "mistake". If you did something wrong, realize it and learn from it, if possible rectify it, it is never a mistake but a "Learning experience". On the other hand, if you repeat the same wrong thing, regardless, you realize it or not, it is a "Bad habit". Brenda, is absolutely right, there is not mistake except use in apologies, like, if my comments here offend anyone, I am sorry... 😅😅😅
Enjoy 'meeting' different people who have up rooted and made Singapore home. I know a bit of my country through their eyes. Thank you Max for sharing these chats.
Nice video, very true on Brenda mentioned the higher position are moving further away from the ground don't really understand what's going on at the bottom, they only wants to see results and numbers only.
A very wise lady. 🙏
I had lived on and off Singapore for years in the 90s and early 2000 to mid.
she is indeed got her craft learned. A lady of one in a million.Cheer to her.👍
I hope you will get your PR soon!
@imsickofyou-pb2xt what are your criterion ?
Love this… a truly inspirational and insightful sharing… thank you..! 🙏
You are so welcome
Drivers in SG come from many nationalities who converted their licences to SG licence.Becareful when you're in Malaysia because the drivers there disregard Zebra Crossing.
Drivers in Korea also disregard zebra crossing. The right of way lies with the driver, don't be in a rush to cross the road overseas. In sg, best to believe that drivers have the right of way on zebra crossings especially for minor road leading to major road.
Self awareness, love this.
Keep trying… best of luck for the PR…!!!
"The higher up I get the less honest truth I hear. I hired you because you are an honest person...". It's his way of getting people to open up to him and tell him whatever. As if to say that you're better than the people higher up if you say freely what's on your mind. Nice tip.
I'm local and lived in a western society before. We seem to treat diversity quite differently. In the west, oh we are all Americans / Australians etc. We don't need to mention our different races. But the divide is deep and certain areas are clearly dominated by certain races. Here, we acknowledge our fundamental differences first. We pick up our mother tongue as 2nd language in school. We learn about our neighbours and classmates' eating habits. Then we try to find a common ground.
Singapore is the only nation that states race/dialect in their ID documents.
@@superconnie5003 maybe because it's the new world. Can't assume homogeneity
@@limian3599ethnically homogeneous is great! Look at Korea and Japan. Singapore be better off it was 95% Chinese.
@@tzenzhongguo Japan is dwindling in population and are facing empty villages and towns. Inverted pyramid with few youngs contributing to support a large older population.
@@tzenzhongguo Ethnically homogeanous is great?
Japan is condemned because it's impossible for japanese to accept foreigners.
More elders and less workers to support Japan economy.
PM Lee Kuan Yew talking about this issue many years before.
The video is on UA-cam.
Her mentality is way better than 90% of Singaporeans I meet.
Most people listen to argue, but not listen to understand.
Lovely person. Singapore is a great place to live and work. I think it's a bad long-term choice given the government flip flopping on work passes and PR over the years. Still one of the 5 best places to live on earth. Lovely interview!
Yup, Hong Kong is a much better option. Put in the 7 years, and you’ve got the PR. Simple.
N I C E 🇸🇬
Hi, Does anyone work as a teacher in an international schhol in Singapore and got the PR. I am a secondary school teacher in the UK, and plan to move to Singapore in a couple of years, How hard is it for a teacher to get PR? I really hope to live there for a long term, so hopefully can get PR. Thanks
great vid! really took away alot from it
Go on S'pore, give her the PR status.
More leaders in Singapore government need to listen to her for advice:
"The higher up you go, the less honest feedback you will hear."
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Motorists known they have to stop when they're turning right in traffic lights if there are pedestrians crossing, sadly most motorists are dreaming now a day, therefore, pedestrians must very alert when crossing be it in zebra crossing.. must look at the driver, if he's looking straight at the road and the car seems not slowing down, means that he is not paying attention. You can giving him a middle finger, usually the the motorist don't there to confront u, cos they know to they are wrong.
10:37 It's very true , i followed my heart & gut to quit the job i hated and stopped looking for a job after awhile bcoz other jobs just doesn't suit me anymore. Went dive into a business with only a few thousand dollars it's a do or die situation for me , and that's the best decision I've ever made . Now i'm a free man with abundance in life
They love satay , char kway teow , dosai masala , chicken rice & chilli 🌶 🦀 crabs .
A question for Brenda, for her anecdote about her newly appointed CEO client who didn't feel confident in herself, why was the affirmation "I am learning to be a great CEO" rather than "I am (already) a great CEO"?
I'm thinkin if it could be that with learnin to be somethin, you're in it with an open mind ie. to listen and gain as much knowledge as one can. Whereas with "I (already) am something", the mindset is that I already have that knowledge and hence might be less inclined to listen, learn and improve...
But this is just my two cents, & I'm no life coach... 😅 Would love to hear it from Brenda herself!
@@StArLiTe5691 Hmm upon coming back to the question, I now think it might be because "I am learning" sounds and feels more believable than "I am already a great CEO". So your brain will be more likely to accept it. Like if you're broke and affirm "I'm rich!" you'll instantly feel like you're deluding yourself, but if you say "I'm learning to be rich!" it feels a lot more believable.
@@silverchairsg Yeah, I agree with u too! Afterall, Brenda did also mention this is a *newly* appointed CEO.
lol… try crossing the road in Vietnam 😅
PR in Singapore is getting harder and harder to get. Criteria will change from time to time, currently Singapore needs doctor,nurses, AI specialist, scientists,cyber security experts.well if you are not in these categories you will be on long waiting list . Unless you are a company owner here,life coaches so many out there on waiting lists.
Spore govt should tighten up on SPR and citizenship issuance and not focus only on high net worth people.
Singlish also have relationship 😂😂😂😂😂😂so funny 🤣🤣🤣😍
😜good effort but wrong. Should be " can try?"
Unfortunately you need some kind of tangible hard skill or be very wealthy. I’m a U.S. engineer, and worked in Singapore for 6 years, I could have gotten PR because of my skillset and I had/have income coming in that is independent of Singapore which is a huge plus as they want to make sure you’re not a burden on their society, but I chose not to since my wife is Japanese & she wanted to go back to Japan which I wasn’t complaining about. But my advice to anyone in general, if you’re going to go to a university, atleast get something out of it, money makes the world go round & skills pays the bills, I’m not saying it’s impossible but you’re more likely to get PR if you’re a scientist, banker/financier, engineer or Doctor, than you are someone who has a liberal arts degree or nothing tangible to demonstrate that the country could seriously benefit from. Im sorry but “leadership” isn’t a critical skillset, if she has a pension however, she can leverage that as justification that she doesn’t have to depend on any of the countries social programs.
what is PR...?
Permanent resident
There's only one truth is that God indwells in all of us.
in the past, migrants like her are not on Singapore's top radar but not so in 2024, all the hi-tech migrants cannot put the humpy dumpy they built together when it breaks due to too much mental and spiritual stress inherent in a hi-tech society, we need people who can handle personal and corporate stress and mental issues. it is not easy because i have noticed that lots of such younger workers got themselves wounded because it is hard to isolate themselves from the students or patients. very likely a tough "old lady" can survive this. i.e. someone old enough with the maturity like a grandmother. what most that people do not know is that many young people are killing themselves due to too much expectation and not enough right kind of affirmation
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Growth mindset is crucial to continuous improvement！Be open to criticism and setbacks. These are part and parcels of life. Never stop learning and embrace diversity.
Keep trying, one day sure get lah.
Agree with the pedestrian crossing , actually the pedestrians have the right off way
wow Brenda is brilliant
Diversity cannot be understood until one goes to Singapore
sorry she don't come across to want to make singapore home. more a temporary place before retiring somewhere else
she has so much respect for a place and it’s culture, I hope they get their PR soon
Our MRT is due for a voice update haha
She's living in a 21st century bubble.
Aiyo. Where is the two ang mo boys boys parents. Luckily Singapore don't have strong wave 🌊🌊🌊 if not not body taking care them is so dangerous
I know views will differ on this issue, but I for one find your permanent closed captions distracting and annoying. Your interlocutors almost universally have good clear standard English language skills, and I have never struggled to understand their spoken word. Moreover, your sound quality is great (something some UA-camrs struggle with). If ever I may need closed captions I can turn them on myself. Please consider not using permanent closed captions.
Ta 🙂
It's helpful for viewers who don't speak English fluently
@@MaxChernovAgree. Also some of them have different accents. I personally find the captions helpful.
I personally like those, because I'd rather read than listen.
@@MaxChernovIt is also helpful for the hearing-impaired.
@MaxChernov
I prefer captions as some people have certain accents which makes it harder to comprehend what they were saying. I always read the captions while watching the video. It's a habit. This is a great interview, Max! The perspective on 'mistakes'. Thank you.
renounce Singapore citizenship in 2004
Good for you. Bye bye
@@limbehh8494 thank you.
I don’t think Singapore is really a immigrant country, ppl are always gonna see u as foreigners even if u neutralized as Singaporean
Pedestrian have right of way. Even their red they cross will point finger lol😅maybe they know they walking pathway to heaven so they have their right. Even cyclists are upper class than drivers here
It should be some cyclists and NOT the word .... cyclist. Thank you.
Just from the short video, you can tell that she has done a lot of self reflection on how to be a better person. A lot of wisdom there
SG = NYC prices with Chinese air quality, full of drones
Blah blah blah: all coaches and consultants say exactly the same empty things in the same ways.
peggy hill? lmao who else is high asf rn
Really agree with her comment about how thoughts become beliefs and how society/parents/media influence those beliefs. I'm a Singaporean who has been living in the US for a long time. I still remember growing up in Singapore and being very influenced by social status, class, material things, etc. It was so engrained in society there and even affected young children. I have a memory being in Primary school in Singapore and hearing kids waiting for their parents to pick them up making comments such as "I wonder which car my Dad is going to pick me up in today". I don't think kids should be affected by such things. I haven't lived in Singapore for almost 20 years and I wonder if such a culture still exists.
I understand that in the West, motorists are expected to give way to pedestrians. Generally, Singaporeans are taught from young that if you have to cross the road when there are no controlled pedestrian crossings; be it traffic lights or zebra crossings, motorists have priority. Ensure that there are no approaching vehicles before crossing. Reason for that is that the driver might be looking out for other vehicles and might not notice pedestrians. Also, vehicles are more noticeable as they are bigger, and pedestrians are less noticeable as they are smaller.
In theory, when a car hits a pedestrian, more often than not, the driver is in a wrong unless there is no way he can stop in time. So even if a vehicle stops at an uncontrolled intersection to give way to vehicles on the major road, most Singaporeanswill walk behind the vehicle to cross the junction unless the driver waves to the pedestrian to cross first with an "after you" signal.
3 times rejected for the PR?
Well, no offense but personally even SG gives it to me tomorrow, I wouldn't take it 😂😂.
But why? What can you lose to get the PR? I believe there are more benefits though.
You are not qualified any ways.
@@panda63725 read my comments dear, if SG gives me the pr, it means I am qualified. 😂. But thank you, I have better options 😂😆 but you can chase it if you want :)
Better options? Why r u here then, just curious
@@jessicahan6274 Here?
Definitely not, not anymore. I stayed in SG for few years and preferred to leave to a better place as SG isn't the only nice place out there which combines advantages. :)
anyone knows how much she got paid for saying this?
Maybe its a sign you shouldn't be in Singapore. Get it?
I don't believe this woman ...
People stay in singapore 🇸🇬 after 3 rejections.
May be u don't have shame
Not being able to get PR is the only reason why I could never "live" in another country. I'd never feel like I was home, being afraid that the next Visa renewal could be my last. And what happens when/if I get too old to renew my visa by myself? I wouldn't want to be 80 etc and be forced to pack up and move 'somewhere'. I just don't have that Gypsy spirit.
Singaporeans do speak proper English.
My wife's Vietnamese manicurist and her husband got PR after 3 years. My guess is SG gov spreads the PR across the entire spectrum of the social ladder. I think Singaporeans will feel resentful if there is a feeling of all foreigners are rich, instead of they are just like us. Maybe there is simply too many applicants in her social clads and she hasn't shown enough to build roots here.
This guy sounds like Borat
lol
High five!
No you don’t max. Don’t worry.